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Speaker 1: By Hello, Team Craiganthey, Harper's my name, it's the You Project.

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Speaker 1: It's me, it's you, it's us. It's a bloody episode

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Speaker 1: again for the millionth time. Here we are, and I'm

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Speaker 1: still fucking bringing my a game. I'm still stepping up,

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Speaker 1: still got the energy. I still do what I can,

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Speaker 1: even at one hundred and sixteen years of age. Another birthday,

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Speaker 1: I'm one hundred and seventeen now. Oh fucking time stops

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Speaker 1: for no man slash woman slash human? Does it? Oh

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Speaker 1: well it does. That's that's a good point. It does,

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Speaker 1: eventually does. Or about all the noise I'm making here

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Speaker 1: with my pad on the table, I've you heard any

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Speaker 1: of that? So a few people have asked me lately

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Speaker 1: about the the kind of these teaching slash coaching episodes

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Speaker 1: that I'm doing. How come I am doing more lately?

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Speaker 1: It's going to vary, I'm going to say, moving forward,

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Speaker 1: it's going to vary depending on availability of good guests.

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Speaker 1: So it is very It would be very possible if

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Speaker 1: we only did three shows a week, like most podcasts do,

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Speaker 1: somewhere between three and sorry, one and three episodes a week.

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Speaker 1: As you know, I do seven been doing it for

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Speaker 1: six years, and also, as you know, getting high quality

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Speaker 1: guests with whom I can have a great conversation that

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Speaker 1: will be somewhat informative, illuminating, inspiring, and of value to you.

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Speaker 1: Getting those guests seven days a week is not easy,

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Speaker 1: especially because those people that are that brilliant generally are

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Speaker 1: pretty fucking busy. So we're going to get as many

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Speaker 1: Most weeks, I think it's going to be somewhere in

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Speaker 1: the three to four kind of range of having a

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Speaker 1: good guest, and it might be look, I'm not sure,

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Speaker 1: we may even I don't know. At some stage I

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Speaker 1: might back down from seven episodes a week and do

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Speaker 1: five for I'm not sure, But for now I'm in

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Speaker 1: the flow. I'm in a pretty good space as long

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Speaker 1: as you get something of value from these episodes. And

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Speaker 1: of course, if you prefer one or the other guests,

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Speaker 1: or just the coaching sessions, you've got the option of

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Speaker 1: choosing what you listen to and don't listen to. Of course,

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Speaker 1: that's where we are. So if you're not a member

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Speaker 1: of our Facebook group, I would love you to be,

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Speaker 1: and I would love you to be because there's no hooks, catches, agendas.

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Speaker 1: We don't sell you anything. It's just what it does

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Speaker 1: is gives me an insight into the mind of my listener.

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Speaker 1: And obviously, because this is always a one way conversation,

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Speaker 1: sorry about that. Maybe in the future we'll be able

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Speaker 1: to have you. Well, we've done one or two I

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Speaker 1: think on Zoom, where we have a little bit of

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Speaker 1: is that gives me an insight into what you want

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Speaker 1: where I might go moving forward. Of course, I can't

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Speaker 1: if there's kind of, as there often is, a bit

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Speaker 1: run with it when I can. Right So, today, as

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Speaker 1: And metaphorically we can do the same with our life.

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Speaker 1: And I'm always doing a self audit of sorts, and

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Speaker 1: So here are some self audit questions that I use

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Speaker 1: up great. As I've said many times before, your body

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Speaker 1: Hoping that you will somehow land on your feet. Hoping

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Speaker 1: this doesn't mean that everything that we do has got

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Speaker 1: I proactively created this opportunity. And the opportunity that I

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Speaker 1: use a fair bit of my potential. I don't use

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Speaker 1: at all. And there's still other things that I could

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Speaker 1: do better, of course, But for me, who you know,

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Speaker 1: the kid that you know that not great genetics, not

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Speaker 1: a brilliant student, all that kind of bullshit. For my

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Speaker 1: starting from where I started from, I've done okay and

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Speaker 1: I've done okay because I've fully committed and I've as

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Speaker 1: much as I could. I've used what I had to

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Speaker 1: work with. Now you might be listening to the and go, yeah,

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Speaker 1: me too, And if that's you, I'm going to go

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Speaker 1: well done. I still have room to grow and learn

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Speaker 1: and evolve in this space. I still have more potential

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Speaker 1: to tap into, and I'm actually happy with that. I'm

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Speaker 1: happy that i haven't used it all because otherwise now

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Speaker 1: I've peaked and that's kind of depressing. But you know,

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Speaker 1: for you, if you really believe that you are somewhere

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Speaker 1: around a two, three, four, or five in terms of

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Speaker 1: how much of your potential you're currently maximizing or exploiting,

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Speaker 1: then that's great. That's great. So now you can roll

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Speaker 1: up your sleeves. Now you can be brave. Now you

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Speaker 1: can make hard decisions. Now you can fully commit, and

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Speaker 1: now you can use more of what you've got. Because

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Speaker 1: we can't change the thing that we won't acknowledge, you're

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Speaker 1: not going to accidentally end up successful. Remember, So the

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Speaker 1: good question to ask would be how do I exploit

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Speaker 1: my talent? How do I exploit or in other words,

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Speaker 1: use more of my potential? And that is going to be.

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Speaker 1: The answer is going to be somewhere in Take more chances,

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Speaker 1: do more things, have more conversations, step into the discomfort,

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Speaker 1: don't give up, step up rather than give up. Don't

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Speaker 1: do it for fucking two weeks and go oh, I

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Speaker 1: gave it a good go and it didn't work. It

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Speaker 1: will work, or you will work, or even if you

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Speaker 1: don't get the exact outcome that you want, who you

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Speaker 1: become along the way is awesome. As I've said many times,

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Speaker 1: it ain't about the summit. It's about the climb, and

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Speaker 1: you and I are always going to be in the climb.

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Speaker 1: See next time,