Speaker 1: Oh good a. Thank you for joining us on the
Speaker 1: body and Soul podcast called Healthy Ish. I'm your host
Speaker 1: Felicity Halley, and joining us in the studio to dissect
Speaker 1: the hottest topics in the health and wellness world this
Speaker 1: week is our Fab digital editor Holly Berkomen. Oh yes,
Speaker 1: we've got some goodies for you.
Speaker 2: Holly.
Speaker 1: Welcome back and welcome back to Australia.
Speaker 2: Bench to Japan, I have thank you very much, guys.
Speaker 2: Surprise holiday, I know, how was it? It was amazing.
Speaker 2: I went skiing in Niseko, which was fantastic. It was
Speaker 2: the first time I've skied in Japan. I have been
Speaker 2: to Japan before once last year, but the skiing was
Speaker 2: really sensational, like powder out the wazoo. Amazing. Oh, it
Speaker 2: was great, very jelly, it was good. I ate ramen.
Speaker 2: I hung out with my family. It was great. Such
Speaker 2: a great trip. Yeah, it was really lovely. Well how
Speaker 2: are you.
Speaker 1: I'm good. Yeah, I'm just managing. February is a pretty
Speaker 1: busy month in the Harley household. I have three children
Speaker 1: born in the same week.
Speaker 2: Oh my, how did you image that?
Speaker 1: People often say we the Swan's doing really well at
Speaker 1: that time?
Speaker 2: Were they winning games, but no, it just it just happened.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 1: One was three weeks early, one was two weeks late. Yeah,
Speaker 1: one was a week early and literally in the same week,
Speaker 1: and so funny two a day apart. Yeah.
Speaker 2: Wow.
Speaker 1: So it's very frantic. We have lots of birthdays, lots
Speaker 1: of parties and and I think over the years, I
Speaker 1: now probably go over the top because I want every
Speaker 1: one of them to feel special and sweet. I don't
Speaker 1: want to feel one over the other.
Speaker 2: It's an administrative nightmare, I'm sure. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, anyway, good luck for another year now. Yeah, what's
Speaker 1: happening with you? Now? You're back in body and zul HQ.
Speaker 2: So yeah, happy to be back at the Helm this week.
Speaker 2: And the story that I really liked this week is
Speaker 2: our latest column from Fab contributed Tanya Hennessy, comedian, radio host, etc.
Speaker 1: She's a lot of fun, she's.
Speaker 2: Great and you've probably seen her columns come up on
Speaker 2: Instagram things for us. But the latest was is this
Speaker 2: the world's biggest red flag? So many to choose from,
Speaker 2: but her pick is that people don't ask questions anymore.
Speaker 2: Have you noticed this?
Speaker 1: People aren't curious about others?
Speaker 2: I think so, Yeah, Yeah, so Tany said, why is
Speaker 2: no one curious anymore? I'm fascinated by people. I want
Speaker 2: to know about people's lives. How do people not find
Speaker 2: others interesting? They have a whole story to tell, give
Speaker 2: me a different perspective on something I'll probably never live.
Speaker 2: I want to know. And I really relate to that,
Speaker 2: you know, like when I'm talking to people, I'm curious
Speaker 2: about what they do for work, I'm curious about where
Speaker 2: they live, how they spend their time, what they do
Speaker 2: with their friends, what they're interested in. And so I
Speaker 2: think for me, it's very natural. But maybe this is
Speaker 2: a journalist thing to ask questions.
Speaker 1: I was going to say, I think it is because
Speaker 1: I'm the same.
Speaker 2: You're a podcaster, you're a journalist.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And I really find it. It's a great Like
Speaker 1: I'm really into having really rich conversations. I'm the same,
Speaker 1: So asking questions, maybe that's just part of our trade.
Speaker 2: And part of me thought. Maybe people are like unsubscribing
Speaker 2: from the notion of small talk, and so maybe they
Speaker 2: don't want to ask questions because they don't want to
Speaker 2: just have meaningless chitchat. But I would rather have meaningless
Speaker 2: chit chat or small talk than just stand in the
Speaker 2: corner of a party like and not knowing anyone and
Speaker 2: not speaking.
Speaker 1: Maybe my other thought is that when you are standing
Speaker 1: in a coffee queue, for example, not at a party
Speaker 1: so much, but everyone is on their phone or they've
Speaker 1: got an earbuds in the Actually I saw the New
Speaker 1: York Times. I think it's New York Times on New
Speaker 1: Yorker wrote an article last week about how earbuds are
Speaker 1: actually impacting our society in the way we connect because
Speaker 1: everyone just has earbuds in so no one talks to
Speaker 1: everyone in anymore. And even I was thinking about that
Speaker 1: with my sons on the bus, Like one of them
Speaker 1: now in high school, he has his. They all get
Speaker 1: off the bus with their earbuds, yeah, or earphones or whatever,
Speaker 1: and I think, wow, like that you should be communicating
Speaker 1: on a school bus.
Speaker 2: I agree. I also think this has impacted the dating
Speaker 2: world a lot because people are so closed off when
Speaker 2: they're out in public, they have their headphones in there
Speaker 2: on their phone. It's very like it's not an open
Speaker 2: environment to approach people in that kind of organic.
Speaker 1: No, and often we don't know what to say because
Speaker 1: we're not Even if you're not out there talking to
Speaker 1: people and strangers. Then you kind of get out of
Speaker 1: the habit of what to say and how to strike
Speaker 1: a realization.
Speaker 2: That's so true. My best friend Annabelle always laughs at
Speaker 2: me because I often talk to people in public, and
Speaker 2: I'm so weird about it, because it's like I have
Speaker 2: the urge to talk to someone, and then I say
Speaker 2: it at this like weird half volume, so no one
Speaker 2: can really hear me except that she can hear me,
Speaker 2: and it's so embarrassing, and they're always weird about it.
Speaker 2: It's just horrifying. So I think it's probably anxiousness a
Speaker 2: little bit, and also not being in practice of asking
Speaker 2: people questions. Tanya thinks, yes, anxiousness, also afraid to ask
Speaker 2: the wrong questions maybe, and then a fear of looking
Speaker 2: dumb or uninformed maybe, which I think is a bit sad,
Speaker 2: Like I would be happy if someone asked me a
Speaker 2: question and even if they didn't know if even if
Speaker 2: it was a quote stupid question, I wouldn't mind.
Speaker 1: Do you find though, sometimes when people ask if you
Speaker 1: ask someone a question, they look at you like you're
Speaker 1: a freak. Yeah, like a stranger.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's why it's so embarrassing When I do it
Speaker 2: when I'm out.
Speaker 1: I'm just trying to be a connects with you.
Speaker 2: Yeah, even if you're in the coffee line and you're like,
Speaker 2: oh if you ordered, Yeah, they look like you at
Speaker 2: you like you've grown a second and god forbid, I'm
Speaker 2: trying not to push in. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think she's I think she's onto something and
Speaker 1: perhaps it's inspiration for us all as we go about
Speaker 1: our days. Yeah, to just try and connect with people,
Speaker 1: more strangers whoever.
Speaker 2: I agree, big curious, ask people things, try and learn
Speaker 2: something about someone, and get out of your own head.
Speaker 1: It's probably good for you, because I think there's got
Speaker 1: to be research that shows connecting with strangers. Actually, I
Speaker 1: think i've we've talked about the podcast before. Connecting those
Speaker 1: inconsequential connections that you have throughout your day can actually
Speaker 1: boost your dopamine and in turn boost your mental health.
Speaker 2: Yes, we have spoken about this. It's those like micro
Speaker 2: interactions rather than like the really close things a lot
Speaker 2: of the time that make you feel connected.
Speaker 1: Okay, Yeah, that's how task for the next week.
Speaker 2: Yeah, everyone go ask questions please, I'm begging you.
Speaker 1: I love this story on the website. It really got
Speaker 1: me clicking thank you do protein powders actually work? I
Speaker 1: just felt it was speaking to me. I mean, I've
Speaker 1: tried protein powders on and off throughout the years, but
Speaker 1: I always wonder are they working?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Or am I being fleeced for money with clever market
Speaker 1: that we all know that protein is a must for
Speaker 1: our health. That provides the building blocks for every selling
Speaker 1: our body. It impacts things like muscular health, hormone health, energy,
Speaker 1: recovery times, sleep, everything. I could go on, and I
Speaker 1: just thought this story was really good. You interviewed a
Speaker 1: Sydney based nutritionist, LaToya Cruz, and according to her and
Speaker 1: dieticians Australia, most Australians are not getting enough protein in
Speaker 1: their diet. Research shows you need a minium of one
Speaker 1: grand per kilo of body weight, and LaToya said the
Speaker 1: amount of protein each of us needs will depend on
Speaker 1: how active or sedentary our life style is. So the
Speaker 1: more active we are, the more we need.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: So let me believe I'm training for this half marathon,
Speaker 1: maybe I do need to really focus on my protein
Speaker 1: a bit more. I don't know, I haven't got the
Speaker 1: powder yet, but anyway, She said that whilst protein powders
Speaker 1: are not necessary. They can be a helpful way to
Speaker 1: increase protein intake at certain points in your life, whether
Speaker 1: you're breastfeeding, pregnant, getting older, or training for half marathon.
Speaker 2: Well, well, well there you go.
Speaker 1: So it should always I mean obviously balanced diet first
Speaker 1: and foremost as a mere replacement, but it can help
Speaker 1: to boost those levels.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and I think it's also you need to be
Speaker 2: careful about which ones you're peaking as well. But yeah,
Speaker 2: protein powders. Can you know, it's ultra processed, So I
Speaker 2: think you want to pick ones which are giving you
Speaker 2: protein in the healthiest way possible.
Speaker 1: But to find the supplement do you find you get
Speaker 1: a bit? Yeah, well neither am I. And then I think, oh,
Speaker 1: do I should be taking this? Like I'm hearing so
Speaker 1: much about creating? Should be taking this? And I suppose
Speaker 1: just do your research and then make an educate A guess.
Speaker 2: I agree, But I just think, you know, when it
Speaker 2: comes to wellness, there are so many things you can
Speaker 2: focus on. There's so many different parts you can take,
Speaker 2: and I actually can't keep up and I don't think
Speaker 2: anyone really can. And supplements and things other than taking
Speaker 2: like a women's multi vitamin. I just can't. I can't
Speaker 2: keep up with it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so that's what I do.
Speaker 2: I don't do. I don't do colligy, and I don't
Speaker 2: do protein powders, et cetera. So good luck to me
Speaker 2: and good luck to you, good luck to me.
Speaker 1: Just quickly before we go, give us a quick rundown
Speaker 1: of most click story off the word.
Speaker 2: People have got relationships on the mind, and maybe this
Speaker 2: is off the back of Valentine's Day. So the top
Speaker 2: story was these other warning signs you're headed for divorce.
Speaker 2: Number one, you didn't buy your wife a Valentine's Day present.
Speaker 2: I'm working, OK, But I think it's very easy to
Speaker 2: assume that divorces are the result of like a big, malicious,
Speaker 2: dramatic event like someone's cheated or yeah, I don't know,
Speaker 2: something kind of has big, has gone awry, But it
Speaker 2: can be a lot more insidious. So the top four
Speaker 2: things are the communication is on the rocks. It's a
Speaker 2: pretty obvious one, but if you just feel like you're
Speaker 2: not speaking the same language, that's a pretty big warning sign.
Speaker 2: Two non stop arguing another brainer, no brainer. There three,
Speaker 2: a loss of intimacy. I think this is more important
Speaker 2: for some couples than others, and it doesn't necessarily mean sex.
Speaker 2: It can be intimacy in other ways. And then for
Speaker 2: neglected quality time. So if you just don't really want
Speaker 2: to spend time with each other and quality time with
Speaker 2: each other, then it's a bit of a red flag.
Speaker 1: And I think these are feed into each other because
Speaker 1: if your communication is on the rocks, you're going to
Speaker 1: have a loss of intimacy, You're not going to be
Speaker 1: spending time together, and then you know, an argument might
Speaker 1: blow up into something more.
Speaker 2: Exactly, And if I'm arguing with you, I don't want
Speaker 2: to be intimate. I actually want you to stay away
Speaker 2: from me exactly.
Speaker 1: Good little reminders anyway, Holly, welcome.
Speaker 2: Back, Thank you very much. It's great to be back.
Speaker 1: See you next week, Babe. Once again, if you do
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