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Speaker 1: Coming up on relatables, the fundamentals of where trust come

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Speaker 1: from and how to work on them in a healthy manner,

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Speaker 1: and it all comes back to.

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Speaker 2: Just the Relatables.

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Speaker 3: Podcast is hosted by myself, Jake Craig aka Duddy, and

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Speaker 3: my partner in c Like okay.

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Speaker 1: Mommy the goat aka the Goat, the goat of the relatables,

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Speaker 1: the people like the people I have chosen that, mate.

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Speaker 2: I don't think I've heard any rooms about that at all.

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Speaker 1: Do you know how like all these companies do like

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Speaker 1: vote for your favorite TikToker and vote for your favorite

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Speaker 1: artists and then they give you like three artists.

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Speaker 2: Vote for who you want to be president. But then

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Speaker 2: you've got to that's tomorrow, by the way, is it yeah?

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Speaker 3: Or like well like technically today, yeah, because it's the

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Speaker 3: fifth today.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if that one works and what I

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Speaker 1: was about to say, but they say, they say vote

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Speaker 1: for the best one in Australia and then you're given

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Speaker 1: like three options and you're like, my favorite TikTok is

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Speaker 2: Their actually a good point.

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Speaker 1: I've always thought that. I was like, who creates this list?

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Speaker 1: Is this like TikTok's favorites or do you want to

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Speaker 1: actually give them an insight as to how the TikTok

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Speaker 1: awards work.

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Speaker 3: Because I remember learning about this I forgot so basically,

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Speaker 3: like all the biggest like I think, like some of

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Speaker 2: Obviously I'm invited, Yeah, but.

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Speaker 3: You don't really get invited as an individual unless you

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Speaker 3: are like next level. What happens is TikTok sends invites

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Speaker 3: to all the agencies that have talent, and they don't

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Speaker 3: they're just sent to the agency. The agency has a

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Speaker 2: I have no idea, but.

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Speaker 3: That's how because we went last year. Yeah, and we

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Speaker 3: trial with with like an agency company, like a like

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Speaker 3: I mean, and they're like, yeah, fuck it.

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Speaker 1: Whatever, and then we went, yeah, well it's not based

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so it's really not. If you want to go

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Speaker 3: vote for your favorite TikTok for the TikTok Awards. I've

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Speaker 1: Whoever has the best time wins, but it's more like

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Speaker 3: Yeah, fair, and like also there's probably people that so

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Speaker 2: The actually isn't There isn't a podcast award.

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Speaker 3: And you know what that's funny about that is there's

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Speaker 1: Some people just don't realize that. But anyways, Jake, what

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Speaker 1: I celebrated my one year anniversary.

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Speaker 3: Congrats man in searches three six five days around wait yeah,

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Speaker 2: One time around the sign with the missus.

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Speaker 1: we went on a beautiful, romantic getaway up to Newcastle,

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Speaker 3: But we have a lot of you said that's so, like.

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Speaker 2: Basically the bare minimum of dating. But we've done that before,

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Like do you think it's crazy to think, like,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you can go on there and they say are

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Speaker 2: You're like, well, I'm gonna do it now. Yeah, Like it's.

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Speaker 1: Weird, unhealthy and like, I don't know. Someone messaged us

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Speaker 2: Shout out to Victoria.

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Speaker 3: Someone said to the episode, like, I'm from I'm a

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Speaker 1: It's changing the mindset because I'm thinking back of when

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Speaker 2: Couldn't agree more. Fuck, I could not agree more.

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Speaker 2: It's so enjoying, honestly, honestly, it's so enjoyable.

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Speaker 1: Like now you go on TikTok, you stroll and fucking

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Speaker 1: So much title a toilet exactly, yeah, honestly, And then

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Speaker 2: Go buying out four, Go do something. Just think outside

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Speaker 3: Actually give a shit about important dates like anniversaries, birthdays,

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Speaker 2: Anniversary.

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Speaker 1: Oh the other day, I'm going to cool one of

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Speaker 1: We're not trying to say that we're better than anyone else.

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Speaker 1: But he's like, I don't know, I'm not gonna what

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Speaker 3: Yeah, he said the month and we were like, yeah,

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Speaker 3: but what day? Yeah, and I'm going to like you

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Speaker 3: kind of just did. Man, that was incrimination.

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Speaker 1: We should have went a little bit more, mate. You

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Speaker 1: are important. I don't know why, guys, I love them. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 2: I would know you want to know these.

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Speaker 1: Hey man, here's a hack. Relationships are work. Don't just

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah.

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Speaker 1: A lot of guys will act like a lot more

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Speaker 2: During the chase. Yeah, but then yeah, once they've really as.

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Speaker 1: Soon as I've gone it, well, I've got her now,

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Speaker 2: I could have roommate.

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Speaker 1: What you mean, That's that's what relationships are about.

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Speaker 2: Hey man, here's a hack. Actually ask her to be

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Speaker 2: your girlfriend. Yeah, not just like yeah, you're and me, We're.

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Speaker 3: You're going to be like, you're gonna be like, oh

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Speaker 2: She's like, we're gonna ask me first? What are you

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Speaker 2: gonna ask me first? I think so many dudes need

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Speaker 2: to hear that.

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Speaker 1: Those words. We've said it before. Will you beat my girlfriend?

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Speaker 2: Five word? Yeah?

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Speaker 3: I don't think it's like you know, I remember the

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Speaker 3: show synopsis I did about nobody wants to have you

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Speaker 2: Did you start it? I started in the Okay, in

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Speaker 2: that show That's fair. In that show they they two

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and you'd think that they'd be the type to

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Speaker 2: Will you please be my girlfriend?

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Speaker 3: It was the best, and I was just like, oh,

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Speaker 3: it's a good like they're sending out a good message here.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, honestly it is.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Hey man, here's a hack message her when you're out,

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Speaker 2: Loves you, because you love her. Yeah, like what I

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Speaker 2: I like going on my phone while I'm out. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: to live in the moment, like it.

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Speaker 1: Takes fucking fifteen seconds, not even just be like, hey,

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Speaker 1: we're going to this bar now, Hey we're going to

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Speaker 1: Josh's house.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, leaving bar Josh's house.

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Speaker 1: That's all that's all they want, Yeah, I know, just

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Speaker 3: Ah, hey man, here's a hack. Try and fix the

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Speaker 3: problems instead of cheating your way out of it.

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Speaker 2: Double down. Yeah, the fucking hell I got one more.

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Speaker 2: I got one more to amen, here's a hack. Remember

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Speaker 2: she has feelings? Yeah, Oh, that one's deep. I know.

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Speaker 1: I don't understand how some people do their actions.

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Speaker 2: They think the person's not real or something. They don't

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Speaker 2: some people in the world. My last one, Hey, man,

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Speaker 2: he's a hack.

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Speaker 1: Make her feel like the most important girl in the world,

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Speaker 1: because that's what she is to you, right.

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Speaker 2: Couldn't agree more.

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Speaker 1: As Rihanna said, I want you to make me feel

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Speaker 1: what's the part of being in a relationship if you don't.

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Speaker 3: I know, it's so fucking we got I mean I

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Speaker 2: We talked about it a lot, which is good.

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Speaker 3: I think all we have to do is keep talking

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Speaker 1: Yeah, send this to a man, like I think we

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Speaker 1: got like one more percent. The other day was prettypy

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Speaker 2: We got that one percent more.

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Speaker 1: Send it out the message go or even just like

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Speaker 1: don't know, if you have a younger brother, yeah you

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Speaker 3: But yeah, just like I don't know if you've never

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Speaker 1: Like I think we do have some messages from some

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Speaker 1: to hear you guys talking about girls like my friends

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Speaker 1: don't do that and stuff like that, like they don't

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Speaker 1: not perfect by any means. We say somethings wrong, but

440
00:19:21,600 --> 00:19:24,760
Speaker 1: like we try our best to make i don't know,

441
00:19:25,000 --> 00:19:27,600
Speaker 1: dating better an equal.

442
00:19:27,880 --> 00:19:29,840
Speaker 2: Nice Yeah, a nice world. We were.

443
00:19:29,840 --> 00:19:31,720
Speaker 1: Fuck yeah, I was gonna keep talking. I was gonna

444
00:19:31,720 --> 00:19:34,160
Speaker 1: say I was looking at confession sessions the other day. Yeah,

445
00:19:34,320 --> 00:19:36,960
Speaker 1: we're organizing it, and there were so many like bad

446
00:19:37,080 --> 00:19:39,119
Speaker 1: dates of all these dudes doing these trash and I

447
00:19:39,160 --> 00:19:41,960
Speaker 1: was like, fuck, I'm not exposed to this, it's so bad.

448
00:19:42,119 --> 00:19:43,639
Speaker 3: Well, yeah, I've never really been in just like a

449
00:19:43,680 --> 00:19:45,800
Speaker 3: bad date. Apart from thinking like yeah, I just didn't go.

450
00:19:45,840 --> 00:19:46,720
Speaker 2: Well we did because we go.

451
00:19:46,720 --> 00:19:49,000
Speaker 1: On them with girls and most of the time we're

452
00:19:49,040 --> 00:19:51,000
Speaker 1: normal and then the girls are normal than but for

453
00:19:51,040 --> 00:19:53,000
Speaker 1: the girls, like ninety percent of the dudes are just

454
00:19:53,040 --> 00:19:56,080
Speaker 1: like rocking up drunk. They're rocking up, smelling, they're rocking

455
00:19:56,080 --> 00:19:57,399
Speaker 1: imagine rocking up drunk.

456
00:19:57,720 --> 00:19:59,400
Speaker 2: And I was like, well, I was like, I just

457
00:19:59,400 --> 00:20:02,240
Speaker 2: just don't care. I actually was on a date once.

458
00:20:02,560 --> 00:20:05,679
Speaker 3: Okay, I haven't been on a million dates, like I

459
00:20:05,760 --> 00:20:07,840
Speaker 3: just like, but I was on a date once where

460
00:20:07,840 --> 00:20:09,640
Speaker 3: it was just like, you know, just.

461
00:20:09,560 --> 00:20:10,800
Speaker 2: Went out for dinner at a restaurant.

462
00:20:11,800 --> 00:20:15,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, and the girls on a date with actually

463
00:20:15,160 --> 00:20:18,280
Speaker 3: told me she said like, oh, this is like it

464
00:20:18,400 --> 00:20:19,640
Speaker 3: was actually I don't even think.

465
00:20:19,560 --> 00:20:21,720
Speaker 2: We really labeled as that labeled it as a date.

466
00:20:22,760 --> 00:20:27,919
Speaker 3: Probably, I mean like but it also long story, but

467
00:20:27,960 --> 00:20:30,520
Speaker 3: basically because it wasn't labeled as a date, she said,

468
00:20:30,600 --> 00:20:33,520
Speaker 3: she was like, this is better than some of the

469
00:20:33,600 --> 00:20:35,840
Speaker 3: dates I've been on that are actual dates.

470
00:20:36,040 --> 00:20:37,120
Speaker 2: And I was like, what do you mean?

471
00:20:37,240 --> 00:20:38,600
Speaker 3: She goes one time, I want on a date with

472
00:20:38,640 --> 00:20:42,399
Speaker 3: a guy and it was just like he told me

473
00:20:42,440 --> 00:20:44,280
Speaker 3: to meet him here and he was just with his

474
00:20:44,359 --> 00:20:47,359
Speaker 3: mates playing soccer. In the park and they got drunk

475
00:20:47,720 --> 00:20:49,800
Speaker 3: and then we went out and just got.

476
00:20:49,680 --> 00:20:52,520
Speaker 1: Some Every girl has a story of a bad date,

477
00:20:52,560 --> 00:20:56,160
Speaker 1: but every guy doesn't, because girls like get it to date.

478
00:20:57,040 --> 00:20:57,359
Speaker 2: Weird.

479
00:20:58,000 --> 00:20:59,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, every girl has a story about a bad date,

480
00:20:59,640 --> 00:21:01,240
Speaker 3: but guys that's such a good point.

481
00:21:01,040 --> 00:21:03,280
Speaker 1: Because girls like they know it to date and they

482
00:21:03,280 --> 00:21:05,359
Speaker 1: put in like at least the minimal amount of effort.

483
00:21:05,520 --> 00:21:07,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, the date.

484
00:21:07,160 --> 00:21:16,399
Speaker 3: Yeah, anyway, let's move on, all right, Oddie, what I

485
00:21:16,400 --> 00:21:20,000
Speaker 3: want to bring up next is now, I think over

486
00:21:20,080 --> 00:21:22,800
Speaker 3: the years we.

487
00:21:22,680 --> 00:21:24,280
Speaker 2: Can say years now two years two.

488
00:21:24,359 --> 00:21:28,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, over the years of the podcast, we are experienced.

489
00:21:28,920 --> 00:21:34,159
Speaker 1: I think it has been portrayed that, and it's not

490
00:21:34,760 --> 00:21:36,959
Speaker 1: super wrong, but I think it's been portrayed that, Oddie,

491
00:21:36,960 --> 00:21:38,760
Speaker 1: you are more of a thinker.

492
00:21:39,040 --> 00:21:42,959
Speaker 2: And I am more of a non thinker. Is that

493
00:21:43,040 --> 00:21:46,159
Speaker 2: the word you're labeling as non figure? Now? Like, I

494
00:21:46,160 --> 00:21:48,960
Speaker 2: don't get it. I don't get a racing mind often, No,

495
00:21:49,240 --> 00:21:50,960
Speaker 2: But today, actually.

496
00:21:50,600 --> 00:21:52,600
Speaker 3: Something kind of weird happened to me and I was like,

497
00:21:53,400 --> 00:21:55,040
Speaker 3: and I was like, you know what, this Actually this.

498
00:21:55,000 --> 00:21:56,879
Speaker 2: Happens a bit. Maybe I do get a bit of

499
00:21:56,920 --> 00:21:59,399
Speaker 2: a racing mind. Okay, what are you thinking about?

500
00:21:59,720 --> 00:22:01,399
Speaker 1: So I would like you to send you through the

501
00:22:01,400 --> 00:22:04,439
Speaker 1: series of events that was going through my mind. So

502
00:22:04,480 --> 00:22:07,239
Speaker 1: I was on my way to the gym and I

503
00:22:07,280 --> 00:22:09,200
Speaker 1: was pulling out of my driveway.

504
00:22:09,040 --> 00:22:11,320
Speaker 2: And across the road there was a lady walking a

505
00:22:11,320 --> 00:22:16,040
Speaker 2: little small blue staffy hugest dogs ever and this blue

506
00:22:16,040 --> 00:22:17,639
Speaker 2: staff he reminded me of a blue staff. You have

507
00:22:17,640 --> 00:22:19,280
Speaker 2: a mate of mine from school named Kle.

508
00:22:20,080 --> 00:22:22,720
Speaker 3: Yep, Okay you so, And I was like, oh, yeah,

509
00:22:22,720 --> 00:22:24,960
Speaker 3: I remember blue staff he named Kay And then like,

510
00:22:25,080 --> 00:22:26,640
Speaker 3: you know Kale And I was like, oh, I haven't

511
00:22:26,640 --> 00:22:27,440
Speaker 3: seen Kale for a while.

512
00:22:27,480 --> 00:22:29,280
Speaker 2: And then I was like, oh, you know what that

513
00:22:29,320 --> 00:22:29,800
Speaker 2: reminds me of.

514
00:22:29,800 --> 00:22:32,760
Speaker 3: It was one time when I was young and one

515
00:22:32,760 --> 00:22:35,520
Speaker 3: of the first times, like I was out and we

516
00:22:35,520 --> 00:22:37,800
Speaker 3: were and I was like doing something naughty. I was

517
00:22:38,119 --> 00:22:41,600
Speaker 3: smoking weed, right, and Kle was coming that night. But

518
00:22:41,680 --> 00:22:42,960
Speaker 3: my stepmom's name is Kate.

519
00:22:43,560 --> 00:22:45,560
Speaker 1: And I got a text from Kle saying tell the boys,

520
00:22:45,560 --> 00:22:46,960
Speaker 1: I'm on the way. But I thought it was Kate

521
00:22:47,000 --> 00:22:48,560
Speaker 1: that texted me tell the boys, I'm on the way.

522
00:22:48,680 --> 00:22:50,520
Speaker 2: And I remember freaking the fuck out.

523
00:22:50,560 --> 00:22:52,200
Speaker 3: And so I'm just driving the gym like thinking about

524
00:22:52,200 --> 00:22:54,240
Speaker 3: all this, right, and I was like, and I remember

525
00:22:54,280 --> 00:22:56,840
Speaker 3: freaking the fuck out. But then I double checked my phone.

526
00:22:56,880 --> 00:22:58,119
Speaker 2: I was about to go tell the boys like my

527
00:22:58,200 --> 00:23:00,920
Speaker 2: mom's on the way. And then I go out and I.

528
00:23:00,920 --> 00:23:02,000
Speaker 3: Was like, check my phone, and I.

529
00:23:01,920 --> 00:23:03,560
Speaker 2: Was like, oh, it was Kale.

530
00:23:04,000 --> 00:23:06,239
Speaker 3: And I remember just being like the most relief I've

531
00:23:06,240 --> 00:23:08,040
Speaker 3: ever felt in my life that I didn't get caught.

532
00:23:08,760 --> 00:23:09,880
Speaker 2: But then.

533
00:23:13,160 --> 00:23:17,679
Speaker 3: And then that same night, another friend's mum that was

534
00:23:17,720 --> 00:23:21,080
Speaker 3: close with my step mom, Yeah, she actually came and

535
00:23:21,119 --> 00:23:23,760
Speaker 3: he wasn't answering his phone. She has dropping off some clothes,

536
00:23:24,000 --> 00:23:26,399
Speaker 3: so she came to the door and she saw everyone

537
00:23:26,400 --> 00:23:28,640
Speaker 3: in there. Obviously put two and two together. He goes

538
00:23:28,640 --> 00:23:30,200
Speaker 3: out and he's like, mom, don't come to the door.

539
00:23:30,480 --> 00:23:32,480
Speaker 3: And then she's she's like, while your eyes and he's like,

540
00:23:32,520 --> 00:23:33,720
Speaker 3: we went for a walk and it was windy.

541
00:23:36,240 --> 00:23:36,919
Speaker 2: Could cover it up.

542
00:23:37,000 --> 00:23:40,239
Speaker 3: And so then then he thinks he covered it up

543
00:23:40,240 --> 00:23:42,280
Speaker 3: again or relieved together like she.

544
00:23:42,240 --> 00:23:44,719
Speaker 2: Saw me there, she knows there, she knew what was happening.

545
00:23:44,720 --> 00:23:47,919
Speaker 3: And then and then like I think the next like

546
00:23:47,960 --> 00:23:52,960
Speaker 3: two days later, like the Monday at school, he goes, oh, yeah,

547
00:23:52,960 --> 00:23:55,680
Speaker 3: my mom, she like she knows what we were doing,

548
00:23:56,480 --> 00:23:57,680
Speaker 3: and she told me that she told you.

549
00:23:57,600 --> 00:23:59,880
Speaker 2: Almost I was like, shit, did you say?

550
00:24:00,080 --> 00:24:03,520
Speaker 3: It just gets It's like fuck it up. And so

551
00:24:03,640 --> 00:24:07,080
Speaker 3: that afternoon I went home and like, Kate actually wasn't

552
00:24:07,119 --> 00:24:09,320
Speaker 3: mad at me. Usually I would I know when she's mad,

553
00:24:09,359 --> 00:24:11,600
Speaker 3: like if she's about to like ring me for something,

554
00:24:11,640 --> 00:24:12,720
Speaker 3: she'd be waiting for daddy get home.

555
00:24:12,720 --> 00:24:14,360
Speaker 2: But she wouldn't talk to me that I just mad

556
00:24:14,359 --> 00:24:14,560
Speaker 2: at me.

557
00:24:14,680 --> 00:24:15,960
Speaker 3: But she wasn't actually mad at me. And I do

558
00:24:16,040 --> 00:24:17,919
Speaker 3: remember being like, okay, well, there's my chance to own up.

559
00:24:18,400 --> 00:24:19,959
Speaker 3: So I owned up to Kate about it. And then

560
00:24:19,960 --> 00:24:22,160
Speaker 3: she goes, actually, such and such his mum did actually

561
00:24:22,200 --> 00:24:23,040
Speaker 3: tell me, but I didn't tell her.

562
00:24:23,080 --> 00:24:25,000
Speaker 2: I knew that, so she thinks I was just don'ting

563
00:24:25,080 --> 00:24:30,520
Speaker 2: up to it right. And then and then that afternoon, my.

564
00:24:30,560 --> 00:24:32,320
Speaker 1: Dad gets home and the first thing he says to

565
00:24:32,359 --> 00:24:33,880
Speaker 1: me is, so, what's this year about smoking dope?

566
00:24:33,920 --> 00:24:36,920
Speaker 3: And I was like what? And so I just had

567
00:24:36,920 --> 00:24:38,520
Speaker 3: to confess, and then he goes, Okay, well it looks

568
00:24:38,520 --> 00:24:40,120
Speaker 3: like we won't be hanging out with that friend anymore.

569
00:24:40,680 --> 00:24:43,000
Speaker 2: And so then I remember all from looking at a dog.

570
00:24:43,320 --> 00:24:44,720
Speaker 2: I remember all this stuff. Right.

571
00:24:44,760 --> 00:24:47,439
Speaker 3: It takes me to this mad like crazy like moment

572
00:24:47,480 --> 00:24:50,119
Speaker 3: in my past when I was young, and so their

573
00:24:50,520 --> 00:24:53,440
Speaker 3: their like resolution to this problem was like, well, look,

574
00:24:53,600 --> 00:24:54,760
Speaker 3: you know, you're not going to be hanging out with

575
00:24:54,760 --> 00:24:55,399
Speaker 3: that friend anymore, and.

576
00:24:55,440 --> 00:24:58,359
Speaker 2: Like you're not gonna you're not led Statu's house. Yeah,

577
00:24:58,400 --> 00:24:59,359
Speaker 2: And so I said cool.

578
00:25:00,119 --> 00:25:02,760
Speaker 3: But what that led to was me just saying I

579
00:25:02,800 --> 00:25:05,000
Speaker 3: was staying at someone else's house and then staying at

580
00:25:05,040 --> 00:25:05,400
Speaker 3: his house.

581
00:25:05,520 --> 00:25:08,040
Speaker 2: Yeah. And so I was like, I.

582
00:25:08,000 --> 00:25:11,240
Speaker 3: Wonder if they handled that in the right way, because

583
00:25:11,280 --> 00:25:15,080
Speaker 3: what else it did was I also, then, let's say

584
00:25:15,119 --> 00:25:18,840
Speaker 3: I was doing something bad. If something bad were to happen,

585
00:25:18,880 --> 00:25:20,960
Speaker 3: I would have been too scared to call them, Yes,

586
00:25:21,600 --> 00:25:25,000
Speaker 3: And now I know now that I definitely could have,

587
00:25:25,480 --> 00:25:26,960
Speaker 3: and maybe they would have been mad, but they would

588
00:25:26,960 --> 00:25:29,000
Speaker 3: prefer to me to be safe. So what I was

589
00:25:29,040 --> 00:25:34,040
Speaker 3: thinking was, I think that a good conversation to have

590
00:25:34,119 --> 00:25:38,960
Speaker 3: with our girlfriends, right, because we aren't we're the type

591
00:25:38,960 --> 00:25:40,520
Speaker 3: to be like we're with a girl because like.

592
00:25:40,480 --> 00:25:42,359
Speaker 2: We think we could see a future with them.

593
00:25:42,480 --> 00:25:43,919
Speaker 3: So I think a conversation we should have with our

594
00:25:43,920 --> 00:25:46,240
Speaker 3: girlfriends is Okay, let's say we have a son or

595
00:25:46,240 --> 00:25:48,880
Speaker 3: a daughter and they're fifteen sixteen, and we find out

596
00:25:48,880 --> 00:25:49,600
Speaker 3: they smoked weed.

597
00:25:50,720 --> 00:25:53,119
Speaker 2: How would you like to handle the situation because I

598
00:25:53,119 --> 00:25:54,159
Speaker 2: know how I would like to handle it.

599
00:25:54,880 --> 00:25:56,639
Speaker 3: So so what I want to know is, do you

600
00:25:56,680 --> 00:25:58,240
Speaker 3: think this is a good conversation we should have with

601
00:25:58,280 --> 00:25:58,960
Speaker 3: our girlfriends.

602
00:25:59,440 --> 00:26:00,640
Speaker 2: I'm once I've had with you.

603
00:26:00,760 --> 00:26:02,800
Speaker 1: Oh no, I didn't do it with weed, but we

604
00:26:02,800 --> 00:26:04,760
Speaker 1: did it. I was talking about deep conversations we had.

605
00:26:04,920 --> 00:26:06,800
Speaker 1: We're talking about like raising kids and stuff, and it

606
00:26:07,160 --> 00:26:09,679
Speaker 1: came up to our upbringings, how our parents brought us up,

607
00:26:09,880 --> 00:26:12,920
Speaker 1: and we said, how would react if our children told

608
00:26:12,960 --> 00:26:15,159
Speaker 1: us they just got drunk, which is the same concept,

609
00:26:15,160 --> 00:26:17,760
Speaker 1: which he's maybe a little bit different, but oh yeah, yeah,

610
00:26:17,800 --> 00:26:20,160
Speaker 1: yeah yeah, And that was how we would react. And like,

611
00:26:20,440 --> 00:26:22,879
Speaker 1: I know a lot of parents taking into alcohol, like

612
00:26:23,000 --> 00:26:24,800
Speaker 1: don't want the kids to touch our cocohol till they eighteen,

613
00:26:24,840 --> 00:26:26,320
Speaker 1: And what ends up happening is they go sneak out

614
00:26:26,320 --> 00:26:30,240
Speaker 1: from fifteen to eighteen exactly. And I had I said

615
00:26:30,240 --> 00:26:34,320
Speaker 1: to my girlfriend that I'm happy for them to drink

616
00:26:34,320 --> 00:26:36,280
Speaker 1: at sixteen. I'll buy it for them. I'll buy them

617
00:26:36,280 --> 00:26:39,119
Speaker 1: a fucking six pack or something. And I want to

618
00:26:39,119 --> 00:26:40,919
Speaker 1: make sure that they know they can ring me no

619
00:26:40,960 --> 00:26:42,919
Speaker 1: matter what, which I sort of had a similar thing.

620
00:26:42,920 --> 00:26:44,639
Speaker 2: I probably could have ran my parents. They probably wouldn't

621
00:26:44,640 --> 00:26:45,119
Speaker 2: have picked up.

622
00:26:45,400 --> 00:26:47,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, because my parents would have been asleep because

623
00:26:47,920 --> 00:26:49,320
Speaker 1: I also didn't tell them where I was going, and

624
00:26:49,320 --> 00:26:51,360
Speaker 1: they didn't know what I was doing exactly. Yeah, it's

625
00:26:51,520 --> 00:26:55,840
Speaker 1: definitely a good conversation to have, and like also, I

626
00:26:55,840 --> 00:26:58,440
Speaker 1: think it also is really good understanding where your partner

627
00:26:59,040 --> 00:27:01,480
Speaker 1: and what she dealt with going kind of a stand.

628
00:27:01,520 --> 00:27:04,399
Speaker 3: So, yeah, where it went for me was like I

629
00:27:04,640 --> 00:27:07,320
Speaker 3: was the same, Like I would just you know, all

630
00:27:07,320 --> 00:27:10,040
Speaker 3: my friends would be going out and we would be

631
00:27:10,200 --> 00:27:12,320
Speaker 3: a little underage, Like we're not promoting that by any means.

632
00:27:12,320 --> 00:27:14,239
Speaker 3: I think it's bad, but you know, you'd want to go,

633
00:27:14,359 --> 00:27:16,479
Speaker 3: so you would lie to your parents. And there's every

634
00:27:16,560 --> 00:27:18,960
Speaker 3: chance in the world that they probably knew I was lying. Like,

635
00:27:19,040 --> 00:27:20,919
Speaker 3: thinking about it now, it's maybe they did.

636
00:27:21,000 --> 00:27:23,679
Speaker 1: Maybe they did, Like judge parroting too, because like we

637
00:27:23,720 --> 00:27:24,919
Speaker 1: say all these things, hey, I'm going to be a

638
00:27:24,920 --> 00:27:26,400
Speaker 1: healthy parent, and then like your kids are just gonna

639
00:27:26,400 --> 00:27:27,920
Speaker 1: lie to you anyway, you can't do anything about it.

640
00:27:27,840 --> 00:27:30,359
Speaker 3: And like by no means my parents strict, Yeah, and

641
00:27:30,520 --> 00:27:33,080
Speaker 3: I think they're the best parents ever. But it just

642
00:27:33,119 --> 00:27:35,359
Speaker 3: made me think and I was like, so what it

643
00:27:35,359 --> 00:27:37,520
Speaker 3: got me thinking was the way I would like to

644
00:27:37,560 --> 00:27:39,280
Speaker 3: deal with it, and I am actually because I thought

645
00:27:39,280 --> 00:27:40,639
Speaker 3: of it earlier, I haven't spoken to best since I

646
00:27:40,640 --> 00:27:42,359
Speaker 3: thought of this, but I'm actually really, I really am

647
00:27:42,400 --> 00:27:43,480
Speaker 3: keen to talk to her about it.

648
00:27:43,840 --> 00:27:45,440
Speaker 1: The way I would like to deal with it is

649
00:27:45,480 --> 00:27:47,919
Speaker 1: if I found out my kid got high or drunk,

650
00:27:48,640 --> 00:27:50,199
Speaker 1: I would just like to sit them down and be like,

651
00:27:51,119 --> 00:27:52,560
Speaker 1: first of all, if they were if they were keeping

652
00:27:52,600 --> 00:27:53,679
Speaker 1: it from me, I would just be like, look, I

653
00:27:53,720 --> 00:27:54,679
Speaker 1: know you know.

654
00:27:55,280 --> 00:27:56,480
Speaker 2: And the route I want.

655
00:27:56,359 --> 00:28:00,320
Speaker 3: To go is like maybe explain to them that the

656
00:28:00,359 --> 00:28:05,040
Speaker 3: reason why I don't drink and smoke, and then just

657
00:28:05,080 --> 00:28:08,359
Speaker 3: say to them like, look, obviously we don't want you

658
00:28:08,760 --> 00:28:10,840
Speaker 3: to be doing this like this is we want you

659
00:28:10,920 --> 00:28:13,119
Speaker 3: to be healthy and we want you to have a

660
00:28:13,200 --> 00:28:17,480
Speaker 3: childhood where you don't drink, I smoke, but we understand

661
00:28:17,560 --> 00:28:19,800
Speaker 3: that if it's if it's something you really want to do,

662
00:28:19,920 --> 00:28:22,720
Speaker 3: humans are pretty fucking clever and persistent and you're gonna

663
00:28:22,760 --> 00:28:24,840
Speaker 3: find a way whether we like it or not. So

664
00:28:24,960 --> 00:28:26,920
Speaker 3: all I want you to know is I don't want

665
00:28:26,920 --> 00:28:29,000
Speaker 3: you to do it, but if you're gonna do it

666
00:28:29,359 --> 00:28:32,639
Speaker 3: and something goes wrong, please call me. That's all I

667
00:28:33,280 --> 00:28:35,320
Speaker 3: think that's how I want to handle it. I don't

668
00:28:35,400 --> 00:28:37,080
Speaker 3: know if I can bring myself to buy my kid

669
00:28:37,119 --> 00:28:39,920
Speaker 3: alcohol underage, But I don't judge your decision of doing

670
00:28:39,920 --> 00:28:41,160
Speaker 3: that because the heeps of parents did it.

671
00:28:41,440 --> 00:28:42,680
Speaker 2: I know parents did it.

672
00:28:42,760 --> 00:28:47,840
Speaker 1: I would argue that you saying that you don't want

673
00:28:47,880 --> 00:28:49,600
Speaker 1: your kid to do it will make your kid want

674
00:28:49,640 --> 00:28:50,280
Speaker 1: to do it more.

675
00:28:50,880 --> 00:28:52,360
Speaker 2: And for you to figure.

676
00:28:52,040 --> 00:28:55,720
Speaker 1: Out that you didn't like drinking, you had to do it. Yeah,

677
00:28:55,880 --> 00:28:57,719
Speaker 1: that's why you figured it out. Like it's all good

678
00:28:57,760 --> 00:29:00,680
Speaker 1: and well to tell someone that, like it's like we've

679
00:29:00,720 --> 00:29:03,360
Speaker 1: got past addiction, Like this is what I call It's like, yeah,

680
00:29:03,360 --> 00:29:05,480
Speaker 1: fucking sick dad, Like I just want to have phone

681
00:29:05,520 --> 00:29:06,680
Speaker 1: with my friends. That's what i'd be, like, I'm just

682
00:29:06,720 --> 00:29:09,160
Speaker 1: gonna drink. Then it's a good point. There's so many

683
00:29:09,160 --> 00:29:11,120
Speaker 1: different ways in avenues to do it, and I'm more on

684
00:29:11,120 --> 00:29:13,360
Speaker 1: the approach of like he's my son, I've brought him

685
00:29:13,440 --> 00:29:15,240
Speaker 1: up or my daughter. I've brought them up in a

686
00:29:15,240 --> 00:29:16,920
Speaker 1: way that I think is healthy enough for them to

687
00:29:16,920 --> 00:29:19,640
Speaker 1: figure out their own path. I want them to try

688
00:29:19,640 --> 00:29:22,440
Speaker 1: it in a healthy manner rather than like, I don't know,

689
00:29:22,600 --> 00:29:24,720
Speaker 1: drink some shitty alcohol that they found on the side

690
00:29:24,720 --> 00:29:26,640
Speaker 1: of the road and got some fucking older boy to

691
00:29:26,640 --> 00:29:28,920
Speaker 1: buy it from him, or some shit true from a

692
00:29:28,960 --> 00:29:30,920
Speaker 1: reliable source, and then they figure out from the self

693
00:29:30,960 --> 00:29:33,520
Speaker 1: that they don't like it, and then it's their own journey.

694
00:29:33,600 --> 00:29:35,280
Speaker 1: Like there's only so much you can do as a

695
00:29:35,280 --> 00:29:37,800
Speaker 1: peran and it's like guiding them rather than telling them

696
00:29:37,800 --> 00:29:38,600
Speaker 1: what you think.

697
00:29:38,480 --> 00:29:39,000
Speaker 2: They should do.

698
00:29:39,760 --> 00:29:39,960
Speaker 3: Yeah.

699
00:29:40,240 --> 00:29:41,640
Speaker 2: Fuck, but I see what I can see why you

700
00:29:41,640 --> 00:29:42,360
Speaker 2: would do yours too.

701
00:29:42,760 --> 00:29:45,440
Speaker 3: I reckon, maybe maybe this could be a good Okay, ready,

702
00:29:46,680 --> 00:29:50,960
Speaker 3: so your kid goes out, gets drunk, and then you

703
00:29:51,040 --> 00:29:53,920
Speaker 3: find out, you have that conversation with him and you go, okay, look,

704
00:29:54,040 --> 00:29:54,960
Speaker 3: I know you're gonna do it.

705
00:29:56,760 --> 00:29:57,760
Speaker 2: Let me show you how to do it right.

706
00:29:57,800 --> 00:30:00,840
Speaker 1: I thought when before you're talking about weed, I thought

707
00:30:00,840 --> 00:30:01,960
Speaker 1: you were going to be like, all right, I'll show

708
00:30:01,960 --> 00:30:04,280
Speaker 1: you how to roll the fucking Yeah.

709
00:30:04,280 --> 00:30:05,360
Speaker 2: Let me show you how to do it right.

710
00:30:05,440 --> 00:30:08,760
Speaker 3: And just because like this is terrible to promote, like

711
00:30:08,760 --> 00:30:10,240
Speaker 3: I'm by no means I'm telling anyone to do this,

712
00:30:10,320 --> 00:30:13,760
Speaker 3: but like you can you ever have one of the

713
00:30:13,880 --> 00:30:15,800
Speaker 3: we've had the hangovers before where you have the hangover

714
00:30:15,840 --> 00:30:19,560
Speaker 3: and you're just like like, I'm not doing that again.

715
00:30:19,640 --> 00:30:20,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, it's like you've.

716
00:30:20,720 --> 00:30:24,120
Speaker 3: Got to give him one of them.

717
00:30:24,720 --> 00:30:27,080
Speaker 2: Honestly, at eight, like it's hard to get one of them.

718
00:30:27,240 --> 00:30:30,680
Speaker 2: It actually is. You bounce back, yeah, so quick. You

719
00:30:30,680 --> 00:30:31,800
Speaker 2: can drink anything like it.

720
00:30:31,920 --> 00:30:34,120
Speaker 1: When you start hitting twenty twenty one, you're like, fuck, man,

721
00:30:34,120 --> 00:30:34,760
Speaker 1: I'm getting older.

722
00:30:35,720 --> 00:30:39,160
Speaker 3: Shit. I went to when I was away with family

723
00:30:39,200 --> 00:30:41,720
Speaker 3: a couple weeks ago, my uncle and his kid they

724
00:30:41,760 --> 00:30:44,280
Speaker 3: were drinking together, Like his kid's eighteen, and he's older,

725
00:30:44,360 --> 00:30:45,960
Speaker 3: like obviously in his forties.

726
00:30:45,640 --> 00:30:49,320
Speaker 2: Or something, and they were drinking the same amount.

727
00:30:49,520 --> 00:30:53,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, And what's crazy is my uncle got wasted and

728
00:30:53,880 --> 00:30:56,040
Speaker 3: the kid did and he could barely walk. He had

729
00:30:56,080 --> 00:30:58,000
Speaker 3: to be like carried to the car, like helped into

730
00:30:58,040 --> 00:31:00,160
Speaker 3: the car. He was wasted, didn't really remember any thing.

731
00:31:00,920 --> 00:31:04,120
Speaker 3: But with his son, he just like was holding a

732
00:31:04,120 --> 00:31:06,720
Speaker 3: conversation with people when you drank the same amount, apparently

733
00:31:06,920 --> 00:31:09,560
Speaker 3: you drink holding conversation. He felt a little bit dusty

734
00:31:09,600 --> 00:31:11,280
Speaker 3: the next day, but it was just I was just like,

735
00:31:11,360 --> 00:31:14,040
Speaker 3: how the fuck are you holding? Like the experience your

736
00:31:14,120 --> 00:31:16,480
Speaker 3: dad have on you, but he clearly is just his

737
00:31:16,600 --> 00:31:17,600
Speaker 3: age is getting to him.

738
00:31:17,720 --> 00:31:20,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, And it's funny, like the different relationships

739
00:31:20,160 --> 00:31:22,680
Speaker 1: that I don't know. Different families have with alcohol too,

740
00:31:22,720 --> 00:31:24,720
Speaker 1: like you see it on like Christmas and everything, like

741
00:31:24,800 --> 00:31:26,920
Speaker 1: oh you want to be here, like we're socializing, Like no,

742
00:31:27,040 --> 00:31:31,479
Speaker 1: I'm not a cocaine And it's always that awkward now

743
00:31:31,520 --> 00:31:33,479
Speaker 1: that I'm turning, like now you're older and like you

744
00:31:33,520 --> 00:31:36,040
Speaker 1: like it's assumed that you drink beer. It's just like

745
00:31:36,040 --> 00:31:38,000
Speaker 1: whenever you go to a social setting with like older people,

746
00:31:38,040 --> 00:31:39,760
Speaker 1: like you want to be And I was like, nah,

747
00:31:40,000 --> 00:31:43,560
Speaker 1: yeah I coke me just coke zero preferred place.

748
00:31:43,680 --> 00:31:45,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's so funny.

749
00:31:45,320 --> 00:31:47,440
Speaker 3: Sometimes I'll be like, I gotta get roundy tonight full

750
00:31:47,440 --> 00:31:47,960
Speaker 3: sugar coke.

751
00:31:49,200 --> 00:31:50,080
Speaker 2: Sugar coke for me.

752
00:31:50,280 --> 00:31:52,840
Speaker 1: It's funny thinking about I actually enjoy thinking about like

753
00:31:53,600 --> 00:31:55,479
Speaker 1: how old be as a parent. I was even picturing

754
00:31:55,480 --> 00:31:56,800
Speaker 1: like you sitting down with a little kid, and I

755
00:31:56,800 --> 00:31:57,480
Speaker 1: was thinking.

756
00:31:57,520 --> 00:31:59,560
Speaker 2: I was thinking, like this is what I was.

757
00:31:59,600 --> 00:32:02,000
Speaker 3: This is why I brought it up, because Okay, my

758
00:32:02,040 --> 00:32:04,240
Speaker 3: whole start of this was like I'm not a deep thinker,

759
00:32:04,480 --> 00:32:06,320
Speaker 3: but clearly I am a little bit because I went

760
00:32:06,360 --> 00:32:08,560
Speaker 3: through this whole because Okay, what else I was doing

761
00:32:08,600 --> 00:32:09,720
Speaker 3: while driving at the gym.

762
00:32:09,600 --> 00:32:12,960
Speaker 2: Was I went through this whole like rigmarole in my

763
00:32:13,120 --> 00:32:15,840
Speaker 2: brain of what I would be saying to my kid.

764
00:32:16,280 --> 00:32:19,600
Speaker 3: And then also I was like, I don't know why

765
00:32:19,640 --> 00:32:22,719
Speaker 3: I was thinking of this. I was saying it in

766
00:32:22,760 --> 00:32:25,800
Speaker 3: my head to my kid. Don't know what my kid

767
00:32:25,840 --> 00:32:28,160
Speaker 3: looks like. But then I was also like, Okay, so

768
00:32:28,200 --> 00:32:30,560
Speaker 3: that's one way I could do it. What about if

769
00:32:30,640 --> 00:32:32,280
Speaker 3: I was saying this. What if I was trying to

770
00:32:32,320 --> 00:32:33,840
Speaker 3: teach my kid a lesson but him and his mum

771
00:32:33,880 --> 00:32:36,600
Speaker 3: were divorced, And then I'm like, what would I be

772
00:32:36,640 --> 00:32:38,720
Speaker 3: saying to his stepmom? Like looks like I've got to

773
00:32:38,720 --> 00:32:40,600
Speaker 3: call his mom? And I was like, And then it's

774
00:32:40,800 --> 00:32:44,080
Speaker 3: got me thinking of like what's the dynamic. Like when

775
00:32:44,720 --> 00:32:48,080
Speaker 3: let's say I'm single and I meet a girl and

776
00:32:48,080 --> 00:32:50,880
Speaker 3: she's got a kid, Okay, I become the kid's stepdad.

777
00:32:50,800 --> 00:32:54,360
Speaker 2: Like, what's what's the dynamic?

778
00:32:54,640 --> 00:32:57,320
Speaker 3: Like when she kind of has to be in touch

779
00:32:57,360 --> 00:32:59,480
Speaker 3: with this guy and it's like you're fully going to

780
00:32:59,560 --> 00:33:01,840
Speaker 3: understand that, but like does she need to?

781
00:33:02,680 --> 00:33:03,000
Speaker 2: Is it?

782
00:33:03,040 --> 00:33:05,120
Speaker 3: Is it disrespectful if she just contacts this guy?

783
00:33:05,200 --> 00:33:10,920
Speaker 2: Like talking about I think I'm a deep thinker. If

784
00:33:10,920 --> 00:33:12,640
Speaker 2: you can let you can be whatever you want to be.

785
00:33:12,680 --> 00:33:14,560
Speaker 1: Man, I think I'm a deep thinker can be whatever

786
00:33:14,600 --> 00:33:16,080
Speaker 1: you want to be, honestly.

787
00:33:15,760 --> 00:33:17,280
Speaker 2: And I'm and I do this often.

788
00:33:17,520 --> 00:33:20,520
Speaker 1: I inspiral, keep it going, try and spire in like

789
00:33:20,560 --> 00:33:21,240
Speaker 1: a good direction.

790
00:33:21,600 --> 00:33:22,960
Speaker 2: Like at the start of that story, I was like,

791
00:33:22,960 --> 00:33:26,200
Speaker 2: where the fuck is Jake going of this? I will aspiral

792
00:33:26,200 --> 00:33:26,920
Speaker 2: how I want to spiral?

793
00:33:26,960 --> 00:33:29,760
Speaker 3: Alright, I will spiral it whatever way I feel like spiring,

794
00:33:29,760 --> 00:33:30,960
Speaker 3: whatever way my brain takes me.

795
00:33:31,200 --> 00:33:34,000
Speaker 2: That conversation could have went to, like so like how

796
00:33:34,000 --> 00:33:36,920
Speaker 2: good was we even? Or sixteen? That's where the spiral

797
00:33:36,960 --> 00:33:41,320
Speaker 2: could have gone. Oh yeah.

798
00:33:41,480 --> 00:33:45,040
Speaker 1: But so everyone out there that is like, how do

799
00:33:45,040 --> 00:33:48,520
Speaker 1: you want how do you want us to label you now?

800
00:33:48,600 --> 00:33:50,960
Speaker 2: So I'm a deep thinker and you're going.

801
00:33:50,960 --> 00:33:52,840
Speaker 3: To say everyone out there that listens to relateable.

802
00:33:52,720 --> 00:33:54,760
Speaker 2: Also a deep thinker. I think we've got something different.

803
00:33:54,760 --> 00:33:55,720
Speaker 2: This is what you say to everyone.

804
00:33:55,720 --> 00:33:58,360
Speaker 3: Okay, I listen to this podcast, and I bet you

805
00:33:58,480 --> 00:34:01,360
Speaker 3: used to say Oddie, real deep thing, Jake, pretty willy nil.

806
00:34:01,760 --> 00:34:03,320
Speaker 3: I wanted what I want you to say now is

807
00:34:03,400 --> 00:34:04,760
Speaker 3: Addie real deep thinker Jake.

808
00:34:04,960 --> 00:34:05,920
Speaker 2: Even deeper.

809
00:34:10,400 --> 00:34:12,360
Speaker 1: People can take that if they want, we have to

810
00:34:12,440 --> 00:34:13,840
Speaker 1: change your name to mummy, mate.

811
00:34:14,440 --> 00:34:21,880
Speaker 2: We can be mummy and mummy.

812
00:34:24,960 --> 00:34:30,359
Speaker 1: Alrighty Jake, the biggest theme on this podcast is relationships.

813
00:34:30,000 --> 00:34:33,799
Speaker 2: Hands down and deep thinking. Yeah, now it is.

814
00:34:33,840 --> 00:34:35,480
Speaker 1: After this episode, mate, we're just going to be going

815
00:34:35,480 --> 00:34:37,319
Speaker 1: deeper and deeper and deeper. Everyone's like, bring back the.

816
00:34:37,239 --> 00:34:40,560
Speaker 2: Deep chat everything Jake thinks about his deep guys, I'll

817
00:34:40,560 --> 00:34:44,560
Speaker 2: start labeling everything deep spiral and what is.

818
00:34:44,520 --> 00:34:47,560
Speaker 1: The key fundamental that makes a relationship work?

819
00:34:47,719 --> 00:34:51,880
Speaker 2: Band? Trust? Didn't tell you beforehand what we're talking about.

820
00:34:52,760 --> 00:34:54,399
Speaker 2: Now you're such a deep thinker, man. That was good.

821
00:34:55,239 --> 00:34:58,439
Speaker 1: All I think about is trust and love and and

822
00:34:59,320 --> 00:35:03,080
Speaker 1: once trust is gone, it's sort of like is the

823
00:35:03,160 --> 00:35:06,560
Speaker 1: relationship worth fighting for? And I wanted to do some

824
00:35:06,600 --> 00:35:10,440
Speaker 1: research on how can you regain trust and rebuild trust?

825
00:35:11,360 --> 00:35:16,080
Speaker 1: And actually, actually the literature, Jake was it was not

826
00:35:16,160 --> 00:35:19,799
Speaker 1: quite what I was looking for because it's kind of

827
00:35:20,360 --> 00:35:23,920
Speaker 1: just the choice, Like there was no there was no

828
00:35:24,239 --> 00:35:26,200
Speaker 1: science behind how to trust someone again.

829
00:35:26,280 --> 00:35:29,200
Speaker 2: It was more like if you've lost trust, yeah yeah, yeah.

830
00:35:29,280 --> 00:35:31,520
Speaker 1: So what I did find though, this was very interesting

831
00:35:31,520 --> 00:35:34,280
Speaker 1: and sort of you can make a more informed decision

832
00:35:34,520 --> 00:35:39,120
Speaker 1: if you understand how trust is formed, and then you

833
00:35:39,120 --> 00:35:41,600
Speaker 1: can make the informed decision of if you want to

834
00:35:41,719 --> 00:35:45,759
Speaker 1: rebuild trust. We've said person, So this is the key

835
00:35:45,800 --> 00:35:49,040
Speaker 1: fundamentals of what makes up trust in a relationship. It

836
00:35:49,200 --> 00:35:51,879
Speaker 1: is in reference to Francis Freer. I think her name

837
00:35:51,960 --> 00:35:54,200
Speaker 1: is sed Ted talk. It was in reference to business,

838
00:35:54,239 --> 00:35:56,440
Speaker 1: so I put it into personal relationships.

839
00:35:56,480 --> 00:35:58,960
Speaker 2: So oh interesting, Okay, yeah yeah, yeah yeah yeah.

840
00:35:58,960 --> 00:36:01,279
Speaker 1: She was talking on like businessusiness, business, and I was like, nah, nah,

841
00:36:01,320 --> 00:36:01,800
Speaker 1: fuck business.

842
00:36:01,800 --> 00:36:04,360
Speaker 2: I want to talk about love. Our business is loved.

843
00:36:04,480 --> 00:36:07,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, So the foundation of all relationships. If we trust

844
00:36:07,680 --> 00:36:10,200
Speaker 1: one another, the world would be such a better place.

845
00:36:10,600 --> 00:36:13,120
Speaker 1: But what if trust is broken? Can there be redemption?

846
00:36:13,600 --> 00:36:16,000
Speaker 1: Should you give someone a second chance? How do you

847
00:36:16,040 --> 00:36:17,280
Speaker 1: build trust in the first place?

848
00:36:17,760 --> 00:36:19,480
Speaker 2: All? Right, to build trust.

849
00:36:19,640 --> 00:36:22,840
Speaker 1: We must understand its components first, which there are three.

850
00:36:23,239 --> 00:36:26,760
Speaker 1: Number one authenticity. Authenticity you know what that is, yep,

851
00:36:26,840 --> 00:36:31,680
Speaker 1: being true to yourself. Number two belief in what you're saying. Okay,

852
00:36:31,920 --> 00:36:34,880
Speaker 1: So it's like when I'm telling you something, I actually

853
00:36:34,920 --> 00:36:35,600
Speaker 1: believe it myself.

854
00:36:35,640 --> 00:36:36,720
Speaker 2: You're not saying it as a question.

855
00:36:36,840 --> 00:36:39,160
Speaker 1: And it's also like it's basically saying I'm not lying

856
00:36:39,200 --> 00:36:41,160
Speaker 1: when I'm saying something. Okay, it's like coming from like

857
00:36:41,560 --> 00:36:44,000
Speaker 1: this is actually what happened, yea, like in my eyes.

858
00:36:44,040 --> 00:36:48,319
Speaker 1: And the third one is empathy, okay, which is the

859
00:36:48,440 --> 00:36:51,360
Speaker 1: biggest one. When all these three things are working, we

860
00:36:51,480 --> 00:36:54,160
Speaker 1: have great trust. But as soon as one of these

861
00:36:54,160 --> 00:36:58,160
Speaker 1: components start to wabble, the trust starts to feel shaky.

862
00:36:58,360 --> 00:37:01,719
Speaker 1: And that's when a relationship starts to feel shaky. And

863
00:37:01,800 --> 00:37:04,600
Speaker 1: if your trust starts the wobble, you need to understand

864
00:37:04,960 --> 00:37:08,120
Speaker 1: where and why trust start to feel wobbly and have

865
00:37:08,160 --> 00:37:10,440
Speaker 1: already made prescription to overcome it.

866
00:37:11,800 --> 00:37:15,200
Speaker 2: Cool, can I oh, you're gonna go on? Yeah?

867
00:37:15,200 --> 00:37:17,200
Speaker 3: I was gonna say so. Basically like, if you're like, fuck,

868
00:37:17,239 --> 00:37:22,399
Speaker 3: why don't I trust my partner? It's looking for the reason. Yes,

869
00:37:22,480 --> 00:37:24,000
Speaker 3: So the reason could be something they've done, or the

870
00:37:24,000 --> 00:37:26,240
Speaker 3: reason could be that you have trust issues from the past.

871
00:37:26,360 --> 00:37:28,879
Speaker 1: Yes, yes, yeah, And it's understanding where it's coming from

872
00:37:28,920 --> 00:37:31,640
Speaker 1: and whether or not you as a team can overlook

873
00:37:31,680 --> 00:37:33,759
Speaker 1: that thing. And they're the three pillars where you look

874
00:37:33,800 --> 00:37:36,200
Speaker 1: for it first and then understand, Oh, that's why I

875
00:37:36,440 --> 00:37:37,960
Speaker 1: feel like it's getting a bit shaky and I don't

876
00:37:37,960 --> 00:37:40,760
Speaker 1: trust them, So to three pillars. The most common wobble

877
00:37:40,880 --> 00:37:44,880
Speaker 1: is empathy. People believe that their partner is too distracted

878
00:37:45,400 --> 00:37:47,440
Speaker 1: and in it for individual gain. They're not in it

879
00:37:47,480 --> 00:37:51,040
Speaker 1: for the greater good of the relationship. So here's the prescription.

880
00:37:51,760 --> 00:37:55,640
Speaker 1: Identify where, when, and who is distracting your partner's empathy.

881
00:37:56,120 --> 00:37:58,560
Speaker 1: That should trace pretty perfectly to the cause of why

882
00:37:58,600 --> 00:38:01,560
Speaker 1: your partner has lack of empathy and trust has started

883
00:38:01,600 --> 00:38:04,440
Speaker 1: to wabble. And from here you can see the situation

884
00:38:04,520 --> 00:38:06,839
Speaker 1: for what it is and ask yourself if you think

885
00:38:06,880 --> 00:38:08,960
Speaker 1: your partner can overcome these distractions.

886
00:38:09,840 --> 00:38:13,000
Speaker 2: So that makes sense, Yeah, I was. I've found that

887
00:38:13,120 --> 00:38:13,880
Speaker 2: like really insightful.

888
00:38:13,920 --> 00:38:16,920
Speaker 1: It's just like it's understanding why they don't have empathy,

889
00:38:16,920 --> 00:38:18,680
Speaker 1: and that's why the trust is feeling like wait, that's

890
00:38:18,680 --> 00:38:22,720
Speaker 1: he's getting distracted by them. Yeah, and honestly by that bitch.

891
00:38:22,800 --> 00:38:26,239
Speaker 1: She emphasized that the first step to regaining empathy in

892
00:38:26,280 --> 00:38:31,200
Speaker 1: a relationship is putting down the phone, respecting each other's boundaries.

893
00:38:31,200 --> 00:38:33,080
Speaker 1: When it comes to all the apps, it is so

894
00:38:33,200 --> 00:38:37,120
Speaker 1: difficult to build from a start or even rebuild empathy

895
00:38:37,760 --> 00:38:39,000
Speaker 1: in the presence of a phone.

896
00:38:40,120 --> 00:38:42,560
Speaker 2: Whoa, because it's a distraction. It's a distraction.

897
00:38:42,680 --> 00:38:45,080
Speaker 1: It distracts your mind from this beautiful person in front

898
00:38:45,080 --> 00:38:47,120
Speaker 1: of you, and there's all these different determinants that are

899
00:38:47,160 --> 00:38:49,040
Speaker 1: like do I love her or do I like this

900
00:38:49,080 --> 00:38:50,920
Speaker 1: fucking chicken on Instagram. It's half nagud or.

901
00:38:50,920 --> 00:38:53,560
Speaker 2: Like wait, talking about phones is Yeah.

902
00:38:53,880 --> 00:38:55,800
Speaker 3: Beth was in her bathroom the other day and I

903
00:38:55,880 --> 00:38:58,160
Speaker 3: was watching the video of lego on TikTok and I

904
00:38:58,600 --> 00:38:59,919
Speaker 3: was in this video of TikTok logo.

905
00:39:00,200 --> 00:39:00,600
Speaker 2: Yeah.

906
00:39:01,160 --> 00:39:02,359
Speaker 3: She was saying stuff to me and I was like,

907
00:39:02,560 --> 00:39:04,359
Speaker 3: oh yeah, yeah, like i'd pause it, oh yeah, yeah,

908
00:39:04,360 --> 00:39:05,480
Speaker 3: put it back on it. She'd be like, are you

909
00:39:05,480 --> 00:39:07,200
Speaker 3: even listening? And I'm like, no, I'm watching.

910
00:39:07,680 --> 00:39:09,399
Speaker 2: Yeah, to throw my phone away so I could listen,

911
00:39:09,400 --> 00:39:10,399
Speaker 2: and I was like, sorry, I'm being rude.

912
00:39:10,800 --> 00:39:13,000
Speaker 1: That's the perfect example when like in my head I

913
00:39:13,080 --> 00:39:17,279
Speaker 1: was thinking, like if someone does something really bad, how

914
00:39:17,320 --> 00:39:20,920
Speaker 1: can you regain trust? And that's not really there's no

915
00:39:20,960 --> 00:39:24,680
Speaker 1: real answer to that. It's more like those little things

916
00:39:24,719 --> 00:39:28,279
Speaker 1: of like trusting each other and how to build the

917
00:39:28,320 --> 00:39:31,719
Speaker 1: best foundations to build a strong bond. And that's if

918
00:39:31,760 --> 00:39:35,120
Speaker 1: someone's doing something like that consistently, and then best say,

919
00:39:35,160 --> 00:39:37,080
Speaker 1: best started to trust you less because you were never

920
00:39:37,080 --> 00:39:38,720
Speaker 1: listening to her and you're thinking about it, You're.

921
00:39:38,600 --> 00:39:41,399
Speaker 3: Just stop talking to me, Yeah, just trust that I'm listening. Yes, yes, yes,

922
00:39:41,440 --> 00:39:41,920
Speaker 3: But that's.

923
00:39:41,800 --> 00:39:43,640
Speaker 2: An example of where you can rebuild it.

924
00:39:43,640 --> 00:39:45,560
Speaker 1: You can't rebuild it with all these terrible things like cheating,

925
00:39:45,560 --> 00:39:48,080
Speaker 1: But these little minute things that add up and make

926
00:39:48,120 --> 00:39:52,000
Speaker 1: a relationship unstable and untrusting is what you can rebuild from. Yes,

927
00:39:52,960 --> 00:39:56,360
Speaker 1: So the second most important component of trust is belief

928
00:39:56,440 --> 00:39:58,480
Speaker 1: in what you're saying, basically if you're lying or not.

929
00:39:59,360 --> 00:40:02,680
Speaker 1: This is all about communication. When emotions are involved, most

930
00:40:02,680 --> 00:40:05,200
Speaker 1: people really can't spit out what they're trying to say.

931
00:40:05,239 --> 00:40:09,320
Speaker 1: They just get jumbled up and confuse all the thoughts

932
00:40:09,360 --> 00:40:11,560
Speaker 1: and feelings in their mind, and the trust starts to

933
00:40:11,640 --> 00:40:14,480
Speaker 1: wobble more and more and you can't really get out

934
00:40:14,480 --> 00:40:17,040
Speaker 1: what you're saying or what happened in your eyes. So

935
00:40:17,080 --> 00:40:19,480
Speaker 1: the solution is really simple. And I don't never the

936
00:40:19,520 --> 00:40:20,920
Speaker 1: thought of this, but it makes so much sense. And

937
00:40:21,360 --> 00:40:24,280
Speaker 1: when I'm trying to talk to my partner about something

938
00:40:24,440 --> 00:40:27,120
Speaker 1: that like a tricky conversation, I kind of beat around

939
00:40:27,120 --> 00:40:27,520
Speaker 1: the bush.

940
00:40:27,680 --> 00:40:29,319
Speaker 2: Same not the right thing to do.

941
00:40:30,200 --> 00:40:33,720
Speaker 1: So when you spit out your point of view, spit

942
00:40:33,760 --> 00:40:36,279
Speaker 1: it out in a crisp half sentence, with like a

943
00:40:36,320 --> 00:40:39,600
Speaker 1: topics sentence, like at the start, that's what you're trying

944
00:40:39,600 --> 00:40:42,759
Speaker 1: to get across straight away. Yeah, and then give your

945
00:40:42,760 --> 00:40:45,359
Speaker 1: supporting evidence. So you can spit this out to your

946
00:40:45,360 --> 00:40:48,400
Speaker 1: partner so they can digest it really good. The information

947
00:40:48,480 --> 00:40:51,480
Speaker 1: is in like a good format to digest. And also

948
00:40:51,880 --> 00:40:53,840
Speaker 1: it's important in a relationship to let the person finish.

949
00:40:53,920 --> 00:40:56,320
Speaker 1: But normally when you're having a heated argument, the person

950
00:40:56,360 --> 00:40:57,840
Speaker 1: then goes, no, no, this is.

951
00:40:57,800 --> 00:40:58,239
Speaker 2: How it is.

952
00:40:58,840 --> 00:41:01,200
Speaker 1: So if you spit out your point of view in

953
00:41:01,239 --> 00:41:04,279
Speaker 1: the first line, no matter what, you've got your if

954
00:41:04,320 --> 00:41:06,319
Speaker 1: it was a cross, yeah, you've got it across, no

955
00:41:06,360 --> 00:41:09,040
Speaker 1: matter what, and you can both digest the information healthily. Yes,

956
00:41:09,080 --> 00:41:11,160
Speaker 1: which is really insightful because I often just would be

957
00:41:11,160 --> 00:41:12,560
Speaker 1: better around the bush. Try and like, I don't know,

958
00:41:12,560 --> 00:41:13,640
Speaker 1: but you worry about their feelings.

959
00:41:13,880 --> 00:41:15,200
Speaker 3: You don't want to say it in a way where

960
00:41:15,200 --> 00:41:16,680
Speaker 3: you're hurting their feelings because you don't want to hurt

961
00:41:16,680 --> 00:41:17,160
Speaker 3: their feelings.

962
00:41:17,160 --> 00:41:19,040
Speaker 2: You just want them to know that they've potentially hurt

963
00:41:19,040 --> 00:41:19,560
Speaker 2: your feelings.

964
00:41:19,600 --> 00:41:21,200
Speaker 1: And it's happened to me before, like we've had a conversation.

965
00:41:21,280 --> 00:41:22,919
Speaker 1: I was like, I didn't really say what I thought

966
00:41:22,920 --> 00:41:25,320
Speaker 1: I was going to say, Like I didn't get across

967
00:41:25,320 --> 00:41:27,440
Speaker 1: what I actually felt because we started to have a conversation.

968
00:41:27,560 --> 00:41:29,120
Speaker 2: I should really start with.

969
00:41:30,560 --> 00:41:32,560
Speaker 3: And it's not her fault that you didn't have the conversation.

970
00:41:32,800 --> 00:41:34,680
Speaker 2: That's just what happens. It's like, fuck, I didn't say

971
00:41:34,680 --> 00:41:35,280
Speaker 2: it at the start.

972
00:41:35,440 --> 00:41:38,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's what gets That's just what happens in a relationship.

973
00:41:38,840 --> 00:41:42,480
Speaker 2: I am. I really really need to work on that. Yeah.

974
00:41:42,520 --> 00:41:46,560
Speaker 1: And the third component is authenticity. Humans can sniff out

975
00:41:46,560 --> 00:41:49,960
Speaker 1: the moment when someone isn't being their authentic self. So

976
00:41:50,200 --> 00:41:54,680
Speaker 1: in many ways, the prescription is clear, be you.

977
00:41:54,680 --> 00:41:57,319
Speaker 2: You don't want to have an unauthentic wobble? Do you?

978
00:41:57,960 --> 00:41:58,520
Speaker 2: Be you?

979
00:41:59,000 --> 00:42:01,279
Speaker 1: If you hold back who you are, you're less likely

980
00:42:01,360 --> 00:42:04,200
Speaker 1: to be trusted, which I thought was a great sentence.

981
00:42:04,960 --> 00:42:05,759
Speaker 2: If you're being like if you.

982
00:42:05,840 --> 00:42:07,920
Speaker 1: It's also like, when I thought about that, a lot

983
00:42:07,960 --> 00:42:11,120
Speaker 1: of people think I'm too much, I won't be who

984
00:42:11,200 --> 00:42:13,719
Speaker 1: I actually am, and then there's no trust there because

985
00:42:13,719 --> 00:42:16,640
Speaker 1: they're hiding are they think they're going to be too much.

986
00:42:16,640 --> 00:42:19,239
Speaker 1: So it's really like playing on the fact of be

987
00:42:19,960 --> 00:42:21,160
Speaker 1: exactly who you think.

988
00:42:21,080 --> 00:42:23,040
Speaker 2: You are, know who you want your part, you don't

989
00:42:23,040 --> 00:42:25,480
Speaker 2: want you to be yeah yeah yeah yeah.

990
00:42:25,560 --> 00:42:29,480
Speaker 1: So to build trust, regain trust, and trust one another,

991
00:42:30,080 --> 00:42:32,919
Speaker 1: it all comes back to being your authentic self. Where

992
00:42:32,960 --> 00:42:35,440
Speaker 1: would you want to wear, pay less attention to what

993
00:42:35,480 --> 00:42:38,040
Speaker 1: you think people want to hear, and far more attention

994
00:42:38,360 --> 00:42:41,680
Speaker 1: to what your authentic, awesome self needs to say, and

995
00:42:41,719 --> 00:42:44,520
Speaker 1: in your relationship, build an environment that is safe to

996
00:42:44,520 --> 00:42:45,799
Speaker 1: be the person you're meant to be.

997
00:42:48,360 --> 00:42:53,040
Speaker 2: Fuck yeah, now I like that. It was really insightful.

998
00:42:53,120 --> 00:42:55,080
Speaker 1: Like when I was researching it, that's not the information

999
00:42:55,200 --> 00:42:56,280
Speaker 1: I was trying to find.

1000
00:42:56,440 --> 00:42:58,640
Speaker 3: No, you well, yeah, you probably had like this preconceived

1001
00:42:58,680 --> 00:43:02,080
Speaker 3: idea of what would that be like spat out to you. Yeah,

1002
00:43:02,080 --> 00:43:05,720
Speaker 3: And it's basically the fundamentals of where trust come from

1003
00:43:06,239 --> 00:43:09,200
Speaker 3: and how to work on them in a healthy manner.

1004
00:43:09,239 --> 00:43:12,880
Speaker 3: And it all comes back to just being yourself, believe

1005
00:43:12,880 --> 00:43:14,960
Speaker 3: in what you're saying, and try and say it in

1006
00:43:15,040 --> 00:43:16,279
Speaker 3: a clear, concise way.

1007
00:43:17,040 --> 00:43:17,279
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1008
00:43:17,360 --> 00:43:19,040
Speaker 3: The thing I've taken away with the most from that

1009
00:43:19,239 --> 00:43:22,799
Speaker 3: is definitely the if, like there is a chat to

1010
00:43:22,800 --> 00:43:27,200
Speaker 3: be had, you need to know at least like you can't,

1011
00:43:27,640 --> 00:43:29,520
Speaker 3: like you need to go into it knowing the first

1012
00:43:29,560 --> 00:43:32,560
Speaker 3: sentence instead of instead of trying to spit like jibber

1013
00:43:32,640 --> 00:43:34,160
Speaker 3: jabber until the sentence comes to you.

1014
00:43:34,280 --> 00:43:37,319
Speaker 2: Yeah. So yeah, like you really need to put so maybe, Yeah,

1015
00:43:37,360 --> 00:43:38,799
Speaker 2: you really do need to put thought into it.

1016
00:43:39,640 --> 00:43:43,480
Speaker 1: And for me, my biggest takeaway was like empathy when

1017
00:43:43,520 --> 00:43:45,879
Speaker 1: my girlfriend's talking and stuff, get off your phone, Noddy,

1018
00:43:45,920 --> 00:43:47,359
Speaker 1: Like I don't need to fucking reply to Jake about

1019
00:43:47,360 --> 00:43:49,640
Speaker 1: business right now? No, exactly, yeah, which I do all

1020
00:43:49,680 --> 00:43:52,360
Speaker 1: the time, and I can wait yeah yeah, yeah. Honestly

1021
00:43:52,360 --> 00:43:53,560
Speaker 1: all the time, I'm like, oh, I just got to

1022
00:43:53,600 --> 00:43:55,160
Speaker 1: do this one second. And I should be like I

1023
00:43:55,200 --> 00:43:56,520
Speaker 1: should be like, no, I didn't need to do this.

1024
00:43:56,560 --> 00:43:57,919
Speaker 1: I don't even need to tell Jakes for the fucking

1025
00:43:57,960 --> 00:43:58,520
Speaker 1: wait five minutes.

1026
00:43:58,680 --> 00:44:03,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, after I'm exactly the same. Yeah, I am so bad.

1027
00:44:03,080 --> 00:44:06,799
Speaker 3: Like for some reason, I'll be like, like if we

1028
00:44:06,840 --> 00:44:08,799
Speaker 3: have a WhatsApp chat with our manager ping, or if

1029
00:44:08,800 --> 00:44:11,200
Speaker 3: you message me, sometimes i'd be like, oh, you know,

1030
00:44:11,840 --> 00:44:15,560
Speaker 3: I'll just be like like it's.

1031
00:44:14,680 --> 00:44:16,279
Speaker 2: A zero reason as to why.

1032
00:44:16,400 --> 00:44:18,360
Speaker 3: Yeah, but I'm like, oh, I need to figure that

1033
00:44:18,400 --> 00:44:20,399
Speaker 3: out now, or I need to reply to that now.

1034
00:44:20,560 --> 00:44:23,359
Speaker 2: I know, like and I was, but really, I think

1035
00:44:23,360 --> 00:44:23,759
Speaker 2: about this.

1036
00:44:24,680 --> 00:44:26,399
Speaker 3: If either one of us was to message the other

1037
00:44:27,239 --> 00:44:31,799
Speaker 3: about something important per se, and we messaged and it

1038
00:44:31,880 --> 00:44:35,520
Speaker 3: took maybe five minutes to reply, if I was desperate

1039
00:44:35,560 --> 00:44:36,360
Speaker 3: for an answer.

1040
00:44:36,120 --> 00:44:36,640
Speaker 2: I'd call you.

1041
00:44:36,960 --> 00:44:38,880
Speaker 3: I'd call you until you answered. If I was desperate.

1042
00:44:39,480 --> 00:44:40,880
Speaker 3: Nothing's ever that desperate.

1043
00:44:41,120 --> 00:44:43,120
Speaker 1: No ever, we just build it up in our heads

1044
00:44:43,160 --> 00:44:45,600
Speaker 1: that it is for no reason. So that's a takeaway

1045
00:44:45,640 --> 00:44:47,560
Speaker 1: for me because I definitely build up this false thing

1046
00:44:47,600 --> 00:44:48,680
Speaker 1: in my head that like I've got to do this

1047
00:44:48,760 --> 00:44:51,600
Speaker 1: right now and I'm not going to realize that this

1048
00:44:51,719 --> 00:44:53,600
Speaker 1: is affecting my relationship in a way.

1049
00:44:53,840 --> 00:44:54,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, no, that's good.

1050
00:44:54,719 --> 00:44:57,399
Speaker 3: One thing Beth is good at actually is like if

1051
00:44:57,440 --> 00:44:59,239
Speaker 3: she is doing something where she knows it needs her

1052
00:44:59,239 --> 00:45:01,160
Speaker 3: attention and I'm talking, She'll be like, I'm so sorry,

1053
00:45:01,200 --> 00:45:02,919
Speaker 3: this is like something I have to sort right now.

1054
00:45:03,480 --> 00:45:06,799
Speaker 3: She's like I'm listening, like, yeah, I'm sorry, this is

1055
00:45:06,840 --> 00:45:08,920
Speaker 3: like something that's like red alert, and I'll.

1056
00:45:08,800 --> 00:45:11,200
Speaker 2: Just be like, oh shit, like I'll wait, Yeah, that's

1057
00:45:11,280 --> 00:45:12,799
Speaker 2: good too. I think there's nothing wrong with that.

1058
00:45:12,840 --> 00:45:14,360
Speaker 3: I think it's like just let the person know that

1059
00:45:15,000 --> 00:45:16,680
Speaker 3: like I don't, and by no means so I feel

1060
00:45:16,719 --> 00:45:19,239
Speaker 3: like less important than what she's doing. But at that

1061
00:45:19,320 --> 00:45:21,000
Speaker 3: moment I kind of end because what I'm talking about

1062
00:45:21,120 --> 00:45:24,160
Speaker 3: is just dumb. I'm talking about like, oh, how good

1063
00:45:24,200 --> 00:45:25,560
Speaker 3: was that sex we had last night? And she's got

1064
00:45:25,560 --> 00:45:27,600
Speaker 3: someone at work being like I'm gonna quit, Like I

1065
00:45:27,640 --> 00:45:29,839
Speaker 3: don't know, like she's like that like what I'm talking

1066
00:45:29,880 --> 00:45:30,800
Speaker 3: about is stupid.

1067
00:45:31,040 --> 00:45:33,759
Speaker 1: Yeah, And honestly, I've started to implement a little bit

1068
00:45:33,760 --> 00:45:36,000
Speaker 1: more like I'm sure every person listening in a relationship

1069
00:45:36,040 --> 00:45:37,000
Speaker 1: will been in a relationship.

1070
00:45:37,160 --> 00:45:38,840
Speaker 2: As soon as there's a bit of downtime.

1071
00:45:38,480 --> 00:45:40,520
Speaker 1: They just go on their phone and like instead of

1072
00:45:40,520 --> 00:45:41,799
Speaker 1: like sitting on the bed or sitting on the couch

1073
00:45:41,800 --> 00:45:43,480
Speaker 1: waiting for their partner, I don't know, do something like

1074
00:45:43,520 --> 00:45:45,319
Speaker 1: that like best doing, they go on their phone and

1075
00:45:45,360 --> 00:45:47,880
Speaker 1: detached from like the conversation and the environment they're in.

1076
00:45:48,280 --> 00:45:49,799
Speaker 1: It was like I've been trying to put especially when

1077
00:45:49,800 --> 00:45:51,319
Speaker 1: I'm with my part to put the phone down and

1078
00:45:51,400 --> 00:45:53,680
Speaker 1: just like wait passionately and think about like us, which

1079
00:45:53,680 --> 00:45:54,800
Speaker 1: I think is really healthy, healthy.

1080
00:45:55,520 --> 00:45:56,839
Speaker 2: Yeah, wonder what we could do to try and put

1081
00:45:56,840 --> 00:45:57,520
Speaker 2: our phones down.

1082
00:45:58,200 --> 00:46:00,640
Speaker 1: And so I've been trying to charge in a different room. Yeah,

1083
00:46:00,760 --> 00:46:01,960
Speaker 1: like when a planners.

1084
00:46:02,160 --> 00:46:04,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, but like that's one of my STIPs. Really, these

1085
00:46:05,000 --> 00:46:05,960
Speaker 2: things fucking ruined the world.

1086
00:46:06,000 --> 00:46:08,759
Speaker 3: But they do, like even if thing about like if

1087
00:46:09,040 --> 00:46:10,640
Speaker 3: like this isn't a bad time to go on my phone,

1088
00:46:10,640 --> 00:46:12,400
Speaker 3: but yeah, like if Beth is like doing her makeup,

1089
00:46:12,920 --> 00:46:14,799
Speaker 3: I'll just go on my phone to pass the time. Yeah,

1090
00:46:14,880 --> 00:46:16,799
Speaker 3: but I mean but thinking about like I could just

1091
00:46:16,840 --> 00:46:18,319
Speaker 3: be like I could just lay on her bed and

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Speaker 3: fucking I don't know, have a chat with her about

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Speaker 3: what her week has coming up, just simple shit like

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Speaker 3: because you never run out of stuff to talk about.

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Speaker 1: No, And I think that's that's working on empathy and

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Speaker 1: being there with her.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, she's healthy, so yeah, why like we have that.

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Speaker 3: It's like like a smoker or someone that vapes a

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Speaker 3: lot of the time, it's like they're addicted to the nicotine.

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Speaker 3: But another the other thing they're addicted to is the

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Speaker 3: action m you know, out of your pocket, vape or cigarette.

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Speaker 2: They're addicted to that action. I really want to get

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Speaker 2: less addicted to my phone.

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Speaker 3: So we're addicted to as soon as our brain knows

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Speaker 3: that we have a minute of nothing, give me some

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Speaker 3: fucking thing, give me something to do, give me some dopamine, man,

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Speaker 3: Like I would you know, I'm really really like this morning,

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Speaker 3: I ate breakfast and I was going about to go

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Speaker 3: on the balcony and then I was like, yeah, I'm

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Speaker 3: gonna sit on the table and just scroll my phone.

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Speaker 3: And then I'm and I made the active decision to

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Speaker 3: do it, and I was like, yeah, I shouldn't be

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Speaker 3: doing this, but I did it anyway.

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Speaker 2: You know.

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Speaker 3: It's like it's like it's like I catch myself, but

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Speaker 3: I still am just so addicted that I'm.

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Speaker 1: Like, it's like a drug. It's the same concept. It's

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Speaker 1: the same you gotta taper off, and like it's so

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Speaker 1: much easier than done. But I think every well, update everyone, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna try that. I'm gonna write it down so

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Speaker 1: I remember.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, maybe maybe we should go while Yeah, we should

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Speaker 3: make our phone wall screen.

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Speaker 2: Put your phone down? Why why are you picking this

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Speaker 2: up right now? Put it down? If it's pointless? Holy shit,

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Speaker 2: it's this is why we talk. You're a deep think about.

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Speaker 3: I was like, here's one more thing that you could

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Speaker 3: do if you feel just connected with your partner while

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Speaker 3: you're out.

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Speaker 2: Their house, and it's because you're on your phone.

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Speaker 3: Just FaceTime because then you're on your phone, but I

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Speaker 3: mean like while you're in bed together.

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Speaker 2: Just FaceTime, yeah, instead of texting. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: No, I mean like, as that joke didn't land away

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Speaker 3: well just on the episode.

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Speaker 2: Sorry, you're not the funny one anymore, mane, You're the

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Speaker 2: deep thing. I didn't think you were going to be

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Speaker 2: putting jokes out there.

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Speaker 3: Sorry, guys, Okay, thank you very much for listening. We

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Speaker 3: are up to page eleven in one hundred and nine

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Speaker 3: Things to say to shatter the male ego. All right, quote,

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Speaker 3: say to a man in the next Batman movie.

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Speaker 2: The Joker should be a woman. Okay.

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Speaker 3: When he presses you on this, say well, women are

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Speaker 3: more prosecuted in society, so I think she'd have actual

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Speaker 3: things to be upset about. As he stares at you,

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Speaker 3: stunned in silence, finish him off by saying and maybe

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Speaker 3: Tom Holland can play Batman. Caution, saying this to the

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Speaker 3: wrong man will turn him into the Joker in real life.

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Speaker 2: It's so random and wild. So do we have a

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Speaker 2: is it batwoman? No? You me? And the female woman

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00:49:08,120 --> 00:49:10,520
Speaker 2: isn't a cat woman? A catwoman? And there's a bat woman?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and like the female version of the Joker is

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Speaker 3: Harley Quinn. But I think it's funny to be like

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Speaker 3: the Jokers should be a female.

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Speaker 1: So I really want to jump on this bandwagon of

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Speaker 1: thinking you're a deep thinker. Yeah, but then like the

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Speaker 1: other side of the world is you were on TikTok

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Speaker 1: scrolling and you saw a book that said one hundred

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Speaker 1: and one words pissed men off, and you fucking bought us.

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Speaker 2: We bought it. Sick. How much was the away twenty

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Speaker 2: five came from?

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Speaker 3: Like Finland because that no one had it like a

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Speaker 3: finished bookstore.

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Speaker 2: Such a such a deep thinker. You are right, Oh,

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Speaker 2: we love you.

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Speaker 1: Know what to do Patreon actually episode every week five

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Speaker 1: stars you Oh yeah, we got to say that.

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Speaker 2: We keep forgetting five stars if you.

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Speaker 1: Enjoy the episode five star and the last thing Facebook group.

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Speaker 2: Is going great?

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Speaker 1: Yes, so go join everything links in the description of

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