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Speaker 1: Apoday production. Back to another episode about My Lads Mom podcast.

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Speaker 1: We're on the what's that.

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Speaker 2: Spiral slide called?

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Speaker 1: Is it a helter skelter?

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Speaker 2: Never heard of that in my life? Holy fuck? Is

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Speaker 2: it a helter? Random ship? Where'd you want that?

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Speaker 1: What's a helter skelter about?

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Speaker 2: Basically, what Katie's trying to say is we're on the

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Speaker 2: downward spar towards Christmas, Yeah and school holidays? Yeah? Thanks?

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Speaker 2: You said that better, so much clearer because I've never

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Speaker 2: heard of helter skelter in my fucking life. Me. I

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Speaker 2: was like, what is about?

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Speaker 1: You know those like spiral slides?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like coin in at the top of He goes, no, no,

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Speaker 2: you slide on them? Like, oh no again, I've never

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Speaker 2: been on one of these. Get on and it's like

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Speaker 2: a slide. Yeah, it's a slide. Okay, I'm sure it was.

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Speaker 2: You just made it up. Man, I did need all

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Speaker 2: of eight. He needs a break. Somebody she's had a

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Speaker 2: stress for a weekend and it wasn't even her kids

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Speaker 2: providing the stress of life. It was your husband. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I don't want to go down that path because I

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Speaker 2: feel like I'm going to open it back up.

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Speaker 1: Oh I think I feel like I have to say

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Speaker 1: it now you've said it. The girls turn seventeen a

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Speaker 1: couple of weeks ago, and they've.

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Speaker 2: Got a car, bought their car. They're happy. Yeah, yeah, excellent.

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Speaker 1: He's reversed out of the driveway in his car and

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Speaker 1: crashed straight into their What the fuck?

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Speaker 2: He looked very sheepish though this morning when he's telling

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Speaker 2: me about it. I understand your frustration, and I probably

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Speaker 2: like when I thought about what would I response have been,

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Speaker 2: I think I would have reacted like a mixture of

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Speaker 2: all three of you. Yeah, the three of you girls

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Speaker 2: all had different reactions. Yeah, I understand your frustration and

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Speaker 2: the first burst of reaction to being anger, because I

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Speaker 2: think I do that as well.

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Speaker 1: Accidents happen.

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Speaker 2: You did not say that first up, That's not what

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Speaker 2: I said. But accidents happened.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, but look in your rear view mirror and

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Speaker 1: listen to the cameras that are beeping.

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Speaker 2: We did you cannot tell you were.

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Speaker 1: Getting closer here, but my car always beeps at me

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Speaker 1: when I reverse out the driveway, and.

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Speaker 2: He was only just going to get a coffee.

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Speaker 1: The poor car, the car screaming at you.

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Speaker 2: Listen to me, Oh, bless, I love him, but I

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Speaker 2: do love how he did mention all three of your

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Speaker 2: responses being very different.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I was angry because I was thinking about the

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Speaker 1: excess that we're going.

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Speaker 2: To be made you absolute fuck with Yeah, Holly money.

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Speaker 1: She thought she was going to have to pay for it,

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Speaker 1: and then her next thought was people are.

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Speaker 2: Going to think I've done that.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and Amelia was kind and accidents happened.

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Speaker 2: Don't worry Dad, don't worry dad. It's okay. This can

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Speaker 2: happen to anybody. Yeah. So, I mean, that's a beautiful,

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Speaker 2: well rounded response in terms of a household.

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Speaker 1: You fucking idiot was the words that I said.

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Speaker 2: And he looked at me. He started your like, accidents happened.

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Speaker 2: I was like, that is not what you said. Am

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Speaker 2: I a bad mom for being thrown under the bus?

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Speaker 1: Who's bad? Is that you being a bad MoMA?

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Speaker 2: Is that them being a bad kid? Well, she's a mom.

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Speaker 2: Another mom has thrown another mom under the busy. Okay,

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Speaker 2: we've talked about this previously the other week on a

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Speaker 2: podcast which was Late Night Chats with Gracie at the

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Speaker 2: Kitchen Bench. Yeah. Yeah, the conversations that are coming in

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Speaker 2: nice and hot. They're thick and fast at the moment. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: B they're always like very late at night, and my

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Speaker 2: frustration and level and tiredness is fucking peeking by eight

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Speaker 2: point thirty.

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Speaker 1: This is something that always challenges me as well, because

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Speaker 1: I want to be the person that goes allow them

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Speaker 1: to get it all out, allow them to talk it through.

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Speaker 2: She needs to be seen heard.

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Speaker 1: But then it battles with the other part of me

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Speaker 1: that goes, I fucking asked you at four o'clock how

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Speaker 1: your day was.

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Speaker 2: Can you've told me all of this then? And I

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Speaker 2: have you in the back of my mind. When I

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Speaker 2: feel that other part of my brain starting to flicker,

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Speaker 2: it's like almost like the lights flickering right when by

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Speaker 2: the time I'm at nine point thirty and I'm standing

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Speaker 2: this like peppering of questions because you really can't be

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Speaker 2: But at the same time, I'm making fucking school lunches

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Speaker 2: for the next day. I actually just want to do

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Speaker 2: it in peace and quiet because I hate a doing it.

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Speaker 2: But B, what more do you want from me? From

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Speaker 2: the end of the day, Like, just leave me the

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Speaker 2: fuck alone. Like when you go to bed, I get

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Speaker 2: to disconnect, and the disconnection means I don't care about you.

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Speaker 2: It doesn't mean that. It just means I'm trying to

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Speaker 2: recharge batteries here, you know, Like when you fucking get

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Speaker 2: the blower out and you got the battery like and

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Speaker 2: you put it in the battery back, That's kind of

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Speaker 2: what I'm doing. Leave me alone. This particular occasion came

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Speaker 2: up from a very good friend of ours. But what

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Speaker 2: happened was I was standing at Nepple watching Elsie on

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Speaker 2: a Tuesday. I get a text message from aka friend

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Speaker 2: Slash another mum, and she says, when you were chatting

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Speaker 2: to my daughter, did she seem okay? She seems really

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Speaker 2: off me tonight. She's not talking to me. She give

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Speaker 2: me the cold shoulder. I just replied and was like, no,

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Speaker 2: she was good. We talked all the way home from school.

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Speaker 2: Everything seemed fine. She just said she was tired, but

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Speaker 2: we had great chats, and then she goes, well, just

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Speaker 2: so you're aware, and I'm thinking, oh god, she did

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Speaker 2: find my vibrator this morning and has not spoken to

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Speaker 2: me since. She told me that she was disgusted in

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Speaker 2: me and that she can't believe me. And then the

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Speaker 2: next thing she said was, I bet you Rachel doesn't

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Speaker 2: even have one of these. I was like, I'm standing

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Speaker 2: at netbun, I'm still watching network, but I'm thinking it's

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Speaker 2: about something else, And I was like what and I

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Speaker 2: would tell me that. She replied with, she absolutely does.

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Speaker 2: She's got the model up. I said to her, well,

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Speaker 2: I hope that you left it at that, and I

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Speaker 2: hope you left me standing on the pedestal while you

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Speaker 2: were not because I was like, oh my gosh. I

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Speaker 2: was like, bybe pretty rough.

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Speaker 1: Like how sweet that she's looking you going, Rachel would

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Speaker 1: never do it?

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Speaker 2: Never like that. Rachel's not going to do that. She

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Speaker 2: would not. I was like, why the mark is she

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Speaker 2: going through your drawers in your room? So I'd be

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Speaker 2: talking to her about boundaries, your friend boundaries or no,

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Speaker 2: she's not places. Yeah, she's not like the others where

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Speaker 2: they're just left willing Nelly. She's clean, she's the other friends,

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Speaker 2: other friends I know that aren't as strong on putting

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Speaker 2: things away in places.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I've stayed in accommodation. So a friend who said,

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Speaker 1: oh yeah, I got last night half the last night,

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Speaker 1: I'm going home early, so the accommodation is going to

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Speaker 1: be free. I opened the bedside draw and she had

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Speaker 1: left a little friend in there.

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Speaker 2: She messaged me and goes, how do you recognize your

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Speaker 2: approaches with Katie? I was like, you're on your own girlfriend.

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Speaker 2: I'm not going upstairs to help her out. I'm not

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Speaker 2: bringing home for you. That's all yours. Anyway, that was

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Speaker 2: pretty funny, So yeah, just carrying on with that, I

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Speaker 2: just sort of said to her, look, time will heal.

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Speaker 2: It's fine, Like it's okay, Yeah, she's.

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Speaker 1: Gonna think you're disgusting for a bit.

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Speaker 2: And then my response I was like, I really hope

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Speaker 2: that you didn't say anything further. She went absolutely, if

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Speaker 2: my fucking buses going down, I sent your bus down?

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Speaker 2: What did she say? She said it was yours? Of

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Speaker 2: course it was yours. I was like over there, I

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Speaker 2: was like thinking. I was like, oh you s Then

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Speaker 2: I was like laughing my head off and I was like,

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Speaker 2: oh fuck you. Anyway, didn't think anything of it, Katie.

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Speaker 2: Fast forward to nine point thirty that night. Yeah, and

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Speaker 2: I'm standing at the kitchen bench making lunches in order

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Speaker 2: to burrow Wednesday morning to work in our household, I

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Speaker 2: have to do the lunch boxes. So I just did

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Speaker 2: like the old traditional like veggimie cheese, and that's fine.

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Speaker 2: I think it was like at this stage, nine thirty

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Speaker 2: Now I've got to make lunch boxes. Good night, Yes,

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Speaker 2: love you, good night, good night, good night.

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Speaker 3: I'm standing there and then you can hear footsteps and

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Speaker 3: you're as a mom, You're just like you can feel

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Speaker 3: it boiling, and you're like, oh, I'm like putting the

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Speaker 3: veggimite on the fucking bread. And I looked and I

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Speaker 3: was like what, and she goes, Mom, I just need

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Speaker 3: to ask you something. At this stage, you don't know

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Speaker 3: what's going to be asked at night, forty five at night.

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Speaker 3: Just keep vegiman, just keep fucking going with the vegimite.

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Speaker 2: And I was like, yes, Gracie, what And she was like,

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Speaker 2: I just want to know do you have a vibrator? Okatie,

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Speaker 2: this is this is still me at the bench with

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Speaker 2: my vegimite. And I was like, you don't stop, don't book,

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Speaker 2: don't show any emotion, just keep veggimiting. And I looked

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Speaker 2: down the track of this is one of those subjects

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Speaker 2: that do you really want to know? Because once you know,

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Speaker 2: you can't Unknow, I said, and I can go through

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Speaker 2: everything with you if you like. I can tell you

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Speaker 2: everything like why you have them, why you use them,

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Speaker 2: what you get from them. This is that moment. I'm

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Speaker 2: going to put it back on you and go once

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Speaker 2: you know, you kinda know, so would you like to know?

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Speaker 2: She looked at me and she was like, I don't

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Speaker 2: think I want to know them.

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Speaker 1: That was a very obvious yes.

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Speaker 2: No, it wasn't yes.

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Speaker 1: It was because the question was do you have a

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Speaker 1: vibe or I have one?

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Speaker 2: I didn't answer it. I didn't say yes, but I

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Speaker 2: it to once you know, you cannot know? So do

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Speaker 2: you want to know everything? Because I can't give you

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Speaker 2: a yes or no because the next question will come

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Speaker 2: in and it will be what do you use it for?

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Speaker 2: Why do you And it's kind of like once you're in,

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Speaker 2: it's like what is it called a pin? When you

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Speaker 2: go tampin bowling. You can't stop the ball. The momentum

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Speaker 2: of the ball is going to take out every whatever

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Speaker 2: those things are called. At the end of tampin bowling,

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Speaker 2: the pins, it'll be gone, it'll be done. Come back

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Speaker 2: to me when you're ready. I'm going to keep making lunchboxes.

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Speaker 2: I was like, now, go to bed.

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Speaker 1: By this day.

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Speaker 2: The sandwich has got so much. I put forty five

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Speaker 2: pieces of cheese and I was just like, oh my god.

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Speaker 2: And then at the same time, in my head, I

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Speaker 2: was like, fuck you. Thinking of my friend, I said,

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Speaker 2: fuck you. Oh my god, this is so unfair. I've

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Speaker 2: been thrown under the bus. I don't have to be

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Speaker 2: dealing with this. And it's all because of your top drawer.

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Speaker 2: You haven't hidden shit properly. And it's not my fault. Katie.

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Speaker 2: When has your girls never asked you what they've gone

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Speaker 2: through your top drawer, asked you about your vibrators. I've

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Speaker 2: never been asked.

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Speaker 1: See you know why because mine's in Jay's top drawer.

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Speaker 1: So girls ever go through his top drawer, they're gonna

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Speaker 1: think he's the disgusting one.

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Speaker 2: Don't worry about Dad. He loves a good vibrator.