Speaker 1: Apogae Production. Welcome back to another episode about My Bad
Speaker 1: Mom podcast. We love the memes that come to our
Speaker 1: Instagram account, by the way, and do you know who
Speaker 1: sends me a lot of parenting memes?
Speaker 2: Who?
Speaker 1: Amelia? My fifteen year old, sends them to.
Speaker 2: Me all the time, just letting you know how good
Speaker 2: your parenting is.
Speaker 1: Not normally but this one, I'm going to read you
Speaker 1: a couple because they're quite funny. So this one's a
Speaker 1: picture of a cat and it says me walking past
Speaker 1: the cat vomit, I'm going to have to act surprise
Speaker 1: to hear about later. True. Nobody's more full of false
Speaker 1: hope than a mum who places items on the stairs
Speaker 1: for people to carry up. I do that all the
Speaker 1: time the time. Is that an English thing? Because I
Speaker 1: remember someone saying to me, you've got all like shoes,
Speaker 1: someone's put all shoes on the bottom of your stairs.
Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, that was me, for everyone to
Speaker 1: take their shoes upstairs.
Speaker 2: It's a hint. It's a subtle hint of take your
Speaker 2: shit upstairs.
Speaker 1: Take your shit upstairs. People see me spending money and
Speaker 1: think I'm rich, bro, I'm just irresponsible. That's her, that's.
Speaker 2: How she's feeling after working.
Speaker 1: And then this one. Once I started spending my own money,
Speaker 1: I realized that my mum was right. We do have
Speaker 1: food at home.
Speaker 2: So true.
Speaker 1: When they always say to me and we're literally from
Speaker 1: school to home and they go, can we stop in
Speaker 1: the petrol station and get something to do, I'm like,
Speaker 1: we're going to be home in ten minutes. Yeah, no,
Speaker 1: you can make something iron And then they open the
Speaker 1: fridge and they stare at it like we've got nothing nothing.
Speaker 1: I'm like, it's not going to jump out at you
Speaker 1: talk of which just real quickly. Only the other day,
Speaker 1: first day back at school, can find the shoes. I
Speaker 1: tried to not do the whole Well, if you sorted
Speaker 1: your school stuff out yesterday, like I tell you to
Speaker 1: do before school goes back, then you wouldn't be in
Speaker 1: a panic now about not having your shoes. She went
Speaker 1: to school without her school shoes. She had socks and
Speaker 1: like not thongs.
Speaker 2: But like slides and slides to school to.
Speaker 1: School because she can't find the shoes. Right she left
Speaker 1: for school, I'm doing a quick tidy up around the
Speaker 1: house before I'm leaving for work. Literally open up her
Speaker 1: wardrobe and there's her school shoes on the bottom of
Speaker 1: the wardrobe, where they always are. I called her. I
Speaker 1: was like, what, look what I found? Your school shoes?
Speaker 1: Where were they were? They always are? Oh? Why didn't
Speaker 1: you look where they always are? Why would you not
Speaker 1: look in your wardrobe on the floor for your school shoes,
Speaker 1: that's where you keep them.
Speaker 2: Yeah, oh, because I just.
Speaker 1: Assumed i'd lost them, so I didn't think they'd be there.
Speaker 2: I'm also more concerned that she's still at school with
Speaker 2: socks and slide. What did she do for the rest
Speaker 2: of the day. Let me guess you had to drop
Speaker 2: the shoes to her at school. No I didn't.
Speaker 1: I didn't even offer what would she do for the day?
Speaker 1: She wore them all day? Socks a side? Am I
Speaker 1: a bad mum for not being discreet?
Speaker 2: Okay, all right, I can see your face. You're still
Speaker 2: of now gauging. You're going, oh do I do? I not?
Speaker 1: I actually feel really bad about this.
Speaker 2: So when you start off like that, I already know
Speaker 2: you're like, oh, half in, half out half.
Speaker 1: It's one of those moments I was like, oh shit,
Speaker 1: like that was a bad parent. So my girls at
Speaker 1: the moment are at that age where they are massively
Speaker 1: into going to life concerts, which is a really annoying
Speaker 1: for me because I spent years working in radio and
Speaker 1: getting free tickets and they never gave a shit about
Speaker 1: going and we used to leave early. And now they're
Speaker 1: all into it and it's the best thing, and they're
Speaker 1: super excited, and they're on like the ticket master website
Speaker 1: and they're waiting in the line and they're oh my god,
Speaker 1: I'm through. They're getting Yeah, is it.
Speaker 2: More about that part of it? Do you reckon sometimes
Speaker 2: for them? Like the winning part, like you've got the tickets,
Speaker 2: you know, like you've got to sit there and wait
Speaker 2: and that wait suspense.
Speaker 1: Yeah good, and then you feel like a real winner
Speaker 1: when you get through. Yeah, we've spoken about those ticket websites.
Speaker 1: I feel like we've spoken about them recently. Whereas I
Speaker 1: feel like they don't treat me like a customer.
Speaker 2: No they don't.
Speaker 1: It's like you wait in line, now you've got three
Speaker 1: minutes too late. Sorry, not taking your money to I'm.
Speaker 2: Going to take the next one hundred thousand people. Really annoying.
Speaker 1: So anyway, they're super excited, they have saved up money,
Speaker 1: they're going to see Billie Eilish, that was obsessed, obsessed,
Speaker 1: so obsessed that her brother Phineas. I mean, you've got
Speaker 1: to be a diehard Billie Eilish fan.
Speaker 2: I was lost with whose brother it was.
Speaker 1: Yeah, her brother is also touring, so they were kind
Speaker 1: of excited about the fact that he's coming to Australia.
Speaker 1: I even know, I haven't even never heard of a
Speaker 1: song that he's me neither in my whole life.
Speaker 2: But I didn't even know she had a brother. That's
Speaker 2: how far of a Billie Eilish fan I am. I
Speaker 2: do love her music, don't get me wrong, but I'm
Speaker 2: not a like super fan. So then they're going to
Speaker 2: see Billie Eilish. But they were also very excited when
Speaker 2: her album dropped, to the point that they stayed up
Speaker 2: until like midnight midnight bore it to drop, and then
Speaker 2: they stayed up even longer to like three am listening
Speaker 2: to the new album. Then it's a big thing for them.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and Rach this all happened because I was away,
Speaker 1: so they had someone staying with them and I was like, yeah, whatever, whatever,
Speaker 1: time me like, I'm not going to be there, and
Speaker 1: I'm also not going to be there tomorrow. When you're
Speaker 1: horrible because you're so tired, So that was allowed to happen.
Speaker 1: So anyway, they are waiting online ticketmaster whoever it was,
Speaker 1: for these tickets, and they managed to get them and
Speaker 1: one hundred dollars each, which still one hundred dollars, but
Speaker 1: she who Taylor Swift and people like that, like they're
Speaker 1: ridiculous amounts of So Amelia paid for her ticket because
Speaker 1: she had the money and Holly didn't. But Holly's got
Speaker 1: a new job, just hasn't been given any shifts yet.
Speaker 1: So I said, you know what, I'll buy your ticket
Speaker 1: and you can pay us back so that you've got them.
Speaker 1: So that was all great, and they were super excited
Speaker 1: and then we were at home and has actually been
Speaker 1: surprisingly oh it was so surprisingly lovely. I don't mean
Speaker 1: surprisingly lovely, like she's always lovely, but she has definite
Speaker 1: moments of being a teenager, being rude, making me feel
Speaker 1: like a piece of shit. We've spoken in another episode
Speaker 1: about how, you know, I feel like I need to
Speaker 1: go and do some sort of trauma counseling for my
Speaker 1: self esteem living with teenagers, because they do make me
Speaker 1: feel like I'm a piece of shit on the bottom
Speaker 1: of the shoes sometimes but this last week has been
Speaker 1: absolutely lovely. No arguments, no rudeness, no not doing what
Speaker 1: I've asked, getting up in the morning, getting ready for school.
Speaker 1: She's ready to go by the time I come downstairs.
Speaker 1: She's made a lunch box, she's fed the animals, she's
Speaker 1: opened the curtains, she's done the whole lot. And then
Speaker 1: she sits there and she's on her phone, which I
Speaker 1: don't mind, because I'm like, how nice does that feel.
Speaker 1: You've got everything done and now you've got spare time
Speaker 1: instead of rushing around and everyone shouting at each other.
Speaker 2: You've only been trying to teach them for like fifteen years.
Speaker 1: Finally I've had a week of it. And so I
Speaker 1: said to her, I thought we were being really discreet.
Speaker 1: We're on the stairs, and I said to Holly quite quietly,
Speaker 1: but I was like, I've been really impressed with your
Speaker 1: behavior and just generally how lovely you've been this last week,
Speaker 1: and how easy you've made parenting you this week because
Speaker 1: you're not arguing, and you're not you know, we're not
Speaker 1: having to tell you something ten times.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Yes, I had a really nice moment with her, and
Speaker 1: I said, you know what, don't worry about paying us
Speaker 1: back for the ticket. We're going to pay that for you.
Speaker 1: But don't tell Amelia.
Speaker 2: Because she is just asked her already.
Speaker 1: But I could see in her face like she was
Speaker 1: we were having a lovely moment, and she was really pleased.
Speaker 1: And they do everything together, and they never get their
Speaker 1: own time, and I forget to praise one because I
Speaker 1: group them together too often. And we just had this
Speaker 1: really nice moment, and I could see that she was
Speaker 1: really enjoying the fact that this was just about her
Speaker 1: and it was not about Amelia. Great, She's super happy.
Speaker 1: Jay's cooked dinner, Dinner's ready, We've gone down, we're eating dinner.
Speaker 1: Meally comes down, we're all eating dinner. At the end
Speaker 1: of dinner, everyone's putting their plates where and we're all
Speaker 1: tidying up, and Amelia says, Mum, can I have a
Speaker 1: chat with you? I went, yeah, yeah, of course, and
Speaker 1: she went in private, and I was like, yeah, sure,
Speaker 1: no worries. So we went off. And it was just
Speaker 1: the way that was the hardest about this was the
Speaker 1: way her little face looked so sad and innocent, but
Speaker 1: she was so grown up in the fact that she'd
Speaker 1: asked me to come away like previously, it would have
Speaker 1: been a big fucking drama, shouting, crying in front of everyone.
Speaker 1: And she just literally took me on my own to
Speaker 1: the side, didn't make a deal of it. And when
Speaker 1: I heard what you said to Holly, don't tell Amelia,
Speaker 1: but we're going to pay for your ticket, and I
Speaker 1: just went, oh, oh my god, no, feel terrible.
Speaker 2: What did you say? How did you rectify it? Let
Speaker 2: me guess we'll pay for you.
Speaker 1: I said, oh, I said, I'm really sorry that you
Speaker 1: heard that, but now we've ruined the surprise. Shut up,
Speaker 1: I said, I was going to give you another couple
Speaker 1: of days to see if you were getting your shit together,
Speaker 1: getting your lunchbox made, getting out of the house on time,
Speaker 1: coming down as early as Holly. I was going to
Speaker 1: give you another couple of days to do that, and
Speaker 1: then we were going to surprise you with the tickets too.
Speaker 2: Over it was so horrible.
Speaker 1: I felt like the worst mom. And the worst part
Speaker 1: of it was in that moment, I was trying to
Speaker 1: be a good mom. I was trying to really lovely,
Speaker 1: and I really fucked it up for the other one.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, look, it probably wasn't like ideal I mean
Speaker 2: that part when you go, look, don't tell the other
Speaker 2: that probably was just the only part where.
Speaker 1: You're like one step too far.
Speaker 2: Well, I think the whole idea of it would be
Speaker 2: that you can praise them without having to give them something.
Speaker 2: You can praise them for doing what they're meant to
Speaker 2: be doing because they're meant to be doing it. You
Speaker 2: don't have to give them something because they're being good.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I've spent fifteen years as a parent absolutely
Speaker 1: bribing my children to do.
Speaker 2: The right thing. You don't even need to bribe them though.
Speaker 2: Now you are not bribing them. They are simply now
Speaker 2: stepping into their own power and doing their own thing.
Speaker 2: Because you've formatted that, you've created that for fifteen years.
Speaker 2: How good is that? Like I'm listening going, holy shit,
Speaker 2: I can't believe they've turned the page. That's all because
Speaker 2: you've done it, You've put in the hard yard.
Speaker 1: I feel like for you, you're spending all these years
Speaker 1: that we've been doing the podcast and being friends and
Speaker 1: will continue to go I'm going to watch what she
Speaker 1: does and then not fucking do that.