1 00:00:05,921 --> 00:00:25,800 Speaker 1: Apogae Production. Welcome back to another episode about My Bad 2 00:00:26,041 --> 00:00:30,201 Speaker 1: Mom podcast. We love the memes that come to our 3 00:00:30,241 --> 00:00:32,481 Speaker 1: Instagram account, by the way, and do you know who 4 00:00:32,521 --> 00:00:34,321 Speaker 1: sends me a lot of parenting memes? 5 00:00:34,441 --> 00:00:34,681 Speaker 2: Who? 6 00:00:34,921 --> 00:00:38,640 Speaker 1: Amelia? My fifteen year old, sends them to. 7 00:00:38,601 --> 00:00:41,281 Speaker 2: Me all the time, just letting you know how good 8 00:00:41,321 --> 00:00:42,441 Speaker 2: your parenting is. 9 00:00:43,881 --> 00:00:46,080 Speaker 1: Not normally but this one, I'm going to read you 10 00:00:46,120 --> 00:00:48,560 Speaker 1: a couple because they're quite funny. So this one's a 11 00:00:48,601 --> 00:00:51,601 Speaker 1: picture of a cat and it says me walking past 12 00:00:51,641 --> 00:00:54,121 Speaker 1: the cat vomit, I'm going to have to act surprise 13 00:00:54,281 --> 00:01:01,681 Speaker 1: to hear about later. True. Nobody's more full of false 14 00:01:01,761 --> 00:01:04,721 Speaker 1: hope than a mum who places items on the stairs 15 00:01:04,761 --> 00:01:06,641 Speaker 1: for people to carry up. I do that all the 16 00:01:06,681 --> 00:01:09,640 Speaker 1: time the time. Is that an English thing? Because I 17 00:01:09,721 --> 00:01:12,920 Speaker 1: remember someone saying to me, you've got all like shoes, 18 00:01:13,280 --> 00:01:16,241 Speaker 1: someone's put all shoes on the bottom of your stairs. 19 00:01:16,321 --> 00:01:18,801 Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, that was me, for everyone to 20 00:01:18,881 --> 00:01:20,080 Speaker 1: take their shoes upstairs. 21 00:01:20,161 --> 00:01:23,160 Speaker 2: It's a hint. It's a subtle hint of take your 22 00:01:23,200 --> 00:01:25,080 Speaker 2: shit upstairs. 23 00:01:24,521 --> 00:01:28,640 Speaker 1: Take your shit upstairs. People see me spending money and 24 00:01:28,681 --> 00:01:36,041 Speaker 1: think I'm rich, bro, I'm just irresponsible. That's her, that's. 25 00:01:34,920 --> 00:01:36,881 Speaker 2: How she's feeling after working. 26 00:01:36,721 --> 00:01:39,840 Speaker 1: And then this one. Once I started spending my own money, 27 00:01:39,881 --> 00:01:42,321 Speaker 1: I realized that my mum was right. We do have 28 00:01:42,401 --> 00:01:43,121 Speaker 1: food at home. 29 00:01:45,000 --> 00:01:46,041 Speaker 2: So true. 30 00:01:46,321 --> 00:01:49,160 Speaker 1: When they always say to me and we're literally from 31 00:01:49,241 --> 00:01:52,481 Speaker 1: school to home and they go, can we stop in 32 00:01:52,561 --> 00:01:54,241 Speaker 1: the petrol station and get something to do, I'm like, 33 00:01:54,281 --> 00:01:56,121 Speaker 1: we're going to be home in ten minutes. Yeah, no, 34 00:01:56,601 --> 00:01:58,321 Speaker 1: you can make something iron And then they open the 35 00:01:58,321 --> 00:02:02,121 Speaker 1: fridge and they stare at it like we've got nothing nothing. 36 00:02:02,241 --> 00:02:04,601 Speaker 1: I'm like, it's not going to jump out at you 37 00:02:04,681 --> 00:02:07,841 Speaker 1: talk of which just real quickly. Only the other day, 38 00:02:08,161 --> 00:02:12,601 Speaker 1: first day back at school, can find the shoes. I 39 00:02:12,641 --> 00:02:17,521 Speaker 1: tried to not do the whole Well, if you sorted 40 00:02:17,520 --> 00:02:20,601 Speaker 1: your school stuff out yesterday, like I tell you to 41 00:02:20,641 --> 00:02:22,841 Speaker 1: do before school goes back, then you wouldn't be in 42 00:02:22,881 --> 00:02:26,081 Speaker 1: a panic now about not having your shoes. She went 43 00:02:26,361 --> 00:02:30,400 Speaker 1: to school without her school shoes. She had socks and 44 00:02:31,001 --> 00:02:32,641 Speaker 1: like not thongs. 45 00:02:32,281 --> 00:02:37,840 Speaker 2: But like slides and slides to school to. 46 00:02:37,841 --> 00:02:41,681 Speaker 1: School because she can't find the shoes. Right she left 47 00:02:41,680 --> 00:02:44,201 Speaker 1: for school, I'm doing a quick tidy up around the 48 00:02:44,201 --> 00:02:48,921 Speaker 1: house before I'm leaving for work. Literally open up her 49 00:02:49,041 --> 00:02:52,761 Speaker 1: wardrobe and there's her school shoes on the bottom of 50 00:02:52,800 --> 00:02:56,241 Speaker 1: the wardrobe, where they always are. I called her. I 51 00:02:56,321 --> 00:03:00,041 Speaker 1: was like, what, look what I found? Your school shoes? 52 00:03:00,481 --> 00:03:04,801 Speaker 1: Where were they were? They always are? Oh? Why didn't 53 00:03:04,841 --> 00:03:07,041 Speaker 1: you look where they always are? Why would you not 54 00:03:07,240 --> 00:03:10,881 Speaker 1: look in your wardrobe on the floor for your school shoes, 55 00:03:10,960 --> 00:03:11,960 Speaker 1: that's where you keep them. 56 00:03:12,121 --> 00:03:13,881 Speaker 2: Yeah, oh, because I just. 57 00:03:13,841 --> 00:03:16,000 Speaker 1: Assumed i'd lost them, so I didn't think they'd be there. 58 00:03:17,721 --> 00:03:21,121 Speaker 2: I'm also more concerned that she's still at school with 59 00:03:21,161 --> 00:03:25,120 Speaker 2: socks and slide. What did she do for the rest 60 00:03:25,161 --> 00:03:27,001 Speaker 2: of the day. Let me guess you had to drop 61 00:03:27,240 --> 00:03:29,321 Speaker 2: the shoes to her at school. No I didn't. 62 00:03:29,601 --> 00:03:31,840 Speaker 1: I didn't even offer what would she do for the day? 63 00:03:32,001 --> 00:03:44,681 Speaker 1: She wore them all day? Socks a side? Am I 64 00:03:44,721 --> 00:03:47,641 Speaker 1: a bad mum for not being discreet? 65 00:03:48,001 --> 00:03:51,161 Speaker 2: Okay, all right, I can see your face. You're still 66 00:03:51,241 --> 00:03:54,761 Speaker 2: of now gauging. You're going, oh do I do? I not? 67 00:03:55,001 --> 00:03:57,161 Speaker 1: I actually feel really bad about this. 68 00:03:58,961 --> 00:04:02,521 Speaker 2: So when you start off like that, I already know 69 00:04:02,641 --> 00:04:05,041 Speaker 2: you're like, oh, half in, half out half. 70 00:04:05,081 --> 00:04:07,561 Speaker 1: It's one of those moments I was like, oh shit, 71 00:04:08,161 --> 00:04:12,201 Speaker 1: like that was a bad parent. So my girls at 72 00:04:12,241 --> 00:04:15,041 Speaker 1: the moment are at that age where they are massively 73 00:04:15,201 --> 00:04:20,401 Speaker 1: into going to life concerts, which is a really annoying 74 00:04:20,681 --> 00:04:23,520 Speaker 1: for me because I spent years working in radio and 75 00:04:23,561 --> 00:04:26,200 Speaker 1: getting free tickets and they never gave a shit about 76 00:04:26,201 --> 00:04:30,241 Speaker 1: going and we used to leave early. And now they're 77 00:04:30,281 --> 00:04:32,441 Speaker 1: all into it and it's the best thing, and they're 78 00:04:32,481 --> 00:04:35,320 Speaker 1: super excited, and they're on like the ticket master website 79 00:04:35,320 --> 00:04:37,520 Speaker 1: and they're waiting in the line and they're oh my god, 80 00:04:37,561 --> 00:04:39,641 Speaker 1: I'm through. They're getting Yeah, is it. 81 00:04:39,601 --> 00:04:41,880 Speaker 2: More about that part of it? Do you reckon sometimes 82 00:04:41,880 --> 00:04:45,001 Speaker 2: for them? Like the winning part, like you've got the tickets, 83 00:04:45,081 --> 00:04:46,760 Speaker 2: you know, like you've got to sit there and wait 84 00:04:46,841 --> 00:04:48,321 Speaker 2: and that wait suspense. 85 00:04:48,601 --> 00:04:50,881 Speaker 1: Yeah good, and then you feel like a real winner 86 00:04:50,880 --> 00:04:54,481 Speaker 1: when you get through. Yeah, we've spoken about those ticket websites. 87 00:04:54,521 --> 00:04:56,881 Speaker 1: I feel like we've spoken about them recently. Whereas I 88 00:04:57,561 --> 00:04:59,400 Speaker 1: feel like they don't treat me like a customer. 89 00:04:59,641 --> 00:05:00,321 Speaker 2: No they don't. 90 00:05:00,440 --> 00:05:03,320 Speaker 1: It's like you wait in line, now you've got three 91 00:05:03,401 --> 00:05:09,921 Speaker 1: minutes too late. Sorry, not taking your money to I'm. 92 00:05:09,841 --> 00:05:12,921 Speaker 2: Going to take the next one hundred thousand people. Really annoying. 93 00:05:13,921 --> 00:05:17,041 Speaker 1: So anyway, they're super excited, they have saved up money, 94 00:05:17,161 --> 00:05:22,121 Speaker 1: they're going to see Billie Eilish, that was obsessed, obsessed, 95 00:05:22,961 --> 00:05:27,121 Speaker 1: so obsessed that her brother Phineas. I mean, you've got 96 00:05:27,241 --> 00:05:28,880 Speaker 1: to be a diehard Billie Eilish fan. 97 00:05:29,561 --> 00:05:31,320 Speaker 2: I was lost with whose brother it was. 98 00:05:31,401 --> 00:05:35,761 Speaker 1: Yeah, her brother is also touring, so they were kind 99 00:05:35,761 --> 00:05:38,441 Speaker 1: of excited about the fact that he's coming to Australia. 100 00:05:39,121 --> 00:05:41,200 Speaker 1: I even know, I haven't even never heard of a 101 00:05:41,241 --> 00:05:43,481 Speaker 1: song that he's me neither in my whole life. 102 00:05:43,521 --> 00:05:46,880 Speaker 2: But I didn't even know she had a brother. That's 103 00:05:46,880 --> 00:05:49,200 Speaker 2: how far of a Billie Eilish fan I am. I 104 00:05:49,241 --> 00:05:51,080 Speaker 2: do love her music, don't get me wrong, but I'm 105 00:05:51,081 --> 00:05:53,361 Speaker 2: not a like super fan. So then they're going to 106 00:05:53,401 --> 00:05:56,801 Speaker 2: see Billie Eilish. But they were also very excited when 107 00:05:56,841 --> 00:05:59,241 Speaker 2: her album dropped, to the point that they stayed up 108 00:05:59,361 --> 00:06:02,521 Speaker 2: until like midnight midnight bore it to drop, and then 109 00:06:02,561 --> 00:06:05,320 Speaker 2: they stayed up even longer to like three am listening 110 00:06:05,440 --> 00:06:08,961 Speaker 2: to the new album. Then it's a big thing for them. 111 00:06:09,121 --> 00:06:11,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, and Rach this all happened because I was away, 112 00:06:12,361 --> 00:06:17,801 Speaker 1: so they had someone staying with them and I was like, yeah, whatever, whatever, 113 00:06:17,921 --> 00:06:19,440 Speaker 1: time me like, I'm not going to be there, and 114 00:06:19,440 --> 00:06:21,361 Speaker 1: I'm also not going to be there tomorrow. When you're 115 00:06:21,401 --> 00:06:25,801 Speaker 1: horrible because you're so tired, So that was allowed to happen. 116 00:06:26,241 --> 00:06:30,481 Speaker 1: So anyway, they are waiting online ticketmaster whoever it was, 117 00:06:30,681 --> 00:06:33,641 Speaker 1: for these tickets, and they managed to get them and 118 00:06:33,761 --> 00:06:37,361 Speaker 1: one hundred dollars each, which still one hundred dollars, but 119 00:06:37,961 --> 00:06:41,921 Speaker 1: she who Taylor Swift and people like that, like they're 120 00:06:42,001 --> 00:06:46,881 Speaker 1: ridiculous amounts of So Amelia paid for her ticket because 121 00:06:46,921 --> 00:06:50,681 Speaker 1: she had the money and Holly didn't. But Holly's got 122 00:06:50,681 --> 00:06:53,321 Speaker 1: a new job, just hasn't been given any shifts yet. 123 00:06:53,361 --> 00:06:55,161 Speaker 1: So I said, you know what, I'll buy your ticket 124 00:06:55,721 --> 00:06:59,201 Speaker 1: and you can pay us back so that you've got them. 125 00:06:59,561 --> 00:07:02,161 Speaker 1: So that was all great, and they were super excited 126 00:07:02,281 --> 00:07:06,321 Speaker 1: and then we were at home and has actually been 127 00:07:06,641 --> 00:07:10,481 Speaker 1: surprisingly oh it was so surprisingly lovely. I don't mean 128 00:07:10,521 --> 00:07:14,601 Speaker 1: surprisingly lovely, like she's always lovely, but she has definite 129 00:07:14,641 --> 00:07:17,441 Speaker 1: moments of being a teenager, being rude, making me feel 130 00:07:17,441 --> 00:07:19,681 Speaker 1: like a piece of shit. We've spoken in another episode 131 00:07:19,681 --> 00:07:21,681 Speaker 1: about how, you know, I feel like I need to 132 00:07:21,681 --> 00:07:24,521 Speaker 1: go and do some sort of trauma counseling for my 133 00:07:24,681 --> 00:07:27,241 Speaker 1: self esteem living with teenagers, because they do make me 134 00:07:27,281 --> 00:07:28,921 Speaker 1: feel like I'm a piece of shit on the bottom 135 00:07:28,961 --> 00:07:33,601 Speaker 1: of the shoes sometimes but this last week has been 136 00:07:33,801 --> 00:07:39,481 Speaker 1: absolutely lovely. No arguments, no rudeness, no not doing what 137 00:07:39,561 --> 00:07:43,761 Speaker 1: I've asked, getting up in the morning, getting ready for school. 138 00:07:43,921 --> 00:07:46,321 Speaker 1: She's ready to go by the time I come downstairs. 139 00:07:46,361 --> 00:07:48,521 Speaker 1: She's made a lunch box, she's fed the animals, she's 140 00:07:48,561 --> 00:07:51,041 Speaker 1: opened the curtains, she's done the whole lot. And then 141 00:07:51,081 --> 00:07:52,721 Speaker 1: she sits there and she's on her phone, which I 142 00:07:52,721 --> 00:07:55,281 Speaker 1: don't mind, because I'm like, how nice does that feel. 143 00:07:55,641 --> 00:07:57,801 Speaker 1: You've got everything done and now you've got spare time 144 00:07:58,041 --> 00:08:00,281 Speaker 1: instead of rushing around and everyone shouting at each other. 145 00:08:00,481 --> 00:08:03,721 Speaker 2: You've only been trying to teach them for like fifteen years. 146 00:08:05,881 --> 00:08:09,601 Speaker 1: Finally I've had a week of it. And so I 147 00:08:09,681 --> 00:08:12,601 Speaker 1: said to her, I thought we were being really discreet. 148 00:08:12,601 --> 00:08:16,761 Speaker 1: We're on the stairs, and I said to Holly quite quietly, 149 00:08:16,921 --> 00:08:19,601 Speaker 1: but I was like, I've been really impressed with your 150 00:08:19,601 --> 00:08:23,041 Speaker 1: behavior and just generally how lovely you've been this last week, 151 00:08:23,361 --> 00:08:27,081 Speaker 1: and how easy you've made parenting you this week because 152 00:08:27,121 --> 00:08:29,361 Speaker 1: you're not arguing, and you're not you know, we're not 153 00:08:29,361 --> 00:08:31,201 Speaker 1: having to tell you something ten times. 154 00:08:31,361 --> 00:08:31,561 Speaker 2: Yeah. 155 00:08:31,601 --> 00:08:33,121 Speaker 1: Yes, I had a really nice moment with her, and 156 00:08:33,161 --> 00:08:35,641 Speaker 1: I said, you know what, don't worry about paying us 157 00:08:35,721 --> 00:08:39,041 Speaker 1: back for the ticket. We're going to pay that for you. 158 00:08:39,641 --> 00:08:41,241 Speaker 1: But don't tell Amelia. 159 00:08:41,601 --> 00:08:46,001 Speaker 2: Because she is just asked her already. 160 00:08:46,801 --> 00:08:48,641 Speaker 1: But I could see in her face like she was 161 00:08:48,841 --> 00:08:52,641 Speaker 1: we were having a lovely moment, and she was really pleased. 162 00:08:52,681 --> 00:08:55,121 Speaker 1: And they do everything together, and they never get their 163 00:08:55,161 --> 00:08:58,241 Speaker 1: own time, and I forget to praise one because I 164 00:08:58,361 --> 00:09:01,801 Speaker 1: group them together too often. And we just had this 165 00:09:01,881 --> 00:09:03,641 Speaker 1: really nice moment, and I could see that she was 166 00:09:03,681 --> 00:09:06,321 Speaker 1: really enjoying the fact that this was just about her 167 00:09:06,481 --> 00:09:10,441 Speaker 1: and it was not about Amelia. Great, She's super happy. 168 00:09:10,921 --> 00:09:14,281 Speaker 1: Jay's cooked dinner, Dinner's ready, We've gone down, we're eating dinner. 169 00:09:14,401 --> 00:09:16,961 Speaker 1: Meally comes down, we're all eating dinner. At the end 170 00:09:17,001 --> 00:09:18,921 Speaker 1: of dinner, everyone's putting their plates where and we're all 171 00:09:18,921 --> 00:09:21,001 Speaker 1: tidying up, and Amelia says, Mum, can I have a 172 00:09:21,081 --> 00:09:23,801 Speaker 1: chat with you? I went, yeah, yeah, of course, and 173 00:09:23,881 --> 00:09:26,201 Speaker 1: she went in private, and I was like, yeah, sure, 174 00:09:26,281 --> 00:09:29,641 Speaker 1: no worries. So we went off. And it was just 175 00:09:29,721 --> 00:09:33,561 Speaker 1: the way that was the hardest about this was the 176 00:09:33,601 --> 00:09:38,561 Speaker 1: way her little face looked so sad and innocent, but 177 00:09:38,681 --> 00:09:41,241 Speaker 1: she was so grown up in the fact that she'd 178 00:09:41,281 --> 00:09:44,041 Speaker 1: asked me to come away like previously, it would have 179 00:09:44,041 --> 00:09:48,921 Speaker 1: been a big fucking drama, shouting, crying in front of everyone. 180 00:09:49,161 --> 00:09:51,441 Speaker 1: And she just literally took me on my own to 181 00:09:51,481 --> 00:09:53,681 Speaker 1: the side, didn't make a deal of it. And when 182 00:09:53,721 --> 00:09:56,201 Speaker 1: I heard what you said to Holly, don't tell Amelia, 183 00:09:56,241 --> 00:09:58,081 Speaker 1: but we're going to pay for your ticket, and I 184 00:09:58,201 --> 00:10:03,441 Speaker 1: just went, oh, oh my god, no, feel terrible. 185 00:10:04,441 --> 00:10:06,841 Speaker 2: What did you say? How did you rectify it? Let 186 00:10:06,881 --> 00:10:08,001 Speaker 2: me guess we'll pay for you. 187 00:10:08,561 --> 00:10:11,721 Speaker 1: I said, oh, I said, I'm really sorry that you 188 00:10:11,881 --> 00:10:17,561 Speaker 1: heard that, but now we've ruined the surprise. Shut up, 189 00:10:18,681 --> 00:10:21,041 Speaker 1: I said, I was going to give you another couple 190 00:10:21,041 --> 00:10:24,521 Speaker 1: of days to see if you were getting your shit together, 191 00:10:24,921 --> 00:10:27,641 Speaker 1: getting your lunchbox made, getting out of the house on time, 192 00:10:27,721 --> 00:10:29,721 Speaker 1: coming down as early as Holly. I was going to 193 00:10:29,721 --> 00:10:32,081 Speaker 1: give you another couple of days to do that, and 194 00:10:32,121 --> 00:10:34,201 Speaker 1: then we were going to surprise you with the tickets too. 195 00:10:37,001 --> 00:10:38,481 Speaker 2: Over it was so horrible. 196 00:10:39,521 --> 00:10:42,401 Speaker 1: I felt like the worst mom. And the worst part 197 00:10:42,441 --> 00:10:45,201 Speaker 1: of it was in that moment, I was trying to 198 00:10:45,201 --> 00:10:48,601 Speaker 1: be a good mom. I was trying to really lovely, 199 00:10:48,641 --> 00:10:50,441 Speaker 1: and I really fucked it up for the other one. 200 00:10:50,641 --> 00:10:54,721 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, look, it probably wasn't like ideal I mean 201 00:10:54,761 --> 00:10:57,441 Speaker 2: that part when you go, look, don't tell the other 202 00:10:58,281 --> 00:11:00,401 Speaker 2: that probably was just the only part where. 203 00:11:00,201 --> 00:11:02,561 Speaker 1: You're like one step too far. 204 00:11:03,361 --> 00:11:06,121 Speaker 2: Well, I think the whole idea of it would be 205 00:11:06,241 --> 00:11:09,081 Speaker 2: that you can praise them without having to give them something. 206 00:11:09,801 --> 00:11:11,921 Speaker 2: You can praise them for doing what they're meant to 207 00:11:11,921 --> 00:11:14,561 Speaker 2: be doing because they're meant to be doing it. You 208 00:11:14,601 --> 00:11:17,121 Speaker 2: don't have to give them something because they're being good. 209 00:11:17,641 --> 00:11:21,321 Speaker 1: Yeah, but I've spent fifteen years as a parent absolutely 210 00:11:21,401 --> 00:11:22,761 Speaker 1: bribing my children to do. 211 00:11:22,721 --> 00:11:24,521 Speaker 2: The right thing. You don't even need to bribe them though. 212 00:11:24,561 --> 00:11:27,921 Speaker 2: Now you are not bribing them. They are simply now 213 00:11:28,401 --> 00:11:30,961 Speaker 2: stepping into their own power and doing their own thing. 214 00:11:31,041 --> 00:11:34,641 Speaker 2: Because you've formatted that, you've created that for fifteen years. 215 00:11:34,641 --> 00:11:37,921 Speaker 2: How good is that? Like I'm listening going, holy shit, 216 00:11:38,041 --> 00:11:41,041 Speaker 2: I can't believe they've turned the page. That's all because 217 00:11:41,081 --> 00:11:43,241 Speaker 2: you've done it, You've put in the hard yard. 218 00:11:43,441 --> 00:11:49,201 Speaker 1: I feel like for you, you're spending all these years 219 00:11:49,241 --> 00:11:51,641 Speaker 1: that we've been doing the podcast and being friends and 220 00:11:51,721 --> 00:11:54,601 Speaker 1: will continue to go I'm going to watch what she 221 00:11:54,761 --> 00:11:56,841 Speaker 1: does and then not fucking do that.