WEBVTT - When does the beach become relaxing again?

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<v Speaker 1>Appogiae Production. Welcome back to another episode of am I

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<v Speaker 1>About Mum?

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<v Speaker 2>Podcast?

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<v Speaker 1>The question we keep asking three times a.

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<v Speaker 2>Week, over and over again to remain in control of

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<v Speaker 2>our own sanity, and then we just share it with others,

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<v Speaker 2>with all our amazing network of listeners, so that they

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<v Speaker 2>also feel like, as a collective, we're okay, We've got this.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and we're in it together.

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<v Speaker 2>We're in it together and on the same What did

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<v Speaker 2>we normally say. It's like we're on the same bus.

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<v Speaker 1>No, we're the same and we're on the same boat, boat.

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<v Speaker 2>Some form of transport headed in the same direction. Shit,

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<v Speaker 2>am I a bad mum for not keeping up with

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<v Speaker 2>the needs of my children. It's quite funny actually, because

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<v Speaker 2>you know, you have moments where you are doing something

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<v Speaker 2>that you've possibly done before numerous times, except this time,

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<v Speaker 2>for some reason, it just feels different.

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<v Speaker 1>Right.

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<v Speaker 2>So we have talked so many times in the early

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<v Speaker 2>days of this podcast about the days when you go

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<v Speaker 2>to the beach with your kids. So I'm not talking

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<v Speaker 2>about the days that you go to the beach with

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<v Speaker 2>yourself and the book and the bottle of water and

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<v Speaker 2>the one towel and you just enjoy being in the sun.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm talking about children. Now.

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<v Speaker 1>It's two completely different days.

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<v Speaker 2>Remember back to the days Katie we were talking on

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<v Speaker 2>this podcast. We were lolling one day so hard over

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<v Speaker 2>the fact that you'd been to the beach with your

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<v Speaker 2>daughters and you'd take in the tent and you'd take

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<v Speaker 2>in the sunscreen and the buckets and the shovels, and

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<v Speaker 2>you had everything set up with them, right, and then

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<v Speaker 2>you had that tent thing that you were sort of

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<v Speaker 2>half in the shade, half in the sun, so you

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<v Speaker 2>were prepared for everything that was going to be thrown

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<v Speaker 2>at you, and you thought on that particular day, you

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<v Speaker 2>would sit down and read a book. Right.

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<v Speaker 1>I always used to laugh at myself taking kids to

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<v Speaker 1>the beach, seeing the book in my bag and then

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<v Speaker 1>being like, what do I track that for? Like, that's

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<v Speaker 1>a funny joke that I packed a book to come

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<v Speaker 1>to the beach and they needed me constantly. And there

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<v Speaker 1>was a mesh window in the back of this tent

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<v Speaker 1>and they were occupied for like I think Jay had

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<v Speaker 1>taken them in the water, and I knew they were

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<v Speaker 1>going to be occupied for about ten minutes, Like I

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<v Speaker 1>had literally ten minutes. I laid down and I had

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<v Speaker 1>my head like I was half in the tent, half

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<v Speaker 1>out the tent, and I started reading the book and

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<v Speaker 1>the dog came up behind the tent, lifted its leg up,

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<v Speaker 1>and weed threw the mesh window, and I was like

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<v Speaker 1>I had ten minutes.

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<v Speaker 2>And so now fast forward many years and we're still

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<v Speaker 2>doing this podcast. But I was having a reflection moment

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<v Speaker 2>sitting on the beach this time, and I was at

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<v Speaker 2>the beach by myself with my two girls, and it

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<v Speaker 2>was only like last week. And if you know Nooser

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<v Speaker 2>Main Beach, it's pretty flat. There's waves, but it's not

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<v Speaker 2>out of control. It's not like the open beaches. You

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<v Speaker 2>put a little bit of a leeway there for kids

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<v Speaker 2>to be able to swim. Anyway, we had a really

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<v Speaker 2>good day in terms of weather, and so the flags

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<v Speaker 2>were a little bit more separated. Now I'm just having

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<v Speaker 2>that moment where I was like, gosh, I remember the

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<v Speaker 2>days where we'd talk about on the podcast everything that

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<v Speaker 2>you'd need to bring to the beach with your kids

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<v Speaker 2>at certain ages. So now I'm at that next part

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<v Speaker 2>of going. I'm at what eleven and nine years old

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<v Speaker 2>my girls and I'm getting to the beach and I

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<v Speaker 2>literally brought a bag, a beach bag with three towels. Yep. Now,

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<v Speaker 2>back in the day, I would have packed an eskie

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<v Speaker 2>with cold waters and food and snacks, everything that you

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<v Speaker 2>can think of, like the kitchen sink. When you go

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<v Speaker 2>to the beach when your kids are younger, you have

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<v Speaker 2>to pack everything, you cool, kabana like whatever that cabana

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<v Speaker 2>thing is to give you some shade. Now I barely packed.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't even think my kids know they did. They

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<v Speaker 2>had a hat on their head each.

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<v Speaker 1>I had one of those trolleys. You load the trolley up,

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<v Speaker 1>but the trolley's never big enough because you've got so

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<v Speaker 1>much it. You got the eski, you got the shade,

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<v Speaker 1>You've got the boogie balls.

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<v Speaker 2>You've also got like fold up chests and have pockets

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<v Speaker 2>that you can sit on and or you never you

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<v Speaker 2>never sit in.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you got the whole setup. Then you get your bag,

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<v Speaker 1>you get your towels, you got everything like that. The

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<v Speaker 1>amount of times I'd be struggling with that trolley because

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<v Speaker 1>they're not meant for sem Like, what the hell is

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<v Speaker 1>with that? They're beach trolleys and they are no good

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<v Speaker 1>on sand once you start wheeling them on sand.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, soft sand.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like doing the workout. Like you go from the beach,

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<v Speaker 1>you pack it all up. At the end, it's like

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<v Speaker 1>stuff spilling out. You gotta go back. You're like struggling

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<v Speaker 1>through the sand like.

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<v Speaker 2>It's to get each other up, though, but you've gotta

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<v Speaker 2>be set up for hours, like hours.

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<v Speaker 1>I would have days at the beach and walking back

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<v Speaker 1>towards the car up the beach on the sand felt

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<v Speaker 1>like I was coming back from war.

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<v Speaker 2>I can imagine. But I in this particular day, I

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<v Speaker 2>didn't take anything. Now, my kids are like well built children.

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<v Speaker 2>I hadn't even put sunscreen on because I didn't have it.

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<v Speaker 2>That's so bad of me, right, But also this particular

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<v Speaker 2>day was like about twenty two or twenty three. But

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<v Speaker 2>then this one particular child comes out and goes mom like,

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<v Speaker 2>I've got the worst My skin's rubbing, and I'm thinking, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>I got fucking nothing for you. I can't even fix that.

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<v Speaker 2>I can't even fix that because I'm not prepared for this.

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<v Speaker 2>But I'm having that moment of going geez, I really really,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, you get the leeway because they are not

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<v Speaker 2>that little anymore. So then with that leeway, I've dropped

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<v Speaker 2>the ball dropped. It completely. Just thought, oh fuck it.

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<v Speaker 2>And then she comes out and she's like, Mom, I'm starving.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, just have some water. You'll be fine

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<v Speaker 2>for a couple whiles. But again, Katie, I would have

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<v Speaker 2>had the entire fridge contents.

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<v Speaker 1>Back in the day. So you've gone from all to

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<v Speaker 1>the things. You've gone from packing the kitchen sink to

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<v Speaker 1>a day at the beach without some screen.

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<v Speaker 2>Now, when I say packing the kitchen sink, I also

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<v Speaker 2>like you anticipated the fact that I would read a book,

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<v Speaker 2>and I've never read a book. I'm now I'm down

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<v Speaker 2>there with two kids that are swimming during their own thing.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm sitting there watching them. I'm having a coffee going,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm sitting on a beach. It's blissful. Apart from the anyway,

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<v Speaker 2>I won't start that, but it was like a family

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<v Speaker 2>behind me with a screaming child. But apart from that,

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<v Speaker 2>like I was just like, this is blissful. I'm having

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<v Speaker 2>a coffee, the coffee is hot, my kids are happy,

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<v Speaker 2>they're playing together nicely at this stage, and this is

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<v Speaker 2>just blissful.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>But I wasn't prepared. I didn't have a book. I

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<v Speaker 2>was just like what do I do with my time?

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<v Speaker 1>It doesn't matter.

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<v Speaker 2>It doesn't matter.

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<v Speaker 1>I just in that scenario, right, So you're on the beach,

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<v Speaker 1>are actually relaxed, Your kids are playing, they're not fighting,

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<v Speaker 1>they're not needing you for this moment. I mean a

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<v Speaker 1>bit of sunburn. Just so that happened.

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<v Speaker 2>Look, the hats, I have to say the hats did

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<v Speaker 2>remain on, because that is my one thing that I

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<v Speaker 2>always am quite picky about the hats being on their

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<v Speaker 2>head because there's nothing worse than fucking dealing with sunstroke

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<v Speaker 2>or anything like that later on when they're just overwhelmed

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<v Speaker 2>because they've had too much heat through their head.

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<v Speaker 1>How do you keep the hats on while they're in the.

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<v Speaker 2>Water, I don't know. They're not dry. They go under

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<v Speaker 2>the water with it on, come back up. They wear

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<v Speaker 2>bucket hats. The bucket hats.

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<v Speaker 1>Are still like a string underneath old.

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<v Speaker 2>No, they just take it off. They're jumping around. They

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<v Speaker 2>put it back on. And do you know what else

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<v Speaker 2>I took to the beach A handball. I don't actually

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<v Speaker 2>know if I packed out of hand.

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<v Speaker 1>It didn't take sunscreen.

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<v Speaker 2>A handball was in the bag. Times have changed so

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<v Speaker 2>much and somehow on just that particular day, the beach

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<v Speaker 2>felt like it was the beach again.

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<v Speaker 1>You finally got there. Yeah, you finally got.

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<v Speaker 2>I can't say that we were when we were leaving

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<v Speaker 2>the chaos that I had to go through to get

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<v Speaker 2>them a to leave b because one couldn't walk to

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<v Speaker 2>the car, the other one wouldn't put shoes on because

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<v Speaker 2>the sand in between her toes and being wet and like,

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<v Speaker 2>don't get me wrong, it wasn't like the most blissful

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<v Speaker 2>day that you could think of, but it was definitely

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<v Speaker 2>a shift in the right direction from baby days.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that post beach sand everywhere is also a lot

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<v Speaker 1>like your car would have looked like shit. It still does. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>getting sand out of it for weeks, months on end.

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<v Speaker 2>It doesn't matter how many times its Just dust your

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<v Speaker 2>feet off, Like, just at least dust your feet off,

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<v Speaker 2>Sit on the edge of the seat of the car.

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<v Speaker 2>Just run your towel down your legs so it falls

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<v Speaker 2>outside of the car, and then put your legs in

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<v Speaker 2>just that.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, Well, just to wrap up any mums or dad's

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<v Speaker 1>or anyone out there that wants a secret and a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of people would know this, but wants the secret

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<v Speaker 1>to getting sand off of kids at the beach, tucking powder.

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<v Speaker 2>We did talk about this, Yeah, this is one of

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<v Speaker 2>your fun packs.

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<v Speaker 1>It's so good that come off the sand. They've got

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<v Speaker 1>sand everywhere, all over the legs, TALCN powder rub it over,

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<v Speaker 1>the sand just falls off. Trust me, I can't believe

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<v Speaker 1>you haven't

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<v Speaker 2>Done telling you this for you, I barely pack fucking sunscreen,

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<v Speaker 2>let alone talking powder.