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Speaker 1: Apodjeke Production. Welcome back to another episode of.

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Speaker 2: Am I A Bad Mom?

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Speaker 1: Podcast? We were on Instagram too at am I A

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Speaker 1: Bad Mum? I'm shit at Instagram At the moment I

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Speaker 1: feel like I go on for a second and this

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Speaker 1: will be when I'm like in a waiting room for

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Speaker 1: an appointment.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, when you're trying to kill that five minutes of

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Speaker 3: wherever you are.

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Speaker 1: How about this? And this is why I believe, this

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Speaker 1: is my theory of why the years are going by

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Speaker 1: so fast, because we're never bored. I found myself and

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Speaker 1: I really noticed. What I did is I was walking

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Speaker 1: and I needed to cross the road, and I walked

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Speaker 1: up to the crossing and I waited because there wasn't

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Speaker 1: the Little Green Man yet. And as soon as I

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Speaker 1: saw I had to stand there for a second, got

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Speaker 1: my phone out of my bag. Why couldn't I have

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Speaker 1: just stood and looked around?

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Speaker 3: And I make a conscious effort, especially if I'm walking

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Speaker 3: and I open my phone whilst walking, Like you're not

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Speaker 3: that desperate to look at a screen that you're going

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Speaker 3: to hit by a car because they're turning through a

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Speaker 3: red light.

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Speaker 2: What were you doing just on the gram? Yeah, how'd

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Speaker 2: you hit by the car. Didn't bring my head up,

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Speaker 2: just couldn't do it. Needed to see what was on

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Speaker 2: the gram.

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Speaker 1: And then we give our kids a hard time for

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Speaker 1: wanting to.

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Speaker 3: Be screen time, screen time and regulation. If adults can't

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Speaker 3: do it, kids are definitely not going to be able

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Speaker 3: to do it.

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Speaker 2: See, we can't do it.

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Speaker 1: Literally screw doing so much that the years are going

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Speaker 1: to go past that.

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Speaker 2: Don't say that I just turned forty. I don't want

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Speaker 2: to go faster.

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Speaker 1: My abad mom for telling them to do whatever the

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Speaker 1: fuck they like.

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Speaker 3: Content constantly has this flavor to it at the moment,

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Speaker 3: I love it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm like two people. Like there's two parts of

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Speaker 1: me at the moment. There's the part that goes still

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Speaker 1: be a parent, it's still important to have boundaries and

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Speaker 1: you know, they still need to have enough sleep and

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Speaker 1: all the rest of it. And then there's another part

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Speaker 1: of me that's like completely just goney, Okay, well I've

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Speaker 1: done the education now and even things like eating rage. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: like they'll grab like a coke or something, yeah, and

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Speaker 1: I'll be like raising my eyebrows.

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Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, yeah, because yeah, I'll suck at this part too.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: But there's a couple of things. First of all, there

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Speaker 1: is can I be asked to argue with them about

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Speaker 1: do you really need another coke? They're not good for

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Speaker 1: you kind of thing. There's then the part that goes,

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Speaker 1: they've got the education, they know full well, I know

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Speaker 1: Molly gets to a point where she's like, I need

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Speaker 1: some In fact, they both do well. They'll come home

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Speaker 1: from like school, camp or something and they just want

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Speaker 1: vegetables and because they feel like like we do like adults,

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Speaker 1: like if you're eating.

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Speaker 2: All you want once you come home, yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and so they definitely have that. But I am

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Speaker 1: then kind of there's a part which is like, well

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Speaker 1: they're not. It's bad for them. I can't tell them

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Speaker 1: in their thirties what to eat and what to not eat. Yea,

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Speaker 1: to drink and what to not drink. I feel like

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Speaker 1: I've done the education, ye rach. I've got a whole

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Speaker 1: bunch of vitamins and supplements. I've told everyone else in

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Speaker 1: the houses, includes my husband, just so you know, we've

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Speaker 1: got this, this, this.

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Speaker 3: And this.

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Speaker 1: If you want any you know, I have in the

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Speaker 1: past put that in their bathroom. So I'm like, when

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Speaker 1: you brush your teeth, take that or in the morning whatever.

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Speaker 1: And I took them all out of the pantry last

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Speaker 1: week and I put them all on the kitchen bench,

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Speaker 1: which I don't love because I'm hosting.

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Speaker 2: No no, no, yeah, I don't want to out.

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Speaker 1: But I was like, I'm gonna leave them all out.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna show you what I take and I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: offer you them and then if you don't want them,

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Speaker 1: then don't worry about it. And so I've got disappoint

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Speaker 1: made where they have got no interest. They're like almost

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Speaker 1: laugh at me, like oh the mumble of fucking vitamins,

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Speaker 1: and they're not interested. So I'm putting them back in

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Speaker 1: the pantry. And there's a part of me that's like,

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Speaker 1: oh that's fine, Like they cost a lot of money

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Speaker 1: more for me off me. I'll just take them then.

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Speaker 1: But it's things like that, and again in two minds, still,

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Speaker 1: I'm still like battling.

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Speaker 2: The two people.

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Speaker 1: It's going go to bed now, You're gonna be so

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Speaker 1: tired tomorrow. And then the do whatever the fuck you like,

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Speaker 1: Because what I know about teenagers is they are experts

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Speaker 1: in everything, but they know absolutely fucking nothing, no nothing.

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Speaker 2: I just love that they know everything.

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Speaker 3: I mean, I've only got tweens, and they seem to

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Speaker 3: also be super knowledgeable about a lot of things that

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Speaker 3: I thought, wow at ten and twelve, I really don't

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Speaker 3: know how you know all of that.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's the arguments, and this is the thing they

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Speaker 1: really believe in their arguments. Yeah, they're putting across. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: will be driving, rach Amelia, will be driving to.

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Speaker 2: Argue with me.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, mate, She's like, well, you don't do that.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, I passed my tests already, I've been driving.

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Speaker 1: I don't need to do it like that anymore.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, but also formulate your own formulate your own

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Speaker 3: driving skills and ability based on what I do and

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Speaker 3: don't do. That is irrelevant, like with what you do

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Speaker 3: and don't do. Come to me when you've got the

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Speaker 3: same amount of years of experience, hands on experience, meaning

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Speaker 3: me aka also known as Mum driving you everywhere for

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Speaker 3: the last sixteen years of your life.

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Speaker 1: The best ones, right, are the ones that are arguing

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Speaker 1: about the rules. So traffic lights, speed, Oh the speed

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Speaker 1: Oh they're not even gonna know. They're not gonna care

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Speaker 1: if I'm doing Oh yes they will. These aren't my rules.

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Speaker 1: I didn't make up the speed limit if there's a police.

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Speaker 3: Ah.

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Speaker 2: Mate, the first time I get pulled over, you're going

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Speaker 2: to be Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I argue these officer like you're arguing.

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Speaker 3: With me, and it scares the shit out of you

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Speaker 3: when you first get pulled over by the police.

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Speaker 1: I got pulled over when I was seventeen and I

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Speaker 1: wasn't wearing a seat belt my little Nissan Micra, and

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Speaker 1: I will always remember to this day him telling me,

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Speaker 1: I really don't want to be the person that has

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Speaker 1: to go to your house and tell your mum that

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Speaker 1: you've gone through the windscreen. And he gave me a

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Speaker 1: fine whatever it was back then, and I remember being annoyed,

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Speaker 1: I've got to pay fine. But I have never not

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Speaker 1: worn my seat belt since.

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Speaker 3: I'm a bit of a nonwearer when I'm on things

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Speaker 3: like public transport because I find it hard to wear

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Speaker 3: seat belts that other people want.

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Speaker 2: But it's sort of like, I know it's a bit weird, ah,

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Speaker 2: but I genuinely in my own car, I don't think.

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Speaker 3: I mean, especially after the beep beep were installed, like

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Speaker 3: when it beeps that you can't you can't not now.

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Speaker 3: And then the other part was, you know, like we

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Speaker 3: didn't have the overhead cameras now that we've.

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Speaker 2: Got I don't know.

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Speaker 3: Seat belts for me were just like a like I

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Speaker 3: don't want to die. Obviously, you're at risk every time

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Speaker 3: you get into a car, let alone anything else.

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Speaker 1: The mobile phone fine is one thousand dollars touch a

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Speaker 1: mobile phone. But you know, if you're a business, so

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Speaker 1: this is very relevant if you're a small business, which

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Speaker 1: you probably are. Yeah, I'm a small business. Just four

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Speaker 1: thousand dollars for us.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Also, I don't know why. I don't know what. It's

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Speaker 2: just another revenue raising in life.

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Speaker 1: You're a big company, that's yeah.

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Speaker 3: Willy nilly, revenue raising. That's all I'm saying.

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Speaker 2: But going back to speed, I had the opposite in

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Speaker 2: my car.

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Speaker 3: The other day and Elsie's sitting in the back and

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Speaker 3: we just dropped her little friend off home, which was fine,

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Speaker 3: but usually she'll jump in the front shool, so when

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Speaker 3: her friends gone, she'll jump back in the front with me.

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Speaker 3: And she's like, you know what, I'm going to stay here,

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Speaker 3: And I was like, okay, right, oh, sweet love.

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Speaker 2: Feeling like an uber, Well, kick back and relax. Anyway,

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Speaker 2: We're just we're driving high gum water. Can I help

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Speaker 2: you with anything else. Literally was driving along from the back.

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Speaker 3: The speed limit inspector goes, what's the speed limit right now?

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Speaker 2: Mum said eighty.

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Speaker 3: Why, well, you're clearly not doing eighty, are you, I said, well,

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Speaker 3: you're clearly going to take much longer to walk home,

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Speaker 3: aren't you. I said, so choose your buttles, mate, and.

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Speaker 2: G sat there and proceeded to have a giggle to

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Speaker 2: And I was like, mate, do you start driving? Come

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Speaker 2: at me.

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Speaker 1: Then I learned to drive like that because of how

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Speaker 1: long you used to take to get out of the

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Speaker 1: house shoes on seventy six times.

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Speaker 2: I just loved it. I was like, how about shut

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Speaker 2: the fuck up on the back seat? Shut it up.

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Speaker 1: We need one of those things that they have in

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Speaker 1: like the police vans where they put the screen up

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Speaker 1: so you can't hear see the people in the back.

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Speaker 2: You're like that and that screen