WEBVTT - I need some time off, maybe like 6 months?!

0:00:05.921 --> 0:00:24.961
<v Speaker 1>Apod Shape Production. Welcome back to another episode of Am

0:00:25.001 --> 0:00:26.241
<v Speaker 1>I A Bad Mum?

0:00:26.521 --> 0:00:27.161
<v Speaker 2>Podcast.

0:00:27.601 --> 0:00:29.801
<v Speaker 1>We really enjoy the memes that come through on our

0:00:29.841 --> 0:00:32.081
<v Speaker 1>social media as well at am I A Bad Mum

0:00:32.161 --> 0:00:34.721
<v Speaker 1>on Instagram?

0:00:34.921 --> 0:00:35.921
<v Speaker 3>Some good ones in there.

0:00:36.081 --> 0:00:38.800
<v Speaker 1>This one I liked so it says to all the

0:00:38.881 --> 0:00:42.081
<v Speaker 1>teens who are being raised by eighties babies who barely

0:00:42.120 --> 0:00:45.400
<v Speaker 1>survived the nineties because we didn't have curfews, cell phones

0:00:45.441 --> 0:00:48.001
<v Speaker 1>and our parents couldn't spy on us on social media,

0:00:48.241 --> 0:00:49.881
<v Speaker 1>how's life three sixty treating you?

0:00:51.681 --> 0:00:54.441
<v Speaker 2>Kids are kids? We go nowhere. We can track them

0:00:54.481 --> 0:00:56.161
<v Speaker 2>wherever they're very.

0:00:55.801 --> 0:00:59.801
<v Speaker 1>Which is good for a safety thing, but terrible for

0:01:00.281 --> 0:01:02.640
<v Speaker 1>Like when I think about the times that I pretended

0:01:02.681 --> 0:01:03.640
<v Speaker 1>I was sleeping over at.

0:01:03.601 --> 0:01:06.920
<v Speaker 2>Emma's house and we were on the train to the city.

0:01:06.961 --> 0:01:08.401
<v Speaker 3>Oh my gosh, Mom.

0:01:08.241 --> 0:01:09.041
<v Speaker 2>Had no idea.

0:01:09.200 --> 0:01:11.401
<v Speaker 4>It kind of probably had an idea, don't you think,

0:01:11.840 --> 0:01:13.441
<v Speaker 4>But they were just okay to just block it out

0:01:13.481 --> 0:01:14.801
<v Speaker 4>because there was no way that they were going to

0:01:14.840 --> 0:01:17.920
<v Speaker 4>track you or no. You know, deep down they probably knew,

0:01:18.000 --> 0:01:19.560
<v Speaker 4>but they couldn't pin it on you.

0:01:20.280 --> 0:01:20.481
<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

0:01:20.601 --> 0:01:22.801
<v Speaker 2>Maybe I don't know. I feel like she just didn't know.

0:01:23.441 --> 0:01:24.401
<v Speaker 2>I feel like maybe.

0:01:24.200 --> 0:01:27.281
<v Speaker 1>I came across a lot more put together honest than

0:01:27.321 --> 0:01:27.801
<v Speaker 1>I was.

0:01:28.801 --> 0:01:33.481
<v Speaker 4>God, imagine revisiting that, like, imagine back then seeing yourself

0:01:33.521 --> 0:01:36.201
<v Speaker 4>try and deliver those one liners of going yep, no,

0:01:36.280 --> 0:01:40.801
<v Speaker 4>I'm definitely staying at Emma's tonight. Yeah, we're watching movies

0:01:40.840 --> 0:01:41.281
<v Speaker 4>all night.

0:01:42.401 --> 0:01:43.881
<v Speaker 3>You'd be like, oh my god.

0:01:45.081 --> 0:01:47.881
<v Speaker 1>Emma's mom thought the same. She was saying at my house.

0:01:47.921 --> 0:01:49.761
<v Speaker 2>God knows where we stayed. I don't even know.

0:01:49.921 --> 0:01:53.161
<v Speaker 1>Imagine that actually is reminded me because it caught me

0:01:53.281 --> 0:01:56.521
<v Speaker 1>out the other way round the other day, because the

0:01:56.521 --> 0:01:58.881
<v Speaker 1>girls wanted to stay back after school and watch the netball.

0:01:59.121 --> 0:02:01.201
<v Speaker 1>When I say they wanted to watch the netple rage,

0:02:01.241 --> 0:02:04.081
<v Speaker 1>they had no interest in watching the netball, but I

0:02:04.121 --> 0:02:07.520
<v Speaker 1>was like, who's playing? The boys from the local boys'

0:02:07.561 --> 0:02:10.761
<v Speaker 1>school were also coming and they were watching the Network game.

0:02:11.081 --> 0:02:11.801
<v Speaker 2>So great.

0:02:11.921 --> 0:02:15.441
<v Speaker 1>Honestly, they took makeup with them to school to put

0:02:15.441 --> 0:02:18.961
<v Speaker 1>on after school for watching the netball.

0:02:19.321 --> 0:02:20.520
<v Speaker 3>But still at school.

0:02:20.761 --> 0:02:23.081
<v Speaker 1>It was at school, Oh yeah, at yeah. So they

0:02:23.081 --> 0:02:25.561
<v Speaker 1>said to me, can you pick us up after the

0:02:25.601 --> 0:02:27.520
<v Speaker 1>net boar? I was like, yeah, yeah, no worries. What time.

0:02:27.561 --> 0:02:28.001
<v Speaker 2>When I was.

0:02:28.001 --> 0:02:30.881
<v Speaker 1>Thinking that's great, it was a Friday, I was like,

0:02:31.041 --> 0:02:33.481
<v Speaker 1>I can get a bit of extra work done. And

0:02:33.520 --> 0:02:37.400
<v Speaker 1>then also, so I've introduced a new rule on a Friday.

0:02:37.601 --> 0:02:40.840
<v Speaker 1>And this is off the back of the fact that

0:02:41.201 --> 0:02:43.761
<v Speaker 1>the last few weeks, I don't think I get home

0:02:43.800 --> 0:02:48.841
<v Speaker 1>before seven pm. Oh well, Friday's work super hard every day.

0:02:49.281 --> 0:02:52.281
<v Speaker 1>Every day, I was like, the amount of times I

0:02:52.321 --> 0:02:56.001
<v Speaker 1>come home and I'm then I'm like, fuck, dinner, what

0:02:56.041 --> 0:02:57.081
<v Speaker 1>are we gonna wait for dinner?

0:02:57.121 --> 0:02:57.721
<v Speaker 2>It's dark.

0:02:59.680 --> 0:03:02.641
<v Speaker 4>You're close enough to some takeaway Fridays surely could be

0:03:02.680 --> 0:03:03.401
<v Speaker 4>your takeaway day.

0:03:03.481 --> 0:03:06.921
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but reach can't have takeaway every I was like why.

0:03:07.240 --> 0:03:10.041
<v Speaker 4>I was like, okay, maybe it's a good thing that

0:03:10.121 --> 0:03:12.361
<v Speaker 4>I don't have takeaway available every night near me.

0:03:12.401 --> 0:03:14.880
<v Speaker 1>Because then you'd also be like living in a tent

0:03:14.960 --> 0:03:16.240
<v Speaker 1>because it's expensive.

0:03:18.401 --> 0:03:22.161
<v Speaker 2>So anyway, yeah, on a Friday.

0:03:22.281 --> 0:03:24.761
<v Speaker 1>Yes, So they wanted to watch it and I was like, okay, great,

0:03:24.761 --> 0:03:26.601
<v Speaker 1>So what do you reckon like five point thirty or whatever.

0:03:26.601 --> 0:03:29.081
<v Speaker 1>They're like, yeah, we think so we'll let you know, right,

0:03:29.641 --> 0:03:32.961
<v Speaker 1>And so the new rule on the Friday. Jay and

0:03:33.041 --> 0:03:36.641
<v Speaker 1>I obviously we work together and we own our own business,

0:03:36.961 --> 0:03:40.041
<v Speaker 1>and we decided we're trying to leave at four pm

0:03:40.081 --> 0:03:43.401
<v Speaker 1>on a Friday. Okay, moving forward. Yeah, because we're here

0:03:43.601 --> 0:03:46.721
<v Speaker 1>for too long. And then we also spend because it's

0:03:46.721 --> 0:03:49.841
<v Speaker 1>our own business. People will know what that's like. You're

0:03:49.881 --> 0:03:52.161
<v Speaker 1>doing stuff on the weekend as well, because shit, it

0:03:52.201 --> 0:03:54.081
<v Speaker 1>needs to get done. It just doesn't stop. You never

0:03:54.121 --> 0:03:57.001
<v Speaker 1>stopped thinking about it either. That was the first week

0:03:57.081 --> 0:03:59.281
<v Speaker 1>and I was like, perfect, the kids want to stay

0:03:59.321 --> 0:04:01.121
<v Speaker 1>at school till fi point thirty to watch the netball,

0:04:01.521 --> 0:04:06.401
<v Speaker 1>so we can leave it four go have a drink somewhere. Yeah,

0:04:06.441 --> 0:04:10.081
<v Speaker 1>we did do that, right, And the girls hadn't told

0:04:10.121 --> 0:04:11.681
<v Speaker 1>me what time they wanted me to pick them up,

0:04:11.721 --> 0:04:14.081
<v Speaker 1>and so we hadn't fully confirmed, and so I texted

0:04:14.121 --> 0:04:15.841
<v Speaker 1>them and just said, don't forget to let me know

0:04:15.921 --> 0:04:17.201
<v Speaker 1>what time you want picking up.

0:04:17.561 --> 0:04:18.961
<v Speaker 2>We've then walked down.

0:04:19.041 --> 0:04:21.640
<v Speaker 1>Into the city from work and we've gone for a

0:04:21.721 --> 0:04:25.841
<v Speaker 1>drink and we've got some little snacks, and I was

0:04:25.880 --> 0:04:28.161
<v Speaker 1>like super excited. I was like, look at us at

0:04:28.161 --> 0:04:30.961
<v Speaker 1>four pm on a Friday, like we literally never do this.

0:04:31.841 --> 0:04:35.320
<v Speaker 1>Five o'clock comes and I get a phone call can

0:04:35.320 --> 0:04:37.681
<v Speaker 1>you pick us up? I went, yeah, I can, but

0:04:37.841 --> 0:04:40.121
<v Speaker 1>I thought five point thirty, like, you didn't confirm with me,

0:04:40.161 --> 0:04:41.681
<v Speaker 1>So I was thinking in my mind five thirty and

0:04:41.721 --> 0:04:44.081
<v Speaker 1>they were like, oh, no, everyone's leaving earlier, so can

0:04:44.121 --> 0:04:45.681
<v Speaker 1>you like pick us up now? And I went, I

0:04:45.681 --> 0:04:48.681
<v Speaker 1>can't pick you up now. They were why not? I said,

0:04:48.761 --> 0:04:50.760
<v Speaker 1>you can't just tell me? Can I just call me

0:04:50.801 --> 0:04:58.081
<v Speaker 1>and say come now? Yeah, I'm working, working, I've got

0:04:58.081 --> 0:05:01.241
<v Speaker 1>stuff to talk, like, let me get stuff finished and

0:05:01.281 --> 0:05:02.880
<v Speaker 1>then I'll come and pick you up. Pick you up

0:05:02.880 --> 0:05:04.440
<v Speaker 1>at five thirty, like I said, I was gonna pick

0:05:04.481 --> 0:05:08.080
<v Speaker 1>you up five thirty. Oh. Then they've hung up, and

0:05:08.121 --> 0:05:10.841
<v Speaker 1>then Amelia's text and where are you?

0:05:10.921 --> 0:05:13.960
<v Speaker 2>What did that work in the office? She went, no,

0:05:14.041 --> 0:05:16.281
<v Speaker 2>you're not. I can see that you're not there.

0:05:17.241 --> 0:05:19.921
<v Speaker 1>Shit, shit five three sixty.

0:05:20.601 --> 0:05:23.921
<v Speaker 2>Why gosh? The other way around?

0:05:24.921 --> 0:05:26.440
<v Speaker 3>Exactly why me?

0:05:26.601 --> 0:05:28.881
<v Speaker 4>I would have been like, I can hear that you're

0:05:29.001 --> 0:05:32.681
<v Speaker 4>not at work, and it sounds very busy in the background.

0:05:32.161 --> 0:05:34.601
<v Speaker 2>Of that restaurant. You're at the pub.

0:05:34.880 --> 0:05:38.001
<v Speaker 3>You're like, oh, sorry, yeah, be there still at five thirty?

0:05:38.081 --> 0:05:39.441
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, five thirty, Yeah.

0:05:39.401 --> 0:05:42.401
<v Speaker 1>Okay, I'm not coming here. Am I ready to leave yet?

0:05:51.201 --> 0:05:53.760
<v Speaker 4>Am I a bad mom for being a bad mum

0:05:53.801 --> 0:05:54.281
<v Speaker 4>in general?

0:05:54.601 --> 0:05:56.641
<v Speaker 1>I don't know what you're about to say about this.

0:05:56.761 --> 0:05:59.721
<v Speaker 1>I'm a bad mum for being a bad mum. In general. However,

0:05:59.801 --> 0:06:02.160
<v Speaker 1>I will just remind you of what I just said,

0:06:02.241 --> 0:06:04.721
<v Speaker 1>and that was that I picked the kids up late

0:06:05.361 --> 0:06:08.760
<v Speaker 1>watching the netball game, pretending I was at work, but

0:06:08.841 --> 0:06:12.481
<v Speaker 1>actually I was at the pub, and my crumb.

0:06:12.241 --> 0:06:13.481
<v Speaker 2>Dollars have just arrived.

0:06:17.361 --> 0:06:20.841
<v Speaker 4>I wish like I actually love both scenarios, but the

0:06:20.880 --> 0:06:26.001
<v Speaker 4>other sud to it if you lead with that honesty

0:06:26.041 --> 0:06:28.640
<v Speaker 4>of it. Sorry, can't pick you up right now. My

0:06:28.761 --> 0:06:31.761
<v Speaker 4>crumb dollars have just arrived. I've got half a pie

0:06:31.841 --> 0:06:33.681
<v Speaker 4>sitting in front of me, but I'll be there at

0:06:33.721 --> 0:06:34.361
<v Speaker 4>five thirty.

0:06:34.681 --> 0:06:35.681
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, thanks for calling.

0:06:36.001 --> 0:06:38.880
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I had a Cosmopolitan waiting to be drunk.

0:06:39.001 --> 0:06:39.241
<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

0:06:39.281 --> 0:06:41.881
<v Speaker 1>No, that takes ages to make. Yeah, I waited for that.

0:06:42.001 --> 0:06:44.801
<v Speaker 1>We're not going to be there right now, too, busy, FYI.

0:06:45.961 --> 0:06:48.201
<v Speaker 1>Mine was just mine sort of tape is into that.

0:06:48.281 --> 0:06:51.281
<v Speaker 1>I just was just explaining to you before we started,

0:06:51.401 --> 0:06:54.320
<v Speaker 1>which was just had a weekend of it. Do you

0:06:54.361 --> 0:06:57.921
<v Speaker 1>ever just have just a couple of days of consecutive

0:06:59.081 --> 0:07:02.640
<v Speaker 1>parenting that just really gets under your goat that you

0:07:02.681 --> 0:07:04.361
<v Speaker 1>sort of go, I don't want.

0:07:04.201 --> 0:07:05.321
<v Speaker 2>To do this any more.

0:07:05.481 --> 0:07:08.440
<v Speaker 3>I don't want to do this anymore.

0:07:08.001 --> 0:07:10.161
<v Speaker 4>And you said, I don't want to collapse Okay, yes,

0:07:10.281 --> 0:07:13.121
<v Speaker 4>I could be pre or post period.

0:07:13.281 --> 0:07:15.921
<v Speaker 3>Maybe, like I could be in that where.

0:07:15.801 --> 0:07:19.881
<v Speaker 4>Life feels way too hard for everyone and everything. Yeah,

0:07:20.361 --> 0:07:22.241
<v Speaker 4>but I just had a weekend of it, Katie, and

0:07:22.281 --> 0:07:24.721
<v Speaker 4>I just got to the end of the weekend and

0:07:24.841 --> 0:07:26.161
<v Speaker 4>was like, this is truly fucked.

0:07:26.281 --> 0:07:28.041
<v Speaker 3>Is this what I signed up for?

0:07:28.441 --> 0:07:30.921
<v Speaker 2>Is this the rest of my life?

0:07:31.161 --> 0:07:31.281
<v Speaker 1>Like?

0:07:31.481 --> 0:07:34.241
<v Speaker 3>Why do you keep fighting everything?

0:07:34.441 --> 0:07:36.681
<v Speaker 1>I was chatting to an Uber driver the other day

0:07:36.761 --> 0:07:39.281
<v Speaker 1>and he was talking about how his kids are in

0:07:39.281 --> 0:07:39.961
<v Speaker 1>their twenties.

0:07:40.441 --> 0:07:43.041
<v Speaker 2>He was like, oh, you wait, it gets more expensive.

0:07:43.081 --> 0:07:46.201
<v Speaker 1>I was like, what, it gets more expensive? No, I'm

0:07:46.201 --> 0:07:48.761
<v Speaker 1>not giving them money in the twenties. No, Like I

0:07:48.841 --> 0:07:52.641
<v Speaker 1>feel like I've tapped out by then, and I'm like, eighteen.

0:07:52.401 --> 0:07:55.361
<v Speaker 3>You can drive me around with your petrol and pay

0:07:55.361 --> 0:07:55.641
<v Speaker 3>for it.

0:07:55.881 --> 0:07:56.081
<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

0:07:56.121 --> 0:07:58.201
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I think just at the moment, I think you

0:07:58.281 --> 0:08:02.081
<v Speaker 4>go through those stages and ages, and I just am

0:08:02.161 --> 0:08:07.361
<v Speaker 4>having to reevaluate my own parenting and the way that

0:08:07.441 --> 0:08:08.121
<v Speaker 4>I show.

0:08:08.001 --> 0:08:10.881
<v Speaker 3>Up with my daughters because.

0:08:10.961 --> 0:08:13.921
<v Speaker 4>Maybe the way that I have handled and shown up

0:08:14.281 --> 0:08:17.281
<v Speaker 4>with them younger has just slightly shifted.

0:08:17.481 --> 0:08:20.561
<v Speaker 3>Does that make sense to you? So let me just

0:08:20.601 --> 0:08:21.521
<v Speaker 3>explain it a bit more.

0:08:21.601 --> 0:08:25.001
<v Speaker 4>Obviously, Gracie is eleven and the way that I've always

0:08:25.041 --> 0:08:28.441
<v Speaker 4>been able to sort of manage is not the right word,

0:08:28.481 --> 0:08:34.241
<v Speaker 4>but like relate and respond and has shifted because she's

0:08:34.281 --> 0:08:36.761
<v Speaker 4>shifted so something. You know, she's grown up a little

0:08:36.761 --> 0:08:39.161
<v Speaker 4>bit more, and now she doesn't quite respond the same

0:08:39.201 --> 0:08:42.561
<v Speaker 4>way like you know, just using when they babies, for instance,

0:08:43.321 --> 0:08:45.521
<v Speaker 4>that point of distraction. You know, when you used to

0:08:45.561 --> 0:08:47.601
<v Speaker 4>be like they'd be screaming and you go, look, oh

0:08:47.601 --> 0:08:49.961
<v Speaker 4>my god, there's a possum and they go and they

0:08:50.001 --> 0:08:51.721
<v Speaker 4>stop and they look for the possum and they.

0:08:51.841 --> 0:08:54.121
<v Speaker 3>Like my three year old nephew. That still works.

0:08:55.121 --> 0:08:58.041
<v Speaker 4>Now, Gracie has shifted again with the way that I

0:08:58.121 --> 0:09:00.441
<v Speaker 4>respond to things, and I've got to sort of take

0:09:00.481 --> 0:09:03.921
<v Speaker 4>myself off the edge of sort of caring about every

0:09:04.001 --> 0:09:05.201
<v Speaker 4>eye roll that she gives me.

0:09:05.321 --> 0:09:06.121
<v Speaker 3>Does that make sense?

0:09:07.081 --> 0:09:09.601
<v Speaker 4>And it's for me to do This is not for her, right,

0:09:09.721 --> 0:09:14.081
<v Speaker 4>She's just learning how to be eleven and hormones and

0:09:14.281 --> 0:09:16.121
<v Speaker 4>all of that running through her body. But at the

0:09:16.161 --> 0:09:18.601
<v Speaker 4>same time, like I have to adapt as much as

0:09:18.641 --> 0:09:19.081
<v Speaker 4>she does.

0:09:19.281 --> 0:09:23.281
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, because you take that stuff personally too. I went

0:09:23.481 --> 0:09:26.241
<v Speaker 1>through a stage of also being a bit like that

0:09:26.321 --> 0:09:28.121
<v Speaker 1>every time I was hit with an eye roll.

0:09:28.441 --> 0:09:32.361
<v Speaker 2>Or a horrible comment or an insult.

0:09:32.601 --> 0:09:34.801
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, like I took I take it personally.

0:09:35.161 --> 0:09:38.801
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, mine is just about heated situations that her and

0:09:38.841 --> 0:09:41.641
<v Speaker 4>I get into and me not knowing how to respond

0:09:41.761 --> 0:09:45.361
<v Speaker 4>right at the moment for her and for her I

0:09:45.881 --> 0:09:48.521
<v Speaker 4>So then instead of looking to blame her, I've just

0:09:48.561 --> 0:09:51.201
<v Speaker 4>sort of gone inwards and gone, why am I reacting

0:09:51.281 --> 0:09:53.641
<v Speaker 4>like this? What's the work that I need to do

0:09:53.681 --> 0:09:55.921
<v Speaker 4>in it to sort of learn and grow and evolve

0:09:56.041 --> 0:09:59.361
<v Speaker 4>as a parent into the next stage and slash age

0:09:59.401 --> 0:10:02.841
<v Speaker 4>of teenagers. But then you start digging that up, Katie,

0:10:02.881 --> 0:10:03.881
<v Speaker 4>and it's shit.

0:10:05.161 --> 0:10:08.121
<v Speaker 1>Hard. It is okay to have like a weekend or

0:10:08.121 --> 0:10:10.321
<v Speaker 1>a couple of days where you just think parenting's fucked,

0:10:10.321 --> 0:10:13.041
<v Speaker 1>because it can be. I was having a conversation with

0:10:13.081 --> 0:10:15.521
<v Speaker 1>a friend the other day, and so they've got a

0:10:16.201 --> 0:10:21.241
<v Speaker 1>four or five year old and a newborn. They're really struggling,

0:10:21.681 --> 0:10:24.561
<v Speaker 1>and they said that they literally got to the stage

0:10:24.601 --> 0:10:27.241
<v Speaker 1>where they were like, this is absolutely fucked.

0:10:27.281 --> 0:10:28.561
<v Speaker 2>We are so tired.

0:10:29.361 --> 0:10:33.001
<v Speaker 1>We're getting at each other, we're arguing ourselves.

0:10:33.321 --> 0:10:34.281
<v Speaker 2>They've got a new.

0:10:34.161 --> 0:10:37.601
<v Speaker 1>Rule now where they send the other one into the bedroom.

0:10:37.641 --> 0:10:39.601
<v Speaker 1>They get an hour and they go do whatever you want.

0:10:39.641 --> 0:10:42.201
<v Speaker 1>In that hour, go to sleep, watch Netflix so that

0:10:42.241 --> 0:10:46.321
<v Speaker 1>they can just get swap over. But they also were like,

0:10:46.921 --> 0:10:51.401
<v Speaker 1>we love our kids. However, if we were going to

0:10:51.521 --> 0:10:55.681
<v Speaker 1>go back and know what we knew now, we might not.

0:10:55.601 --> 0:10:58.321
<v Speaker 2>Have chosen to have with That's what they said.

0:10:59.041 --> 0:11:01.761
<v Speaker 1>I was like, Wow, that's really honest. I've been being

0:11:01.801 --> 0:11:05.521
<v Speaker 1>so honest and there's nothing to do with how much

0:11:05.601 --> 0:11:07.041
<v Speaker 1>you love your kids.

0:11:07.401 --> 0:11:09.961
<v Speaker 3>No, you're in the depths hard sometimes.

0:11:10.041 --> 0:11:11.721
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, you're just in the depths of it, which is

0:11:12.121 --> 0:11:14.441
<v Speaker 4>we can say and think that, but in the reality

0:11:14.481 --> 0:11:16.041
<v Speaker 4>of it, like I say, I want to tap out

0:11:16.041 --> 0:11:18.321
<v Speaker 4>for at least six months, Like I need a holiday

0:11:18.361 --> 0:11:19.041
<v Speaker 4>for six months.

0:11:19.481 --> 0:11:21.321
<v Speaker 3>It is fucking unrealistic, Katie.

0:11:21.401 --> 0:11:22.041
<v Speaker 2>That's just me.

0:11:22.361 --> 0:11:25.481
<v Speaker 4>That's you're an idiot for thinking that, because I know that,

0:11:25.841 --> 0:11:27.881
<v Speaker 4>say give me, I don't know, I'm going to be

0:11:28.601 --> 0:11:31.521
<v Speaker 4>really rash and say I'd take three months, and I

0:11:31.601 --> 0:11:34.401
<v Speaker 4>would be just petrified that they've forgotten me.

0:11:35.921 --> 0:11:39.761
<v Speaker 1>I reckon, if you had a week or even a weekend,

0:11:40.401 --> 0:11:43.601
<v Speaker 1>knowing how you're feeling right now, say three nights away.

0:11:44.001 --> 0:11:46.841
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but limited phone.

0:11:47.041 --> 0:11:49.961
<v Speaker 1>So that's that's the thing you need to not because

0:11:50.001 --> 0:11:52.241
<v Speaker 1>they can't be texting you every five minutes, so you

0:11:52.241 --> 0:11:53.961
<v Speaker 1>feel like you may as well still be there cleaning

0:11:54.041 --> 0:11:54.481
<v Speaker 1>up the ship.

0:11:55.081 --> 0:11:58.281
<v Speaker 2>Where's my shoes? Where are you? She's done this?

0:11:58.561 --> 0:12:02.361
<v Speaker 1>Like you can't have that three nights, don't don't take

0:12:02.401 --> 0:12:04.961
<v Speaker 1>your phone or don't you know whatever you need to do?

0:12:05.321 --> 0:12:08.001
<v Speaker 1>Switch off, last stop stop sup.

0:12:08.041 --> 0:12:09.721
<v Speaker 2>So I reckon you'd feel completely different.

0:12:09.801 --> 0:12:11.521
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, maybe that's what it is.

0:12:11.681 --> 0:12:14.721
<v Speaker 2>So like, whilst I appreciate you six months.

0:12:16.241 --> 0:12:18.641
<v Speaker 4>That you just need three days, Oh my gosh, I

0:12:18.721 --> 0:12:21.401
<v Speaker 4>just need Yeah. Maybe, And we're coming to the end

0:12:21.481 --> 0:12:24.601
<v Speaker 4>of another term. I think this happens to me every term.

0:12:24.681 --> 0:12:28.041
<v Speaker 4>I get to like week eight, week nine, and I

0:12:28.121 --> 0:12:29.241
<v Speaker 4>start to just go, this.

0:12:29.481 --> 0:12:35.401
<v Speaker 2>Is fucking fucked. Yeah, but then you've got holidays.

0:12:35.441 --> 0:12:38.281
<v Speaker 4>Holidays, we don't have to do lunchboxes and the brigmarole

0:12:38.401 --> 0:12:40.481
<v Speaker 4>and dance and da da da.

0:12:40.121 --> 0:12:42.521
<v Speaker 1>Here, but it comes with the same challenges and we

0:12:42.801 --> 0:12:45.001
<v Speaker 1>feel the days. Now you feel the days, and then

0:12:45.001 --> 0:12:46.881
<v Speaker 1>you've got the arguing for all day long.

0:12:48.801 --> 0:12:55.121
<v Speaker 3>So just live in the dream.