WEBVTT - Sharing Everything Online

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<v Speaker 1>Approche Production.

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<v Speaker 2>Welcome to a bonus episode of We Will Always Have.

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<v Speaker 2>It's just a little tidbit to tide you over where

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<v Speaker 2>Chrissy and I talk shit in front of me is

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<v Speaker 2>my wisdom deck of cards on it different messages. I

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<v Speaker 2>draw one out and I'm hoping that message resonates, it

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<v Speaker 2>hits you right in the fields today. The message is this,

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<v Speaker 2>Silence is the best answer to someone who doesn't value

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<v Speaker 2>your words. In other words, what I'm getting is, don't

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<v Speaker 2>reply to that text message or that email or whatever

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<v Speaker 2>that fucking piece of shit human is trying to get

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<v Speaker 2>to you. Silence is the best answer. Sort these car

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<v Speaker 2>colors by how many were sold in Britain in two

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<v Speaker 2>thousand and four, From most to least. We've got black, silver, red,

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<v Speaker 2>green and gray. Oh shit, what do you recond be

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<v Speaker 2>the most popular? I mean, white is clearly the most popular,

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<v Speaker 2>but it's not here.

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<v Speaker 3>No silver, yes, I would definitely say silver than black.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, silver.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm going by what's popular in Australia though. Yeah, let's go.

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<v Speaker 3>Silver, silver, then black, absolutely, then red, gray, gray, gray,

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<v Speaker 3>would silver, gray, gray.

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<v Speaker 2>Silver, black, gray, red green? It is silver, black, gray, red.

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<v Speaker 1>Green, yes, black done it well done?

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<v Speaker 2>God, who would have thought a middle aged woman in

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<v Speaker 2>a gay knew their cars.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't think this is too inappropriate sitting in there.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, we're sitting in an airport reading these adult jokes.

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<v Speaker 2>Now I can hear us.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, what do a dog and a guy in ecologist

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<v Speaker 3>have in common?

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<v Speaker 4>They both eat possy, not eat it?

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<v Speaker 1>Sorry, they both end up with a wet nose.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh no, why would you come up with a joke?

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<v Speaker 4>Absolutely, Risty. Would you rather have to vlog every emotional

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<v Speaker 4>breakdown or never be able to talk about your feelings

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<v Speaker 4>online again?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh god, I could never not talk about my feelings online.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm like, I've logged every emotional breakdown anyway.

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<v Speaker 1>Absolutely. There's another word that I use quite.

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<v Speaker 4>Seriously. Absolutely absolutely. What was your last emotional breakdown that

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<v Speaker 4>you put online? Oh?

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<v Speaker 3>Mine was where I felt like a fraud, that's looking back.

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<v Speaker 3>That was how I was feeling at that time. Do

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<v Speaker 3>you feel embarrassed, No, not at all. Never embarrassed with

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<v Speaker 3>what I say or do, because that's how I was

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<v Speaker 3>feeling at the time and being genuine. Have I learnt

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<v Speaker 3>from that? Absolutely?

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<v Speaker 2>Good?

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<v Speaker 1>Will I be doing it again?

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<v Speaker 2>No?

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<v Speaker 3>But for me, that's how I was feeling at the

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<v Speaker 3>time good, bad, and the other you.

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<v Speaker 4>Thought you were undeserving of.

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<v Speaker 1>I just felt like I was an impostor and I'm not.

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<v Speaker 4>Aware, So I don't have to stand imposter syndrome.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, because you've never had it, you've always known you're

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<v Speaker 3>worth You've always known that's narcissism.

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<v Speaker 4>So I see it as there's a table set, and

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<v Speaker 4>I got a place at it. Where there's a table set,

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<v Speaker 4>can I take my place off? I'm going to go

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<v Speaker 4>to this table over here, Yes, this table, yes, ye yes,

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<v Speaker 4>And it's like, what the fuck is she doing?

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<v Speaker 1>I would think I would never be at the table never.

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<v Speaker 1>I would be the server.

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<v Speaker 4>You wouldn't even be at the kids time.

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<v Speaker 1>I wouldn't even be at the table. I would be

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<v Speaker 1>the server. So now my head set is saying the table,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm at that table wearing the crown, you move over

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<v Speaker 1>for me because I'm here.

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<v Speaker 2>Good.

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<v Speaker 4>Well, that's good.

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<v Speaker 1>I think that's great.

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<v Speaker 4>So she only made that video like a week before,

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<v Speaker 4>BALLEI didn't you.

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<v Speaker 1>Know I was a couple of weeks, right, I was

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<v Speaker 1>a couple of weeks.

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<v Speaker 4>Well, I'm glad I don't remember my emotional breakdown. I

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<v Speaker 4>have plenty of emotional Oh. I have had two emotional

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<v Speaker 4>breakdowns that I recorded for my Patreon podcast while I

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<v Speaker 4>was here. Yes, if I start crying its content, I'm like,

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<v Speaker 4>get the mics out, talk it through. But I also

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<v Speaker 4>find it a real good form of therapy.

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<v Speaker 1>Absolutely said it again.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh yeah, that's fine, you can say absolutely. It's the

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<v Speaker 4>seriously that drives me insane.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, I wait, seriously, surreally seriously.

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<v Speaker 4>Now, don't I love it? I've got a custom to

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<v Speaker 4>if anything goes wrong, cameras out, microphones are on.

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<v Speaker 3>But do you think that some people would misinterpret that

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<v Speaker 3>as you as attention seeking? No, so in the comments,

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<v Speaker 3>not the comments and everything. But would peop be supporting?

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<v Speaker 1>Would they be? I mean, you're paying for this platform,

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<v Speaker 1>so they want to be.

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<v Speaker 4>I've had emotional breakdowns on Facebook. Not many, there were two,

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<v Speaker 4>and one was right before I was going to Perth

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<v Speaker 4>to do a tour. I was quite tired, and I just,

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<v Speaker 4>for some reason, read a DM of a woman who

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<v Speaker 4>just let me have it when it would normally just

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<v Speaker 4>roll up like you're fanging it. That doesn't affect me.

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<v Speaker 4>But she was like a cool fan. She knew all

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<v Speaker 4>this stuff, and she just stuck the knife and twisted

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<v Speaker 4>and it was all really personally, really hurtful, and I

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<v Speaker 4>was really upset rightly, so, so I replied to her

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<v Speaker 4>and I was like, I'm so sure you feel this way,

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<v Speaker 4>and I went through all the points and I like

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<v Speaker 4>validated all of her emotions.

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<v Speaker 1>Did you do that?

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<v Speaker 4>Because I thought that's what would diffuse the situation. So

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<v Speaker 4>I went through, but she had that very valid criticisms

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<v Speaker 4>and I was like, Okay, we've read this situation.

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<v Speaker 1>Her point of view is this.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, So I went in and I sort of said,

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<v Speaker 4>I understand exactly where you're coming from, and I get that.

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<v Speaker 4>I just need you to know from my life experience

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<v Speaker 4>and from what I've seen.

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<v Speaker 1>People like that, that's what I said, and you're never

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<v Speaker 1>going to take She came back to me.

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<v Speaker 4>And she said, oh my god, I'm so sorry. I

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<v Speaker 4>am manic, bipolar. I had a really awful episode last

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<v Speaker 4>night and I just happened to take it all out

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<v Speaker 4>on you. I meant none of what I said, Please

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<v Speaker 4>don't take offense. And that was the moment where I

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<v Speaker 4>was like, ah, like, people have mental problems. Yes, she

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<v Speaker 4>had directed a lot of vitriol toward me.

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<v Speaker 3>I believe her, and that's where I come back to

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<v Speaker 3>you just don't know what's happening, you don't know.

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<v Speaker 4>What's going through And so I then think I had

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<v Speaker 4>videoed her response and going through it, and then I

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<v Speaker 4>put it as one package. It was like I remember going, oh,

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<v Speaker 4>I don't know if I want to post this, but

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<v Speaker 4>I remember after her response, I was like, no, no,

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<v Speaker 4>this is a good full circle lesson. And then the

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<v Speaker 4>second one was the City Point when I had that breakdown.

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<v Speaker 4>Do you remember that City Point when the school put

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<v Speaker 4>that contract down?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>I was very vocal about it and not realized in

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<v Speaker 4>just how deep the school was in sexual abuse. So

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<v Speaker 4>I came out and I was like, City Points sucks.

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<v Speaker 4>And it issued his contract rah rah rah rah rah.

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<v Speaker 4>And the story was already going quite viral, and it

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<v Speaker 4>was a Brisbane based school and the contract was, you

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<v Speaker 4>know that students had to sign before they returned was

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<v Speaker 4>homosexuality is in, abortion is illegal, and gender identity is

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<v Speaker 4>bullshit and think we're making students sign that otherwise They

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<v Speaker 4>went to return and a former student called them out.

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<v Speaker 4>She gained a lot of traction. I found out about

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<v Speaker 4>it I was like, what the fuck. I brought it

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<v Speaker 4>up and the videos sort of went quite viral, and

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<v Speaker 4>then my inbox was filled to the fucking prim with students,

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<v Speaker 4>current students, current teachers, former students, former teachers. One of them, Oh,

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<v Speaker 4>I can't even tell you, like it's too for long.

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<v Speaker 4>It was the most horrific shit went on in that

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<v Speaker 4>school in the seventies and the early eighties, and then

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<v Speaker 4>the way teachers treated like school captains and students, and

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<v Speaker 4>it was really full on, and they were like, you

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<v Speaker 4>could share this story, please help me.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh god, and I'd be like, oh, you have to

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<v Speaker 1>call the police, absolutely.

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<v Speaker 4>And then I just had a breakdown.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, oh no, that is everyone people.

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<v Speaker 4>That was full on. Thankfully, no more emotional breakdowns for Christian.

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<v Speaker 4>We'll just internalize it all and push it dat