Speaker 1: Matt, you are looking absolutely glowing today. What's your secret?
Speaker 2: Well, Anna, I've been using this new hydrating tanning myss
Speaker 2: called doldy b with two e's.
Speaker 1: I have to check it out. I've never heard of it.
Speaker 2: Go to their instagram.
Speaker 1: I want the fairy tale. I want the prince charming
Speaker 1: she how.
Speaker 2: Do I put? This? Isn't a fan of my kissing.
Speaker 1: Style boyfriend and girlfriend for about twelve hours. He's in
Speaker 1: a trash bit. He's non recyclable. Catching him mu.
Speaker 2: I love being love. I love love.
Speaker 1: He's just rubbing it in, filled.
Speaker 2: With champagne, oysters and sex.
Speaker 1: So good to know, Good to know, Matt. Where's Your
Speaker 1: Head At?
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Speaker 1: Good morning, Good morning. You are currently in the Mold
Speaker 1: Dives with mister is Live. Very jealous.
Speaker 2: I am very excited, Anna, I cannot wait to get
Speaker 2: over to the Mold Dives. I was doing a little
Speaker 2: bit of a searching up on it, and I am
Speaker 2: I didn't expect what I expected, Like they're all like
Speaker 2: exec exect. Yeah, like I didn't expect. I've never thought
Speaker 2: about it, and I looked at it and I was like,
Speaker 2: this is going to be amazing. So if you're listening
Speaker 2: to this right now, head over to my Instagram and
Speaker 2: see all the fun that I'm having. And I'm sorry
Speaker 2: if you get jealous.
Speaker 3: Well, do you know what's funny is I've obviously been
Speaker 3: looking for good honeymoon locations because I get married very
Speaker 3: very soon, and the Mold Dives was on our list
Speaker 3: and I was looking and doing some research on it,
Speaker 3: and it said that the Mold Dives is the most
Speaker 3: expensive location that you can.
Speaker 1: Go to on your honeymoon.
Speaker 2: How do you feel about that, well, Future Matte, Sorry,
Speaker 2: sorry no, well, I yeah, apparently it is very expensive.
Speaker 2: I am. I actually organize a surprise for Tammy. So
Speaker 2: when we get there, I've organized a dinner and it
Speaker 2: just showed you the photo of it. It's going to
Speaker 2: be like candlelit love heart, you know, and we're going
Speaker 2: to sit on this exclusive beach, just the two of us,
Speaker 2: really really romantic.
Speaker 3: It does look so cute, Like I'm actually so shocked,
Speaker 3: like I don't know, you're quite a romantic guy.
Speaker 1: But this is like quite a big gesture. What I
Speaker 1: will ask is like it kind of looks.
Speaker 3: Like a proposal site like that, I reckon a lot
Speaker 3: of people can't propose there.
Speaker 2: She might think that, like, never, is.
Speaker 1: There something that you bought that you haven't told everyone.
Speaker 2: I don't know, but never say never, Anna, I don't know.
Speaker 2: It is very romantic and very proposal. I was looking
Speaker 2: at it and I was like, jeez, this is as
Speaker 2: proposal as it comes.
Speaker 1: Maybe you should like preface that so she doesn't get
Speaker 1: disappointed when we walk up to it. I mean, it's
Speaker 1: it's still very early on my very very early still.
Speaker 2: I also organized because we love watching movies together projector
Speaker 2: on the beach. So we both sit there and we're
Speaker 2: on I don't know, we're on like a nice like
Speaker 2: picnic thing, and we watch a movie together. And I've
Speaker 2: decided that we're going to watch Avengers because we both
Speaker 2: love the Marvel University Avengers and we're gonna watches there
Speaker 2: so they'll be cute as well.
Speaker 3: So there's two little surprises for her. So she's not
Speaker 3: allowed to listen to this until that happens. But my
Speaker 3: turn on of the week is actually the fact that
Speaker 3: Michael and I want to travel and we're thinking about
Speaker 3: booking Japan. We don't know when specifically, but we want
Speaker 3: a book soon. It's been on both of our bucket lists.
Speaker 2: When are you thinking about going? So go for like
Speaker 2: cherry blossom season April. My sister just got back from
Speaker 2: and with her fiance and she said it was amazing.
Speaker 3: But then I haven't done like a cold holiday, so
Speaker 3: I feel like a January could be like really fun,
Speaker 3: like doing like a snow holiday. I also, Michael and
Speaker 3: I haven't been anywhere together that we have never been,
Speaker 3: and I think that's just different gravy of travel when
Speaker 3: you go with your partner to somewhere that you haven't
Speaker 3: been and you're.
Speaker 2: Both experiencing new experiences together.
Speaker 3: Yeah, correct, Yeah, And I think like we are also
Speaker 3: going on a couple's holiday with your girlfriend and with
Speaker 3: my fiance.
Speaker 1: In February, we are too.
Speaker 2: We're going on a cruise and adults only cruise. That's
Speaker 2: going to be so much fun.
Speaker 1: Yeah, with Virgin Australia.
Speaker 3: They have their big cruise ship and yeah, we're going
Speaker 3: to do Melbourne to Tasmania and Tasmania back.
Speaker 1: I feel like that's going to be heaps of fun.
Speaker 3: It will be, yeah, And that's also kind of like
Speaker 3: that different gravy of like we're all doing this experience
Speaker 3: together for the first time, Like.
Speaker 1: It will be heaps of fun.
Speaker 2: Yeah. I haven't been and Tamy hasn't been on a
Speaker 2: cruise before, so I'm really excited.
Speaker 3: I have been on a cruise actually, but not this
Speaker 3: cruise and not to Tasmania set.
Speaker 2: That should be fun. Well, my turn on for the week, obviously,
Speaker 2: is that I'm in the mold Ives and I'm in
Speaker 2: the sun and I'm having a very romantic trip.
Speaker 1: He's just rubbing it in.
Speaker 2: Filled with champagne and sex. So good to know.
Speaker 1: Good to know, Matt.
Speaker 2: And my turn off this week is I do not
Speaker 2: have one, such a duck. What do I have to
Speaker 2: be turned off about?
Speaker 3: What? I'm happy for you, enjoy your holiday, see you
Speaker 3: when you get back.
Speaker 2: What is your turnoff? Anna?
Speaker 3: Okay, So my turnoff for the week, other than the
Speaker 3: fact that I'm not in the mold Ives because mold
Speaker 3: Ives looks like Heaven, is that I think I have misophonia.
Speaker 2: Huh. So.
Speaker 3: Miss Aphonia is a disorder in which certain you can
Speaker 3: read minds. Misophonia is a disorder in which certain sounds
Speaker 3: trigger emotional or physiological responses that some might perceive as.
Speaker 1: Unreasonable given the circumstances.
Speaker 3: So, for instance, if Michael's eating dinner and there's no
Speaker 3: like TV on the on in the background, or there's
Speaker 3: no music, like I love eating dinner with music on
Speaker 3: in the background because I hate the sound of chewing
Speaker 3: and other.
Speaker 1: Sounds as well.
Speaker 3: So for instance, Matt and I had a meeting this
Speaker 3: week and there was this guy walking past us and
Speaker 3: he literally gagged, like you know when people like clear
Speaker 3: their throat, but it's like a I'm not even gonna
Speaker 3: make the sound because it's giving me growing.
Speaker 2: And I even looked at him said yeah, we.
Speaker 3: Both did, because it was honestly so like I can't
Speaker 3: even believe how rude that was, as he was directly
Speaker 3: fast us, Like I was just like.
Speaker 1: Imagining all the green flamed.
Speaker 3: Yuck anyway, and I just think I definitely have misophonia.
Speaker 2: Does that go as far as saying that you hear
Speaker 2: like a horn tuting and you go oh and you
Speaker 2: get like shivered.
Speaker 3: Well, if like someone scrapes the bottom of their plate
Speaker 3: with like a fork or something, or like chalk on
Speaker 3: a chalkboard.
Speaker 2: I've got it. I've got We went to the beach
Speaker 2: the other day and I said to I said to
Speaker 2: Tommy and the kids, I was like, I hate the
Speaker 2: noise when you're like your feet like squishing the dry sands,
Speaker 2: So do I. So the kids thought they were funny
Speaker 2: and they started doing it, and I was like, oh,
Speaker 2: I like, ran, I can't do that, Like it does
Speaker 2: my head and that make gives me shivers.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm like a full blown like even right now
Speaker 3: just talking about this with you guys, and like talking
Speaker 3: about the fact that these noises like irk me up
Speaker 3: the wrong way, Like it's giving me the chills, it's
Speaker 3: giving me the goosebumps.
Speaker 1: Let's go over to our Facebook page, guys. Is this normal?
Speaker 1: Like I need to know.
Speaker 2: Is there any other noises that make them give them
Speaker 2: the shivers as well? What noises give them?
Speaker 1: We want to hear from you guys. Let us know. Okay,
Speaker 1: matt have you heard of the term bedrotting?
Speaker 2: What does that mean? Doesn't mean like when your mattress
Speaker 2: is like overdue to be replaced and it's rotting away
Speaker 2: or your puows.
Speaker 1: Well, it's gen Z's newest trend.
Speaker 3: And yeah, it's basically like you're hungover on a Sunday
Speaker 3: and you just want to stay in bed all day. Actually,
Speaker 3: I don't even think you need to be hung over
Speaker 3: on a Sunday. It's just like you're feeling anxious, stressed,
Speaker 3: you need some me time and you stay in bed
Speaker 3: all day.
Speaker 2: That sounds like absolute heaven. Just staying just laying, well,
Speaker 2: I call.
Speaker 1: It layan lay in your own term.
Speaker 2: Yeah, mates, go like what are you doing? And you
Speaker 2: just be like the laying. Yeah, just laying scrolling and
Speaker 2: that I love doing that. What about watching a TV series?
Speaker 2: Because the other day we were hung over in bed
Speaker 2: and we genuinely, genuinely watch Season five of Friends from
Speaker 2: start to finish, And I wouldn't call that bed rolling.
Speaker 2: I'd call that a good fucking.
Speaker 1: Time before they're getting done.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm going that at an amazing time.
Speaker 3: I mean yeah, Like, there's obviously a happy medium. The
Speaker 3: thing is is that back in the olden days, people
Speaker 3: weren't bed rotting because they didn't have devices to keep
Speaker 3: them occupied. Right Like, if you didn't have your phone
Speaker 3: and you didn't have a TV in front of you,
Speaker 3: you're only going to stay in there for an hour
Speaker 3: and then you'd be like, I'm bored.
Speaker 2: Read the newspaper. But you have to get the newspaper.
Speaker 2: The newspaper, you have to get it to.
Speaker 3: Get well, Like you can't just get uber eats. You'd
Speaker 3: have to at some point get up to cook a meal.
Speaker 3: Like everything is so accessible to us. And that's why
Speaker 3: bed rotting is the new crate. It's a new thing,
Speaker 3: or at least people are now talking about it.
Speaker 2: So what are they is it against? Like does it
Speaker 2: affect mental health? Like's the what's the problem with bedrolling?
Speaker 2: Because I can't see anything wrong with it.
Speaker 3: I think that if I said in bed past four
Speaker 3: pm and I was in bed the whole day, my
Speaker 3: mental health would take.
Speaker 1: A serious, serious dive to the ground.
Speaker 3: I would not be able to mentally cope with it.
Speaker 3: Like I need vitamin D, I need some like I
Speaker 3: need fresh air.
Speaker 2: I don't know about you, but I need to achieve
Speaker 2: something totally. My mates to live with all my mates,
Speaker 2: they would my mate day on, my best mate would
Speaker 2: be like, it's so weird when I'm hungover because yeah,
Speaker 2: I'm doing nothing, but I'm always making moves. It's like
Speaker 2: the weirdest thing ever I'm not doing anything, but I'm
Speaker 2: doing stuff. I can so confused at what I'm doing
Speaker 2: and even what the fuck is going on.
Speaker 3: It used to be my pet hate with Michael. So
Speaker 3: when we started dating, we would like, I mean, we
Speaker 3: were like drinking a lot because we were like in
Speaker 3: honeymoon phase and we'd get drunk together and like, you know,
Speaker 3: do shots and blah blah blah. Anyway, I don't pull
Speaker 3: up well after a night of drinking. Michael, on the
Speaker 3: other hand, like it would hit like eleven am and
Speaker 3: he was up, like he was like what are we doing?
Speaker 1: And I was like, I'm dying, Like fuck off, be alone.
Speaker 2: Let me in bed alone. And what is the best way
Speaker 2: that you have found to get over an X or
Speaker 2: someone that you even like in a situation ship? Because
Speaker 2: I've been seeing stuff and people like getting over a
Speaker 2: situationship is worse than getting over an X.
Speaker 3: I mean sometimes it is like because do you know
Speaker 3: why I reckon it is because you put them on
Speaker 3: a pedestal and you don't get to know them enough
Speaker 3: to see all of their bad qualities. So you literally
Speaker 3: see them as this like angel person who's perfect for you.
Speaker 3: They've never done anything wrong.
Speaker 2: Technically you're still in the honeymoon stage.
Speaker 3: As well, completely in the honeymoon stage, and like they're
Speaker 3: annoying habits. You haven't got to know them enough to
Speaker 3: know what they are, so you can't like sit at
Speaker 3: home and go, well, you know they did this that
Speaker 3: annoyed me because literally nothing about them anoisy. So in
Speaker 3: your mind they're like, you're like, they're perfect for me,
Speaker 3: but actually they're not.
Speaker 2: In reality, they're not, because you'd still be with them
Speaker 2: if they were exactly.
Speaker 3: I think, and I've said this before and I'll say
Speaker 3: it again, the best way to get over someone is
Speaker 3: to write yourself a letter. So, dear adda, this is
Speaker 3: all of the reasons why you should not be with
Speaker 3: this person, and then you literally list all of their
Speaker 3: negative attributes.
Speaker 1: I told you to do this with your ex, and.
Speaker 2: You well, I started to do it on my phone
Speaker 2: and I got through a couple and then like my
Speaker 2: ADHD kicked in, something messaged me or something popped up
Speaker 2: and I got distracted.
Speaker 1: That's not an excuse go back to it.
Speaker 2: I never went back to it, but yeah, you kept
Speaker 2: hounding me to do that.
Speaker 3: I was like, did you do the letter to yourself?
Speaker 3: And you're like not, Yeah, I'll get on it soon.
Speaker 2: I'm like, fucking is that your impersonation of me? Yeah?
Speaker 1: It was pretty bad.
Speaker 3: I'm going to just call myself out, but that was trash.
Speaker 1: How do you get over someone that well?
Speaker 2: I was a huge to get on here, or I
Speaker 2: used to say, and when we had break up episodes
Speaker 2: about that. I didn't believe in no contact. I still
Speaker 2: obviously would love to remain, not love to, but I
Speaker 2: would remain friends with my exes. I always thought that
Speaker 2: that was the most civil, most mature way of ending
Speaker 2: a relationship, to stay on good terms. Yeah, like I
Speaker 2: don't maybe so, I don't want anyone to hate me,
Speaker 2: But I just don't think that. You know, I don't
Speaker 2: like hate, and I don't.
Speaker 3: You have a bit of rejection anxiety as well that
Speaker 3: as well place of fact people.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but like someone, it's just no point hating. I
Speaker 2: don't have time to hate people, let alone someone that
Speaker 2: you know you want to like. I don't want to
Speaker 2: hate them. I don't want them to hate me, So
Speaker 2: I'd always try and make it civil. But I strongly
Speaker 2: believe now that no contact is the best way to go.
Speaker 1: No contact is the only way to go really well.
Speaker 2: In saying that, do the no contact on mutual terms,
Speaker 2: on civil mature terms. But you don't need to stay
Speaker 2: friendly with them. You don't need to chat to them,
Speaker 2: you don't need to catch up with them. You just
Speaker 2: need no contact. Like, hey, this didn't work.
Speaker 3: Unless there's like kids or something else in where you
Speaker 3: have to see them.
Speaker 1: Or if there's a property or whatever it is.
Speaker 3: We realize that life is complicated and not always straightforward,
Speaker 3: but of course there are no ties to them. The
Speaker 3: best quickest way for you to get over them is
Speaker 3: just go no contact anyway.
Speaker 2: It can be hard at the start, but you've got
Speaker 2: to power through.
Speaker 3: I saw this trend on TikTok and this I thought
Speaker 3: this was hilarious. It was a trend that helps you
Speaker 3: get over people because obviously we both know it's sometimes
Speaker 3: so hard to move on. So it goes a little
Speaker 3: something like this, It goes you miss them. Let me
Speaker 3: help you imagine them first one sitting on a toilet.
Speaker 2: I want to get over them. So you get the
Speaker 2: ear closed, you get the.
Speaker 3: Eke a little bit like you're like, oh that's a
Speaker 3: bit yucky, Like you know, they're.
Speaker 2: Like scrolling their TikTok the toilets, scrolling on TikTok, keep.
Speaker 1: It vulnerable in there. Then number two face.
Speaker 2: Time my girlfriend on the toilet. Sometimes you well, I
Speaker 2: will answer it and I'll be like, hey, I'm just
Speaker 2: going to wrap something up.
Speaker 1: What and your mid shit, Well, we'll probably.
Speaker 2: On the back end of it.
Speaker 1: Okay, let me help you.
Speaker 3: Imagine them telling a joke in a group and nobody laughs,
Speaker 3: so they have to explain the joke to everyone and
Speaker 3: still nobody laughs.
Speaker 1: It's so.
Speaker 2: Alright. I've got one playing ping pong and they run
Speaker 2: after the ball but they can't catch it. So imagine
Speaker 2: them like fumbling over their.
Speaker 1: Hands and they're like crouched down running.
Speaker 2: Imagine me at like my height as well, trying to
Speaker 2: do it.
Speaker 1: Such an ick.
Speaker 3: Okay, playing crack the egg on a trampoline and he's
Speaker 3: the egg.
Speaker 1: I don't get that.
Speaker 2: So remember like when you're a kid, and imagine a
Speaker 2: fully grown adult on a trampoline. But then if they're
Speaker 2: playing with the kids, that's a fair bump. You know
Speaker 2: how you tuck in and you hold your legs and
Speaker 2: you bounce around and you got to try and hold
Speaker 2: yourself together as you hit the train, so he's just, oh,
Speaker 2: that is y, I've got another one. You miss them? Well,
Speaker 2: let me help you. Imagine them holding one finger in
Speaker 2: the air as they correct you on your grammar, so
Speaker 2: like stopping you like, no, no, that's awful. I reckon
Speaker 2: I might have done that, Not on grammar because I'm dyslexic,
Speaker 2: but correcting somebody on something.
Speaker 3: Okay, last one going for a morning walk and they
Speaker 3: get one of those snot bubbles forming in their nose.
Speaker 2: I've actually read one here and I used to do that.
Speaker 2: So what pointing at something with their big toe.
Speaker 1: You did not do that, For the love of God,
Speaker 1: tell me you did not do that. What were you
Speaker 1: pointing at?
Speaker 2: I was at the beach, like flicking through like the shells,
Speaker 2: trying to find a shell, and I was doing it
Speaker 2: with my foot.
Speaker 1: But what were you pointing out.
Speaker 2: Just like shells, like oh, look at that shell with
Speaker 2: your big Joe.
Speaker 3: Okay, Matt, red flag, green flag. When they aren't as
Speaker 3: funny as they think they are and they laugh at
Speaker 3: their own.
Speaker 2: Jokes, I feel personally victimized here.
Speaker 1: Because you do laugh at all of your.
Speaker 2: Own joke, and I think I'm as funny as I
Speaker 2: think I am No, I don't. I think it's a
Speaker 2: green flag. Like if your partner's laughing at their own joke,
Speaker 2: so I'd find it endearing and cute.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think so.
Speaker 3: I think if it's your partner, then it's a green flag.
Speaker 3: It's fine because I feel like if that gave you
Speaker 3: the ek, then you wouldn't be with them, right.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: But if it's just a random person, like a friend
Speaker 3: or something, and they think they're hilarious and they laugh
Speaker 3: at their own jokes, I think that still could be endearing.
Speaker 1: Let's just say it's a.
Speaker 2: Random then it could be a bit like, well, don't
Speaker 2: tell me a joke. If you're a random, I'm the
Speaker 2: funny in the situation, not you. Ego centralis, I'm cracking
Speaker 2: the joke. You know your roll in the conversation?
Speaker 1: Who I do you think?
Speaker 3: You?
Speaker 4: Thank you so much for listening to another episode of
Speaker 4: Where I Had At. I'm producer Blake. We have Matt
Speaker 4: on his way back from the Maldives as we speak,
Speaker 4: and we'll be back to regular programming as of next week.
Speaker 4: Can't wait to see you then,