WEBVTT - BED ROTTING AND FOOLPROOF WAYS TO GET OVER AN EX

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<v Speaker 1>Matt, you are looking absolutely glowing today. What's your secret?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, Anna, I've been using this new hydrating tanning myss

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<v Speaker 2>called doldy b with two e's.

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<v Speaker 1>I have to check it out. I've never heard of it.

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<v Speaker 2>Go to their instagram.

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<v Speaker 1>I want the fairy tale. I want the prince charming

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<v Speaker 1>she how.

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<v Speaker 2>Do I put? This? Isn't a fan of my kissing.

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<v Speaker 1>Style boyfriend and girlfriend for about twelve hours. He's in

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<v Speaker 1>a trash bit. He's non recyclable. Catching him mu.

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<v Speaker 2>I love being love. I love love.

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<v Speaker 1>He's just rubbing it in, filled.

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<v Speaker 2>With champagne, oysters and sex.

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<v Speaker 1>So good to know, Good to know, Matt. Where's Your

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<v Speaker 1>Good morning, Good morning. You are currently in the Mold

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<v Speaker 1>Dives with mister is Live. Very jealous.

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<v Speaker 2>I am very excited, Anna, I cannot wait to get

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<v Speaker 2>over to the Mold Dives. I was doing a little

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<v Speaker 2>bit of a searching up on it, and I am

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't expect what I expected, Like they're all like

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<v Speaker 2>exec exect. Yeah, like I didn't expect. I've never thought

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<v Speaker 2>about it, and I looked at it and I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>this is going to be amazing. So if you're listening

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<v Speaker 2>to this right now, head over to my Instagram and

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<v Speaker 2>see all the fun that I'm having. And I'm sorry

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<v Speaker 2>if you get jealous.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, do you know what's funny is I've obviously been

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<v Speaker 3>looking for good honeymoon locations because I get married very

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<v Speaker 3>very soon, and the Mold Dives was on our list

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<v Speaker 3>and I was looking and doing some research on it,

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<v Speaker 3>and it said that the Mold Dives is the most

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<v Speaker 3>expensive location that you can.

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<v Speaker 1>Go to on your honeymoon.

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<v Speaker 2>How do you feel about that, well, Future Matte, Sorry,

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<v Speaker 2>sorry no, well, I yeah, apparently it is very expensive.

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<v Speaker 2>I am. I actually organize a surprise for Tammy. So

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<v Speaker 2>when we get there, I've organized a dinner and it

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<v Speaker 2>just showed you the photo of it. It's going to

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<v Speaker 2>be like candlelit love heart, you know, and we're going

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<v Speaker 2>to sit on this exclusive beach, just the two of us,

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<v Speaker 2>really really romantic.

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<v Speaker 3>It does look so cute, Like I'm actually so shocked,

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<v Speaker 3>like I don't know, you're quite a romantic guy.

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<v Speaker 1>But this is like quite a big gesture. What I

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<v Speaker 1>will ask is like it kind of looks.

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<v Speaker 3>Like a proposal site like that, I reckon a lot

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<v Speaker 3>of people can't propose there.

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<v Speaker 2>She might think that, like, never, is.

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<v Speaker 1>There something that you bought that you haven't told everyone.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know, but never say never, Anna, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>It is very romantic and very proposal. I was looking

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<v Speaker 2>at it and I was like, jeez, this is as

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<v Speaker 2>proposal as it comes.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe you should like preface that so she doesn't get

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<v Speaker 1>disappointed when we walk up to it. I mean, it's

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<v Speaker 1>it's still very early on my very very early still.

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<v Speaker 2>I also organized because we love watching movies together projector

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<v Speaker 2>on the beach. So we both sit there and we're

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<v Speaker 2>on I don't know, we're on like a nice like

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<v Speaker 2>picnic thing, and we watch a movie together. And I've

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<v Speaker 2>decided that we're going to watch Avengers because we both

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<v Speaker 2>love the Marvel University Avengers and we're gonna watches there

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<v Speaker 2>so they'll be cute as well.

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<v Speaker 3>So there's two little surprises for her. So she's not

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<v Speaker 3>allowed to listen to this until that happens. But my

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<v Speaker 3>turn on of the week is actually the fact that

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<v Speaker 3>Michael and I want to travel and we're thinking about

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<v Speaker 3>booking Japan. We don't know when specifically, but we want

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<v Speaker 3>a book soon. It's been on both of our bucket lists.

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<v Speaker 2>When are you thinking about going? So go for like

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<v Speaker 2>cherry blossom season April. My sister just got back from

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<v Speaker 2>and with her fiance and she said it was amazing.

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<v Speaker 3>But then I haven't done like a cold holiday, so

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<v Speaker 3>I feel like a January could be like really fun,

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<v Speaker 3>like doing like a snow holiday. I also, Michael and

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<v Speaker 3>I haven't been anywhere together that we have never been,

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<v Speaker 3>and I think that's just different gravy of travel when

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<v Speaker 3>you go with your partner to somewhere that you haven't

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<v Speaker 3>been and you're.

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<v Speaker 2>Both experiencing new experiences together.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, correct, Yeah, And I think like we are also

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<v Speaker 3>going on a couple's holiday with your girlfriend and with

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<v Speaker 3>my fiance.

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<v Speaker 1>In February, we are too.

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<v Speaker 2>We're going on a cruise and adults only cruise. That's

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<v Speaker 2>going to be so much fun.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, with Virgin Australia.

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<v Speaker 3>They have their big cruise ship and yeah, we're going

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<v Speaker 3>to do Melbourne to Tasmania and Tasmania back.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like that's going to be heaps of fun.

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<v Speaker 3>It will be, yeah, And that's also kind of like

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<v Speaker 3>that different gravy of like we're all doing this experience

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<v Speaker 3>together for the first time, Like.

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<v Speaker 1>It will be heaps of fun.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. I haven't been and Tamy hasn't been on a

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<v Speaker 2>cruise before, so I'm really excited.

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<v Speaker 3>I have been on a cruise actually, but not this

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<v Speaker 3>cruise and not to Tasmania set.

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<v Speaker 2>That should be fun. Well, my turn on for the week, obviously,

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<v Speaker 2>is that I'm in the mold Ives and I'm in

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<v Speaker 2>the sun and I'm having a very romantic trip.

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<v Speaker 1>He's just rubbing it in.

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<v Speaker 2>Filled with champagne and sex. So good to know.

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<v Speaker 1>Good to know, Matt.

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<v Speaker 2>And my turn off this week is I do not

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<v Speaker 2>have one, such a duck. What do I have to

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<v Speaker 2>be turned off about?

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<v Speaker 3>What? I'm happy for you, enjoy your holiday, see you

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<v Speaker 3>when you get back.

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<v Speaker 2>What is your turnoff? Anna?

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, So my turnoff for the week, other than the

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<v Speaker 3>fact that I'm not in the mold Ives because mold

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<v Speaker 3>Ives looks like Heaven, is that I think I have misophonia.

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<v Speaker 2>Huh. So.

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<v Speaker 3>Miss Aphonia is a disorder in which certain you can

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<v Speaker 3>read minds. Misophonia is a disorder in which certain sounds

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<v Speaker 3>trigger emotional or physiological responses that some might perceive as.

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<v Speaker 1>Unreasonable given the circumstances.

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<v Speaker 3>So, for instance, if Michael's eating dinner and there's no

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<v Speaker 3>like TV on the on in the background, or there's

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<v Speaker 3>no music, like I love eating dinner with music on

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<v Speaker 3>in the background because I hate the sound of chewing

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<v Speaker 3>and other.

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<v Speaker 1>Sounds as well.

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<v Speaker 3>So for instance, Matt and I had a meeting this

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<v Speaker 3>week and there was this guy walking past us and

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<v Speaker 3>he literally gagged, like you know when people like clear

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<v Speaker 3>their throat, but it's like a I'm not even gonna

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<v Speaker 3>make the sound because it's giving me growing.

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<v Speaker 2>And I even looked at him said yeah, we.

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<v Speaker 3>Both did, because it was honestly so like I can't

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<v Speaker 3>even believe how rude that was, as he was directly

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<v Speaker 3>fast us, Like I was just like.

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<v Speaker 1>Imagining all the green flamed.

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<v Speaker 3>Yuck anyway, and I just think I definitely have misophonia.

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<v Speaker 2>Does that go as far as saying that you hear

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<v Speaker 2>like a horn tuting and you go oh and you

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<v Speaker 2>get like shivered.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, if like someone scrapes the bottom of their plate

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<v Speaker 3>with like a fork or something, or like chalk on

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<v Speaker 3>a chalkboard.

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<v Speaker 2>I've got it. I've got We went to the beach

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<v Speaker 2>the other day and I said to I said to

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<v Speaker 2>Tommy and the kids, I was like, I hate the

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<v Speaker 2>noise when you're like your feet like squishing the dry sands,

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<v Speaker 2>So do I. So the kids thought they were funny

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<v Speaker 2>and they started doing it, and I was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>I like, ran, I can't do that, Like it does

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<v Speaker 2>my head and that make gives me shivers.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I'm like a full blown like even right now

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<v Speaker 3>just talking about this with you guys, and like talking

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<v Speaker 3>about the fact that these noises like irk me up

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<v Speaker 3>the wrong way, Like it's giving me the chills, it's

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<v Speaker 3>giving me the goosebumps.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's go over to our Facebook page, guys. Is this normal?

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<v Speaker 1>Like I need to know.

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<v Speaker 2>Is there any other noises that make them give them

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<v Speaker 2>the shivers as well? What noises give them?

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<v Speaker 1>We want to hear from you guys. Let us know. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>matt have you heard of the term bedrotting?

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<v Speaker 2>What does that mean? Doesn't mean like when your mattress

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<v Speaker 2>is like overdue to be replaced and it's rotting away

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<v Speaker 2>or your puows.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, it's gen Z's newest trend.

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<v Speaker 3>And yeah, it's basically like you're hungover on a Sunday

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<v Speaker 3>and you just want to stay in bed all day. Actually,

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<v Speaker 3>I don't even think you need to be hung over

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<v Speaker 3>on a Sunday. It's just like you're feeling anxious, stressed,

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<v Speaker 3>you need some me time and you stay in bed

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<v Speaker 3>all day.

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<v Speaker 2>That sounds like absolute heaven. Just staying just laying, well,

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<v Speaker 2>I call.

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<v Speaker 1>It layan lay in your own term.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, mates, go like what are you doing? And you

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<v Speaker 2>just be like the laying. Yeah, just laying scrolling and

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<v Speaker 2>that I love doing that. What about watching a TV series?

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<v Speaker 2>Because the other day we were hung over in bed

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<v Speaker 2>and we genuinely, genuinely watch Season five of Friends from

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<v Speaker 2>start to finish, And I wouldn't call that bed rolling.

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<v Speaker 2>I'd call that a good fucking.

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<v Speaker 1>Time before they're getting done.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I'm going that at an amazing time.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean yeah, Like, there's obviously a happy medium. The

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<v Speaker 3>thing is is that back in the olden days, people

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<v Speaker 3>weren't bed rotting because they didn't have devices to keep

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<v Speaker 3>them occupied. Right Like, if you didn't have your phone

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<v Speaker 3>and you didn't have a TV in front of you,

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<v Speaker 3>you're only going to stay in there for an hour

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<v Speaker 3>and then you'd be like, I'm bored.

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<v Speaker 2>Read the newspaper. But you have to get the newspaper.

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<v Speaker 2>The newspaper, you have to get it to.

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<v Speaker 3>Get well, Like you can't just get uber eats. You'd

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<v Speaker 3>have to at some point get up to cook a meal.

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<v Speaker 3>Like everything is so accessible to us. And that's why

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<v Speaker 3>bed rotting is the new crate. It's a new thing,

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<v Speaker 3>or at least people are now talking about it.

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<v Speaker 2>So what are they is it against? Like does it

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<v Speaker 2>affect mental health? Like's the what's the problem with bedrolling?

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<v Speaker 2>Because I can't see anything wrong with it.

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<v Speaker 3>I think that if I said in bed past four

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<v Speaker 3>pm and I was in bed the whole day, my

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<v Speaker 3>mental health would take.

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<v Speaker 1>A serious, serious dive to the ground.

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<v Speaker 3>I would not be able to mentally cope with it.

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<v Speaker 3>Like I need vitamin D, I need some like I

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<v Speaker 3>need fresh air.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know about you, but I need to achieve

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<v Speaker 2>something totally. My mates to live with all my mates,

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<v Speaker 2>they would my mate day on, my best mate would

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<v Speaker 2>be like, it's so weird when I'm hungover because yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm doing nothing, but I'm always making moves. It's like

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<v Speaker 2>the weirdest thing ever I'm not doing anything, but I'm

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<v Speaker 2>doing stuff. I can so confused at what I'm doing

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<v Speaker 2>and even what the fuck is going on.

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<v Speaker 3>It used to be my pet hate with Michael. So

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<v Speaker 3>when we started dating, we would like, I mean, we

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<v Speaker 3>were like drinking a lot because we were like in

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<v Speaker 3>honeymoon phase and we'd get drunk together and like, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>do shots and blah blah blah. Anyway, I don't pull

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<v Speaker 3>up well after a night of drinking. Michael, on the

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<v Speaker 3>other hand, like it would hit like eleven am and

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<v Speaker 3>he was up, like he was like what are we doing?

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<v Speaker 1>And I was like, I'm dying, Like fuck off, be alone.

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<v Speaker 2>Let me in bed alone. And what is the best way

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<v Speaker 2>that you have found to get over an X or

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<v Speaker 2>someone that you even like in a situation ship? Because

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<v Speaker 2>I've been seeing stuff and people like getting over a

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<v Speaker 2>situationship is worse than getting over an X.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean sometimes it is like because do you know

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<v Speaker 3>why I reckon it is because you put them on

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<v Speaker 3>a pedestal and you don't get to know them enough

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<v Speaker 3>to see all of their bad qualities. So you literally

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<v Speaker 3>see them as this like angel person who's perfect for you.

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<v Speaker 3>They've never done anything wrong.

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<v Speaker 2>Technically you're still in the honeymoon stage.

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<v Speaker 3>As well, completely in the honeymoon stage, and like they're

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<v Speaker 3>annoying habits. You haven't got to know them enough to

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<v Speaker 3>know what they are, so you can't like sit at

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<v Speaker 3>home and go, well, you know they did this that

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<v Speaker 3>annoyed me because literally nothing about them anoisy. So in

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<v Speaker 3>your mind they're like, you're like, they're perfect for me,

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<v Speaker 3>but actually they're not.

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<v Speaker 2>In reality, they're not, because you'd still be with them

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<v Speaker 2>if they were exactly.

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<v Speaker 3>I think, and I've said this before and I'll say

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<v Speaker 3>it again, the best way to get over someone is

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<v Speaker 3>to write yourself a letter. So, dear adda, this is

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<v Speaker 3>all of the reasons why you should not be with

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<v Speaker 3>this person, and then you literally list all of their

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<v Speaker 3>negative attributes.

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<v Speaker 1>I told you to do this with your ex, and.

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<v Speaker 2>You well, I started to do it on my phone

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<v Speaker 2>and I got through a couple and then like my

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<v Speaker 2>ADHD kicked in, something messaged me or something popped up

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<v Speaker 2>and I got distracted.

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<v Speaker 1>That's not an excuse go back to it.

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<v Speaker 2>I never went back to it, but yeah, you kept

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<v Speaker 2>hounding me to do that.

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, did you do the letter to yourself?

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<v Speaker 3>And you're like not, Yeah, I'll get on it soon.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, fucking is that your impersonation of me? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>It was pretty bad.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm going to just call myself out, but that was trash.

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<v Speaker 1>How do you get over someone that well?

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<v Speaker 2>I was a huge to get on here, or I

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<v Speaker 2>used to say, and when we had break up episodes

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<v Speaker 2>about that. I didn't believe in no contact. I still

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<v Speaker 2>obviously would love to remain, not love to, but I

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<v Speaker 2>would remain friends with my exes. I always thought that

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<v Speaker 2>that was the most civil, most mature way of ending

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<v Speaker 2>a relationship, to stay on good terms. Yeah, like I

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<v Speaker 2>don't maybe so, I don't want anyone to hate me,

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<v Speaker 2>But I just don't think that. You know, I don't

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<v Speaker 2>like hate, and I don't.

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<v Speaker 3>You have a bit of rejection anxiety as well that

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<v Speaker 3>as well place of fact people.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but like someone, it's just no point hating. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't have time to hate people, let alone someone that

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<v Speaker 2>you know you want to like. I don't want to

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<v Speaker 2>hate them. I don't want them to hate me, So

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<v Speaker 2>I'd always try and make it civil. But I strongly

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<v Speaker 2>believe now that no contact is the best way to go.

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<v Speaker 1>No contact is the only way to go really well.

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<v Speaker 2>In saying that, do the no contact on mutual terms,

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<v Speaker 2>on civil mature terms. But you don't need to stay

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<v Speaker 2>friendly with them. You don't need to chat to them,

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<v Speaker 2>you don't need to catch up with them. You just

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<v Speaker 2>need no contact. Like, hey, this didn't work.

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<v Speaker 3>Unless there's like kids or something else in where you

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<v Speaker 3>have to see them.

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<v Speaker 1>Or if there's a property or whatever it is.

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<v Speaker 3>We realize that life is complicated and not always straightforward,

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<v Speaker 3>but of course there are no ties to them. The

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<v Speaker 3>best quickest way for you to get over them is

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<v Speaker 3>just go no contact anyway.

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<v Speaker 2>It can be hard at the start, but you've got

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<v Speaker 2>to power through.

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<v Speaker 3>I saw this trend on TikTok and this I thought

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<v Speaker 3>this was hilarious. It was a trend that helps you

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<v Speaker 3>get over people because obviously we both know it's sometimes

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<v Speaker 3>so hard to move on. So it goes a little

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<v Speaker 3>something like this, It goes you miss them. Let me

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<v Speaker 3>help you imagine them first one sitting on a toilet.

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<v Speaker 2>I want to get over them. So you get the

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<v Speaker 2>ear closed, you get the.

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<v Speaker 3>Eke a little bit like you're like, oh that's a

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<v Speaker 3>bit yucky, Like you know, they're.

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<v Speaker 2>Like scrolling their TikTok the toilets, scrolling on TikTok, keep.

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<v Speaker 1>It vulnerable in there. Then number two face.

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<v Speaker 2>Time my girlfriend on the toilet. Sometimes you well, I

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<v Speaker 2>will answer it and I'll be like, hey, I'm just

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<v Speaker 2>going to wrap something up.

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<v Speaker 1>What and your mid shit, Well, we'll probably.

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<v Speaker 2>On the back end of it.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, let me help you.

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<v Speaker 3>Imagine them telling a joke in a group and nobody laughs,

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<v Speaker 3>so they have to explain the joke to everyone and

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<v Speaker 3>still nobody laughs.

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<v Speaker 1>It's so.

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<v Speaker 2>Alright. I've got one playing ping pong and they run

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<v Speaker 2>after the ball but they can't catch it. So imagine

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<v Speaker 2>them like fumbling over their.

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<v Speaker 1>Hands and they're like crouched down running.

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<v Speaker 2>Imagine me at like my height as well, trying to

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<v Speaker 2>do it.

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<v Speaker 1>Such an ick.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, playing crack the egg on a trampoline and he's

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<v Speaker 3>the egg.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't get that.

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<v Speaker 2>So remember like when you're a kid, and imagine a

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<v Speaker 2>fully grown adult on a trampoline. But then if they're

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<v Speaker 2>playing with the kids, that's a fair bump. You know

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<v Speaker 2>how you tuck in and you hold your legs and

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<v Speaker 2>you bounce around and you got to try and hold

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<v Speaker 2>yourself together as you hit the train, so he's just, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>that is y, I've got another one. You miss them? Well,

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<v Speaker 2>let me help you. Imagine them holding one finger in

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<v Speaker 2>the air as they correct you on your grammar, so

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<v Speaker 2>like stopping you like, no, no, that's awful. I reckon

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<v Speaker 2>I might have done that, Not on grammar because I'm dyslexic,

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<v Speaker 2>but correcting somebody on something.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, last one going for a morning walk and they

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<v Speaker 3>get one of those snot bubbles forming in their nose.

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<v Speaker 2>I've actually read one here and I used to do that.

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<v Speaker 2>So what pointing at something with their big toe.

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<v Speaker 1>You did not do that, For the love of God,

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<v Speaker 1>tell me you did not do that. What were you

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<v Speaker 1>pointing at?

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<v Speaker 2>I was at the beach, like flicking through like the shells,

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<v Speaker 2>trying to find a shell, and I was doing it

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<v Speaker 2>with my foot.

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<v Speaker 1>But what were you pointing out.

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<v Speaker 2>Just like shells, like oh, look at that shell with

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<v Speaker 2>your big Joe.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, Matt, red flag, green flag. When they aren't as

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<v Speaker 3>funny as they think they are and they laugh at

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<v Speaker 3>their own.

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<v Speaker 2>Jokes, I feel personally victimized here.

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<v Speaker 1>Because you do laugh at all of your.

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<v Speaker 2>Own joke, and I think I'm as funny as I

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<v Speaker 2>think I am No, I don't. I think it's a

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<v Speaker 2>green flag. Like if your partner's laughing at their own joke,

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<v Speaker 2>so I'd find it endearing and cute.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I think so.

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<v Speaker 3>I think if it's your partner, then it's a green flag.

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<v Speaker 3>It's fine because I feel like if that gave you

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<v Speaker 3>the ek, then you wouldn't be with them, right.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>But if it's just a random person, like a friend

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<v Speaker 3>or something, and they think they're hilarious and they laugh

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<v Speaker 3>at their own jokes, I think that still could be endearing.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's just say it's a.

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<v Speaker 2>Random then it could be a bit like, well, don't

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<v Speaker 2>tell me a joke. If you're a random, I'm the

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<v Speaker 2>funny in the situation, not you. Ego centralis, I'm cracking

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<v Speaker 2>the joke. You know your roll in the conversation?

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<v Speaker 1>Who I do you think?

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<v Speaker 3>You?

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<v Speaker 4>Thank you so much for listening to another episode of

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<v Speaker 4>Where I Had At. I'm producer Blake. We have Matt

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<v Speaker 4>on his way back from the Maldives as we speak,

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<v Speaker 4>and we'll be back to regular programming as of next week.

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<v Speaker 4>Can't wait to see you then,