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Speaker 1: City and with Kate Ritchie podcast What kind of man

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Speaker 1: are you?

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Speaker 2: Oh God?

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Speaker 3: Can I ask in what sense? Well?

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Speaker 1: Within a relationship? And that's what I want to talk

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Speaker 1: about this morning.

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Speaker 2: Unpack it.

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Speaker 1: You know a few ideas around how you take on

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Speaker 1: a relationship, because apparently it can be broken into three

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Speaker 1: different varieties of men when it comes to dating. This

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Speaker 1: is I'm talking about straight men here.

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Speaker 2: For Fitzy, I would say, as a lover, you'd be

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Speaker 2: a great dad.

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Speaker 1: I'm not saying love her.

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Speaker 2: It's not about.

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Speaker 3: It's not about that's the first thing that goes to

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Speaker 3: your mind.

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Speaker 1: I mean, look, love, sharing the love is sometimes a

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Speaker 1: part of relationship.

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Speaker 2: Intimacy as a lover, as a partner.

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Speaker 3: Can I take this seriously? We've been married fifteen years now,

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Speaker 3: going to give us seventeen years. One thing that I

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Speaker 3: have dropped off Katie is that loving. No, I just

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Speaker 3: don't tell her enough. I say it, I love for

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Speaker 3: you to her every morning before I leave to go

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Speaker 3: to work, what about it night before? No. But I

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Speaker 3: don't thank her enough for what she does for the family.

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Speaker 3: Oh No, I don't.

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Speaker 2: Well, because you take it for granted.

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Speaker 1: She's always done it, and she does it without you know, complaining.

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Speaker 1: I'm sure, but.

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Speaker 3: I used to. I used to do it all the time.

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Speaker 3: And you know what. The other thing as well, I

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Speaker 3: look at my old man, my old man, as he

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Speaker 3: got older, he that that sort of dropped off as well.

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Speaker 3: I don't know, do you know? But then I might

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Speaker 3: have to put up a sign around the house.

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Speaker 2: But you can't just go I've done, but thank you, no,

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Speaker 2: or you should have it now? Why don't you say?

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Speaker 3: Now, I just want to thank you for everything that

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Speaker 3: you've done for the family.

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Speaker 2: That's beautiful.

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Speaker 3: You know her day, it's Huey's day, it's his birthday.

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Speaker 3: Happy birthday here it was to Huey.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's so ultimately you need to thank her as well.

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Speaker 1: I suggest you print up a T shirt like the

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Speaker 1: winding one for Wednesday, wonderful Wednesday, win the week.

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Speaker 2: Nothing wonderful. I mean it is.

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Speaker 1: Wonderful, It is wonderful and just says thanks be Ja

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Speaker 1: and on the back as well. So when she's rolling

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Speaker 1: her eyes at you walking up the hallway because you

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Speaker 1: didn't say thanks, you get you got up. Thank you anyway,

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Speaker 1: this is a new study from Canadian scientists. So when

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Speaker 1: you're in a relationship with a woman you do fit

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Speaker 1: into to one of three. So maybe we can be

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Speaker 1: a bit more clear here and you can tell me

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Speaker 1: which one you are. He did like in depth interviews

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Speaker 1: with about one hundred blokes and how their relationships are

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Speaker 1: very very different, because it does it affects men's mental health,

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Speaker 1: they're well being depending on how they conduct themselves within

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Speaker 1: a relationship. Okay, here are the three. There's the neo traditionalist,

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Speaker 1: and they prefer their relationship to follow traditional gender roles

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Speaker 1: with them as the provider and protector. So for example,

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Speaker 1: they might say, you know, I take care of the bills,

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Speaker 1: and she takes care of the household, whether it be

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Speaker 1: you know, future kids or the cooking, traditional roles, very

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Speaker 1: very old school. Then we will move into the and

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Speaker 1: I'm not sure if this is how you pronounce it,

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Speaker 1: the egg eager littian.

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Speaker 3: Do you know galitarian.

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Speaker 2: It's not egg related, double g. He's not a mayonnaise

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Speaker 2: based not eagle eagle gal.

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Speaker 3: Oh god, I should have read this before.

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Speaker 1: Anyway, they are seeking this is good, this is pretty great.

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Speaker 1: They are seeking an equal partnership based on measurable give

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Speaker 1: and take on so both sides of the relationship are

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Speaker 1: essentially doing their bit on the same level. I've discussed

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Speaker 1: this with someone last night and they said that that

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Speaker 1: is actually impossible, isn't it.

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Speaker 2: Can I give you a breakdown for this story so far.

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Speaker 2: You're going to serve up three categorized your categories of men, right,

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Speaker 2: you serve up three of them. The expectation is to

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Speaker 2: be all of them? Oh wow?

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Speaker 1: But can you be the last one as well? The

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Speaker 1: progressive so they have conversations with their partner and they

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Speaker 1: want to build you know, what, what can I bring

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Speaker 1: to this relationship? What are you good at? What can

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Speaker 1: you bring to this relationship? And that's when it does

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Speaker 1: get to the bedroom because apparently the progressive is like

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Speaker 1: all about making every element of the relationship.

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Speaker 2: Because I think now as you know, how busy life is.

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Speaker 2: I mean all of us, we all have kids who're

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Speaker 2: all in relationships.

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Speaker 3: Not all of us.

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Speaker 2: I'm looking at us in.

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Speaker 3: The room, sorry, but everyone look okay.

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Speaker 2: And the challenge is making sure we have the time

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Speaker 2: to do these things. So I have to schedule in

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Speaker 2: at least on our schedule in time to sit down

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Speaker 2: and go, okay, well just one on one because we

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Speaker 2: don't have to get one on one time you put

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Speaker 2: your wife on, I put her, I diarize her.

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Speaker 1: You diarize her to diarize.

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Speaker 2: Then I look at it and go, Okay, when you've

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Speaker 2: done your duties, I'll get you to sit down here

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Speaker 2: just for five minutes, and I'll explain a couple of

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Speaker 2: basics about life and then you can get back to it.

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Speaker 1: Put that broom down, honey, come.

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Speaker 2: And come on the couch. I've been the traditionalist, right

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Speaker 2: and I've kept her safe, put security cameras in and stuff,

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Speaker 2: and I've supplied for the family because I've got a

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Speaker 2: job and I'm bringing in some bigies. And then right

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Speaker 2: she's comfortable, beds are made, she does her duties, and

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Speaker 2: then we sit down and talk. So I'm ticking off

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Speaker 2: all of these so called categories that you're trying to

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Speaker 2: put us in. She made you a cup of tea

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Speaker 2: in the sand which made me a coffee and a

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Speaker 2: sandwich and a sausage roll. But if you want to

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Speaker 2: go and label us by all means put us in

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Speaker 2: a category, But you are because you're reading out the

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Speaker 2: three types and you're trying to put us.

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Speaker 3: In when you put the mouthguard in that you snore

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Speaker 3: before you go to Ben. When does that go before

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Speaker 3: she off.

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Speaker 2: To her bedroom? That's love.

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Speaker 1: I didn't realize this was going to hit her. Nice,

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Speaker 1: so nice.

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Speaker 2: If you could just put some basic consideration into it

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Speaker 2: before you open your mouth.

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Speaker 1: I should know my place and not speak until I'm

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Speaker 1: spoken to you.

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Speaker 2: I'd love a coffee, to be honest.

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Speaker 3: Oh what of absolute pig? Don't talk to my Kate

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Speaker 3: like that, you rude pig.

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Speaker 1: I'm not yours.

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Speaker 2: Fits are my own person, jeez, sticking up? Where am

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Speaker 2: I working?

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Speaker 3: Dizzy and Wipper with Kate Ritchie is a Nova podcast.

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