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Speaker 1: So I'm sure everyone's heard like the law I mean birds, pigeons, pigeons,

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Speaker 1: Like I just also want to say, never once have

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Speaker 1: It's like this whole podcast has always been about you know,

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Speaker 1: So. Yes, we didn't actually break up, then what happened

437
00:19:09,960 --> 00:19:11,080
Speaker 1: to lead to our breakup, in.

438
00:19:11,040 --> 00:19:13,800
Speaker 2: My opinion, was far fucking worse than that.

439
00:19:14,840 --> 00:19:18,520
Speaker 1: And I'm just a girl and I only have so

440
00:19:18,800 --> 00:19:21,720
Speaker 1: much give in me before I'm going to fucking snap

441
00:19:22,080 --> 00:19:26,400
Speaker 1: as someone's talking about you, especially something that isn't true. You, well,

442
00:19:27,240 --> 00:19:30,000
Speaker 1: after what I've done for that fucking guy. Yeah, here's

443
00:19:30,080 --> 00:19:32,480
Speaker 1: something that is fucking true.

444
00:19:32,680 --> 00:19:34,840
Speaker 2: There you go. What can you say about that? It's

445
00:19:34,960 --> 00:19:36,360
Speaker 2: that is exactly how it went down.

446
00:19:38,560 --> 00:19:40,440
Speaker 1: You're gonna go tell people I'm doing that. Oh wait,

447
00:19:41,040 --> 00:19:44,760
Speaker 1: you already are. So this makes no difference in my life. Yeah, okay,

448
00:19:44,880 --> 00:19:48,399
Speaker 1: good riddans with you the best anyway, moving forward, I

449
00:19:48,440 --> 00:19:52,000
Speaker 1: feel like I have learned so much in those two relationships,

450
00:19:52,040 --> 00:19:54,879
Speaker 1: and I fully believe that my next one, you know,

451
00:19:55,119 --> 00:19:58,320
Speaker 1: I will not make the same mistakes again, and the

452
00:19:58,359 --> 00:20:00,840
Speaker 1: guy that I go for will not be the same

453
00:20:00,880 --> 00:20:01,760
Speaker 1: mistake again.

454
00:20:02,040 --> 00:20:02,240
Speaker 2: Yeah.

455
00:20:02,320 --> 00:20:04,480
Speaker 1: No, and even if they did, which because you can't

456
00:20:04,480 --> 00:20:05,840
Speaker 1: control the people, I feel like you know how to

457
00:20:05,840 --> 00:20:08,119
Speaker 1: handle it a lot better this. Yeah, And it's like

458
00:20:08,200 --> 00:20:10,719
Speaker 1: everyone like it is like, oh, why would you date him?

459
00:20:10,760 --> 00:20:12,560
Speaker 1: It's like I knew him since we were kids, like

460
00:20:12,600 --> 00:20:14,840
Speaker 1: we grew up together. So I didn't see him as

461
00:20:15,000 --> 00:20:18,000
Speaker 1: what everybody everyone else does. So it's like I didn't

462
00:20:18,000 --> 00:20:21,640
Speaker 1: go into it being like oh classic, like obviously he's

463
00:20:21,680 --> 00:20:23,720
Speaker 1: going to do this, Like you sometimes feel like it's

464
00:20:23,720 --> 00:20:25,960
Speaker 1: going to be you know, I've known him for so long,

465
00:20:26,040 --> 00:20:26,919
Speaker 1: it's going to be different.

466
00:20:27,200 --> 00:20:28,320
Speaker 2: Never is. So.

467
00:20:28,560 --> 00:20:32,320
Speaker 1: On another note, I had a menty bee quarter, a

468
00:20:32,320 --> 00:20:37,280
Speaker 1: life crisis pretty well immediately the moment I anyone, yeah,

469
00:20:37,320 --> 00:20:40,720
Speaker 1: almost instantly, almost instantly, and I have decided that I

470
00:20:40,760 --> 00:20:43,640
Speaker 1: think the right decision for me is to move, not move.

471
00:20:43,720 --> 00:20:44,120
Speaker 2: See.

472
00:20:44,200 --> 00:20:46,600
Speaker 1: I have a funny thing about people saying they're moving

473
00:20:46,720 --> 00:20:49,239
Speaker 1: somewhere when it's like, but you are very temporary. Well,

474
00:20:49,280 --> 00:20:53,439
Speaker 1: I'm going to live hopefully not hopefully. We're saying it

475
00:20:53,480 --> 00:20:56,240
Speaker 1: like it's happening. I'm living in New York for a

476
00:20:56,240 --> 00:20:58,240
Speaker 1: couple months next year. I don't know how long that's

477
00:20:58,280 --> 00:20:59,800
Speaker 1: going to be. I think I'm going to start with,

478
00:21:00,359 --> 00:21:02,080
Speaker 1: and then I kind of want to go to Europe.

479
00:21:02,560 --> 00:21:06,240
Speaker 1: Ideally it's April to June then Europe, and then I

480
00:21:06,280 --> 00:21:08,040
Speaker 1: want to come back and stay with another friend over

481
00:21:08,080 --> 00:21:09,440
Speaker 1: like Halloween and stuff.

482
00:21:09,160 --> 00:21:10,280
Speaker 2: Because in New York.

483
00:21:10,480 --> 00:21:14,040
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, And I just feel like, now that I've

484
00:21:14,080 --> 00:21:16,480
Speaker 1: got that in my mind, I'm like, that is such

485
00:21:16,520 --> 00:21:17,040
Speaker 1: a good move.

486
00:21:17,200 --> 00:21:18,880
Speaker 2: It feels like the right move. And when I was manified,

487
00:21:19,000 --> 00:21:19,840
Speaker 2: Halloween is.

488
00:21:20,160 --> 00:21:22,320
Speaker 1: October, end of October, so that's a long time to

489
00:21:22,320 --> 00:21:22,680
Speaker 1: be there.

490
00:21:22,840 --> 00:21:23,760
Speaker 2: It is a long time.

491
00:21:24,000 --> 00:21:25,600
Speaker 1: That's more than a couple of months. If I don't

492
00:21:25,640 --> 00:21:27,960
Speaker 1: like it, I don't stay. And I think that's you know,

493
00:21:28,160 --> 00:21:30,560
Speaker 1: I'll book you know, one way ticket there. I'm lucky

494
00:21:30,600 --> 00:21:33,639
Speaker 1: that I will have hopefully some friends there that I know,

495
00:21:33,840 --> 00:21:36,440
Speaker 1: And being in this world is almost really lucky because

496
00:21:36,440 --> 00:21:38,000
Speaker 1: you can kind of get in contact with people that

497
00:21:38,320 --> 00:21:40,119
Speaker 1: you see online that live there and like kind of

498
00:21:40,119 --> 00:21:41,040
Speaker 1: make friends with them.

499
00:21:41,160 --> 00:21:42,520
Speaker 2: But I just feel like I need to change.

500
00:21:42,560 --> 00:21:45,400
Speaker 1: I'm really stagnant in my life right now, and I'm

501
00:21:45,440 --> 00:21:48,400
Speaker 1: like seeing all these people live all these amazing lives

502
00:21:48,400 --> 00:21:50,840
Speaker 1: overseas and like Europe, I think Europe summer, and like

503
00:21:50,840 --> 00:21:52,720
Speaker 1: seeing all your friends like me in Europe like makes

504
00:21:52,720 --> 00:21:53,720
Speaker 1: you feel like what the fuck.

505
00:21:53,520 --> 00:21:55,320
Speaker 2: Am I doing? My hands aren't tied.

506
00:21:55,440 --> 00:21:57,280
Speaker 1: I'm so blessed to have a job that I can

507
00:21:57,800 --> 00:22:00,359
Speaker 1: do it from remote, like do it elsewhere. I'm like,

508
00:22:01,119 --> 00:22:02,560
Speaker 1: it scares the shit out of me. And that's why

509
00:22:02,560 --> 00:22:04,840
Speaker 1: I've never really considered it because like living in another country,

510
00:22:04,880 --> 00:22:07,080
Speaker 1: I never really knew if I could leave behind my

511
00:22:07,200 --> 00:22:10,800
Speaker 1: family and my friends and cat and my cat. But

512
00:22:10,880 --> 00:22:12,919
Speaker 1: Riley said, she'll look after my cat. Everyone, like, you

513
00:22:12,960 --> 00:22:14,160
Speaker 1: do not need to worry about Bobby.

514
00:22:14,200 --> 00:22:14,679
Speaker 2: That girl is.

515
00:22:14,920 --> 00:22:17,560
Speaker 1: All she does is just drop little poos everywhere. That's okay,

516
00:22:17,720 --> 00:22:19,680
Speaker 1: and eats. But she's like, she's like mummy, he said.

517
00:22:19,720 --> 00:22:22,640
Speaker 1: I don't drop little poos everywhere. I just also like eating.

518
00:22:24,320 --> 00:22:26,120
Speaker 2: She does she does.

519
00:22:26,359 --> 00:22:29,080
Speaker 1: That was one in my room and oh my god,

520
00:22:29,720 --> 00:22:33,440
Speaker 1: do you remember when we were younger, and like, oh,

521
00:22:34,080 --> 00:22:36,159
Speaker 1: I remember I came we came up from the movies

522
00:22:36,280 --> 00:22:39,160
Speaker 1: or something, and there was a human size poo on

523
00:22:39,200 --> 00:22:41,879
Speaker 1: my floor in my room. Yes, and it wasn't me,

524
00:22:42,840 --> 00:22:44,480
Speaker 1: but I and I knew it wasn't me because it

525
00:22:44,640 --> 00:22:47,320
Speaker 1: just wasn't me, and we could not figure out who

526
00:22:47,320 --> 00:22:47,600
Speaker 1: it wasn't.

527
00:22:47,600 --> 00:22:49,879
Speaker 2: Everyone's like, it's Georgie, your cat. That is not a

528
00:22:49,920 --> 00:22:51,240
Speaker 2: cat poo. That was a human poo.

529
00:22:51,480 --> 00:22:53,760
Speaker 1: And to this day we do not know who shot

530
00:22:53,800 --> 00:22:58,600
Speaker 1: in my room. I totally happened no, not a psycho.

531
00:23:01,600 --> 00:23:02,640
Speaker 1: Casey wouldn't do that.

532
00:23:04,000 --> 00:23:07,720
Speaker 2: Mum. There was a pool on my floor, a human poop.

533
00:23:08,720 --> 00:23:09,560
Speaker 2: I do remember that.

534
00:23:09,560 --> 00:23:11,920
Speaker 1: That was It was like the mystery of the Armitage family,

535
00:23:12,160 --> 00:23:13,840
Speaker 1: like a year anyway.

536
00:23:14,640 --> 00:23:15,520
Speaker 2: I metage.

537
00:23:16,440 --> 00:23:21,600
Speaker 1: Is that how you've been saying armitage? It's actually pronounced No,

538
00:23:21,680 --> 00:23:27,960
Speaker 1: it's armitage apparently, but there's no way worse armitage, armitage, armitage.

539
00:23:28,080 --> 00:23:30,959
Speaker 1: I don't know why I said that. Sounds a bit

540
00:23:31,000 --> 00:23:35,280
Speaker 1: more regal though, doesn't it armitage? No? Anyway, that's a

541
00:23:35,280 --> 00:23:38,200
Speaker 1: little how to on how to pronounce our name with

542
00:23:38,280 --> 00:23:39,760
Speaker 1: no ending or proper answer.

543
00:23:40,320 --> 00:23:41,119
Speaker 2: It's armored.

544
00:23:41,240 --> 00:23:44,560
Speaker 1: It is armitage, but we say armitage because we sound

545
00:23:44,680 --> 00:23:45,800
Speaker 1: like not armorage.

546
00:23:45,840 --> 00:23:49,959
Speaker 2: It's armitage. That's what it actually is.

547
00:23:50,040 --> 00:23:54,640
Speaker 1: If we're doing it by definition, it's armitage, but we

548
00:23:54,000 --> 00:23:57,920
Speaker 1: say we say armitage, and apparently you say armoritage. Sometimes

549
00:23:58,240 --> 00:24:01,000
Speaker 1: either way, we're moving on. Should we get into this

550
00:24:01,240 --> 00:24:03,240
Speaker 1: hasn't been as funny this week as the normal.

551
00:24:03,280 --> 00:24:04,280
Speaker 2: It's been more serious.

552
00:24:05,080 --> 00:24:07,919
Speaker 1: Yeah, sorry, guys, but sometimes you know, life isn't always

553
00:24:08,040 --> 00:24:08,880
Speaker 1: all funny games.

554
00:24:10,560 --> 00:24:13,280
Speaker 2: If you listen to this podcast and expect to be human.

555
00:24:13,800 --> 00:24:15,960
Speaker 1: Sometimes you're just gonna be hit by a track.

556
00:24:15,880 --> 00:24:17,959
Speaker 2: Yeah, not. Everything's a truck of emotion.

557
00:24:18,240 --> 00:24:20,600
Speaker 1: All right, guys, we are going to get into this

558
00:24:20,760 --> 00:24:22,280
Speaker 1: week's am I the assholes?

559
00:24:22,560 --> 00:24:25,360
Speaker 2: Let's get all right?

560
00:24:25,400 --> 00:24:27,359
Speaker 1: Am I the asshole? I went on three dates with

561
00:24:27,400 --> 00:24:29,480
Speaker 1: the guy. On the second date, we kissed good bye

562
00:24:29,520 --> 00:24:32,320
Speaker 1: in the car. There was something really strange about it.

563
00:24:32,400 --> 00:24:41,159
Speaker 1: He didn't close his mouth, like when you kiss with tongue. NOA,

564
00:24:41,240 --> 00:24:43,600
Speaker 1: do you tend to not really close your mouth there.

565
00:24:45,080 --> 00:24:50,960
Speaker 2: It's been a while, so it depends.

566
00:24:51,000 --> 00:24:54,080
Speaker 1: Everyone's different, but I feel like it's obviously like it

567
00:24:54,119 --> 00:24:58,800
Speaker 1: was very pretty, it was bad. I'm kind of vision

568
00:24:59,359 --> 00:25:03,920
Speaker 1: Hang on, No, I think closing your mouth is part

569
00:25:03,960 --> 00:25:04,200
Speaker 1: of it.

570
00:25:04,359 --> 00:25:05,359
Speaker 2: Yeah, like in the middle.

571
00:25:05,480 --> 00:25:10,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, for context, I'm nineteen, he's twenty six. On the

572
00:25:10,560 --> 00:25:13,359
Speaker 1: third day, before we kissed, I said, last time we kissed,

573
00:25:13,400 --> 00:25:14,560
Speaker 1: you kept your mouth open.

574
00:25:14,840 --> 00:25:15,679
Speaker 2: Why?

575
00:25:15,840 --> 00:25:19,639
Speaker 1: He genuinely looks confused. This turned into me teaching him

576
00:25:19,680 --> 00:25:22,800
Speaker 1: how to kiss. Okay, so close your mouth first, then

577
00:25:22,880 --> 00:25:26,200
Speaker 1: we kiss more and you can start opening it. Basically,

578
00:25:26,240 --> 00:25:27,400
Speaker 1: I felt like an asshole.

579
00:25:27,480 --> 00:25:30,280
Speaker 2: Hold on, hold on, how long are we just closed

580
00:25:30,280 --> 00:25:31,240
Speaker 2: mouth kissing? For?

581
00:25:31,560 --> 00:25:32,800
Speaker 1: I feel like it only has to be like a

582
00:25:32,800 --> 00:25:35,800
Speaker 1: sex to be like a little quick one too, right,

583
00:25:36,720 --> 00:25:40,120
Speaker 1: i'd say so okay, but I feel like, yeah, we're

584
00:25:40,160 --> 00:25:41,160
Speaker 1: not in it right now.

585
00:25:41,280 --> 00:25:44,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, but what she's saying anyway, we'll get to it.

586
00:25:45,080 --> 00:25:47,399
Speaker 1: The punchline basically, I felt like an asshole. I don't,

587
00:25:47,440 --> 00:25:49,719
Speaker 1: but I don't think he minded. Now I'm wondering, am

588
00:25:49,760 --> 00:25:52,320
Speaker 1: I the asshole if I ended things because he can't kiss?

589
00:25:52,800 --> 00:25:54,560
Speaker 1: Or is it okay to teach him? And if the

590
00:25:54,640 --> 00:25:57,520
Speaker 1: kissing is this bad, what's the sex going to be like?

591
00:25:58,000 --> 00:26:00,840
Speaker 1: To be fair, he's lovely, such a gentleman, bought roses

592
00:26:00,880 --> 00:26:03,320
Speaker 1: on our first and third day. But I'm hoping more

593
00:26:03,359 --> 00:26:05,359
Speaker 1: attraction grows otherwise I'll end it anyway.

594
00:26:05,600 --> 00:26:06,280
Speaker 2: I don't think.

595
00:26:07,920 --> 00:26:09,879
Speaker 1: I think if you end up with him after that

596
00:26:10,000 --> 00:26:13,400
Speaker 1: kissing lesson, it's basically like in his mind, she's ended

597
00:26:13,400 --> 00:26:16,000
Speaker 1: it with me because I can't kiss, And in that sense, that.

598
00:26:15,960 --> 00:26:17,960
Speaker 2: Would be like a real hit to the eager.

599
00:26:18,040 --> 00:26:20,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, but if that kiss is making you not like

600
00:26:20,560 --> 00:26:22,280
Speaker 1: this guy, then then you're not the asshole.

601
00:26:22,440 --> 00:26:24,160
Speaker 2: That's just like he probably will.

602
00:26:24,240 --> 00:26:27,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, it'll be a bit of a it'll be a knock, yeah,

603
00:26:27,400 --> 00:26:29,639
Speaker 1: because it's like, oh my god, we've just talked about

604
00:26:29,680 --> 00:26:31,719
Speaker 1: her teaching we how to kiss and now she's done, Like,

605
00:26:31,800 --> 00:26:34,000
Speaker 1: that's because I can't. But you're not the ashole for

606
00:26:34,080 --> 00:26:36,840
Speaker 1: ending it. No, you don't have to stay with anybody

607
00:26:37,040 --> 00:26:39,240
Speaker 1: for any reason. Just because he bought you flowers doesn't

608
00:26:39,359 --> 00:26:44,320
Speaker 1: have to like bare minimum bam minimum flowers on every

609
00:26:44,400 --> 00:26:46,440
Speaker 1: day is a princess treatman though, do you not agree?

610
00:26:46,960 --> 00:26:47,600
Speaker 2: Actually you know what?

611
00:26:47,800 --> 00:26:51,040
Speaker 1: No, I want someone to buy my flowers every day. Okay,

612
00:26:51,200 --> 00:26:54,359
Speaker 1: thank you, am I the asshole. Our group is three

613
00:26:54,440 --> 00:26:56,960
Speaker 1: best friends. Let's call them Pepper, Kitty and Me.

614
00:26:59,320 --> 00:27:01,360
Speaker 2: Why must we.

615
00:27:04,000 --> 00:27:12,920
Speaker 1: Must we call them Pepper, Kitty, anything.

616
00:27:13,200 --> 00:27:18,160
Speaker 2: Anything in the world? Okay. One night, Pepper and Kitty

617
00:27:19,720 --> 00:27:24,840
Speaker 2: porn stars? What are they? Porn stars? Pepper and Kitty

618
00:27:24,880 --> 00:27:25,719
Speaker 2: have a small argument.

619
00:27:25,800 --> 00:27:28,240
Speaker 1: We were on a girl's night out and Pepper had

620
00:27:28,240 --> 00:27:30,640
Speaker 1: to leave her car in a school car park overnight.

621
00:27:31,119 --> 00:27:36,679
Speaker 1: Kitty promised an in a minute. The names is just

622
00:27:36,800 --> 00:27:39,199
Speaker 1: getting to know. Should we name them something? No, it's

623
00:27:39,240 --> 00:27:41,880
Speaker 1: already started. Kitty promised to drop her back the next

624
00:27:41,880 --> 00:27:44,320
Speaker 1: morning before work. We get home at five am and

625
00:27:44,400 --> 00:27:47,639
Speaker 1: Pepper asked Kitty to take her at seven am. Kitty

626
00:27:47,680 --> 00:27:51,360
Speaker 1: says no, she's still drunk and offers at eleven am instead.

627
00:27:51,760 --> 00:27:54,359
Speaker 1: They argue, they both got to bed. I crash in

628
00:27:54,440 --> 00:27:58,159
Speaker 1: Kitty's room the next day, Pepper leaves before we wake up,

629
00:27:58,160 --> 00:27:59,639
Speaker 1: and I never hear from her again.

630
00:28:01,800 --> 00:28:03,160
Speaker 2: I run into a year later.

631
00:28:03,200 --> 00:28:05,639
Speaker 1: I run into her and she says we're not friends

632
00:28:05,680 --> 00:28:09,040
Speaker 1: because I chose Kitty's bed to sleep in. I say

633
00:28:09,080 --> 00:28:11,560
Speaker 1: it out of their argument completely, but she fully ghosted me.

634
00:28:11,720 --> 00:28:14,760
Speaker 2: Am I the asshole? No, you're not the asshole. Pepper's

635
00:28:14,800 --> 00:28:15,320
Speaker 2: the asshole.

636
00:28:15,480 --> 00:28:17,439
Speaker 1: You cannot rely on someone to drop you back to

637
00:28:17,480 --> 00:28:20,119
Speaker 1: your car the next day because it's like also, Kitty

638
00:28:20,200 --> 00:28:23,560
Speaker 1: probably was still drunk should not be driving. In my opinion,

639
00:28:23,720 --> 00:28:26,280
Speaker 1: the promise of I will drop you back to your car,

640
00:28:26,560 --> 00:28:28,320
Speaker 1: just leave it, just leave it. I'll drop you back

641
00:28:28,359 --> 00:28:31,040
Speaker 1: in the morning is null and void the next day.

642
00:28:31,160 --> 00:28:34,040
Speaker 1: Absolutely if they if you ask them and they say yes, great,

643
00:28:34,119 --> 00:28:38,000
Speaker 1: but it's like never nothing. It means it shouldn't because why,

644
00:28:38,200 --> 00:28:41,160
Speaker 1: I mean, look, you get home at five am. You

645
00:28:41,200 --> 00:28:43,280
Speaker 1: want her to wake up at seven am. If they

646
00:28:43,320 --> 00:28:45,880
Speaker 1: don't decide to drive you the next day, that's great,

647
00:28:45,960 --> 00:28:48,000
Speaker 1: and that's fucking true friendship.

648
00:28:48,200 --> 00:28:48,880
Speaker 2: That isn't true.

649
00:28:49,240 --> 00:28:51,800
Speaker 1: But she probably also doesn't make you a bad person

650
00:28:51,880 --> 00:28:55,040
Speaker 1: for not wanting to commit yourself to only two hours sleep,

651
00:28:55,080 --> 00:28:56,640
Speaker 1: to not drive your friend to work the next day,

652
00:28:56,720 --> 00:28:58,880
Speaker 1: like that's she's your Pepper's the asshole.

653
00:28:58,920 --> 00:29:01,880
Speaker 2: To be fair, Pepper probably would have even been gone, Well, no,

654
00:29:01,960 --> 00:29:06,720
Speaker 2: Pepper should have quit. I would have quit if.

655
00:29:06,600 --> 00:29:09,920
Speaker 1: I was well, yeah, I'm no stranger to calling in

656
00:29:09,960 --> 00:29:12,160
Speaker 1: sick to things, so like there's no way I would

657
00:29:12,160 --> 00:29:13,600
Speaker 1: have pushed myself out of my comfort.

658
00:29:13,360 --> 00:29:16,760
Speaker 2: Zone to no one should ever leave their comfort zone.

659
00:29:18,680 --> 00:29:21,040
Speaker 1: Yeah no, I just think the amount of times it's

660
00:29:21,080 --> 00:29:23,239
Speaker 1: been like I'll take you to your car and like

661
00:29:23,320 --> 00:29:25,160
Speaker 1: then they don't message me the next day to ask me,

662
00:29:25,200 --> 00:29:30,320
Speaker 1: And I'm like, oh my god, thank Mark, because you're

663
00:29:30,360 --> 00:29:33,640
Speaker 1: not the outshole girl Popper is. I hope Kitty had

664
00:29:33,640 --> 00:29:37,240
Speaker 1: a good night's sleep. Okay, Number three? Am I the asshole?

665
00:29:37,600 --> 00:29:41,720
Speaker 1: I'm dating my friend's ex. Been there and done that,

666
00:29:42,280 --> 00:29:46,080
Speaker 1: free can't. My friend Kate moved to my high school

667
00:29:46,080 --> 00:29:48,200
Speaker 1: in year ten. We weren't close, we only saw each

668
00:29:48,200 --> 00:29:51,959
Speaker 1: other at parties and if you're eleven, Kate started dating James,

669
00:29:52,040 --> 00:29:54,640
Speaker 1: who had always been mates with They lasted three months

670
00:29:54,680 --> 00:29:57,760
Speaker 1: before he broke up with her for being controlling. I

671
00:29:57,840 --> 00:30:00,160
Speaker 1: just never believe the boys side.

672
00:30:00,720 --> 00:30:02,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm like, she.

673
00:30:02,600 --> 00:30:04,680
Speaker 1: Was she or were you an asshole? And she was

674
00:30:04,680 --> 00:30:05,520
Speaker 1: trying to keep you in line?

675
00:30:05,600 --> 00:30:05,800
Speaker 2: Yeah?

676
00:30:05,800 --> 00:30:08,600
Speaker 1: You know what I mean. The next year, James and

677
00:30:08,640 --> 00:30:11,640
Speaker 1: I started to develop feelings. Kate was already with someone

678
00:30:11,720 --> 00:30:14,320
Speaker 1: else she found out about us, she acted like James

679
00:30:14,320 --> 00:30:16,640
Speaker 1: had cheated on her, came up to me at school

680
00:30:16,640 --> 00:30:19,600
Speaker 1: and screamed in my face, calling me a slut. Pointing yelling,

681
00:30:20,200 --> 00:30:23,440
Speaker 1: then turned to the entire year level against me. She

682
00:30:23,560 --> 00:30:26,440
Speaker 1: made up fake stories, everyone believed her, and it genuinely

683
00:30:26,520 --> 00:30:28,880
Speaker 1: ruined my final year. James and I have now been

684
00:30:28,920 --> 00:30:31,000
Speaker 1: together for three years and I still have my friends.

685
00:30:34,560 --> 00:30:35,720
Speaker 2: No, you're not the asshole.

686
00:30:38,120 --> 00:30:41,960
Speaker 1: Everyone's so different about this though, Yeah they really are.

687
00:30:42,080 --> 00:30:44,760
Speaker 1: Sometimes people feel like, and I'm not one of these

688
00:30:44,800 --> 00:30:48,440
Speaker 1: people that if you sleep with someone or if you

689
00:30:48,560 --> 00:30:50,360
Speaker 1: date someone for a short period of time, that you

690
00:30:50,440 --> 00:30:53,040
Speaker 1: own that person. And I truly believe that you don't.

691
00:30:54,040 --> 00:30:57,680
Speaker 1: There's obviously a line. To me, there's serious differences on

692
00:30:57,800 --> 00:31:01,240
Speaker 1: how their relationship ended. If they did cheat on you

693
00:31:01,320 --> 00:31:05,280
Speaker 1: and like break your heart, maybe ideally your friends wouldn't

694
00:31:05,280 --> 00:31:07,760
Speaker 1: go there, but like if it wasn't a breakup, like

695
00:31:08,800 --> 00:31:11,000
Speaker 1: with any big issue, I don't see it as a problem.

696
00:31:11,040 --> 00:31:14,920
Speaker 1: And my big thing is if the other person is

697
00:31:15,000 --> 00:31:17,680
Speaker 1: in a new relationship, I think that almost kind of

698
00:31:17,680 --> 00:31:20,600
Speaker 1: like void. That's when it really does depend on the person.

699
00:31:20,640 --> 00:31:22,360
Speaker 1: There are some people who are in a new relationship

700
00:31:22,360 --> 00:31:23,560
Speaker 1: and don't give a shit about.

701
00:31:23,320 --> 00:31:24,800
Speaker 2: Any of their exes, But then there are some.

702
00:31:24,720 --> 00:31:28,719
Speaker 1: People who still hold something for the ex always, So

703
00:31:28,760 --> 00:31:31,200
Speaker 1: it actually depends on the person. I actually do think,

704
00:31:31,480 --> 00:31:33,880
Speaker 1: not that you're the asshole, but you probably should have

705
00:31:33,880 --> 00:31:36,800
Speaker 1: spoken to her about it when you started, when you

706
00:31:36,840 --> 00:31:39,440
Speaker 1: started to develop feelings, that's what should have happened, and

707
00:31:39,480 --> 00:31:42,880
Speaker 1: then gauged from that whether or not that friendship is

708
00:31:42,920 --> 00:31:45,920
Speaker 1: important to you and keeping that friendship. I also think

709
00:31:45,960 --> 00:31:47,440
Speaker 1: there's something to say for the fact that you've been

710
00:31:47,440 --> 00:31:50,480
Speaker 1: together for three years now. So it's like one of

711
00:31:50,480 --> 00:31:52,400
Speaker 1: those things I always wonder. It's like when you meet

712
00:31:52,400 --> 00:31:54,320
Speaker 1: a guy, you go on meet a guy on hine

713
00:31:54,400 --> 00:31:56,160
Speaker 1: or something, You go on a date with him, you

714
00:31:56,160 --> 00:32:00,960
Speaker 1: meet his friends, and you realize, like, hang on his friend, Yeah,

715
00:32:01,080 --> 00:32:01,720
Speaker 1: what have I done?

716
00:32:02,000 --> 00:32:03,480
Speaker 2: What have I done? Do you know what I mean?

717
00:32:03,720 --> 00:32:07,680
Speaker 2: You have a right to you get the right to choose,

718
00:32:07,920 --> 00:32:08,120
Speaker 2: you know.

719
00:32:08,360 --> 00:32:11,160
Speaker 1: Sometimes the first person you meet in like a friendship

720
00:32:11,160 --> 00:32:13,280
Speaker 1: group might not be the person for you out of

721
00:32:13,320 --> 00:32:13,840
Speaker 1: that group.

722
00:32:13,880 --> 00:32:14,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, but they're meant to.

723
00:32:14,920 --> 00:32:16,680
Speaker 1: Like get you to meet the person that you are,

724
00:32:16,760 --> 00:32:20,160
Speaker 1: So there's definitely variables. No, you're not the asshole, and

725
00:32:20,560 --> 00:32:22,640
Speaker 1: but I don't think Kitty is either, because I also

726
00:32:22,680 --> 00:32:26,000
Speaker 1: think that like being upset and her is something you

727
00:32:26,040 --> 00:32:28,880
Speaker 1: can't really control when it comes to stuff like that. Yeah, yeah,

728
00:32:29,000 --> 00:32:29,960
Speaker 1: you can't control that.

729
00:32:30,600 --> 00:32:32,720
Speaker 2: I do think. Yeah, if her friend was upset and hurt,

730
00:32:33,320 --> 00:32:34,000
Speaker 2: that's fair enough.

731
00:32:34,040 --> 00:32:36,360
Speaker 1: She can have her feelings, but it doesn't mean you're

732
00:32:36,360 --> 00:32:38,760
Speaker 1: an asshole. Tesla and I were talking about this the

733
00:32:38,840 --> 00:32:41,440
Speaker 1: other day. All is fair in love and war. Do

734
00:32:41,480 --> 00:32:43,640
Speaker 1: you think that is true? Yeah?

735
00:32:43,680 --> 00:32:44,400
Speaker 2: I do.

736
00:32:44,200 --> 00:32:47,480
Speaker 1: I do trux And to me, it was like to

737
00:32:47,960 --> 00:32:51,520
Speaker 1: an extent there, you know, it really depends like cheating

738
00:32:51,600 --> 00:32:55,480
Speaker 1: is never allowed, and it depends on like I would Yeah, No,

739
00:32:56,040 --> 00:32:58,600
Speaker 1: there are boundaries with everything. But I did end up

740
00:32:58,680 --> 00:33:01,680
Speaker 1: dating a friend's I wouldn't say we were really friends

741
00:33:01,760 --> 00:33:06,400
Speaker 1: anymore at the time she'd had another partner, and to me,

742
00:33:06,480 --> 00:33:10,440
Speaker 1: it was like worth the look. It was a long

743
00:33:10,680 --> 00:33:13,960
Speaker 1: It sounds this actually sounds really fucking bad. It wasn't

744
00:33:14,680 --> 00:33:16,720
Speaker 1: as bad as it seems. If you think about the

745
00:33:16,800 --> 00:33:18,200
Speaker 1: way it played out, do you know what I mean?

746
00:33:18,520 --> 00:33:20,400
Speaker 1: Be and that girl weren't friends anymore. She'd had another

747
00:33:20,440 --> 00:33:22,640
Speaker 1: partner for a couple of years at this point. And

748
00:33:22,680 --> 00:33:25,640
Speaker 1: then it's like, I really did take my sweet motherfucking

749
00:33:25,680 --> 00:33:27,440
Speaker 1: time figuring out whether it was going to be worth

750
00:33:27,480 --> 00:33:30,320
Speaker 1: it going for this guy and like completely cutting off

751
00:33:30,320 --> 00:33:33,240
Speaker 1: that relationship. But at this point that relationship wasn't there anymore.

752
00:33:33,280 --> 00:33:35,280
Speaker 1: This girl wasn't a girl that was particularly fucking.

753
00:33:35,160 --> 00:33:35,560
Speaker 2: Nice to me.

754
00:33:35,880 --> 00:33:40,560
Speaker 1: She wasn't nice. Yeah, so I'm like, yeah, this is

755
00:33:40,560 --> 00:33:43,320
Speaker 1: worth the risk. So I think it's just like there's

756
00:33:43,360 --> 00:33:45,840
Speaker 1: pros and cottons to everything, and I just hap a

757
00:33:45,880 --> 00:33:48,760
Speaker 1: case by case thing. But in this case, neither of

758
00:33:48,760 --> 00:33:52,000
Speaker 1: you were really the arsehole. Yeah, except for her trying

759
00:33:52,000 --> 00:33:55,960
Speaker 1: to turn the whole school year against you. Yeah, and

760
00:33:56,000 --> 00:34:00,520
Speaker 1: you should have told her earlier. Yeah, set my assholes,

761
00:34:00,520 --> 00:34:05,360
Speaker 1: both of you, set my phone. Am I the asshole

762
00:34:05,360 --> 00:34:08,640
Speaker 1: for cutting off my sister in law? Maybe we're used

763
00:34:08,680 --> 00:34:10,359
Speaker 1: to be close. A year ago we had a falling

764
00:34:10,400 --> 00:34:12,080
Speaker 1: out on a boat party when I told her to

765
00:34:12,120 --> 00:34:14,560
Speaker 1: take it easy on the drink so she didn't fall overboard.

766
00:34:15,640 --> 00:34:17,719
Speaker 2: Hmm. I have a funny thing.

767
00:34:17,600 --> 00:34:19,600
Speaker 1: About people saying take it easy on the drinks. It

768
00:34:19,680 --> 00:34:22,319
Speaker 1: really depends how bad it is. And I think your

769
00:34:22,320 --> 00:34:23,960
Speaker 1: delivery is so important in a.

770
00:34:23,920 --> 00:34:25,960
Speaker 2: Situation like that. Definitely.

771
00:34:26,160 --> 00:34:29,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, she ignored me, almost slipped. I caught her, and

772
00:34:29,440 --> 00:34:30,879
Speaker 1: then I suggested to drink some water.

773
00:34:31,320 --> 00:34:33,239
Speaker 2: That's okay. Later my phone died.

774
00:34:33,320 --> 00:34:35,840
Speaker 1: I asked her to book me and Uber I'd transfer

775
00:34:35,880 --> 00:34:38,640
Speaker 1: her in the morning. She snapped, got rude, so I

776
00:34:38,680 --> 00:34:42,400
Speaker 1: asked my friends instead. She stormed back and said, what

777
00:34:42,520 --> 00:34:43,759
Speaker 1: did you want me to fucking do?

778
00:34:45,480 --> 00:34:47,440
Speaker 2: Book me an Uber? Please? I dearly.

779
00:34:48,239 --> 00:34:50,239
Speaker 1: Since then, she's been talking badly about me to my

780
00:34:50,280 --> 00:34:53,120
Speaker 1: partner's family, refusing to meet up to resolve things, but

781
00:34:53,239 --> 00:34:55,480
Speaker 1: still acting nice to my face. I've decided I'm done

782
00:34:55,480 --> 00:34:57,760
Speaker 1: putting an effort. Am I the asshole for not trying anymore?

783
00:35:02,520 --> 00:35:03,640
Speaker 2: No, you're not.

784
00:35:04,600 --> 00:35:08,319
Speaker 1: A sister in law is coming into a family. She

785
00:35:08,360 --> 00:35:11,080
Speaker 1: needs to make effort with this family. She can't come

786
00:35:11,120 --> 00:35:15,800
Speaker 1: into the family, cause problems and start talking shit about

787
00:35:15,800 --> 00:35:20,319
Speaker 1: her husband's sister. No, I think it's it's the other

788
00:35:20,400 --> 00:35:24,360
Speaker 1: way around. This is the husband's sister, she's the girlfriend.

789
00:35:24,880 --> 00:35:26,120
Speaker 2: But do we know that for sure?

790
00:35:26,239 --> 00:35:28,360
Speaker 1: I think because it could be my way, I don't

791
00:35:28,360 --> 00:35:32,239
Speaker 1: think it is. I think it's my way like most Well,

792
00:35:32,280 --> 00:35:35,560
Speaker 1: then you kind of do need to keep putting an effort.

793
00:35:35,840 --> 00:35:37,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, you kind of.

794
00:35:38,320 --> 00:35:40,239
Speaker 1: Yes, you didn't choose to date the sister in law,

795
00:35:40,239 --> 00:35:42,479
Speaker 1: but the family kind of comes with it, unless they're

796
00:35:42,520 --> 00:35:46,160
Speaker 1: like fucking horrible people, which this girl sounds like a

797
00:35:46,160 --> 00:35:47,880
Speaker 1: bit of a brat, but like she's probably not, like

798
00:35:47,920 --> 00:35:50,440
Speaker 1: I'm mom, But this is something you can just sweep

799
00:35:50,560 --> 00:35:52,360
Speaker 1: under the rug. You don't need to be best friends

800
00:35:52,360 --> 00:35:55,040
Speaker 1: with her to find your back, but she's nice, your

801
00:35:55,080 --> 00:35:56,200
Speaker 1: face great, Just be nice.

802
00:35:56,080 --> 00:35:58,040
Speaker 2: To you do in peace?

803
00:35:58,680 --> 00:36:03,440
Speaker 1: You do because I feel like there's blood is different

804
00:36:03,600 --> 00:36:06,120
Speaker 1: and like you don't want to keep it up and

805
00:36:06,239 --> 00:36:10,400
Speaker 1: have her be like turning people against and interfering with

806
00:36:10,440 --> 00:36:12,799
Speaker 1: your relationships because sometimes I feel like it comes to

807
00:36:12,840 --> 00:36:14,560
Speaker 1: a lot of people where they're like it's your family

808
00:36:14,680 --> 00:36:16,640
Speaker 1: or me. A lot of people end up picking the

809
00:36:16,680 --> 00:36:18,320
Speaker 1: family and you don't.

810
00:36:18,200 --> 00:36:20,839
Speaker 2: Want it to come to that. So be friendly, keep

811
00:36:20,880 --> 00:36:23,000
Speaker 2: the peace, keep the peace. But you're not the.

812
00:36:22,920 --> 00:36:26,160
Speaker 1: Asshole, but keep the peace. Am I the asshole? I

813
00:36:26,320 --> 00:36:29,000
Speaker 1: twenty four female, was seeing it this guy, twenty seven

814
00:36:29,040 --> 00:36:32,400
Speaker 1: male for about two months. He told me he was

815
00:36:32,440 --> 00:36:34,799
Speaker 1: single and recently got out of a long term relationship.

816
00:36:34,880 --> 00:36:37,520
Speaker 1: We went on dates, hooked up, texted every day. I

817
00:36:37,560 --> 00:36:39,560
Speaker 1: had no reason to think I was the side shit.

818
00:36:41,239 --> 00:36:41,560
Speaker 2: Man.

819
00:36:47,200 --> 00:36:49,200
Speaker 1: That one night I randomly ended up on his mom's

820
00:36:49,200 --> 00:36:50,440
Speaker 1: Facebook random.

821
00:36:51,400 --> 00:36:52,840
Speaker 2: Oh you're trying to find out where you.

822
00:36:52,840 --> 00:36:54,960
Speaker 1: Went on holiday and twenty eleven or were you stalking

823
00:36:55,040 --> 00:36:55,680
Speaker 1: him hard?

824
00:36:56,040 --> 00:36:57,200
Speaker 2: Yeah? I do that, that's okay.

825
00:36:57,280 --> 00:36:59,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, nope, you'll do I'll go all the way down

826
00:36:59,280 --> 00:37:01,160
Speaker 1: to a boys like early photos.

827
00:37:01,360 --> 00:37:03,120
Speaker 2: On a day you seed all of it. Yeah, I

828
00:37:03,280 --> 00:37:06,120
Speaker 2: can see what kind of person you were. She goes,

829
00:37:06,239 --> 00:37:06,760
Speaker 2: don't ask.

830
00:37:06,840 --> 00:37:09,840
Speaker 1: I saw photos of his ex very much still his

831
00:37:09,920 --> 00:37:13,920
Speaker 1: girlfriend holding up an ultrasound captioned we can't wait to

832
00:37:13,960 --> 00:37:21,320
Speaker 1: meet you. Ohole, he's the asshole. I felt physically sick.

833
00:37:21,560 --> 00:37:23,440
Speaker 1: I debated for a day or two, but I ultimately

834
00:37:23,440 --> 00:37:26,160
Speaker 1: messaged her respectfully. I think that's a good shout at

835
00:37:26,200 --> 00:37:28,640
Speaker 1: that point, I think you bypassed the man. The woman

836
00:37:28,680 --> 00:37:30,839
Speaker 1: needs to know because he's not going to fucking do it.

837
00:37:31,040 --> 00:37:32,919
Speaker 1: A lot of people say, like, you go, oh, I'll

838
00:37:32,960 --> 00:37:35,000
Speaker 1: tell her, or you will. You're not going to fucking

839
00:37:35,000 --> 00:37:37,160
Speaker 1: be with this guy anymore anyway, because he's got a

840
00:37:37,239 --> 00:37:37,839
Speaker 1: kid on the way.

841
00:37:37,840 --> 00:37:42,000
Speaker 2: With another woman. You just tell the woman, Hey, I'm.

842
00:37:41,880 --> 00:37:43,520
Speaker 1: Really sorry to bring you into this, but I think

843
00:37:43,520 --> 00:37:45,400
Speaker 1: you deserve to know. I've been seeing Ryan for a

844
00:37:45,440 --> 00:37:48,160
Speaker 1: couple months. I didn't know about you. I definitely didn't

845
00:37:48,160 --> 00:37:50,319
Speaker 1: know you were pregnant. I've a touched screenshots about text

846
00:37:50,360 --> 00:37:52,399
Speaker 1: and photos, so you know I'm not making this up.

847
00:37:52,800 --> 00:37:54,640
Speaker 1: She didn't reply straight away, but a few days later

848
00:37:54,719 --> 00:37:56,239
Speaker 1: I got a simple thanks for telling me.

849
00:37:56,719 --> 00:37:57,719
Speaker 2: My heart broke for her.

850
00:37:58,239 --> 00:38:00,600
Speaker 1: Now Ryan is cursing me out from on her account,

851
00:38:00,680 --> 00:38:02,400
Speaker 1: saying I've destroyed his family.

852
00:38:03,200 --> 00:38:05,160
Speaker 2: He destroyed his family, and.

853
00:38:05,120 --> 00:38:07,160
Speaker 1: Then I'm a bit for stressing out a pregnant woman.

854
00:38:07,640 --> 00:38:09,319
Speaker 1: Even one of my friends said it was cruel to

855
00:38:09,360 --> 00:38:12,080
Speaker 1: tell her while she's expecting. I didn't mean to hurt her,

856
00:38:12,080 --> 00:38:14,279
Speaker 1: but I couldn't stay silent. I'd want to know. So

857
00:38:14,400 --> 00:38:16,440
Speaker 1: am I the asshole for telling her the truth even

858
00:38:16,480 --> 00:38:17,680
Speaker 1: though she's pregnant.

859
00:38:18,280 --> 00:38:19,840
Speaker 2: No?

860
00:38:19,840 --> 00:38:22,280
Speaker 1: No, imagine telling her when she's just got a newborn

861
00:38:22,400 --> 00:38:24,479
Speaker 1: kid and she's getting like fucking three hours sleep.

862
00:38:24,520 --> 00:38:25,480
Speaker 2: She needed to know now?

863
00:38:25,560 --> 00:38:28,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, Otherwise you'd have to wait a lot longer until

864
00:38:28,000 --> 00:38:30,400
Speaker 1: there's another appropriate time to tell him. There's no appropriate

865
00:38:30,440 --> 00:38:32,239
Speaker 1: time to tell someone that their partner's joting on them.

866
00:38:32,280 --> 00:38:33,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, but people are.

867
00:38:32,920 --> 00:38:35,879
Speaker 1: Pregnant for nine months, so that's a whole long time

868
00:38:35,960 --> 00:38:37,960
Speaker 1: to know a secret and not be able to tell somebody.

869
00:38:38,080 --> 00:38:40,520
Speaker 1: I think when you told her is absolutely right. You

870
00:38:40,560 --> 00:38:44,840
Speaker 1: are not the asshole. And I hope she's okay.

871
00:38:45,000 --> 00:38:47,279
Speaker 2: She's okay. I hope you're okay, And I hope he's

872
00:38:47,280 --> 00:38:48,200
Speaker 2: in a pea somewhere.

873
00:38:48,640 --> 00:38:55,279
Speaker 1: Okay, Okay, guys, that was part two of Am I

874
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Speaker 1: the Asshole?

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Speaker 2: Thank you so much for listening every week.

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Speaker 1: I know this episode was slightly different energy, but that's okay.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: We sprinkled some tea in here, we did. Everyone loves

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Speaker 1: a bit of tea. Yeah, and if you don't, you're lying.

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Speaker 1: You're lying, You're a liar. All right, guys, I will

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Speaker 1: chat to you next week.

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Speaker 2: Love you, love you buying. Thank you, Beyonce,