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Speaker 1: Hi, and welcome back to Bounce Forward with Me, Tip Paul.

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Speaker 1: I'd like to acknowledge the traditional custodians of the land

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Speaker 1: on which I'm recording this podcast.

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Speaker 2: There were wondering.

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Speaker 1: People of the cooler nation. I pay my respects to

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Speaker 1: elders past and present. Today we have part two of

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Speaker 1: my chat with Rachel Corvette. Let's get into it. So

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Speaker 1: you're a pretty fit and healthy person. Did having a

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Speaker 1: baby really shift your health and fitness routine at all? Like?

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Speaker 2: Did it change? Yeah? I mean, how do you squeeze

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Speaker 2: that in?

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Speaker 1: I don't And that's what I hate, honestly, Like, that's

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Speaker 1: the thing I missed the most. You know, the gym

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Speaker 1: for me was all mental, never physical. The physical stuff

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Speaker 1: was a benefit, you know that, but it was all

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Speaker 1: about mental. It was about me being in a space

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Speaker 1: where I don't have to think about anything. And I'm

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Speaker 1: a class person. I like to go and do classes.

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Speaker 1: I like to get told me to do check out. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's exactly right. And you know, through COVID, I was

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Speaker 1: doing a lot of stuff online, so I had tried that,

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Speaker 1: but it just doesn't have the same circuit breaker for

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Speaker 1: me as going somewhere else, not in my home, but

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Speaker 1: going somewhere else and being told what to do by somebody,

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Speaker 1: you know. So I sort of struggled with kind of

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Speaker 1: mixing things in. I'm trying to find the right way

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Speaker 1: to do that now because I don't have any space

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Speaker 1: in my week to do any exercise, and that is

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Speaker 1: definitely something that I'm noticing.

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Speaker 2: One thing I'm trying to do now.

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Speaker 1: Is that I used to always get up really early,

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Speaker 1: and to be honest, through.

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Speaker 2: Winter, I just gave it up because I was so naked.

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Speaker 1: But I've gotten back onto the train of getting up

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Speaker 1: at five because then that at least gives me an

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Speaker 1: hour before Olivia wakes up. I can do a tiny

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Speaker 1: bit of yoga, you know, maybe just sometimes I'll go

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Speaker 1: for a walk around the block even though she's asleep

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Speaker 1: in bed. Yeah yeah, yeah, but I'm like, you know,

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Speaker 1: I've got the thing, oh on my phone, I can

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Speaker 1: see her like whatever.

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Speaker 2: So just having a little bit of space there.

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Speaker 1: And then my goal for next year is to work out,

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Speaker 1: you know how I fit that into my life. And

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Speaker 1: I do think what I need to do is I

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Speaker 1: just need to get better at doing stuff at home

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Speaker 1: because the idea of going out that might be the

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Speaker 1: way that I disconnect the best, but I just don't

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Speaker 1: have space for it in my life at the moment.

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Speaker 1: You do have to like just trade it off a

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Speaker 1: little bit. What can you do totally? So yeah, that's

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Speaker 1: an important thing for me next year is to work

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Speaker 1: out how to get regular fitness locked into my week

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Speaker 1: because that is just a game changer for me mentally.

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Speaker 2: It just makes all the difference. Yeah, it really does.

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Speaker 2: And what about postpartum me?

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Speaker 1: Because this is bounce forward and I talk a lot

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Speaker 1: to women about their postpartum journeys and that they bounce forward,

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Speaker 1: not bounce back.

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Speaker 2: What was your bounce forward? Like I think?

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Speaker 1: I mean after I had the kid, I had a

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Speaker 1: rough trot in the first few months, like I particularly

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Speaker 1: the first six weeks, I just did not RECOGNI myself honestly,

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Speaker 1: and particularly in hospital. I had sort of six days there.

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Speaker 1: I chose to go private because I thought that would

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Speaker 1: be the best option for me in terms of having

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Speaker 1: have anybody to come home too, So I thought, Okay, well,

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Speaker 1: I can stay in this hospital for five days. I'll

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Speaker 1: have staff that know what they're doing and I'll have support,

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Speaker 1: and it didn't quite work out that way for me,

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Speaker 1: and so what ended up happening was I was basically

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Speaker 2: Not healthy mentally.

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Speaker 1: And so when I came out the other side, because

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Speaker 1: a lot of points I kind of thought to myself, Ah,

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Speaker 1: Like is this me forever? Like I really worried that

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Speaker 1: you know, with the help of some friends and things,

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Speaker 1: like my best mate kind of stepped in. I kind

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Speaker 2: I'm like, leave me alone for a week, and I

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Speaker 1: So they I sort of had a roster on, you know,

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Speaker 1: in some ways, you know, because you realize, oh, that

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Speaker 1: she wasn't just a blob that was screaming at me

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Speaker 1: all the time, and you know, you sort of start

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Speaker 1: can you know, then I think it was really you know,

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Speaker 1: my focus has really just been on how do I

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Speaker 1: focus on her as much as I can, But then

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Speaker 1: also realize that for me, the other aspects of my

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Speaker 1: life are very very important. My work, my life, you

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Speaker 1: know that kind of stuff, That stuff really feeds me,

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Speaker 1: feeds my soul as sad as that sounds like, I

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Speaker 1: do you know that stuff matters to me, you know,

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Speaker 1: the work that I do. So I think my kind

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Speaker 1: sure that I maintain and achieve those things while simultaneously

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Speaker 1: trying to be the best I can. And I do

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Speaker 1: think that actually achieving those things and doing those things

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Speaker 1: makes me a better mum, you know, because I'm a

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Speaker 1: happier mum when I am still doing those kind of

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Speaker 1: because some of it's like about you know, finances and

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Speaker 1: we want to have. But yeah, that's the kind of

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Speaker 1: And So in that time, did you learn any kind

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Speaker 1: of coping mechanisms for mental health that you've brought through it?

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Speaker 2: Like, have you continued on.

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Speaker 1: With any little tiny things that have helped with mental

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Speaker 2: Do you check in on that regularly?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? I think one thing I took away from that,

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Speaker 1: But in my other life, outside of that moment, I

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Speaker 1: don't ever feel like I need help. It's not that

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Speaker 1: I don't put my hand up because I think I

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Speaker 1: don't want to bother people. I actually there's barely anything

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Speaker 1: You know what, I can't just do this by myself,

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Speaker 1: I didn't know how to what I really responded well to,

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Speaker 1: I can't let me sort it out. I can help you,

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Speaker 1: you know, And people feel that way, but I forget that.

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Speaker 1: The way I feel about helping other people is what

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Speaker 1: that's something that I want to be mindful of moving home. Yes,

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Speaker 1: and there'd be a lot of solo mums out there

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Speaker 2: So would that be your top tip ask for help?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, And I'd say just try and put it in

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Speaker 2: You know, I was not the same person on the

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Speaker 1: So if I had my time again, I would definitely Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I would definitely get more help, and I would get

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Speaker 1: more help in hospital. I think if you're going to

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Speaker 1: You have released your very own podcast called Me and

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Speaker 1: My Tiny Human. So exciting and this is going to

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Speaker 1: this podcast? Yes, So I started it because I just

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Speaker 1: But also there's there's a lot of people, particularly those

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Speaker 2: It's bad to say, but a bit of a car.

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Speaker 1: of assurance that I can give people that like, this

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Speaker 1: it's awesome. Rachel, thank you so much for joining me

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Speaker 1: on Bounce Forward. I think you're just doing the best,

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Speaker 1: the most amazing job in helping other women who want

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Speaker 2: So thank you so much, pleasure, Thank you for having me.

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Speaker 1: Thanks so much for listening to Bounce Forward. I love

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Speaker 1: having your company. So dm me on Instagram at tifhol

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Speaker 1: Underscore XO and let me know what topics you'd love

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Speaker 1: me to cover. Don't forget to rate and review me

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