1 00:00:05,800 --> 00:00:09,360 Speaker 1: Hello, and welcome to separate bathrooms. We would like to 2 00:00:09,400 --> 00:00:13,560 Speaker 1: acknowledge the Gadigor people of the Eur nation, the traditional 3 00:00:13,600 --> 00:00:17,240 Speaker 1: custodians of this land, and pay our respects to the elders, 4 00:00:17,320 --> 00:00:21,040 Speaker 1: both past and present. And again, my name's. 5 00:00:20,760 --> 00:00:22,480 Speaker 2: Ali Dado and I'm Cam Dado. 6 00:00:22,760 --> 00:00:25,520 Speaker 1: Just in case you didn't know it was us, we're. 7 00:00:25,320 --> 00:00:29,600 Speaker 2: Doing a best of show we are or podcast. I 8 00:00:29,640 --> 00:00:33,280 Speaker 2: don't like calling it a show, like I like calling 9 00:00:33,280 --> 00:00:36,480 Speaker 2: it a conversation or a podcast. Okay. I like listening 10 00:00:36,520 --> 00:00:38,320 Speaker 2: to some people who go, yeah, back to the show, 11 00:00:38,440 --> 00:00:40,280 Speaker 2: and it's like, well, I think we're putting on a 12 00:00:40,320 --> 00:00:45,879 Speaker 2: show here, having good conversation, right, Just to get that 13 00:00:45,920 --> 00:00:49,920 Speaker 2: out of the way. So our best of today is 14 00:00:49,960 --> 00:00:53,680 Speaker 2: about some of the stories that we've collected through twenty 15 00:00:53,720 --> 00:01:00,040 Speaker 2: twenty four of how our couples meet, how they've met. So, 16 00:01:00,080 --> 00:01:02,400 Speaker 2: as you know, at the beginning of every podcast, we 17 00:01:02,520 --> 00:01:05,880 Speaker 2: always ask a couple how they met. We never know 18 00:01:06,000 --> 00:01:06,600 Speaker 2: what kind of. 19 00:01:06,560 --> 00:01:09,520 Speaker 1: Time, yeah, but we always look forward to them because 20 00:01:09,800 --> 00:01:13,440 Speaker 1: they're always so interesting. Whether they think sometimes they think 21 00:01:13,440 --> 00:01:16,240 Speaker 1: it's a boring story. I never think it's a boring story. 22 00:01:16,480 --> 00:01:20,840 Speaker 1: I'm always curious about what they're going to say whether 23 00:01:20,840 --> 00:01:25,040 Speaker 1: they're funny or heartwarming. But today we're going to relive 24 00:01:25,120 --> 00:01:28,840 Speaker 1: some of our favorites how they met moments from the 25 00:01:28,880 --> 00:01:29,640 Speaker 1: past year. 26 00:01:29,840 --> 00:01:34,240 Speaker 2: We've got Westca and Charlotte, who met and connected over 27 00:01:34,280 --> 00:01:39,880 Speaker 2: a trail of lies. Told it a barbecue. Have listen 28 00:01:39,959 --> 00:01:42,440 Speaker 2: to this. How long have you guys been together? How 29 00:01:42,440 --> 00:01:43,000 Speaker 2: did you meet? 30 00:01:44,959 --> 00:01:49,280 Speaker 3: Man? Shall I tell my versions? So we're at a 31 00:01:49,320 --> 00:01:50,840 Speaker 3: barbecue in Sydney. 32 00:01:51,080 --> 00:01:54,919 Speaker 4: We shared a dear mutual friend and I had lived 33 00:01:54,960 --> 00:01:58,040 Speaker 4: with this particular person for quiet some time. She'd also 34 00:01:58,120 --> 00:02:00,840 Speaker 4: live with Wes at a separate time, and she used 35 00:02:00,880 --> 00:02:02,680 Speaker 4: to play him a lot in the house that we 36 00:02:02,720 --> 00:02:06,440 Speaker 4: were living at in Hastings. Hastings parayed in Bondai Beach 37 00:02:07,080 --> 00:02:09,200 Speaker 4: and she would play his music and I was like, 38 00:02:09,280 --> 00:02:11,679 Speaker 4: who's this like? Because you know, I knew lew and 39 00:02:11,720 --> 00:02:13,240 Speaker 4: I knew a few of these guys that were playing 40 00:02:13,280 --> 00:02:15,960 Speaker 4: around town. And she's like, Oh, it's Wez. I can't 41 00:02:16,000 --> 00:02:18,200 Speaker 4: believe you don't know where's No, I actually don't know 42 00:02:18,240 --> 00:02:21,400 Speaker 4: where's And I rock up to this barbecue. I was 43 00:02:21,480 --> 00:02:24,480 Speaker 4: there with someone else and I run up the steps 44 00:02:24,600 --> 00:02:26,400 Speaker 4: and Susi's. 45 00:02:26,000 --> 00:02:27,960 Speaker 3: Like, oh, this is Wes, And I was like oh, 46 00:02:28,320 --> 00:02:29,000 Speaker 3: you're Wes. 47 00:02:29,680 --> 00:02:34,040 Speaker 4: And we got chatting and he was and so we 48 00:02:34,040 --> 00:02:35,880 Speaker 4: were sitting around this barbacue and I was having this 49 00:02:35,919 --> 00:02:39,440 Speaker 4: delicious salad and I was like, oh, who made this? Yeah, 50 00:02:39,440 --> 00:02:42,399 Speaker 4: I'm really doing it, and then and he goes I did, 51 00:02:42,560 --> 00:02:43,960 Speaker 4: and I said, oh, amazing. 52 00:02:44,240 --> 00:02:46,400 Speaker 3: Kind of impressed as well because it was delicious. 53 00:02:46,760 --> 00:02:48,720 Speaker 2: He cooks, he sings, he cooks. 54 00:02:48,880 --> 00:02:50,880 Speaker 3: Yeah, there was a few little things going on for me. 55 00:02:50,919 --> 00:02:53,160 Speaker 4: I was like, that's nice. And he's like, I said, 56 00:02:53,160 --> 00:02:55,280 Speaker 4: what's in it? And he's like, yeah, I mean it's 57 00:02:55,280 --> 00:02:56,280 Speaker 4: got chicken. 58 00:02:57,760 --> 00:02:58,440 Speaker 3: Vegetables. 59 00:02:58,760 --> 00:03:03,440 Speaker 4: I was like, it stays like dark and he's like, no, no, yeah, no, 60 00:03:03,680 --> 00:03:04,600 Speaker 4: chi can marinate it. 61 00:03:04,639 --> 00:03:05,640 Speaker 3: And I was like, okay. 62 00:03:06,360 --> 00:03:09,919 Speaker 4: Anyway, So we play out this time at this barbecue 63 00:03:09,960 --> 00:03:13,640 Speaker 4: and he's drinking a two liter bottle of coke or something, 64 00:03:13,639 --> 00:03:16,520 Speaker 4: and I'm like, so, I I just started looking after 65 00:03:16,600 --> 00:03:17,280 Speaker 4: you from the beginning. 66 00:03:17,320 --> 00:03:20,160 Speaker 3: I was like, get that out of your hand. That's ridiculous. 67 00:03:20,440 --> 00:03:23,200 Speaker 4: And he said, what do you do And at the time, 68 00:03:23,240 --> 00:03:24,960 Speaker 4: I was I was just working on a show, and 69 00:03:24,960 --> 00:03:27,600 Speaker 4: I said, I go to the gym and I'm I'm 70 00:03:27,639 --> 00:03:30,400 Speaker 4: on this show. And he's like great, I'm so glad 71 00:03:30,720 --> 00:03:32,400 Speaker 4: that you're going to the gym, because I'm actually a 72 00:03:32,440 --> 00:03:35,960 Speaker 4: personal trainer and I've just come back from LA and 73 00:03:36,000 --> 00:03:38,320 Speaker 4: i'd love to I'd love to go to the gym 74 00:03:38,360 --> 00:03:40,120 Speaker 4: with you, and I love so bad. 75 00:03:40,120 --> 00:03:41,120 Speaker 3: It does, it really does. 76 00:03:41,440 --> 00:03:43,640 Speaker 2: What was doing? Who you bought that day? 77 00:03:43,800 --> 00:03:43,880 Speaker 5: Was? 78 00:03:43,920 --> 00:03:47,520 Speaker 2: He was like, where where is Charlotte? She's over there 79 00:03:47,560 --> 00:03:49,360 Speaker 2: talking to Caveman Wes. 80 00:03:49,400 --> 00:03:50,680 Speaker 3: You know, well, like. 81 00:03:50,600 --> 00:03:52,640 Speaker 4: We were just like in the friendship zone kind of 82 00:03:52,720 --> 00:03:55,440 Speaker 4: vibe as you know, it's in your twenties, everyone's coming. 83 00:03:55,480 --> 00:03:57,280 Speaker 2: Oh okay, So what year was this? 84 00:03:57,600 --> 00:03:58,440 Speaker 6: Two thousand and eight? 85 00:03:59,000 --> 00:03:59,800 Speaker 3: Two thousand and eight? 86 00:04:00,080 --> 00:04:02,800 Speaker 6: It was February two thousand and eight around this time, 87 00:04:02,840 --> 00:04:04,560 Speaker 6: actually possibly this week. 88 00:04:04,360 --> 00:04:08,080 Speaker 3: Again, and it actually it was last month, wasn't looking? 89 00:04:08,640 --> 00:04:10,720 Speaker 6: Can I got to tell some context of that, because 90 00:04:10,720 --> 00:04:15,120 Speaker 6: that really exposes me. I was standing on the steps. 91 00:04:15,360 --> 00:04:18,200 Speaker 6: She comes up like this radiant angel with these pearly 92 00:04:18,240 --> 00:04:21,440 Speaker 6: white teeth, and I was working in a bar at 93 00:04:21,440 --> 00:04:23,520 Speaker 6: the time. I was playing gigs every night of the 94 00:04:23,520 --> 00:04:25,320 Speaker 6: week and then working at the bar, and I was 95 00:04:25,400 --> 00:04:27,800 Speaker 6: just like, you know, and then going to the gym. 96 00:04:27,839 --> 00:04:29,320 Speaker 6: I'd have no idea why I was going to the gym. 97 00:04:29,360 --> 00:04:31,240 Speaker 6: I think I was just trying to get fit, and 98 00:04:33,720 --> 00:04:36,520 Speaker 6: there she was, and I just went, wow, how do 99 00:04:36,640 --> 00:04:39,200 Speaker 6: I get to know this person? What is going on here? 100 00:04:39,200 --> 00:04:39,919 Speaker 3: I couldn't believe it. 101 00:04:39,960 --> 00:04:42,880 Speaker 6: And then as I was overhearing she like cooking she 102 00:04:42,920 --> 00:04:45,720 Speaker 6: went to the gym and oh, okay, well this is 103 00:04:45,800 --> 00:04:48,520 Speaker 6: the salad. Yeah I made that salad, you know, thinking 104 00:04:48,839 --> 00:04:50,839 Speaker 6: nothing of it, but realized that, you know, I just 105 00:04:50,839 --> 00:04:53,480 Speaker 6: bought it twenty minutes ago. But I just needed to 106 00:04:53,520 --> 00:04:57,280 Speaker 6: get this conversation going because I was so like, I 107 00:04:57,400 --> 00:05:00,480 Speaker 6: wasn't a very good conversation starter. I was quite awkward 108 00:05:00,520 --> 00:05:03,640 Speaker 6: and still am and quite shy and all the things. 109 00:05:03,640 --> 00:05:06,440 Speaker 6: So I was just I don't know, I was attempting everything. 110 00:05:06,440 --> 00:05:09,880 Speaker 6: I had all my cards on the table that day. 111 00:05:08,360 --> 00:05:11,560 Speaker 4: He's he's inviting me to the gym that night. Like 112 00:05:11,600 --> 00:05:13,720 Speaker 4: I get back and he's like, okay, so we've got 113 00:05:13,760 --> 00:05:15,840 Speaker 4: the gym tomorrow. I'd love to train you. I'll meet 114 00:05:15,880 --> 00:05:16,320 Speaker 4: you outside. 115 00:05:16,320 --> 00:05:17,039 Speaker 3: What time are you going? 116 00:05:17,440 --> 00:05:20,279 Speaker 6: It's such a bad He was there. 117 00:05:20,560 --> 00:05:23,440 Speaker 4: He was there in his Dark Side of the Moon 118 00:05:23,520 --> 00:05:26,920 Speaker 4: T shirt, like skin and bone, looking like an absolute rocker, 119 00:05:27,400 --> 00:05:30,160 Speaker 4: waiting for me at six o'clock with my favorite coffee. 120 00:05:30,240 --> 00:05:32,960 Speaker 3: And we never have we been a. 121 00:05:33,000 --> 00:05:35,640 Speaker 6: Part since only when I go on the road or whatever, 122 00:05:35,680 --> 00:05:38,320 Speaker 6: but we never really are a part at all. We're 123 00:05:38,320 --> 00:05:40,839 Speaker 6: an amazing team ever since that day. 124 00:05:40,920 --> 00:05:41,200 Speaker 7: Really. 125 00:05:45,760 --> 00:05:49,560 Speaker 1: Now, obviously we don't always speak to couples. 126 00:05:49,640 --> 00:05:50,080 Speaker 3: Couples. 127 00:05:50,120 --> 00:05:53,880 Speaker 1: We have spoken to best friends and mothers and daughters 128 00:05:53,960 --> 00:05:57,400 Speaker 1: and fathers and sons because it's relationship. It's not necessarily 129 00:05:57,480 --> 00:06:00,919 Speaker 1: partner relationship though in this instance, and we spoke to 130 00:06:00,960 --> 00:06:03,120 Speaker 1: a couple in a working relationship. 131 00:06:03,360 --> 00:06:07,039 Speaker 2: Yeah, Nova's very owned. Jas and Lauren joined us to 132 00:06:07,040 --> 00:06:10,320 Speaker 2: reflect on how they became the powerhouse radio duo that 133 00:06:10,400 --> 00:06:12,000 Speaker 2: they are today. 134 00:06:12,400 --> 00:06:15,320 Speaker 1: So do you remember it was a very sort of awkward, 135 00:06:15,520 --> 00:06:19,000 Speaker 1: pre arranged meeting. It kind of had this ceed feeling 136 00:06:19,120 --> 00:06:22,040 Speaker 1: to it, but it was really all about the chemistry, 137 00:06:22,080 --> 00:06:25,200 Speaker 1: which they have so much of. So take a listen 138 00:06:25,240 --> 00:06:25,520 Speaker 1: to this. 139 00:06:26,200 --> 00:06:29,640 Speaker 8: Jason and I. It was like it was like an 140 00:06:29,720 --> 00:06:32,080 Speaker 8: arranged marriage. We got put in a hotel room. 141 00:06:32,080 --> 00:06:35,880 Speaker 9: In a hotel room, now, oh just talking about you? Yeah, well, no, 142 00:06:35,960 --> 00:06:38,600 Speaker 9: talk about CD. It was me one O, the boss 143 00:06:38,640 --> 00:06:41,279 Speaker 9: in this hotel room, sitting there with a little recorder 144 00:06:41,279 --> 00:06:42,760 Speaker 9: and I'm sitting on the edge of the bed and 145 00:06:42,800 --> 00:06:45,080 Speaker 9: he's like, oh, I just got the phone called Laurence downstairs, 146 00:06:45,360 --> 00:06:47,279 Speaker 9: I'll go get her, and I'm like, there is no 147 00:06:47,360 --> 00:06:49,800 Speaker 9: way I'm sitting in this room by myself when you 148 00:06:49,800 --> 00:06:50,840 Speaker 9: guys walk back in. 149 00:06:50,839 --> 00:06:56,279 Speaker 2: Yeah, like this just looks a little bit and sitting 150 00:06:56,320 --> 00:06:57,760 Speaker 2: on the ends. 151 00:06:57,960 --> 00:06:58,480 Speaker 3: He came down. 152 00:06:58,600 --> 00:07:01,400 Speaker 8: He came downstairs to walk in, like he's just sitting 153 00:07:01,480 --> 00:07:05,360 Speaker 8: there waiting for me. That was the beginning channel on 154 00:07:05,440 --> 00:07:08,839 Speaker 8: the TV, Like, yes, seriously, it was like a ceed 155 00:07:09,040 --> 00:07:12,240 Speaker 8: adult film. But that was sort of the beginning of 156 00:07:12,240 --> 00:07:15,040 Speaker 8: our working relationship. And I think we both walked away 157 00:07:15,040 --> 00:07:17,200 Speaker 8: from that in such an awkward situation. And I was like, 158 00:07:18,040 --> 00:07:21,239 Speaker 8: and my my boyfriend at the time, who's now my fiance. 159 00:07:21,360 --> 00:07:22,480 Speaker 8: He was like, John, going to sit up the front 160 00:07:22,520 --> 00:07:24,160 Speaker 8: and wait for you, Like, do you want a code 161 00:07:24,160 --> 00:07:25,680 Speaker 8: word that you can text me if I need to 162 00:07:25,680 --> 00:07:26,520 Speaker 8: come and bring the door. 163 00:07:27,240 --> 00:07:29,600 Speaker 2: I've been your fiance. I would have said, I am 164 00:07:29,880 --> 00:07:33,480 Speaker 2: sitting out the front and our word. 165 00:07:33,440 --> 00:07:37,280 Speaker 9: Yeah coming up into it was an awkward situation, but 166 00:07:38,120 --> 00:07:39,280 Speaker 9: we weren't awkward with each other. 167 00:07:39,360 --> 00:07:41,000 Speaker 3: No, because we're both so awkward. 168 00:07:41,080 --> 00:07:43,680 Speaker 8: We were like what it was uncomfortable for both of us, 169 00:07:43,720 --> 00:07:47,400 Speaker 8: I think, right, and it kind of canceled Tyler out. 170 00:07:47,440 --> 00:07:49,800 Speaker 9: It it's like chemistry so hard to get and you 171 00:07:49,800 --> 00:07:51,800 Speaker 9: can't force it. And I keep saying to Lauren, like, 172 00:07:51,800 --> 00:07:54,200 Speaker 9: I've been doing this for like twenty seven years, and 173 00:07:54,920 --> 00:07:59,280 Speaker 9: it's so rare to have that host co host relationship 174 00:07:59,280 --> 00:08:00,000 Speaker 9: where it just clicked. 175 00:08:00,640 --> 00:08:03,320 Speaker 1: We're still working on it. 176 00:08:02,000 --> 00:08:18,320 Speaker 2: We're getting one of our more unorthodox couples that we've 177 00:08:18,360 --> 00:08:22,480 Speaker 2: had on separate bathrooms. When Chavorne and Rich met online 178 00:08:22,520 --> 00:08:26,480 Speaker 2: and began dating, they barely heard of polyamory. 179 00:08:27,000 --> 00:08:30,400 Speaker 1: We had a lot of conversations about this after we 180 00:08:30,480 --> 00:08:33,400 Speaker 1: interviewed them as well with our kids and other couples, 181 00:08:33,480 --> 00:08:35,960 Speaker 1: just to sort of hear what other people's take was 182 00:08:35,960 --> 00:08:37,480 Speaker 1: because it was such an interesting. 183 00:08:39,080 --> 00:08:40,720 Speaker 2: A lot of people have opinions on this. 184 00:08:40,640 --> 00:08:42,680 Speaker 1: And it's certainly not for everyone, but these two have 185 00:08:42,760 --> 00:08:46,160 Speaker 1: made it work and now they actually can't imagine it 186 00:08:46,280 --> 00:08:48,280 Speaker 1: going back to any other way than the way it 187 00:08:48,320 --> 00:08:49,199 Speaker 1: is right now. 188 00:08:49,920 --> 00:08:52,640 Speaker 2: Take a listen. So how did a girl from Australia 189 00:08:52,679 --> 00:08:54,200 Speaker 2: and a boy from the Midlands meet? 190 00:08:54,520 --> 00:09:01,000 Speaker 7: Well, the internet. We met in the September of twenty 191 00:09:01,000 --> 00:09:06,160 Speaker 7: twenty two, which over twenty oh christ September of twenty 192 00:09:06,360 --> 00:09:09,040 Speaker 7: twenty And the reason that is significant is because that 193 00:09:09,200 --> 00:09:11,760 Speaker 7: was a few months that we had between the two 194 00:09:11,800 --> 00:09:15,840 Speaker 7: major lockdowns here in the UK over the COVID pandemic period. 195 00:09:16,320 --> 00:09:17,760 Speaker 3: So yeah, we. 196 00:09:18,040 --> 00:09:20,760 Speaker 7: Met sort of when we were allowed out, and then 197 00:09:20,800 --> 00:09:22,680 Speaker 7: we had to spend a little bit of time separated 198 00:09:22,720 --> 00:09:25,800 Speaker 7: in the second lockdown. But I mean, all is possible 199 00:09:25,960 --> 00:09:29,440 Speaker 7: with the internet and pandemic romance if you. 200 00:09:29,480 --> 00:09:32,240 Speaker 1: Will, And were you already living in the UK? 201 00:09:32,720 --> 00:09:33,080 Speaker 2: Chivon. 202 00:09:33,400 --> 00:09:37,040 Speaker 7: So I moved to the UK from Sydney in March 203 00:09:37,080 --> 00:09:39,760 Speaker 7: of twenty twenty. I actually arrived in the UK three 204 00:09:39,840 --> 00:09:42,160 Speaker 7: days before the big lockdown started. 205 00:09:42,400 --> 00:09:43,559 Speaker 1: Oh okay, it wasn't. 206 00:09:43,720 --> 00:09:46,000 Speaker 7: COVID hadn't really kicked off in Sydney when I left, 207 00:09:46,160 --> 00:09:49,840 Speaker 7: So it was quite a transition to be going on 208 00:09:49,880 --> 00:09:51,640 Speaker 7: the other side of the world and then living with 209 00:09:51,720 --> 00:09:54,280 Speaker 7: a bunch of strangers in a London sharehouse. 210 00:09:54,280 --> 00:09:55,520 Speaker 3: But it all worked out really well. 211 00:09:55,880 --> 00:09:58,160 Speaker 7: And then six months later I met Richard. 212 00:09:58,400 --> 00:10:02,560 Speaker 2: Gotcha. So we opened our podcast talking about this label 213 00:10:02,679 --> 00:10:06,400 Speaker 2: of polyamorous. We are curious about how you guys make 214 00:10:06,480 --> 00:10:09,360 Speaker 2: it work. So I had to go to the dictionary, 215 00:10:10,280 --> 00:10:14,199 Speaker 2: the dictionary meaning of what amorus went. I also went 216 00:10:14,240 --> 00:10:19,199 Speaker 2: to Google and so I'm curious, guys, were you polyamorous 217 00:10:19,200 --> 00:10:22,120 Speaker 2: before you met or did this all happen after you met? 218 00:10:22,440 --> 00:10:27,240 Speaker 10: No, we were. We were monogamous for the first was 219 00:10:27,280 --> 00:10:28,240 Speaker 10: it year or so? 220 00:10:28,520 --> 00:10:32,520 Speaker 11: I would say when we first met, Like, the idea 221 00:10:33,120 --> 00:10:37,000 Speaker 11: was probably as alien to us as it may be 222 00:10:37,040 --> 00:10:40,000 Speaker 11: to you guys now, even maybe even more so, because 223 00:10:40,040 --> 00:10:43,200 Speaker 11: I feel like in the last sort of two years 224 00:10:43,280 --> 00:10:46,240 Speaker 11: or so, it's kind of become a bigger part of 225 00:10:46,280 --> 00:10:51,280 Speaker 11: the social discourse. I think as time went on, I 226 00:10:51,320 --> 00:10:57,439 Speaker 11: personally always felt like something was not quite fulfilled in 227 00:10:57,480 --> 00:11:00,840 Speaker 11: my life, and through university friends and so I'm still 228 00:11:00,960 --> 00:11:04,839 Speaker 11: studying at the time, starts having these discussions about this 229 00:11:04,880 --> 00:11:07,480 Speaker 11: thing called polyamory, and the more we spoke about it, 230 00:11:07,480 --> 00:11:08,120 Speaker 11: the more I was. 231 00:11:08,080 --> 00:11:14,080 Speaker 10: Like, this really resonates with me. It really sounds like me. 232 00:11:14,960 --> 00:11:18,240 Speaker 10: Fast forward a few months after this idea had come 233 00:11:18,280 --> 00:11:22,200 Speaker 10: into my life, I realized that it was very much 234 00:11:22,280 --> 00:11:25,360 Speaker 10: me and decided to have the big conversation with Schavn, 235 00:11:25,400 --> 00:11:28,600 Speaker 10: which was terrifying to say the least. 236 00:11:28,679 --> 00:11:32,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, and Chavonne, for you, what was that first discussion, like, 237 00:11:32,240 --> 00:11:35,359 Speaker 1: when rich approached you with this idea of polyamory. 238 00:11:35,679 --> 00:11:38,800 Speaker 7: I actually, when Richard said it kind of came out 239 00:11:38,880 --> 00:11:39,640 Speaker 7: to me in this way. 240 00:11:40,160 --> 00:11:41,559 Speaker 3: I sort of said. 241 00:11:41,360 --> 00:11:45,079 Speaker 7: To him, I'm shocked and because I'm trying to work 242 00:11:45,120 --> 00:11:47,160 Speaker 7: out what this means to me, but I'm not surprised. 243 00:11:47,600 --> 00:11:50,959 Speaker 7: And the reason for that was because I always felt 244 00:11:50,960 --> 00:11:52,520 Speaker 7: as though there was a part of Richard that I 245 00:11:52,559 --> 00:11:55,480 Speaker 7: didn't quite know about. When Richard told me this, We've 246 00:11:55,520 --> 00:11:58,720 Speaker 7: been together fifteen months, so we were living together. I 247 00:11:58,800 --> 00:12:02,040 Speaker 7: was a stepmother to his child, so we had a 248 00:12:02,040 --> 00:12:04,400 Speaker 7: lot of intimate experiences. But I knew that there was 249 00:12:04,480 --> 00:12:07,559 Speaker 7: something and that was missing that I wasn't quite getting 250 00:12:07,600 --> 00:12:08,520 Speaker 7: to the bottom. 251 00:12:08,160 --> 00:12:10,480 Speaker 3: Of that chest, so to speak. 252 00:12:10,960 --> 00:12:14,920 Speaker 7: And Richard also described it to me as his orientation, 253 00:12:15,520 --> 00:12:19,560 Speaker 7: something that is fixed for him. It's not a lifestyle choice, 254 00:12:19,559 --> 00:12:21,679 Speaker 7: and that was something that was new to me. I 255 00:12:21,760 --> 00:12:26,120 Speaker 7: had never heard someone described to me a relationship orientation 256 00:12:27,040 --> 00:12:29,920 Speaker 7: in a similar way to how someone might describe their sexuality. 257 00:12:30,559 --> 00:12:32,560 Speaker 7: It's not a choice for rich and so for me 258 00:12:32,880 --> 00:12:36,120 Speaker 7: it was definitely it was a really challenging thing to 259 00:12:36,200 --> 00:12:40,560 Speaker 7: learn about, because for me, our polyamorous relationship is a choice. 260 00:12:40,600 --> 00:12:46,200 Speaker 7: I've been happy monogamous, I'm happy polyamorous, and so for me, 261 00:12:46,240 --> 00:12:48,959 Speaker 7: I had to sit down and decide is it a 262 00:12:49,200 --> 00:12:51,720 Speaker 7: mind shift or is this something that is not for me? 263 00:12:52,040 --> 00:12:56,520 Speaker 7: Maybe I'm oriented monogamously. And so I decided not to 264 00:12:56,520 --> 00:12:59,839 Speaker 7: make a decision and just to see what happened and 265 00:13:00,040 --> 00:13:02,880 Speaker 7: treated it as an experiment. And two and a half 266 00:13:02,960 --> 00:13:05,560 Speaker 7: years later, I'm still here, So I suppose I've made 267 00:13:05,559 --> 00:13:06,120 Speaker 7: that decision. 268 00:13:11,559 --> 00:13:15,600 Speaker 1: This was just a delightful conversation, the one we're about 269 00:13:15,679 --> 00:13:19,080 Speaker 1: to listen to. We were so excited to be talking 270 00:13:19,120 --> 00:13:24,000 Speaker 1: to Australia's first ever master Chef, Julie Goodwin, and we 271 00:13:24,040 --> 00:13:26,439 Speaker 1: also got to sit down with her husband, Meck and 272 00:13:26,600 --> 00:13:29,480 Speaker 1: he spilled the beans on the couple's first encounter. 273 00:13:29,760 --> 00:13:29,920 Speaker 5: Yeah. 274 00:13:29,960 --> 00:13:32,199 Speaker 2: Yeah, So going all the way back to high school, 275 00:13:32,240 --> 00:13:35,640 Speaker 2: this couple have truly gone the distance and now they 276 00:13:35,679 --> 00:13:37,760 Speaker 2: are parents and their grandparents. 277 00:13:37,840 --> 00:13:42,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, here is Julie and meet a good one. If 278 00:13:42,520 --> 00:13:44,880 Speaker 1: you can fill us in how did you two meet? 279 00:13:45,360 --> 00:13:46,480 Speaker 12: You're going to talk first. 280 00:13:48,600 --> 00:13:52,000 Speaker 5: So Jules and I met. We're going back to nineteen 281 00:13:52,160 --> 00:13:52,880 Speaker 5: eighty nine. 282 00:13:53,200 --> 00:14:00,000 Speaker 1: Yep, and the year we met it is really Yeah. 283 00:13:58,520 --> 00:14:03,440 Speaker 5: We met through a Saint Vincent de Paul youth group. 284 00:14:04,559 --> 00:14:07,160 Speaker 5: So one of my mates, he was a school captain 285 00:14:07,360 --> 00:14:11,360 Speaker 5: of my high school, Saint Leo's College at Warunga. Yeah, 286 00:14:12,040 --> 00:14:16,360 Speaker 5: we started this Vinnie's group in high school years eleven 287 00:14:16,400 --> 00:14:20,320 Speaker 5: and twelve, and then when school finished, he decided that 288 00:14:20,680 --> 00:14:23,920 Speaker 5: he wanted to keep it rolling. He knew Julie because 289 00:14:23,960 --> 00:14:27,720 Speaker 5: Julie was the school captain of her school, Hornsby Girls 290 00:14:27,800 --> 00:14:35,760 Speaker 5: High invited her along to join this group, and yeah, 291 00:14:35,800 --> 00:14:38,800 Speaker 5: that's how we met school captain Julie. 292 00:14:39,520 --> 00:14:42,640 Speaker 12: Yeah, was that those are the days? I think it 293 00:14:42,680 --> 00:14:44,360 Speaker 12: was hip to be square back then, and I was 294 00:14:44,400 --> 00:14:45,080 Speaker 12: pretty square. 295 00:14:45,160 --> 00:14:48,720 Speaker 2: So now was that voted on by the teachers or 296 00:14:48,760 --> 00:14:49,320 Speaker 2: the students? 297 00:14:51,360 --> 00:14:55,400 Speaker 12: Students? Students voted for all the prefects, and then I 298 00:14:55,440 --> 00:15:00,000 Speaker 12: think the prefects voted for who they wanted for the captain? Yah, right, 299 00:15:00,480 --> 00:15:02,920 Speaker 12: head prefect. It was called at Hornsby Girls High School. 300 00:15:03,000 --> 00:15:06,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I was a sed ive's high girl. 301 00:15:06,480 --> 00:15:10,000 Speaker 1: We were kind of almost mixing in the same circles, 302 00:15:10,720 --> 00:15:11,320 Speaker 1: well kind of. 303 00:15:11,480 --> 00:15:14,200 Speaker 12: I think your snive circles might have been slightly more 304 00:15:14,280 --> 00:15:15,760 Speaker 12: rarefied than the Hornsby. 305 00:15:17,440 --> 00:15:20,440 Speaker 2: It's not lomally put that way. Private school and public 306 00:15:20,480 --> 00:15:22,760 Speaker 2: school people normally go oh private school. 307 00:15:24,680 --> 00:15:27,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, well, we were known as snives back then, and 308 00:15:27,880 --> 00:15:30,720 Speaker 1: it was it was. It's come a long way that school, 309 00:15:30,800 --> 00:15:31,640 Speaker 1: let's put it that way. 310 00:15:32,760 --> 00:15:37,520 Speaker 12: Yeah, Hornsby has too. It's selective now, but I certainly 311 00:15:37,640 --> 00:15:38,240 Speaker 12: wasn't back then. 312 00:15:38,520 --> 00:15:41,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, all right, so you met back then you were 313 00:15:41,280 --> 00:15:43,760 Speaker 2: were you like you were a school captain, so you're 314 00:15:43,760 --> 00:15:44,720 Speaker 2: around year twelve? 315 00:15:45,760 --> 00:15:45,880 Speaker 1: Then? 316 00:15:45,920 --> 00:15:48,080 Speaker 2: Were you hanging out for those years? And then you 317 00:15:48,160 --> 00:15:50,720 Speaker 2: got married like a little like a few years on 318 00:15:50,960 --> 00:15:52,760 Speaker 2: from that, Yeah, for many years. 319 00:15:53,000 --> 00:15:55,960 Speaker 12: You can gosh, you'll slow it on the uptake this one. 320 00:15:56,040 --> 00:15:59,520 Speaker 12: But yeah, we're just out of high school. So you know, 321 00:15:59,760 --> 00:16:02,920 Speaker 12: we're eighteen when we met, and we were nineteen by 322 00:16:02,960 --> 00:16:05,240 Speaker 12: the time he figured that out that I liked him, 323 00:16:05,680 --> 00:16:09,680 Speaker 12: and and then it was another oh gosh, nearly six 324 00:16:09,880 --> 00:16:14,240 Speaker 12: years till we got married. Yeah, jeez, I'm a patient. 325 00:16:14,280 --> 00:16:15,720 Speaker 12: I've got the patience of the saint. 326 00:16:19,320 --> 00:16:22,040 Speaker 2: Like a slow cooker hay. 327 00:16:23,520 --> 00:16:27,560 Speaker 1: Something another cooking pun. There could be more to follow. 328 00:16:28,240 --> 00:16:30,880 Speaker 2: I haven't scripted any of these. They're just flying off 329 00:16:30,920 --> 00:16:31,800 Speaker 2: the top of my head. 330 00:16:31,840 --> 00:16:32,200 Speaker 7: They're just. 331 00:16:33,800 --> 00:16:41,360 Speaker 2: I just impressing myself here. I'm self basting so much. 332 00:16:43,720 --> 00:16:46,160 Speaker 1: Did you did you know from the get go that 333 00:16:46,480 --> 00:16:49,360 Speaker 1: that Julie was the one? And were you sort of 334 00:16:49,520 --> 00:16:51,320 Speaker 1: like this is it? This is this is my gal 335 00:16:51,440 --> 00:16:52,440 Speaker 1: for the rest of my life. 336 00:16:53,480 --> 00:16:55,920 Speaker 5: Yeah, definitely, what was it about? 337 00:16:56,080 --> 00:16:56,680 Speaker 12: Just didn't tell me? 338 00:16:59,440 --> 00:17:02,320 Speaker 1: What was it, Julie that you love or loved it 339 00:17:02,520 --> 00:17:03,560 Speaker 1: and still love? I'm sure? 340 00:17:04,040 --> 00:17:05,879 Speaker 5: Yeah, do you know what? I probably didn't realize that 341 00:17:06,000 --> 00:17:12,040 Speaker 5: back then, but it was her intelligence and her strength, 342 00:17:12,280 --> 00:17:12,640 Speaker 5: I guess. 343 00:17:13,359 --> 00:17:15,480 Speaker 1: And Julie for you, what was it about Meck that 344 00:17:15,560 --> 00:17:17,159 Speaker 1: you loved? 345 00:17:17,320 --> 00:17:17,480 Speaker 8: Oh? 346 00:17:17,920 --> 00:17:21,720 Speaker 12: Where do I start? He had a wicked mullet and 347 00:17:22,960 --> 00:17:30,320 Speaker 12: to come back again. No, he was just very funny. 348 00:17:30,560 --> 00:17:32,760 Speaker 12: So yeah, I had a lot of laughs with him 349 00:17:33,000 --> 00:17:35,800 Speaker 12: and we got on really well. So yeah, we were 350 00:17:36,080 --> 00:17:40,240 Speaker 12: friends like right off the bat. But also I learned, 351 00:17:40,760 --> 00:17:44,480 Speaker 12: you know, over time that he was extremely principled. I 352 00:17:44,560 --> 00:17:47,160 Speaker 12: knew because I'd met him through some Vincent de Paul 353 00:17:47,200 --> 00:17:50,040 Speaker 12: group with these these boys. These group of boys were 354 00:17:50,080 --> 00:17:53,560 Speaker 12: doing amazing charity work, you know, just going out on 355 00:17:53,600 --> 00:17:57,520 Speaker 12: their weekends, going down to sort of Sydney and taking 356 00:17:57,560 --> 00:17:59,960 Speaker 12: out a bus from Matt Talbot hostel and taking coffee 357 00:18:00,040 --> 00:18:02,840 Speaker 12: around King's Cross and Central Station and giving it to 358 00:18:02,920 --> 00:18:04,800 Speaker 12: homeless people and stuff. So I knew that he had 359 00:18:04,840 --> 00:18:09,200 Speaker 12: a really good heart and and just his principles came 360 00:18:09,280 --> 00:18:12,920 Speaker 12: through to me and yeah, I just you know, I 361 00:18:13,040 --> 00:18:17,400 Speaker 12: mean he was hot as well, which never hurts, and yeah, 362 00:18:18,560 --> 00:18:20,120 Speaker 12: I fell madly in love with him. 363 00:18:24,320 --> 00:18:27,640 Speaker 2: Well, we couldn't get enough of these two, Anthony Claia 364 00:18:27,760 --> 00:18:31,560 Speaker 2: and Tim Campbell maybe the most hilarious couple that we've 365 00:18:31,600 --> 00:18:32,240 Speaker 2: had on the poage. 366 00:18:32,320 --> 00:18:33,240 Speaker 3: It's quite possible. 367 00:18:33,440 --> 00:18:38,720 Speaker 1: It was just a barrel of loves throughout the entire episode. 368 00:18:38,760 --> 00:18:40,800 Speaker 1: And when you could have just just sat back and 369 00:18:41,000 --> 00:18:42,560 Speaker 1: listened to them all day, just crack. 370 00:18:42,640 --> 00:18:44,440 Speaker 2: We didn't need to do that. We did not need to. 371 00:18:46,400 --> 00:18:49,280 Speaker 1: But what really showed was how much the couple that 372 00:18:49,480 --> 00:18:52,960 Speaker 1: you know, they really love each other. However, their first encounter, 373 00:18:53,200 --> 00:18:56,400 Speaker 1: which is really interesting, didn't really go how you would 374 00:18:56,480 --> 00:18:59,480 Speaker 1: expect it, with one of them not even remembering it. 375 00:19:00,680 --> 00:19:04,639 Speaker 2: First impressions do matter, we found out, you take a. 376 00:19:04,720 --> 00:19:07,920 Speaker 1: Lesson speaking of meeting, how did the two of you 377 00:19:08,080 --> 00:19:10,480 Speaker 1: first meet? What was sort of the first impression. 378 00:19:10,000 --> 00:19:10,440 Speaker 2: Of each other? 379 00:19:11,840 --> 00:19:18,280 Speaker 13: Okay, two very different answers there. Actually it's a look, 380 00:19:18,480 --> 00:19:21,359 Speaker 13: it's a very gay story. We met on stage in 381 00:19:21,440 --> 00:19:25,200 Speaker 13: a musical. So we were both cast in a production 382 00:19:25,280 --> 00:19:28,159 Speaker 13: of Rent in Perth back in thirty four BC. It 383 00:19:28,240 --> 00:19:31,680 Speaker 13: was a long time ago, and so yeah, I was 384 00:19:31,800 --> 00:19:34,440 Speaker 13: kind of very nervous because I've been my first ever 385 00:19:34,560 --> 00:19:36,840 Speaker 13: professional musical and I was cast having a sing opposite 386 00:19:36,880 --> 00:19:39,040 Speaker 13: Anthony Colea, and I was an actor on Home and Away. 387 00:19:39,080 --> 00:19:40,560 Speaker 13: I wasn't, you know, as much of a singer as 388 00:19:40,600 --> 00:19:43,480 Speaker 13: he was, So that was a bit of nerves when 389 00:19:43,520 --> 00:19:44,120 Speaker 13: we first met. 390 00:19:44,480 --> 00:19:47,680 Speaker 14: Look, that wasn't actually the first time that we met. 391 00:19:47,760 --> 00:19:52,000 Speaker 14: Apparently I don't remember this, but you give your version 392 00:19:52,040 --> 00:19:52,639 Speaker 14: of the story. 393 00:19:53,040 --> 00:19:54,240 Speaker 13: Okay, Okay, here we go. 394 00:19:54,640 --> 00:19:56,480 Speaker 2: So we actually met. 395 00:19:56,600 --> 00:19:59,120 Speaker 13: Okay, that's true. We actually met for the first first time. 396 00:19:59,600 --> 00:20:01,320 Speaker 13: I was doing in two thousand and seven, I did 397 00:20:01,400 --> 00:20:03,800 Speaker 13: Dancing with the Stars and Anthony was doing It Takes Two, 398 00:20:04,080 --> 00:20:06,120 Speaker 13: which is the kind of the poor man singing version 399 00:20:06,160 --> 00:20:11,159 Speaker 13: of Dancing with the Stars. Okay, the cast of it 400 00:20:11,520 --> 00:20:13,000 Speaker 13: It Takes Too came on to set to do a 401 00:20:13,080 --> 00:20:15,560 Speaker 13: promotional performance in one of our episodes, you know, on 402 00:20:15,680 --> 00:20:20,080 Speaker 13: the jumping on the coattails. So it was a rehearsal 403 00:20:20,080 --> 00:20:22,280 Speaker 13: because back then it was live TV. So I think 404 00:20:22,320 --> 00:20:24,840 Speaker 13: they were rehearsing, and I think they did a run 405 00:20:24,880 --> 00:20:26,760 Speaker 13: and we're walking down the corridor and I saw him, 406 00:20:26,760 --> 00:20:28,800 Speaker 13: and I just wanted to say I never met him before. 407 00:20:29,560 --> 00:20:31,560 Speaker 13: It Literally I wish you could see the visual. Literally, 408 00:20:31,640 --> 00:20:34,080 Speaker 13: I'm walking along, he's walking along, probably with an entourage. 409 00:20:34,080 --> 00:20:36,520 Speaker 13: Do you know what music industry people are like? So 410 00:20:36,600 --> 00:20:39,399 Speaker 13: we're walking along the code or I said hello, I 411 00:20:39,600 --> 00:20:42,840 Speaker 13: got the biggest bitch face you've ever seen, like that, 412 00:20:43,000 --> 00:20:44,879 Speaker 13: that resting bitch face look, and did not say a 413 00:20:44,960 --> 00:20:45,359 Speaker 13: word to me. 414 00:20:45,560 --> 00:20:47,960 Speaker 14: Well, you didn't really make an impression and you did 415 00:20:48,000 --> 00:20:50,200 Speaker 14: it look like Chris ham'sworth. So I wasn't giving you 416 00:20:50,280 --> 00:20:50,720 Speaker 14: any time. 417 00:20:52,800 --> 00:20:57,200 Speaker 13: So yeah, it wasn't love at first sight. But okay, 418 00:20:57,240 --> 00:20:59,480 Speaker 13: good on you, mate, you're not shadowed. 419 00:20:59,560 --> 00:21:03,159 Speaker 6: No, what about me? 420 00:21:04,520 --> 00:21:05,280 Speaker 5: What about that. 421 00:21:09,320 --> 00:21:11,200 Speaker 2: Seat with the goatee though? Mate, you could do that. 422 00:21:11,320 --> 00:21:14,320 Speaker 2: You could you can rock a go tea? Anthony, No, 423 00:21:14,400 --> 00:21:15,159 Speaker 2: I don't know about that. 424 00:21:15,840 --> 00:21:18,520 Speaker 1: So so you meet on Rent and Anthony, did you 425 00:21:18,640 --> 00:21:21,720 Speaker 1: remember that that crossing in the hallway where you gave 426 00:21:21,800 --> 00:21:23,160 Speaker 1: him Paddington? 427 00:21:23,800 --> 00:21:27,399 Speaker 14: Absolutely do not remember that encounter. I don't even remember 428 00:21:27,520 --> 00:21:29,800 Speaker 14: him on Dancing with the Stars, let alone Home and Away. 429 00:21:31,359 --> 00:21:32,919 Speaker 2: It was all about the Hemsworth was. 430 00:21:34,560 --> 00:21:35,600 Speaker 3: Chris looked like na. 431 00:21:37,200 --> 00:21:38,879 Speaker 14: Like you know on Home and Away he was you know, 432 00:21:39,000 --> 00:21:41,160 Speaker 14: he was with one little wog and then in real 433 00:21:41,240 --> 00:21:43,880 Speaker 14: life you went to another little wog. Just a French 434 00:21:43,960 --> 00:21:46,639 Speaker 14: ender from Ada to Anthony. 435 00:21:52,160 --> 00:21:52,720 Speaker 2: That was fun. 436 00:21:55,240 --> 00:21:56,320 Speaker 1: Such good stories. 437 00:21:56,920 --> 00:22:00,439 Speaker 2: First impression, you can you only get one chair at 438 00:22:00,480 --> 00:22:04,119 Speaker 2: a first impression, they say, yeah, so make it last. 439 00:22:05,040 --> 00:22:08,359 Speaker 1: It's amazing the stories that our couples have told us. 440 00:22:08,480 --> 00:22:11,080 Speaker 1: You know, some have sort of been they knew from 441 00:22:11,160 --> 00:22:14,000 Speaker 1: the first second they met each other love at first sight. 442 00:22:14,880 --> 00:22:18,320 Speaker 1: Some that were like, didn't even like him, but then 443 00:22:18,359 --> 00:22:20,680 Speaker 1: he grew on me, Like it's just it's all. It's 444 00:22:20,760 --> 00:22:24,399 Speaker 1: never been the same story ever, It's always been different, 445 00:22:24,440 --> 00:22:26,640 Speaker 1: and I love that variety. 446 00:22:27,119 --> 00:22:34,240 Speaker 2: We're all the same, pretty boring and boring. Not like you, honey, 447 00:22:34,720 --> 00:22:40,280 Speaker 2: you're not well. Cheers to that. Thanks, have a great 448 00:22:40,400 --> 00:22:41,280 Speaker 2: day or not. 449 00:22:42,000 --> 00:22:42,760 Speaker 1: Thanks for listening.