Speaker 1: Apod Shape Production. Welcome back to another episode about I
Speaker 1: a Bad Mom Podcast. That's the question we constantly.
Speaker 2: Ask, am I a bad mom?
Speaker 1: More?
Speaker 2: Am I am? I? Should I have done it a
Speaker 2: little bit differently?
Speaker 1: Well, they say that kids all they need.
Speaker 3: Is love, love, and behundaries, of course, always boundaries.
Speaker 1: I mean we may forget a packed lunch every now and.
Speaker 2: There, or a Touch Shop order.
Speaker 3: Now that we're back at school, I can definitely fuck
Speaker 3: up a tuck Shop order.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know that whole like.
Speaker 3: Yep, no, I'm pretty sure I did it, But don't
Speaker 3: go and check because you think in that part of
Speaker 3: your brain you're like, no, I'm pretty sure I did it.
Speaker 1: At the girls' school, they are able to go and
Speaker 1: get alone, which really annoys me because it's not them
Speaker 1: they have to pay it back. It's me.
Speaker 3: I was just going to say, a loan or at
Speaker 3: the Touch shop. Yeah, oh, so they can just go
Speaker 3: and get whatever they want.
Speaker 1: They can get a Touch Shop loan if they don't
Speaker 1: have any money on them. Yeah, but there's a rule.
Speaker 1: It has to be something that's actually substantial food. They're
Speaker 1: not allowed to get a Touch Shop loan and get
Speaker 1: drinks or like fizzy drinks or chocolate or chips or anything.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like a genuine piece, like actual lunch. Yeah right, Okay,
Speaker 3: that's a great system.
Speaker 1: It's great until then you get an email saying just
Speaker 1: to let you know you DOCT loans and you owe
Speaker 1: this amount of money. You're like what, I was like,
Speaker 1: stop let it. Honestly I was going to email back
Speaker 1: once I was going to go. Doesn't matter if they've
Speaker 1: forgotten lunch, don't let them have anything.
Speaker 3: You should be emailing that and saying no. Look, the
Speaker 3: system in our house is that they pack their own lunches,
Speaker 3: and so when they don't have their own lunch, it's
Speaker 3: their owns.
Speaker 1: Yeah, because that's the problem. So they do do their
Speaker 1: own lunch boxes now. But there's definitely been moments where
Speaker 1: I've gone, you're not gonna have enough time to do
Speaker 1: your lunch, and they'll go, oh, it's all right, I
Speaker 1: just want to and I'm like no, because then you're
Speaker 1: going to go and get alone, and then I'm going
Speaker 1: to be paying for it. Don't let my kids eat.
Speaker 2: Full stop? No more.
Speaker 1: Am I about a mom for saying no to personal loans?
Speaker 2: Personal lines?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 2: How much I am asking for.
Speaker 1: Well, this is the thing. So I've started this now,
Speaker 1: and even in the back of my head, I'm going,
Speaker 1: you wanted something for so long and now it's happened,
Speaker 1: just be happy with it instead of constantly wanting more
Speaker 1: from them. So I was banging on and on and
Speaker 1: on about them getting a job.
Speaker 2: So absolutely, yes, they've both got jobs. Wonderful, even better.
Speaker 1: Yeah, part time casual jobs, which is great. Amelia has
Speaker 1: had like five shifts now, Holly's waiting for her first shift.
Speaker 1: And and what I'm finding with Amelia is so she
Speaker 1: has stuff that she wants to buy. Concert tickets is
Speaker 1: the first thing, and then she wants to start saving
Speaker 1: towards a car. And so I'm like, great, you know,
Speaker 1: as a general rule, maybe save half, spend half her
Speaker 1: first pay. She was so excited. She's like, I've been paid,
Speaker 1: Like she just like when that hit the bank account. Yeah,
Speaker 1: And she even said to me, She's like, I just
Speaker 1: feel so good that it's I've actually earned it and
Speaker 1: it's not from you. And I was like, oh God,
Speaker 1: I've been wanting to hear that for so long and
Speaker 1: for you to understand that feeling. But what's happening now
Speaker 1: is she's got a taste of knowing that she can
Speaker 1: spend money, but she's not wanting to wait for payday,
Speaker 1: so she's hitting us up to pay for things in
Speaker 1: events and then she'll pay us back on payday. And
Speaker 1: I'm like, it's not gonna work like that. So she'll go, oh,
Speaker 1: I want to get this, and I go, you don't
Speaker 1: have any money.
Speaker 2: I do.
Speaker 1: I do because I've got this coming. I'm owned. This
Speaker 1: is so many shifts I've done. This is what's coming.
Speaker 1: I went, yeah, but you don't have it yet, and
Speaker 1: she's like, yes, but I do have it.
Speaker 2: I do have it.
Speaker 1: I've earned it.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: I was like, where is it? Then, well, it's coming.
Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, but I can't go to Woollies and
Speaker 1: do a shop, get to the checkout and go, you're
Speaker 1: right if I pay for this next Wednesday when I
Speaker 1: get paid, I'll just take it now. But it's coming,
Speaker 1: like I've got the money. It doesn't work like that.
Speaker 2: It does not work like that.
Speaker 1: So I said, no more personal loans. And now there's
Speaker 1: a concert that's been announced, and as we know, it's
Speaker 1: bloody hard work to get tickets for a concert. End
Speaker 1: up on that bloody ticket. I hate them, and you
Speaker 1: literally have to sit on there all day.
Speaker 2: In a queue.
Speaker 3: Then it doesn't start until five pm or something like that,
Speaker 3: So you've sat all day.
Speaker 1: And then it gives you a certain amount of time
Speaker 1: once you're through, and then it's telling you how many
Speaker 1: minutes you've got left, and then it's going to kick
Speaker 1: you out. Where's the customer service in that? So bad?
Speaker 2: I'm paying money here, I have.
Speaker 1: Lots of money. Treat you like shit?
Speaker 3: Those tickets, Yeah, they don't have to worry about it.
Speaker 1: So anyway, there's a kind of a sense of urgency
Speaker 1: if there's tickets that you really want for a specific artist,
Speaker 1: because you have to jump on and get in there
Speaker 1: and you're going to miss out. And so now I'm
Speaker 1: in that situation. So now she's begging us please, I'm like,
Speaker 1: but you don't have any money.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but I do, But you don't. No, No you don't.
Speaker 2: Did you pay for them? No?
Speaker 1: I've said, no more personal loans. Oh so you didn't
Speaker 1: get the ticket, no more personals.
Speaker 3: Well that's a great lesson because you're like, you did
Speaker 3: say to a save half spand half. The part is
Speaker 3: if she had a little bit of savings, then leant
Speaker 3: on it exactly.
Speaker 1: If you had some savings there, then you've got the
Speaker 1: money there ready for those occasions like this.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Oh well, I'm sure the artists will come back, or
Speaker 3: maybe she'd just try and get some more. She'll probably
Speaker 3: get the tickets second hand off hopefully some of the
Speaker 3: other places that don't rip you off.
Speaker 1: They're expensive too. Concert's a good.
Speaker 2: Personal loan, so you reckon that.
Speaker 3: I mean, just knowing your daughters, knowing what their plan was.
Speaker 3: I think we had dinner maybe end of last year
Speaker 3: or the start of this year. We had a dinner
Speaker 3: together with your girls and you know my girls, and
Speaker 3: I was talking to your girls about like, oh, so you.
Speaker 2: Know, Mum was telling me about getting a.
Speaker 3: Job so that you know, you'll put in an X
Speaker 3: amount of money and then that way mom and dad
Speaker 3: match it.
Speaker 2: And like we've spoken openly on the podcast about that.
Speaker 2: How they going with that?
Speaker 3: Yeah, nothing, it's going to ask you for a personal
Speaker 3: loan to match your half of the loan.
Speaker 1: So far, Amelia has had a couple of paydays, I
Speaker 1: think two or three paydays so far. Yeah, and it's
Speaker 1: all spent all right.
Speaker 2: Well, that car saving is going great guns.
Speaker 1: Yeah, great for me, great for you might have to
Speaker 1: match nothing.
Speaker 2: Until the day comes where they asked to borrow your car.
Speaker 2: Borrow your car.
Speaker 3: They are going to definitely ask to borrow your car
Speaker 3: because it's a bit smaller than dads, so then it's
Speaker 3: a little bit more attractive because when you're first learning
Speaker 3: to drive, you don't want to be in a really
Speaker 3: big car, you know, so yours is perf Like they're
Speaker 3: going to be like, mum, I'm just going to woolies
Speaker 3: in your car.
Speaker 1: Literally. It was only the other day was the first
Speaker 1: time I thought about them wanting to borrow my car,
Speaker 1: because the whole time I felt like, you don't have
Speaker 1: any money to buy a car yet, so you're not
Speaker 1: going to have a car, so you're still going to
Speaker 1: be getting public trans for And I got them a
Speaker 1: go card the other day and I was like, there
Speaker 1: you go, train, tap away, fast tap away, fifty cent rides. Yeah,
Speaker 1: how good is that?
Speaker 3: So good it is it's probably the only good thing
Speaker 3: that's come out of it for a long time.
Speaker 2: But fifty cents is great.
Speaker 1: How long is that going to go?
Speaker 2: It was only three months though, okay, But.
Speaker 1: Then being able to say can I borrow your car.
Speaker 1: And if it's a case where I'm just at home
Speaker 1: and I'm not going anywhere, yeah, you've got no excuse. No,
Speaker 1: it's kind of hard to say no. I need it
Speaker 1: to it in the garage, my car, and then they're
Speaker 1: going to get a taste of a car that's way
Speaker 1: better than the first car they're going to get. Whit
Speaker 1: I wait until I'm forty one for.
Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly. So the answer is just specifically no, good luck.
Speaker 1: I've heard so many stories of people and they're like,
Speaker 1: get the phone call, who, Sorry, I've crushed your car
Speaker 1: into a fence.
Speaker 3: Please make sure I'm there with you on that day.
Speaker 3: I can't wait to film your reaction. Oh my god,
Speaker 3: I'm laughing because I've got all of this ahead of me. Yeah,
Speaker 3: all of it ahead of me.
Speaker 2: And I know exactly what type of drivers my kids
Speaker 2: are going to be. I know exactly what I'm been
Speaker 2: for mine.
Speaker 1: I've already talked about the music system they want to have,
Speaker 1: and like how loud are they going to have? What
Speaker 1: playlist they're going to have playing? And I'm like, mate,
Speaker 1: you need to concentrate.
Speaker 2: On the road, Katie.
Speaker 3: But I was thinking about it with this stuff is
Speaker 3: when we were doing it. That was one of the
Speaker 3: things that was on my pre you know, requisite list
Speaker 3: of my first car.
Speaker 2: Yes, the car cost four.
Speaker 3: Thousand dollars, but it did have a twenty six Stucker
Speaker 3: CD thing and it with a subwifer. Obviously every dollar
Speaker 3: out of the four thousand dollars.
Speaker 2: Was for the radio system.
Speaker 3: And I mean, these kids just won't ever learn because
Speaker 3: they don't know how hard we had it where we
Speaker 3: had to like stuck in twenty six CDs so that
Speaker 3: you could be able to shuffle songs between your CDs,
Speaker 3: and you know, like all you'd be driving and your
Speaker 3: knees are up around the steering wheel and trying to
Speaker 3: flip through your CD case to find the next CD.
Speaker 2: Maybe give it a bit of a clean before you
Speaker 2: pop it in the machine. They just don't get.
Speaker 1: It skip when you go over a bump. My first car,
Speaker 1: it was one thousand dollars. It's five hundred pounds in England.
Speaker 1: It was a Nisam Micra wind up windows, brown seat
Speaker 1: belt am Radar. I had a whole thing put in
Speaker 1: as well, speakers in the back. But yeah, yeah, then
Speaker 1: you got to put your CDs in or your cassettes
Speaker 1: had a cassette player.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think there was no. No, I didn't.
Speaker 1: Pressing a button and saying, hey, Siri, play my Spotify playlist.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: But here we are worrying about them having to like
Speaker 3: just concentrate on the road we're doing. We're fucking concentrating
Speaker 3: on seventy five things, not just one.
Speaker 2: Don't worry about the phone.
Speaker 3: We were doing a lot more than that, and changing
Speaker 3: gears manually.
Speaker 1: I bought it second hand off the guy next door
Speaker 1: who was going blind.
Speaker 2: It only had a few dents.