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Speaker 1: This is the fitsy and with her with Kate Richie podcast.

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Speaker 2: Get Involved. Maybe you're a twin. Maybe you are a

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Speaker 2: parent of twins, you're twenty. I don't you know. I'm

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Speaker 2: not a twin.

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Speaker 3: No, you're not.

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Speaker 2: I'd like to say I was a twin to excuse

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Speaker 2: some of my behavior over the years.

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Speaker 3: It's been fun, wouldn't it.

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Speaker 2: What do you mean to be a twin?

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Speaker 3: Well?

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Speaker 2: I don't know, and this is what I think. And

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Speaker 2: that's why that's why I'm asking people to get involved.

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Speaker 2: Thirteen twenty four ten, because there is this dilemma I

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Speaker 2: read online overnight a mother. She's a mother of twins.

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Speaker 2: She shares a lot on her socials about parenting in general,

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Speaker 2: but also being the parent of twins. Now, the dilemma

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Speaker 2: is that one of her to one of the twins,

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Speaker 2: has been invited to a birthday party, when the other hasn't.

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Speaker 1: He she is.

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Speaker 4: I knew this day was come, but I was so

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Speaker 4: not prepared for it. To night, we received an invitation

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Speaker 4: for one of my two twin girls to go to

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Speaker 4: a birthday party, one of the two of them. I've

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Speaker 4: been racking my brain on what to do. I knew

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Speaker 4: that this is going to happen eventually. I just didn't

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Speaker 4: think that it was going to happen at this age.

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Speaker 4: I feel like it's an all or nothing situation. So

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Speaker 4: either both are going to the party or none are

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Speaker 4: going to the party.

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Speaker 2: While she's saying that they are five years old, and

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Speaker 2: her gut is telling her to message the mom and say, look,

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Speaker 2: we're kind of a package here at the moment. The

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Speaker 2: kids are young, so either either they both come or

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Speaker 2: none of them, neither of them come.

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Speaker 5: I agree, Can I hang on?

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Speaker 1: This is a numbers game, just quick throwing.

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Speaker 2: The party wants to have thirty people and the twin

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Speaker 2: is thirty one, so I'm sorry, but they're friends with

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Speaker 2: Deirdre over Karen.

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Speaker 5: No that they usually twins come. When you get to

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Speaker 5: know someone in the school yard, you get to know

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Speaker 5: the twins, not just one. They do everything together.

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Speaker 2: Well not always. I know my daughter had friends at

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Speaker 2: schools and they were very different children and had different

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Speaker 2: sets of friends. Well, and I think sometimes the parents

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Speaker 2: can throw. And this is me not being the parent

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Speaker 2: of twins. So I don't know how this works, and

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Speaker 2: that's why I'm asking for some guidance here. But is

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Speaker 2: it not important to allow them to be individuals or

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Speaker 2: at this age do they not need that kind of thing.

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Speaker 2: I don't.

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

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Speaker 5: We actually yea, No, we're having a problem at the moment.

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Speaker 5: We've one of Lenny's mates where their parents are like,

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Speaker 5: if you want to invite Lenny's mate over for a sleepover,

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Speaker 5: you've got to invite his younger brother as well.

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Speaker 3: Well.

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Speaker 5: That different that Lenny that doesn't even hardly know you.

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Speaker 2: We do it a little bit so that the younger

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Speaker 2: brother feels left out. Okay, because Jack's so close to

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Speaker 2: Ted in age, if Ted's going to a party, sometimes

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Speaker 2: we'll call the parents and say, what do you mind

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Speaker 2: if Jack came on? But you can't do that. That's

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Speaker 2: not the friend and Ted deserves to have his own

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Speaker 2: space and his own set of friends. So we go

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Speaker 2: to the phones. Yeah's I think Tom's keen to Jody

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Speaker 2: and North Parramatta.

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Speaker 1: You're a twin, Yes, I'm a twin.

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Speaker 2: What do you think about when you have twins?

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Speaker 1: Wow Y, Look, I think while they're young, invite them both.

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Speaker 1: I don't think it's going to make much of a difference.

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Speaker 1: I think inclusiveness and to be honest to say, well,

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Speaker 1: the fights right as they get older, then I guess

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Speaker 1: they both have their own personality, they both have their

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Speaker 1: own friendship groups, and I guess that would be okay.

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Do you think that as part of development of even

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Speaker 2: a young person, whether you're you know, said it one

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Speaker 2: or two in one of twins or whatever, that it's

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Speaker 2: important for them to spend time apart and have their

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Speaker 2: own sets of friends and you know, ownership over friendships.

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Speaker 1: Absolutely vital, yeah, bid and skills absolutely. However, you know,

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Speaker 1: my sister and I growing up, we have the same

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Speaker 1: friendship group, so it wasn't necessarily like that.

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Speaker 5: It makes sense, doesn't it.

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Speaker 3: Joe, thank you, Thank you.

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Speaker 5: Jennifer and French. As far us you're a twin, what

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Speaker 5: happened with you growing up?

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Speaker 3: Look, it was back in nineteen seventy five and I

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Speaker 3: was five and McDonald's had just opened in Australia and

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Speaker 3: my twin sister got invited to my friend Kathy's party

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Speaker 3: and I didn't get an invite, so had to the

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Speaker 3: whole go and buy the presents and drop her off

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Speaker 3: at the party. And I'll never forget it.

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Speaker 2: You're still talking about it calling radio stations in twenty

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Speaker 2: twenty four and you sound quite fired up about it.

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Speaker 2: Can I ask back then? And I don't want to

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Speaker 2: upset parents that dress their children the same, but were

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Speaker 2: you dressed in matching sets as well as a twin?

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Speaker 3: We actually were, but sometimes we're going to be matching

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Speaker 3: but different colors. But we actually that was our choice

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Speaker 3: at the end, Chips. Yeah, my dad was an identical

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Speaker 3: twin too, so I used to be funny when the

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Speaker 3: four of us would be out in the same area in.

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Speaker 5: The same outfits. Did you to what age do you

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Speaker 5: sort of branch out and have your own friends, Jen?

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Speaker 5: When you're a twin?

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Speaker 3: Oh, look, we were in different classes after kindergarten, so

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Speaker 3: we did branch out and make our own friends. We

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Speaker 3: tend to be in the same groups of circles of friends.

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Speaker 3: But I think when you're really little like that, that's

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Speaker 3: when it's really hard because it's the first years of

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Speaker 3: parties and stuff. So, yeah, that would never ring and say,

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Speaker 3: you know, you've got to ask the other one. Do

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Speaker 3: you have to.

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Speaker 2: Have special powers? Like can you read each other's mind?

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Speaker 2: And if she's unwell, do you feel unwell? And all

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Speaker 2: of that.

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Speaker 3: No, it never had that, Jen.

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Speaker 5: What was the year again. What was the year again?

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Speaker 3: Seventy five?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, you've never forgotten.

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Speaker 2: Hang on to that, Jen, hang on to it. On

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Speaker 2: your Gen, good on your Jodey. Tell me you've got

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Speaker 2: a twins sister, identical twins.

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Speaker 5: Sister nor different.

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Speaker 3: That's just me.

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Speaker 4: It's Kate.

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