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Speaker 1: Hello, I'm Tory Archbold. For two decades, I've nurtured the

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Speaker 1: world's top performing retail brands and celebrities. Now I'm asking entrepreneurs, CEOs,

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Speaker 1: and influencers to share their own secrets to success. They're

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Speaker 1: high as their lows, the game changing moments, and how

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Speaker 1: they got to where they are today. It's a podcast

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Speaker 1: equivalent of opening the best Little Black Book of Contacts Ever.

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Speaker 1: If this resonates with you and you're ready to step

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Speaker 1: outside of your comfort zone and into your power zone,

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Speaker 1: I invite you to join my exclusive community via our

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Speaker 1: website for Powerful Josh Steps dot com.

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Speaker 2: Welcome to Powerful Leadership, a collaboration between Powerful Steps and

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Speaker 2: Fear and Greed. This is the third episode of our

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Speaker 2: six part series examining leadership and becoming the leader you

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Speaker 2: want to be. I'm chatting again this morning to the

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Speaker 2: wonderful Toy Archbold, pe guru, publicist extraordinaire and founder of

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Speaker 2: Powerful Steps. Good morning Tory, Good morning Sean. So we've

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Speaker 2: spoken about your story with spoken about creating a brand

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Speaker 2: and how powerful that can be. I really just want

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Speaker 2: to take this third episode to look at the lessons learned,

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Speaker 2: and I'm going to lead you down the path in

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Speaker 2: this instance, powerful steps. Three things that you like to

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Speaker 2: do when you talk about powerful steps, Coffee within your tribe,

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Speaker 2: coffee outside your tribe, and then social media. Can we

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Speaker 2: go through all three of them?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, So I absolutely love Sean the power of connection,

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Speaker 1: human connection, virtual connection, connection anywhere in the world, and

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Speaker 1: throughout my entire career, I've always committed to three coffee

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Speaker 1: dates a week, so you're absolutely right. I have a

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Speaker 1: coffee date with someone in my tribe, which would be

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Speaker 1: you today this morning. The second one is someone that

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Speaker 1: completely outside my comfort zone. And it's a ritual that

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Speaker 1: I've been doing for over two decades now and it's

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Speaker 1: allowed me to build a very powerful global network that

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Speaker 1: I'm able to tap into to build not only my

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Speaker 1: personal brand, but the brands of the people that I represent.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, one of those earlier episodes you were talking about

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Speaker 2: Drew Barrymore and how you got involved with her, you

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Speaker 2: And there's an example of the benefit of it.

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Speaker 1: It's a great example. Look whenever I was in LA

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Speaker 2: Why did coffee dates work.

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Speaker 1: Coffee dates work because it's a mutual exchange of energy.

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Speaker 1: It's an opportunity for you, as a leader, or as

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Speaker 2: Okay, so tell me another lesson that you've written about

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Speaker 2: I suppose it's a lot easier in a virtual world

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Speaker 2: Number two marinate in shit rule.

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Speaker 1: How can I help you, Tory, and vice versa? How

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Speaker 2: what's your next Powerful steph.

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Speaker 1: I'm entering the US markets. How exciting, and I'm having

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