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Speaker 1: This podcast, Do you guys write notes for your wives.

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Speaker 2: On her birthday? Of course, dear you, I love you

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Speaker 2: from me.

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Speaker 3: Look, I am going to give you time frames here

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Speaker 3: because early in the relationship, yes, all the time.

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Speaker 1: Well, then this sounds exactly like what I'm about to

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Speaker 1: present to the nation, which is you are on the

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Speaker 1: downward spiral because you're not doing the little things. I

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Speaker 1: don't know if you've ever listened to the Mel Robins podcast,

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Speaker 1: massive podcast, there was this guy on it, James Sexton.

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Speaker 1: He is a relationship.

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Speaker 4: Expert, I'm going to say, and or he could even

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Speaker 4: be a divorce lawyer.

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Speaker 1: I mean, you know, you see a lot of relationships

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Speaker 1: when or at the end of the relationship when you're

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Speaker 1: a divorce lawyer.

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Speaker 4: He has said.

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Speaker 1: The most important thing to unspiral the downward spiral is

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Speaker 1: to continue doing those tiny things.

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Speaker 4: And that's I mean.

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Speaker 1: Look, if you're a note writer, because I actually think

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Speaker 1: they go a very long way. Thirteen twenty four to ten,

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Speaker 1: does your partner write little notes and leave them in

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Speaker 1: your lunch box or on the bathroom the vanity mirror.

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Speaker 1: Remember that woman we had call the show on a

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Speaker 1: Friday afternoon and she said she had an ex, so

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Speaker 1: you used to write love notes on her banana that

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Speaker 1: she took to work with the cat.

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Speaker 4: She had a pet cat.

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Speaker 2: Tommy does that too. You did little notes and kings.

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Speaker 4: I try and do one a week, kid. I used

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Speaker 4: to do it every day.

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Speaker 3: But as Fitzer said, it goes down to you.

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Speaker 4: No, Tommy.

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Speaker 1: When we moved from the breakfast show in Sydney to

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Speaker 1: the drive show, I saw you.

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Speaker 4: You posted this beautiful letter that.

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Speaker 1: You'd written your wife about the transition and the change

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Speaker 1: and the adventure that you were taking.

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Speaker 3: Like transitions.

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Speaker 4: I had my suspicions. Do you know what I thought?

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Speaker 4: It was not?

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Speaker 1: Please don't turn this into something that. What I loved

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Speaker 1: about it was that Tommy included his partner at home

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Speaker 1: in the transitions.

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Speaker 4: Again, that's not fair, That's not what I mean. Give

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Speaker 4: us a call. Thirteen twenty four ten. Should we speak

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Speaker 4: to Ingred? Yeah? I'm so sorry. Do you leave notes?

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Speaker 5: It's okay. I get Inger all the time?

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Speaker 3: Yes?

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Speaker 5: So do I leave notes all the time for you

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Speaker 5: from my husband? Mainly you? Right? Ah Pas that's his nickname. Pass.

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Speaker 5: Don't forget your chicken snits or wrapping the fridge for

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Speaker 5: Luck and then he wrote back and said thank you

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Speaker 5: on the bottom of the note, thank you for that.

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Speaker 5: I really forgot.

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Speaker 3: That's so beautiful.

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Speaker 5: I'll go out to his work fan at night. I'll

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Speaker 5: sneak out with his key and I'll put a note

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Speaker 5: on his seat and say, right carefully today, I love you.

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Speaker 5: I'll leave notes all the time for him.

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Speaker 2: Do you lose your voice often? Couldn't you just tell him?

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Speaker 4: No, you don't get it. He doesn't get it.

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Speaker 5: All the time as well. And I said to him,

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Speaker 5: I said to him the other day, do I annoy

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Speaker 5: you that I just love you and anore you all

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Speaker 5: the time? And he goes, no, I love it.

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Speaker 1: If you two, if you don't have anything supportive or

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Speaker 1: not sarcastic to say to Ingrid to stay out of this,

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Speaker 1: because I actually think that this like that brings me

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Speaker 1: to tears that kind of hell.

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Speaker 5: Oh okay, are you ready? Forty years last August?

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Speaker 3: Now, Ingrid, that's who you are. But does he leave

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Speaker 3: you notes or as you let himself go over the years?

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Speaker 5: Sometimes he does some time.

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Speaker 4: What do you think he could get better at Ingrid.

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Speaker 5: Leaving notes? But when it comes to anniverse three birthdays,

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Speaker 5: he writes the most beautiful cards, and I just think,

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Speaker 5: who is this man?

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Speaker 2: Can I ask have you ever left a note where

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Speaker 2: you needed to say something that wasn't so loving but

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Speaker 2: a little bit more direct, like you're putting on a

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Speaker 2: couple of kegs there, big fellow.

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Speaker 5: Yes, no, no, no, you went very nice to me

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Speaker 5: last night. I'm a bit upset. How would you like

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Speaker 5: to feel like that? And then he'll bring me next?

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Speaker 5: Sorry today that day?

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Speaker 3: Sometimes it is sometimes it'ce he easier to write things down,

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Speaker 3: isn't it ingrid? That's a beautiful story. Can we go

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Speaker 3: and have a chat with Simon and kilmore? You've got

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Speaker 3: some advice for us.

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Speaker 6: So yeah, boys. Firstly, thanks for letting me get through

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Speaker 6: and say good to you guys. First time talking to

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Speaker 6: you guys on the but with on with you, Kate.

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Speaker 6: I've been a fan of yours for years, so I'm

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Speaker 6: on your side, and you boys really need to step

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Speaker 6: up your game.

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Speaker 4: You mean with the love notes or you mean the

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Speaker 4: way they treat me?

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Speaker 6: Simon, well, come out.

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Speaker 2: Do you know what, Simon? I think the love language

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Speaker 2: can be shown in many ways, and I think the

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Speaker 2: note leaving is something you do at the start of

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Speaker 2: a relationship because I've now moved on to doing other

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Speaker 2: things beyond notes.

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Speaker 6: What you're missing is the sentimentality aspect for the ladies

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Speaker 6: out there. They appreciate all the small things they watched

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Speaker 6: for that.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, where are you? Where do you live?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 6: Well do you have the address with the Yeah, I'm married.

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Speaker 4: A bit of of course you are, Simon.

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Speaker 3: What's the last note you left your wife, Simon? What

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Speaker 3: did it say?

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Speaker 6: I love you, You're my rock, have a good day,

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Speaker 6: my everything.

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Speaker 2: Where do you leave the notes?

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Speaker 3: And what year in the eighties was that? Simon?

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Speaker 6: Come on, now, be born in the eighties?

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Speaker 3: And where do you leave it?

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Speaker 2: On your pillow?

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Speaker 6: Or I used to? I got used to leave them

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Speaker 6: on posted notes all over the house, but we have

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Speaker 6: a little blackboard near the kitchen that I leave it

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Speaker 6: notes on, right, Simon?

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Speaker 4: Who taught you this? Simon? Where did you see the

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Speaker 4: value in this? For the first time?

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Speaker 6: When I found a partner that respected me as a

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Speaker 6: human being.

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Speaker 4: That's great.

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Speaker 3: I'm thinking now with the I was in the background

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Speaker 3: is mum, what did you used to look like in

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Speaker 3: the nineties?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 5: I know.

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Speaker 2: These other things around. It's certainly not notes. This is

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Speaker 2: a friend Tate Podcast For great shows like this down

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