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Speaker 1: I get a team. Welcome back to another installment of

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Speaker 1: the show. So, as you well know, because you read

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Speaker 1: the title and you probably read the overview, this is

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Speaker 1: part two of my little extravaganza on the brain. I'm

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Speaker 1: calling this brain literacy, which is essentially the idea of

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Speaker 1: you and me understanding how that thing that drives our life,

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Speaker 1: that thing that drives our body, that thing that gives

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Speaker 1: the world around us meaning and story and all of

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Speaker 1: those things, how it works. I think it's a good

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Speaker 1: idea that we all have one, so we should probably

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Speaker 1: try and understand how it works and how we can

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Speaker 1: manage it rather than it manage us all of the time.

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Speaker 1: It's a little bit of a two way kind of

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Speaker 1: an interaction. But so we did. Let me just I've

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Speaker 1: got my notes here, I'm trying to remember, just a

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Speaker 1: quick recap. If you haven't heard part one, have a listen,

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Speaker 1: Have a listen. It's probably you know what. It doesn't

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Speaker 1: It doesn't matter so much that you listen to it chronologically.

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Speaker 1: But we've spoken about five concepts. Number one, the role

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Speaker 1: of the brain. Number two, whether or not we can

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Speaker 1: manage our brain or it manages us. Number three, the

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Speaker 1: idea of keeping our brain working optimally, keeping our brain

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Speaker 1: in a healthy state, which is, believe it or not,

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Speaker 1: something that is really important that very few people think about.

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Speaker 1: How do I optimize my brain from a physiological point

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Speaker 1: of view, from a health point of view, from a hydration,

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Speaker 1: from a sleep, from a nutrition. We think when we

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Speaker 1: think about health, we think about, you know, our heart,

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Speaker 1: and we talk about our energy, and we talk about

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Speaker 1: our body composition. But we don't often think directly about

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Speaker 1: how do I make my brain work better? How do

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Speaker 1: I make my brain healthier? What are the things that

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Speaker 1: I can do for my brain and to my brain

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Speaker 1: and with my brain that are going to make my

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Speaker 1: brain perform better. Remembering that how well your body can perform,

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Speaker 1: how well your mind can perform, Yes, it's different to

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Speaker 1: your brain. How well you can perform in life, at work,

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Speaker 1: in relationships, in navigating the day to day bullshit, that

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Speaker 1: is largely dependent on how your brain is working. So

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Speaker 1: that was the first three. The fourth one was a

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Speaker 1: little story I told about an analogy between the brain,

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Speaker 1: our brain, and an old house. It's kind of a

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Speaker 1: story that I told to help people who have no

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Speaker 1: idea of what the bits of the brain do. Let's

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Speaker 1: say that to help them understand different roles and functions

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Speaker 1: of you know, like the prefrontal cortex, the bit of

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Speaker 1: like that. The fifth section we did was how our

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Speaker 1: brain can sometimes conspire against us and get in get

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Speaker 1: in the road of what we want. Keeping in mind

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Speaker 1: that our brain is not actually built for happiness or

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Speaker 1: fulfillment or personal growth, which is not say it can't

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Speaker 1: do those things, but it's actually built for survival, you know.

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Speaker 1: The factory setting. The come out of the factory setting

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Speaker 1: of your brain is to keep you safe, is to

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Speaker 1: make sure that you're not putting yourself in harm's way.

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Speaker 1: All right, that's the first five. So how many more

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Speaker 1: have I got left? I think I've got It would

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Speaker 1: make sense that I did ten. Let me just check.

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Speaker 1: I should probably have prepared this earlier. Oh, I seem

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Speaker 1: to eleven. All right, Well, let's dive into number six anyway,

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Speaker 1: unless I feel free not to edit any of this.

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Speaker 1: Let's just keep the organic mess that is me all intact.

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Speaker 1: So question six is how much of my thinking am

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Speaker 1: It just happens. It's an unconscious kind of process and

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Speaker 1: conscious thought and despite you automatic thought. Most people like

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Speaker 1: like the autopilot that drive most of your day, your

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Speaker 1: I've been riding. I'm sixty two as I record this.

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Speaker 1: And you've got this myriad of things intersecting and happening

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Speaker 1: And this capacity that we have to auto pilot our

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Speaker 1: last hundred times. It creates more problems and solutions, but

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Speaker 1: You're not weak because you repeat old patterns, and you're

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Speaker 1: And so every time you slow down, every time you

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Speaker 1: And if so, how long does it take? Thanks for asking?

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Speaker 1: So the short answer is yeah, app yep, sure you can.

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Speaker 1: Not easy, but absolutely you can. So your brain is

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Speaker 1: rewiring itself all the time. The question isn't can you

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Speaker 1: rewire it? It's what are you rewiring it? Toward? Every

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Speaker 1: thought you think, every behavior you repeat, every reaction you

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Speaker 1: default to, every emotional pattern that you reinforce and practice

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Speaker 1: is literally reshaping neural circuits. Your brain is plastic, not

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Speaker 1: like tupperware plastic, but in the adaptable remodelable Is that

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Speaker 1: a word remodelable, constantly changing sense? And here's the important bit.

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Speaker 1: Neural rewiring isn't a movie moment transformation. It's ongoing construction work.

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Speaker 1: Your brain's always asking two questions, what do you want?

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Speaker 1: Me to do more of what do you want me

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Speaker 1: to stop wasting energy on? And it answers those questions

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Speaker 1: through repetition, not intention. When you practice a new behavior,

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Speaker 1: setting boundaries, pausing before reacting, exercising, learning, replacing a habit,

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Speaker 1: challenging a thought, your brain starts building a pathway for

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Speaker 1: that behavior. Of course, it's weak at first and awkward

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Speaker 1: and requires effort and energy, like walking through long grass

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Speaker 1: or mud, but repeated enough and it becomes a track

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Speaker 1: and then a path, and then a road and then

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Speaker 1: eventually a highway. That's rewiring. That's what rewiring is. So

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Speaker 1: how long does it take? This is a million dollar question.

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Speaker 1: So for small behavioral tweaks, it takes days to weeks.

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Speaker 1: I'm just going to say before I share these numbers

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Speaker 1: and these thoughts, this the research around this is pretty comprehensive,

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Speaker 1: but it's not absolute. And also, remember when we say

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Speaker 1: how long does it take to change this habit or

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Speaker 1: that habit, the question would be well for who, because

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Speaker 1: it's not going to be the same for Craig as

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Speaker 1: it is for you the listener, or for your brother,

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Speaker 1: or for your money. It's not like, oh, this habit

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Speaker 1: takes twenty seven days with everybody. Well, it doesn't. And

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Speaker 1: also you know it's like I need to give up sugar. Cool?

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Speaker 1: How much sugar are you having a day? Well, thirty

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Speaker 1: teaspoons versus I was having five. So it's a bit

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Speaker 1: of a different sugar addiction or sugar problem. But so

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Speaker 1: I'm about to generalize. So how long does it take

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Speaker 1: for small behaviors, small behavioral tweaks? Generally days, two weeks.

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Speaker 1: For habit level rewiring, ah, six to ten weeks, maybe

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Speaker 1: twenty weeks, depending on the habit. We're trying to change

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Speaker 1: the individual and so on. But that kind of inside

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Speaker 1: out level change, I mean that real identity level change.

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Speaker 1: I don't do that anymore. I'm different now. That can

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Speaker 1: be years, months to years. But the good thing with this,

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Speaker 1: when we consciously start down this road is that the

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Speaker 1: early winds show up fast. Our brain loves new grooves.

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Speaker 1: And the good bit is, I guess the important bit

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Speaker 1: is you don't raise old pathways, you outcompete them. I

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Speaker 1: feel like I said that before, but that's okay. The

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Speaker 1: old road stays there, but the new one gets more

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Speaker 1: traffic over time, and the old one grows over And

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Speaker 1: as I said before, consistency beats enthusiasm, and that's why

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Speaker 1: small daily actions outperform. I'm going to change my life tomorrow,

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Speaker 1: promises why identity upgrades on becoming someone who works better

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Speaker 1: than I. Hope I can stop doing this. Your brain

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Speaker 1: isn't stubborn or broken. It's normal. You're human. We all

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Speaker 1: deal with this shit. The good news is it's programmable,

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Speaker 1: but only through what you do, only through your action,

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Speaker 1: through your behavior, not what you say you're going to do,

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Speaker 1: not what you talk about, not what you intend. So

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Speaker 1: in other words, this kind of change is not a

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Speaker 1: character issue. It's a wiring issue, and wiring can be changed.

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Speaker 1: All right, groovers, I guess that's about it. Even I'm

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Speaker 1: a bit confused. That'll do us for today. Hopefully this

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Speaker 1: conversation has given you a bit of clarity, made things

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Speaker 1: a little bit simpler, more easy to digest and process,

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Speaker 1: and giving you something of an understanding of the thing

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Speaker 1: that drives your entire life, your brain, not the textbook version,

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Speaker 1: not the lab coat version, but the real world. This

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Speaker 1: actually helps me live a better life version. What would

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Speaker 1: my takeaway be, I guess it's My big takeaway would

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Speaker 1: be that you're not broken. This is normal. You're just

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Speaker 1: wired a certain way, and wiring can be understood and

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Speaker 1: trained and calmed and challenged and upgraded and rewired. That

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Speaker 1: your reactions aren't random, your patterns aren't personality flaws. Your

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Speaker 1: stress responses aren't weakness. Your habits aren't destiny. That's good

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Speaker 1: to know. They're all just the predictable outputs of a

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Speaker 1: system that's doing its best with the software that it has.

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Speaker 1: And the moment that you get that you step out

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Speaker 1: of the shame and into agency, stop fighting yourself and

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Speaker 1: start working with yourself. You begin to manage the system

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Speaker 1: instead of being managed by it. I think it's just

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Speaker 1: important to understand that our is the most powerful tool

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Speaker 1: we have, and for us to learn how it works matters,

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Speaker 1: and to treat it well, and to keep reminding ourselves

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Speaker 1: that growth isn't magic, it's mechanics by team. Thanks for

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Speaker 1: hanging out out with me. Look after your brain, look

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Speaker 1: after your body. See you next time for something spectacular.

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Speaker 1: Let's hope