WEBVTT - There WILL be repercussions! 

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<v Speaker 1>Apo Shape Production. Welcome back to another episode of Am

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<v Speaker 1>I A Bad Mum and Podcast? We're in December. I

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<v Speaker 1>can't believe we're in December. Where has the ear gone?

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<v Speaker 1>Everyone talks about this, how time just goes so fast.

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<v Speaker 1>Now do you think it's because we're overstimulated and we're

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<v Speaker 1>always like scrolling or we're never bored, Like I just

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<v Speaker 1>feel like time goes so fast.

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<v Speaker 2>It is flying by it. I remember being in that

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<v Speaker 2>blur of like the kids being under four, getting to

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<v Speaker 2>that edge of four. You're sort of thinking nearly at school,

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<v Speaker 2>not at school yet, we were just starting KINDI all

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<v Speaker 2>of that stuff. Someone said to me, wait until they're

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<v Speaker 2>at school. That's when the years passed by really quickly.

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<v Speaker 2>And I thought, you're just saying that to me to

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<v Speaker 2>make me feel better, but.

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<v Speaker 1>It really was.

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<v Speaker 2>They started school, and then because it breaks down into

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<v Speaker 2>terms and then the terms, you've got a holiday during

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<v Speaker 2>the school holidays, and you've got to like, it just

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<v Speaker 2>breaks the years down so quickly.

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<v Speaker 1>Just going back to age four, that was probably my

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<v Speaker 1>favorite age. That's been my favorite age age four.

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<v Speaker 2>Yep, I didn't enjoy three. Someone, you know, everyone talks

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<v Speaker 2>about those terrible twos and you're like, I got through both,

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<v Speaker 2>like three major my kids. Yeah, And I got through

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<v Speaker 2>two and was like feel thank god, like that was

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<v Speaker 2>actually not that bad. Three was like devil spawn, like

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<v Speaker 2>you're like, whoa, where did you come from? And why

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<v Speaker 2>are you mine? And then coming off the back of

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<v Speaker 2>a weekend with my nephew who is currently three and

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<v Speaker 2>a half, mate, he's no better. I looked at my

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<v Speaker 2>sister and I was like, I'm sorry, but I'm so

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<v Speaker 2>glad that's not me.

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<v Speaker 1>Am I bad mum for enjoying the repercussions. My kids

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<v Speaker 1>are on school holidays now, yes, so they've finished up.

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<v Speaker 1>They're on the never ending school holidays two months, two months.

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<v Speaker 2>It's a bit too much, you've asked me. So they

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<v Speaker 2>do have jobs now, so I'm okay with that. I

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<v Speaker 2>think that they should be at work at least how

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<v Speaker 2>many days, four to five days a week.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but they're not getting that many shifts. So what

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<v Speaker 1>I've realized about casual workers, these particular fast food places,

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<v Speaker 1>they employ so many casual workers that they don't get

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<v Speaker 1>enough shifts. So yeah, they go and do their couple

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<v Speaker 1>of shifts a week, but they're certainly not there every day.

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<v Speaker 2>Which is sadly a lot of downtime for them.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh Amelia got so excited the other day she was

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<v Speaker 1>rostered on a Sunday. She was like, do you know

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<v Speaker 1>how much money I get on Sunday? I think it's

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<v Speaker 1>double time.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, they can't work more than three hours, right.

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<v Speaker 1>I think during school time. I think holidays is different.

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<v Speaker 2>So good.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but I am at the point where I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe you should think about getting a second job because

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<v Speaker 1>you're not going to get enough shifts.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I was going to say that, why didn't they

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<v Speaker 2>blows my mind that they didn't try for any of

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<v Speaker 2>the stores that they actually like to purchase things from.

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<v Speaker 1>I think they'd be too embarrassed that they would see

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<v Speaker 1>people that they know come in those shops.

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<v Speaker 2>But like City Beach, you're like any of them City Beach.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. It's cool when I was like, I

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<v Speaker 1>hate I get swimmers from City Beach, mate.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think my ass cheek would fit in the

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<v Speaker 2>swims from.

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<v Speaker 1>So I get proper full like one piece ones. Yeah

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not. My stomach is not being shown. Thanks kids.

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<v Speaker 2>Holes.

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<v Speaker 1>No, it's not their fault, it's the wine, which is

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<v Speaker 1>their fault.

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<v Speaker 2>That's another repercussion of them.

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<v Speaker 1>So what happened was last day of school finished mid day,

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<v Speaker 1>which I think is quite common for most of the

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<v Speaker 1>schools to finish at lunchtime. For whatever reason, the.

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<v Speaker 2>Grades very don't they like one might finish it a

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<v Speaker 2>set time.

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<v Speaker 1>It feels like it's just annoying for the parents, if

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<v Speaker 1>I'm honest, because you take them to school, they're literally

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<v Speaker 1>only going to be there a couple of hours. What

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<v Speaker 1>are they doing on no assembly or something, saying goodbye,

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<v Speaker 1>and then you have to pick them up at mid day. Anyway,

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<v Speaker 1>in the lead up, they had an assignment which they

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<v Speaker 1>had not finished, and this is something that they need

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<v Speaker 1>for next year, so it's some sort of preparation for

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<v Speaker 1>next year, a set plan something like that. Anyway, they

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<v Speaker 1>hadn't finished it, and I kept saying, you haven't finished

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<v Speaker 1>a set plan, like I'm getting emailed from your teacher.

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<v Speaker 1>You're getting the emails. I can see you on it,

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<v Speaker 1>and you haven't finished it yet, and they're like, oh yeah. Anyway,

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<v Speaker 1>it turns out that morning that they were going for

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<v Speaker 1>their last day at school on the Friday. I said,

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<v Speaker 1>don't forget, you need to get that finished. Oh but

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<v Speaker 1>I don't have time now. I said, you do it

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<v Speaker 1>on the way to school. Do it when get to school,

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<v Speaker 1>like just get it done, like anyway, Like it's my fault.

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<v Speaker 1>It's always my fault.

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<v Speaker 2>It was your fault. You actually asked the teacher to

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<v Speaker 2>give them that assignment.

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<v Speaker 1>So then yeah, and then I said to them, all right,

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<v Speaker 1>I'll see it twelve. I'll be here to pick you

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<v Speaker 1>up at twelve. My plan rate was for it to

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<v Speaker 1>be all lovely. I was going to pick them up

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<v Speaker 1>at twelve, take them for lunch somewhere like sushi train

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<v Speaker 1>or somewhere like that, and then we were going to

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<v Speaker 1>go get our nails done. I thought, that's a really

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<v Speaker 1>nice thing to do. Last day of school. First of all,

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<v Speaker 1>we get an email from the teacher just to let

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<v Speaker 1>you know that the girls will be staying behind after

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<v Speaker 1>school today to finish off their set plans.

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<v Speaker 2>It was like, brilliant.

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<v Speaker 1>And then I get texts from them saying we've got

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<v Speaker 1>to stay. We're going to be here till about one thirty.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, no, my problem, okay.

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<v Speaker 1>My role, but right. The thing is is that when

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<v Speaker 1>I saw that email, despite the fact that I'd planned

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<v Speaker 1>for a nice afternoon. When I saw that email come

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<v Speaker 1>through from the teacher, I was like, yes, thank goodness,

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<v Speaker 1>holding them accountable. They have to stay there, they have

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<v Speaker 1>to get it done because they knew going to school

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<v Speaker 1>that day. We're not going to bother. No one's even

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<v Speaker 1>going to say anything. It's the last day. We're just

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<v Speaker 1>going to leave at twelve, skip out of the door.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't have to do it. Why do we have to

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<v Speaker 1>do it? So I was really pleased for the repercussions.

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<v Speaker 1>And what I've realized is that I am wanting the

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<v Speaker 1>teachers to do things like that because nothing that I

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<v Speaker 1>say makes any difference.

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<v Speaker 2>Yea, the kids technically should be holding themselves accountable, but

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<v Speaker 2>we all know that that is hard sometimes, especially when

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<v Speaker 2>it's the last day of school. I love that they

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<v Speaker 2>did that.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's great.

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<v Speaker 2>And there's only a few weeks ago that you were

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<v Speaker 2>ringing their teachers saying you need to make sure that

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<v Speaker 2>they're accountable because one of them missed an assignment or something. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>and you were like basically asking them for help because

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<v Speaker 2>what I'm doing is still not working, so help me

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<v Speaker 2>try and make it land for them to understand that

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<v Speaker 2>they have to hand stuff in yep, and so now

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<v Speaker 2>that's what they're doing.

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<v Speaker 1>I've got a saying that I constantly use in our house,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's you can lead a horse to water, but

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<v Speaker 1>you can't make them drink. And I feel like I

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<v Speaker 1>say it all the time. Even that example of Holly

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<v Speaker 1>not getting our assignment done but spending an hour scrolling TikTok,

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, I literally don't understand you. I do

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<v Speaker 1>not understand you. You can lead a horse to water.

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<v Speaker 1>They even said to me the other day, what does

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<v Speaker 1>that even mean? Because I just go to a horse and.

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<v Speaker 2>Get them to try and do it. Genuinely, you can't.

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<v Speaker 2>You just can't. If the horse does not want to drink,

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<v Speaker 2>it will not drink. You can't even force its head down.

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<v Speaker 1>No. And I say to them all the time, I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, I gave you the education on healthy eating,

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<v Speaker 1>I've given you the education on drinking water. Like, literally,

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<v Speaker 1>there's not much more I can do.

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<v Speaker 2>You're on your own.

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<v Speaker 1>Lead a horse to water, water head down near it.

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<v Speaker 2>It's just gonna throw you, just gonna say I don't

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<v Speaker 2>want to do it. They won't do it. Maybe that's

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<v Speaker 2>what they need to do. Maybe that's their part time job.

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<v Speaker 2>They could look after someone's horse or something they would

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<v Speaker 2>love that. I know. That's what I mean. You meant

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<v Speaker 2>to find something that you love. You live around the

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<v Speaker 2>corner from horses, don't you.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, So then tell them to just go and hit

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<v Speaker 2>up whoever owns them, and then.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, rach, this is probably a discussion for another time.

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<v Speaker 1>They did do that. They did do that. The owner

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<v Speaker 1>of the horses. They left a note on the gate

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<v Speaker 1>asking if she wanted any help with them.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, did she not reply?

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<v Speaker 1>No? She died?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, I didn't know that.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, who's looking after the horses?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know the horse.

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<v Speaker 1>One of the horses died afterwards too. Oh god, this

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<v Speaker 1>is a whole other This is like.

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<v Speaker 2>A whole traumatic experience right at the end of a bloody.

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<v Speaker 1>What happened was the daughter of the lady ended up

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<v Speaker 1>calling them, finding the note, saying I'm so sorry. The

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<v Speaker 1>mum passed away, and then the horse passed away. Maybe

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<v Speaker 1>it was probably just hanging in yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Wow, would have finished. Okay, scrap that back to the

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<v Speaker 2>drawing board.