Speaker 1: Apo Shape Production. Welcome back to another episode of Am
Speaker 1: I A Bad Mum and Podcast? We're in December. I
Speaker 1: can't believe we're in December. Where has the ear gone?
Speaker 1: Everyone talks about this, how time just goes so fast.
Speaker 1: Now do you think it's because we're overstimulated and we're
Speaker 1: always like scrolling or we're never bored, Like I just
Speaker 1: feel like time goes so fast.
Speaker 2: It is flying by it. I remember being in that
Speaker 2: blur of like the kids being under four, getting to
Speaker 2: that edge of four. You're sort of thinking nearly at school,
Speaker 2: not at school yet, we were just starting KINDI all
Speaker 2: of that stuff. Someone said to me, wait until they're
Speaker 2: at school. That's when the years passed by really quickly.
Speaker 2: And I thought, you're just saying that to me to
Speaker 2: make me feel better, but.
Speaker 1: It really was.
Speaker 2: They started school, and then because it breaks down into
Speaker 2: terms and then the terms, you've got a holiday during
Speaker 2: the school holidays, and you've got to like, it just
Speaker 2: breaks the years down so quickly.
Speaker 1: Just going back to age four, that was probably my
Speaker 1: favorite age. That's been my favorite age age four.
Speaker 2: Yep, I didn't enjoy three. Someone, you know, everyone talks
Speaker 2: about those terrible twos and you're like, I got through both,
Speaker 2: like three major my kids. Yeah, And I got through
Speaker 2: two and was like feel thank god, like that was
Speaker 2: actually not that bad. Three was like devil spawn, like
Speaker 2: you're like, whoa, where did you come from? And why
Speaker 2: are you mine? And then coming off the back of
Speaker 2: a weekend with my nephew who is currently three and
Speaker 2: a half, mate, he's no better. I looked at my
Speaker 2: sister and I was like, I'm sorry, but I'm so
Speaker 2: glad that's not me.
Speaker 1: Am I bad mum for enjoying the repercussions. My kids
Speaker 1: are on school holidays now, yes, so they've finished up.
Speaker 1: They're on the never ending school holidays two months, two months.
Speaker 2: It's a bit too much, you've asked me. So they
Speaker 2: do have jobs now, so I'm okay with that. I
Speaker 2: think that they should be at work at least how
Speaker 2: many days, four to five days a week.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but they're not getting that many shifts. So what
Speaker 1: I've realized about casual workers, these particular fast food places,
Speaker 1: they employ so many casual workers that they don't get
Speaker 1: enough shifts. So yeah, they go and do their couple
Speaker 1: of shifts a week, but they're certainly not there every day.
Speaker 2: Which is sadly a lot of downtime for them.
Speaker 1: Oh Amelia got so excited the other day she was
Speaker 1: rostered on a Sunday. She was like, do you know
Speaker 1: how much money I get on Sunday? I think it's
Speaker 1: double time.
Speaker 2: Yeah, they can't work more than three hours, right.
Speaker 1: I think during school time. I think holidays is different.
Speaker 2: So good.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I am at the point where I'm like,
Speaker 1: maybe you should think about getting a second job because
Speaker 1: you're not going to get enough shifts.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I was going to say that, why didn't they
Speaker 2: blows my mind that they didn't try for any of
Speaker 2: the stores that they actually like to purchase things from.
Speaker 1: I think they'd be too embarrassed that they would see
Speaker 1: people that they know come in those shops.
Speaker 2: But like City Beach, you're like any of them City Beach.
Speaker 1: I don't know. It's cool when I was like, I
Speaker 1: hate I get swimmers from City Beach, mate.
Speaker 2: I don't think my ass cheek would fit in the
Speaker 2: swims from.
Speaker 1: So I get proper full like one piece ones. Yeah
Speaker 1: I'm not. My stomach is not being shown. Thanks kids.
Speaker 2: Holes.
Speaker 1: No, it's not their fault, it's the wine, which is
Speaker 1: their fault.
Speaker 2: That's another repercussion of them.
Speaker 1: So what happened was last day of school finished mid day,
Speaker 1: which I think is quite common for most of the
Speaker 1: schools to finish at lunchtime. For whatever reason, the.
Speaker 2: Grades very don't they like one might finish it a
Speaker 2: set time.
Speaker 1: It feels like it's just annoying for the parents, if
Speaker 1: I'm honest, because you take them to school, they're literally
Speaker 1: only going to be there a couple of hours. What
Speaker 1: are they doing on no assembly or something, saying goodbye,
Speaker 1: and then you have to pick them up at mid day. Anyway,
Speaker 1: in the lead up, they had an assignment which they
Speaker 1: had not finished, and this is something that they need
Speaker 1: for next year, so it's some sort of preparation for
Speaker 1: next year, a set plan something like that. Anyway, they
Speaker 1: hadn't finished it, and I kept saying, you haven't finished
Speaker 1: a set plan, like I'm getting emailed from your teacher.
Speaker 1: You're getting the emails. I can see you on it,
Speaker 1: and you haven't finished it yet, and they're like, oh yeah. Anyway,
Speaker 1: it turns out that morning that they were going for
Speaker 1: their last day at school on the Friday. I said,
Speaker 1: don't forget, you need to get that finished. Oh but
Speaker 1: I don't have time now. I said, you do it
Speaker 1: on the way to school. Do it when get to school,
Speaker 1: like just get it done, like anyway, Like it's my fault.
Speaker 1: It's always my fault.
Speaker 2: It was your fault. You actually asked the teacher to
Speaker 2: give them that assignment.
Speaker 1: So then yeah, and then I said to them, all right,
Speaker 1: I'll see it twelve. I'll be here to pick you
Speaker 1: up at twelve. My plan rate was for it to
Speaker 1: be all lovely. I was going to pick them up
Speaker 1: at twelve, take them for lunch somewhere like sushi train
Speaker 1: or somewhere like that, and then we were going to
Speaker 1: go get our nails done. I thought, that's a really
Speaker 1: nice thing to do. Last day of school. First of all,
Speaker 1: we get an email from the teacher just to let
Speaker 1: you know that the girls will be staying behind after
Speaker 1: school today to finish off their set plans.
Speaker 2: It was like, brilliant.
Speaker 1: And then I get texts from them saying we've got
Speaker 1: to stay. We're going to be here till about one thirty.
Speaker 2: I was like, no, my problem, okay.
Speaker 1: My role, but right. The thing is is that when
Speaker 1: I saw that email, despite the fact that I'd planned
Speaker 1: for a nice afternoon. When I saw that email come
Speaker 1: through from the teacher, I was like, yes, thank goodness,
Speaker 1: holding them accountable. They have to stay there, they have
Speaker 1: to get it done because they knew going to school
Speaker 1: that day. We're not going to bother. No one's even
Speaker 1: going to say anything. It's the last day. We're just
Speaker 1: going to leave at twelve, skip out of the door.
Speaker 1: Don't have to do it. Why do we have to
Speaker 1: do it? So I was really pleased for the repercussions.
Speaker 1: And what I've realized is that I am wanting the
Speaker 1: teachers to do things like that because nothing that I
Speaker 1: say makes any difference.
Speaker 2: Yea, the kids technically should be holding themselves accountable, but
Speaker 2: we all know that that is hard sometimes, especially when
Speaker 2: it's the last day of school. I love that they
Speaker 2: did that.
Speaker 1: I think it's great.
Speaker 2: And there's only a few weeks ago that you were
Speaker 2: ringing their teachers saying you need to make sure that
Speaker 2: they're accountable because one of them missed an assignment or something. Yeah,
Speaker 2: and you were like basically asking them for help because
Speaker 2: what I'm doing is still not working, so help me
Speaker 2: try and make it land for them to understand that
Speaker 2: they have to hand stuff in yep, and so now
Speaker 2: that's what they're doing.
Speaker 1: I've got a saying that I constantly use in our house,
Speaker 1: and it's you can lead a horse to water, but
Speaker 1: you can't make them drink. And I feel like I
Speaker 1: say it all the time. Even that example of Holly
Speaker 1: not getting our assignment done but spending an hour scrolling TikTok,
Speaker 1: I was like, I literally don't understand you. I do
Speaker 1: not understand you. You can lead a horse to water.
Speaker 1: They even said to me the other day, what does
Speaker 1: that even mean? Because I just go to a horse and.
Speaker 2: Get them to try and do it. Genuinely, you can't.
Speaker 2: You just can't. If the horse does not want to drink,
Speaker 2: it will not drink. You can't even force its head down.
Speaker 1: No. And I say to them all the time, I
Speaker 1: was like, I gave you the education on healthy eating,
Speaker 1: I've given you the education on drinking water. Like, literally,
Speaker 1: there's not much more I can do.
Speaker 2: You're on your own.
Speaker 1: Lead a horse to water, water head down near it.
Speaker 2: It's just gonna throw you, just gonna say I don't
Speaker 2: want to do it. They won't do it. Maybe that's
Speaker 2: what they need to do. Maybe that's their part time job.
Speaker 2: They could look after someone's horse or something they would
Speaker 2: love that. I know. That's what I mean. You meant
Speaker 2: to find something that you love. You live around the
Speaker 2: corner from horses, don't you.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, So then tell them to just go and hit
Speaker 2: up whoever owns them, and then.
Speaker 1: Oh, rach, this is probably a discussion for another time.
Speaker 1: They did do that. They did do that. The owner
Speaker 1: of the horses. They left a note on the gate
Speaker 1: asking if she wanted any help with them.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, did she not reply?
Speaker 1: No? She died?
Speaker 2: Oh my god, I didn't know that.
Speaker 1: Yes, who's looking after the horses?
Speaker 2: I don't know the horse.
Speaker 1: One of the horses died afterwards too. Oh god, this
Speaker 1: is a whole other This is like.
Speaker 2: A whole traumatic experience right at the end of a bloody.
Speaker 1: What happened was the daughter of the lady ended up
Speaker 1: calling them, finding the note, saying I'm so sorry. The
Speaker 1: mum passed away, and then the horse passed away. Maybe
Speaker 1: it was probably just hanging in yeah.
Speaker 2: Wow, would have finished. Okay, scrap that back to the
Speaker 2: drawing board.