1 00:00:05,921 --> 00:00:24,801 Speaker 1: Apo Shape Production. Welcome back to another episode of Am 2 00:00:24,801 --> 00:00:27,921 Speaker 1: I A Bad Mum and Podcast? We're in December. I 3 00:00:27,961 --> 00:00:30,401 Speaker 1: can't believe we're in December. Where has the ear gone? 4 00:00:30,441 --> 00:00:33,401 Speaker 1: Everyone talks about this, how time just goes so fast. 5 00:00:33,441 --> 00:00:36,001 Speaker 1: Now do you think it's because we're overstimulated and we're 6 00:00:36,001 --> 00:00:39,961 Speaker 1: always like scrolling or we're never bored, Like I just 7 00:00:39,961 --> 00:00:42,161 Speaker 1: feel like time goes so fast. 8 00:00:42,040 --> 00:00:43,920 Speaker 2: It is flying by it. I remember being in that 9 00:00:44,001 --> 00:00:47,361 Speaker 2: blur of like the kids being under four, getting to 10 00:00:47,441 --> 00:00:50,441 Speaker 2: that edge of four. You're sort of thinking nearly at school, 11 00:00:50,521 --> 00:00:52,921 Speaker 2: not at school yet, we were just starting KINDI all 12 00:00:52,961 --> 00:00:56,321 Speaker 2: of that stuff. Someone said to me, wait until they're 13 00:00:56,361 --> 00:00:59,441 Speaker 2: at school. That's when the years passed by really quickly. 14 00:01:00,001 --> 00:01:01,960 Speaker 2: And I thought, you're just saying that to me to 15 00:01:01,961 --> 00:01:04,041 Speaker 2: make me feel better, but. 16 00:01:04,041 --> 00:01:04,761 Speaker 1: It really was. 17 00:01:05,161 --> 00:01:08,080 Speaker 2: They started school, and then because it breaks down into 18 00:01:08,241 --> 00:01:11,161 Speaker 2: terms and then the terms, you've got a holiday during 19 00:01:11,241 --> 00:01:13,761 Speaker 2: the school holidays, and you've got to like, it just 20 00:01:13,881 --> 00:01:16,200 Speaker 2: breaks the years down so quickly. 21 00:01:16,681 --> 00:01:18,801 Speaker 1: Just going back to age four, that was probably my 22 00:01:18,801 --> 00:01:21,600 Speaker 1: favorite age. That's been my favorite age age four. 23 00:01:21,961 --> 00:01:25,560 Speaker 2: Yep, I didn't enjoy three. Someone, you know, everyone talks 24 00:01:25,560 --> 00:01:29,360 Speaker 2: about those terrible twos and you're like, I got through both, 25 00:01:29,441 --> 00:01:32,840 Speaker 2: like three major my kids. Yeah, And I got through 26 00:01:32,881 --> 00:01:35,360 Speaker 2: two and was like feel thank god, like that was 27 00:01:35,521 --> 00:01:40,001 Speaker 2: actually not that bad. Three was like devil spawn, like 28 00:01:40,161 --> 00:01:43,681 Speaker 2: you're like, whoa, where did you come from? And why 29 00:01:43,761 --> 00:01:46,881 Speaker 2: are you mine? And then coming off the back of 30 00:01:46,920 --> 00:01:49,881 Speaker 2: a weekend with my nephew who is currently three and 31 00:01:49,921 --> 00:01:54,201 Speaker 2: a half, mate, he's no better. I looked at my 32 00:01:54,241 --> 00:01:56,601 Speaker 2: sister and I was like, I'm sorry, but I'm so 33 00:01:56,761 --> 00:01:57,961 Speaker 2: glad that's not me. 34 00:02:09,401 --> 00:02:15,240 Speaker 1: Am I bad mum for enjoying the repercussions. My kids 35 00:02:15,281 --> 00:02:18,881 Speaker 1: are on school holidays now, yes, so they've finished up. 36 00:02:19,121 --> 00:02:25,081 Speaker 1: They're on the never ending school holidays two months, two months. 37 00:02:25,441 --> 00:02:28,240 Speaker 2: It's a bit too much, you've asked me. So they 38 00:02:28,240 --> 00:02:30,641 Speaker 2: do have jobs now, so I'm okay with that. I 39 00:02:30,680 --> 00:02:33,601 Speaker 2: think that they should be at work at least how 40 00:02:33,641 --> 00:02:36,240 Speaker 2: many days, four to five days a week. 41 00:02:36,561 --> 00:02:39,001 Speaker 1: Yeah, but they're not getting that many shifts. So what 42 00:02:39,041 --> 00:02:43,240 Speaker 1: I've realized about casual workers, these particular fast food places, 43 00:02:43,481 --> 00:02:47,400 Speaker 1: they employ so many casual workers that they don't get 44 00:02:47,481 --> 00:02:50,800 Speaker 1: enough shifts. So yeah, they go and do their couple 45 00:02:50,800 --> 00:02:53,321 Speaker 1: of shifts a week, but they're certainly not there every day. 46 00:02:54,441 --> 00:02:56,680 Speaker 2: Which is sadly a lot of downtime for them. 47 00:02:56,761 --> 00:02:59,280 Speaker 1: Oh Amelia got so excited the other day she was 48 00:02:59,361 --> 00:03:01,361 Speaker 1: rostered on a Sunday. She was like, do you know 49 00:03:01,401 --> 00:03:03,280 Speaker 1: how much money I get on Sunday? I think it's 50 00:03:03,281 --> 00:03:03,841 Speaker 1: double time. 51 00:03:04,001 --> 00:03:07,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, they can't work more than three hours, right. 52 00:03:07,481 --> 00:03:12,081 Speaker 1: I think during school time. I think holidays is different. 53 00:03:12,401 --> 00:03:12,960 Speaker 2: So good. 54 00:03:13,481 --> 00:03:15,841 Speaker 1: Yeah, but I am at the point where I'm like, 55 00:03:15,881 --> 00:03:17,761 Speaker 1: maybe you should think about getting a second job because 56 00:03:17,800 --> 00:03:19,081 Speaker 1: you're not going to get enough shifts. 57 00:03:19,121 --> 00:03:20,641 Speaker 2: Yeah, I was going to say that, why didn't they 58 00:03:20,761 --> 00:03:22,520 Speaker 2: blows my mind that they didn't try for any of 59 00:03:22,561 --> 00:03:24,921 Speaker 2: the stores that they actually like to purchase things from. 60 00:03:25,041 --> 00:03:27,280 Speaker 1: I think they'd be too embarrassed that they would see 61 00:03:27,281 --> 00:03:30,000 Speaker 1: people that they know come in those shops. 62 00:03:30,001 --> 00:03:33,641 Speaker 2: But like City Beach, you're like any of them City Beach. 63 00:03:33,960 --> 00:03:34,321 Speaker 2: I don't know. 64 00:03:34,321 --> 00:03:37,401 Speaker 1: It's cool when I was like, I hate I get 65 00:03:37,481 --> 00:03:40,121 Speaker 1: swimmers from City Beach, mate. 66 00:03:39,841 --> 00:03:41,801 Speaker 2: I don't think my ass cheek would fit in the 67 00:03:41,841 --> 00:03:42,561 Speaker 2: swims from. 68 00:03:42,481 --> 00:03:46,160 Speaker 1: So I get proper full like one piece ones. Yeah 69 00:03:46,481 --> 00:03:51,801 Speaker 1: I'm not. My stomach is not being shown. Thanks kids. 70 00:03:52,321 --> 00:03:52,601 Speaker 2: Holes. 71 00:03:54,761 --> 00:03:57,881 Speaker 1: No, it's not their fault, it's the wine, which is 72 00:03:57,921 --> 00:03:58,401 Speaker 1: their fault. 73 00:03:59,121 --> 00:04:01,921 Speaker 2: That's another repercussion of them. 74 00:04:01,961 --> 00:04:05,401 Speaker 1: So what happened was last day of school finished mid day, 75 00:04:05,441 --> 00:04:07,841 Speaker 1: which I think is quite common for most of the 76 00:04:07,881 --> 00:04:10,521 Speaker 1: schools to finish at lunchtime. For whatever reason, the. 77 00:04:10,521 --> 00:04:13,361 Speaker 2: Grades very don't they like one might finish it a 78 00:04:13,401 --> 00:04:14,001 Speaker 2: set time. 79 00:04:14,241 --> 00:04:16,401 Speaker 1: It feels like it's just annoying for the parents, if 80 00:04:16,401 --> 00:04:19,440 Speaker 1: I'm honest, because you take them to school, they're literally 81 00:04:19,521 --> 00:04:20,801 Speaker 1: only going to be there a couple of hours. What 82 00:04:20,841 --> 00:04:23,841 Speaker 1: are they doing on no assembly or something, saying goodbye, 83 00:04:24,361 --> 00:04:27,961 Speaker 1: and then you have to pick them up at mid day. Anyway, 84 00:04:28,801 --> 00:04:31,801 Speaker 1: in the lead up, they had an assignment which they 85 00:04:31,801 --> 00:04:34,600 Speaker 1: had not finished, and this is something that they need 86 00:04:34,601 --> 00:04:38,041 Speaker 1: for next year, so it's some sort of preparation for 87 00:04:38,161 --> 00:04:41,721 Speaker 1: next year, a set plan something like that. Anyway, they 88 00:04:41,721 --> 00:04:43,921 Speaker 1: hadn't finished it, and I kept saying, you haven't finished 89 00:04:43,921 --> 00:04:46,641 Speaker 1: a set plan, like I'm getting emailed from your teacher. 90 00:04:46,761 --> 00:04:48,641 Speaker 1: You're getting the emails. I can see you on it, 91 00:04:49,121 --> 00:04:53,241 Speaker 1: and you haven't finished it yet, and they're like, oh yeah. Anyway, 92 00:04:53,281 --> 00:04:56,161 Speaker 1: it turns out that morning that they were going for 93 00:04:56,201 --> 00:04:58,681 Speaker 1: their last day at school on the Friday. I said, 94 00:04:58,721 --> 00:05:01,481 Speaker 1: don't forget, you need to get that finished. Oh but 95 00:05:01,601 --> 00:05:03,440 Speaker 1: I don't have time now. I said, you do it 96 00:05:03,481 --> 00:05:06,041 Speaker 1: on the way to school. Do it when get to school, 97 00:05:06,241 --> 00:05:11,161 Speaker 1: like just get it done, like anyway, Like it's my fault. 98 00:05:11,201 --> 00:05:12,280 Speaker 1: It's always my fault. 99 00:05:12,361 --> 00:05:14,721 Speaker 2: It was your fault. You actually asked the teacher to 100 00:05:14,801 --> 00:05:16,001 Speaker 2: give them that assignment. 101 00:05:16,440 --> 00:05:19,921 Speaker 1: So then yeah, and then I said to them, all right, 102 00:05:19,961 --> 00:05:21,601 Speaker 1: I'll see it twelve. I'll be here to pick you 103 00:05:21,681 --> 00:05:24,320 Speaker 1: up at twelve. My plan rate was for it to 104 00:05:24,320 --> 00:05:25,641 Speaker 1: be all lovely. I was going to pick them up 105 00:05:25,641 --> 00:05:28,520 Speaker 1: at twelve, take them for lunch somewhere like sushi train 106 00:05:28,641 --> 00:05:30,841 Speaker 1: or somewhere like that, and then we were going to 107 00:05:30,880 --> 00:05:32,881 Speaker 1: go get our nails done. I thought, that's a really 108 00:05:33,001 --> 00:05:36,561 Speaker 1: nice thing to do. Last day of school. First of all, 109 00:05:36,561 --> 00:05:38,761 Speaker 1: we get an email from the teacher just to let 110 00:05:38,761 --> 00:05:41,880 Speaker 1: you know that the girls will be staying behind after 111 00:05:41,961 --> 00:05:44,281 Speaker 1: school today to finish off their set plans. 112 00:05:44,721 --> 00:05:45,961 Speaker 2: It was like, brilliant. 113 00:05:46,721 --> 00:05:49,760 Speaker 1: And then I get texts from them saying we've got 114 00:05:49,761 --> 00:05:52,761 Speaker 1: to stay. We're going to be here till about one thirty. 115 00:05:52,961 --> 00:05:54,960 Speaker 2: I was like, no, my problem, okay. 116 00:05:55,001 --> 00:05:57,520 Speaker 1: My role, but right. The thing is is that when 117 00:05:57,521 --> 00:06:00,561 Speaker 1: I saw that email, despite the fact that I'd planned 118 00:06:00,601 --> 00:06:03,121 Speaker 1: for a nice afternoon. When I saw that email come 119 00:06:03,161 --> 00:06:07,481 Speaker 1: through from the teacher, I was like, yes, thank goodness, 120 00:06:08,241 --> 00:06:11,161 Speaker 1: holding them accountable. They have to stay there, they have 121 00:06:11,241 --> 00:06:14,081 Speaker 1: to get it done because they knew going to school 122 00:06:14,121 --> 00:06:16,601 Speaker 1: that day. We're not going to bother. No one's even 123 00:06:16,601 --> 00:06:18,961 Speaker 1: going to say anything. It's the last day. We're just 124 00:06:19,001 --> 00:06:21,241 Speaker 1: going to leave at twelve, skip out of the door. 125 00:06:21,641 --> 00:06:23,121 Speaker 1: Don't have to do it. Why do we have to 126 00:06:23,161 --> 00:06:26,441 Speaker 1: do it? So I was really pleased for the repercussions. 127 00:06:26,481 --> 00:06:30,640 Speaker 1: And what I've realized is that I am wanting the 128 00:06:30,721 --> 00:06:33,481 Speaker 1: teachers to do things like that because nothing that I 129 00:06:33,681 --> 00:06:35,241 Speaker 1: say makes any difference. 130 00:06:35,320 --> 00:06:39,081 Speaker 2: Yea, the kids technically should be holding themselves accountable, but 131 00:06:39,121 --> 00:06:42,440 Speaker 2: we all know that that is hard sometimes, especially when 132 00:06:42,481 --> 00:06:44,961 Speaker 2: it's the last day of school. I love that they 133 00:06:44,961 --> 00:06:48,281 Speaker 2: did that. I think it's great. And there's only a 134 00:06:48,281 --> 00:06:50,880 Speaker 2: few weeks ago that you were ringing their teachers saying 135 00:06:51,201 --> 00:06:54,721 Speaker 2: you need to make sure that they're accountable because one 136 00:06:54,761 --> 00:06:57,041 Speaker 2: of them missed an assignment or something. Yeah, and you 137 00:06:57,121 --> 00:06:59,921 Speaker 2: were like basically asking them for help because what I'm 138 00:06:59,921 --> 00:07:02,681 Speaker 2: doing is still not working, so help me try and 139 00:07:02,721 --> 00:07:05,440 Speaker 2: make it land for them to understand that they have 140 00:07:05,521 --> 00:07:08,361 Speaker 2: to hand stuff in yep, and so now that's what 141 00:07:08,401 --> 00:07:08,841 Speaker 2: they're doing. 142 00:07:09,401 --> 00:07:13,881 Speaker 1: I've got a saying that I constantly use in our house, 143 00:07:14,121 --> 00:07:17,121 Speaker 1: and it's you can lead a horse to water, but 144 00:07:17,161 --> 00:07:19,761 Speaker 1: you can't make them drink. And I feel like I 145 00:07:19,881 --> 00:07:23,961 Speaker 1: say it all the time. Even that example of Holly 146 00:07:24,001 --> 00:07:27,241 Speaker 1: not getting our assignment done but spending an hour scrolling TikTok, 147 00:07:27,681 --> 00:07:31,321 Speaker 1: I was like, I literally don't understand you. I do 148 00:07:31,441 --> 00:07:35,401 Speaker 1: not understand you. You can lead a horse to water. 149 00:07:35,881 --> 00:07:37,401 Speaker 1: They even said to me the other day, what does 150 00:07:37,441 --> 00:07:41,121 Speaker 1: that even mean? Because I just go to a horse and. 151 00:07:41,241 --> 00:07:44,721 Speaker 2: Get them to try and do it. Genuinely, you can't. 152 00:07:44,961 --> 00:07:46,961 Speaker 2: You just can't. If the horse does not want to drink, 153 00:07:47,241 --> 00:07:49,681 Speaker 2: it will not drink. You can't even force its head down. 154 00:07:50,001 --> 00:07:51,921 Speaker 1: No. And I say to them all the time, I 155 00:07:51,961 --> 00:07:54,401 Speaker 1: was like, I gave you the education on healthy eating, 156 00:07:54,441 --> 00:07:59,121 Speaker 1: I've given you the education on drinking water. Like, literally, 157 00:07:59,721 --> 00:08:01,001 Speaker 1: there's not much more I can do. 158 00:08:01,721 --> 00:08:02,361 Speaker 2: You're on your own. 159 00:08:02,601 --> 00:08:06,041 Speaker 1: Lead a horse to water, water head down near it. 160 00:08:06,041 --> 00:08:08,721 Speaker 2: It's just gonna throw you, just gonna say I don't 161 00:08:08,721 --> 00:08:10,521 Speaker 2: want to do it. They won't do it. Maybe that's 162 00:08:10,561 --> 00:08:13,241 Speaker 2: what they need to do. Maybe that's their part time job. 163 00:08:13,281 --> 00:08:15,641 Speaker 2: They could look after someone's horse or something they. 164 00:08:15,601 --> 00:08:16,161 Speaker 1: Would love that. 165 00:08:16,241 --> 00:08:18,281 Speaker 2: I know. That's what I mean. You meant to find 166 00:08:18,281 --> 00:08:20,881 Speaker 2: something that you love. You live around the corner from horses, 167 00:08:20,921 --> 00:08:21,481 Speaker 2: don't you. 168 00:08:21,641 --> 00:08:22,041 Speaker 1: Yeah. 169 00:08:22,161 --> 00:08:24,321 Speaker 2: Yeah, So then tell them to just go and hit 170 00:08:24,441 --> 00:08:27,201 Speaker 2: up whoever owns them, and then. 171 00:08:27,481 --> 00:08:30,881 Speaker 1: Oh, rach, this is probably a discussion for another time. 172 00:08:30,921 --> 00:08:35,001 Speaker 1: They did do that. They did do that. The owner 173 00:08:35,041 --> 00:08:37,761 Speaker 1: of the horses. They left a note on the gate 174 00:08:37,841 --> 00:08:39,601 Speaker 1: asking if she wanted any help with them. 175 00:08:39,761 --> 00:08:41,881 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, did she not reply? 176 00:08:42,401 --> 00:08:43,561 Speaker 1: No? She died? 177 00:08:44,681 --> 00:08:46,521 Speaker 2: Oh my god, I didn't know that. 178 00:08:47,201 --> 00:08:49,161 Speaker 1: Yes, who's looking after the horses? 179 00:08:49,721 --> 00:08:50,841 Speaker 2: I don't know the horse. 180 00:08:50,921 --> 00:08:54,001 Speaker 1: One of the horses died afterwards too. Oh god, this 181 00:08:54,121 --> 00:08:55,681 Speaker 1: is a whole other This is like. 182 00:08:55,681 --> 00:08:59,561 Speaker 2: A whole traumatic experience right at the end of a bloody. 183 00:08:59,281 --> 00:09:04,041 Speaker 1: What happened was the daughter of the lady ended up 184 00:09:04,321 --> 00:09:08,801 Speaker 1: calling them, finding the note, saying I'm so sorry. The 185 00:09:08,841 --> 00:09:14,761 Speaker 1: mum passed away, and then the horse passed away. Maybe 186 00:09:14,801 --> 00:09:18,761 Speaker 1: it was probably just hanging in yeah. 187 00:09:18,081 --> 00:09:22,241 Speaker 2: Wow, would have finished. Okay, scrap that back to the 188 00:09:22,321 --> 00:09:23,001 Speaker 2: drawing board.