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Speaker 1: This podcast is recorded on gadigal Land, Always was, always

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Speaker 1: will be Aboriginal Land. Paychecks, I'm out and this is

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Speaker 1: two break Checks, the show that shares life lessons and

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Speaker 1: tips to make you rich in life. And we are

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Speaker 1: back in the studio. Mock is in hand, fruit salad consumed,

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Speaker 1: and we're ready to rock and roll.

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Speaker 2: Okay.

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Speaker 3: My obsession of the week is a post that I

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Speaker 3: saw on Data but make it fashion, and it's four

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Speaker 3: signs that we're heading into a recession. According to Fashion,

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Speaker 3: When popularity of maxi skirts is up three hundred and

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Speaker 3: ninety three percent, apparently shorter hemlines mean that everybody's a

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Speaker 3: little bit more carefree and not as concerned, whereas longer

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Speaker 3: hem lions mean that we're buckling down.

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Speaker 2: We're getting nervy.

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Speaker 1: Right.

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Speaker 3: When popularity of lipstick is up one hundred and eight percent,

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Speaker 3: Apparently every time that we've gone into a recession, lipstick

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Speaker 3: purchases have increased while other things go down. So lipstick

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Speaker 3: remains an essential purchase even during an economic down.

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Speaker 1: For me, it's an essential right. I love that we're

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Speaker 1: not stalking up on toilet paper, We're stalking up on

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Speaker 1: mac velvet. Ten.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Honestly, when popularity of corporate fashion is up thirty

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Speaker 3: nine percent makes sense.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but that's been up for like five fucking years,

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Speaker 1: you know. Yeah, people have been talking shit about the

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Speaker 1: business casual asthetic flight five years and I'm let him live.

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Speaker 2: The office siren. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: And finally, when the popularity of minimalist fashion is up

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Speaker 3: thirty eight percent.

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Speaker 1: That one is probably the main one that I'm like, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: that makes sense because causey lips exactly where it pulling

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Speaker 1: things back.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, simplicity is key.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I do think there is this very interesting and

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Speaker 1: we discussed it last week about how the political escape

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Speaker 1: at the moment is influencing you know, a very more

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Speaker 1: conservative aesthetic and old money and tread wife and blah

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Speaker 4: I'm like, get your tits out, let's get sluty tits.

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Speaker 4: Let's be a slutty little slut. I want a dirty,

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Speaker 4: slutty little outfit from everyone this weekend.

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Speaker 3: I honestly, if we're going into a recession, the least

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Speaker 3: we can do is get a little slutty.

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Speaker 1: That's my obsession. Is nowhere near as good as getting slutty.

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Speaker 1: You're like, that wasn't the obsession and I'm like, no, no, no, no,

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Speaker 1: that's mine. So my obsession of the week is that

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Speaker 1: an Austrian study found that having a cat in the

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Speaker 1: house is emotionally similar to having a ronvantic partner eooo b.

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Speaker 1: So research shows that cats actively seek interactions with humans

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Speaker 1: and remember acts of kindness, often reciprocating them later. So

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Speaker 1: if you want those people that's there and freaking hand

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Speaker 1: kid and naked, shut up mooring Agrey narrative. Anyone that's

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Speaker 1: like I hate cats, I'm like, you just told me

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Speaker 1: that you've got nothing else interesting to hate, Like, really, cats, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's the thing you chose to hate.

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Speaker 2: That's where you draw the line. Draw the line.

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Speaker 1: But I wanted to evolve on that because this week

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Speaker 1: we had we had a birthday in the office.

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Speaker 2: Oh yes we did.

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Speaker 1: We had a little pissy's baby girl's birthday. Sally turned sixteen.

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Speaker 1: Sixteen I think he means sixty. Yeah. I was trying

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Speaker 1: to be nice and for Sal's birthday, I take her

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Speaker 1: to play with the bunnies and the kittens and puppies

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Speaker 1: at Sydney Dogs and Cats Home. Like getting a pet

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Speaker 1: in my twenties was like the best thing I've ever done,

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Speaker 1: and I just am obsessed with her. And with the

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Speaker 1: city dogs and cats home shelter, you can really ease

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Speaker 1: into it, so you can foster to start. You can,

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Speaker 1: you know, see if you like the animal, and if

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Speaker 1: it doesn't work out they're getting adopted or they're so chill,

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Speaker 1: like you can be like it's too much, like they

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Speaker 1: need to come back. Like I've fostered a dog once

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Speaker 1: I honestly cannot recommend them enough. And there are so

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Speaker 1: are thinking about a pet, plea, please think about adopting

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Speaker 1: because there are so many beautiful babies that need a home.

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Speaker 3: We'll put a link in the description so that you

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Speaker 3: can browse some of the beautiful babies that are up

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Speaker 2: Because yeah, like EL said, there are so many.

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Speaker 1: All right, shall we get into the episode?

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Speaker 2: Woo?

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Speaker 1: I just realized we didn't tell you guys what we're

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Speaker 1: talking about today, and we are discussing are you the

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Speaker 1: asshole of your twenties and beyond? Yes, but we asked

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Speaker 1: you chicks to send in your am I the asshole situations?

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Speaker 1: And boy, are there some newsies?

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Speaker 2: So shall I kick us off?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? Sure, I knew there was going to be at

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Speaker 1: least one wedding. Yeah, there always is, and I think

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Speaker 1: this one's very interesting. Okay, So am I the asshole

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Speaker 1: for not inviting my fiance's best friend to our wedding? Oh?

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Speaker 2: My god? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Context is, my fiance has heaps of wonderful friends. One

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Speaker 1: of these friends has a boyfriend who low ki sucks.

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Speaker 1: I've met him at two social events so far and

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Speaker 1: found that he's quite cold, won't join in on group

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Speaker 1: in general. The most recent interaction was actually at a

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Speaker 1: friend's wedding, and it made us all feel pretty uncomfortable. Okay,

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Speaker 1: so it's not his best friend it's his best friend's partner.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah. The issue is she absolutely adores this guy

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Speaker 1: and brushes off how he treats her and other people.

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Speaker 1: Fast forward and then now engaged. That's in the message.

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Speaker 1: By the way, that was not an ad lib bracket

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Speaker 1: she said. Rip. So our wedding is in October, fabulous

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Speaker 1: forul marc O callender's my.

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Speaker 3: God looking out for the invites coming soon.

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Speaker 1: I'm sure we are constrained by budget and brackets, aren't

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Speaker 1: we all, and given we're paying for the whole thing ourselves,

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Speaker 1: I just don't feel like forking out a couple hundred

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Speaker 1: dollars for this bloke to attend. So we sent an

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Speaker 1: invite to her but not to him. Are we the

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Speaker 1: assholes for going against normal wedding conventions of inviting couples,

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Speaker 1: especially fiances, and likely causing unintentional drama?

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Speaker 2: O this is such a juicy one.

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Speaker 1: I know. I think you could argue two sides to this.

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Speaker 3: I completely agree because my first instinct is you're not

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Speaker 3: an asshole. It's your wedding and you're entitled to invite

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Speaker 3: You want people there who are going to be supportive

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Speaker 3: and who have been involved in your relationship, and like,

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Speaker 3: you don't want to be walking down the aisle and

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Speaker 3: smiling at all the people you love and then just

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Speaker 1: Scrolled on on its phone.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, there that you don't even like, Like I personally

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Speaker 3: wouldn't like that. Yeah, But then I also do understand

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Speaker 3: the money side of it too. You're like, well, it's expensive,

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Speaker 3: that money could go towards somebody else. However, I also

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Speaker 3: think that you have to then accept the repercussions of that. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: the repercussion and the very likely outcome that your friend

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Speaker 1: I agree with you on the money aspect, being like,

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Speaker 1: I think that's probably the biggest like hump that I

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Speaker 1: agree with, being like, like, you don't talk to us,

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Speaker 1: we don't know you. I don't want to pay four

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Speaker 1: On your wedding day though, and this is where I'm

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Speaker 1: being like Devil's advocate here, right, You're going to be

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Speaker 1: don't actually think she would notice that he's there. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: like you there are so many people at your wedding.

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Speaker 1: But in saying that, the invites are vincent, So I

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Speaker 1: just think, no, you're not the asshole. It's your wedding.

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Speaker 1: You get to decide who comes. Like I kind of

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Speaker 1: do find this whole notion of like you have to

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Speaker 1: that's okay, Like you've never met him, so like, no dramas,

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Speaker 1: But I just think when they get married, which they

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Speaker 1: to that because he might be like, well, if I

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Speaker 1: wasn't invited to your wedding, mom, you're not coming to moor. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I would love an update please.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, has the friend said anything? Yeah?

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Speaker 3: And I want to know if you get invited to

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Speaker 2: Huh?

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Speaker 3: Am I the asshole for sleeping with him when he

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Speaker 3: was freshly single?

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Speaker 1: Oh?

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Speaker 2: Girls?

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Speaker 3: Am I the asshole for sleeping with someone three years

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Speaker 3: And now he has been back with his ex for

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Speaker 3: he didn't tell her that we had history until November

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Speaker 3: Do you think I'm an asshole?

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Speaker 2: Thank you? Girls?

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Speaker 3: I live with this guilt every day, and from what

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Speaker 2: He's got off scot free. Typical unfair?

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Speaker 1: Was she friends with the girlfriend?

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Speaker 3: They're in the same friendship group. I think so it

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Speaker 3: sounds like they're all friends and she was friends with

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Speaker 3: the guy and then he's broken up with his ex,

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Speaker 3: she's broken up with hers, they've slept together. To me,

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Speaker 3: it sounds like she was closer with the guy than

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Speaker 3: with the girlfriend, but it's unclear.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, submission, I think one, it's just like typical and

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Speaker 1: so standard for like the girl to be villainized, whereas

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Speaker 1: the man is just like gets off scott free as

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Speaker 1: she said, Yeah, and I just find that narrative so tiring.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I agree.

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Speaker 1: Yes, The only thing is I'm like, were you Are

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Speaker 1: you friends with the girlfriend? Because then I'd be like really,

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Speaker 1: But I don't actually think it sounds like they were.

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Speaker 1: Now she would say we were friends, So I don't

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Speaker 2: Because of who he voted for.

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Speaker 1: Oh hey, chicks, I've been listening to the show for

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Speaker 1: Is this worth breaking up over? Anything? Helps? Thanks?

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Speaker 2: Chicks, love ya?

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Speaker 1: I think so dump his ass?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I just think that with with politics, of course,

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Speaker 1: There was no constructive conversation.

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Speaker 3: He lied because he knew that it would upset you.

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Speaker 3: I wouldn't want to lay next to somebody knowing that

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Speaker 1: Oh so I'm a bit confused. Was it the family

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Speaker 3: Because it can be really awkward for you as the

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and I also think like the lack of space

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Speaker 3: to put it through insurance, that could significantly impact what

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Speaker 3: you can claim and what you can do if you've

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Speaker 3: gone and taken it to a dodgy panel beater first, Like,

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Speaker 3: that is so not your decision, That is not your place.

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Speaker 1: You should message as soon as it happened, being like,

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Speaker 1: I'm so sorry, I've just reversed into your car. It

448
00:24:21,240 --> 00:24:24,760
Speaker 1: was a complete accident. That's fine, accidents happen. You apologize,

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Speaker 1: you own up to it, and like send a photo

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Speaker 1: and say how would you like me to fix it.

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Speaker 1: I'm more than happy to pay for it, obviously because

452
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Speaker 1: it was my fault.

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Speaker 2: That's what should have happened.

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Speaker 1: So I think it's obviously not just this one thing,

455
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Speaker 1: like it's there's been a bit of a story here

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Speaker 1: that you've gone on and very evidently. I think it's

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Speaker 1: a very good choice that you moved out.

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Speaker 3: One and I think with stuff like that, it could

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Speaker 3: be really tricky moving in with a friend. It can

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Speaker 3: be really hard not to carry on some of that

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Speaker 3: animosity into your friendship after that if you have had

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Speaker 3: conflict when you've lived.

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Speaker 2: With a friend.

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Speaker 3: So I don't think that you're the asshole for cutting

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Speaker 3: them off. I don't think it sounded like a very

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Speaker 3: healthy and rewarding friendship anyway.

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Speaker 1: Oh, this is a good one. Am I the asshole

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Speaker 1: for not wanting to go to a male strip show

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Speaker 1: for my friend's birthday? So? I didn't want to go

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Speaker 1: to my best friend's oh birthday hosted at a male

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Speaker 1: strip show slash bar as it's not my thing, But

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Speaker 1: she chucked a hissy fit because I missed her birthday?

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Speaker 1: Am I a bitch for this? I really didn't want

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Speaker 1: to go. No, No, I don't think. I don't think

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Speaker 1: either if.

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Speaker 3: You're not comfortable going to a male strip show, or

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Speaker 3: if you're not comfortable going to any sort of scenario,

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Speaker 3: you should not have to go just because it's somebody's birthday.

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Speaker 1: I agree, And I also think if you're planning your

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Speaker 1: birthday at something like that, which people can feel a

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Speaker 1: little bit uncomfortable with it. And I also want to

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Speaker 1: preface this by saying that like sal and I completely

483
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Speaker 1: earn one hundred percent like support all forms of work,

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Speaker 1: including sex workers, So it's not coming from a place

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Speaker 1: of judgment or anything. People just have different levels of

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Speaker 1: comfort with what they want to go to and that's fine. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: but I think like with that scenario, there are going

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Speaker 1: to be people that don't necessarily feel comfortable with that,

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Speaker 1: and that's okay, and you kind of have to expect

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Speaker 1: that if that's what your birthday plans are. Yeah, kind

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Speaker 1: of like with anything. It's like if you were planning

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Speaker 1: something that's really expensive, Like if you were like, Okay, guys,

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Speaker 1: we're going to Bali for my birthday, there's going to

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Speaker 1: be people that aren't comfortable spending that money or aren't

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Speaker 1: comfortable going there, like that's just the situation.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Or if you don't drink alcohol and your friend is

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Speaker 3: having a birthday party at.

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Speaker 1: A boss brunch. Yeah, there's so many scenarios that you

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Speaker 1: can pull in to be like I'm not comfortable doing that.

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Speaker 1: Like I wonder if she did maybe try to say,

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Speaker 1: like I'm not comfortable going to this show, but can

503
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Speaker 1: I take you out for dinner and we'll spend some

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Speaker 1: really good quality time together And maybe that's like the

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Speaker 1: result here in terms of being like I understand, but

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Speaker 1: like I really don't think she can get mad at

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Speaker 1: you for not being comfortable going to that show.

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Speaker 3: No, But I think as soon as somebody says, I'm

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Speaker 3: not comfortable with something, whether it's your birthday or your

510
00:27:36,320 --> 00:27:39,480
Speaker 3: hens night or whatever. That's where you just have to say, Okay,

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Speaker 3: I understand.

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Speaker 1: I haven't ever been to one of those like magic

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Speaker 1: Mike esque shows. Yeah, but I've seen some things on

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Speaker 1: TikTok and in a lot of the shows they pull

515
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Speaker 1: people up on the stage. Yeah. So I also like

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Speaker 1: think that plays a massive part in it, because like

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Speaker 1: if like imagine if she got pull it on the stage,

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Speaker 1: she'd be so uncomfortable.

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Speaker 2: I don't know what, like the what the show was.

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Speaker 1: Specific know what the show was, but I don't know

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Speaker 1: what like the protocol for that is. So I'm like,

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Speaker 1: when they pull people up on stage, do they have

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Speaker 1: to be like yes, I content, yeah, surely there's a

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Speaker 1: lot of touching, and I would be like, don't fucking

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Speaker 1: touch Yeah, I'm sure. Flipped, yeah, flipped.

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

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Speaker 1: Like, honestly, you've got like fucking sixty more birthdays at

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Speaker 1: least if shes one, it's fucking fine, it'll be okay.

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Speaker 1: And yeah, I think when you're choosing something for your birthday,

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Speaker 1: in any scenario, you run like the risk of people

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Speaker 1: needing to align their values to that. Whether that's their

532
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Speaker 1: values of spending, whether that's their values of what they're

533
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Speaker 1: doing in their life, it doesn't matter.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but yeah, you're not the asshole.

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Speaker 1: No, no one's the asshole. Yeah. I don't think I

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Speaker 1: could tell.

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Speaker 2: Anyone they're the asshole.

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Speaker 1: Maybe we would be able to dish out some tough love.

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Speaker 2: But head kiss. Well, that was fun. That was fun.

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Speaker 1: I can't wait to read through the rest of them.

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Speaker 2: I know Juicy part two.

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Speaker 1: Let us know if you liked this episode and we

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Speaker 1: could do a part two.

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Speaker 2: Because there were so many more.

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Speaker 1: All right, chicks. Well, that is a wrap for today's

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Speaker 1: episode of Two Broke Two yolks, and thank you so

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Speaker 1: much for having us in your ear holes. We love

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Speaker 1: to be here. Am I the artshole for being in

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Speaker 1: your ear hols. Sorry, and thank you to MKA Made

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Speaker 1: for making this episode of two broad Chicks happen. We

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Speaker 1: love to be here. We'll see you one Thursday, and

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Speaker 3: We love you, love you, Bye bye bye