WEBVTT - New Faces 0:00:06.760 --> 0:00:10.600 Yes, it is Show and Tell time. It is the 0:00:10.800 --> 0:00:11.440 time of. 0:00:11.560 --> 0:00:16.800 The week you listen to us talk. Hi, how's it going? 0:00:16.960 --> 0:00:21.600 Hi, it's Mail, It's Monty. Thanks for listening into our podcast. 0:00:22.400 --> 0:00:24.360 If you're new to the podcast, which I think there 0:00:24.440 --> 0:00:29.640 might be a few newies, which is exciting. Welcome and 0:00:29.720 --> 0:00:34.080 also to our longtime listeners, thank you for listening in 0:00:34.159 --> 0:00:36.760 as per usual. But Mail, let's kick off the pod 0:00:36.800 --> 0:00:39.080 with your random fat of the week. 0:00:39.120 --> 0:00:41.760 Oh my god. Okay, so I saw this on a 0:00:41.760 --> 0:00:45.680 clip on Instagram from a podcast called Wine About It. 0:00:45.760 --> 0:00:49.000 One of the girls was talking about this thing called 0:00:49.520 --> 0:00:52.560 a decidual cast. Have you ever heard of this ever? 0:00:53.120 --> 0:00:56.640 So what it is. It's very rare, but it happens. 0:00:57.080 --> 0:01:00.000 You know, a period is when you shed the line 0:01:00.280 --> 0:01:02.760 of your uterus. Yeah, right, And it happens over the 0:01:02.800 --> 0:01:05.080 course of a few days to a week or whatever. 0:01:06.040 --> 0:01:10.080 This is when the whole uterine lining sheds at once. 0:01:10.680 --> 0:01:13.399 Oh so it's just a one dayer. It's it's but 0:01:13.520 --> 0:01:18.240 it comes out literally like the shape of your uterus. 0:01:19.120 --> 0:01:22.000 The whole lining sheds in one piece. Oh my god. 0:01:22.000 --> 0:01:27.720 That's fantastic, like a hectic qlot like if you're up 0:01:27.760 --> 0:01:29.600 for it, if you dare google it. 0:01:29.760 --> 0:01:33.600 I did. It literally looks like a tongue, A tongue, yes, 0:01:33.720 --> 0:01:36.000 sort of like the shape of the uterus is almost 0:01:36.040 --> 0:01:39.160 like that, sort of I guess, triangle shape upside down, 0:01:39.200 --> 0:01:43.520 triangles out like that. Never ever knew about it either. 0:01:44.319 --> 0:01:45.440 I would love that. 0:01:45.760 --> 0:01:50.080 How brilliant to just get it over in one day, done, 0:01:50.280 --> 0:01:52.480 But you would have to just make sure you're home 0:01:52.840 --> 0:01:55.520 at that time. It would be brilliant if you knew. Okay, 0:01:55.520 --> 0:01:58.440 at two o'clock on this date, I'm going. 0:01:58.320 --> 0:02:01.480 To hop in the shower. Yeah, hopping the shower, blob out. Oh, 0:02:01.640 --> 0:02:02.320 maybe what I did? 0:02:02.360 --> 0:02:04.280 Feel like, I feel almost nice. It feel like you're 0:02:04.320 --> 0:02:06.560 after birth, like you know, once you've given birth and 0:02:06.600 --> 0:02:08.160 then your after birth comes out. 0:02:08.639 --> 0:02:10.920 I didn't like that bit. Well, it hurt because you 0:02:11.040 --> 0:02:11.600 were still. 0:02:11.440 --> 0:02:13.840 Having contractions, but I liked the feeling of it, like 0:02:14.200 --> 0:02:20.520 sliding out like a gush of meat. Hey, so last 0:02:20.520 --> 0:02:24.320 week I did the Imperfect podcast, Yes You did, one 0:02:24.360 --> 0:02:27.519 of my favorite podcasts with Ryan Shelton Hugh and Josh 0:02:27.600 --> 0:02:30.519 Van Kyle and Berg where they interview just I've mentioned 0:02:30.560 --> 0:02:32.919 it a million times and pointed people to the podcast 0:02:32.919 --> 0:02:34.600 a heap of times. But where they just talked to 0:02:35.240 --> 0:02:38.120 often experts or just people about their life. So I 0:02:38.200 --> 0:02:41.920 went on, oh my god, after I did it, I 0:02:41.960 --> 0:02:45.600 have never First of all, I was so nervous doing it. 0:02:45.680 --> 0:02:48.120 I've never had nerves like that in my whole life. 0:02:48.639 --> 0:02:52.600 Like Ryan's one of my great mates. I couldn't even 0:02:52.639 --> 0:02:54.880 pick up my glass of water on the table because 0:02:54.880 --> 0:02:56.560 my hands were shaking so much, so I had to 0:02:56.600 --> 0:02:57.920 have my hands under the desk. 0:02:58.720 --> 0:03:00.280 Do you know what I think it is. I think 0:03:00.320 --> 0:03:02.600 it's because you do TV and stuff and you're fine 0:03:02.600 --> 0:03:04.720 with that. I think it's you were going in knowing 0:03:04.760 --> 0:03:05.920 you were going to be vulnerable. 0:03:06.160 --> 0:03:10.840 Totally. I felt so vulnerable. And also, like on here, 0:03:10.919 --> 0:03:13.720 I talk about myself a lot, but in my job 0:03:13.960 --> 0:03:18.600 I'm interviewing other people, so it's never just talking about myself. 0:03:18.720 --> 0:03:21.520 When for an hour and a half we covered everything 0:03:21.600 --> 0:03:25.000 from my mum dying me telling my little boy about it, 0:03:25.400 --> 0:03:28.600 to my chronic illnesses to losing your job when I 0:03:28.639 --> 0:03:31.240 fell pregnant, Like, we covered. 0:03:31.440 --> 0:03:35.320 Everything, and they ask just the right questions, just. 0:03:35.320 --> 0:03:40.200 The right questions. Anyway, the feedback I got was so 0:03:40.560 --> 0:03:44.000 out of this world. I said to Sam, I get 0:03:44.080 --> 0:03:49.040 how celebrities feel when they're just bombarded with the most 0:03:49.760 --> 0:03:52.520 epic comments that you would get delusional. 0:03:52.960 --> 0:03:53.720 Do you know what I mean? 0:03:54.160 --> 0:03:56.200 I said to him, I said, I've got to be 0:03:56.640 --> 0:03:59.320 prepared because they just banged out the social clips over 0:03:59.400 --> 0:04:01.120 like four days. I said, I've got to be prepared 0:04:01.160 --> 0:04:04.400 when these comments finish, because I was so beautiful, like 0:04:04.520 --> 0:04:07.760 so many people saying how much they related, saying how 0:04:07.800 --> 0:04:10.680 brave I was, how amazing I was. And I said 0:04:10.720 --> 0:04:14.520 to Sam, this is addictive reading these comments. And I said, 0:04:14.800 --> 0:04:17.960 imagine you were like a maths contestant where you're as 0:04:18.000 --> 0:04:21.640 big as anything for the duration of the show, and 0:04:21.680 --> 0:04:24.440 then it all fucking stops. Like I get how it 0:04:24.480 --> 0:04:25.160 can mess. 0:04:24.960 --> 0:04:30.000 With your head. Well imagine also it going the opposite way, 0:04:31.160 --> 0:04:34.599 the cat sing and people saying, oh oh my god, Monty, 0:04:34.800 --> 0:04:37.320 like what that's so ship? 0:04:37.560 --> 0:04:41.200 Oh fuck you strain whatever, images like that. Oh So, 0:04:41.600 --> 0:04:44.080 because you do. I read them and they made me 0:04:44.120 --> 0:04:47.360 feel amazing. There wasn't one negative comment. It was such 0:04:47.440 --> 0:04:50.960 a beautiful space to share. But you're right, if they 0:04:51.000 --> 0:04:53.880 were negative comments, it would have sent me into a hole. 0:04:53.880 --> 0:04:56.880 Because human nature is you can't help but read things 0:04:56.920 --> 0:05:00.039 about you like you just can't. So I was on 0:05:00.080 --> 0:05:05.120 Instagram like an absolute fucking demon, just watching the numbers 0:05:05.160 --> 0:05:07.640 go up, watching the comments come in, and I was like, 0:05:07.880 --> 0:05:10.080 this is so beautiful, but I have to also have 0:05:10.160 --> 0:05:13.719 a grip on the fact that everyone writes that and 0:05:13.760 --> 0:05:16.760 then they move on where I'm like, oh, I'm excellent. 0:05:18.400 --> 0:05:21.440 No, But it's also just I think it probably would 0:05:21.440 --> 0:05:24.880 have made you feel good too, because it's all that 0:05:25.000 --> 0:05:27.560 feeling of being less alone. 0:05:27.480 --> 0:05:30.000 That's feeling Haunds down to a lot it is. I 0:05:30.080 --> 0:05:34.320 know that it sounds cheesy, but sharing what I did 0:05:34.360 --> 0:05:37.760 and feeling very vulnerable and I spoke very openly about 0:05:37.800 --> 0:05:41.560 my children and their neurodivergency, which connected hugely with so 0:05:41.600 --> 0:05:45.359 many people. It's a very isolating thing, and so to 0:05:45.520 --> 0:05:49.320 have an instant connection, even if it's just a message 0:05:49.360 --> 0:05:52.280 going I totally relate. I'm going through this as well. 0:05:52.320 --> 0:05:54.520 Like one of the people in the comments wrote, I 0:05:54.520 --> 0:05:57.279 feel like I've found my people in this comment section, 0:05:57.680 --> 0:06:00.440 and that got me because I was like, so many 0:06:00.480 --> 0:06:04.239 of us are doing things like even people writing about 0:06:04.240 --> 0:06:07.840 the grief of how lonely it is and isolating it is, 0:06:08.080 --> 0:06:10.880 and just knowing that you're not alone in those things 0:06:11.320 --> 0:06:13.040 can be really comforting. 0:06:13.120 --> 0:06:16.440 Yeah, because it's easy to forget that other people are 0:06:16.440 --> 0:06:18.640 going through it when you're in it. 0:06:18.720 --> 0:06:21.800 And yeah, when you're often just surviving, you're like everyone 0:06:21.800 --> 0:06:24.280 else around me is fucking thriving. Where this was like, Oh, 0:06:24.320 --> 0:06:28.160 everyone's got their shit, No one's thriving, No one's thriving, 0:06:28.240 --> 0:06:32.640 no one anyway. Going from helping people to the Kardashians. 0:06:34.080 --> 0:06:38.839 So I listened to Chloe Kardashian's got a new podcast 0:06:38.880 --> 0:06:42.919 and she had Courtney on last week. Late last week. 0:06:43.279 --> 0:06:48.160 Courtney does attachment parenting, where if you do that, who 0:06:48.279 --> 0:06:51.560 are to you? Like, kudos to you, that's amazing. I 0:06:51.600 --> 0:06:55.679 do detachment parenting where it's like you're out of the womb, 0:06:55.680 --> 0:06:56.599 You're on your fucking own. 0:06:56.680 --> 0:06:59.760 Now. No you don't, God, you'd make yourself out to 0:06:59.760 --> 0:07:02.320 be an No, I don't, but I very much. 0:07:03.360 --> 0:07:05.839 I don't know. I don't have a huge amount of patients. 0:07:05.839 --> 0:07:07.919 So just sitting with the kids or playing with the 0:07:08.000 --> 0:07:11.080 kids last about ten minutes where I'm like, Okay, I'm done. 0:07:11.800 --> 0:07:13.720 She her little boy. 0:07:13.640 --> 0:07:18.200 Naps for three hours a day, and she just sits 0:07:18.200 --> 0:07:22.000 in the chair and nurses him for his whole n 0:07:22.000 --> 0:07:24.000 app every day. 0:07:24.560 --> 0:07:27.880 That is a level of privilege. 0:07:28.400 --> 0:07:31.040 Oh my god. The whole time she's talking, I was thinking. 0:07:30.800 --> 0:07:32.880 This is so privileged. 0:07:32.960 --> 0:07:36.840 Everything they're talking about was, of course naturally so unbelievably privileged. 0:07:36.880 --> 0:07:38.800 But to be able to sit there because of course 0:07:38.800 --> 0:07:41.200 she's she's got people cleaning her house and making her dinner. 0:07:41.880 --> 0:07:44.160 So to sit there with your baby for three hours, 0:07:44.440 --> 0:07:46.760 hands down privilege. But how fucking boring. 0:07:47.160 --> 0:07:51.080 I'm sure in that time she's maybe got the baby 0:07:51.200 --> 0:07:54.640 like this, and maybe she's checking emails, and oh she is. 0:07:55.320 --> 0:07:57.160 I was gonna say, you can't just be sitting there. 0:07:57.160 --> 0:07:57.880 She's got like. 0:07:57.840 --> 0:08:00.680 A frequency blanket on him. She's got something on her 0:08:00.720 --> 0:08:03.480 phone to science to stop the radiation of her phone 0:08:03.520 --> 0:08:06.320 going to him. She's really fucking right. And also she 0:08:06.720 --> 0:08:09.240 was saying how she goes against the grain with a 0:08:09.240 --> 0:08:11.320 lot of parenting stuff. She's like, I will nurse my 0:08:11.400 --> 0:08:13.200 kids when they have a fever. I won't give them 0:08:13.280 --> 0:08:17.320 tile andol or anything. I'm like, that's fucking mean, Like 0:08:17.400 --> 0:08:19.000 if the kid's in pain, you've got to give the 0:08:19.120 --> 0:08:21.040 kid pan at all. 0:08:21.160 --> 0:08:24.320 It's like, I don't want to sound defensive when I 0:08:24.320 --> 0:08:27.640 say this, it's just not understanding or relating to, for example, 0:08:27.680 --> 0:08:31.880 people who were Jehovah's witnesses who don't believe in sort 0:08:31.920 --> 0:08:35.120 of blood transfusions and stuff. So if their loved one 0:08:35.559 --> 0:08:38.280 is in a car accident, for example, and the doctors 0:08:38.280 --> 0:08:41.320 say they need a blood transfusion, the idea is God 0:08:41.440 --> 0:08:42.440 is going to take care of them. 0:08:42.600 --> 0:08:46.360 Yes, right, I think same as scientologists. Remember there was 0:08:46.400 --> 0:08:49.840 something Tom Cruise didn't approve of. Was it Kirsty Ally 0:08:50.000 --> 0:08:52.520 or somebody had to have a blood transfusion or something, 0:08:52.679 --> 0:08:53.000 and it. 0:08:53.000 --> 0:08:56.440 Was like, I don't know, but the concept of that 0:08:56.520 --> 0:08:58.720 I don't get. So like, when your kid's in pain, 0:08:59.040 --> 0:09:01.880 no one wants to just smash their kid with pantol 0:09:02.360 --> 0:09:04.880 and whatever, but I mean you also don't want your 0:09:04.960 --> 0:09:06.240 kid to suffer either. 0:09:09.840 --> 0:09:13.920 Here's the thing. Medication is a really interesting topic when 0:09:13.960 --> 0:09:20.559 it comes to your kids. And I just find it 0:09:20.800 --> 0:09:29.280 really challenging when people go against Western medication that can 0:09:29.360 --> 0:09:32.480 help you and hugely help you. And I get it's 0:09:32.480 --> 0:09:37.080 not the first line of contact, especially for your children, 0:09:37.679 --> 0:09:41.000 but there are so many kids out there with such 0:09:41.040 --> 0:09:47.000 hectic anxiety, such hectic ADHD and the parents not coming 0:09:47.000 --> 0:09:50.280 to terms with medicating their kids. And who is suffering 0:09:50.480 --> 0:09:54.080 is the children, and it really upsets me. 0:09:55.000 --> 0:09:57.880 There are so many things about that, like that is 0:09:57.960 --> 0:10:02.800 also just a form of shaming. Yeah, like almost translating. 0:10:03.440 --> 0:10:06.600 You know, we don't want to do that because and 0:10:06.679 --> 0:10:09.080 you know, everyone has their own right to what they think. 0:10:09.120 --> 0:10:12.480 Is that based down the thing I think is really 0:10:12.480 --> 0:10:16.800 an issue when a parent is in denial but there's something, 0:10:17.440 --> 0:10:19.600 you know that needs to be managed in their child, 0:10:19.760 --> 0:10:22.560 and then the child is you know, acting out in 0:10:22.559 --> 0:10:25.920 the classroom and stuff, and it affects everybody. 0:10:26.000 --> 0:10:30.359 Yes, there was a really interesting clip keeping on the Kardashians. 0:10:30.400 --> 0:10:34.920 The Kardashians stock he treats the Kardashians. It's talking about ADHD, 0:10:35.559 --> 0:10:38.480 which I spoke about on the imperfects that I have. 0:10:38.880 --> 0:10:42.440 I haven't found medication that works properly for me. My 0:10:42.559 --> 0:10:45.679 middle child is like chalk and cheese outside of his 0:10:46.679 --> 0:10:49.840 when I can tell in the morning when his medication 0:10:50.040 --> 0:10:53.080 kicks in because it complex doesn't alter his personality in 0:10:53.120 --> 0:10:56.880 any which way, but he can concentrate. His defiance isn't a. 0:10:57.000 --> 0:10:59.360 Full on his karma. He's karma. 0:11:00.080 --> 0:11:02.880 So when he hasn't had it, the teacher can hands 0:11:02.920 --> 0:11:07.040 down recognized because she has to redirect him all the time. 0:11:07.559 --> 0:11:11.280 This doctor was saying with ADHD, it's more damaging to 0:11:11.400 --> 0:11:18.000 not medicate because it is really challenging for children to 0:11:18.040 --> 0:11:23.560 not be able to concentrate, to be really hyperactive in 0:11:23.600 --> 0:11:28.480 their mind. Is it can lead to higher divorce rate. 0:11:28.679 --> 0:11:32.600 These are this is all scientific studying. Stuff can lead 0:11:32.640 --> 0:11:37.720 to drugs, incarceration, all of those are much higher rate 0:11:38.000 --> 0:11:42.640 for unmedicated ADHD people, which is fascinating to me. 0:11:43.240 --> 0:11:46.640 Well, it makes so much sense because it's the impulsiveness, 0:11:46.920 --> 0:11:50.120 it's the need for to get the dopamine that might 0:11:50.160 --> 0:11:54.719 be food, alcohol, drugs, whatever, higher a chance of having 0:11:54.760 --> 0:11:58.199 an eating disorder. It's like all that stuff. And there are. 0:11:58.240 --> 0:12:01.160 Other ways, of course, you can go about trying to 0:12:01.520 --> 0:12:04.559 help this, but he, this doctor is so all about 0:12:04.640 --> 0:12:07.800 natural stuff. This is the guy that pushes saffron for 0:12:08.160 --> 0:12:09.640 to help with depression and stuff. 0:12:09.679 --> 0:12:13.080 Oh, I know who you're talking, the bold guy, dtr Armand. 0:12:12.760 --> 0:12:16.160 So I was so amazed when I heard him say, well, 0:12:16.200 --> 0:12:17.920 I watched it because I was like, fucking here we go. 0:12:18.000 --> 0:12:20.959 Because I do medicate my children, and it was in 0:12:21.040 --> 0:12:23.000 our first line, but it got to the point where 0:12:23.000 --> 0:12:25.440 it's like, my children are suffering so much. This is 0:12:25.559 --> 0:12:29.120 destroying our family and it is absolute chalk and cheese 0:12:29.120 --> 0:12:33.040 between it. But I was saying, how yeah. I was 0:12:33.080 --> 0:12:34.640 watching him and I was like, oh, here we go. 0:12:34.720 --> 0:12:37.080 What's he going to be saying natural stuff for ADHD? 0:12:37.160 --> 0:12:41.080 But it was so reaffirming for me as a parent 0:12:41.120 --> 0:12:43.840 who does medicate her kids to go, okay, you're a 0:12:43.920 --> 0:12:46.640 doctor who will always go the natural route, but was 0:12:46.640 --> 0:12:52.560 saying ADHD medication just can be an absolute game changer 0:12:52.600 --> 0:12:54.000 and life changer for. 0:12:54.040 --> 0:12:57.160 Children and with kids too, Like when you look back 0:12:57.160 --> 0:13:00.840 at your own life, my fears are always around like 0:13:01.000 --> 0:13:04.440 wasted potential because it's my thing. I think what could 0:13:04.480 --> 0:13:08.679 I have been? What could I have done if I Well, 0:13:08.679 --> 0:13:10.880 I guess back then we didn't even know, like it 0:13:10.920 --> 0:13:14.800 wasn't even know all the things that we look at now, 0:13:14.880 --> 0:13:18.000 especially for girls and women is so different to you know, 0:13:18.080 --> 0:13:20.200 it was looked at in this one particular way back then. 0:13:20.240 --> 0:13:23.720 But I just think, and then what happens is that 0:13:23.400 --> 0:13:26.520 that internal feeling you get that you're not keeping up. 0:13:26.640 --> 0:13:28.680 Everything's harder for you than it is if you're downe 0:13:29.559 --> 0:13:32.240 it affects your self esteem. Then you don't want to 0:13:32.280 --> 0:13:34.560 take chances because you don't want to look stupid, and 0:13:34.600 --> 0:13:36.880 then it's this flow on effect. So if you can 0:13:36.920 --> 0:13:39.800 manage that while they're young, I mean, oh totally. 0:13:39.840 --> 0:13:43.480 Well, the statistics sens like you can't fight against it. 0:13:43.559 --> 0:13:46.920 I also completely understand that everyone is on their own 0:13:47.000 --> 0:13:49.960 journey when it comes to their kids, and you know 0:13:50.200 --> 0:13:52.520 there are other things that you might be doing, So 0:13:52.640 --> 0:13:55.240 please don't take this as a judgment. This is for 0:13:55.920 --> 0:13:58.360 my own opinion. But I also when I see other 0:13:58.440 --> 0:14:02.600 children struggle and the parents so anti medication, and I 0:14:02.679 --> 0:14:04.840 know the difference it made in our family, I'm like, 0:14:04.880 --> 0:14:07.720 that fucking poor kid. I will never forget being at 0:14:07.960 --> 0:14:12.080 Baxter's football when we were testing ADHD medication for him, 0:14:12.200 --> 0:14:15.080 and there were two parents behind me who were talking 0:14:15.080 --> 0:14:18.839 about ADHD and how their kids have ADHD, and one 0:14:18.880 --> 0:14:21.000 of them said, do you medicate your kids? She's like no, 0:14:21.320 --> 0:14:24.360 I will never and the other lady's like you beauty, 0:14:24.400 --> 0:14:29.120 and they high fived behind me. I never felt more 0:14:29.280 --> 0:14:35.480 judged like a shitter parent and just angry. I was like, 0:14:35.560 --> 0:14:39.320 that's your shit that you're putting on your child, and 0:14:39.360 --> 0:14:41.720 it's just it was just so icky. I was also 0:14:41.760 --> 0:14:46.080 talking to a friend yesterday who's got neurodivergent kids. And 0:14:46.600 --> 0:14:49.720 I was saying, how you know so many people just 0:14:49.760 --> 0:14:53.080 think it's horseshit or so many more people getting diagnosed 0:14:53.120 --> 0:14:58.880 with autism and ADHD, And I said, it makes sense. 0:14:58.920 --> 0:15:01.400 There are so many people in the world that of 0:15:01.480 --> 0:15:06.560 course we're going to have different wirings of brains. Yeah, 0:15:06.680 --> 0:15:08.120 do you know what I mean. There's no way we're 0:15:08.120 --> 0:15:10.760 all going to have the same wiring. And if you're 0:15:10.800 --> 0:15:13.560 classed as a typical brain, still your wiring's different. But 0:15:13.600 --> 0:15:17.080 if you're neurodivergent, it's different. Again, like no one's completely 0:15:17.080 --> 0:15:20.000 the same, but there are there is a big difference 0:15:20.040 --> 0:15:23.520 between typical and euro divergent. But I was saying, like 0:15:23.600 --> 0:15:28.000 it's more noticeable now because our world is completely not 0:15:28.080 --> 0:15:32.160 set up for neurodivergent people. It's just not it's over stimulating. 0:15:32.280 --> 0:15:36.120 It's at a pace that is completely ludicrously fast. Where 0:15:36.160 --> 0:15:40.080 if we were back in the tribe days, you had 0:15:40.080 --> 0:15:43.160 a purpose, it wouldn't have been as recognized. So you're 0:15:43.280 --> 0:15:48.200 like hyperactive, impulsive men would have gone out and hunted. 0:15:48.920 --> 0:15:52.520 You're more anxious, reserve people would have stayed and cared 0:15:52.560 --> 0:15:54.760 for the kids and made the food. It's like it 0:15:54.800 --> 0:15:58.640 wouldn't have been as recognizable because you would have had 0:15:58.920 --> 0:16:03.440 roles suited you, but there wasn't all that stimulation and 0:16:03.480 --> 0:16:06.320 that pace of fuck, got to get here, got to 0:16:06.320 --> 0:16:08.240 get here. They've got footy, they've got this, they've got that. 0:16:08.440 --> 0:16:12.240 Like it was so different that and over time everything 0:16:12.280 --> 0:16:14.560 has got faster and faster that I think it's become 0:16:14.600 --> 0:16:17.160 more prevalent that there is neurodiversity. 0:16:18.000 --> 0:16:21.640 Yeah, definitely. And also like it's just I guess it's 0:16:21.720 --> 0:16:24.880 the idea too that oh, it's a superpower, which does 0:16:24.920 --> 0:16:28.480 sort of annoy me a bit think because total gas 0:16:28.560 --> 0:16:34.040 lighting are there are things that make you brilliant in 0:16:34.080 --> 0:16:38.360 some way, but if there's not help there, whether that 0:16:38.600 --> 0:16:41.760 is with a psychologist or medication, whatever you're going to do. 0:16:41.960 --> 0:16:45.920 If there's not help, you're not you don't have the 0:16:46.000 --> 0:16:51.000 skills to be able to live life holy and show 0:16:51.040 --> 0:16:54.480 your brilliance in like, you can't tap into that brilliance 0:16:54.560 --> 0:16:57.520 because there's a million other things that you have to 0:16:57.560 --> 0:17:01.160 do just to survive. Have to pay bills, you have 0:17:01.200 --> 0:17:03.240 to open mail, you have to do all that shit 0:17:03.280 --> 0:17:05.600 that maybe you struggle with. And if you're not in 0:17:05.640 --> 0:17:08.680 a partnership or whatever where you've got a partner who's 0:17:08.680 --> 0:17:10.920 supporting you in that way or taking on the load 0:17:10.920 --> 0:17:13.840 of the stuff that you can't do. Life really fucking 0:17:13.840 --> 0:17:16.720 spins out of control, very totally. And I So what's 0:17:16.760 --> 0:17:19.720 hard with it, though, is that life is challenging for everyone. 0:17:20.359 --> 0:17:22.960 So a typical person could look at a neurodivergent person 0:17:22.960 --> 0:17:25.360 and go, well, my life's fucking hard, Like I don't 0:17:25.400 --> 0:17:28.120 find it easy looking after my kids or anything. It's 0:17:28.480 --> 0:17:29.040 but it is. 0:17:29.080 --> 0:17:34.400 It's like everything is times fucking a hundred. It's very 0:17:34.440 --> 0:17:38.959 hard to explain to a tipping a person the intensity 0:17:39.000 --> 0:17:44.000 of your brain, of your sensory overload of everything like that. 0:17:44.119 --> 0:17:45.720 Do you know what I mean? Like sometimes I watch 0:17:45.760 --> 0:17:47.320 Sam when we're in a crowd, and I'm like, you're 0:17:47.359 --> 0:17:50.120 not even flinching at this, or I'm gritting my teeth 0:17:50.160 --> 0:17:52.440 through it, Like there is so much of my life 0:17:52.480 --> 0:17:55.119 I've gritted my teeth through it, and I just feel 0:17:55.119 --> 0:17:57.280 like other people have done that as well. But then 0:17:57.320 --> 0:18:00.680 I realized with my diagnosis, I'm like, oh, don't do that. 0:18:00.680 --> 0:18:04.240 That's a lot harder for me than it is for 0:18:04.359 --> 0:18:07.680 somebody who isn't you know, divergent, but what. 0:18:07.720 --> 0:18:11.359 A perfect pairing. Oh, it can be when when you 0:18:11.400 --> 0:18:14.959 have people come together, it's like, you know, when they 0:18:15.000 --> 0:18:18.199 talk about outsourcing shit that you don't want to do 0:18:18.400 --> 0:18:22.359 or whatever. It's sort of like that, like in partnerships, 0:18:22.400 --> 0:18:25.160 in friendships, in everything, when people come together and they're 0:18:25.200 --> 0:18:29.080 all bringing their own specialty, Like, how magical that is 0:18:29.119 --> 0:18:31.760 as well? You know, yeah, absolutely, yeah. 0:18:31.960 --> 0:18:36.560 Anyway, let's just go back to the Kardashians because we 0:18:36.720 --> 0:18:39.000 cannot deny Chris Janna's face. 0:18:39.960 --> 0:18:43.840 I feel so conflicted about this. I was talking to 0:18:43.880 --> 0:18:47.000 my husband about it before, like, there is no denying. 0:18:47.080 --> 0:18:48.920 She looks fucking incredible. 0:18:49.080 --> 0:18:55.200 She looks phenomenal face transplant face trans It just looks 0:18:55.240 --> 0:18:58.600 like she's had Kim's face transplanted onto her face, Like 0:18:58.720 --> 0:19:02.159 her necks is smooth, anything, It's like she's had a 0:19:02.320 --> 0:19:06.879 whole body. It's like a whole body face left amazing. 0:19:07.200 --> 0:19:10.000 This is where I feel conflicted, because one side of 0:19:10.040 --> 0:19:13.240 me is like, should we even be talking about it. 0:19:13.240 --> 0:19:15.919 It's her face, it's her body. Let her do what 0:19:15.960 --> 0:19:18.800 she wants if it makes her feel better good. But 0:19:18.880 --> 0:19:21.919 the other side of me is like, like, I'm going 0:19:22.000 --> 0:19:25.239 to be forty six in a couple of weeks, and like, 0:19:25.359 --> 0:19:27.400 I don't even look at myself and think I look 0:19:27.480 --> 0:19:30.280 bad for my age. I think I look my age right. 0:19:30.359 --> 0:19:33.600 But I see that, and I feel the pressure like 0:19:33.640 --> 0:19:36.640 our hands down. Yeah, and young people. 0:19:36.400 --> 0:19:39.159 When they see that, whether it's girls or boys or whatever, 0:19:39.720 --> 0:19:45.199 it's like, then their expectation becomes, Oh, that's what beauty wants. Yeah, 0:19:45.320 --> 0:19:47.240 that's what I want to like, that's what I want 0:19:47.280 --> 0:19:49.600 to look for in a woman. I want a woman 0:19:49.600 --> 0:19:52.479 who looks like Kim or Chris or whatever. It's not 0:19:52.560 --> 0:19:55.000 fucking reality. And then what's gonna happen. We're all going 0:19:55.080 --> 0:19:56.760 to be getting face transplants. 0:19:57.760 --> 0:20:00.360 Like it is, isn't it? Because I can't have but 0:20:00.400 --> 0:20:03.680 and this is the conditioning of us. I can't help 0:20:03.720 --> 0:20:06.159 but look at her and think she looks better, and 0:20:06.200 --> 0:20:10.040 she looks good, like that's like Kylie Jennet too, like 0:20:10.800 --> 0:20:13.120 chalk and cheese between her face lift and not. That's 0:20:13.160 --> 0:20:17.960 why it's so fucked because you get confused yourself where 0:20:18.000 --> 0:20:20.200 you go. She looks amazing, but then it's like there's 0:20:20.240 --> 0:20:24.040 nothing natural about her, Like that's so unachievable unless you 0:20:24.040 --> 0:20:26.520 have a bucket load of work done it's like every 0:20:26.680 --> 0:20:30.600 second celebrity in Australia as well has had the ponytail 0:20:31.080 --> 0:20:34.760 face lift. Yeah, because if your eyebrows are really far 0:20:34.840 --> 0:20:37.160 from your eyes, that's not natural. 0:20:37.359 --> 0:20:37.880 Like I can't. 0:20:38.080 --> 0:20:40.360 Yes, I can spot it from a mile away now 0:20:40.359 --> 0:20:42.840 where like the tip of the end of the eyebrow 0:20:42.880 --> 0:20:45.280 goes up and the face like the eye I can 0:20:45.320 --> 0:20:47.639 see there's a pulling. There's a pulling and the eyebrows 0:20:47.720 --> 0:20:50.280 really far from the eye. Like I'm looking into our 0:20:50.320 --> 0:20:53.639 camera now and both of our eyebrows are not that 0:20:53.800 --> 0:20:54.880 far from our eyes. 0:20:55.680 --> 0:20:58.360 But then I because they hood as you get on my. 0:20:58.400 --> 0:21:03.160 Eyes though so much I can not because so many 0:21:03.200 --> 0:21:06.760 people everyone I look at is so fucking done. I 0:21:06.800 --> 0:21:08.919 can't help but go, oh my god, my eyelids, Like 0:21:09.040 --> 0:21:11.879 you can't see any of my eyelid when my eyes 0:21:11.880 --> 0:21:14.800 are open now, and my eyes feel like I'm drooping. 0:21:14.840 --> 0:21:16.640 So in the back of my mind, I'm like, one day, 0:21:16.640 --> 0:21:19.480 will I do that I lid cut and will I 0:21:19.520 --> 0:21:23.959 do a pony towel, Like I'm so scared of having 0:21:24.640 --> 0:21:27.600 work done. But at the same time, because that is 0:21:27.640 --> 0:21:29.919 our standard of beauty now, I do look at my 0:21:29.960 --> 0:21:32.360 face and go maybe I should do that. 0:21:32.560 --> 0:21:34.879 I know, and you're caught between. If it makes me 0:21:34.920 --> 0:21:38.879 feel better about myself, what's the problem. But then the 0:21:38.920 --> 0:21:41.560 other side is like I want to scream at everyone stops. 0:21:42.800 --> 0:21:47.560 You're making us all feel shit. We're looking at ourselves differently, 0:21:47.560 --> 0:21:49.240 and like my husband would say to me, but you're 0:21:49.400 --> 0:21:51.760 letting that happen. You're letting. But I'm like, when you 0:21:51.800 --> 0:21:55.359 are looking at yourself in a camera constantly, right, it's 0:21:55.440 --> 0:21:58.159 so hard. And I've edited all this footage, right, so 0:21:58.280 --> 0:22:00.600 I'm looking at my face all the time, and I'm 0:22:00.640 --> 0:22:04.399 looking and going, fuck that line there, Fuck, I've aged. 0:22:04.440 --> 0:22:07.240