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Speaker 1: This is the Fitting In with Her with Kate Richie podcast.

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Speaker 1: I'm going to say something very very simple here. Did

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Speaker 1: you have a worse waken than this guy?

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Speaker 2: I don't know.

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Speaker 3: There's something that I need to tell you. And I said,

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Speaker 3: is it bad? And she said yes? And I said,

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Speaker 3: is that about the marriage? And she said yes. And

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Speaker 3: we got home and I said, what's happened? And she said,

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Speaker 3: I've been having an affair with a man from work.

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Speaker 3: And then she said, and that's not all. I'm pregnant

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Speaker 3: with this child.

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Speaker 2: Yep.

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Speaker 3: And in that moment, I felt like I lost a lot,

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Speaker 3: you know, I'd lost my wife life. We created the dog,

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Speaker 3: our home, her apparents, a lot of her family, everything

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Speaker 3: that really held dear. If someone said what makes a

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Speaker 3: meaningful life? Just came crumbling down like a house of cards.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, I saw this too. We must have

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Speaker 2: a We must have the same sort of the algorithm.

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Speaker 4: You guys are sick.

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Speaker 1: I always think what would Chrissy be interested in this weekend?

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Speaker 1: And then I searched for it, and I find things

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Speaker 1: like that.

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Speaker 2: Oh it was so so lovely.

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Speaker 1: Because he paints the picture I'm standing there in the

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Speaker 1: kitchen and then he says, tell me, I know, and what.

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Speaker 2: You've edited out there, it's what they've edited out is

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Speaker 2: he said. They were in the car when she said

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Speaker 2: I've got to tell you something, and he went to

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Speaker 2: like put his hand on her leg, you know, a couple,

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Speaker 2: and she said, no, don't don't do that because when

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Speaker 2: I tell you what I've got to tell you, you

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Speaker 2: won't want to be nice to me. Oh so heartbreaking.

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Speaker 1: Ten if this has happened to you, like talk about

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Speaker 1: a double banger, Like you're there and you find out

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Speaker 1: and your wife or your girlfriend or maybe it's vice versa,

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Speaker 1: and then they say, I'm sorry, I've been seeing somebody else,

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Speaker 1: and you crushed in that moment. Right, So there's a

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Speaker 1: sledgehammer to the head.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but that's salvageable. Yeah, you can can work on that.

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Speaker 1: We can work through that. You've stuffed up and this

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Speaker 1: is going to take some time, but we can wrap

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Speaker 1: a bandage around it and see if we can heal that.

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Speaker 1: But then the sledgehammer comes from over the shoulder and

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Speaker 1: hits you in the chest with by the way.

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Speaker 4: I praignant, Okay, can I add one more to that?

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Speaker 4: And then even worse story that you've got daughters, yourself

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Speaker 4: and your Dave Grohl, and you're sitting down in front

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Speaker 4: of your family confession, so telling your wife and your

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Speaker 4: daughters that I have had an affair and I am

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Speaker 4: going to be the father of You've.

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Speaker 1: Swung the sledge.

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Speaker 2: Girls and girls. While we're at it, please meet Warren.

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Speaker 2: He's my crisis manager.

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Speaker 1: Any questions, Warren, could you speak to the girls and

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Speaker 1: check if they need any further care?

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Speaker 4: And you'll be meeting money. But someone would have gone

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Speaker 4: through this over the weekend. You are right, it's not fun.

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Speaker 4: We shouldn't be laughing. No, it's do.

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Speaker 1: You know I kind of hope in that situation that

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Speaker 1: they don't have kids together, and I don't think they

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Speaker 1: do because they seem like he isn't a couple. So

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Speaker 1: there was a chance for a clean cut there, as

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Speaker 1: brutal as it is, let's make sure the blade is

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Speaker 1: sharp so that he can go his own way and

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Speaker 1: the chance of having a non connected life after that

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Speaker 1: is possible.

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Speaker 2: Oh, that's very business y of you, or you have

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Speaker 2: to honest thing about this story is that all his

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Speaker 2: hopes and dreams have just dissolved in.

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Speaker 1: One Although Swanny did he put it on social media

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Speaker 1: just so people could go, well, tell you what I mean.

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Speaker 1: I feel for him, but he's also handsome.

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Speaker 2: Lee is a movement on cynical.

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Speaker 1: Oh you don't know. I mean he's played this might

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Speaker 1: happen six months ago, and his play now was telling

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Speaker 1: an emotional story to try and bag my next girl.

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Speaker 1: We don't.

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Speaker 2: The comments underneath are like, well her loss, you sing

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Speaker 2: like a.

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Speaker 1: Very lovel of mar The handsome guy fits beautiful hair

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Speaker 1: in a nice t. He looked like a doctor. He

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Speaker 1: looked like a young doctor.

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Speaker 4: He's swimming in it right now. He's probably got three

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Speaker 4: ladies in his dapoozy as we speak.

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Speaker 1: And.

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Speaker 4: We're crying over him right now, and he's just ordered

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Speaker 4: another lady.

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Speaker 3: He's turned his house into the playboy mansion.

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Speaker 1: Maybe it's Fanny. There's a miracle story out there where

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Speaker 1: you actually made it work, or there was a twist

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Speaker 1: or a turn of how you moved on?

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Speaker 3: How do you?

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Speaker 2: Yes? Every every breakup, as agonizing as they are at

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Speaker 2: the time, they always end up being the best thing.

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Speaker 2: But it's really hard to see it in that moment.

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Speaker 1: Sometimes you've got to swim through the sewerage. We've all

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Speaker 1: been there, hann It's day.

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Speaker 2: Really, you really can't be serious. I am being serious.

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Speaker 1: Sometimes it stinks, but the future can be dead inside.

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Speaker 3: He's totally dead.

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