Speaker 1: How little sweeth hurts. You are the sweetest of hurts.
Speaker 1: We love you. It's mouth, it's MONTI woo hi everyone.
Speaker 2: You know what I just realized. I'm looking at myself
Speaker 2: in the monitor here. You know, people talk about having
Speaker 2: like eyebrow blindness or whatever. I think I've got blush blindness.
Speaker 2: So much fucking blush.
Speaker 1: On I think, nah, I don't have it. Don't, No,
Speaker 1: you haven't. You look great from here. But also, blush
Speaker 1: is just one of those things. This is just yes,
Speaker 1: central life. It's essentially like I don't have any on today.
Speaker 1: Might just pinch me cheese.
Speaker 2: You know what you can do literally when you put
Speaker 2: your lipstick on, just put a little bit on your
Speaker 2: cheeks of lipstick. Yes, wow, yeah, blinded in is that
Speaker 2: what you do? No?
Speaker 1: Yeah, well, don't tell me to do something so stupid.
Speaker 2: But if I was in a pinch, I would I've
Speaker 2: just got seven thousand blushes.
Speaker 1: Yeah, makeup kid, I bet it's like a full makeup artists.
Speaker 2: Mark sent me this thing on Instagram the other day.
Speaker 2: It was like this, you know, like pouch that you
Speaker 2: put makeup in. It's a drawstring and he goes, you
Speaker 2: need something like this, But like a tent and that's
Speaker 2: very true.
Speaker 1: Oh wow, you would die if you shaw on mine.
Speaker 1: I've got like one mescaa, one blush, one red lip.
Speaker 2: We've all got our things.
Speaker 1: I've got a black eyowana two. Yeah, what's my thing?
Speaker 1: What is what? You know? How everyone's got to think
Speaker 1: yours is makeup?
Speaker 2: You've always hearties as your thing?
Speaker 1: That is so fucked?
Speaker 2: Why is that?
Speaker 1: Fuck?
Speaker 2: That's more fucked than makeup.
Speaker 1: But I feel like makeup's a real hobby in it,
Speaker 1: like a real passion. I don't have a passion anyway,
Speaker 1: get fun. Hey, So I filled up with petrol the
Speaker 1: other day, literally my least favorite job in the whole
Speaker 1: wide world. My hand feels heavy after I've filled that
Speaker 1: with petrol. Does that make sense to you? Yeah?
Speaker 2: It does.
Speaker 1: Like I feel like there's that many germs on my hand.
Speaker 2: It feels heavy and I can't so disgusting.
Speaker 1: And then when I touched the steering wheel again, I'm like,
Speaker 1: now this is contaminated. I should just keep I should
Speaker 1: keep some of the pumpy hand wash stuff in my car,
Speaker 1: but I don't. Yes, But I went in and I
Speaker 1: bought two things with my petrol, and I felt really
Speaker 1: like it's it grows to do.
Speaker 2: What could I think of at a petrol station that
Speaker 2: you would buy I'm speaking of like two king sized
Speaker 2: Mars bars four dollars, Like that's what I think of
Speaker 2: it a petrol station.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yes, well I did two chumps. I got not one,
Speaker 1: but two. Best I know, we've discussed this before. It
Speaker 1: is such a fantastic chocolate, so underratedle you do need
Speaker 1: more than one because they're too thin. But something about
Speaker 1: buying chocolates from the servo is really depressing, and then
Speaker 1: getting into your car by yourself and just unwrapping it,
Speaker 1: meaning it's embarrassing for no reason. But it also just
Speaker 1: is like, oh, it's like driving through the drive through
Speaker 1: of Macas by yourself and ordering a fan to like
Speaker 1: it's just.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I mean it could be worse. You could
Speaker 2: be buying sunglasses from the servo.
Speaker 1: True, but no, it wasn't that. It was two chumps,
Speaker 1: and I just remember going, I feel a bit embarrassed
Speaker 1: walking out with these two chumps in my hands.
Speaker 2: But just two of the same thing too. Yeah, nothing
Speaker 2: else took your fancy.
Speaker 1: No, I was thinking of a curly whirly Ah.
Speaker 2: Jesus, we you know what would actually be a perfect pairing.
Speaker 1: Because we would well, I wouldn't want you would want like.
Speaker 2: I'd want the Snickers. I'd go as Snickers. Would you absolutely?
Speaker 1: Or you'd go old gold?
Speaker 2: Oh no, I mean like no, probably not. If we're
Speaker 2: thinking about chocolate bars, I'd go as Snickers. I think
Speaker 2: we've talked about this before. I don't mind a bounty.
Speaker 1: Bounty is good. They're too little, although obviously a chump's little,
Speaker 1: but I feel like because they've cut them into two
Speaker 1: bite sized pieces, the bounty, it's not one bar.
Speaker 2: It's too Yeah, that's true. KitKat is always good, kick cat.
Speaker 2: My thing is it has to be in the fridge.
Speaker 2: I do like the KitKat chunky, Yeah, because it has
Speaker 2: more chocolate.
Speaker 1: It's got more mph to it, doesn't it. Yes, chocolate's
Speaker 1: so good.
Speaker 2: That is an exciting part of thinking about going on
Speaker 2: a road trip, stopping at the servo and just stocking
Speaker 2: up on overpriced yes snacks.
Speaker 1: Oh yes, you all love a snack. Yeah, I love
Speaker 1: a snack too. Do I always get caught when they're like,
Speaker 1: so the petrol? That petrol comes to that? Now, did
Speaker 1: you want to get two bags of chips? Because the
Speaker 1: discount will make them free. And I always was like, yeah, okay.
Speaker 1: So then I take the two bags of chips and
Speaker 1: I'm like, I don't get how they were free if
Speaker 1: I was. Do you know when they say things.
Speaker 2: Like that, I know the petrel was seven thousand dollars,
Speaker 2: what's an extra six bucks?
Speaker 1: Yeah, but if you get these two packets of chips,
Speaker 1: you'll get six dollars your six cents off lee each leavetail,
Speaker 1: which makes them free. It's like they just convolute a moment.
Speaker 1: It's too much for my brain. And then I'm like,
Speaker 1: oh free. Oh wy.
Speaker 2: It's like they just stunned people. People like oh okay.
Speaker 1: Yeah totally. I'm standing there with my heavy hand and
Speaker 1: I just want to get the fuck out of there.
Speaker 1: If I can take some free chips, I will.
Speaker 2: You know where I get stuck when I go to
Speaker 2: like cotton on or something. You know, how many are
Speaker 2: those I have? Would you like to donate to the
Speaker 2: Cotton Foundation and you know, a five dollar bag or whatever?
Speaker 2: And I'm like, well, I've got seven hundred at home,
Speaker 2: but fuck, I'm gonna look like an asshole if I don't,
Speaker 2: because I've just dumped three hundred bucks.
Speaker 1: So Okay, I know I get annoyed. I get really
Speaker 1: annoyed when they do that. And when they try and
Speaker 1: sell you a bag, it's annoying, yeah, the boler order.
Speaker 1: But also a bag in a retail shop is essential.
Speaker 1: So what with all of this stuff? If I don't
Speaker 1: buy a bag off you, I'm just walking it out
Speaker 1: with it all in my hands. So you've snooked me.
Speaker 1: I have to get a bag. I don't want buying
Speaker 1: your bags. And you make enough money you can give
Speaker 1: that donation out of the money out of all this
Speaker 1: shit I bought.
Speaker 2: But think of how much stuff you can buy it
Speaker 2: cotton on for like three hundred bucks.
Speaker 1: All right.
Speaker 2: Imagine you just said, now that's okay, I don't need
Speaker 2: a bag, and you're just walking through like a flat
Speaker 2: shopping center with an arm full looks, and you keep
Speaker 2: dropping shit you.
Speaker 1: And then you got to bend down and pick it
Speaker 1: all up. Or then a nice lady will walk past
Speaker 1: me and go, I'll get that for you, and she
Speaker 1: chucks it on top of your pile.
Speaker 2: That's funny. You know what I do when I'm in
Speaker 2: like Priceline or chemist warehouse or something, and I always
Speaker 2: say to myself I'm not going to get a basket. Oh,
Speaker 2: because if I get a basket it's dangerous.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: But they spot me, like from a mile away that
Speaker 2: I've got like seven hundred things in my hand, and
Speaker 2: I'm like, this is my strategy because I don't like,
Speaker 2: there's only so much I can carry. And they come
Speaker 2: and they say, here's a basket, and then I feel
Speaker 2: like a bitch, and I'm like, oh, thanks. And then
Speaker 2: I explained the whole strategy to them and they're like,
Speaker 2: we don't give a shit, just keep buying. Oh god,
Speaker 2: first world problems.
Speaker 1: It's so good, but don't do not give me the
Speaker 1: option to buy a bag. Now, how's your meditation going down?
Speaker 2: Oh god, I tried the other day to do this.
Speaker 2: I think you mentioned to me Yoga Nidra.
Speaker 1: Yeah, the Yoga Nra app. It's really good.
Speaker 2: Okay, Well I didn't do the app. I just put
Speaker 2: into YouTube Yoga Nidra. I thought it was actually like
Speaker 2: a movement thing, but it was a meditation.
Speaker 1: It's a meditation. Yeah. When you hear yogi, you think, oh,
Speaker 1: I don't yes, No, it's just literally laying there and
Speaker 1: going through different parts of your body to relax.
Speaker 2: Them yes, so I started doing it. I also did it,
Speaker 2: which is probably wrong, but I did it in this
Speaker 2: position that I heard was good for stress relief or whatever,
Speaker 2: Like when I was laying on my back and I
Speaker 2: had my legs up against the wall.
Speaker 1: I've heard that that's really good. When I used to
Speaker 1: do yoga, this lady used to. This lady used to
Speaker 1: come to my house to do yoga, and I know
Speaker 1: that sounds really fancy. I was employed at the time,
Speaker 1: so I had a bit of extra cash, but it
Speaker 1: was fifty bucks, and I'm like, she comes to my house,
Speaker 1: she does an hour with me, and she would always say,
Speaker 1: end your day with your legs up on the wall. Anyway,
Speaker 1: then I'd had enough of her and I didn't want
Speaker 1: to have her anymore because it just was like, Oh,
Speaker 1: I don't really this is not really for me. And
Speaker 1: it was like it took her three years to get it.
Speaker 1: She would just like every six months randomly call and
Speaker 1: I'd be like, what the fuck are you calling. It
Speaker 1: was so weird. I can't express how weird it was.
Speaker 1: It was just like when didn't have a thing. We're
Speaker 1: not friends. You came to my house, but I paid
Speaker 1: you for a service. Why are you calling me? I
Speaker 1: just was shocked every.
Speaker 2: Time, and you wouldn't have even been able to have
Speaker 2: said to her, oh, no, sorry, I can't do it.
Speaker 2: We can't afford it, because she would have been like
Speaker 2: the fucking radio, of course she can afford it. I've
Speaker 2: been to your house, I've seen what you live. Yeah, seriously. Well,
Speaker 2: so I tried to do it, and I was at
Speaker 2: the beginning I sort of thought to myself, as you said,
Speaker 2: when they go through the parts of the body, I
Speaker 2: was sort of like thinking to myself, Wow, how amazing
Speaker 2: that you don't actually think. We don't pay attention to
Speaker 2: any of that stuff. So when she's saying, you know,
Speaker 2: feel the whatever on the side of your mouth or whatever,
Speaker 2: and I'm like, oh, fuck, I can fit here on
Speaker 2: the side of my mouth. That's amazing because who's thinking
Speaker 2: about it?
Speaker 1: And right.
Speaker 2: I just was like the more I was trying to
Speaker 2: get into it, the more in my head I was
Speaker 2: just thinking, you are wasting time. Ah, you have And
Speaker 2: then in my head I started, oh, and you've got
Speaker 2: this to do, You've got that to do. Even though
Speaker 2: it was twenty minutes, yes, and rationally I knew this
Speaker 2: is twenty minutes. You're going to feel better afterwards. You
Speaker 2: have to take this time for yourself. Once I started
Speaker 2: to spin, that was it. The anxiety was in the
Speaker 2: feet came down, and then it was and then it
Speaker 2: was like, for fuck's sake, this is fucking bullshit. I
Speaker 2: can't even fucking do this.
Speaker 1: This is fucked.
Speaker 2: So calm and serene at the end of it.
Speaker 1: So you haven't tried it again, Maybe start with less.
Speaker 1: Don't do twenty minutes, do five, and then you know
Speaker 1: it's ten time. Yeah, I know, twenty minutes is a
Speaker 1: long time to try. If you're a virgin meditating, to
Speaker 1: sit there and do it. Do five minute ones.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I know.
Speaker 1: Meditation Mountain is what I'm listening to. Except the voices
Speaker 1: can really give you the shits. But they've got all
Speaker 1: different ones. It's just on spoty side.
Speaker 2: Crucial voices are crucial.
Speaker 1: I know, I never want a guy. I don't want
Speaker 1: a guy doing meditation for me.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, no, I don't think so. You don't know,
Speaker 2: you don't understand.
Speaker 1: You're a what fucking middle aged man? You're a few
Speaker 1: God's gift, you ashole.
Speaker 2: You've had it so easy.
Speaker 1: I'm here, I'm very even metapausal. The children are out
Speaker 1: there killing each other. Don't fucking hate him so much,
Speaker 1: so don't put his voice on. But just still go
Speaker 1: on to like one of the music apps and putting
Speaker 1: meditation Mountain and it'll have ten minute stress relief, ten
Speaker 1: minutes to help you sleep. Five minute affirmation. Try those ones.
Speaker 1: Yeah I know you affirmation, Oh yeah, you know. Don't
Speaker 1: do the affirmation one. I am beautiful.
Speaker 2: You know what I want you to try. I want
Speaker 2: you to try that.
Speaker 1: I'm not an just for.
Speaker 2: A couple of days, just for it once, just do it.
Speaker 1: And no I can't. I'm embarrassed in front of myself.
Speaker 2: Tell you what's strange about it. I used to do
Speaker 2: this a lot when I was a kid. There's something
Speaker 2: about looking at yourself in the mirror, and like I
Speaker 2: talked to myself a lot, just you know, like as
Speaker 2: normal people would. Ah fuck this.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I was going to say, probably really lovely stuff
Speaker 1: when you're looking at yourself.
Speaker 2: But if I consciously look at myself in the mirror
Speaker 2: and I say something, I get this weird sense that
Speaker 2: my body and my mind are very detached.
Speaker 1: Yes, they're separate to each other.
Speaker 2: And it freaks me out. Because I'm like, oh my god,
Speaker 2: hang on a minute, I'm like this. When I was
Speaker 2: a kid, I used to explain it, like remember teenage
Speaker 2: Mutant Ninja Turtles the cartoon and there was Krang that
Speaker 2: was like the brain inside this big robot body. Okay,
Speaker 2: that's what I was like. I said, I feel like
Speaker 2: a brain inside this thing. Yes, which is me? My
Speaker 2: physical fear? Yes, my vehicle, my temple. As I just
Speaker 2: finished a Crispy Kreme donut yuck. Why yeah, Christy krispy
Speaker 2: Kreme so shit. Donut was always so much better than
Speaker 2: krispy Kreme. Krispy kremer overrated, definitely. But you know what
Speaker 2: sort of donut I love? Like just the old school
Speaker 2: bakery chocolate with sprinkles.
Speaker 1: Oh, same, They're so good.
Speaker 2: I love those.
Speaker 1: I love those. You know what I used to love though,
Speaker 1: from Dunkin Donut was the little human shaped ones. Maybe
Speaker 1: you're talking about Donut King yep, that one, sorry, not
Speaker 1: Dunkin Donut. Yeah, and with the little human and there
Speaker 1: they were fucking huge. If Mum brought one of them
Speaker 1: for school, it was like, what, this is amazing?
Speaker 2: You know, obviously maybe this is a Cozy Lives thing.
Speaker 2: But I did get my kids something at the shops
Speaker 2: from Donut King the other day, and I was quite
Speaker 2: fucking when they told me how much it cost. I
Speaker 2: was like, yeah, you can't be doing that daily. I
Speaker 2: don't know, like ten bucks for like seven little donut
Speaker 2: holes or something.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, the the holes are nice though not yeah,
Speaker 1: like the balls were there, punched out the hole.
Speaker 2: Love the bulls fucking balls. It's unattractive body.
Speaker 1: It isn't it hideous? Otis like because he's three and
Speaker 1: a half, is naked all the time, like all of
Speaker 1: my boys used to just be naked NonStop. But the
Speaker 1: amount like so he'll just be laying on the couch
Speaker 1: with his ass in the air so you can see
Speaker 1: his full asshole. And then just these mini balls all
Speaker 1: the time. I just see these mini balls.
Speaker 2: You're constantly full balls all the time.
Speaker 1: I have so many balls in my life, it's crazy.
Speaker 1: I'm surrounded by balls, eight eight balls, State balls. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but just the freedom in Odie just I'm just like,
Speaker 1: you could care less that your asshole is literally three
Speaker 1: centimeters from my face. Like imagine Roles reversed and Sam
Speaker 1: sitting on.
Speaker 2: The cash my.
Speaker 1: Asshole, Like just seeing anyone's asshole is so crook.
Speaker 2: I wonder where they where they got that from, seeing
Speaker 2: as I remember someone sunning their asshole film it too,
Speaker 2: and I know I've got a photo of it. Not
Speaker 2: your asshole, I got it from you know, the angle,
Speaker 2: not facing your ass but hiss down, legs up in, yeah.
Speaker 1: Legs a kimbo. Because well, I said, we'll all try
Speaker 1: it out again, because I just am so committed to
Speaker 1: the art went into this podcast. But who was it
Speaker 1: somebody was saying the best way to get vitamin d's
Speaker 1: through your through your ring hole. So I'm all right,
Speaker 1: I'll try it. And I went out there legs up
Speaker 1: in like a big yoga pose with my I felt
Speaker 1: very vulnerable because you and Stacy's sitting there laughing.
Speaker 2: And I've said this before, but fuck, it's funny. I
Speaker 2: remember when we had the site and we used to write,
Speaker 2: you know, and the new articles would come up. So
Speaker 2: the first three new articles.
Speaker 1: Of the this if you're relatively new, we had a
Speaker 1: full website called showantwe It was like a last our website.
Speaker 2: And then people stopped reading, so that went down.
Speaker 1: People stopped reading. I guess we stopped writing.
Speaker 2: But Stace was saying how her husband, Mike, who works
Speaker 2: in finance or something like smart, yes, proper job. He
Speaker 2: had clients over or something and they were asking about
Speaker 2: what Stacey did to get this website, and he clicked
Speaker 2: onto it and the first article that came up is
Speaker 2: like people are sunning their assholes, Like that's the Greatest's best.
Speaker 1: Friend sunning her ass whole on that photo. So anyway
Speaker 1: you're going to invest with this or not?
Speaker 2: Speaking of couples, I don't know if this is new
Speaker 2: or not, but I came across it on my Instagram
Speaker 2: and I just thought it was interesting to discuss. So,
Speaker 2: you know, Jason Statham, he's that actor who's a bit
Speaker 2: of a I don't know, like a fast and the
Speaker 2: furious sort of guy, like an action movie mab Yeah,
Speaker 2: with her Rosy Huntington Whitley, who is that angel Victoria's
Speaker 2: secret angel. Yeah, you know, massive lips, beautiful, stunny, and
Speaker 2: he's quite a bit shorter than her and bald, yes,
Speaker 2: and you know, like hot in a manly way like
Speaker 2: that sort of you know, he'd throw you around me. Yeah. Anyway,
Speaker 2: significantly older than her too. I never realized he is
Speaker 2: in his fifties. And she's in her thirties.
Speaker 1: I think, no, she's not that young. Sure they're not.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I reckon, she's in her late thirties.
Speaker 1: Don't worry, don't google it. I don't care.
Speaker 2: Now I need to know.
Speaker 1: Okay, we'll google it.
Speaker 2: Then I'm putting a note. Well, while i'm talking, you
Speaker 2: google it.
Speaker 1: Okay, Well are you going to talk to then? No
Speaker 1: one's going to talk back to you.
Speaker 2: If I can listen in Google, you can listen to
Speaker 2: Google anyway. So this clip was he'd come out with
Speaker 2: these seven relationship rules.
Speaker 1: He did.
Speaker 2: Yes, these seven relationship rules that he thinks are vital
Speaker 2: to a good relationship.
Speaker 1: What's her name again? Sorry, I'm still googling.
Speaker 2: Rosie Huntington Whitely.
Speaker 1: Okay, thirty seven? Fuck?
Speaker 2: He continue love being right, I know you do.
Speaker 1: That's right Google.
Speaker 2: Okay. So I'm going to run through them. Number One,
Speaker 2: date night once a week. Who the fuck has time
Speaker 2: for that?
Speaker 1: Well, if you'll filthy rich and you've got a heap
Speaker 1: of bloody nannies, and also your kids are okay with
Speaker 1: you leaving them? Week, Sam and I go out for
Speaker 1: like an hour for a coffee and get sixteen text
Speaker 1: messages from Backswhenny home when he home, when he home,
Speaker 1: it's like, oh my god, yes, but okay, whatever, how
Speaker 1: many times have you had intentions to do it?
Speaker 2: Though?
Speaker 1: Sam and I riterally around twenty however, many years together
Speaker 1: and being like, right, we've got to start doing date
Speaker 1: my night more often than that, even if we just
Speaker 1: go for a walk together.
Speaker 2: I think it's important to spend time together. Oh without
Speaker 2: it essential, but it's essential. But it's all so difficult,
Speaker 2: so hard, you know. So there's that. Then number two
Speaker 2: is straight talking even when it hurts. Now, like, yes,
Speaker 2: for the big things to a certain extent, but also,
Speaker 2: where's that line there? Yeah, do you say your partner, look,
Speaker 2: you're beefing up a bit. I think it's time to
Speaker 2: cut down on the crispy creams. I don't know about that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it is a fine line. Or also say Sam,
Speaker 1: I can tell he's feeling himself in an outfit and
Speaker 1: I think it looks shit. I'm not going to go that.
Speaker 2: Take the top off, this is the thing because it's offensive. Yes, okay,
Speaker 2: never go to bed on an argument. I don't even
Speaker 2: understand this concept. Oh my god, if you've had words
Speaker 2: right and you're mad, it almost feels like disingenuous to go, oh,
Speaker 2: you know what, that's by the bye, sweetheart, good night,
Speaker 2: love you. If you're angry, you're angry, and I think
Speaker 2: you're allowed to be angry.
Speaker 1: Of course, you're allowed to be angry, of course, But
Speaker 1: to be honest, I reckon, I can count on one
Speaker 1: hand how many times Sam and I've gone to bed
Speaker 1: angry with each other.
Speaker 2: I reckon, I can count on one hand how many
Speaker 2: times you haven't gone to No, that's that's exactly. But
Speaker 2: I do sort of think you should be allowed to
Speaker 2: be angry sometimes. And the concept of because He's like,
Speaker 2: you know, we never know how much time we've gotten
Speaker 2: what if something happens during the night, And I get that,
Speaker 2: but I'm also very solid in the fact that the
Speaker 2: people I love know it. So if Mark and I
Speaker 2: had an argument and I'm like, you know what, fuck you,
Speaker 2: good night, that's like if I died during the night,
Speaker 2: I don't think he's gonna wake up in the morning
Speaker 2: and go, oh, we had an argument last night, and.
Speaker 1: She'd be the nicest way to like have things ended.
Speaker 1: But I also like the reason. I know one of
Speaker 1: the main reasons Sam and I would always nut things
Speaker 1: out before we go to sleep. Is because sleep is
Speaker 1: so important to us, and you don't get a good
Speaker 1: night sleep if you're angry like that'll be literally more
Speaker 1: so than us trying to It'd be like, fuck, we
Speaker 1: go to bed like this, that's it. Neither of us
Speaker 1: are going to sleep, so let's just get it over
Speaker 1: and done with. Yes, get to the bottom of it.
Speaker 2: Conversely, you'll be a plate anyway, because then how are
Speaker 2: you going to bring up all that stuff from two
Speaker 2: thousand and one? Still?
Speaker 1: Fuck, you'd be such a nightmare to be married to.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, you know what the thing is, we're
Speaker 2: both fiery.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's the hard thing with you and Mike C.
Speaker 1: Sam Sorry, not Mike Mark.
Speaker 2: No, Mike Mark.
Speaker 1: Mike's changeable. That's the thing is I'm fiery. Sam's not
Speaker 1: so there, and you look psychotic when you're fiery against
Speaker 1: somebody who's not getting worked up.
Speaker 2: Maybe when someone is calm and you're angry.
Speaker 1: Oh, I feel like I am, like you're manipulating me
Speaker 1: and also like pay yourself though I think people like
Speaker 1: that can't.
Speaker 2: Like you say, you're fiery, right, but not to the
Speaker 2: extent that I would be. No, I think you're a
Speaker 2: bit more. You can contain yourself a bit more, and
Speaker 2: maybe that is something that comes with having a partner
Speaker 2: who's calmer. Yes, right, But I'm like, if I married Sam,
Speaker 2: it would never work because he'd be so hurt by
Speaker 2: this I am and I think deal, it's the way
Speaker 2: he would be.
Speaker 1: Like I have literally I can remember the one time
Speaker 1: in my life I said to Sam to shut up.
Speaker 2: I just oh my god. Okay, So well, this is
Speaker 2: going on to the next point. Never raise your voice
Speaker 2: in an argument. I do Again, I do not understand
Speaker 2: this concept, Like what do you do? Like, I don't
Speaker 2: know when you're angry. I'm like, that's part of being angry.
Speaker 1: It's just let it Sometimes you've really got to let
Speaker 1: it out. But again, if the person that you're letting
Speaker 1: it out at is like, why are you yelling? Why
Speaker 1: can't we just talk about this? Oh?
Speaker 2: Fuck you?
Speaker 1: You and Sam would last two seconds.
Speaker 2: Oh my god. Okay, So this next one I actually
Speaker 2: think is a problem. Never disagree in public. Hmm, he says,
Speaker 2: disagree private, but have a united front when you're in public.
Speaker 2: That is toxic to me.
Speaker 1: It is although there is nothing worse being out with
Speaker 1: a couple that just do not stop niggling at each other.
Speaker 2: Well, this is the thing that I was thinking of,
Speaker 2: because I interpret that as if my partner is sitting there,
Speaker 2: if Mark's sitting there and we're out for dinner with
Speaker 2: friends and Mark says, you know what, I think Trump's
Speaker 2: actually got a really valid point with not allowing abortions, right.
Speaker 2: I take it like that, Like I could not sit
Speaker 2: there and go, yes, honey, I agree. Oh no, I
Speaker 2: would be like, are you fucking joking?
Speaker 1: Totally. I have a feeling that he's meaning more what
Speaker 1: I'm saying in terms, don't argue, don't argue, don't take
Speaker 1: your shit in front of other people.
Speaker 2: I agree with that, we have it.
Speaker 1: I hate it, though, when you're with a couple, like
Speaker 1: we've got mates that just at each other all the time,
Speaker 1: and it's passive, a great and I'm like, this is
Speaker 1: so uncomfortable and it's so tedious listening to you to
Speaker 1: just on about the littlest thing. You know clearly you're
Speaker 1: not okay, but now you've bought it out here and
Speaker 1: just fake it because I don't want to hear you shit. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I hate when couples are mean to each other. In
Speaker 1: front of other people.
Speaker 2: I hate it. I agree. And the thing that I
Speaker 2: find like with us, if we're out with people and
Speaker 2: we're having fun, if we sort of say something to
Speaker 2: each other, it's almost licensed to say it, but in
Speaker 2: a fun way where we laugh, where it's almost like
Speaker 2: I have a dig at him and it's funny. Writ
Speaker 2: and he does the same meat. It's not like at
Speaker 2: home bickering sort of thing. It's more of, you know,
Speaker 2: like you've got more you can have more fun with
Speaker 2: it if you disagree with something in front of people
Speaker 2: and then it becomes a joke and you might laugh
Speaker 2: or whatever.
Speaker 1: Yeah, unless it's too passive, people can hear the passive aggressiveness.
Speaker 2: No, I'm not passive aggressive. I'm just AGGRESSIM so visible
Speaker 2: like it. Honestly, I'll give myself credit words to you.
Speaker 2: He's also written again, I disagree with always say I
Speaker 2: love you every day.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: To me, it's not like we don't say I love you.
Speaker 2: But if that's your rule, you have to say I
Speaker 2: love you every day, it's like an obligation. We don't
Speaker 2: say it every day. The times we do say it,
Speaker 2: I'm like, oh that's nice. Yeah, I know. He loves me.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and he means to be in every that. Like
Speaker 1: I think saying it every day is unnecessary. Showing it
Speaker 1: in some way is probably more on too point than
Speaker 1: saying it. But yeah, it's like I haven't said it today,
Speaker 1: better say it just becomes like I just did a fart.
Speaker 1: I love you, I know, like it's just a.
Speaker 2: New I see this listen. I'm like, I wonder if
Speaker 2: he came up with that in consultation with Rosie or Yeah,
Speaker 2: it's just this thing like when you hear I don't know,
Speaker 2: like a guy going, oh, these are my seven rules,
Speaker 2: and it's like, did you enter into this relationship and
Speaker 2: you're just sort of dictating how it's going to be.
Speaker 2: Maybe it's not like that. I don't know, but I
Speaker 2: just I'm like everyone's relationship is different and people work
Speaker 2: in different ways, so.
Speaker 1: You absolutely and will we literally never know what people's
Speaker 1: relationships like. You just can't like how well do you
Speaker 1: and I know each other? But you don't know what
Speaker 1: it's really like with Sam and I, and I don't
Speaker 1: know what it's really like with you and Mark, Like
Speaker 1: no one can really know.
Speaker 2: No exactly exactly. So it's just I guess whatever works
Speaker 2: for you totally. But yeah that I'm like, how hard
Speaker 2: it would be coming together with somebody where you are
Speaker 2: fundamentally very different or you're raised in homes that are
Speaker 2: so different different.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it did take a lot of adjusting for me
Speaker 1: with Sam because my previous boyfriend was fiery, so both
Speaker 1: of us would fin we'd fight, you know where. With Sam,
Speaker 1: I remember at the start going, oh my god, he
Speaker 1: just doesn't yell and he doesn't get so I had
Speaker 1: to try and alter, still being able to express myself,
Speaker 1: but not in the way that he's being really just
Speaker 1: loud and aggressive. Yeah, yeah, anyway, anyways.
Speaker 2: Let us know what you think. Yeah, let us know
Speaker 2: what do you tell your partner to fuck off all
Speaker 2: the time?
Speaker 1: Are you aggressive or passive? Aggressive? Thank you for listening everyone.
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