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Speaker 1: I'll get at Welcome to another installment of the show.

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Speaker 1: Today's a little bit different. So what I want to

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Speaker 1: do is I want to share some basic questions that

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Speaker 1: are essentially coaching questions that you can use either on

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Speaker 1: yourself or working with others. So I have a lot

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Speaker 1: of followers. I have a lot of people who follow

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Speaker 1: me on Instagram, Facebook and LinkedIn, and who listen to

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Speaker 1: this show who are either trainers or psychologists or coaches,

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Speaker 1: are involved in sport or high performance or the corporate space,

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Speaker 1: who use some of my stuff, and by the way,

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Speaker 1: of course, use all of my stuff that you want.

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Speaker 1: And of course most of my stuff is not really

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Speaker 1: my stuff. It's just stuff, isn't it. It's not like

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Speaker 1: there's a whole lot of new ideas. It's not like

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Speaker 1: there's a whole lot of new information about human behavior

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Speaker 1: or moments or psychology that is revolutionary. So I am

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Speaker 1: always sharing things that have been known for a long

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Speaker 1: time about human behavior and psychology and the human experience.

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Speaker 1: But I share them in my own unique way, and

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Speaker 1: I ask questions and tell stories and frame constructs in

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Speaker 1: a way which I am told by many of you

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Speaker 1: seems to resonate, which is nice. So, but I do

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Speaker 1: get asked by a lot of people if they can

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Speaker 1: have access to, you know, my stuff. You know, like

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Speaker 1: what when you get up and do a talk, what

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Speaker 1: questions do you ask? What specific content do you draw from?

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Speaker 1: And the truth is that you know, like last night,

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Speaker 1: I did a talk for nearly seven hundred people. I

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Speaker 1: have no slides, I have no PowerPoint, I have no video.

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Speaker 1: I have one sheet of paper with a few dot

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Speaker 1: I have talked for so long and so many audiences

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Speaker 1: about very similar subject matter, I while I wouldn't recommend

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Speaker 1: this to everyone, of course, who's going to be teaching, coaching, speaking,

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Speaker 1: doing workshops or standing in front of any kind of audience,

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Speaker 1: because you're not me, not better, not worse, just different.

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Speaker 1: But it works for me. So when I'm just riffing

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Speaker 1: in freestyle and talking about the human experience, I personally

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Speaker 1: I'm better when I step on stage and I just

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Speaker 1: open the door and I start talking. And every now

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Speaker 1: and then I might look at a sheet of paper

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Speaker 1: that I've got maybe five, ten, fifteen dot points, and

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Speaker 1: those dot points are not so much a whole lot

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Speaker 1: of content rather than they are just conversation starters. But

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Speaker 1: what I've got to share with you today is a

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Speaker 1: bunch of questions that if you are a coach or

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Speaker 1: anyone who is helping people to help themselves, these are

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Speaker 1: questions that are really good at starting a conversation, and

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Speaker 1: so I'm going to share them with you. I'm not

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Speaker 1: going to expand too much on them because they're kind

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Speaker 1: of self explanatory, and the real value lies in the

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Speaker 1: answering of each of these questions for you, or for

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Speaker 1: your clients, or with your clients, or in the moment

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Speaker 1: of that coaching, teaching, connecting problem solving session. So the

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Speaker 1: first question I ask people quite often is just like,

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Speaker 1: why are you here? Why are you here? Why did

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Speaker 1: you come see me? Why did your book in? And

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Speaker 1: then I just shut up and I get out of

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Speaker 1: But for me, without trying to dictate any particular direction

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Speaker 1: cool specifically, what does that mean? Ask them another question.

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Speaker 1: I might go, you know, I get really frustrated about X. Okay,

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Speaker 1: The next question that I might ask, I'm just going

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Speaker 1: you can either use these for yourself or use them

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Speaker 1: And I intentionally don't make that too specific, and they

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Speaker 1: so we will dig it deep, a little bit deeper.

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Speaker 1: What does that mean when you say that you and

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Speaker 1: how are you currently self sabotaging? What is a thing

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Speaker 1: to do it. That's cool. But you still got to

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Speaker 1: It is either for yourself or the people you're working with,

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Speaker 1: getting them to consider what their purpose might be. And

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Speaker 1: this is quite a philosophical conversation because many of us

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Speaker 1: grew up in this kind of this mindset that we

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Speaker 1: need to discover our purpose, like it's something that we

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Speaker 1: can find somewhere. I just got to go on a

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Speaker 1: search to find it, and we're going to find it

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Speaker 1: under some metaphorical, philosophical or ethereal rock over there by

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Speaker 1: that tree, and we just move the rock and fucking

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Speaker 1: fuck there. It is our purpose. Whereas I believe that

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Speaker 1: most of us will have many purposes over the course

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Speaker 1: of our life, not just one. I don't think that

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Speaker 1: I have a single purpose. But what I do know

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Speaker 1: is that I get to choose it. I get to

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Speaker 1: choose what I will focus on. I get to choose

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Speaker 1: what my life purpose will be. I get to choose

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Speaker 1: where I will invest me based on typically that will

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Speaker 1: be based on my values and my beliefs and the

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Speaker 1: way that I want to impact the world and the

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Speaker 1: things that I guess, in general terms matter most to

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Speaker 1: me the things that I think are truly important, and

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Speaker 1: so my purpose will be something that is a byproduct

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Speaker 1: of those things, my values, beliefs, goals, intentions, even my personality.

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Speaker 1: And by the way, if you're going, so what is

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Speaker 1: your purpose, Craig, So not my entire purpose, but definitely

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Speaker 1: part of my purpose is helping people to find their purpose.

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Speaker 1: Definitely part of my purpose is to help people use

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Speaker 1: more of their talent and their potential and their energy

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Speaker 1: in a way which is consistent with success. I believe

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Speaker 1: that I need to have a purpose bigger than me.

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Speaker 1: I believe that I need to be my transcendent self

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Speaker 1: so that the best version of me is the version

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Speaker 1: that transcends my selfishness, my self centered, me focused existence,

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Speaker 1: which can easily dominate. I know that when my life

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Speaker 1: is all about me and I'm focused on me, ironically,

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Speaker 1: my life is worse. That's just my experience. Doesn't mean

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Speaker 1: I do nothing for me or I don't take care

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Speaker 1: of me, but it means that much of my life

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Speaker 1: and much of my energy and attention and focus is

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Speaker 1: about helping others to figure out their life purpose, their path,

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Speaker 1: their mission, and how to operationalize and maximize what it

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Speaker 1: is they have to work with based on who and

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Speaker 1: how they want to be. I think that'll do for now.

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Speaker 1: We'll call that coaching session one, and I may be back.

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Speaker 1: Enjoy day.