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Speaker 1: Hi, guys, welcome back to hear me out. I'm your host, Isabelle.

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Speaker 1: How do you arma did?

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Speaker 2: In case you guys wanted mine? Government names? John Blake,

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Speaker 2: John Mannis.

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Speaker 3: It's really underwhelming.

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Speaker 1: No, it's cute.

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Speaker 3: Can I tell you something sad?

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Speaker 4: In high school people got my initials BJM. I'm not

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Speaker 4: love BJM, but they made an acronym whatever.

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Speaker 3: It's called blood job master.

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Speaker 2: Oh you surely wouldn't be that upset about it, were

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Speaker 2: you out?

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Speaker 3: I wasn't out.

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Speaker 1: Oh when did you come out?

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Speaker 3: Twenty one ship? Yeah, that's a whole story.

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Speaker 2: Yeah wow, Yeah, I wanted to talk about that one time.

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Speaker 3: One time.

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Speaker 4: I was going to say I can say it, but

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Speaker 4: not on this episode because it's like an extended story.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, i'd love to hear if you're comfortable, Oh my god,

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Speaker 2: of course I had a thing for you. No, I

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Speaker 2: didn't have any fun acrony it was. I never liked

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Speaker 2: my initials though. I HATEJ like nothing. It does a

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Speaker 2: roll off the tongue.

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Speaker 3: It sounds like a super company.

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Speaker 1: Yeah it's not great, but that's okay. That's okay.

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Speaker 2: I have a quite a cool number plate right side. Sorry,

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Speaker 2: I'm not telling you guys what it is. But it's

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Speaker 2: it's like a harder to get number plate. And I

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Speaker 2: got I had a friend see it and that someone

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Speaker 2: was selling it and they called me and was like,

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Speaker 2: you need to get this. And obviously I didn't understand

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Speaker 2: the value of like a number plate like that back then.

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Speaker 1: I think I would have been eighteen.

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Speaker 2: Then I told Dad, and Dad was like, no, you

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Speaker 2: need to get it, like it only like goes up.

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Speaker 1: In value, la la.

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Speaker 2: Anyway, So I have it now, and it's going to

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Speaker 2: end up getting it on my twenty first birthday because

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Speaker 2: like it's not something you just get given. Yeah, as

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Speaker 2: a rant, like it was my twenty first birthday present

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Speaker 2: from my dad. And I get stopped, like I will

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Speaker 2: go walk to my car and go fucking here we

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Speaker 2: go again. There's always a fucking man, am various men

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Speaker 2: standing out in front of my car asking to buy

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Speaker 2: it off me.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, and it's like they don't let it go.

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Speaker 2: It's actually like I had it came to I had

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Speaker 2: like a friend of mine drive past me randomly. Beau

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Speaker 2: happened to be out the front of like Gilson like

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Speaker 2: the botanical gardens and pull over and be like are

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Speaker 2: you okay, And I'm like, no, this fucking guy won't

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Speaker 2: leave me alone, like he's begging to buy my number plate.

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Speaker 2: They go, what do you want for it? I go,

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Speaker 2: I don't know, like three hundred gram They go, all right.

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Speaker 2: My thing is what they these little men refuse to

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Speaker 2: acknowledge is that once they tell me that they will

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Speaker 2: buy that for that much, I'm now not going to

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Speaker 2: be selling it because I know that it clearly one

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Speaker 2: day may be worth more than that. Yeah, it's definitely

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Speaker 2: not worth that right now by any fucking means.

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Speaker 1: But it happens. I reckon like.

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Speaker 2: Once a month, I've just got some man lingering around

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Speaker 2: my car, or I get notes left on my car,

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Speaker 2: Please contact me.

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Speaker 3: No, oh, and you'd think you've got a ticket or something.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but they also think that I'm some girl I

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Speaker 2: don't understand, like, oh.

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Speaker 1: I can fucking swindle away from this number play And

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Speaker 1: then they go, what if you get married? Go? What

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Speaker 1: if I keep my last name?

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, They're actually like going that death into it.

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Speaker 2: What if you get married in your initials change? I'm like,

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Speaker 2: I don't fucking care.

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Speaker 4: I don't think i'd want that admin in my life. Well,

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Speaker 4: have people stand at my car.

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Speaker 2: It's like it's annoying and they're like to speak to

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Speaker 2: He goes, Oh, what if I give you my number?

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Speaker 2: He goes, I go, I don't want your number. I'm

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Speaker 2: not going to text you. I'm not going to sell it.

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Speaker 1: Go away.

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Speaker 2: It's so fucking annoying. Happened the other day, and that's

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Speaker 2: why I'm raging. But something happened to me yesterday and

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Speaker 2: annoyed the fucking shit out of me, and I actually

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Speaker 2: that's a cool leg to like talk me off the

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Speaker 2: led tream yelling at this fucking woman. I'm pulling into

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Speaker 2: a car park and well they're like, you know, side

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Speaker 2: by side kind of parks, and there was only one

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Speaker 2: park left, and I've been looking for a park for ages,

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Speaker 2: and a lady pulled into the car park right next

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Speaker 2: to it, and then there was like one open left

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Speaker 2: next to her.

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Speaker 1: She's parked fucking horribly.

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Speaker 2: She is well over the line and therefore makes my

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Speaker 2: car spot that I'm about to pull.

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Speaker 1: Into like it's harder to get into.

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Speaker 2: It's a tight squeeze, shitty fucking park, Like use your

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Speaker 2: brain anyway, and I pull in next to her. I

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Speaker 2: obviously haven't left her a whole heap of room because

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Speaker 2: there isn't a whole heap of room.

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Speaker 3: You don't have that option.

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Speaker 1: I don't have that option. And I'm not.

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Speaker 2: Driving around for another fifteen minutes finding a park when

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Speaker 2: there's one right there, and you just made a shitty

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Speaker 2: job at making it decent fit again into anyway? You

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Speaker 2: feel the rage exuding off me? Oh yeah, yeah. So

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Speaker 2: I get into the car park. There is enough room

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Speaker 2: to open the door and get out. It's just probably

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Speaker 2: not like you can't swing your door wide, like you

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Speaker 2: kind of will have to squeeze a little bit, but

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Speaker 2: like she could definitely get out.

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Speaker 1: This woman's pretty well ninety nine.

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Speaker 2: Percent of the way out of her car already, and

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Speaker 2: she proceeds to look me dead in the eye and

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Speaker 2: swing her door right into the side of my car. No, yeah,

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Speaker 2: with force?

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Speaker 1: Did it?

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Speaker 3: Market?

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Speaker 1: Oh? At this point I didn't know.

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Speaker 2: So I put my window down and I go excuse me,

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Speaker 2: and she looks at me, says nothing and just keeps

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Speaker 2: fucking walking.

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Speaker 3: Holy shit, she would have.

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Speaker 2: Been like seventy or something. I'm like, you shouldn't have

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Speaker 2: a fucking driver's license if you can't get out of

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Speaker 2: a car without swinging it into mine. No, bear in

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Speaker 2: mind intentionally she was already out. She did it to

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Speaker 2: fucking piss me off. And all she had to do

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Speaker 2: was say, excuse me, would you mind pulling out so

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Speaker 2: I can get out? Like it's a really tight squeeze.

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Speaker 1: And I would have told her, hey, babe, you.

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Speaker 2: Need to repark your car. Yeah, because you're on my lane,

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Speaker 2: you're on my hostspot.

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Speaker 3: Also, you're allowed to use your words and no.

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Speaker 2: Speak or at least say oops, yeah, whoops sorry?

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Speaker 3: Did you film her?

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Speaker 1: No?

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Speaker 2: I would have she I was like stunned, and she

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Speaker 2: just walked away and shouted, like slouching away. She walks

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Speaker 2: like two fucking meaters every twenty minutes. And then the

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Speaker 2: reason I called legs because I saw her potentially I

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Speaker 2: thought she was going into the store I was about

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Speaker 2: to go into, and I was like, if I see her,

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Speaker 2: I will say something. But I was just going to

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Speaker 2: be like, are you going to apologize? Like can we

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Speaker 2: use our words sort of thing?

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Speaker 1: But she didn't. Anyway, I hope she had a shit

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Speaker 1: fucking rest of the day.

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Speaker 4: And look that demographic. I just don't think you're going

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Speaker 4: to win an argument. So it's pick your battles. No,

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Speaker 4: But sometimes I just like you need to let it out.

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Speaker 2: Sometimes I just don't think they deserve to just like

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Speaker 2: walk all over everyone. It's like once they hit like

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Speaker 2: a certain age, it's like young like hear me out.

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Speaker 2: Old people are fucking mean, Like why are you so rude?

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Speaker 2: Like we are so I'm so polite. I'll always smile,

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Speaker 2: do you know what I mean? But it's just like

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Speaker 2: a vendetta they have against younger women.

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Speaker 3: I also love that, like as kids, you're raised like

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Speaker 3: respect your elders.

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Speaker 1: Elders don't respect me.

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Speaker 3: Your elders likes no, and they.

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Speaker 2: Don't need to respect me. They just need to be polite.

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Speaker 2: Like it's I don't know, I.

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Speaker 3: Just not hit my car.

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Speaker 2: Don't hit my fucking car on purpose because you're annoyed

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Speaker 2: that I was too close to you. I wasn't too

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Speaker 2: close to you by choice. It was the only way

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Speaker 2: I could get in.

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Speaker 3: The spot I'm dying.

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Speaker 4: Imagine she walks past your car and she's like, wait,

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Speaker 4: I really want her number plates?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, fucking idiot.

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Speaker 2: And then when I was getting back in my car

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Speaker 2: where there was enough rome, I easily got into that car.

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Speaker 2: I didn't even have to stress about it. I was like, hmm,

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Speaker 2: I could swing my door a little wide here.

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Speaker 3: Let's sling thick.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but I didn't because I thought that's bad karma

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Speaker 2: and we don't need bad car more and we're about

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Speaker 2: to go on hopefully a really fun overseas trip.

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Speaker 3: Good karma all around, cap it there.

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Speaker 1: I also was like, I could keep this car.

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Speaker 3: I could've never done that, but I've.

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Speaker 1: Never keyed a car.

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Speaker 3: Love it story.

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Speaker 2: All I know is if I want to key it

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Speaker 2: across more than one panel.

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Speaker 3: We should not be giving this advice.

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Speaker 2: Noah, I would never kee a car, but I that

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Speaker 2: obviously doesn't warrant having your car keyd But I just

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Speaker 2: think she needs to be taught a lesson. But with

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Speaker 2: that fucking attitude, I'm sure she will soon enough anyway.

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Speaker 4: Okay, So I have three listener hear me out. Heaven't

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Speaker 4: we got like three short, sweet ones and I really

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Speaker 4: like them. Iyes, So first one, hear me out there

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Speaker 4: should always be music playing in bathrooms a fusolutely.

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Speaker 3: I loved this one.

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Speaker 1: I like.

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Speaker 2: I went into the random enough the AFL Bulldogs, the

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Speaker 2: Legends Lounge at the Marvel Stadium, the other day and

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Speaker 2: they had like the loudest fucking like it was the

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Speaker 2: commentary for the game playing over the speaker, isn't. When

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Speaker 2: I walked in, the girls kind of looked at me

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Speaker 2: and they were like, could the fucking commentary be any louder?

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Speaker 2: And I literally I bear in mind I had not

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Speaker 2: met these big girls where I did not know who

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Speaker 2: they were. I go, yeah, but if you were taking

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Speaker 2: a shit, that could be really good, That's why. And

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Speaker 2: then I got in the stool and I'm like, fuck,

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Speaker 2: they're gonna think I'm in here, which I wasn't, but

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Speaker 2: not to say that I don't. But anyway, it's great

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Speaker 2: because you can if you need a fart, oh you

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Speaker 2: mean shit, no one hears you. And I think it's

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Speaker 2: wonderful and it saves a lot of stress and anxiety.

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Speaker 4: Yes, my thing is I work in a shared office,

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Speaker 4: so there's other officers working within my building. Sometimes I

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Speaker 4: walk into the man's toilet and I just hear some

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Speaker 4: things I'm not going to go into detail. I will

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Speaker 4: make a loud, like disgusted grunt to let them know

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Speaker 4: I'm across what I'm experiencing and leave and find a

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Speaker 4: new toilet.

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Speaker 1: Do you know what I mean? Because they're so embarrassed

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Speaker 3: Okay, second one, and I feel like you've got to

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Speaker 4: Rewatching the same shows over and over is better than

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Speaker 2: I'm on Modern Family again. I've probably watched it five times.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you have to be and just for getting inside

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Speaker 4: I feel like you do this more than me when

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Speaker 2: It's because I need something constantly going on, and I

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Speaker 2: So it's like plow through those shows like very quickly.

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Speaker 4: I have a third that and final listener hear me out,

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Speaker 2: Cough cough Lacey from Love Island last season. I'm just honest.

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Speaker 4: But I definitely have experience out on just like a

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Speaker 2: and I'm like, are you mad at me? It's just like, no,

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Speaker 3: And it's usually followed by something like you put on weight.

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Speaker 2: So also I watched the other day someone says they

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and I do think there's space, of course online.

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Speaker 4: You've made that clear. I just find.

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Speaker 4: So it's usually when they have just lost an important

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Speaker 2: Yeah. I just feel like if I met someone now

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Speaker 2: Why do you know what I mean humans, Because like,

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Speaker 2: obviously some people, Yeah, it's different. I don't know, I

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Speaker 2: It's like you've probably fucked over everyone in your life.

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Speaker 2: Like that's how I look at it, that you are

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Speaker 4: Saying okay, final hear me out. This one's mine, hear

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Speaker 2: No, but I think right now Dakota would think he's winning.

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Speaker 3: He would good.

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Speaker 2: Taylor's whole fucking Bachelorette season has been canceled.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and I mean even her show is looking unlikely.

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Speaker 4: The Secret lives really Morman, She's spoken, she's they're just

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Speaker 3: It's on pors that say work through all this.

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Speaker 2: Well, I don't think she deserves Okay, So if people

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Speaker 4: Was days before she was meant to be the Bachelorette

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Speaker 2: Yeah, her season's already been filmed for the Bachelor and

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but everyone thing that he's released that just to

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Speaker 4: Right, And just to preface so everyone's clear in the video,

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Speaker 2: Because her daughter starts crying like after one of the

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Speaker 2: and it was her saying like, yeah, so I did

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Speaker 2: think the Bachelorette would have been somewhat across that. I

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Speaker 2: would absolutely believe they would have done the due diligence

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Speaker 2: and seen that. I don't believe that that woman deserves

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Speaker 2: to have Look, we don't know everything that goes on.

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Speaker 2: It may people say it's a reaction. Clearly Dakota has

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Speaker 2: I don't think she'd be a bachelorette no, or have

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it's how I'm seeing it play out online. That's

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Speaker 2: than anything, people are defending her. Yeah, which really surprises

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00:17:58,119 --> 00:18:01,000
Speaker 2: me considering there is a child that was what in

443
00:18:01,040 --> 00:18:04,480
Speaker 2: the firing line of that. I also hear me out,

444
00:18:04,760 --> 00:18:09,040
Speaker 2: I mean alongside this was hear me out. I don't

445
00:18:09,040 --> 00:18:12,560
Speaker 2: feel bad for the men whose Bachelor season got canceled.

446
00:18:13,640 --> 00:18:16,480
Speaker 2: You know why, fine, because everyone's like, oh, they probably

447
00:18:16,520 --> 00:18:19,120
Speaker 2: quit their jobs. Oh you know, the season was about

448
00:18:19,119 --> 00:18:20,119
Speaker 2: to come out in three days.

449
00:18:21,200 --> 00:18:24,600
Speaker 1: Shouldn't you be going on the Bachelor to find love exactly.

450
00:18:24,920 --> 00:18:26,880
Speaker 2: So why are you so mad that you now can't

451
00:18:26,880 --> 00:18:27,960
Speaker 2: be a fitness influencer.

452
00:18:28,119 --> 00:18:30,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, so if you're such a perfect person, I think

453
00:18:30,040 --> 00:18:30,840
Speaker 3: you're going to be okay.

454
00:18:30,960 --> 00:18:31,200
Speaker 1: Yeah.

455
00:18:31,320 --> 00:18:33,679
Speaker 2: No, it's like, oh that everyone's feeling so bad for

456
00:18:33,720 --> 00:18:35,520
Speaker 2: these guys who have, like, you know, their whole lives

457
00:18:35,560 --> 00:18:37,840
Speaker 2: like they thought were about to change. It's like you

458
00:18:37,840 --> 00:18:40,159
Speaker 2: shouldn't be going on the Bachelor to be famous anyway.

459
00:18:40,320 --> 00:18:43,480
Speaker 2: So it's like you either found love or you didn't,

460
00:18:43,560 --> 00:18:45,040
Speaker 2: and doesn't matter who it is.

461
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Speaker 3: These people are way better than me. I didn't even

462
00:18:47,119 --> 00:18:49,640
Speaker 3: consider the contestant. No, well I.

463
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Speaker 2: Didn't until I saw Tiktoks. I'm like, cause I don't

464
00:18:51,720 --> 00:18:52,399
Speaker 2: know why we would be.

465
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Speaker 4: Yeah, I've just really struggled with the whole thing because, like,

466
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Speaker 4: I know, she's done something so so terribly wrong. Like

467
00:19:00,240 --> 00:19:02,879
Speaker 4: I'm not denying that or downplaying it for one second.

468
00:19:03,000 --> 00:19:06,440
Speaker 4: I think just for me, the timing of the release

469
00:19:07,240 --> 00:19:10,439
Speaker 4: is just really icky. It does seem like he just

470
00:19:10,560 --> 00:19:12,119
Speaker 4: wants to take her down.

471
00:19:12,080 --> 00:19:12,800
Speaker 1: But I don't.

472
00:19:12,960 --> 00:19:16,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, and I would completely understand that, but I from

473
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Speaker 2: what I've seen, obviously I wasn't there.

474
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Speaker 1: He didn't actually release the tape.

475
00:19:21,160 --> 00:19:23,600
Speaker 2: It was already in the court records and TMZ has

476
00:19:23,640 --> 00:19:25,560
Speaker 2: found it, meaning they were the ones.

477
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Speaker 1: That released it.

478
00:19:26,080 --> 00:19:28,679
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, like it was already just well in the

479
00:19:28,720 --> 00:19:31,080
Speaker 2: court records, that was in there from twenty twenty three

480
00:19:31,200 --> 00:19:33,800
Speaker 2: and people have dug around and found that and released it.

481
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Speaker 3: Yeah. Well, I wasn't a cross that one like that.

482
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Speaker 1: He wasn't.

483
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Speaker 2: He didn't have any part to play in the fact

484
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Speaker 2: that it came out now, Yeah, which if he did, like,

485
00:19:41,840 --> 00:19:44,960
Speaker 2: it's like, come on to Conaplin, mate, you should have

486
00:19:45,000 --> 00:19:46,480
Speaker 2: done it before if you didn't want her to go

487
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Speaker 2: on the backs, right, and.

488
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Speaker 4: A funny take I've seen and that shouldn't really be

489
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Speaker 4: funny take.

490
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Speaker 3: S here because it's a very serious topic.

491
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Speaker 4: And I'm not saying I agree with it either, but

492
00:19:53,960 --> 00:19:57,600
Speaker 4: people are saying, oh, the Bachelorette's canceled, is Trump getting

493
00:19:57,920 --> 00:20:00,879
Speaker 4: is he going to step down from president? And is

494
00:20:01,359 --> 00:20:04,040
Speaker 4: the NFL gonna still play because some of their players

495
00:20:04,080 --> 00:20:07,199
Speaker 4: have domestic charge domestic violence charges against them. It's just

496
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Speaker 4: an interesting persuaitive.

497
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Speaker 2: Look, there is a lot of double standards with that,

498
00:20:11,280 --> 00:20:14,040
Speaker 2: and like so many you know, men do things like

499
00:20:14,119 --> 00:20:16,240
Speaker 2: would have things come out like that or worse and

500
00:20:16,280 --> 00:20:19,720
Speaker 2: like still get to live their lives. So I yeah,

501
00:20:19,800 --> 00:20:23,760
Speaker 2: I think it's a very complicated situation and like viewers listeners, like,

502
00:20:23,840 --> 00:20:26,000
Speaker 2: no one will really ever be able to understand. But

503
00:20:26,480 --> 00:20:28,119
Speaker 2: all I know is that when I saw that video,

504
00:20:28,200 --> 00:20:29,639
Speaker 2: I was like, what the fuck? I don't think she

505
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Speaker 2: should be a bauck to sor ry No, And I

506
00:20:31,200 --> 00:20:33,840
Speaker 2: think that stands across the board regardless. I think anyone

507
00:20:33,880 --> 00:20:38,560
Speaker 2: with those charges shouldn't be in a public eye famous

508
00:20:38,560 --> 00:20:40,600
Speaker 2: and like adored in a sense, you know, it's like

509
00:20:40,640 --> 00:20:42,640
Speaker 2: a really bad example to set that you can act

510
00:20:42,680 --> 00:20:45,760
Speaker 2: that way and still be like, I don't know. But

511
00:20:45,840 --> 00:20:48,040
Speaker 2: then once again, there's a lot of stuff that it's

512
00:20:48,080 --> 00:20:50,000
Speaker 2: like it was clearly a reaction to something he did,

513
00:20:50,000 --> 00:20:53,159
Speaker 2: and Dakota is fucked. Like, don't get me wrong, that

514
00:20:53,200 --> 00:20:55,040
Speaker 2: man is a hell on a fucking stick, And I

515
00:20:55,080 --> 00:20:57,080
Speaker 2: completely get that he would have probably pushed her and

516
00:20:57,080 --> 00:20:59,600
Speaker 2: pushed her to that point, but you need to have

517
00:20:59,640 --> 00:21:02,280
Speaker 2: a need to have some self control as well. And

518
00:21:02,320 --> 00:21:04,879
Speaker 2: it's like, you know what, he started fucking messaging the

519
00:21:04,960 --> 00:21:07,640
Speaker 2: mum's best friend behind Taylor's back while she was pregnant,

520
00:21:07,640 --> 00:21:08,639
Speaker 2: Like he's disgusting.

521
00:21:08,760 --> 00:21:10,960
Speaker 1: I just think both of them.

522
00:21:11,760 --> 00:21:14,399
Speaker 2: Yeah, I really just don't think the Bachelor atteh knowing

523
00:21:14,440 --> 00:21:15,399
Speaker 2: all of that stuff.

524
00:21:15,119 --> 00:21:16,160
Speaker 1: That they would have.

525
00:21:16,119 --> 00:21:18,720
Speaker 2: Because it was public record that that happened, and it

526
00:21:18,760 --> 00:21:21,080
Speaker 2: had been discussed by Taylor many times on podcasts that

527
00:21:21,080 --> 00:21:23,720
Speaker 2: that had been that that was a charge against her.

528
00:21:24,200 --> 00:21:26,880
Speaker 2: Why would you go, yeah, become the Bachelor. It's clear

529
00:21:26,960 --> 00:21:29,680
Speaker 2: this woman isn't gonna get over d Koda anytime soon.

530
00:21:29,800 --> 00:21:35,000
Speaker 2: So okay, guys, So on this week's episode, we are

531
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Speaker 2: taking it back to help me out. I think it's

532
00:21:38,240 --> 00:21:41,000
Speaker 2: been a little while since we've gotten into those. I

533
00:21:41,040 --> 00:21:44,120
Speaker 2: also quickly want to side note I haven't been doing

534
00:21:44,160 --> 00:21:45,879
Speaker 2: a lot of guests.

535
00:21:45,480 --> 00:21:46,360
Speaker 1: On him out yet.

536
00:21:46,359 --> 00:21:49,000
Speaker 2: I feel like, or even really this season, I feel

537
00:21:49,000 --> 00:21:52,480
Speaker 2: like I'm enjoying you know, this is chatting make mean like,

538
00:21:52,920 --> 00:21:55,200
Speaker 2: I definitely think that's something that I will get into

539
00:21:55,200 --> 00:21:57,520
Speaker 2: if you guys want that and look into more. But

540
00:21:58,280 --> 00:22:01,600
Speaker 2: guests make me a little bit stress sometimes. But I

541
00:22:01,640 --> 00:22:04,119
Speaker 2: do think that's something we will delve into eventually. So

542
00:22:04,200 --> 00:22:06,119
Speaker 2: don't we forget that we will never It's not like

543
00:22:06,160 --> 00:22:07,479
Speaker 2: we're not having any guests anymore.

544
00:22:07,760 --> 00:22:09,520
Speaker 3: I personally think it's super capable.

545
00:22:09,720 --> 00:22:11,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, but I just think I want to pick my

546
00:22:11,600 --> 00:22:13,840
Speaker 2: guests really wisely, and I want them to be able

547
00:22:13,840 --> 00:22:17,040
Speaker 2: to bring something different, because like obviously, even with Just

548
00:22:17,080 --> 00:22:19,480
Speaker 2: for Girls, it's like we had a lot of guests

549
00:22:19,480 --> 00:22:21,080
Speaker 2: on there, and I don't want to kind of just

550
00:22:21,119 --> 00:22:23,480
Speaker 2: be recycling guests that other people also have on a

551
00:22:23,480 --> 00:22:25,600
Speaker 2: lot of podcasts in Melbourne, because I feel like we

552
00:22:25,640 --> 00:22:27,840
Speaker 2: do get into quite a groove around Melbourne of like

553
00:22:28,119 --> 00:22:30,520
Speaker 2: one person being on like seven different podcasts, and I'm

554
00:22:30,600 --> 00:22:32,760
Speaker 2: kind of like, I want different people. So that's been

555
00:22:32,760 --> 00:22:35,159
Speaker 2: a bit of a challenge to come up with that

556
00:22:35,200 --> 00:22:35,720
Speaker 2: sort of stuff.

557
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Speaker 4: But just to take you into the background, usually in

558
00:22:38,560 --> 00:22:41,560
Speaker 4: podcasting it's not even the guest episodes that perform the best.

559
00:22:41,720 --> 00:22:44,840
Speaker 4: It is usually just a host or the hosts the

560
00:22:44,920 --> 00:22:48,600
Speaker 4: guest kind of like yes, if it's a perfectly aligned one.

561
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Speaker 4: But in most case, everyone's like I just want to

562
00:22:50,160 --> 00:22:54,480
Speaker 4: hear is he? So we'll bring someone. If guys are gagging.

563
00:22:54,119 --> 00:22:55,720
Speaker 2: For you, yeah, if you guys are gagging for it,

564
00:22:55,760 --> 00:22:57,720
Speaker 2: so you just let me. Then I know you guys

565
00:22:57,720 --> 00:22:59,800
Speaker 2: are gagging for sofa, but I'm trying my best.

566
00:23:00,520 --> 00:23:01,160
Speaker 3: We'll work it out.

567
00:23:01,160 --> 00:23:02,919
Speaker 2: I don't know if she's a podcast girler, yet, but

568
00:23:03,080 --> 00:23:05,840
Speaker 2: we'll make it happen. All right, let's get into it.

569
00:23:05,840 --> 00:23:08,720
Speaker 2: They help me out. This guy, Ethan and I share

570
00:23:08,800 --> 00:23:12,080
Speaker 2: multiple friend groups together. Essentially, the law is that for

571
00:23:12,160 --> 00:23:13,720
Speaker 2: a couple months he had a crush on me, but

572
00:23:13,760 --> 00:23:16,919
Speaker 2: I never felt anything towards him. Long story short, I

573
00:23:17,040 --> 00:23:19,119
Speaker 2: ended up catching feelings for him. I feel like that's

574
00:23:19,160 --> 00:23:22,480
Speaker 2: always the case whenever they lose interest, You're like, come back,

575
00:23:22,560 --> 00:23:25,359
Speaker 2: come back. We would spend all day every day, starting

576
00:23:25,400 --> 00:23:27,359
Speaker 2: together at UNI, and in the evenings we would go

577
00:23:27,440 --> 00:23:28,960
Speaker 2: home and text or call each.

578
00:23:28,840 --> 00:23:32,800
Speaker 1: Other all night. God's having a crush is so fun.

579
00:23:33,000 --> 00:23:34,920
Speaker 3: Remember when you used to fall asleep on the phone

580
00:23:34,960 --> 00:23:35,400
Speaker 3: to them.

581
00:23:35,440 --> 00:23:36,280
Speaker 1: I've never done that.

582
00:23:36,400 --> 00:23:37,040
Speaker 3: Oh damn.

583
00:23:37,080 --> 00:23:39,000
Speaker 2: Now people like will fall asleep like yeat on FaceTime

584
00:23:39,000 --> 00:23:40,399
Speaker 2: to their partner and they both just sleep.

585
00:23:40,520 --> 00:23:44,720
Speaker 1: I'm like, no thanks, I'd rather sleep by myself.

586
00:23:44,960 --> 00:23:47,080
Speaker 2: Essentially, we were behaving like a couple, but without the

587
00:23:47,160 --> 00:23:50,320
Speaker 2: label paying for each other stuff, answering on behalf of

588
00:23:50,400 --> 00:23:52,480
Speaker 2: each other when one of us wasn't present, that sort

589
00:23:52,520 --> 00:23:54,919
Speaker 2: of stuff. One night, we hook up at the party,

590
00:23:54,960 --> 00:23:56,960
Speaker 2: and a couple days later, on Halloween, we end up

591
00:23:57,000 --> 00:24:00,760
Speaker 2: sleeping together just to fy all our friends know this

592
00:24:00,920 --> 00:24:03,840
Speaker 2: and they wanted to see us stay. The hookups weren't

593
00:24:03,840 --> 00:24:06,840
Speaker 2: on the DL our entire friendship group knew. But then

594
00:24:06,880 --> 00:24:09,479
Speaker 2: here comes the issues. Ethan tells me he didn't want

595
00:24:09,480 --> 00:24:11,560
Speaker 2: a girlfriend, and at the beginning of twenty twenty five

596
00:24:11,600 --> 00:24:13,240
Speaker 2: he ended things with his girlfriend of one and a

597
00:24:13,240 --> 00:24:15,680
Speaker 2: half years and kept expressing that he didn't want to

598
00:24:15,680 --> 00:24:18,359
Speaker 2: get into something else so soon, but also wanted to

599
00:24:18,440 --> 00:24:21,280
Speaker 2: enjoy the freedom of being single and having no responsibilities.

600
00:24:22,280 --> 00:24:24,600
Speaker 2: I hate that saying I just want to be like

601
00:24:24,720 --> 00:24:27,120
Speaker 2: single and like not worry about anyone else's here.

602
00:24:27,320 --> 00:24:29,359
Speaker 4: This is like a popular line off a movie. Now

603
00:24:29,400 --> 00:24:32,120
Speaker 4: everyone just steals them. Yeah, like that's the stocking assort.

604
00:24:32,680 --> 00:24:35,760
Speaker 1: Shut up, then be single? Do you know what I mean?

605
00:24:36,359 --> 00:24:38,880
Speaker 2: People, I really want to be single, but I've been

606
00:24:38,880 --> 00:24:41,120
Speaker 2: seeing this girl basically for five months. It's like, that's

607
00:24:41,160 --> 00:24:42,359
Speaker 2: not being single, Bud.

608
00:24:42,640 --> 00:24:44,320
Speaker 3: It's like, I want to be single as the next

609
00:24:44,320 --> 00:24:45,080
Speaker 3: to you in bad.

610
00:24:45,119 --> 00:24:47,639
Speaker 2: No, that's what I hate. If you want to be single,

611
00:24:47,720 --> 00:24:50,200
Speaker 2: do it like me. I don't talk to anyone, I

612
00:24:50,200 --> 00:24:54,000
Speaker 2: don't go any dates. I'm being single and focusing on myself.

613
00:24:54,160 --> 00:24:54,800
Speaker 3: Go on a high.

614
00:24:54,840 --> 00:24:55,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, don't get in.

615
00:24:55,680 --> 00:24:57,520
Speaker 2: A situationship and say you want to be single, but

616
00:24:57,640 --> 00:25:01,239
Speaker 2: you're basically not. I'm sick of about fucking saying, And

617
00:25:01,320 --> 00:25:03,040
Speaker 2: to be honest, I've never even had that happen to me.

618
00:25:03,119 --> 00:25:05,560
Speaker 2: I just like, I hear it so much with you guys,

619
00:25:05,560 --> 00:25:09,959
Speaker 2: and it's like it's the stupidest fucking thing I've ever heard. Anyway,

620
00:25:10,000 --> 00:25:13,439
Speaker 2: she's fair enough, I guess. He suggests an exclusive friends

621
00:25:13,440 --> 00:25:17,200
Speaker 2: with benefits sounds like a relationship to me. She said,

622
00:25:17,560 --> 00:25:19,960
Speaker 2: we're already acting like boyfriend girlfriend and now you want

623
00:25:19,960 --> 00:25:21,600
Speaker 2: to throw an exclusive hooking up.

624
00:25:21,800 --> 00:25:22,760
Speaker 1: But what is going on?

625
00:25:23,119 --> 00:25:24,920
Speaker 2: Even though I really like this guy and the sex

626
00:25:25,000 --> 00:25:27,240
Speaker 2: was good, I know that a friends with benefits is

627
00:25:27,280 --> 00:25:29,439
Speaker 2: not something I want. I want a relationship, so I

628
00:25:29,480 --> 00:25:34,760
Speaker 2: say no, sleep go queen. We agree to continue being friends,

629
00:25:34,760 --> 00:25:37,280
Speaker 2: but I ask him friends with benefits? Though, tell me

630
00:25:38,000 --> 00:25:39,720
Speaker 2: tell me the noment that you're now done.

631
00:25:40,520 --> 00:25:41,960
Speaker 3: Let's see in like three cents.

632
00:25:41,800 --> 00:25:46,040
Speaker 2: Ands, Okay, We agree to continue being friends when I

633
00:25:46,080 --> 00:25:47,720
Speaker 2: ask him to give me some time and space so

634
00:25:47,720 --> 00:25:49,520
Speaker 2: I can lose feelings for him and we can just

635
00:25:49,560 --> 00:25:51,119
Speaker 2: purely be friends, and he agrees.

636
00:25:51,520 --> 00:25:54,280
Speaker 1: Good girl, But what does this man do?

637
00:25:54,440 --> 00:25:58,360
Speaker 2: He continually comes into Uni and bumps into me constantly

638
00:25:58,359 --> 00:26:01,000
Speaker 2: asks for lifts home, needs to get his own fucking

639
00:26:01,040 --> 00:26:02,840
Speaker 2: lift text and calls.

640
00:26:02,600 --> 00:26:04,439
Speaker 1: Me every night, just like we used to do before.

641
00:26:04,920 --> 00:26:07,120
Speaker 1: And I know I shouldn't have, but I gave into all.

642
00:26:07,040 --> 00:26:09,520
Speaker 2: Of this because essentially the guy I really like was

643
00:26:09,560 --> 00:26:12,320
Speaker 2: giving me attention and I just couldn't say no. Talking

644
00:26:12,359 --> 00:26:15,000
Speaker 2: to him and being around him made me so happy

645
00:26:15,160 --> 00:26:17,600
Speaker 2: until I love until done.

646
00:26:17,640 --> 00:26:18,360
Speaker 1: Dun dun.

647
00:26:18,960 --> 00:26:21,399
Speaker 2: Months go by, and eventually it all becomes too much.

648
00:26:21,520 --> 00:26:23,679
Speaker 2: It feels like a form of self harm, acting like

649
00:26:23,720 --> 00:26:26,560
Speaker 2: his girlfriend without actually being it like a punch in

650
00:26:26,560 --> 00:26:29,080
Speaker 2: the heart. Every day I decide enough is enough and

651
00:26:29,119 --> 00:26:30,840
Speaker 2: I need to get over this man. You know what,

652
00:26:31,480 --> 00:26:34,480
Speaker 2: go you because a lot of people me included in

653
00:26:34,520 --> 00:26:37,800
Speaker 2: the past, just like live for those little minuscule crumbs

654
00:26:37,800 --> 00:26:38,240
Speaker 2: of attention.

655
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Speaker 4: Can we also talk about how nice that moment of

656
00:26:40,640 --> 00:26:43,240
Speaker 4: clarity is and will just hit you it makes sense

657
00:26:43,280 --> 00:26:44,119
Speaker 4: and you're like, nah.

658
00:26:44,040 --> 00:26:45,200
Speaker 1: I know what the fuck am I doing?

659
00:26:45,280 --> 00:26:45,440
Speaker 3: Yeah?

660
00:26:45,520 --> 00:26:46,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, haven't ever had that.

661
00:26:49,200 --> 00:26:51,199
Speaker 2: I just can't keep up this weird dynamic we have,

662
00:26:51,400 --> 00:26:54,240
Speaker 2: but the constant text, in complementing and just overall contact

663
00:26:54,280 --> 00:26:57,160
Speaker 2: is making it impossible to So one night, meat crash out,

664
00:26:57,200 --> 00:27:00,240
Speaker 2: I send him a text, Hey, I really I don't

665
00:27:00,240 --> 00:27:02,200
Speaker 2: want you to take this personally because I still have so,

666
00:27:02,200 --> 00:27:04,720
Speaker 2: so so much love for you, but I can't move

667
00:27:04,760 --> 00:27:05,800
Speaker 2: on from you romantically.

668
00:27:05,840 --> 00:27:07,160
Speaker 1: We're communicating every day.

669
00:27:07,480 --> 00:27:09,879
Speaker 2: It feels like torture, constantly talking to the guy I like,

670
00:27:10,000 --> 00:27:12,359
Speaker 2: knowing I can't be with him. I need some space

671
00:27:12,400 --> 00:27:14,760
Speaker 2: to get over my feelings. I'm really sorry. I promised

672
00:27:14,800 --> 00:27:17,800
Speaker 2: this is temporary girl that was really really nice and

673
00:27:17,880 --> 00:27:19,640
Speaker 2: probably not what he deserved. But I'm proud of him,

674
00:27:20,359 --> 00:27:22,720
Speaker 2: and I proceed to unadd him. Weeks go by, and

675
00:27:22,800 --> 00:27:24,560
Speaker 2: life is surprisingly amazing.

676
00:27:25,440 --> 00:27:29,000
Speaker 1: Heaven. I hear from mutual friends that Ethan did we

677
00:27:29,080 --> 00:27:30,440
Speaker 1: know Ethan? Did we say Nash?

678
00:27:30,680 --> 00:27:32,760
Speaker 2: Yeah we did, Okay, I'm like, are we exposing this

679
00:27:32,800 --> 00:27:35,920
Speaker 2: guy name? Weeks go by, I hear from mutual friends

680
00:27:35,920 --> 00:27:38,360
Speaker 2: that Ethan took my text really well. So life feels good.

681
00:27:38,680 --> 00:27:40,840
Speaker 2: I message to all my ladies out there. Out of sight,

682
00:27:40,960 --> 00:27:44,239
Speaker 2: out of mind works a treat. I've never felt more

683
00:27:44,240 --> 00:27:46,200
Speaker 2: carefree in my life, and all the energy I wasn't

684
00:27:46,240 --> 00:27:48,400
Speaker 2: wasting on Ethan I got to put towards other things

685
00:27:48,440 --> 00:27:50,600
Speaker 2: in life. I even had a guy slide into my

686
00:27:50,680 --> 00:27:52,879
Speaker 2: DMS and we went on a one off date, life

687
00:27:52,920 --> 00:27:55,359
Speaker 2: was just looking up. The next time I see Ethan,

688
00:27:55,400 --> 00:27:58,360
Speaker 2: it's understandably a bit awkward. We haven't spoken in weeks,

689
00:27:58,520 --> 00:28:01,200
Speaker 2: but I decided to take the high road and act normal.

690
00:28:01,680 --> 00:28:04,040
Speaker 2: Eventually he matches my energy and everything is all good.

691
00:28:04,040 --> 00:28:05,800
Speaker 2: For the next few weeks we hang out as a group.

692
00:28:06,200 --> 00:28:08,120
Speaker 2: One night, he comes up to me randomly and goes,

693
00:28:08,280 --> 00:28:10,240
Speaker 2: I'm really glad you were mature and decided to go

694
00:28:10,320 --> 00:28:12,760
Speaker 2: no contact. I think it was the right decision, and

695
00:28:12,800 --> 00:28:14,520
Speaker 2: we had a nice long chat about how everything is

696
00:28:14,560 --> 00:28:17,520
Speaker 2: all good between us, followed by a long hug.

697
00:28:17,800 --> 00:28:20,160
Speaker 1: Tell me this all sounds great.

698
00:28:20,200 --> 00:28:20,399
Speaker 3: I know.

699
00:28:20,560 --> 00:28:21,600
Speaker 1: I feel like you don't need my help.

700
00:28:21,720 --> 00:28:24,200
Speaker 2: At the end of the movie, understandably, I was really

701
00:28:24,200 --> 00:28:26,439
Speaker 2: happy and I finally felt a peace, although part of

702
00:28:26,480 --> 00:28:27,960
Speaker 2: me still looked at him and felt a bit sad

703
00:28:27,960 --> 00:28:30,040
Speaker 2: things didn't work out between us, But for the most part,

704
00:28:30,080 --> 00:28:32,679
Speaker 2: I was just happy we could continue being friends and

705
00:28:32,680 --> 00:28:35,280
Speaker 2: that I was no longer constantly moping around about him.

706
00:28:35,720 --> 00:28:37,919
Speaker 2: But recently something has changed and I need your advice.

707
00:28:38,000 --> 00:28:38,600
Speaker 3: Here we go.

708
00:28:39,840 --> 00:28:41,560
Speaker 2: So, as I just mentioned, we had a few chats

709
00:28:41,600 --> 00:28:45,120
Speaker 2: and established everything was all good, and everything genuinely seemed

710
00:28:45,160 --> 00:28:47,520
Speaker 2: all good. But last week I came to UNI and

711
00:28:47,520 --> 00:28:49,880
Speaker 2: Ethan was just being a straight up dick. That's men

712
00:28:49,960 --> 00:28:54,520
Speaker 2: for you, bab. For context, He's concerned about the progression

713
00:28:54,520 --> 00:28:57,920
Speaker 2: of his uniicorse and has recently deferred, which understandably would

714
00:28:57,960 --> 00:28:58,880
Speaker 2: make him feel stressed.

715
00:28:59,320 --> 00:29:00,920
Speaker 1: But he was behaving like it was my fault.

716
00:29:00,960 --> 00:29:03,080
Speaker 2: He was so overwhelmed, and the next few times I

717
00:29:03,120 --> 00:29:05,400
Speaker 2: see him, he's just giving me the cold shoulder completely,

718
00:29:05,800 --> 00:29:09,000
Speaker 2: no hello, no goodbye, nothing, but he's normal with everyone else.

719
00:29:09,400 --> 00:29:11,760
Speaker 2: I'm so confused. I thought we were all good. I

720
00:29:11,800 --> 00:29:13,480
Speaker 2: reached out to him on Instagram and ask if he's

721
00:29:13,480 --> 00:29:15,880
Speaker 2: all right. I mentioned that I thought everything was good

722
00:29:15,880 --> 00:29:17,560
Speaker 2: between us, and now all of a sudden, he's giving

723
00:29:17,600 --> 00:29:20,120
Speaker 2: me the cold shoulder, and he responds to my lengthy

724
00:29:20,160 --> 00:29:22,160
Speaker 2: paragraph with nah, we're all good.

725
00:29:22,240 --> 00:29:25,520
Speaker 1: I'm just being weird, that's it. But way yeah, but whit,

726
00:29:25,640 --> 00:29:26,240
Speaker 1: I needn't help.

727
00:29:26,600 --> 00:29:28,320
Speaker 2: I saw him again the other night and he said hello,

728
00:29:28,360 --> 00:29:29,840
Speaker 2: but it was very brief, and I could tell he

729
00:29:29,920 --> 00:29:32,080
Speaker 2: only did it because I called him out in my message.

730
00:29:32,360 --> 00:29:33,840
Speaker 1: I tried to my conversation.

731
00:29:33,480 --> 00:29:35,640
Speaker 2: With him later and he just responds with dry answers

732
00:29:35,680 --> 00:29:38,360
Speaker 2: that don't welcome any more. Responses from me. Girl, that's

733
00:29:38,360 --> 00:29:40,600
Speaker 2: when you stop. I don't understand and switch up. He

734
00:29:40,640 --> 00:29:42,760
Speaker 2: went from being normal and now he suddenly acting like

735
00:29:42,760 --> 00:29:45,080
Speaker 2: I have the plague. I understand he's dealing with other

736
00:29:45,080 --> 00:29:46,840
Speaker 2: shit in his life right now, but I don't understand

737
00:29:46,840 --> 00:29:48,400
Speaker 2: why he switched up to me all of a sudden.

738
00:29:48,760 --> 00:29:50,720
Speaker 2: He's the one that didn't want to date me, and

739
00:29:50,760 --> 00:29:53,320
Speaker 2: now that I'm finally happy and over him and not

740
00:29:53,360 --> 00:29:55,760
Speaker 2: constantly moping around, he's making me feeling like shit for

741
00:29:55,840 --> 00:29:58,080
Speaker 2: just existing and saying hello, what's happening?

742
00:29:58,240 --> 00:30:01,280
Speaker 1: Help? Okay, you're not going to want to hear this.

743
00:30:02,040 --> 00:30:02,800
Speaker 1: You're not over.

744
00:30:02,680 --> 00:30:07,120
Speaker 2: Him, because if you were, you wouldn't care so much

745
00:30:07,200 --> 00:30:09,000
Speaker 2: if he is not giving you the time of day,

746
00:30:09,440 --> 00:30:12,680
Speaker 2: because it's very normal to not give the time of

747
00:30:12,760 --> 00:30:14,640
Speaker 2: day to someone that you used to see and like

748
00:30:14,680 --> 00:30:17,760
Speaker 2: over do you know what I mean? Like, it's really challenging.

749
00:30:17,800 --> 00:30:20,360
Speaker 2: I think to maneuver back to friends after something was

750
00:30:20,440 --> 00:30:22,680
Speaker 2: like that, Like I can be friendly with my ex's fine.

751
00:30:23,400 --> 00:30:25,680
Speaker 2: I don't really know that. I particularly am I am

752
00:30:25,720 --> 00:30:28,880
Speaker 2: with my first one friendly. We're never going to be friends.

753
00:30:28,920 --> 00:30:31,120
Speaker 2: We'll say hi. It's always a little bit awkward. It's

754
00:30:31,120 --> 00:30:34,000
Speaker 2: a little bit stiff. You know, it's very obvious neither

755
00:30:34,000 --> 00:30:35,960
Speaker 2: of us particularly want to be a part of the conversation,

756
00:30:36,000 --> 00:30:36,960
Speaker 2: and we just move forward.

757
00:30:37,080 --> 00:30:37,240
Speaker 1: You know.

758
00:30:37,840 --> 00:30:40,640
Speaker 2: I think you wanting to be friends with someone that

759
00:30:40,680 --> 00:30:43,320
Speaker 2: there was a lot going on with is very sweet

760
00:30:43,360 --> 00:30:45,360
Speaker 2: and it's like it's a dream world, but it's not

761
00:30:45,400 --> 00:30:47,720
Speaker 2: really the reality, and it's like, yeah, things were great,

762
00:30:47,760 --> 00:30:51,240
Speaker 2: but I think once maybe he's realized that you aren't

763
00:30:51,320 --> 00:30:53,600
Speaker 2: giving him the attention anymore and you are trying to

764
00:30:53,640 --> 00:30:54,680
Speaker 2: move forward, he's now.

765
00:30:54,560 --> 00:30:58,160
Speaker 1: Like fuck this, and a shitty as that is.

766
00:30:58,280 --> 00:30:59,720
Speaker 2: You kind of just have to let him if you

767
00:30:59,760 --> 00:31:02,280
Speaker 2: don't want to be with this guy, which I know

768
00:31:02,320 --> 00:31:04,920
Speaker 2: you did, but I don't think you should because you

769
00:31:04,960 --> 00:31:06,920
Speaker 2: want to be with someone that's going to choose you.

770
00:31:06,920 --> 00:31:09,360
Speaker 2: You need to stop caring that he's not giving you

771
00:31:09,400 --> 00:31:10,200
Speaker 2: the time of day that you.

772
00:31:10,120 --> 00:31:13,000
Speaker 4: Would like, because it's a care for men. I can

773
00:31:13,120 --> 00:31:14,760
Speaker 4: just tell that's still a bit caught up.

774
00:31:14,960 --> 00:31:17,800
Speaker 2: You're dwelling on something that you can't change over a

775
00:31:17,840 --> 00:31:21,360
Speaker 2: guy that you are too good for because he didn't

776
00:31:21,440 --> 00:31:24,520
Speaker 2: choose you and he clearly wasn't going to. And I

777
00:31:24,520 --> 00:31:26,360
Speaker 2: think the way you hang it it was so mature,

778
00:31:26,440 --> 00:31:28,360
Speaker 2: and I think right now, you just need.

779
00:31:28,240 --> 00:31:29,120
Speaker 1: To let him.

780
00:31:29,280 --> 00:31:30,760
Speaker 2: He wants to be grumpy, and if he wants to

781
00:31:30,760 --> 00:31:33,560
Speaker 2: move brown and give you blunt answers, let him. Don't

782
00:31:33,600 --> 00:31:35,680
Speaker 2: go on his shading convo, don't go asking him things

783
00:31:35,680 --> 00:31:38,040
Speaker 2: about his life, because once again, it's showing him that

784
00:31:38,120 --> 00:31:40,880
Speaker 2: you still care, and a boy like that needs that.

785
00:31:40,920 --> 00:31:42,280
Speaker 2: And then at the moment he knows that you still

786
00:31:42,280 --> 00:31:44,280
Speaker 2: care and you fuck up and cry and say that

787
00:31:44,320 --> 00:31:46,040
Speaker 2: you miss him, he'll go back to normal again. He'll

788
00:31:46,040 --> 00:31:47,640
Speaker 2: bell happy again, because that's all he wanted in the

789
00:31:47,640 --> 00:31:48,120
Speaker 2: first place.

790
00:31:48,480 --> 00:31:51,320
Speaker 4: And maybe just maybe he's doing the man thing where

791
00:31:51,360 --> 00:31:53,680
Speaker 4: maybe the feelings have caught up to him later on

792
00:31:53,720 --> 00:31:55,920
Speaker 4: and he's seeing her move on and now he's pissed and.

793
00:31:55,880 --> 00:31:57,320
Speaker 1: So now I was like, this is so annoying, but

794
00:31:57,320 --> 00:31:58,920
Speaker 1: that's Validata, Yeah, but you need.

795
00:31:58,840 --> 00:32:00,400
Speaker 2: To continue to show him that you have moved on

796
00:32:00,480 --> 00:32:02,680
Speaker 2: by don't text him, don't tell him you're here for him,

797
00:32:02,680 --> 00:32:04,200
Speaker 2: and you're there if you need.

798
00:32:05,080 --> 00:32:05,760
Speaker 1: No.

799
00:32:05,760 --> 00:32:08,920
Speaker 2: No, I've always done that, and that's I feel like

800
00:32:09,280 --> 00:32:12,080
Speaker 2: I'm like teaching you guys through my mistakes. I'm like

801
00:32:12,200 --> 00:32:14,880
Speaker 2: not coming from a place of like I've done the

802
00:32:14,920 --> 00:32:16,880
Speaker 2: good thing here and it's worked. Out really well, I'm

803
00:32:16,920 --> 00:32:19,240
Speaker 2: saying I've done what you're about to and I've done

804
00:32:19,240 --> 00:32:22,360
Speaker 2: all this shit that you don't want to, and this

805
00:32:22,400 --> 00:32:24,880
Speaker 2: is how it turned out. So we're all going to

806
00:32:24,960 --> 00:32:27,320
Speaker 2: learn to do the opposite as a collective. And you

807
00:32:27,360 --> 00:32:29,080
Speaker 2: need to just pretend like he doesn't exist anymore. And

808
00:32:29,120 --> 00:32:30,880
Speaker 2: if he wants to be MOPy, let him be MOPy.

809
00:32:31,440 --> 00:32:32,800
Speaker 3: Okay, Submission number two.

810
00:32:33,000 --> 00:32:36,160
Speaker 4: I've ended up in a love triangle with two best friends,

811
00:32:36,480 --> 00:32:39,520
Speaker 4: and now I feel I've ruined an entire friendship group

812
00:32:39,600 --> 00:32:41,240
Speaker 4: over one drunk mistake.

813
00:32:42,040 --> 00:32:43,240
Speaker 3: Shit, I'm excited for this.

814
00:32:44,000 --> 00:32:45,880
Speaker 4: I met them both through Mitchell Friends, and we all

815
00:32:45,880 --> 00:32:48,960
Speaker 4: became really close. We'd go out together, group, dinners, the

816
00:32:49,040 --> 00:32:52,320
Speaker 4: whole thing. Me three, No, probably, I think that's the three.

817
00:32:52,360 --> 00:32:55,000
Speaker 4: That's what I'm getting so far. Me and one of

818
00:32:55,040 --> 00:32:58,680
Speaker 4: the guys got closed pretty quickly. We were and in brackets.

819
00:32:58,720 --> 00:33:03,840
Speaker 4: I'm so sorry. Izzy talking on Snapchat and sending and

820
00:33:03,880 --> 00:33:07,280
Speaker 4: sending stupid reels all the time, flirting, and everyone kind

821
00:33:07,280 --> 00:33:09,720
Speaker 4: of assumed we were going to end up together. Don't

822
00:33:09,720 --> 00:33:10,880
Speaker 4: send reels on Snapchat.

823
00:33:11,360 --> 00:33:13,760
Speaker 2: No, they were sending reels on stature. I think they're

824
00:33:13,760 --> 00:33:16,480
Speaker 2: sending reels on Instagram. Okay, also going on such just

825
00:33:16,560 --> 00:33:18,080
Speaker 2: needed to make that clear guy the way, guys, I

826
00:33:18,080 --> 00:33:19,560
Speaker 2: want you to know that I still haven't.

827
00:33:19,280 --> 00:33:20,760
Speaker 1: Gotten that back. I'm done.

828
00:33:20,800 --> 00:33:21,400
Speaker 3: I'm so proud.

829
00:33:21,400 --> 00:33:23,000
Speaker 1: I'm of snapchat. I am now.

830
00:33:23,480 --> 00:33:26,200
Speaker 2: I feel like I'm regulating at a higher frequency. Then

831
00:33:26,240 --> 00:33:29,520
Speaker 2: you didn't backtrack, No, she's gone. But the thing is,

832
00:33:30,080 --> 00:33:33,200
Speaker 2: he never actually did anything about it. I mean like

833
00:33:33,240 --> 00:33:34,840
Speaker 2: they were getting really close, they were talking about that

834
00:33:34,880 --> 00:33:35,960
Speaker 2: was snapchatting.

835
00:33:35,480 --> 00:33:37,239
Speaker 4: But like nothing ever came of it, no proper day,

836
00:33:37,240 --> 00:33:40,680
Speaker 4: it's no clear intention. It was just it was just vibes,

837
00:33:41,080 --> 00:33:44,200
Speaker 4: always is. We would never hang out just us or

838
00:33:44,240 --> 00:33:46,640
Speaker 4: if I sparked the idea. It was like a big

839
00:33:46,720 --> 00:33:48,680
Speaker 4: joke to him, and I started feeling like I was

840
00:33:48,680 --> 00:33:49,720
Speaker 4: begging for his attention.

841
00:33:50,160 --> 00:33:52,520
Speaker 1: Sounds like he wanted the attention, but nothing that came

842
00:33:52,560 --> 00:33:52,720
Speaker 1: of it.

843
00:33:53,000 --> 00:33:55,640
Speaker 4: Yeah, I started to pull away a bit to see

844
00:33:55,680 --> 00:33:58,800
Speaker 4: if you'd do anything. Meanwhile, his best friend started putting

845
00:33:58,880 --> 00:34:01,720
Speaker 4: in actual effort asking me to hang out one on one,

846
00:34:01,840 --> 00:34:05,120
Speaker 4: being really direct, making it obviously liked me. I tried

847
00:34:05,120 --> 00:34:06,520
Speaker 4: to ignore it at first.

848
00:34:06,280 --> 00:34:08,960
Speaker 1: Oh my god, why this is the guy that's actually.

849
00:34:08,560 --> 00:34:12,800
Speaker 4: Interested in you because of the situation, But I eventually

850
00:34:12,840 --> 00:34:16,120
Speaker 4: started liking him too. One night, after we all went out,

851
00:34:16,280 --> 00:34:19,000
Speaker 4: I ended up going back with the best friend and

852
00:34:19,080 --> 00:34:22,359
Speaker 4: we hooked up and like the whole shebang, we had

853
00:34:22,760 --> 00:34:25,360
Speaker 4: the greatest chat I think I've ever had, Although I

854
00:34:25,400 --> 00:34:27,279
Speaker 4: don't know if it was just because I was a

855
00:34:27,320 --> 00:34:30,120
Speaker 4: dozen glasses of wine down or if it was actually

856
00:34:30,120 --> 00:34:32,799
Speaker 4: that good. We both agreed to keep it quiet because

857
00:34:32,840 --> 00:34:35,800
Speaker 4: we knew it could blow things up A few weeks later, Well.

858
00:34:35,600 --> 00:34:38,640
Speaker 2: The moment you decided to keep something quiet is the

859
00:34:38,640 --> 00:34:39,920
Speaker 2: beginning of the fucking end.

860
00:34:40,360 --> 00:34:41,440
Speaker 1: And I will just.

861
00:34:41,680 --> 00:34:44,279
Speaker 2: Like, yes, you might hurt someone's feelings a little bit

862
00:34:44,320 --> 00:34:48,719
Speaker 2: more initially, it is only going to snowball into something worse.

863
00:34:48,800 --> 00:34:52,520
Speaker 2: The longer you keep a secret from experience, from witnessing

864
00:34:52,560 --> 00:34:55,719
Speaker 2: other people's It's like it's gonna hurt regardless.

865
00:34:55,760 --> 00:34:57,440
Speaker 1: You may as well say it when it happens, do

866
00:34:57,440 --> 00:34:58,080
Speaker 1: you know what I mean?

867
00:34:58,160 --> 00:34:58,799
Speaker 3: Yeah?

868
00:34:58,840 --> 00:35:00,960
Speaker 2: And the other the friend right now is like what,

869
00:35:01,080 --> 00:35:03,160
Speaker 2: he was just snapchatting you like he's irrelevant.

870
00:35:03,840 --> 00:35:05,680
Speaker 3: A few weeks later, we were all at a party.

871
00:35:05,840 --> 00:35:10,080
Speaker 4: Everyone was drinking, and somehow the topic of relationships came up.

872
00:35:10,480 --> 00:35:12,839
Speaker 4: The first guy started making jokes about how I owed

873
00:35:12,880 --> 00:35:15,240
Speaker 4: him a date and how will basically a slow burn?

874
00:35:15,480 --> 00:35:17,400
Speaker 4: I laughed it off, but his best friend went a

875
00:35:17,400 --> 00:35:19,920
Speaker 4: bit quiet. Then later in the night, after a few

876
00:35:19,920 --> 00:35:23,200
Speaker 4: too many drinks, the best friend just said it, straight up,

877
00:35:23,320 --> 00:35:26,399
Speaker 4: no filter, in front of him. You can't call it

878
00:35:26,440 --> 00:35:29,640
Speaker 4: a slow burn when she's been in my bed. Now

879
00:35:30,520 --> 00:35:34,680
Speaker 4: and story ends, Now everything is chaos. Oh my god,

880
00:35:34,719 --> 00:35:36,640
Speaker 4: what a time to end this story.

881
00:35:37,160 --> 00:35:37,960
Speaker 1: I needed more?

882
00:35:38,160 --> 00:35:40,799
Speaker 3: Yeah hunh, because I know there was more.

883
00:35:41,040 --> 00:35:42,600
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, how did you not tell us?

884
00:35:43,000 --> 00:35:44,600
Speaker 3: Is everyone okay? Are they contras?

885
00:35:44,640 --> 00:35:45,480
Speaker 1: What did the best friends say?

886
00:35:45,520 --> 00:35:45,640
Speaker 3: Well?

887
00:35:45,640 --> 00:35:46,200
Speaker 1: The best all right?

888
00:35:46,280 --> 00:35:49,040
Speaker 2: The initial guy needs to just get over it. Obviously

889
00:35:49,040 --> 00:35:50,839
Speaker 2: it sucks, but he didn't put any evidence. He had

890
00:35:50,840 --> 00:35:54,160
Speaker 2: every chance to, and he didn't. You didn't do anything

891
00:35:54,200 --> 00:35:56,520
Speaker 2: with him, therefore you're going for the friend. Don't really

892
00:35:56,560 --> 00:35:59,640
Speaker 2: think it's that big a deal. I actually really don't know,

893
00:36:00,239 --> 00:36:03,360
Speaker 2: Like you and the first guy didn't progress anywhere.

894
00:36:03,480 --> 00:36:06,600
Speaker 4: No, that was a friendship, and he also had to

895
00:36:06,640 --> 00:36:08,960
Speaker 4: participated in a conversation. Yeah, wrap things up, Like.

896
00:36:08,960 --> 00:36:11,040
Speaker 2: What you were having with that first friend is a friendship.

897
00:36:11,120 --> 00:36:13,080
Speaker 2: Maybe he had a crush on you, fine, but unless

898
00:36:13,080 --> 00:36:15,040
Speaker 2: he's going to verbalize that, then there's nothing you can

899
00:36:15,080 --> 00:36:18,520
Speaker 2: do about it. Yeah, so irrelevant. I don't like the

900
00:36:18,560 --> 00:36:20,200
Speaker 2: way the best friend said that.

901
00:36:21,080 --> 00:36:21,840
Speaker 3: It's crazy.

902
00:36:22,080 --> 00:36:23,800
Speaker 2: I think he should have said it with a little

903
00:36:23,840 --> 00:36:27,480
Speaker 2: bit more kindness, or like saying, well, you know, like

904
00:36:27,560 --> 00:36:28,600
Speaker 2: it's not really a slow burn.

905
00:36:29,200 --> 00:36:31,399
Speaker 1: We've actually been chatting. I actually really like her.

906
00:36:31,880 --> 00:36:33,759
Speaker 2: We've been hanging out, like you know what I mean,

907
00:36:33,800 --> 00:36:40,359
Speaker 2: like not she'd fucking men. But I want to give

908
00:36:40,360 --> 00:36:42,920
Speaker 2: you more advice, but I need I need a follow

909
00:36:43,000 --> 00:36:46,879
Speaker 2: up quickly. I'm locking my lips until you give me one. Girl,

910
00:36:47,000 --> 00:36:48,120
Speaker 2: I'm holding your hostage.

911
00:36:48,280 --> 00:36:51,359
Speaker 3: I need quickly. Look, I'm like, surely you didn't end

912
00:36:51,360 --> 00:36:51,680
Speaker 3: it there.

913
00:36:52,120 --> 00:36:54,320
Speaker 1: It's like a cliffhangerf.

914
00:36:53,840 --> 00:36:58,359
Speaker 4: You can't be doing that. Guys, I'm a bit embarrassed.

915
00:36:58,640 --> 00:37:00,560
Speaker 4: But that submission was cut off.

916
00:37:00,640 --> 00:37:01,200
Speaker 1: We have more.

917
00:37:01,440 --> 00:37:03,560
Speaker 4: Oh my god, don't for it. So, guys, were that

918
00:37:03,640 --> 00:37:07,480
Speaker 4: left off? Best friend drop the bomb? Story ends? We return.

919
00:37:08,200 --> 00:37:12,200
Speaker 4: I laughed it off. Sorry I laughed it off, but

920
00:37:12,320 --> 00:37:14,760
Speaker 4: his best friend went a bit quiet, as you would

921
00:37:15,360 --> 00:37:18,319
Speaker 4: like what. I've never been more horrified in my life.

922
00:37:18,920 --> 00:37:21,359
Speaker 4: Now he feels completely betrayed by the both of us

923
00:37:21,400 --> 00:37:23,759
Speaker 4: and is saying we went behind his back. The best

924
00:37:23,760 --> 00:37:26,399
Speaker 4: friend is like nothing was ever official and doesn't think

925
00:37:26,440 --> 00:37:29,759
Speaker 4: we did anything wrong. I know it was wrong, but

926
00:37:29,840 --> 00:37:31,799
Speaker 4: I just wish it didn't blow up the way it did.

927
00:37:32,160 --> 00:37:34,759
Speaker 4: The group is now split, everything's awkward, and I feel

928
00:37:34,800 --> 00:37:37,200
Speaker 4: like I'm being blamed for the whole thing. The worst

929
00:37:37,200 --> 00:37:39,719
Speaker 4: part is I actually like the best friend more, but

930
00:37:39,800 --> 00:37:41,560
Speaker 4: now I don't know if it's even worth it after

931
00:37:41,600 --> 00:37:42,360
Speaker 4: all this drama.

932
00:37:42,719 --> 00:37:43,480
Speaker 3: So what do I do?

933
00:37:43,760 --> 00:37:46,360
Speaker 4: A keep seeing the best friend and accept the fallout,

934
00:37:46,719 --> 00:37:48,760
Speaker 4: be end it and make amends.

935
00:37:48,320 --> 00:37:49,080
Speaker 3: With the first guy.

936
00:37:49,520 --> 00:37:52,200
Speaker 4: See remove myself from both of them because it's all

937
00:37:52,239 --> 00:37:53,000
Speaker 4: too messy.

938
00:37:53,640 --> 00:37:57,160
Speaker 2: B is a stupid answer. I didn't end it and

939
00:37:57,160 --> 00:38:00,239
Speaker 2: make amends in the first guy. No, No, keep being

940
00:38:00,280 --> 00:38:02,680
Speaker 2: the best friend. Boys will fix it in their own time.

941
00:38:02,760 --> 00:38:05,239
Speaker 2: They absolutely will. It wasn't your fault. Yes, a little

942
00:38:05,280 --> 00:38:07,600
Speaker 2: bit of a communication wouldn't have gone astray. But I

943
00:38:07,640 --> 00:38:10,120
Speaker 2: also don't know if that was totally on you to

944
00:38:10,200 --> 00:38:13,720
Speaker 2: communicate that if you like this other guy, Yeah, ideally

945
00:38:13,760 --> 00:38:15,640
Speaker 2: I didn't like the way that he mentioned that to

946
00:38:15,719 --> 00:38:17,320
Speaker 2: his friend, like it was like he was rubbing it

947
00:38:17,360 --> 00:38:19,560
Speaker 2: in his face, and I think it's giving a little

948
00:38:19,560 --> 00:38:21,759
Speaker 2: bit arrogant. But keep seeing the guy that you like

949
00:38:21,840 --> 00:38:24,000
Speaker 2: and the one that puts effort in with you, you know,

950
00:38:24,840 --> 00:38:26,440
Speaker 2: and the other guy just will need to get over

951
00:38:26,440 --> 00:38:28,759
Speaker 2: it at some point realistically, because if he wasn't ever

952
00:38:28,760 --> 00:38:32,560
Speaker 2: going to make that effort, he will understand that eventually. Okay, next,

953
00:38:33,520 --> 00:38:35,080
Speaker 2: I feel like this might be a little bit more

954
00:38:35,080 --> 00:38:37,160
Speaker 2: of an am I the asshole? However, I still need

955
00:38:37,200 --> 00:38:39,640
Speaker 2: your help, so I love and am I the asshole.

956
00:38:39,960 --> 00:38:41,960
Speaker 2: About two years ago, my friend moved into state to

957
00:38:42,000 --> 00:38:44,160
Speaker 2: start her new life with her boyfriend, as he is

958
00:38:44,239 --> 00:38:47,840
Speaker 2: a Fifax worker flying fly out for those who don't know,

959
00:38:48,400 --> 00:38:50,520
Speaker 2: and needed to be living in that state full time

960
00:38:50,560 --> 00:38:52,520
Speaker 2: to hold his five faux job. At the time, I

961
00:38:52,560 --> 00:38:54,640
Speaker 2: was so upset that she would be leaving, but I

962
00:38:54,719 --> 00:38:56,359
Speaker 2: knew that she loves him and she needed to do

963
00:38:56,440 --> 00:39:00,000
Speaker 2: this for both of them. Understandable, she packed up, said goodbye,

964
00:39:00,080 --> 00:39:02,240
Speaker 2: and has now been living interstate for three years.

965
00:39:02,719 --> 00:39:02,959
Speaker 3: Shit.

966
00:39:03,520 --> 00:39:06,120
Speaker 2: Of course, this was destined to be a different friendship now,

967
00:39:06,160 --> 00:39:07,880
Speaker 2: as she's living in a different state and we are

968
00:39:07,880 --> 00:39:10,440
Speaker 2: no longer a twenty minute drive from each other. However,

969
00:39:10,480 --> 00:39:12,600
Speaker 2: we kept in close contact from the first year she

970
00:39:12,719 --> 00:39:15,239
Speaker 2: was there, texted every day, we'ld call all the time,

971
00:39:15,360 --> 00:39:18,279
Speaker 2: FaceTime on the odd occasion, etc. So close that I

972
00:39:18,320 --> 00:39:20,440
Speaker 2: went and spent a week with her as she needed

973
00:39:20,440 --> 00:39:21,799
Speaker 2: a friend to be there with her, and I also

974
00:39:21,920 --> 00:39:24,640
Speaker 2: really missed her. I knew how much it was hurting

975
00:39:24,640 --> 00:39:26,640
Speaker 2: her being alone for one week while her partner was

976
00:39:26,680 --> 00:39:29,160
Speaker 2: out for work that week. She knew minimal people and

977
00:39:29,200 --> 00:39:32,040
Speaker 2: all of her family and friends still live back in Melbourne.

978
00:39:32,200 --> 00:39:34,200
Speaker 2: When I took the trip to see her, she introduced

979
00:39:34,200 --> 00:39:36,520
Speaker 2: me to her new friends from a local sports team.

980
00:39:36,920 --> 00:39:38,640
Speaker 2: It was great. I was so happy to see her

981
00:39:38,640 --> 00:39:40,640
Speaker 2: doing what she needed to do and also making new

982
00:39:40,680 --> 00:39:42,720
Speaker 2: friends given we don't live with her anymore.

983
00:39:43,520 --> 00:39:44,960
Speaker 1: Fast forward three months.

984
00:39:44,760 --> 00:39:46,960
Speaker 2: After my trip to see her, the contact became very

985
00:39:47,000 --> 00:39:50,640
Speaker 2: minimal and what I felt very one sided. But I thought,

986
00:39:50,680 --> 00:39:52,480
Speaker 2: she's got new friends, she's going to be hanging out

987
00:39:52,480 --> 00:39:54,640
Speaker 2: with them now, and she's also starting a new life.

988
00:39:54,800 --> 00:39:57,120
Speaker 2: I can't be so upset. I'm happy that she's finally

989
00:39:57,160 --> 00:39:59,080
Speaker 2: finding her feet. I then thought, I'm going to call

990
00:39:59,080 --> 00:40:00,680
Speaker 2: her and see how things are going. We spoke for

991
00:40:00,719 --> 00:40:03,080
Speaker 2: two hours, had a really good catch up. Meanwhile, keep

992
00:40:03,080 --> 00:40:05,839
Speaker 2: in mind that I also had asked her during our chat,

993
00:40:05,880 --> 00:40:07,960
Speaker 2: are you planning on coming down to Melbourne again so

994
00:40:08,040 --> 00:40:10,239
Speaker 2: we can see each other? She said, we don't have

995
00:40:10,280 --> 00:40:12,399
Speaker 2: any flights books at this stage, and I said, that's fine,

996
00:40:12,440 --> 00:40:13,520
Speaker 2: just let me know when you do so we.

997
00:40:13,520 --> 00:40:14,400
Speaker 1: Can organize something.

998
00:40:15,160 --> 00:40:18,040
Speaker 2: Fast forward another three months, very minimal contact and a

999
00:40:18,040 --> 00:40:20,040
Speaker 2: text here and there, maybe once a week. It was

1000
00:40:20,120 --> 00:40:23,239
Speaker 2: practically nothing at this point. However, I'm still thinking the

1001
00:40:23,239 --> 00:40:25,400
Speaker 2: same as I did last time. She's got our new friends,

1002
00:40:25,440 --> 00:40:27,439
Speaker 2: her new life. Just leave it and be happy for her.

1003
00:40:27,960 --> 00:40:30,360
Speaker 2: Until one random Tuesday night I got home and my

1004
00:40:30,440 --> 00:40:33,200
Speaker 2: sister said, oh, I got a message from Millie today

1005
00:40:33,280 --> 00:40:35,799
Speaker 2: asking how I am, how's work, how's the dogs, etc.

1006
00:40:36,160 --> 00:40:38,480
Speaker 2: And I couldn't believe it. I'm assuming that means the

1007
00:40:38,520 --> 00:40:41,279
Speaker 2: chick's message her sister and not her. An hour later,

1008
00:40:41,320 --> 00:40:43,120
Speaker 2: my brother got home and said the exact same thing,

1009
00:40:43,200 --> 00:40:45,640
Speaker 2: and I burst into tears. I was so hurt that

1010
00:40:45,680 --> 00:40:47,560
Speaker 2: after everything I'd done for her, she would message my

1011
00:40:47,600 --> 00:40:49,840
Speaker 2: siblings to ask how they were and what about me.

1012
00:40:50,440 --> 00:40:52,879
Speaker 2: I left it and I didn't say anything. Fast Forward

1013
00:40:52,880 --> 00:40:55,160
Speaker 2: to my birthday, which is in May. Mind you, this

1014
00:40:55,280 --> 00:40:57,560
Speaker 2: was May last year. I got a message from her

1015
00:40:57,560 --> 00:41:00,400
Speaker 2: in the morning giving me the biggest amount of birthday wishes,

1016
00:41:00,440 --> 00:41:02,120
Speaker 2: and I misuse and I said the same back and

1017
00:41:02,200 --> 00:41:04,560
Speaker 2: left it until we got to dinner and my brother

1018
00:41:04,600 --> 00:41:07,879
Speaker 2: said to me, Oh, Millie's in Melbourne, to which I replied, yeah,

1019
00:41:08,000 --> 00:41:10,480
Speaker 2: you're funny. He then turned his phone around and showed

1020
00:41:10,520 --> 00:41:12,040
Speaker 2: me a photo of what she had posted on her

1021
00:41:12,080 --> 00:41:15,200
Speaker 2: Instagram story of her at the MCG watching a footy game.

1022
00:41:15,840 --> 00:41:17,280
Speaker 1: Again. I burst into tears.

1023
00:41:17,440 --> 00:41:19,160
Speaker 2: To think that my best friend could be in Melbourne

1024
00:41:19,239 --> 00:41:21,520
Speaker 2: on my birthday and not tell me about it absolutely

1025
00:41:21,560 --> 00:41:25,000
Speaker 2: broke my heart, and of all days since my last year,

1026
00:41:25,040 --> 00:41:26,880
Speaker 2: I've completely cut contact with her and I have not

1027
00:41:26,960 --> 00:41:29,400
Speaker 2: heard from her ever since. Sometimes I think that I'm

1028
00:41:29,400 --> 00:41:32,160
Speaker 2: an asshole because I cut this off. However, I just

1029
00:41:32,200 --> 00:41:33,799
Speaker 2: think that a new life in the state took over

1030
00:41:33,840 --> 00:41:36,399
Speaker 2: and simply that's what it was, or has this been

1031
00:41:36,440 --> 00:41:39,000
Speaker 2: destined to happen, and giving the distant contacts we already

1032
00:41:39,040 --> 00:41:42,000
Speaker 2: have been experiencing, there's no bad blood. I still miss

1033
00:41:42,000 --> 00:41:44,120
Speaker 2: that eight year friendship we did have. I get friendships

1034
00:41:44,160 --> 00:41:46,080
Speaker 2: grow and move on, but sometimes I think this didn't

1035
00:41:46,120 --> 00:41:46,840
Speaker 2: need to be the case.

1036
00:41:47,280 --> 00:41:48,040
Speaker 1: What are your thoughts?

1037
00:41:48,560 --> 00:41:52,880
Speaker 4: Wow, it is so funny how someone can be so

1038
00:41:53,160 --> 00:41:56,160
Speaker 4: instrumental in your life and then you do become stranger.

1039
00:41:56,280 --> 00:41:58,279
Speaker 4: This is all of a sudden, so I get why

1040
00:41:58,320 --> 00:42:01,320
Speaker 4: she's a bit hung up on this and maybe thinking

1041
00:42:01,360 --> 00:42:04,720
Speaker 4: whatever I had done something differently, should I have blocked her?

1042
00:42:05,120 --> 00:42:09,319
Speaker 4: I don't think every situation needs to be perfectly amended.

1043
00:42:09,520 --> 00:42:12,759
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think even like her birthday message show, she

1044
00:42:12,800 --> 00:42:16,000
Speaker 2: obviously still cares. I think the being in Melbourne on

1045
00:42:16,000 --> 00:42:18,640
Speaker 2: your birthday and messaging the siblings is a little bit hurtful.

1046
00:42:18,719 --> 00:42:22,759
Speaker 2: But I like, one of my good friends moved to

1047
00:42:23,200 --> 00:42:25,880
Speaker 2: London right after our Europe trip together and like as

1048
00:42:25,960 --> 00:42:27,960
Speaker 2: much I would have loved to stay in contact regularly,

1049
00:42:28,560 --> 00:42:30,719
Speaker 2: we just did it, you know. And it's just because

1050
00:42:30,760 --> 00:42:33,760
Speaker 2: our life is so busy and it's so hard unless

1051
00:42:33,760 --> 00:42:36,239
Speaker 2: you're regularly catching up with someone to then fill them in.

1052
00:42:36,280 --> 00:42:38,120
Speaker 2: And I think the more time that passes, the harder

1053
00:42:38,160 --> 00:42:41,719
Speaker 2: it is. Like the longer I go between seeing a friend,

1054
00:42:41,880 --> 00:42:43,880
Speaker 2: the harder it like, the less you almost want to

1055
00:42:43,920 --> 00:42:45,920
Speaker 2: catch up because it's like so much has gone on.

1056
00:42:46,560 --> 00:42:47,239
Speaker 3: And it's so hard.

1057
00:42:47,280 --> 00:42:49,439
Speaker 4: I have a friend in America at the moment, she's

1058
00:42:49,480 --> 00:42:52,080
Speaker 4: living over there, and we just like we can't fit

1059
00:42:52,120 --> 00:42:54,799
Speaker 4: in a FaceTime. It's just really impossible, so hard, And

1060
00:42:54,840 --> 00:42:56,960
Speaker 4: I think from that front, she wants to know my

1061
00:42:57,000 --> 00:43:00,360
Speaker 4: life updates, but because so much happens week by, Like

1062
00:43:00,400 --> 00:43:01,759
Speaker 4: I forget things and she's like, no.

1063
00:43:01,719 --> 00:43:03,640
Speaker 1: I still really will everything I.

1064
00:43:03,600 --> 00:43:06,520
Speaker 4: Do think naturally, that is just a bit of a disconnect,

1065
00:43:06,560 --> 00:43:08,040
Speaker 4: and it's not in a bad way. It's just like

1066
00:43:08,080 --> 00:43:09,600
Speaker 4: simply your lives are so different.

1067
00:43:09,719 --> 00:43:11,719
Speaker 2: And it's like that friend of mine, the one that

1068
00:43:11,880 --> 00:43:13,800
Speaker 2: moved to Europe. It's like she came back to Melbourne

1069
00:43:13,800 --> 00:43:15,160
Speaker 2: a couple of weeks ago and it was like the

1070
00:43:15,200 --> 00:43:16,920
Speaker 2: best thing ever, and it was so amazing to see her,

1071
00:43:16,920 --> 00:43:18,759
Speaker 2: and we went and got coffee and we caught up

1072
00:43:18,800 --> 00:43:20,600
Speaker 2: like normal. And she's moving back, and I know that

1073
00:43:20,640 --> 00:43:22,480
Speaker 2: when she moves back, we will slot right back into

1074
00:43:22,480 --> 00:43:26,200
Speaker 2: our friendship. But sometimes when you're away, it's like you're

1075
00:43:26,280 --> 00:43:28,600
Speaker 2: running two completely separate lives and it just can be

1076
00:43:28,640 --> 00:43:30,920
Speaker 2: a lot. I think, Look, if you're meant to come

1077
00:43:30,920 --> 00:43:32,640
Speaker 2: back together, you will. You never know, she might end

1078
00:43:32,680 --> 00:43:35,000
Speaker 2: up back in Melbourne and maybe that friendship friendship can

1079
00:43:35,040 --> 00:43:37,960
Speaker 2: pick up right back where it left off. But I

1080
00:43:38,000 --> 00:43:41,600
Speaker 2: don't think it's ever good to take things too personally

1081
00:43:42,200 --> 00:43:43,560
Speaker 2: when someone's moved.

1082
00:43:43,920 --> 00:43:44,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, do you know what I mean?

1083
00:43:45,000 --> 00:43:47,200
Speaker 2: Even when I go on like longer holidays, I sometimes

1084
00:43:47,280 --> 00:43:49,279
Speaker 2: have some friends that get quite frustrated that I haven't

1085
00:43:49,280 --> 00:43:52,040
Speaker 2: been checking in or you know, I haven't been following

1086
00:43:52,120 --> 00:43:55,040
Speaker 2: up recently, and like I know now always I always

1087
00:43:55,080 --> 00:43:56,840
Speaker 2: give my friends grace when they're away if they're not

1088
00:43:56,880 --> 00:43:59,080
Speaker 2: catching up on me, because they're living a completely different

1089
00:43:59,080 --> 00:44:01,440
Speaker 2: life now and I'm not the center of that. I

1090
00:44:01,520 --> 00:44:04,120
Speaker 2: think it's challenging, but I don't think it's personal, and

1091
00:44:04,480 --> 00:44:07,680
Speaker 2: I think she obviously cares about you like she. I

1092
00:44:07,719 --> 00:44:11,040
Speaker 2: don't think anything's happened. I just think you're currently moving

1093
00:44:11,040 --> 00:44:12,520
Speaker 2: on two different timelines right now.

1094
00:44:12,640 --> 00:44:15,160
Speaker 4: Yeah, and it's unfortunate, but I have this with a

1095
00:44:15,200 --> 00:44:19,120
Speaker 4: few friends or friends in the past, like there isn't

1096
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Speaker 4: a perfect ending, and sometimes you do walk away and

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00:44:21,880 --> 00:44:24,120
Speaker 4: you're like, oh, we could have actually sorted that out,

1098
00:44:24,200 --> 00:44:26,520
Speaker 4: or we haven't spoke about it yet. Don't like think

1099
00:44:26,560 --> 00:44:28,960
Speaker 4: in finals like you actually probably will catch up with

1100
00:44:29,000 --> 00:44:31,239
Speaker 4: this person down the line and you will literally pick

1101
00:44:31,320 --> 00:44:31,920
Speaker 4: up right when you.

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00:44:32,360 --> 00:44:33,279
Speaker 1: Yeah, I do believe that.

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00:44:33,320 --> 00:44:35,080
Speaker 2: And I also was about say, oh, maybe, like I

1104
00:44:35,080 --> 00:44:37,680
Speaker 2: think if you messaged it earlier, but no, I actually disagree.

1105
00:44:37,760 --> 00:44:40,400
Speaker 2: I always find that getting a message from a friend

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00:44:40,440 --> 00:44:41,919
Speaker 2: saying oh, I don't really feel like you've been putting

1107
00:44:41,920 --> 00:44:44,040
Speaker 2: effort him recently or you know, you've been a bit

1108
00:44:44,120 --> 00:44:47,000
Speaker 2: Mia kind of makes things sit a bit weirder because

1109
00:44:47,000 --> 00:44:49,239
Speaker 2: none of it's ever intentional, and it just usually is

1110
00:44:49,280 --> 00:44:53,000
Speaker 2: circumstantial and like whatever's going on at the time, And

1111
00:44:53,000 --> 00:44:55,040
Speaker 2: then when someone says that, it almost feels a little

1112
00:44:55,080 --> 00:44:57,840
Speaker 2: bit jarring, like you haven't been messaging me either, like

1113
00:44:58,200 --> 00:44:58,879
Speaker 2: you know what I mean.

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Speaker 4: Sometimes you feel like the needs to be this big,

1115
00:45:01,280 --> 00:45:03,839
Speaker 4: clear reason, and sometimes it's not like yeah, I've gotten

1116
00:45:03,840 --> 00:45:05,799
Speaker 4: a few messages just like ah, we all good?

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00:45:05,880 --> 00:45:06,640
Speaker 3: Is everything okay?

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00:45:06,680 --> 00:45:09,160
Speaker 4: And it was usually after my move to Melbourne from Sydney,

1119
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Speaker 4: and like I do remember there was a point in

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Speaker 4: my life I couldn't come back to that message now,

1121
00:45:14,280 --> 00:45:17,040
Speaker 4: like revisiting that I'm friends with those people again, not

1122
00:45:17,080 --> 00:45:19,400
Speaker 4: that we weren't friends, but I think naturally you have

1123
00:45:19,520 --> 00:45:22,000
Speaker 4: things going on, there's a bit of distance at some point,

1124
00:45:22,080 --> 00:45:24,719
Speaker 4: you're going through things. You always do come back, yeah,

1125
00:45:24,719 --> 00:45:26,359
Speaker 4: and if you don't, they're probably just not the right friend.

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Speaker 2: Like right now, I think it makes me a little

1127
00:45:28,560 --> 00:45:31,960
Speaker 2: bit stressed because I noticed that I personally have like

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00:45:32,719 --> 00:45:34,840
Speaker 2: probably a little bit more distance than I used to

1129
00:45:34,880 --> 00:45:37,680
Speaker 2: have between a lot of my really close girlfriends just

1130
00:45:37,719 --> 00:45:40,440
Speaker 2: with how busy everything's been this year, and like we

1131
00:45:40,520 --> 00:45:42,680
Speaker 2: obviously have very different.

1132
00:45:42,440 --> 00:45:44,560
Speaker 1: Things going on in all of our lives, and you know.

1133
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Speaker 2: We're all away a lot, and where we spent summer

1134
00:45:47,200 --> 00:45:51,880
Speaker 2: was completely different, and it stresses me regularly that, like

1135
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Speaker 2: I don't hang out with those girls as much as

1136
00:45:53,600 --> 00:45:55,319
Speaker 2: I do, But I don't believe for a second that

1137
00:45:55,440 --> 00:45:58,040
Speaker 2: like when we will hang out, because we will, like

1138
00:45:58,080 --> 00:46:00,600
Speaker 2: the friendships aren't over. It's not just to go right

1139
00:46:00,600 --> 00:46:01,960
Speaker 2: back to the way it used to be. I just

1140
00:46:02,040 --> 00:46:04,640
Speaker 2: think right now, you know what, we're all twenty five,

1141
00:46:04,680 --> 00:46:07,120
Speaker 2: we're all moving in and out of all these different

1142
00:46:07,200 --> 00:46:10,480
Speaker 2: jobs and holidays, and sometimes that just happens. But I

1143
00:46:10,480 --> 00:46:12,960
Speaker 2: don't think it needs to reflect negatively on the friendship

1144
00:46:12,960 --> 00:46:16,160
Speaker 2: because I still think the like as fondly of those

1145
00:46:16,160 --> 00:46:18,160
Speaker 2: girls as I did when I was as close to them.

1146
00:46:18,200 --> 00:46:19,960
Speaker 2: It's like, and I would still consider them some of

1147
00:46:19,960 --> 00:46:23,680
Speaker 2: my closer friends if you asked. I just sadly haven't

1148
00:46:23,680 --> 00:46:25,759
Speaker 2: seen them in a while. It's like, maybe I need

1149
00:46:25,800 --> 00:46:28,040
Speaker 2: to change that. But it's like a lot of us

1150
00:46:28,080 --> 00:46:29,839
Speaker 2: don't have any time, and you can never really make

1151
00:46:29,840 --> 00:46:30,600
Speaker 2: a plan work.

1152
00:46:30,880 --> 00:46:33,080
Speaker 4: You know, you'll get that you need to give people grace,

1153
00:46:33,160 --> 00:46:34,960
Speaker 4: I think. But to answer her question, you are not

1154
00:46:35,000 --> 00:46:35,520
Speaker 4: the asshole.

1155
00:46:35,719 --> 00:46:36,480
Speaker 3: No, God, that's all.

1156
00:46:36,840 --> 00:46:37,480
Speaker 1: Neither of you are.

1157
00:46:37,520 --> 00:46:41,840
Speaker 2: I don't think all right, everyone love is so much.

1158
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Speaker 2: I think next week's episode is going to be that's

1159
00:46:44,640 --> 00:46:45,640
Speaker 2: like Coachella prep.

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Speaker 1: Episode of issue. Goddamn, God, damn, we've got to record

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Speaker 1: that one. We absolutely do. All right, love you all,

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Speaker 1: have a good day, y