WEBVTT - We Listen And We Don't Judge... Well Maybe A Little 0:00:00.480 --> 0:00:03.120 Today we're recording on Gadigul country and. 0:00:03.080 --> 0:00:05.760 We'd like to pay our respects to the traditional custodians 0:00:05.760 --> 0:00:09.920 of the Gaticol people. I know you've gotta dig this. 0:00:11.240 --> 0:00:16.439 It's like I've been given like an extra sprinkle of something. 0:00:16.520 --> 0:00:18.800 You've got layers, Yeah, I got layers. 0:00:19.000 --> 0:00:22.759 I was just thinking, I'm like, we're just such beautiful storytellers. 0:00:23.079 --> 0:00:26.680 You make a lot of sense to that girl. No, 0:00:26.960 --> 0:00:33.560 I'm done, honest to go. Okay, we're in the same studio. 0:00:33.800 --> 0:00:36.080 You ready buffle up things about the end of. 0:00:36.320 --> 0:00:38.440 Is it Sunday? Because I feel like there's a roast 0:00:38.440 --> 0:00:42.760 coming ooh Sunday. 0:00:43.120 --> 0:00:44.440 Let me tell you about roasts. 0:00:44.800 --> 0:00:45.199 Okay. 0:00:45.560 --> 0:00:48.080 Last Sunday I cooked a full chicken in my new 0:00:48.120 --> 0:00:51.839 air fryer, and now I've turned into an air fryer. Mum. Honestly, 0:00:51.920 --> 0:00:53.200 every meal comes from the air. 0:00:53.040 --> 0:00:55.360 Fry like a fool, like the legs. 0:00:55.360 --> 0:00:57.000 And I broke the back of that thing and I 0:00:57.040 --> 0:01:00.560 splat it open, and I didn't I. 0:01:00.560 --> 0:01:02.880 Need that visual. I did not need that visual. 0:01:03.160 --> 0:01:05.280 I had so much fun cracking the back of that chalok, 0:01:05.280 --> 0:01:07.240 trust me. And then I pushed down on it like 0:01:07.280 --> 0:01:07.720 I was like. 0:01:07.760 --> 0:01:08.880 Did you save the wishbone. 0:01:09.280 --> 0:01:11.360 No, actually, where was the wishbone? 0:01:13.240 --> 0:01:16.440 So it's probably broken. You made the wish cup. 0:01:16.400 --> 0:01:18.560 Drew my chicken. I don't think had the wishbone. 0:01:18.680 --> 0:01:19.000 Okay. 0:01:19.120 --> 0:01:22.000 That brings up such nostalgia for me because my mum 0:01:22.160 --> 0:01:25.720 was so like every single time we got a hot chook, 0:01:25.840 --> 0:01:28.160 that wishbone was like dried on the window. 0:01:27.880 --> 0:01:31.360 Sill and like there were many yeah yes, why did 0:01:31.480 --> 0:01:33.520 why did black fellows use them slingshots? 0:01:35.319 --> 0:01:35.800 Maybe? 0:01:36.200 --> 0:01:38.520 No, I feel like she was nostalgia, like she was 0:01:38.600 --> 0:01:42.640 sent like superstitious or maybe like I don't know, sentimental. 0:01:42.120 --> 0:01:44.360 And they'd become crusty and dry, oh yeah. 0:01:44.400 --> 0:01:46.520 So gross, and then you'd get your pinky. They would 0:01:46.520 --> 0:01:49.120 get their pinky and then you break it and whoever's 0:01:49.120 --> 0:01:52.080 got the bigger part gets the wish Okay. 0:01:52.240 --> 0:01:54.800 So it's just that's kind of wholesome. Anyways, we went 0:01:54.840 --> 0:01:56.120 from roast chicken normal. 0:01:57.880 --> 0:01:59.680 But listen, I just want to quickly touch on the 0:02:00.000 --> 0:02:03.080 because I'm actually quite proud of myself. So I've been creating, 0:02:03.160 --> 0:02:04.800 Like I went and bought an air fry from Kmart 0:02:04.800 --> 0:02:08.360 one hundred bucks, massive air fryer, and I've been creating 0:02:08.360 --> 0:02:10.120 dinner every night in it. So I went through a 0:02:10.160 --> 0:02:12.320 phase where I stopped cooking for me my partner, because 0:02:12.320 --> 0:02:14.880 I was just over cooking. When we first got together, 0:02:14.919 --> 0:02:16.639 I was like, you know, I was the chef, he 0:02:16.720 --> 0:02:18.760 was the cleaner. I would cook, he would clean. That's 0:02:18.800 --> 0:02:22.760 how we worked the relationship. And then I just stopped 0:02:22.760 --> 0:02:24.480 cooking because I was like, I'm so over this and 0:02:24.520 --> 0:02:27.360 I needed to be reinspired just by a fucking yeah, 0:02:27.440 --> 0:02:29.519 you can do everything in it. Last night I did 0:02:29.600 --> 0:02:35.520 some garlic and parsley pork chops. Oh delicious. You can 0:02:35.600 --> 0:02:37.320 do a full chalk as I said, you could do 0:02:37.320 --> 0:02:40.320 a full roast. You could. You can even cook like 0:02:40.560 --> 0:02:42.480 a stir fry in the air fryer. 0:02:42.680 --> 0:02:43.200 That's crazy. 0:02:43.200 --> 0:02:44.079 You don't even need a fry. 0:02:44.200 --> 0:02:45.800 I've heard that you can bake in it as well. 0:02:45.840 --> 0:02:49.840 You can bake your whole chicken. Yeah, bake your whole 0:02:50.160 --> 0:02:51.960 and he takes forty five minutes. 0:02:52.680 --> 0:02:54.760 Five minutes, but they don't have like pre setting, so 0:02:54.760 --> 0:02:57.960 I don't know. Anyways, blah blah blah, anyways, but we digress. 0:02:58.040 --> 0:02:59.040 But no, I love this. 0:02:59.240 --> 0:03:01.440 I just get a spoon the ship for an air fryer. 0:03:01.800 --> 0:03:02.440 A team. 0:03:03.919 --> 0:03:05.919 With me and I made this joke. The other day, 0:03:06.000 --> 0:03:07.240 it was like, fuck therapy. 0:03:07.360 --> 0:03:13.520 Just go to kmart, like like I like every time 0:03:13.560 --> 0:03:16.040 I walk out of Kmar or like Big W even 0:03:16.600 --> 0:03:20.440 like I've spent maybe like sixty bucks on like one 0:03:20.520 --> 0:03:22.440 hundred different items and it's the best thing. 0:03:22.480 --> 0:03:24.680 I walk out there feeling so much better with my life. 0:03:24.800 --> 0:03:26.400 I'm like, what do you go to km up for? 0:03:27.120 --> 0:03:27.600 Oh? Okay? 0:03:27.639 --> 0:03:28.959 So I went to came out to look for these 0:03:29.000 --> 0:03:33.520 stools that have gone viral, so because they're like a 0:03:33.760 --> 0:03:35.960 what do you call a joop of the Fenton and 0:03:36.000 --> 0:03:38.960 Fenton stool? Yeah, and I was like looking, they didn't 0:03:38.960 --> 0:03:40.080 have them, so I was like devo. 0:03:40.320 --> 0:03:41.960 So I went to Big W. So what I go 0:03:42.040 --> 0:03:45.040 from Big W is like I just buy storage like 0:03:45.160 --> 0:03:49.040 hangars and like my laundry pods in Bolk. 0:03:49.560 --> 0:03:52.560 Yes, I'm a storage king. Yeah. 0:03:52.560 --> 0:03:56.640 Well no, and I went to kmart. Actually, no, take 0:03:56.680 --> 0:03:57.000 that back. 0:03:57.080 --> 0:03:59.320 I went to KMAR when I was in Perth because 0:03:59.360 --> 0:04:03.720 I spent four four hours organizing my sister in law 0:04:03.760 --> 0:04:08.440 and my brother's pantry. That if that's not love, I 0:04:08.560 --> 0:04:12.920 spent four hours organizing this fucking pantry because they were 0:04:12.920 --> 0:04:14.920 complaining about it and I had nothing else to do. 0:04:15.000 --> 0:04:17.040 I was like, look, I'm here in Perth. 0:04:16.880 --> 0:04:18.760 And make myself four hours. 0:04:18.760 --> 0:04:21.360 Honestly, you have no fucking idea. 0:04:21.120 --> 0:04:23.279 Because pantry company. 0:04:23.480 --> 0:04:27.480 No. This thing was like just like people just don't 0:04:27.560 --> 0:04:28.840 understand life skills. 0:04:29.400 --> 0:04:32.200 They like complained about the same thing and it's happening 0:04:32.320 --> 0:04:33.560 because they haven't changed it. 0:04:33.680 --> 0:04:33.920 Yeah. 0:04:34.000 --> 0:04:36.279 They were like, oh yeah, the kids keep getting these snacks. 0:04:36.279 --> 0:04:38.520 He keeps like, you know, the kids keep coming back 0:04:38.560 --> 0:04:41.200 and they're like they you know, they're complaining, like you 0:04:41.240 --> 0:04:43.240 can't have those snacks, you can't do this, And I'm like, 0:04:44.080 --> 0:04:47.039 but put them up, like and they're like, oh, but 0:04:47.040 --> 0:04:49.600 we can't put them up because that's their move. It 0:04:50.080 --> 0:04:53.919 like coming says anyways, it's not even my sister in 0:04:53.960 --> 0:04:55.760 law mind you, I love her dearly. 0:04:55.839 --> 0:04:57.160 It's my brother Jackie. 0:04:57.360 --> 0:04:59.280 No, no, this is my other sister in law, Rowie. 0:04:59.360 --> 0:05:02.159 And she was like so grateful for it, and I 0:05:02.160 --> 0:05:03.880 spent like look and she was like, oh, I don't 0:05:03.920 --> 0:05:05.600 want you to do this. I was like, no, I'm 0:05:05.640 --> 0:05:07.680 going to do it. Yeah, and I was like and 0:05:07.720 --> 0:05:10.520 then my brother I just like was like you ungrateful 0:05:10.560 --> 0:05:15.039 little like he comes in, he's like sussing it all out, 0:05:15.040 --> 0:05:17.280 blah blah, blah, and he's like, yeah, we'll see how 0:05:17.320 --> 0:05:18.800 this lasts, like five minutes. 0:05:19.080 --> 0:05:23.600 Yeah, I bet it was, Like I was like, yeah, 0:05:23.720 --> 0:05:27.039 I literally put them like, mind you, I spent three 0:05:27.120 --> 0:05:28.320 hundred bucks that came up. 0:05:28.520 --> 0:05:31.520 You did three hundred bucks on them by all the containers. 0:05:32.120 --> 0:05:36.159 The labels even labeled ship Maddie. I was mad. 0:05:36.200 --> 0:05:39.560 Anyways, Anyways, well I'm gonna talk about roast. Let me 0:05:39.760 --> 0:05:40.880 roast him right now. 0:05:41.720 --> 0:05:46.040 And when you were home, what else happened because you 0:05:46.080 --> 0:05:46.920 were just in Perth. 0:05:47.200 --> 0:05:50.960 Yeah, it was just shitty. Sure you post, yeah shitty. 0:05:51.080 --> 0:05:52.799 Are you still feeling that way? 0:05:53.400 --> 0:05:55.960 Yeah? I feel like no, I feel fine. I feel fine. 0:05:55.960 --> 0:05:56.680 It's just my. 0:05:57.000 --> 0:06:00.920 Oldest brother is showing a lot of signs of mental illness, 0:06:01.000 --> 0:06:03.839 and there's no one there to support him or help him. 0:06:04.080 --> 0:06:06.680 I'm the only person that can kind of like kind 0:06:06.680 --> 0:06:09.440 of feels that responsibility. Like my brother obviously works away, 0:06:09.480 --> 0:06:11.520 my other brother works away, so he can't. 0:06:11.240 --> 0:06:13.799 And he's like and he's living in the house with kids. 0:06:13.640 --> 0:06:17.800 So I'm like really concerned about their safety, his mental illness, 0:06:18.160 --> 0:06:20.400 my sister in law's safety, Like not that he's like 0:06:20.440 --> 0:06:22.680 a rational or like he's going to do something stupid, 0:06:23.040 --> 0:06:25.159 but he's just showing signs, like, you know, like a 0:06:25.200 --> 0:06:27.200 lot of paranoia, and they have a time he's shown 0:06:27.240 --> 0:06:28.120 signs of paranoia. 0:06:28.200 --> 0:06:31.760 Something has happened. So I'm just a bit concerned. And 0:06:31.839 --> 0:06:34.160 I had called thirteen Yarn. 0:06:33.920 --> 0:06:35.920 And had like a chat with them, and they were 0:06:35.960 --> 0:06:37.520 really helpful about getting him. 0:06:37.760 --> 0:06:40.039 Into a GP. But obviously he has to do it 0:06:40.080 --> 0:06:40.960 like voluntarily. 0:06:41.520 --> 0:06:43.760 I mean, I could go down the whole route of 0:06:43.800 --> 0:06:47.560 like talking about it, but at the moment, like I'm 0:06:47.600 --> 0:06:50.320 trying to separate and have that boundary of like I 0:06:50.360 --> 0:06:52.239 have to just get on with my life right now 0:06:52.279 --> 0:06:54.280 and like get on with like things that I need 0:06:54.320 --> 0:06:56.640 to do. But there's always that part of me that 0:06:56.720 --> 0:06:59.159 if he doesn't get the help that he needs like asap, 0:06:59.200 --> 0:07:02.280 he might turn out like my sister, which obviously everyone 0:07:02.360 --> 0:07:05.240 knows that she passed away like three years ago. And 0:07:05.279 --> 0:07:07.560 if he doesn't get the help, he could go down 0:07:07.600 --> 0:07:09.920 a really bad route and probably end up on this 0:07:10.040 --> 0:07:14.760 fucking street homeless and you know, like unsupported and vulnerable, 0:07:14.920 --> 0:07:15.640 just like she was. 0:07:15.720 --> 0:07:17.880 So I'm really concerned about it. 0:07:18.040 --> 0:07:21.680 No, he hasn't, I mean, mind you, like he's isolating 0:07:21.760 --> 0:07:24.240 himself so much to the point where it's like, how 0:07:24.280 --> 0:07:26.280 do you help someone that doesn't want to help themselves. 0:07:26.400 --> 0:07:27.640 Oh, I've been there. 0:07:27.640 --> 0:07:30.440 Yeah, you know it, Like you know that you've been 0:07:30.480 --> 0:07:32.120 in the same boat. Like we have this chat when 0:07:32.120 --> 0:07:34.240 we're in the Gold Coast about you know, your family 0:07:34.320 --> 0:07:38.080 and like your dad relationships. So it's like you understand. 0:07:37.720 --> 0:07:41.480 Yeah, it's difficult. One thing that I've realized when it 0:07:41.480 --> 0:07:45.800 comes to particularly my mom and my sister who live 0:07:45.840 --> 0:07:51.240 in Sydney, they have they make lifestyle choices daily that 0:07:51.360 --> 0:07:54.800 I wouldn't want anyone to make, especially a family member. 0:07:54.880 --> 0:07:58.760 You know, they have alcoholism and drug addictions, especially my sister. 0:07:59.320 --> 0:08:02.280 What I've realized is that there's nothing that I can do. Honestly, 0:08:02.480 --> 0:08:04.320 I can be on the end of the call. I 0:08:04.400 --> 0:08:06.920 can show my support, I can turn up and I 0:08:06.920 --> 0:08:09.880 can listen and I can love on her and that's 0:08:09.920 --> 0:08:13.200 it because at the end of the day, like there's 0:08:13.240 --> 0:08:17.720 been things where I've tried to implement to make their 0:08:17.760 --> 0:08:20.920 life more safe, yeah, and it just doesn't work because 0:08:21.200 --> 0:08:25.200 they're not at that point where they're able to really 0:08:25.840 --> 0:08:28.280 take that help on. So it's like you so I 0:08:28.360 --> 0:08:31.520 have to allow people to be there when they need you. 0:08:31.600 --> 0:08:33.640 But don't feel like you need to do all the work. 0:08:33.800 --> 0:08:35.360 Yeah. I think that's the hardest thing. 0:08:35.520 --> 0:08:40.040 Like I've generinely been like the bearer of everything for them, 0:08:40.200 --> 0:08:43.679 like the one that like innately, like when my mum 0:08:43.800 --> 0:08:47.000 died and my nan died, I was like I thought 0:08:47.640 --> 0:08:50.280 straight away that I've got to get my family back together. Yeah, 0:08:50.320 --> 0:08:51.840 like I've got to get them back together. And I 0:08:51.880 --> 0:08:54.079 did that, and I should be happy that I did that. 0:08:54.160 --> 0:08:56.400 But it's a matter of keeping them together. And so 0:08:56.480 --> 0:08:58.720 when they're not thriving in their life and they're like 0:08:58.880 --> 0:09:01.920 unwell and they're like un happy, I don't it's just 0:09:01.920 --> 0:09:04.000 being an EmPATH. Like I really feel it on a 0:09:04.000 --> 0:09:06.400 deeper level and get so overstimulated by it. I get 0:09:06.440 --> 0:09:09.559 so overwhelmed by not being able to fix their problems, 0:09:09.679 --> 0:09:13.760 and like I'm the same with partners exactly, and I'm like, oh, 0:09:13.840 --> 0:09:16.640 it's so hard, but I'm like, Okay, I can only 0:09:16.679 --> 0:09:18.480 do what I can here, like you said, and then 0:09:18.480 --> 0:09:21.040 I just gonna have to like try to like be 0:09:21.200 --> 0:09:24.640 as positive towards them and like get them to understand 0:09:24.720 --> 0:09:26.840 like why it's important to take care of him and 0:09:26.880 --> 0:09:30.480 why it's important to like also like be around him, 0:09:30.520 --> 0:09:33.120 Like I feel like my other brothers don't hang out 0:09:33.880 --> 0:09:34.599 without me. 0:09:35.360 --> 0:09:37.679 So like they're all in Perth, every single one of them, 0:09:37.679 --> 0:09:40.240 and they don't hang out wow, like barely. 0:09:40.360 --> 0:09:42.319 Like well, obviously my two brothers living together in the 0:09:42.320 --> 0:09:44.320 same house, so they see each other. But then my 0:09:44.400 --> 0:09:47.480 younger brother is like off doing his thing fair enough, 0:09:47.640 --> 0:09:51.160 like he's really he's the one I'm probably least concerned about, honestly, 0:09:51.320 --> 0:09:54.199 Like he's killing it and I'm like so proud of him, 0:09:54.360 --> 0:09:57.160 but like my other two brothers, like Troy's killing it. 0:09:57.240 --> 0:09:59.360 Like he's got a family, he's got work, but he's 0:09:59.400 --> 0:10:03.600 got a lot of like environmentally like stressful things that 0:10:03.720 --> 0:10:05.280 he needs to get on top of. And I just 0:10:05.280 --> 0:10:10.080 feel like, also, he he hasn't evolved into the person 0:10:10.120 --> 0:10:12.400 that I guess I was hoping that he would be, 0:10:12.480 --> 0:10:14.920 Like his respect levels are pretty low at the moment 0:10:15.000 --> 0:10:16.800 in terms of like the way that he talks and 0:10:16.840 --> 0:10:19.480 speaks about women. I had to correct him so many 0:10:19.480 --> 0:10:22.400 times when I was in Perth, and I was just like, aw. 0:10:22.520 --> 0:10:23.600 It's so awkward. 0:10:23.880 --> 0:10:26.200 I feel like a fucking dictator and I'm like I 0:10:26.240 --> 0:10:28.520 don't want to sound like that, but they put that 0:10:28.600 --> 0:10:31.880 much pressure on me to like be this person, and 0:10:31.920 --> 0:10:35.080 then when I like actually step into that role sometimes 0:10:35.120 --> 0:10:38.040 like say, like they expect me to be like this mothering, maternal, 0:10:38.480 --> 0:10:42.199 you know person. So then I'm like, well, learn to 0:10:42.240 --> 0:10:44.080 respect women. And I called him out for their shit 0:10:44.120 --> 0:10:45.360 where I was like, oh my god, I don't know 0:10:45.400 --> 0:10:48.000 how to act. He's like, you're telling me off. I'm like, yeah, 0:10:48.080 --> 0:10:50.560 I'm telling you off because you're doing the wrong thing. 0:10:51.280 --> 0:10:53.280 Like of course I would do that with my friends, 0:10:53.440 --> 0:10:55.880 like if you know, like if anyone said the wrong 0:10:55.920 --> 0:10:58.640 thing in front of me, like oh, anyways, I was 0:10:58.640 --> 0:11:03.280 trying to listen and not but fuck me, it was hard. 0:11:06.120 --> 0:11:09.320 I got a question, is it possible not to judge? 0:11:09.920 --> 0:11:13.120 Or do you judge and you don't voice your judgment? 0:11:13.400 --> 0:11:15.920 And that's the whole idea of not judging someone, not 0:11:16.040 --> 0:11:18.520 getting allowing them to be privy to what you think. 0:11:18.800 --> 0:11:20.640 I feel like you can judge and then there's a 0:11:20.720 --> 0:11:22.920 moment of like reflection that you have in a split 0:11:23.000 --> 0:11:26.280 second that you're like, oh, no, that's just my other 0:11:26.280 --> 0:11:31.120 whether it's in internalized misogyny, whether it's in uh, internal racism, 0:11:31.160 --> 0:11:32.360 like you know what I mean, Like you might have 0:11:32.400 --> 0:11:35.760 a like a judgment or something and you're like, oh, 0:11:35.880 --> 0:11:38.920 that's that's not good, and you question yourself. Maybe not 0:11:38.960 --> 0:11:41.000 that I have anything like that. I mean I have 0:11:41.120 --> 0:11:43.480 things of like maybe like what people wear. 0:11:44.800 --> 0:11:46.800 I feel like I judge people and what they wear. 0:11:46.840 --> 0:11:49.080 I'm like, you could put in so much more of it, 0:11:49.320 --> 0:11:55.440 but like not you, not you, but like. 0:11:55.440 --> 0:11:57.199 You know what I mean, Like I see someone, I'm like, 0:11:57.600 --> 0:12:00.559 that's they would look so beautiful if just put in. 0:12:00.520 --> 0:12:03.520 More effort, you know what. I think that's something you 0:12:03.520 --> 0:12:04.160 need to work on. 0:12:05.280 --> 0:12:08.880 I know, superficial, but it's superficial, right, But I would 0:12:08.920 --> 0:12:11.360 never again, you wouldn't say I wouldn't voice that total. 0:12:11.520 --> 0:12:14.600 But if something There's so many things that I feel 0:12:14.640 --> 0:12:18.040 like I judge about as well, keep internal, you know. 0:12:18.200 --> 0:12:22.280 Okay, Yeah, like let's play a game of we listen, 0:12:22.559 --> 0:12:24.120 we don't judge. 0:12:25.120 --> 0:12:28.840 One thing that I judge on is if people and 0:12:28.960 --> 0:12:35.520 I can't even yeah, okay, people who wear dirty shoes. 0:12:36.000 --> 0:12:38.360 Yes, remember when we did our X and you were like, 0:12:39.000 --> 0:12:42.920 you know if people don't clean their white shoes? Yeah 0:12:43.120 --> 0:12:45.360 that was me and you were like you literally looked 0:12:45.360 --> 0:12:47.240 at my vehors and you were like, clean your shoes, 0:12:47.280 --> 0:12:49.040 your dirty bit I. 0:12:49.040 --> 0:12:51.480 Just think, like, just if you're gonna wear them, just 0:12:51.480 --> 0:12:52.800 wipe them over before you go outside. 0:12:53.160 --> 0:12:53.559 Yeah. 0:12:53.800 --> 0:12:56.559 True, but that's just like a superficial thing. But I 0:12:56.559 --> 0:12:58.280 would never say. But if I rock up and you 0:12:58.280 --> 0:13:01.640 have a mint outfit, you're looking fucking hot and don 0:13:01.679 --> 0:13:03.920 to the floor and you've got these dusty ass fucking 0:13:03.960 --> 0:13:07.600 shoes on, you're judging. 0:13:07.840 --> 0:13:13.280 Okay, I don't mean to judge, but I have a 0:13:13.320 --> 0:13:19.040 habit of judging people's driving, being a passenger dictator of 0:13:19.080 --> 0:13:22.960 like people's driving. Like I I I'm like, you could 0:13:22.960 --> 0:13:25.000 have you could have got that in my head. 0:13:25.040 --> 0:13:26.320 I'm like, focus. 0:13:26.920 --> 0:13:27.840 You think you're a good driver? 0:13:28.280 --> 0:13:31.800 Yes, yeah, I think I I've done enough. 0:13:32.240 --> 0:13:38.200 I've done enough courses like driving cars and like drift things. 0:13:38.400 --> 0:13:40.720 The view already drifted in the streets. 0:13:41.160 --> 0:13:43.840 I learned how to drift drive course. 0:13:44.240 --> 0:13:46.439 Literally, where do you do that? 0:13:46.640 --> 0:13:48.960 Oh at the Barbie. 0:13:49.240 --> 0:13:52.480 Barbie Galla racecourse, and per you literally do a drift 0:13:52.520 --> 0:13:55.520 course is so sick, it's the best. 0:13:55.600 --> 0:13:57.360 It's very very mass. 0:13:58.840 --> 0:14:00.160 I'm not a passenger prince. 0:14:00.480 --> 0:14:03.000 No, but I mean you are a driver. I've never 0:14:03.000 --> 0:14:05.280 felt unsafe with you. But I had a friend called Ollie, 0:14:05.440 --> 0:14:10.800 who's when we were nineteen four, nineteen twenty. Too cautious, bro, 0:14:11.320 --> 0:14:14.360 you were so cautious that now it's dangerous. Yea too 0:14:14.400 --> 0:14:15.040 far the other way? 0:14:15.160 --> 0:14:16.840 Yeah, yeah, yeah, you gotta find the middle. 0:14:16.920 --> 0:14:18.240 You got to go in the middle, because you can 0:14:18.280 --> 0:14:21.320 be like crazy and erratic and too confident and it 0:14:21.360 --> 0:14:23.640 could be dangerous. But if you're too cautious and you're 0:14:23.680 --> 0:14:26.720 not merging and you're stopping everyone behind you, it's it's 0:14:26.720 --> 0:14:28.320 pretty fucked. And let me tell you. On the weekend, 0:14:28.320 --> 0:14:29.360 I got into a car accident. 0:14:29.640 --> 0:14:33.120 Yeah, I heard got re rendered from her being on 0:14:33.160 --> 0:14:33.520 my phone. 0:14:33.560 --> 0:14:38.960 No, from Denny, No, that was good. Yeah, I got real, 0:14:41.000 --> 0:14:44.120 but I was driving and I had to stay on 0:14:44.200 --> 0:14:46.000 my brakes because of the Tesla in front of me. 0:14:46.160 --> 0:14:49.280 Looks like quickly yeah, and then this car behind me, 0:14:49.320 --> 0:14:53.160 this little Honda Accord lovely lady, just smashed into the 0:14:53.200 --> 0:14:53.920 back of my jeep. 0:14:54.600 --> 0:14:57.560 Yeah, which would have been for her, so much. 0:14:57.400 --> 0:14:59.040 More damage for my card. Did it moved and hit 0:14:59.080 --> 0:15:01.680 the tesla. I was still, but the back of it 0:15:01.760 --> 0:15:03.960 was pretty fucked. So the exhaust is now on the 0:15:03.960 --> 0:15:05.240 wheel and I couldn't drive it, so I had to 0:15:05.240 --> 0:15:08.360 get towed. And her whole front was pretty much gone. 0:15:08.480 --> 0:15:10.880 So I'm hoping because I'm actually in the market for 0:15:10.920 --> 0:15:14.120 a new car. I've been looking. They just ride it off, 0:15:14.280 --> 0:15:16.280 give me my money, and that's a little gift from 0:15:16.280 --> 0:15:18.160 the universe. So let's hope. 0:15:18.160 --> 0:15:21.160 So okay, well, if you had your wishbone, you could 0:15:21.160 --> 0:15:21.640 have wished for that. 0:15:22.360 --> 0:15:23.560 We have enough for both of us. 0:15:24.800 --> 0:15:26.080 I've been wishing for days. 0:15:26.960 --> 0:15:29.040 But okay, listen, we don't judge. Give me another one. 0:15:29.200 --> 0:15:34.160 Um, Okay, I don't mean to judge people, but if 0:15:34.160 --> 0:15:40.120 they have really bad bo I can't, like, like you've 0:15:40.120 --> 0:15:42.760 gone down in my book, Okay, like you could be 0:15:42.800 --> 0:15:46.960 the hottest person, like you could literally be Chris Hamsworth 0:15:47.200 --> 0:15:49.880 or fucking Dua Lipa, and if they're. 0:15:49.640 --> 0:15:53.560 Both pongy and stinky, I could never could never. 0:15:53.440 --> 0:15:55.600 Okay, yeah, no, I agree with you. I think like 0:15:56.640 --> 0:15:59.960 hygiene is a big thing for me too. I probably 0:16:00.080 --> 0:16:03.800 we would judge you and would you tell them? Would 0:16:03.800 --> 0:16:05.480 you say, hey, you stink? 0:16:05.480 --> 0:16:07.920 And I had to do this chat and it's so. 0:16:07.840 --> 0:16:09.080 Hard what do you say? 0:16:10.320 --> 0:16:12.760 I just kind of like it was one on one, 0:16:12.960 --> 0:16:14.920 so I was comfortable. We're on a walk, and I 0:16:14.960 --> 0:16:16.840 made it a place where you know where you know, 0:16:17.320 --> 0:16:20.920 I was like, oh, like, I've noticed that. You know, 0:16:21.600 --> 0:16:23.960 when we've hung out the last couple of times, there's 0:16:24.000 --> 0:16:26.120 a bit of a like stink to you. 0:16:26.480 --> 0:16:29.600 Oh you didn't say it like that, did you said 0:16:29.800 --> 0:16:31.280 when we hung out? 0:16:32.080 --> 0:16:34.640 I said, there's been There was no There was one point, 0:16:34.840 --> 0:16:36.760 like we were driving, so she was in the car 0:16:37.280 --> 0:16:39.560 and I had to put we all had to put 0:16:39.560 --> 0:16:41.520 the windows down. It was that bad. 0:16:42.880 --> 0:16:44.880 But we listen. We don't judge. 0:16:45.120 --> 0:16:47.840 You judged. She told her she stink like you stink. 0:16:48.480 --> 0:16:50.040 I felt like it was important for her to have 0:16:50.120 --> 0:16:53.600 that conversation because if she kept going on about it 0:16:53.720 --> 0:16:58.680 or like keeps like having that same issue like other people. 0:16:58.720 --> 0:17:00.800 I've got teas ipong. 0:17:00.960 --> 0:17:03.760 That's why because when I was fifteen, I literally like 0:17:04.040 --> 0:17:07.160 smell and it was purely a hormone thing, and I 0:17:07.200 --> 0:17:09.119 got bullied for it. So I don't want that to 0:17:09.160 --> 0:17:12.360 happen to her. So I was protecting her anything. 0:17:13.119 --> 0:17:15.919 But yeah, yeah, all right, you go listen and you 0:17:15.960 --> 0:17:19.080 don't judge. Okay, what else do I have. 0:17:20.760 --> 0:17:26.520 When someone says the wrong pronunciation of a word, so 0:17:26.560 --> 0:17:33.400 they go that really resignated with me, your resignator. 0:17:32.800 --> 0:17:34.280 To get the fuck out of here. 0:17:35.760 --> 0:17:37.760 Resonated resignation. 0:17:38.440 --> 0:17:41.200 Yeah, like you're it's done. I'm resigning. 0:17:41.760 --> 0:17:43.680 Do you want to know a word that you say? Funny? 0:17:43.880 --> 0:17:47.120 What I'll tell you right now? Oh god, So you 0:17:47.119 --> 0:17:53.359 say the word birthday instead of birthday birthday exactly. Yeah, 0:17:53.520 --> 0:17:57.639 you say birth with an F instead of But I listened, 0:17:57.680 --> 0:18:00.200 and I never judge. 0:18:01.080 --> 0:18:02.840 Well, you won't get a happy birthday for me. 0:18:05.600 --> 0:18:07.680 Okay, listen and we don't judge. I'm trying to think 0:18:07.720 --> 0:18:10.280 of things that really irk me. Oh. You know what 0:18:10.320 --> 0:18:15.479 I hate when people say sorry, I've been really busy, 0:18:16.520 --> 0:18:20.560 and it's like their whole world they couldn't like it's 0:18:20.560 --> 0:18:22.600 like you're waiting on a reply or you're waiting on 0:18:22.640 --> 0:18:24.720 somebody to get back to you about something. And when 0:18:24.720 --> 0:18:28.639 they start with hey, sorry, i've been really busy, like 0:18:28.680 --> 0:18:31.600 we've all been busy. I actually, oh, I got to 0:18:31.640 --> 0:18:33.520 take it back because I did that to somebody, but 0:18:33.640 --> 0:18:41.240 I actually pretended. So okay, you know what, Yes, okay, 0:18:41.400 --> 0:18:43.600 thank you. Up to the next one. We'll forget about 0:18:43.640 --> 0:18:48.040 my story. Here we go. I listen and we don't charge. 0:18:48.760 --> 0:18:51.919 We listen and we don't charge when people get saying's wrong. So, 0:18:52.040 --> 0:18:55.360 for instance, that's a hard pillow to swallow. All pillows 0:18:55.359 --> 0:18:57.840 are hard to swallow. Laugh, it's a hard pill to swallow. 0:18:58.080 --> 0:19:00.919 And it's not the it's not the kettle calling the 0:19:00.920 --> 0:19:03.160 pot black. It's the pot calling the kettle black. 0:19:04.840 --> 0:19:07.359