1 00:00:00,440 --> 00:00:02,320 Speaker 1: Hi, everybody, Happy New Year. 2 00:00:02,520 --> 00:00:05,280 Speaker 2: We're all on a little break having our hot girl summer, 3 00:00:05,680 --> 00:00:07,640 Speaker 2: probably in Sydney, hopefully shaking my ass. 4 00:00:07,640 --> 00:00:08,920 Speaker 1: And who knows what I'm doing. 5 00:00:09,000 --> 00:00:11,960 Speaker 2: You guys have probably seen it on my social media. 6 00:00:12,080 --> 00:00:13,960 Speaker 1: This is a pre recorded episode. 7 00:00:14,240 --> 00:00:17,639 Speaker 2: We are just doing a little game, having a little 8 00:00:17,680 --> 00:00:20,880 Speaker 2: bit of fun, wrapping up twenty twenty five, and I'm 9 00:00:20,920 --> 00:00:24,400 Speaker 2: recording it for you. I saw this game on TikTok 10 00:00:24,440 --> 00:00:27,120 Speaker 2: actually one day and it's on Amazon. It's called The 11 00:00:27,120 --> 00:00:29,560 Speaker 2: School of Life, and it's called The Dilemma's Game, and 12 00:00:30,320 --> 00:00:32,479 Speaker 2: I think it's really good for a dinner party game. 13 00:00:33,120 --> 00:00:34,760 Speaker 1: But I'm going to play it with you guys. 14 00:00:35,159 --> 00:00:37,879 Speaker 2: It says here in life, we regularly face with dilemmas, 15 00:00:37,920 --> 00:00:39,280 Speaker 2: complex everyday problems. 16 00:00:39,400 --> 00:00:41,239 Speaker 1: For there is no obvious answers. 17 00:00:41,479 --> 00:00:43,360 Speaker 2: When a friends confess that you're having a fair who 18 00:00:43,400 --> 00:00:45,960 Speaker 2: do we keep the secret? When a colleague has terrible breath? 19 00:00:46,159 --> 00:00:48,599 Speaker 2: Do we let them know? YadA, YadA, YadA. So it's 20 00:00:48,680 --> 00:00:51,120 Speaker 2: kind of like giving you like real life situations and 21 00:00:51,159 --> 00:00:53,159 Speaker 2: you kind of talk about it over a dinner table 22 00:00:53,640 --> 00:00:55,080 Speaker 2: or like maybe a first date. This could be a 23 00:00:55,080 --> 00:00:58,080 Speaker 2: really good date game. And I'm going to tell you 24 00:00:58,080 --> 00:00:59,880 Speaker 2: guys what I would do? But yeah, you can buy 25 00:00:59,880 --> 00:01:01,640 Speaker 2: it on Amazon. It's called The School of Life. 26 00:01:01,880 --> 00:01:04,039 Speaker 1: The Daylimbers game hit me Blake. 27 00:01:04,400 --> 00:01:06,200 Speaker 3: Oh my god, So I can't shuffle, but I've just 28 00:01:06,280 --> 00:01:10,600 Speaker 3: tried picking my first card. Having recently become a vegan, 29 00:01:10,840 --> 00:01:15,000 Speaker 3: your friend is growing increasingly militant about their choice of lifestyle, 30 00:01:15,319 --> 00:01:18,480 Speaker 3: admonishing you for continuing to eat meat and refusing to 31 00:01:18,520 --> 00:01:21,319 Speaker 3: dine in your company when you do, it seems a 32 00:01:21,360 --> 00:01:22,320 Speaker 3: trivial thing. 33 00:01:22,200 --> 00:01:23,160 Speaker 4: To fall out over. 34 00:01:23,600 --> 00:01:27,040 Speaker 3: Do you feel aggravated at having her alter your behavior 35 00:01:27,280 --> 00:01:28,360 Speaker 3: simply to suit them? 36 00:01:28,560 --> 00:01:30,960 Speaker 4: What would you do? Damn? 37 00:01:31,600 --> 00:01:33,399 Speaker 1: Okay? How close am I with a friend? 38 00:01:33,640 --> 00:01:36,800 Speaker 3: I would say not best friend, but like regular friend 39 00:01:36,959 --> 00:01:37,959 Speaker 3: that you catch up with. 40 00:01:38,319 --> 00:01:40,199 Speaker 2: I think I would just like have like a little 41 00:01:40,640 --> 00:01:42,880 Speaker 2: I'm like quite upfront with this stuff, Like if it's 42 00:01:42,920 --> 00:01:46,320 Speaker 2: like not a serious conversation, I'd be like, I'm not 43 00:01:46,360 --> 00:01:49,200 Speaker 2: telling you didn't like eat tofu, so don't tell me 44 00:01:49,240 --> 00:01:51,200 Speaker 2: not to eat chicken. I'm like, well, and I would 45 00:01:51,240 --> 00:01:53,160 Speaker 2: just be like, why are you so pressed about this? 46 00:01:53,800 --> 00:01:56,840 Speaker 1: Like what I put in my body none of your business. 47 00:01:56,920 --> 00:01:58,600 Speaker 2: Or I'll be like, Okay, well, looks like we can't 48 00:01:58,640 --> 00:02:00,680 Speaker 2: go out for dinner, if you're going to on everything 49 00:02:00,720 --> 00:02:04,080 Speaker 2: I eat, Like, I just say, never comment on anyone's food. 50 00:02:04,360 --> 00:02:06,760 Speaker 2: And I think, because I have a history of an 51 00:02:06,800 --> 00:02:10,880 Speaker 2: eating disorder, anytime someone comments about food around me, I 52 00:02:10,919 --> 00:02:15,240 Speaker 2: get quite sensitive. So yeah, I think I would get 53 00:02:15,280 --> 00:02:17,280 Speaker 2: my back up quite a bit because I already get 54 00:02:17,280 --> 00:02:19,200 Speaker 2: a lot of head noise. So if she was commenting 55 00:02:19,240 --> 00:02:21,919 Speaker 2: on my food, I would probably just be like please, 56 00:02:22,360 --> 00:02:24,200 Speaker 2: I was like, I would actually turn around be like, 57 00:02:24,440 --> 00:02:27,160 Speaker 2: be lucky I'm eating, Like, be grateful, I'm eating, Like 58 00:02:27,240 --> 00:02:29,360 Speaker 2: no matter what that is, Like I would just be like, 59 00:02:29,400 --> 00:02:31,720 Speaker 2: no one, we don't have room for commenting on food. 60 00:02:32,080 --> 00:02:34,720 Speaker 2: I just don't think it's appropriate in any context. Like 61 00:02:34,800 --> 00:02:38,400 Speaker 2: whether you're vegan morally you want to save the animals, 62 00:02:38,400 --> 00:02:41,680 Speaker 2: like that's your choice, but for right now eating fueling 63 00:02:41,680 --> 00:02:45,359 Speaker 2: my body, whether it's steak, tuna, salmon, chicken, whatever it 64 00:02:45,440 --> 00:02:47,640 Speaker 2: is tofu, it doesn't matter. 65 00:02:47,680 --> 00:02:49,120 Speaker 1: And I'd just be like, we don't have room for 66 00:02:49,120 --> 00:02:50,360 Speaker 1: that in these friendships. 67 00:02:50,440 --> 00:02:53,160 Speaker 2: I think that's a really good perspective, like no one 68 00:02:53,160 --> 00:02:54,120 Speaker 2: should comment on food. 69 00:02:54,240 --> 00:02:57,119 Speaker 3: Yeah, Like I've had a friend, she's one of my besties, 70 00:02:57,160 --> 00:03:00,360 Speaker 3: so we love her so much. Her only rule once 71 00:03:00,400 --> 00:03:02,400 Speaker 3: I put in an Uber Eats order on her phone. 72 00:03:02,440 --> 00:03:04,160 Speaker 3: We're doing like a group order, and then she's so 73 00:03:04,320 --> 00:03:06,720 Speaker 3: much she's like, can you order on your own? I 74 00:03:06,760 --> 00:03:09,400 Speaker 3: just don't like ordering meat on my own account? And 75 00:03:09,440 --> 00:03:12,400 Speaker 3: like everyone I've told does find that extreme, but it's 76 00:03:12,440 --> 00:03:15,600 Speaker 3: just like it's fine if they have their own boundaries. 77 00:03:16,080 --> 00:03:17,760 Speaker 3: She never had me in a choke hold. 78 00:03:17,919 --> 00:03:20,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, like you do you like? You? 79 00:03:20,360 --> 00:03:20,640 Speaker 4: Literally? 80 00:03:20,720 --> 00:03:21,120 Speaker 1: Do you like? 81 00:03:21,160 --> 00:03:22,600 Speaker 2: If it comes to that thing of She's like, I 82 00:03:22,639 --> 00:03:24,880 Speaker 2: want a vegan meal and we're all ordering Uber EAT's 83 00:03:24,919 --> 00:03:26,079 Speaker 2: cool order it. 84 00:03:26,720 --> 00:03:30,040 Speaker 1: I don't care, but like I don't care, so you should, 85 00:03:30,720 --> 00:03:33,320 Speaker 1: you know, Let's make that mutual. Yeah, like it's a 86 00:03:33,400 --> 00:03:33,919 Speaker 1: mutual thing. 87 00:03:34,240 --> 00:03:35,480 Speaker 4: Oh my god, this is so fun. 88 00:03:35,560 --> 00:03:39,240 Speaker 3: Okay, choosing my next one your close friends has confessed 89 00:03:39,240 --> 00:03:41,960 Speaker 3: to you that they are cheating on their partner with 90 00:03:42,000 --> 00:03:45,120 Speaker 3: whom you are also close with. You have been sworn 91 00:03:45,160 --> 00:03:48,680 Speaker 3: to secrecy, but you hate being a party to the deception. 92 00:03:49,560 --> 00:03:52,880 Speaker 3: Whichever course you choose will mean betraying a friendship. 93 00:03:53,160 --> 00:03:54,120 Speaker 4: What would you do? 94 00:03:55,640 --> 00:03:58,920 Speaker 1: This is always such a such a haby topic. Yeah, 95 00:03:58,920 --> 00:04:00,680 Speaker 1: when do you involved? 96 00:04:00,840 --> 00:04:03,840 Speaker 2: Because then there's one side of being like, I don't 97 00:04:03,880 --> 00:04:06,840 Speaker 2: like cheaters, so why am I going to be friends 98 00:04:06,840 --> 00:04:08,920 Speaker 2: with the cheater because I don't I don't stand what 99 00:04:08,960 --> 00:04:09,200 Speaker 2: you do. 100 00:04:09,280 --> 00:04:11,160 Speaker 1: But then I always put myself in this position. 101 00:04:11,560 --> 00:04:16,080 Speaker 2: If Lily, my mestie mother, youn cheated on her boyfriend 102 00:04:16,720 --> 00:04:20,239 Speaker 2: and I was like close with her boyfriend, I couldn't 103 00:04:20,279 --> 00:04:24,479 Speaker 2: portray Lily. So I would say to her and I 104 00:04:24,480 --> 00:04:27,600 Speaker 2: would seriously sit her down and be like, this is 105 00:04:27,640 --> 00:04:28,440 Speaker 2: not who you are. 106 00:04:29,480 --> 00:04:30,920 Speaker 1: I'm not going to fuel you. 107 00:04:31,040 --> 00:04:33,440 Speaker 2: I'm not going to validate what you're doing, and I 108 00:04:33,520 --> 00:04:37,440 Speaker 2: don't stand and respect what you're doing at all. And 109 00:04:37,600 --> 00:04:40,599 Speaker 2: it's changed, it's changing my viewers how I view you 110 00:04:40,640 --> 00:04:43,080 Speaker 2: as a person, and I don't like the person that 111 00:04:43,120 --> 00:04:47,400 Speaker 2: you're acting like right now, and I would then it's 112 00:04:47,440 --> 00:04:49,600 Speaker 2: all in her. It's their relationship at the end of 113 00:04:49,640 --> 00:04:52,440 Speaker 2: the day. You have two separate relationships, Yes, because you're 114 00:04:52,440 --> 00:04:55,760 Speaker 2: involved in it. But like I always say, not your show, 115 00:04:55,920 --> 00:04:58,800 Speaker 2: not your pony, not your show, Like that is their relationship. 116 00:04:58,920 --> 00:05:00,000 Speaker 1: That's for them to figure out. 117 00:05:00,320 --> 00:05:02,440 Speaker 2: And as soon as you become the third man, you 118 00:05:02,480 --> 00:05:04,599 Speaker 2: get involved in that, and then you're probably gonna have 119 00:05:04,680 --> 00:05:06,719 Speaker 2: no best friend and you're gonna have no guy friend. 120 00:05:07,080 --> 00:05:10,080 Speaker 2: Like no, and because you've probably become friends with the 121 00:05:10,120 --> 00:05:11,239 Speaker 2: guy because of the girl. 122 00:05:12,600 --> 00:05:13,799 Speaker 1: It's such a sticky situation. 123 00:05:13,839 --> 00:05:15,560 Speaker 2: Like I always just say I don't like getting involved 124 00:05:15,560 --> 00:05:19,960 Speaker 2: in people's relationships because it's not my problem. But another 125 00:05:20,120 --> 00:05:22,880 Speaker 2: if she continues to keep it a secret and continues 126 00:05:22,920 --> 00:05:26,120 Speaker 2: to date him and he's coming like because Lily lives 127 00:05:26,120 --> 00:05:28,120 Speaker 2: with me, I would be like, I can't be in 128 00:05:28,120 --> 00:05:30,440 Speaker 2: the house with you knowing that you're cheating on him 129 00:05:30,720 --> 00:05:32,800 Speaker 2: and he's coming around and sitting on my couch that 130 00:05:33,160 --> 00:05:35,400 Speaker 2: I said, Lily, you're putting me in an uncomfortable position 131 00:05:35,600 --> 00:05:37,599 Speaker 2: where I have to bite my tongue and I don't 132 00:05:37,720 --> 00:05:42,080 Speaker 2: like that. Fix yourself, and I think a big really, 133 00:05:42,200 --> 00:05:44,040 Speaker 2: if you're like someone who can't bite your tongue, I 134 00:05:44,120 --> 00:05:46,680 Speaker 2: would go, if you don't tell him in the next 135 00:05:46,680 --> 00:05:50,200 Speaker 2: couple days, I will love it. And you say, like, 136 00:05:50,240 --> 00:05:52,000 Speaker 2: you don't go. If you don't tell him in twenty 137 00:05:52,040 --> 00:05:53,920 Speaker 2: four hours, I will you go. I'm not gonna tell 138 00:05:53,960 --> 00:05:57,200 Speaker 2: you when, but if you don't tell him soon enough, 139 00:05:57,880 --> 00:05:59,800 Speaker 2: I will let him know because then it's like fuck 140 00:05:59,839 --> 00:06:00,760 Speaker 2: I be her to it. 141 00:06:01,080 --> 00:06:04,480 Speaker 3: No, I actually like that. There's like two extreme since arguments. 142 00:06:04,480 --> 00:06:06,840 Speaker 3: Someone's like, no, you must tell them straight away, but 143 00:06:06,960 --> 00:06:09,800 Speaker 3: I almost struggle with people that are so keen to 144 00:06:09,920 --> 00:06:13,080 Speaker 3: one get involved and to be the messenger. I think 145 00:06:13,240 --> 00:06:15,320 Speaker 3: a lot of the times the messenger gets shot. 146 00:06:15,560 --> 00:06:17,320 Speaker 1: Yes, it's always the messenger. 147 00:06:17,520 --> 00:06:17,760 Speaker 4: Yeah. 148 00:06:17,800 --> 00:06:20,359 Speaker 3: And name a couple that have just like there have 149 00:06:20,440 --> 00:06:24,120 Speaker 3: been many obviously, but instantly break up and commit to it. Yeah, 150 00:06:24,120 --> 00:06:26,360 Speaker 3: Like it's usually a process. They usually get back together 151 00:06:26,400 --> 00:06:28,720 Speaker 3: three or four times. You do have to be careful 152 00:06:28,720 --> 00:06:31,640 Speaker 3: getting involved in that. Yeah, that's the perfect. 153 00:06:31,040 --> 00:06:32,960 Speaker 2: And the more you insert your opinion, the more that 154 00:06:33,000 --> 00:06:34,880 Speaker 2: you're probably gonna lose your friend as well. 155 00:06:34,920 --> 00:06:37,760 Speaker 1: So I just am like, not my show, not my pony. 156 00:06:38,120 --> 00:06:40,159 Speaker 2: But I if they're not going to tell them and 157 00:06:40,160 --> 00:06:42,960 Speaker 2: they're continuously doing it, I'd be like, you have to 158 00:06:43,000 --> 00:06:44,520 Speaker 2: do this. I'm not going to tell you what I'm 159 00:06:44,560 --> 00:06:47,240 Speaker 2: going to tell Johnny, but just letting you know I will. 160 00:06:47,360 --> 00:06:48,159 Speaker 4: Yeah, kind of a threat. 161 00:06:48,200 --> 00:06:50,279 Speaker 2: I probably wouldn't have actually said something, but I would 162 00:06:50,320 --> 00:06:52,400 Speaker 2: like threaten it so they can get it out of 163 00:06:52,400 --> 00:06:53,080 Speaker 2: them to come close. 164 00:06:53,200 --> 00:06:55,760 Speaker 3: And every cheating story you hear, I find a person 165 00:06:55,800 --> 00:06:59,039 Speaker 3: who got cheated on, obviously heartbroken that they were cheated on, 166 00:06:59,520 --> 00:07:01,880 Speaker 3: but it's always that they never found out of the 167 00:07:01,880 --> 00:07:04,760 Speaker 3: partner themselves. I think it is always best to comfort 168 00:07:04,960 --> 00:07:07,560 Speaker 3: from them. But like, if they're not telling them, yes, 169 00:07:07,600 --> 00:07:09,280 Speaker 3: you might have to step in. But I think it's 170 00:07:09,320 --> 00:07:10,160 Speaker 3: a perfect approach. 171 00:07:10,240 --> 00:07:12,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, I just like I can't do that. I just 172 00:07:12,760 --> 00:07:16,520 Speaker 2: don't like confrontation like that. I'm actually so afraid of comfrontation. 173 00:07:20,560 --> 00:07:21,760 Speaker 4: All right. Our next one. 174 00:07:22,400 --> 00:07:25,280 Speaker 3: After spending a lot of time together working on several 175 00:07:25,360 --> 00:07:28,520 Speaker 3: high pressure projects, you've grown very close to one of 176 00:07:28,560 --> 00:07:32,320 Speaker 3: your colleagues, although there is nothing physical between you. You 177 00:07:32,400 --> 00:07:35,720 Speaker 3: are married and feel conflicted about keeping the extent of 178 00:07:35,760 --> 00:07:37,280 Speaker 3: your bond secret. 179 00:07:36,880 --> 00:07:38,920 Speaker 1: From your work husband work wife. 180 00:07:39,520 --> 00:07:43,800 Speaker 3: To say nothing feels suspicious, but to say something will 181 00:07:43,800 --> 00:07:45,280 Speaker 3: bring on suspicion. 182 00:07:46,040 --> 00:07:46,880 Speaker 4: What would you do? 183 00:07:49,440 --> 00:07:51,160 Speaker 2: I don't know, because I put myself in this. I 184 00:07:51,240 --> 00:07:53,440 Speaker 2: put myself in my position. If my boyfriend had like 185 00:07:53,480 --> 00:07:56,600 Speaker 2: a work wife, I would want to know the relationship 186 00:07:56,680 --> 00:07:59,760 Speaker 2: between them. Yeah, but I also think it's really important 187 00:08:00,120 --> 00:08:02,960 Speaker 2: or for my boyfriend to have female friendships because I 188 00:08:03,000 --> 00:08:05,760 Speaker 2: don't want to be the only female in their life 189 00:08:05,800 --> 00:08:09,440 Speaker 2: where they can depend on, because I think then that 190 00:08:09,440 --> 00:08:11,440 Speaker 2: puts a lot of pressure in relationships. I know some 191 00:08:11,440 --> 00:08:14,640 Speaker 2: people are like, oh, work, my boyfriend shouldn't have girl 192 00:08:14,680 --> 00:08:15,200 Speaker 2: best friends. 193 00:08:15,320 --> 00:08:17,400 Speaker 1: I should be the only girl best friend. Yes, but 194 00:08:17,480 --> 00:08:18,360 Speaker 1: I think it's really. 195 00:08:18,200 --> 00:08:21,560 Speaker 2: Important that your boyfriend can speak to other women in 196 00:08:21,600 --> 00:08:25,280 Speaker 2: their life, to upload their problems and be emotionally available 197 00:08:25,320 --> 00:08:26,239 Speaker 2: to more than one woman. 198 00:08:26,600 --> 00:08:30,600 Speaker 1: Not like that sense, but I think in the. 199 00:08:30,480 --> 00:08:32,839 Speaker 2: Aspect of if he is really close with someone out 200 00:08:32,880 --> 00:08:36,280 Speaker 2: his work and there's nothing disrespectful going involved, I would 201 00:08:36,360 --> 00:08:39,080 Speaker 2: like to know. So I put myself in that position 202 00:08:39,120 --> 00:08:41,240 Speaker 2: and I would let my boyfriend know how close I 203 00:08:41,360 --> 00:08:45,719 Speaker 2: was with another guy. But reassurance in that aspect is 204 00:08:45,760 --> 00:08:48,240 Speaker 2: also a really big thing of like not sexually attracted 205 00:08:48,240 --> 00:08:50,920 Speaker 2: to him. I'm not doing anything like that, but I 206 00:08:50,920 --> 00:08:53,560 Speaker 2: think sometimes it is really good for you to be 207 00:08:53,640 --> 00:08:57,240 Speaker 2: able to offload to the other gender, and that also 208 00:08:57,360 --> 00:08:59,240 Speaker 2: not be in your relationship because I think that then 209 00:08:59,280 --> 00:09:02,200 Speaker 2: that puts extra pressure on the relationship. And again it 210 00:09:02,200 --> 00:09:05,480 Speaker 2: all comes down to open communication and loyalty and trust 211 00:09:06,000 --> 00:09:08,480 Speaker 2: in that. So with that, I think it's important to 212 00:09:08,480 --> 00:09:12,240 Speaker 2: tell your partner. But like, I am really close, quite 213 00:09:12,240 --> 00:09:14,760 Speaker 2: close with a lot of guys, like I think naturally 214 00:09:14,760 --> 00:09:16,760 Speaker 2: because I've grown up in a boys boarding school with 215 00:09:16,800 --> 00:09:19,240 Speaker 2: brothers as well and everything like that, I find it 216 00:09:19,320 --> 00:09:21,760 Speaker 2: quite easy to open up with guys because they're very 217 00:09:21,800 --> 00:09:25,120 Speaker 2: black and white that like, if I had a job 218 00:09:25,320 --> 00:09:27,440 Speaker 2: that I would be working with a male, No, shit, 219 00:09:27,480 --> 00:09:29,880 Speaker 2: I'd probably be close with a guy. 220 00:09:30,440 --> 00:09:34,040 Speaker 1: But there's boundaries in that. Yeah, am I answering the question. 221 00:09:34,200 --> 00:09:35,400 Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm just trying. 222 00:09:35,160 --> 00:09:39,240 Speaker 3: To think of it myself because like I've never had this, 223 00:09:39,360 --> 00:09:41,000 Speaker 3: but I think it's because I'm gay, so like, I 224 00:09:41,080 --> 00:09:43,320 Speaker 3: work with a lot of girls, and it's yes, fine, 225 00:09:44,000 --> 00:09:46,679 Speaker 3: I think half the time it's not even Like I 226 00:09:46,720 --> 00:09:49,440 Speaker 3: think the question was kind of phrases like out of 227 00:09:49,600 --> 00:09:51,720 Speaker 3: like not wanting it to seem suspicious. 228 00:09:51,760 --> 00:09:53,120 Speaker 4: I think half the problem is. 229 00:09:53,000 --> 00:09:56,800 Speaker 3: Like other colleagues looking at a male female dynamic and 230 00:09:56,840 --> 00:09:59,000 Speaker 3: a workplace, Yes, something's going on there. 231 00:09:59,240 --> 00:09:59,440 Speaker 1: Yeah. 232 00:09:59,520 --> 00:10:02,640 Speaker 4: No, men should be able to work with several women. 233 00:10:02,760 --> 00:10:04,439 Speaker 4: I just have one woman in their lives. 234 00:10:04,600 --> 00:10:06,560 Speaker 1: Yes, And I like to see it in my job. 235 00:10:06,600 --> 00:10:09,200 Speaker 2: On social media, Like as soon as I posted the guy, 236 00:10:09,320 --> 00:10:12,600 Speaker 2: everyone speculates that you're together, and it's like, no, no, 237 00:10:12,640 --> 00:10:16,840 Speaker 2: we can have platonic male and female friendships. And I 238 00:10:16,840 --> 00:10:19,839 Speaker 2: think that that's so like unusual in this day and 239 00:10:19,880 --> 00:10:22,679 Speaker 2: age that everyone just thinks you're fucking but like, no, like, 240 00:10:23,000 --> 00:10:25,320 Speaker 2: and I think that the thing that gets us is 241 00:10:25,400 --> 00:10:28,880 Speaker 2: when you're like hiding something and I'm like no, like 242 00:10:29,480 --> 00:10:31,240 Speaker 2: I'm just like being friends with people. 243 00:10:31,320 --> 00:10:33,120 Speaker 3: Oh my god, this is actually so funny. But my 244 00:10:33,200 --> 00:10:35,360 Speaker 3: mom sent me a video of you and Bill and 245 00:10:35,360 --> 00:10:37,000 Speaker 3: she's like, who's this boy SAMs with? 246 00:10:37,920 --> 00:10:39,240 Speaker 4: I was like, don't worry about see. 247 00:10:39,280 --> 00:10:42,920 Speaker 2: That's the thing is like Bill's like bisexual, and Bill 248 00:10:42,960 --> 00:10:44,800 Speaker 2: and I are like so platonic, like there is no 249 00:10:45,120 --> 00:10:49,960 Speaker 2: romantic relationship between us, like what whatsoever? But guys, I 250 00:10:50,040 --> 00:10:54,840 Speaker 2: speak to like very very casually speaking to someone. 251 00:10:55,000 --> 00:10:57,920 Speaker 1: He It was even like like you guys are so close. 252 00:10:58,000 --> 00:10:59,880 Speaker 2: But it's like, I'm not going to change my really 253 00:11:00,200 --> 00:11:01,960 Speaker 2: ship with Bill because I have a male in my 254 00:11:02,000 --> 00:11:03,400 Speaker 2: life because like Bill's. 255 00:11:03,040 --> 00:11:03,920 Speaker 1: Like a female to me. 256 00:11:04,280 --> 00:11:07,120 Speaker 2: Yeah, Like I like, yeah, I'm not going to change that, 257 00:11:07,280 --> 00:11:09,560 Speaker 2: but I will also always be open to the guy 258 00:11:09,600 --> 00:11:11,800 Speaker 2: and be like, yeah, Bill and I cuddle, we share 259 00:11:11,840 --> 00:11:14,400 Speaker 2: a bed, like he's like everything to me. 260 00:11:14,760 --> 00:11:16,360 Speaker 1: But like there's never anything going on. 261 00:11:16,400 --> 00:11:18,080 Speaker 4: But now is it like a sibling relation? 262 00:11:18,360 --> 00:11:20,079 Speaker 1: Literally we literally look alike as well. 263 00:11:20,080 --> 00:11:22,720 Speaker 3: But that's actually an interesting point to mention your work. 264 00:11:22,960 --> 00:11:25,680 Speaker 3: Every man you make eye contact with you were daity. 265 00:11:25,840 --> 00:11:29,480 Speaker 2: Yeah, so like come on, come on, guys, trust me. 266 00:11:29,800 --> 00:11:31,439 Speaker 2: You wouldn't see the guy's face if. 267 00:11:31,400 --> 00:11:34,200 Speaker 1: I had a boyfriend, Okay. 268 00:11:34,679 --> 00:11:37,439 Speaker 3: After moving to a new area, you and your partner 269 00:11:37,480 --> 00:11:40,680 Speaker 3: agree to attend a dinner party given by your neighbors. 270 00:11:41,400 --> 00:11:45,040 Speaker 3: Over the course of the meal, that overly forward behavior 271 00:11:45,160 --> 00:11:47,280 Speaker 3: leads you to suspect that they would. 272 00:11:47,360 --> 00:11:48,679 Speaker 4: Like to be more than neighbors. 273 00:11:50,720 --> 00:11:53,719 Speaker 3: You were uncomfortable, but don't want to risk offending them 274 00:11:53,760 --> 00:11:54,360 Speaker 3: by leaving. 275 00:11:54,600 --> 00:11:55,360 Speaker 4: What would you do? 276 00:11:56,320 --> 00:11:58,760 Speaker 1: Ride the wave? Fucking ride the wave. 277 00:12:00,520 --> 00:12:04,040 Speaker 2: I have like I get myself into stupid situations all 278 00:12:04,080 --> 00:12:04,480 Speaker 2: the time. 279 00:12:04,880 --> 00:12:05,640 Speaker 1: It's my adhd. 280 00:12:05,720 --> 00:12:07,840 Speaker 2: I'm very impulsive and I just like say yes to everything, 281 00:12:07,880 --> 00:12:09,319 Speaker 2: and then I'm like, oh my god, how the fuck 282 00:12:09,360 --> 00:12:12,880 Speaker 2: am I here? I have been asked ludicrously weird questions 283 00:12:13,520 --> 00:12:16,280 Speaker 2: and all that stuff, and it's just like I will 284 00:12:16,640 --> 00:12:19,320 Speaker 2: sit in uncomfort until I feel sick in the stomach 285 00:12:19,600 --> 00:12:22,679 Speaker 2: before I say anything. If someone was like grinding up 286 00:12:22,679 --> 00:12:30,240 Speaker 2: with my boyfriend, I would just be like, hey, Like 287 00:12:30,320 --> 00:12:32,480 Speaker 2: if I was like old a double date or something 288 00:12:32,600 --> 00:12:36,440 Speaker 2: with my boyfriend and the girl was like getting my boyfriend. 289 00:12:37,760 --> 00:12:41,959 Speaker 1: Okay, and the like. 290 00:12:40,559 --> 00:12:42,440 Speaker 2: Like it makes me so uncomfortable, I would just be 291 00:12:42,520 --> 00:12:45,520 Speaker 2: like I would know I would go to the bathroom. 292 00:12:45,800 --> 00:12:47,840 Speaker 2: I text my boyfriend being like, are you sussing what 293 00:12:47,880 --> 00:12:50,360 Speaker 2: I'm sussing? And if we're both on the same page, 294 00:12:50,840 --> 00:12:51,560 Speaker 2: then we'd be. 295 00:12:51,520 --> 00:12:54,160 Speaker 1: Like, oh, thank you so much, like yadda YadA, yadda. 296 00:12:54,480 --> 00:12:58,000 Speaker 2: And then see if they then came to me, okay, 297 00:12:58,600 --> 00:13:00,880 Speaker 2: give me some ask me like if I me and 298 00:13:00,960 --> 00:13:03,560 Speaker 2: my boyfriend here, this is me and my boy. 299 00:13:03,760 --> 00:13:10,079 Speaker 1: He's pretty hard eh m, delicious, ask ask if we'd 300 00:13:10,120 --> 00:13:12,120 Speaker 1: open the relationship me and my boyfriend. 301 00:13:12,200 --> 00:13:13,439 Speaker 4: This is so uncomfortable. 302 00:13:13,600 --> 00:13:15,680 Speaker 1: This is me and my hubby. He's pretty good looking. 303 00:13:16,320 --> 00:13:18,120 Speaker 4: Are you guys interested in opening this up? 304 00:13:18,800 --> 00:13:22,360 Speaker 1: Oh? Honey, what do you think the bed's made? We 305 00:13:22,400 --> 00:13:25,800 Speaker 1: can just oh you have chlamydia? Yeah, sorry. 306 00:13:25,800 --> 00:13:27,720 Speaker 2: We just like to keep the club in between us. 307 00:13:30,320 --> 00:13:33,280 Speaker 2: We'd just be like, oh, completely respect that you guys 308 00:13:33,280 --> 00:13:35,360 Speaker 2: are open to that, but we just like to keep 309 00:13:35,360 --> 00:13:36,520 Speaker 2: our relationship closed. 310 00:13:36,600 --> 00:13:38,480 Speaker 1: It's like what we what we do? 311 00:13:38,760 --> 00:13:40,240 Speaker 4: Okay, Well, we're just next door. 312 00:13:40,280 --> 00:13:43,280 Speaker 1: If you ever know, thank you so much for letting 313 00:13:43,360 --> 00:13:44,959 Speaker 1: us know. We'll keep it in mind, definitely. 314 00:13:44,960 --> 00:13:47,200 Speaker 2: But I think right now, in our headspace that we're in, 315 00:13:47,280 --> 00:13:49,920 Speaker 2: we just like like to like keep our sexual partners 316 00:13:49,960 --> 00:13:50,600 Speaker 2: just between us. 317 00:13:50,720 --> 00:13:51,960 Speaker 4: Okay, you're free tomorrow. 318 00:13:53,200 --> 00:13:57,280 Speaker 2: Ah busy, we actually have steak night with our other friends. 319 00:13:57,360 --> 00:13:59,280 Speaker 2: But I would love to know more about how you 320 00:13:59,320 --> 00:14:01,920 Speaker 2: guys do that, if you guys open your relationship and 321 00:14:01,960 --> 00:14:02,640 Speaker 2: how that works. 322 00:14:02,679 --> 00:14:10,480 Speaker 4: Well, we're vegan, so we're not. That was crizy. 323 00:14:11,040 --> 00:14:12,520 Speaker 1: I think I just throw the question back up. 324 00:14:12,800 --> 00:14:15,440 Speaker 3: I'm the same though, like I just kind of giggle 325 00:14:15,559 --> 00:14:17,720 Speaker 3: things off and say no in the. 326 00:14:17,679 --> 00:14:20,360 Speaker 4: Least direct way possible, that advisable. 327 00:14:20,480 --> 00:14:26,200 Speaker 3: But but also think like this card is like with 328 00:14:26,400 --> 00:14:29,640 Speaker 3: hindsight saying you're now picking up like in the moment, 329 00:14:29,760 --> 00:14:31,760 Speaker 3: you also don't be like, hey, guys, we're not We 330 00:14:31,760 --> 00:14:33,280 Speaker 3: don't want to have a force someone and they're. 331 00:14:33,160 --> 00:14:36,920 Speaker 4: Like, what are you talking about? Really liking you? It's sticky. 332 00:14:37,600 --> 00:14:38,240 Speaker 1: It is sticky. 333 00:14:38,400 --> 00:14:40,120 Speaker 2: I think it's like you suss the situation a couple 334 00:14:40,160 --> 00:14:41,720 Speaker 2: of times, like if it was like the third time 335 00:14:41,760 --> 00:14:45,080 Speaker 2: you're meeting, and then they're like let's fuck and it's no, 336 00:14:45,800 --> 00:14:48,160 Speaker 2: oh good, well, good, thank you so much. 337 00:14:48,280 --> 00:14:52,400 Speaker 3: You can call someone or other things. 338 00:14:52,440 --> 00:14:53,280 Speaker 4: Just not me. 339 00:14:53,600 --> 00:14:55,680 Speaker 2: But I would love to be friends with a couple 340 00:14:55,680 --> 00:14:57,160 Speaker 2: who like open that relationship because I. 341 00:14:57,200 --> 00:14:58,200 Speaker 1: Just would love to hear the tea. 342 00:14:58,640 --> 00:15:03,120 Speaker 2: Yeah, I think I know mom, I know a few people, okay, but. 343 00:15:03,080 --> 00:15:04,720 Speaker 1: I don't have the balls to ask him about it. 344 00:15:05,000 --> 00:15:08,880 Speaker 3: I was actually at the Espy last Saturday and I 345 00:15:08,960 --> 00:15:11,160 Speaker 3: was waiting to get a drink and this girl was 346 00:15:11,160 --> 00:15:13,280 Speaker 3: with the guy and then she starts chatting to me. 347 00:15:13,360 --> 00:15:17,120 Speaker 3: I'm just like, she's a girlie. And then the guy 348 00:15:17,320 --> 00:15:19,880 Speaker 3: was like, oh, do you have a missus. I was like, 349 00:15:20,160 --> 00:15:22,000 Speaker 3: I was so drunk. I was like, I have a man. 350 00:15:23,080 --> 00:15:23,480 Speaker 1: Huh. 351 00:15:23,520 --> 00:15:25,440 Speaker 4: I was like a man. He's like, oh, fuck, we're 352 00:15:25,440 --> 00:15:29,680 Speaker 4: going to invite you back. I was like no, I 353 00:15:29,720 --> 00:15:32,280 Speaker 4: literally bros, just like we were saying. But I was 354 00:15:32,440 --> 00:15:33,920 Speaker 4: like the fuck. 355 00:15:34,840 --> 00:15:37,280 Speaker 2: I Like the other week, this guy and girl they 356 00:15:37,320 --> 00:15:39,360 Speaker 2: were like around me. It was it was late in 357 00:15:39,400 --> 00:15:42,440 Speaker 2: the evening and they were like sitting on the couch 358 00:15:42,520 --> 00:15:45,360 Speaker 2: and I was like sitting next to the girl and 359 00:15:45,840 --> 00:15:48,800 Speaker 2: she turns to her boyfriend and goes, can I hook 360 00:15:48,920 --> 00:15:49,480 Speaker 2: up with Sam? 361 00:15:49,920 --> 00:15:53,120 Speaker 1: And he goes yeah, of course. I was like, you're 362 00:15:53,160 --> 00:15:56,040 Speaker 1: gonna ask me? Yeah, I don't want to go with you. 363 00:15:56,520 --> 00:15:57,280 Speaker 4: Oh my god. 364 00:15:57,320 --> 00:15:58,760 Speaker 1: And I was like, oh, I'm more good. 365 00:15:58,760 --> 00:16:00,280 Speaker 4: Thanks, that's one. 366 00:16:00,240 --> 00:16:03,480 Speaker 1: Coat on the lips. I love you, queen. I was like, 367 00:16:03,520 --> 00:16:06,720 Speaker 1: I don't know, no, no, no, that's. 368 00:16:06,520 --> 00:16:08,480 Speaker 4: So funny that you're just like next to way. 369 00:16:09,120 --> 00:16:11,560 Speaker 2: Yeah, I was like, she just fully asked her boyfriend, 370 00:16:11,600 --> 00:16:13,480 Speaker 2: and I was like, I think we forgot that I'm 371 00:16:13,520 --> 00:16:15,040 Speaker 2: a throat plea. 372 00:16:18,360 --> 00:16:22,200 Speaker 3: So onto our last one. Following several setbacks in their 373 00:16:22,240 --> 00:16:25,600 Speaker 3: personal life, you've noticed that a friend of yours has 374 00:16:25,680 --> 00:16:29,560 Speaker 3: begun to drink rather more often and more copiously than 375 00:16:29,560 --> 00:16:33,280 Speaker 3: they used to. Although it isn't yet at problem levels, 376 00:16:33,520 --> 00:16:36,560 Speaker 3: you feel somewhat obliged to speak up to prevent them 377 00:16:36,680 --> 00:16:38,680 Speaker 3: from going down a destructive path. 378 00:16:38,840 --> 00:16:39,520 Speaker 4: What would you do? 379 00:16:40,720 --> 00:16:43,240 Speaker 1: I'd probably take them out for a sober dinner. 380 00:16:43,720 --> 00:16:45,000 Speaker 2: I would just be like, oh, let's have like a 381 00:16:45,000 --> 00:16:47,120 Speaker 2: casual dinner, like maybe like a picnic or something where 382 00:16:47,120 --> 00:16:49,800 Speaker 2: like alcohol isn't like at a bar like, or be 383 00:16:49,800 --> 00:16:51,440 Speaker 2: like come over to my house for dinner. And if 384 00:16:51,440 --> 00:16:54,640 Speaker 2: they're like begging for alcohol and all of that stuff 385 00:16:54,680 --> 00:16:57,400 Speaker 2: and like turning it into an alcoholic situation where it's 386 00:16:57,520 --> 00:17:00,360 Speaker 2: very much a situation where we didn't we don't drink, 387 00:17:00,760 --> 00:17:03,880 Speaker 2: I'd be like, girl, it's a Wednesday night, Like I 388 00:17:03,920 --> 00:17:06,439 Speaker 2: don't need alcohol. I'm not drinking during the week. And 389 00:17:06,480 --> 00:17:10,920 Speaker 2: then I would probably say it in like a lighthearted way, 390 00:17:11,040 --> 00:17:14,040 Speaker 2: being like you were having a lot of drinks recently, Like, 391 00:17:15,200 --> 00:17:17,080 Speaker 2: just get it on their mind, get it into their 392 00:17:17,080 --> 00:17:20,320 Speaker 2: forefront of their conscious that people have clocked your behavior. 393 00:17:20,720 --> 00:17:23,440 Speaker 2: I'd just be like, oh, sober weak, sobernight, sobernight. And 394 00:17:23,480 --> 00:17:25,960 Speaker 2: if they keep on pushing it, I'd be like, I'm 395 00:17:26,000 --> 00:17:28,320 Speaker 2: kind of worried about your drinking. If there's anything that 396 00:17:28,359 --> 00:17:30,119 Speaker 2: you want to speak about, like let me know, Like 397 00:17:30,200 --> 00:17:31,639 Speaker 2: I'm always going to be here for you, but like 398 00:17:31,680 --> 00:17:34,040 Speaker 2: i just wanted to fly to you that like I'm 399 00:17:34,080 --> 00:17:37,240 Speaker 2: nervous for you. But again, if they're in a position 400 00:17:37,240 --> 00:17:39,960 Speaker 2: where they're not ready to get help or they don't 401 00:17:40,000 --> 00:17:42,880 Speaker 2: think that they need help, you like getting and doing 402 00:17:42,880 --> 00:17:44,520 Speaker 2: the help for them is just going to cause a 403 00:17:44,640 --> 00:17:47,879 Speaker 2: riff between your relationship. I've had people around me with 404 00:17:47,920 --> 00:17:51,399 Speaker 2: substance abuse my whole life, so I have learned that 405 00:17:51,520 --> 00:17:53,600 Speaker 2: way of like you can raise it and you can 406 00:17:53,640 --> 00:17:55,480 Speaker 2: put it into their forefront of their conscience, but you 407 00:17:55,480 --> 00:17:57,760 Speaker 2: can't force them to get help. So like just kind 408 00:17:57,760 --> 00:18:00,840 Speaker 2: of raising that you've clocked it and you understand and 409 00:18:00,840 --> 00:18:03,600 Speaker 2: and just be like here if you need yeah, but 410 00:18:03,720 --> 00:18:05,199 Speaker 2: not going to push you to do anything. 411 00:18:05,320 --> 00:18:07,960 Speaker 3: I was really like confused about this until I remember 412 00:18:08,080 --> 00:18:11,000 Speaker 3: that the question was phrased it as it's. 413 00:18:10,840 --> 00:18:12,520 Speaker 4: Like before problem levels. 414 00:18:12,760 --> 00:18:15,960 Speaker 3: Yeah, that's like it's so hard and sensitive to step 415 00:18:16,000 --> 00:18:18,720 Speaker 3: into those issues. Yeah, before it's a problem level, I 416 00:18:18,720 --> 00:18:21,199 Speaker 3: think it's your best window to do it in a 417 00:18:21,240 --> 00:18:23,760 Speaker 3: respectful way, not a dudgmental way. 418 00:18:24,040 --> 00:18:25,720 Speaker 1: I think like because it's. 419 00:18:25,440 --> 00:18:28,240 Speaker 2: Before problem level, that like if it's out of control, 420 00:18:28,640 --> 00:18:31,560 Speaker 2: I would just like make a lighthearted passing comment and 421 00:18:31,600 --> 00:18:33,639 Speaker 2: be like, yeah, girl, like it's a Wednesday night, Like 422 00:18:33,640 --> 00:18:34,360 Speaker 2: we don't need a drink. 423 00:18:34,440 --> 00:18:37,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, Like or like oh you're drinking. 424 00:18:36,840 --> 00:18:39,360 Speaker 2: A lot recently or something like that, just like get 425 00:18:39,359 --> 00:18:42,240 Speaker 2: it into their conscious mind instead of like being like, oh, 426 00:18:42,280 --> 00:18:44,439 Speaker 2: someone's clocked that I'm drinking a lot? Am I drinking 427 00:18:44,480 --> 00:18:46,480 Speaker 2: a lot? Do I need to slow down? Is this 428 00:18:46,600 --> 00:18:49,080 Speaker 2: maybe a problem? So then it kind of like brings 429 00:18:49,080 --> 00:18:51,840 Speaker 2: the problem to them. Yeah, so you saying you have 430 00:18:51,920 --> 00:18:55,159 Speaker 2: a problem. You always use eye statements. Yeah, that's what 431 00:18:55,240 --> 00:18:57,120 Speaker 2: my mum, as a teacher, always told me. You use 432 00:18:57,200 --> 00:19:00,200 Speaker 2: ie statements. I feel like you're drinking a lot recently, 433 00:19:00,280 --> 00:19:03,320 Speaker 2: or I've noticed, not being like you are drinking a 434 00:19:03,320 --> 00:19:05,320 Speaker 2: lot recently, you have a problem. 435 00:19:05,400 --> 00:19:08,359 Speaker 1: It's like I have noticed I feel. 436 00:19:08,720 --> 00:19:10,280 Speaker 4: Yeah, it just be like if. 437 00:19:10,160 --> 00:19:12,320 Speaker 2: Something could be something in my brain that I've clocked, 438 00:19:12,359 --> 00:19:13,960 Speaker 2: but you could be completely fine. 439 00:19:14,040 --> 00:19:16,320 Speaker 3: I think I learned something similar. But it's if if 440 00:19:16,320 --> 00:19:21,280 Speaker 3: you say, I feel they can't take that away from you. Yeah, 441 00:19:21,359 --> 00:19:24,240 Speaker 3: but it's a very common issue. So it's like I 442 00:19:24,320 --> 00:19:26,520 Speaker 3: think there's a lot of stimulus there out there to 443 00:19:26,560 --> 00:19:27,720 Speaker 3: help someone in your life. 444 00:19:27,920 --> 00:19:28,439 Speaker 1: Yeah, like that. 445 00:19:28,520 --> 00:19:30,879 Speaker 3: I think a lot of people are turning to sobriety 446 00:19:30,960 --> 00:19:32,960 Speaker 3: and just like a very sober life. So I'm not 447 00:19:33,080 --> 00:19:36,520 Speaker 3: by the way, but like me, it's very popular nowadays. 448 00:19:36,920 --> 00:19:39,440 Speaker 4: So I think I. 449 00:19:38,880 --> 00:19:41,560 Speaker 3: Don't want to like get too into this, but I 450 00:19:41,640 --> 00:19:45,000 Speaker 3: definitely do have friends like go in cycles and struggle 451 00:19:45,040 --> 00:19:48,159 Speaker 3: with things like that. I think I kind of just 452 00:19:48,240 --> 00:19:53,840 Speaker 3: like create opportunities and activities that don't involve alcohol. Like 453 00:19:53,880 --> 00:19:55,760 Speaker 3: I'm like, let's just go for a walk, or let's 454 00:19:55,800 --> 00:19:58,240 Speaker 3: try this breakfast place I've always wanted you to try. 455 00:19:58,240 --> 00:20:00,640 Speaker 3: And I think through that you became I'm their friend 456 00:20:00,720 --> 00:20:02,520 Speaker 3: that like, oh I don't have to drink with Blake 457 00:20:02,560 --> 00:20:03,480 Speaker 3: to catch up with him. 458 00:20:03,680 --> 00:20:04,640 Speaker 4: Yes, it's sticky. 459 00:20:04,720 --> 00:20:07,399 Speaker 2: If it's like worth you, if you're a strictly drinking friend, 460 00:20:07,520 --> 00:20:09,960 Speaker 2: then that's like really really hard to then bring up 461 00:20:10,000 --> 00:20:13,240 Speaker 2: a problem with them. But like, I don't drink throughout 462 00:20:13,280 --> 00:20:15,080 Speaker 2: the week. I don't drink on a weekday. So like 463 00:20:15,200 --> 00:20:17,159 Speaker 2: I and like a lot of my friends know that. 464 00:20:17,480 --> 00:20:19,560 Speaker 2: So like if I were to see catch up with 465 00:20:19,600 --> 00:20:20,760 Speaker 2: you during the week, you would. 466 00:20:20,520 --> 00:20:21,679 Speaker 1: Openly know I'm not drinking. 467 00:20:21,840 --> 00:20:25,640 Speaker 2: Yeah Friday, I think different, But like, yeah, I think, 468 00:20:25,720 --> 00:20:28,680 Speaker 2: And also just don't be in a enabler. Don't when 469 00:20:28,720 --> 00:20:31,520 Speaker 2: they are drinking. Don't be like another round, another round, 470 00:20:31,560 --> 00:20:36,640 Speaker 2: another round, another round, clock them, paste them, match them. Yeah, 471 00:20:36,680 --> 00:20:39,520 Speaker 2: I'd just be like, oh, well, let let them match. 472 00:20:39,600 --> 00:20:41,520 Speaker 2: You be like, no, nah, I'm going to have a 473 00:20:41,560 --> 00:20:42,960 Speaker 2: water between our aperol spirits. 474 00:20:42,960 --> 00:20:46,000 Speaker 1: So I'm take your apperol spirits slowly. 475 00:20:46,080 --> 00:20:48,200 Speaker 2: If you have noticed that your friend has a problem, 476 00:20:48,760 --> 00:20:51,440 Speaker 2: you kind of and you obviously really care about them. 477 00:20:51,680 --> 00:20:55,120 Speaker 1: You kind of be the leader of the situation instead. 478 00:20:54,840 --> 00:20:57,040 Speaker 2: Of like following in their footsteps if you're being drinking 479 00:20:57,040 --> 00:21:00,040 Speaker 2: one after or another after another, which I'm not opposed to, 480 00:21:00,560 --> 00:21:02,600 Speaker 2: but if you think your friend has a problem, kind 481 00:21:02,600 --> 00:21:06,280 Speaker 2: of take that responsibility and obviously care for them and teach. 482 00:21:06,080 --> 00:21:06,920 Speaker 1: Them how to slow it down. 483 00:21:06,960 --> 00:21:08,360 Speaker 4: Yeah, then I think, don't like. 484 00:21:08,359 --> 00:21:11,480 Speaker 2: Enable it, and like like think that that's no normal 485 00:21:11,520 --> 00:21:13,200 Speaker 2: behavior for them, because then they've just got a few 486 00:21:13,520 --> 00:21:14,240 Speaker 2: fuel that in them. 487 00:21:14,400 --> 00:21:14,840 Speaker 4: Yeah. 488 00:21:14,880 --> 00:21:16,439 Speaker 3: Then I think as friends, we kind of let our 489 00:21:16,520 --> 00:21:18,880 Speaker 3: drunk friends like run off and do their own things. 490 00:21:18,880 --> 00:21:21,520 Speaker 3: So I think try and engage them in conversations as well, 491 00:21:21,560 --> 00:21:23,399 Speaker 3: and just like make sure they're at the same not 492 00:21:23,440 --> 00:21:26,080 Speaker 3: the same drunken level as you guys, but just like 493 00:21:26,160 --> 00:21:28,679 Speaker 3: engaging them and making sure their point of view as welcome. 494 00:21:28,760 --> 00:21:30,520 Speaker 4: Yeah, that might even sober them up a bit. 495 00:21:30,680 --> 00:21:33,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, and even if, like if it's like a common 496 00:21:33,320 --> 00:21:35,320 Speaker 2: thing that you're all talking in the background of someone 497 00:21:35,560 --> 00:21:37,240 Speaker 2: being like, oh, Betty has a problem, Like I'm really 498 00:21:37,240 --> 00:21:39,480 Speaker 2: worried about Betty's drinking, where you'll be like, okay, well 499 00:21:39,560 --> 00:21:41,000 Speaker 2: let's go out with Betty, and we're all on the 500 00:21:41,000 --> 00:21:42,720 Speaker 2: same page that we're going to keep Betty paste and 501 00:21:43,080 --> 00:21:45,000 Speaker 2: see how she is. So we all have and like, 502 00:21:45,200 --> 00:21:47,200 Speaker 2: I don't think that's bitching about your friends behind your back. 503 00:21:47,240 --> 00:21:49,320 Speaker 2: I think it's all sharing a level of concern so 504 00:21:49,359 --> 00:21:51,640 Speaker 2: we all are aware of the situation, and we can 505 00:21:51,720 --> 00:21:54,960 Speaker 2: all be aware and read situations so then we can 506 00:21:55,160 --> 00:21:55,840 Speaker 2: take care of her. 507 00:21:56,000 --> 00:21:58,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, be there for her anyway. 508 00:21:58,080 --> 00:22:01,600 Speaker 2: I hope you guys having a crazy years and had 509 00:22:01,640 --> 00:22:04,960 Speaker 2: a lot of fun. But pace your friends, pace yourself. 510 00:22:05,200 --> 00:22:07,919 Speaker 2: Puts on screen on, really actually puts on screen on. 511 00:22:08,080 --> 00:22:11,920 Speaker 2: Get out of the sun, have a fucking hydraulight, put 512 00:22:11,920 --> 00:22:12,920 Speaker 2: the air condition on. 513 00:22:13,200 --> 00:22:15,160 Speaker 4: And stay hydrated. 514 00:22:15,240 --> 00:22:16,040 Speaker 1: Stay hydrated. 515 00:22:16,400 --> 00:22:18,680 Speaker 2: Shake your ass on the end, But yeah, I love 516 00:22:18,720 --> 00:22:21,440 Speaker 2: you guys so much, Thank you so much for listening 517 00:22:21,600 --> 00:22:23,119 Speaker 2: to this week's episode. 518 00:22:23,160 --> 00:22:25,080 Speaker 1: And I'll see you next week in twenty twenty six. 519 00:22:25,320 --> 00:22:26,040 Speaker 1: And bye.