1 00:00:05,921 --> 00:00:13,681 Speaker 1: Apolge, production, life stuff, life, parenting. 2 00:00:14,281 --> 00:00:16,241 Speaker 2: We're doing life together and we're just going. 3 00:00:16,201 --> 00:00:17,161 Speaker 3: To tell you all about it. 4 00:00:17,601 --> 00:00:22,041 Speaker 1: I hate the word perimenopause. I can't We're not in menopause. Like, 5 00:00:22,081 --> 00:00:23,001 Speaker 1: it's making me angry. 6 00:00:23,761 --> 00:00:28,201 Speaker 3: What Welcome back. 7 00:00:28,001 --> 00:00:31,561 Speaker 1: To another bonus episode of who even are We? 8 00:00:31,841 --> 00:00:32,081 Speaker 3: Today? 9 00:00:32,081 --> 00:00:35,361 Speaker 1: We're going to talk about something that Rach thinks we 10 00:00:35,441 --> 00:00:36,881 Speaker 1: should all start our day with. 11 00:00:37,241 --> 00:00:41,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's completely random, it's fun, it's gonna uplift vibes. 12 00:00:42,161 --> 00:00:45,561 Speaker 2: So I was walking and on one of my walks 13 00:00:45,601 --> 00:00:49,040 Speaker 2: the other day, so I received a text from someone 14 00:00:49,200 --> 00:00:52,721 Speaker 2: and then the way that I read the text, it 15 00:00:52,840 --> 00:00:55,321 Speaker 2: was so like boring and bland. 16 00:00:56,001 --> 00:00:57,801 Speaker 3: So I was like reading it, I was like blah 17 00:00:57,921 --> 00:00:58,641 Speaker 3: blah blah blah. 18 00:00:59,281 --> 00:01:01,601 Speaker 2: And then straight away I was like, oh and then 19 00:01:01,641 --> 00:01:04,840 Speaker 2: my body language are like that was how I felt 20 00:01:04,881 --> 00:01:08,441 Speaker 2: my feelings attached to the bland text message was like oh. 21 00:01:08,481 --> 00:01:11,521 Speaker 3: So then I was walking and I was thinking to myself, how. 22 00:01:11,360 --> 00:01:17,121 Speaker 2: Would you make or brighten other people's days whilst still 23 00:01:17,321 --> 00:01:22,961 Speaker 2: almost like activating that part of their brain of accountability. Right, 24 00:01:23,241 --> 00:01:26,121 Speaker 2: there's accountability coaches. We know that that's like a thing, 25 00:01:26,200 --> 00:01:28,360 Speaker 2: like that's an actual job. I could probably do that. 26 00:01:29,441 --> 00:01:32,041 Speaker 2: But this was coming down to text message and how 27 00:01:32,121 --> 00:01:34,560 Speaker 2: bland they can sometimes make you feel. So I was 28 00:01:34,601 --> 00:01:38,080 Speaker 2: thinking about the voice notes, right, there's so many of 29 00:01:38,121 --> 00:01:41,240 Speaker 2: these little reels that go around, and I was thinking, 30 00:01:41,280 --> 00:01:43,761 Speaker 2: I want to put my own spin on something like. 31 00:01:43,681 --> 00:01:49,321 Speaker 1: This, good morning you gorgeous ray of fucking sunshine, repeat 32 00:01:49,401 --> 00:01:52,160 Speaker 1: after me. I am a fucking awesome person who has 33 00:01:52,161 --> 00:01:54,081 Speaker 1: dealt with so much shit and I have made it 34 00:01:54,121 --> 00:01:56,441 Speaker 1: through it all and am still cute and smart and 35 00:01:56,561 --> 00:01:57,721 Speaker 1: funny and nice. 36 00:01:57,441 --> 00:02:01,160 Speaker 2: And intelligent, and I kick ass. You get all that good? 37 00:02:01,561 --> 00:02:02,601 Speaker 1: Now go slap this day? 38 00:02:02,641 --> 00:02:02,960 Speaker 3: Silly? 39 00:02:03,121 --> 00:02:03,801 Speaker 1: What is that on? 40 00:02:04,201 --> 00:02:04,881 Speaker 3: That was just on end? 41 00:02:05,721 --> 00:02:08,801 Speaker 1: Okay, because that would be a really lovely way to start. 42 00:02:09,001 --> 00:02:10,681 Speaker 3: Obviously don't have that much swearing in it. 43 00:02:10,721 --> 00:02:13,321 Speaker 2: But I was thinking about, like the whole idea around 44 00:02:13,401 --> 00:02:17,161 Speaker 2: it was changing up instead of like text messages to 45 00:02:17,281 --> 00:02:20,681 Speaker 2: voice notes. So like sometimes I've noticed myself is like 46 00:02:20,761 --> 00:02:23,120 Speaker 2: if I go to my phone and I want to 47 00:02:23,161 --> 00:02:26,761 Speaker 2: text you, I literally go to my phone, open it up. 48 00:02:26,841 --> 00:02:29,641 Speaker 2: But because I'm trying to do a million different things, 49 00:02:30,321 --> 00:02:33,561 Speaker 2: the bottom little microphone there, you know, like speak to text, 50 00:02:34,201 --> 00:02:35,240 Speaker 2: So mine speak to. 51 00:02:35,201 --> 00:02:37,240 Speaker 3: Text is always good morning? 52 00:02:37,481 --> 00:02:40,561 Speaker 2: How are you can't wait to see you today, looking 53 00:02:40,601 --> 00:02:43,880 Speaker 2: forward to recording another great episode of the podcast. 54 00:02:44,081 --> 00:02:45,840 Speaker 3: I'll see you at nine X. 55 00:02:46,201 --> 00:02:49,800 Speaker 1: And then let me tell you how I read that. Okay, 56 00:02:50,161 --> 00:02:51,081 Speaker 1: have you sent it to me? 57 00:02:51,161 --> 00:02:52,801 Speaker 3: I'll send you this plain text. 58 00:02:53,361 --> 00:02:54,761 Speaker 1: Okay, this is how I'm gonna. 59 00:02:54,800 --> 00:02:57,601 Speaker 2: Then you're gonna you've just received it and you're reading 60 00:02:57,641 --> 00:02:58,681 Speaker 2: it in your way. 61 00:02:59,800 --> 00:03:00,401 Speaker 1: Good morning? 62 00:03:00,481 --> 00:03:00,961 Speaker 3: How are you? 63 00:03:01,161 --> 00:03:04,041 Speaker 1: Question mark? I don't really care. I'm just it's what 64 00:03:04,081 --> 00:03:06,601 Speaker 1: you have to say. Can't wait to see you today, 65 00:03:06,960 --> 00:03:11,361 Speaker 1: full stop, looking forward to recording another great episode of 66 00:03:11,401 --> 00:03:16,121 Speaker 1: the podcast. Almost sarcastic because what I mean. 67 00:03:16,121 --> 00:03:18,481 Speaker 3: Is because the punctuation is so clear. 68 00:03:18,441 --> 00:03:21,441 Speaker 1: Because it's doing all the right punctuation, because you just 69 00:03:21,481 --> 00:03:25,561 Speaker 1: did voice to text. Yeah, you're right, it's boring. So 70 00:03:25,761 --> 00:03:27,921 Speaker 1: the way I would soften that message if I was 71 00:03:28,041 --> 00:03:31,401 Speaker 1: texting it, yeah, is I'd probably put an exclamation mark 72 00:03:31,441 --> 00:03:34,281 Speaker 1: after can't wait to see you today, like you really 73 00:03:34,281 --> 00:03:36,881 Speaker 1: can't wait to see me today, And then at the 74 00:03:37,041 --> 00:03:40,321 Speaker 1: end I'd put a smiley face, because that's how I 75 00:03:40,321 --> 00:03:43,361 Speaker 1: feel like you need to soften text messages. So what 76 00:03:43,401 --> 00:03:43,801 Speaker 1: would you do? 77 00:03:44,121 --> 00:03:44,281 Speaker 3: Then? 78 00:03:44,441 --> 00:03:47,721 Speaker 2: My idea would be, instead of it being on text, 79 00:03:47,881 --> 00:03:50,561 Speaker 2: you would get something for your morning would be like 80 00:03:51,361 --> 00:03:53,601 Speaker 2: I would actually do a voice note to you and 81 00:03:53,641 --> 00:03:57,601 Speaker 2: say it all with the same emphasis and same like 82 00:03:57,761 --> 00:04:04,361 Speaker 2: excitement and tone and uplifting vibe. That then you would go, oh, 83 00:04:05,081 --> 00:04:06,961 Speaker 2: oh that lifted me too, Like do you know what 84 00:04:07,001 --> 00:04:10,281 Speaker 2: I mean? It's always like that uplifting vibe is contagious. 85 00:04:10,521 --> 00:04:12,681 Speaker 1: Yeah, but you could be you can get it through 86 00:04:12,761 --> 00:04:17,081 Speaker 1: voice next, feel affirmation affirmations. 87 00:04:17,161 --> 00:04:17,401 Speaker 3: Yeah. 88 00:04:17,681 --> 00:04:20,001 Speaker 2: I genuinely was like, how do I make my friends 89 00:04:20,121 --> 00:04:20,681 Speaker 2: days better? 90 00:04:21,121 --> 00:04:23,601 Speaker 3: Like I'm an uplifting person. Yes, it's what I do. 91 00:04:23,721 --> 00:04:25,801 Speaker 3: It's also a part of being a coach. 92 00:04:26,361 --> 00:04:28,681 Speaker 2: You know, sometimes you can be a hard task master, 93 00:04:28,801 --> 00:04:31,440 Speaker 2: but at the same time you're like trying to lift 94 00:04:31,521 --> 00:04:34,481 Speaker 2: others to see the potential that you can see in them. 95 00:04:34,641 --> 00:04:35,641 Speaker 3: I can see the potential. 96 00:04:35,681 --> 00:04:38,200 Speaker 2: I want to lift you to the same vibration to 97 00:04:38,201 --> 00:04:40,960 Speaker 2: see the potential in yourself to then achieve your goals. 98 00:04:41,041 --> 00:04:42,601 Speaker 3: That's what a coach is ultimately. 99 00:04:42,880 --> 00:04:45,321 Speaker 2: Yeah, So then I was thinking every single morning, I 100 00:04:45,361 --> 00:04:46,841 Speaker 2: was like, how do I make my friends days better? 101 00:04:46,961 --> 00:04:49,080 Speaker 2: Instead of sending a boring old text message, I'm going 102 00:04:49,161 --> 00:04:50,561 Speaker 2: to send the vibe on So. 103 00:04:50,521 --> 00:04:54,961 Speaker 1: We should all do this. So maybe just one person 104 00:04:55,001 --> 00:04:57,281 Speaker 1: a day, pick a person and choose a different one 105 00:04:57,320 --> 00:05:02,001 Speaker 1: every day, yep, and send one voice note. 106 00:05:02,681 --> 00:05:02,880 Speaker 3: Right. 107 00:05:03,121 --> 00:05:05,601 Speaker 1: I've got friends that send voice notes, and then I 108 00:05:05,641 --> 00:05:08,361 Speaker 1: get all flustered with not knowing what to respond, and 109 00:05:08,361 --> 00:05:10,721 Speaker 1: then I'm like I end up going like I record 110 00:05:10,761 --> 00:05:12,841 Speaker 1: and I'll go, oh, hey, I hope you're having a 111 00:05:12,880 --> 00:05:16,281 Speaker 1: great day. And then I'll be like, oh, you sounded sarcastic, 112 00:05:16,681 --> 00:05:18,681 Speaker 1: and then and then I'll redo that, and then it 113 00:05:18,721 --> 00:05:21,921 Speaker 1: annoys me. What I've learned, just do it, send it, 114 00:05:22,241 --> 00:05:23,640 Speaker 1: and then w It's. 115 00:05:23,561 --> 00:05:25,641 Speaker 2: No different than me having a phone conversation with no 116 00:05:26,041 --> 00:05:27,601 Speaker 2: It is really at the end of the day, some 117 00:05:27,641 --> 00:05:30,201 Speaker 2: phone conversations I can sound distracted. But so what I 118 00:05:30,241 --> 00:05:33,201 Speaker 2: was thinking was from a voice note perspective of like 119 00:05:33,561 --> 00:05:36,640 Speaker 2: I kept going down the whole thing about uplifting other 120 00:05:36,681 --> 00:05:41,200 Speaker 2: people's day, Like that contagious vibe, like the positive vibe. 121 00:05:41,201 --> 00:05:42,801 Speaker 2: You want to give it to others, you want to 122 00:05:42,841 --> 00:05:45,081 Speaker 2: share it, you want to uplift them so that they're like, yeah, 123 00:05:45,081 --> 00:05:46,520 Speaker 2: I'm going to kick us today. 124 00:05:46,601 --> 00:05:47,281 Speaker 3: Yeah. 125 00:05:47,320 --> 00:05:49,400 Speaker 1: And it's also like that's going to make you feel 126 00:05:49,401 --> 00:05:51,921 Speaker 1: good about your day too, because you've done that little 127 00:05:51,921 --> 00:05:55,440 Speaker 1: thing that's been So when we talk about ticking boxes 128 00:05:55,440 --> 00:05:57,840 Speaker 1: in the morning. I always make the bed every morning 129 00:05:57,841 --> 00:06:00,561 Speaker 1: because for me, it's like the first job is done 130 00:06:00,761 --> 00:06:03,201 Speaker 1: and I'm starting the day in a great way. I 131 00:06:03,241 --> 00:06:05,881 Speaker 1: hate leaving the house and having made the bed because 132 00:06:05,880 --> 00:06:08,640 Speaker 1: it's almost like I haven't started the day properly. So 133 00:06:08,761 --> 00:06:13,441 Speaker 1: maybe this is just on the list of things once 134 00:06:13,561 --> 00:06:15,760 Speaker 1: they to do. It's not like I'm not sure. 135 00:06:16,361 --> 00:06:20,081 Speaker 2: During the week, I feel like everyone is just so regimented, 136 00:06:20,440 --> 00:06:24,121 Speaker 2: like there's no feeling attached to anything because everyone's just 137 00:06:24,161 --> 00:06:28,721 Speaker 2: so busy and you're already like forecasting forty five other 138 00:06:28,841 --> 00:06:31,481 Speaker 2: things by the time you've got like dance pick up 139 00:06:31,481 --> 00:06:33,760 Speaker 2: at nine pm, like I've already you know what I mean. 140 00:06:34,481 --> 00:06:38,200 Speaker 2: So the weeks Monday to Friday is so regimented and 141 00:06:38,361 --> 00:06:40,961 Speaker 2: heavy already. I was like, how do you add some 142 00:06:41,001 --> 00:06:43,281 Speaker 2: sparkle and shine to the morning, because we all know 143 00:06:43,361 --> 00:06:45,721 Speaker 2: that you win the morning, you win the day. Kind 144 00:06:45,761 --> 00:06:49,721 Speaker 2: of vibe kick ass, spread some love, share the sparkle, 145 00:06:49,961 --> 00:06:54,521 Speaker 2: and keep that vibe high. I mean not every single day, 146 00:06:54,561 --> 00:06:57,361 Speaker 2: but imagine if someone was having a really like Debbie 147 00:06:57,361 --> 00:07:01,520 Speaker 2: down a day and you like really lifted their sparkle enough, 148 00:07:01,961 --> 00:07:03,961 Speaker 2: just enough for them to get through the day. 149 00:07:04,201 --> 00:07:06,001 Speaker 3: Yeah, that's a mass job done. 150 00:07:06,281 --> 00:07:08,961 Speaker 2: That's heavy lifting, all from the use of your voice 151 00:07:09,041 --> 00:07:10,521 Speaker 2: and words and positivity. 152 00:07:10,721 --> 00:07:13,281 Speaker 1: Because we talked on a previous episode about the things 153 00:07:13,361 --> 00:07:16,641 Speaker 1: that we can do to oh oh yeah, talking. 154 00:07:16,321 --> 00:07:18,561 Speaker 2: About we were talking about killing your bucket of calling 155 00:07:18,601 --> 00:07:19,481 Speaker 2: someone yeah. 156 00:07:19,361 --> 00:07:21,961 Speaker 1: Yeah, and even like checking in, just sending a text 157 00:07:21,961 --> 00:07:25,361 Speaker 1: message like this is like a better version. 158 00:07:25,281 --> 00:07:26,881 Speaker 3: Of checking in of checking in. 159 00:07:27,081 --> 00:07:30,721 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like checking in with accountability if you were 160 00:07:30,721 --> 00:07:33,361 Speaker 2: accountability coach and you did your checking calls. Like I 161 00:07:33,401 --> 00:07:35,321 Speaker 2: was talking to a friend the other day and he said, 162 00:07:35,681 --> 00:07:38,281 Speaker 2: can you believe this is? Like is this sound about right? 163 00:07:38,641 --> 00:07:41,441 Speaker 2: He said, I started at a new gym and this 164 00:07:41,681 --> 00:07:44,201 Speaker 2: PT was like at me, AMMI ammy, and it was 165 00:07:44,241 --> 00:07:46,280 Speaker 2: going to be and it was like fifty or sixty dollars, 166 00:07:46,321 --> 00:07:48,321 Speaker 2: and it was going to be for a written program 167 00:07:48,361 --> 00:07:50,321 Speaker 2: for a few weeks. And then on top of that, 168 00:07:50,361 --> 00:07:51,961 Speaker 2: as a bonus add on, if you want to pay 169 00:07:51,961 --> 00:07:56,041 Speaker 2: another fifty dollars, I'll lock in a fifteen minute accountability 170 00:07:56,081 --> 00:07:59,081 Speaker 2: phone call with you at the end of each week. 171 00:07:59,401 --> 00:08:00,841 Speaker 2: And I looked at him and I was like what 172 00:08:01,241 --> 00:08:03,241 Speaker 2: And he was like yeah, he said, so does that 173 00:08:03,241 --> 00:08:04,881 Speaker 2: sound about right? And I was like, mate, I'll take 174 00:08:04,921 --> 00:08:07,161 Speaker 2: the accountability piece. I was like, I can ring you. 175 00:08:07,201 --> 00:08:10,241 Speaker 2: I fucking ring you for free. I ring you, I 176 00:08:10,321 --> 00:08:11,521 Speaker 2: check in, I see how you are. 177 00:08:11,641 --> 00:08:12,761 Speaker 3: I'm asking you what you're doing. 178 00:08:12,801 --> 00:08:15,081 Speaker 2: You're coming to me for advice about this and whether 179 00:08:15,081 --> 00:08:16,881 Speaker 2: you're going to pay someone else for a fifteen minute. 180 00:08:16,641 --> 00:08:18,841 Speaker 3: Phone call you maad me the fifty dollars? Yeah, and 181 00:08:18,961 --> 00:08:21,241 Speaker 3: doing it anyway, And he just loved. He goes, oh 182 00:08:21,321 --> 00:08:23,601 Speaker 3: my god, now that you put it like that, it's like, 183 00:08:23,961 --> 00:08:25,961 Speaker 3: I'm not going to do it. I was like, absolutely, 184 00:08:25,961 --> 00:08:26,841 Speaker 3: I'm not going to do it. 185 00:08:26,881 --> 00:08:29,961 Speaker 1: I was like, no, that doesn't feel good either, knowing 186 00:08:29,961 --> 00:08:30,801 Speaker 1: that you're paying for it. 187 00:08:31,121 --> 00:08:33,761 Speaker 2: You're paying for somebody else's phone call. But then on 188 00:08:33,801 --> 00:08:37,641 Speaker 2: the flip side, Katie, you're paying for their phone call, 189 00:08:37,921 --> 00:08:40,081 Speaker 2: but they have a particular expertise that. 190 00:08:40,121 --> 00:08:42,921 Speaker 3: They're chatting to you. It's a service. Yeah, yeah, I 191 00:08:42,961 --> 00:08:43,681 Speaker 3: get both sides. 192 00:08:43,681 --> 00:08:45,761 Speaker 2: When I'm into a friend and he's talking like that, 193 00:08:45,881 --> 00:08:47,881 Speaker 2: I was like, hang on a second. 194 00:08:47,841 --> 00:08:52,721 Speaker 1: But how about we then go if there's something you 195 00:08:52,801 --> 00:08:56,681 Speaker 1: need to be held accountable for saying to a friend, yeah, 196 00:08:56,721 --> 00:08:59,841 Speaker 1: pick one and just go, hey, can you check in 197 00:08:59,881 --> 00:09:01,041 Speaker 1: with me at the end of the week, And just 198 00:09:01,081 --> 00:09:01,641 Speaker 1: make sure. 199 00:09:01,441 --> 00:09:06,961 Speaker 2: I did you. Could you ring me every Friday at 200 00:09:07,001 --> 00:09:10,521 Speaker 2: nine and I'll speak to you for fifteen minutes. I'll 201 00:09:10,561 --> 00:09:12,721 Speaker 2: debreathe and I'll unload everything. 202 00:09:12,841 --> 00:09:15,281 Speaker 1: Take a different person every week, and then you're not 203 00:09:15,481 --> 00:09:16,921 Speaker 1: putting it too much on them. 204 00:09:17,121 --> 00:09:20,441 Speaker 3: Yeah, I just think there is something there. 205 00:09:20,601 --> 00:09:22,841 Speaker 1: I'll be really upset if by the end of the 206 00:09:22,841 --> 00:09:25,921 Speaker 1: week I don't get a voice note from you, because 207 00:09:25,961 --> 00:09:28,161 Speaker 1: I'll be like, I know this is the thing that 208 00:09:28,201 --> 00:09:31,001 Speaker 1: she's doing, and I haven't received one yet. 209 00:09:31,321 --> 00:09:32,161 Speaker 3: I haven't cheap one. 210 00:09:32,201 --> 00:09:33,881 Speaker 2: I haven't even done one yet, because you know what, 211 00:09:33,921 --> 00:09:36,321 Speaker 2: I've sat on it until I literally was like, I better, 212 00:09:36,401 --> 00:09:39,801 Speaker 2: I'm going to use this as content because it's a 213 00:09:39,801 --> 00:09:40,721 Speaker 2: great idea. 214 00:09:40,801 --> 00:09:42,721 Speaker 1: It wasn't very long ago, Rachel, you told me you 215 00:09:42,761 --> 00:09:43,921 Speaker 1: hated voice messages. 216 00:09:44,401 --> 00:09:46,361 Speaker 3: I no, I don't want to listen to you go 217 00:09:46,441 --> 00:09:47,561 Speaker 3: on for like too long. 218 00:09:48,441 --> 00:09:51,241 Speaker 1: I had to be a length. Okay, cap it at 219 00:09:51,281 --> 00:09:52,041 Speaker 1: a certain. 220 00:09:51,801 --> 00:09:54,281 Speaker 3: Length, kind of like Instagram. You're going to captivate me 221 00:09:54,361 --> 00:09:56,201 Speaker 3: within the first three seconds.