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Speaker 1: Apologie production. How do you prioritize intimacy with your husband

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Speaker 1: when you're so exhausted every single night? It just has

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Speaker 1: to be a priority. I feel like intimacy is something

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Speaker 1: that you just have to prioritize. And I feel like sometimes,

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Speaker 1: you know, when you get out of bed in the morning,

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Speaker 1: say when my alarm goes off at four thirty, it's

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Speaker 1: hard to get out of bed.

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Speaker 2: Once I'm out of bed, I'm good.

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Speaker 1: Sometimes it's like sometimes I'm like I look at it

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Speaker 1: and I'm like, I love you. I'm like my body

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Speaker 1: wants you. I'm so keen. I was like, I'm feeling

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Speaker 1: so tired, but watch you into it, Like, how are

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Speaker 1: you like so glad we started.

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Speaker 2: It and like we were having a bad analogy. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I love that. I love that.

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Speaker 3: And we were having this conversation the other day about

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Speaker 3: like board games and stuff sometimes to make things a

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Speaker 3: bit fun. Yes, you know, like actually know we both

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Speaker 3: got a board game. Yes, And honestly, like Kurt and

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Speaker 3: I love it. We'll try to prioritize like once a

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Speaker 3: month or once a few weeks to just like pull

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Speaker 3: it out and do it.

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Speaker 1: Maybe nighttime sex isn't for you. Morning sex morning sex

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Speaker 1: or like fast weekend sex. When Tyler goes like we

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Speaker 1: both look at each other We're like, oh, yeah, well

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Speaker 1: I should go get your iPad one hundred percent every

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Speaker 1: single weekend. Like we're both like it's so good. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: Oh I love this one. I'm curious to hear your answer.

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Speaker 1: I think I'll know it anyway. But do you ever

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Speaker 1: wish you played the field more before settling down with

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Speaker 1: your partners because I've both been with them.

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Speaker 2: For so long.

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Speaker 3: Honestly, part of me is like I kind of wish

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Speaker 3: I did go a little bit more wild.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, to be.

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Speaker 3: Completely honest, because we had six months apart when I

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Speaker 3: turned eighteen, and that was the only time in my

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Speaker 3: life that I've really like not been with him. Yes,

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Speaker 3: But then again, in our relationship, we've experimented so much

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Speaker 3: together over the years that we've kept it fun and exciting.

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Speaker 3: So I feel like, rather than being with like multiple people,

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Speaker 3: I really like how with our connection together we've like

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Speaker 3: literally I feel like we've tried newly everything. Like we're

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Speaker 3: like both open, we can have a lot of fun

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Speaker 3: and always be like looking for new things to try.

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Speaker 3: I think if I look back, I kind of wish

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Speaker 3: that I experimented a little bit more.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, just to have done it.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, just because now I'm like I love him. I

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Speaker 3: would never ever sacrifice that, and I'm so happy being

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Speaker 3: with him, and also like our sex life is great,

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Speaker 3: Like I'm so satisfied love that. But like there is

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Speaker 3: a part of me that was like when I was younger,

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Speaker 3: I wish I had kind of just like went for

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Speaker 3: a little bit more like in about six months.

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Speaker 2: But I'm not that type of person. I would find

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Speaker 2: someone I need a connection.

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Speaker 3: I just wasn't one of those girls that went to

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Speaker 3: a nightclub and had a one night stand or just

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Speaker 3: like passed a random Like I just never was like that.

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Speaker 2: He's like, maybe I should have.

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Speaker 1: Why didn't I just in align with you. Yeah, I

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Speaker 1: definitely had about a year that I was single from

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Speaker 1: my first partner to meeting Steve, but I'd never had

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Speaker 1: a one night stand. But I remember I went out

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Speaker 1: one night with my girlfriends and I was like determined

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Speaker 1: to have one night stand because it's like this is

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Speaker 1: my chances a single, Like it's gonna be like the

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Speaker 1: movies who like met this guy like con up with

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Speaker 1: them all night. I went back to his house when

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Speaker 1: it came to doing it, and I was like, oh.

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Speaker 2: No, sorry, I backed down. I was just that connection

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Speaker 2: I do and it just wanted me.

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Speaker 1: I was just doing it because I thought that was

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Speaker 1: like what you do and that was the cool thing

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Speaker 1: to do, but it really wasn't for me. And then

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Speaker 1: when I met Steve and I was like, yeah, they can.

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Speaker 1: Action is just so important to me. So I don't

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Speaker 1: have any regrets because I don't think even if I

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Speaker 1: was to be single now, it's just not who I am.

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Speaker 1: But I'm similar to you, like open and just love

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Speaker 1: experiencing things with Steve.

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Speaker 2: Trying new things, keeping it fun, keeping it hash.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and I think all that stuff is so fun

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Speaker 1: with someone that you deeply love and are connected with. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I don't think I would enjoy a one night stand

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Speaker 1: with someone that I didn't have a connection with.

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Speaker 2: Because it's really funny. But I feel like I would

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Speaker 2: find a herd to orgasm.

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Speaker 3: Your body comfortable and you want to feel like really confident,

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Speaker 3: Like I feel like that's the best part. Yeah, in

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Speaker 3: a way about sex, like Kurt and I let all

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Speaker 3: our walls down, but I feel like it would take

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Speaker 3: a while for me to actually feel your body.

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Speaker 1: They don't know what you love, like Steve is exactly

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Speaker 1: what I love and vice versa.

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Speaker 2: So well, I've never had anyone else.

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Speaker 3: Maybe it's just too much of money to chake with

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Speaker 3: k before this goes out, but I've never ever ever

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Speaker 3: had anyone else make your orgasm besides skirt.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's been able to do it so with the

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Speaker 2: other people I've been with. He will listened to this and.

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Speaker 1: Be like, yeah, literal, that so funny. What a good

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Speaker 1: question that. I love that.

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Speaker 2: Thoughts on age gap relationships, Oh.

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Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, Steve and I have nine years apart.

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Speaker 1: I always say, but age does not equal connection. No,

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Speaker 1: we've never ever noticed our age gap. I can see

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Speaker 1: people's reactions when I say we've got nine years apart.

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Speaker 1: They're kind of like, oh wow, you know the judgments

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Speaker 1: are flying out, even just with the energy. But we've

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Speaker 1: never noticed.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: So I think if you're connected to someone, it doesn't

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Speaker 1: matter what they look like. It doesn't matter where they've

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Speaker 1: come from, it doesn't matter their history, it doesn't matter.

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Speaker 2: How old they are.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, like that connection is just there and it has

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Speaker 1: just been there. Love is love, Yeah, yeah love that

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Speaker 1: do you ever get feelings of jealousy when your spouse

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Speaker 1: hangs out with others.

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Speaker 2: Noah, he hangs out these friends actually a lot.

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Speaker 3: I think a lot when the people think people always

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Speaker 3: like it's just because I don't share it. Yeah, but

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Speaker 3: his friends are over all the time, and I love it.

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Speaker 3: Like they come over for dinners. They come over like

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Speaker 3: multiple times a week, like they love me as well. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: like they'll all be having like a big chat that

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Speaker 3: might be like ten of them outside. I'll be up

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Speaker 3: asleep in better sleep and then I'll come down if

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Speaker 3: I wake up in the night and just like chill

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Speaker 3: with them for half now, have a little catch up

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Speaker 3: with everyone, then to go back up to bed again.

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Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, I know.

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Speaker 3: And he like loves going like he loves having a

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Speaker 3: drinker cup with the boys. Yeah, do all those things.

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Speaker 3: But he's not very social for starters. Yeah, he's just

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Speaker 3: like I don't know. We just kind of hang with

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Speaker 3: each other on the weekends. But if he ever does go, No, it's.

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Speaker 2: A very social butterfly.

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Speaker 3: He loves like anything with anyone, Like his cup gets

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Speaker 3: so filled by being around other people. The opposite, I need,

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Speaker 3: Like I love being around people, but I need my

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Speaker 3: me time to fill up.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm definitely going more inwards now. I think after

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Speaker 1: having Tala too, just like energy wise, like weekends might

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Speaker 1: my recharge time. We just slow down, just be at home,

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Speaker 1: like I don't know. Yeah, yeah, but no, if he

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Speaker 1: does go to hang out with his friends, I don't

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Speaker 1: get jealousy, but I get fomo like I miss him, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: like I miss it.

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Speaker 2: It gets fomo when I go.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, sometimes, he said to me, sometimes gets a little

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Speaker 3: bit jealous because he loves being around people.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's not because of me doing anything. It'scause he's

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Speaker 2: like I just want to be around people.

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Speaker 1: Yes.

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Speaker 3: But then a lot of the time what we do

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Speaker 3: is I'll be like, Okay, I'm gonna go hang out

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Speaker 3: with my girlfriend night. He's like, sweet, I'm gona get

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Speaker 3: my mate over.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so you're like getting his friends over or whatever.

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Speaker 1: I do that when he goes out, and then we

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Speaker 1: like ask a girlfriend to come over for dinner and

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Speaker 1: we'll hang with the kids together or whatever.

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Speaker 2: Yes, how do you encourage more intimacy with your partner?

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Speaker 2: He has a way lower sex drive than me.

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Speaker 1: Interesting, I think communication and chatting about it. I think

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Speaker 1: some people do have lower sex drives though, but sometimes

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Speaker 1: it can be like health related, stress related, So I

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Speaker 1: would open up a conversation just to check in to

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Speaker 1: see if it is any of that. Maybe it's a

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Speaker 1: lack of attraction too, like over time that can happen and.

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Speaker 2: Even in themselves, like they might not feel really confident

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, spice things up, yeah, and maybe ask like

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Speaker 1: what do you want?

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Speaker 2: Like what excites you? Like, what would you like if

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Speaker 2: you could pick.

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Speaker 1: Like yours are you desiring? Like, yeah, is there that

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Speaker 1: dark side of you that you've been feeling shame around

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Speaker 1: that you want to explore, Like, let's open up that

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Speaker 1: dark because we all have light and dark, yeah, utually

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Speaker 1: in our sexual life, but there's just so much shamer

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Speaker 1: and talking about it, like ask them, where is that?

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Speaker 1: What's that dark sign? What does that look like for you?

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Speaker 1: What does it feel like to you?

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Speaker 3: What could I do throughout the day to turn you on?

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Speaker 3: You know, like maybe little justice throughout the day to

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Speaker 3: like let him know what make him feel like keen

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Speaker 3: by night?

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Speaker 2: Or Yeah.

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Speaker 1: It's just communication, is it? Because every relationship is going

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Speaker 1: to be so different. In your partner, we could say

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Speaker 1: things that might work for Stevel Kirk, but he's obviously

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Speaker 1: completely Communication is just key.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, if you

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Speaker 3: Don't ask, you don't Know's so true, but yeah,