WEBVTT - LUCKY DIP, EP 126

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<v Speaker 1>Hello everyone, it's like a dip term. It's Mail and

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<v Speaker 1>Monty here today as a weise. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I.

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<v Speaker 2>Liked that one.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks bit edge to it. Tie everyone, It's Mail and Monty.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks for listening to our Lucky Dip podcast episode.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes what have you got for me?

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm going today Mail all right? And I was

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<v Speaker 1>looking up I don't know how I got into it.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm constantly thinking what little lucky dip things can we do?

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<v Speaker 1>Because your brain is like an encyclopedia for useless shit.

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<v Speaker 1>You can just rip one out of your dairy air.

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<v Speaker 1>But I'm like, my brain's so intellectual and everything that

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<v Speaker 1>it wouldn't be that interesting.

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<v Speaker 2>Well I wouldn't disagree.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. Well, anyway, I did a bit of a deep

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<v Speaker 1>dive and I'm like, oh, there's questions to ask your friends.

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<v Speaker 1>And we did this a little while ago where I'd

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<v Speaker 1>throw some questions at you and you would answer them.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, okay, I'm going to do some of those

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<v Speaker 1>again where I just throw them at you and like

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<v Speaker 1>these conversation starters for you to have with your friends,

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<v Speaker 1>which is weird. I mean, if you've got to look

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<v Speaker 1>at that, it's probably a bad sign. That things aren't

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<v Speaker 1>going that well.

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<v Speaker 2>But no, but sometimes, you know what, I think I've

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<v Speaker 2>said this before. Sometimes at dinner time we do that,

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<v Speaker 2>like I'll find questions and whatever, and I do it

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<v Speaker 2>just to because I think we spoke about this in

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<v Speaker 2>a past episode. How luck you feel like your partner

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<v Speaker 2>knows you so well? There's nothing you don't know about

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<v Speaker 2>each other. Sometimes shit like this can trigger stuff to

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<v Speaker 2>talk about.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh totally. It can lead to other little stories and stuff.

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<v Speaker 1>Alo always asks for a quiz in the shower when

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<v Speaker 1>you want it on, like Marvel characters or something like that.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's how I think I stumbled onto this. Actually,

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<v Speaker 1>I think I was looking for a quiz for him

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<v Speaker 1>and saw these. Okay, so anyway, here is your first question. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>what this is a bit of a deeper one. What

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<v Speaker 1>do you think you'll be doing ten years from now,

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<v Speaker 1>so you'll be fifty.

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<v Speaker 2>Five, I'll be fifty five maybe exactly what I'm doing now.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't see that much of a difference. I hope

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<v Speaker 2>I'm in okay health. My dad My dad died a

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<v Speaker 2>few days before his fifty fifth birthday.

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<v Speaker 1>Did he really?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, there's something about the age, you know, the age

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<v Speaker 2>that your parent was when they passed away. There's something

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<v Speaker 2>about especially when they're young. Yes, there's something about so young.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah it is, but I feel like it'll be very

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<v Speaker 2>much the same. I hope I'm not as scattered and

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<v Speaker 2>as like just running on fucking fumes like I always am.

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<v Speaker 2>I hope I've learned to get past that.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but that's what I was Also just going back

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<v Speaker 1>to your dad, it's very weird if we outlive the

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<v Speaker 1>age that they were when they passed, do you know

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<v Speaker 1>what I mean? Because because you look at them and

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<v Speaker 1>they were always quite a lot older than you, where

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<v Speaker 1>your dad's only when he passed ten years older than

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<v Speaker 1>you now, Yeah, which is nothing.

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<v Speaker 2>And the thing is, I also like, it's so strange

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<v Speaker 2>to me to think because there was eight years difference

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<v Speaker 2>between my parents, right, and to think my mum wasn't

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<v Speaker 2>even fifty Oh my god, like she was in her

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<v Speaker 2>late forties. And I'm like, it's wild to me. Really, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>totally is.

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<v Speaker 1>But yeah, I always when I visualize the future feel

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<v Speaker 1>like hopefully just less anxiety, more in control, less shit's given.

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<v Speaker 1>But that has not Like from the last ten years,

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<v Speaker 1>I am like probably in a worse mental headspace.

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<v Speaker 2>I know, it's like it's gotten worse.

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<v Speaker 1>It's got worse. That's what I'm like, Please don't eat

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<v Speaker 1>double again in the next ten years, Like that would

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<v Speaker 1>be disastrous.

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<v Speaker 2>My god, what a nightmare. Disastrous for our partners.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh seriously. But it's also if we're doing the same

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<v Speaker 1>thing now, that would have been like seventeen years of

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<v Speaker 1>this podcast. I wonder if that will actually be the

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<v Speaker 1>reality or not.

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<v Speaker 2>I think I mean in terms of like working and

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<v Speaker 2>that sort of thing, like just the you know, but

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<v Speaker 2>realistically my kids, well my kids still be at home.

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<v Speaker 2>Probably not, Yeah, I know, isn't that odd.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, Odie definitely will be here, be fourteen, ahlo, will

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<v Speaker 1>be twenty, backs will be twenty three. Fuck a lot

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<v Speaker 1>will change in the next ten years, that's for sure.

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<v Speaker 1>Like hands down, let's.

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<v Speaker 2>Just hope we're alive. Hey, oh, let's just hope the stars.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's shoot for the stars.

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<v Speaker 1>All right. Who was your first best friend? Do you

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<v Speaker 1>remember who they are, who they were and are they

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<v Speaker 1>still in your life?

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, yep. I think my first best friend was Julie

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<v Speaker 2>Parker Parkski. We went to well, there's actually two and

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<v Speaker 2>they're both still in my life in a way that

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<v Speaker 2>we catch up every now and then.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, okay, yeah, but yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Julie and Kathy they were my two best friends from

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<v Speaker 2>primary school. I always say to my kids a three

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<v Speaker 2>a threesome in terms of friendship is never a great

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<v Speaker 2>thing because it always the always.

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<v Speaker 1>Girls always seem to gravitate to a three as well,

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<v Speaker 1>and that it just never goes well because there's always

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<v Speaker 1>a partner a to bitch with. One of you are

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<v Speaker 1>always getting a bit left out.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, but no, definitely they Julie was at my wedding.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh Jesus, yeah, yeah, yeah, we haven't. We actually haven't

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<v Speaker 2>seen each other for about a year.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you remember what connected you like? Remember when you're

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<v Speaker 1>a kid, it can be just something so simple as

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<v Speaker 1>they had a polly pocket and that was it.

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<v Speaker 2>No, I don't remember that clearly, but I do remember.

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<v Speaker 2>You know what, I remember making up a lot of dances.

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<v Speaker 2>It's oh my god, birthday parties and stuff. Remember you

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<v Speaker 2>make up a dance and then you have to perform it.

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<v Speaker 1>For always, but you love it. I used to do

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<v Speaker 1>dances with friends and do them in front of the

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<v Speaker 1>school at assembly.

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<v Speaker 2>Can you believe that all girls did that? At some point.

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<v Speaker 1>My god, my sister was in a play at high school.

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<v Speaker 1>She was in high school, and she did a song

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<v Speaker 1>to Janet, like a dance to Janet Jackson. I thought

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<v Speaker 1>it was the best thing I've ever seen. She taught

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<v Speaker 1>it to us, to me and two other girlfriends, and

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<v Speaker 1>we did it at school. And I remember watching the

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<v Speaker 1>audience at assembly thinking this is going down like a

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<v Speaker 1>fucking lead balloon. And I would have been about eight,

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<v Speaker 1>because it was just there was one move that went

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<v Speaker 1>too long, and I remember watching them thinking, oh, didn't

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<v Speaker 1>feel this long in rehearsal, and they're thinking this is

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<v Speaker 1>never going to end.

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<v Speaker 2>That's the worst feeling. Like the minute you go, I've

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<v Speaker 2>made a mistake.

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<v Speaker 1>I've made a mistake. And there was no backing out.

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<v Speaker 1>There was four hundred kids in the fucking hall watching

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<v Speaker 1>us as we belted Janet Jackson on what would have

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<v Speaker 1>been a little ghetto blast. I wouldn't have even been

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<v Speaker 1>good sound.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, how ballsy are you as a kid?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh mate, I can't even believe that I did that.

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<v Speaker 2>Like it's so true when they say, you know, that's

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<v Speaker 2>saying youth is wasted on the young.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, okay, if you found out that I was going

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<v Speaker 1>to die tomorrow. Oh god, Yeah, what is the last

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<v Speaker 1>thing you would say to me?

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<v Speaker 2>God? That is what a shit but good question.

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<v Speaker 1>I know I thought the same thing. I was like, Wow,

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<v Speaker 1>that's full on not something you rip out in like

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<v Speaker 1>a five minute podcast. But anyway we find ourselves like.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I think the very last thing i'd say was

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<v Speaker 2>I love you. Yes, And I'd probably say thank you

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<v Speaker 2>just because like this has meant so much to me

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<v Speaker 2>in my life, like show and Tell and then having

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<v Speaker 2>like it becoming from a work things become a real

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<v Speaker 2>friendship thing. I'd say thank you for that because it's

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<v Speaker 2>meant a lot to me.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. Yeah, that's nice, And that is actually exactly what

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<v Speaker 1>I thought i'd say to you. Really. Yeah, but I

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<v Speaker 1>guess at the very end of someone's life, what else

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<v Speaker 1>is there to say, do you know what I mean? Like,

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<v Speaker 1>of course you would thank that person for their friendship

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<v Speaker 1>and tell them that you love them. Like I guess

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<v Speaker 1>that's so it will lead you to say to nearly

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<v Speaker 1>every single person that means something to you in your life.

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<v Speaker 2>It's so hard. There's something about like I don't want

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<v Speaker 2>to die tragically or anything, like I don't want it

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<v Speaker 2>to be an accident. But the thought of when you

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<v Speaker 2>are dying and then like how hard that is on

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<v Speaker 2>everyone around you, having to like that moment you say

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<v Speaker 2>goodbye is really it's horrible for those people. Yes, you know, like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I think that's a lot of the fear around dying,

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<v Speaker 2>that thought of it's not even about you, it's the

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<v Speaker 2>fear of life. I always think my kids, yeah, oh god,

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<v Speaker 2>you know.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. Another one of the questions keeping death, he related,

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<v Speaker 1>is are you scared of dying?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm scared. I'm scared of how I'm going to die,

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<v Speaker 2>because I don't on a painful death, And I'm most

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<v Speaker 2>scared about the impact it has on the people that

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<v Speaker 2>love you, because I do have this sense like it's

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<v Speaker 2>going to come out of nowhere, like it's say something

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<v Speaker 2>like that, but.

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<v Speaker 1>Which usually it kind of does. I guess, like even

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<v Speaker 1>when you are sick, it's still always is a shock.

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<v Speaker 1>Always I know, I know they died, even though they'd

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<v Speaker 1>been so unwell for so long, it's still that shock almost.

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<v Speaker 2>It's so true. But I think, like I try and

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<v Speaker 2>hold on to this idea that there is something else

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<v Speaker 2>that we go on to. But as I get older,

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<v Speaker 2>I question it more, and I'm like, what if there

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<v Speaker 2>is nothing? I know, we're not going to know until

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<v Speaker 2>we get.

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<v Speaker 1>There, No, and then what if we don't? I just

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<v Speaker 1>I so often am like, but we are so different

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<v Speaker 1>to our physical do you know what I mean? Like

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<v Speaker 1>there's us inside this body, but then when the body stops,

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<v Speaker 1>that part disappears. But does it go somewhere? Like people

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<v Speaker 1>do communicate with the dead, like I do believe that.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't believe everyone out there who's doing that it's

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<v Speaker 1>a phony? So he is there something else? I know?

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<v Speaker 1>Those people just not crossing over because of unfinished business

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<v Speaker 1>or what is it? Like? What the fuck happens?

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<v Speaker 2>I do think as well. I'm like, oh, all right,

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<v Speaker 2>well then you know if there is another side or whatever,

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<v Speaker 2>like why wouldn't people be coming back and seeing their

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<v Speaker 2>family all the time or whatever? But I think it's

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<v Speaker 2>like anything in life, like some people just have Like

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<v Speaker 2>so if you die and you're able to communicate with

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<v Speaker 2>your family in some way, maybe you just have some

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<v Speaker 2>special gift like how some people can just draw for example,

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<v Speaker 2>you know what I mean, that's just something special that

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<v Speaker 2>you've got that you can connect.

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<v Speaker 1>So yes, because some people do have that gift where

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<v Speaker 1>they can connect with some people. So that's why sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>spirits will go through really random people, like a friend

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<v Speaker 1>of mine has has people will come to her to

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<v Speaker 1>connect with other people. And it's only quite recently she's

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<v Speaker 1>found out she's our age. But she would drink quite

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<v Speaker 1>heavily because it would block it out because it was

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<v Speaker 1>so constant. So she has been one of those people

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<v Speaker 1>that has had to learn when to open herself up

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<v Speaker 1>and when not to. And she's told me that my

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<v Speaker 1>mum had come through to her, Like this was during

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<v Speaker 1>COVID and we were doing pilates together. We rented beds

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<v Speaker 1>and would do pilates on like Zoom with each other. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>And it just got into a conversation and I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>if my mom ever comes through, And she's like, well,

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<v Speaker 1>that's why I've brought it up. Did you want to

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<v Speaker 1>hear from her? And I was like, oh my god, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>this is right. God, I'm going to get emotional now.

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<v Speaker 1>But you know how she was really close with backs.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm forgetting the terminology now, but she said she's saying

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<v Speaker 1>something about the rat bags. Oh, and I forget my

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<v Speaker 1>mom and I used to call them. It was either

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<v Speaker 1>the rat bag. It was a word like that, and

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<v Speaker 1>I don't like her language. It was so specifically her language,

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<v Speaker 1>and she said she's saying that, so you know it's her,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm like, fuck, it's her because Timil and I

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<v Speaker 1>am mates. But she doesn't know, like she doesn't know

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<v Speaker 1>my family and she doesn't know the boys and didn't

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<v Speaker 1>know mom. And I was like, shit, that's my mom,

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<v Speaker 1>and she's choosing you and to connect to me, which

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<v Speaker 1>is a very roundabout way to get through to me.

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<v Speaker 2>But this person's obviously just a channel, yes, the channel.

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<v Speaker 1>When people are channels. But it's been very hard for

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<v Speaker 1>her because it's very exhausting and because she said, sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>they're very aggressive and I don't feel like they're choking her.

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<v Speaker 2>And imagine that would be like in a way that

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<v Speaker 2>she'd like, say her connecting with you, the comfort that

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<v Speaker 2>would give you, but also what a burden.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, such a burden. Because even for my mom,

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<v Speaker 1>because she's like, no, it's fine, I'm open to her

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<v Speaker 1>coming through. It's when they're aggressive and they're really full on.

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<v Speaker 1>But she said it's very exhausting for her because I

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<v Speaker 1>guess that they're using her. I don't know. I know

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of people right now like what horseshit? But

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<v Speaker 1>and to an extent I believe it. And to an

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<v Speaker 1>extent I don't do you know what I mean? But

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<v Speaker 1>then when you know somebody like her, I'm like, why

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<v Speaker 1>would she fucking like that would be psychotic for her

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<v Speaker 1>to be doing that.

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<v Speaker 2>I just think there has to be there has to

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<v Speaker 2>be something else out there. I've said this many times.

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<v Speaker 2>Sorry everyone, but like when my dad died, it was

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<v Speaker 2>such an immediate He's not there anymore. The body was

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<v Speaker 2>just the body there that something had left. Yeah, And

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<v Speaker 2>there's lots of you know, there's lots to say of

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<v Speaker 2>you know, ice you nurses and stuff that say that

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<v Speaker 2>there's this common thing of them looking up into the

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<v Speaker 2>corner of the room like they're talking to people. There's Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>I listened to a podcast recently that was incredible about

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<v Speaker 2>this lady that was in hospital and she was a

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<v Speaker 2>patient in the ICU ward and the nurse was telling

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<v Speaker 2>the story. The nurse was saying, how this woman she said, Oh,

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<v Speaker 2>it's such a sad thing about that young man that died,

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<v Speaker 2>And the nurses like they had a young guy had

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<v Speaker 2>come in and died of cardiac arrest. And she said

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<v Speaker 2>to the woman, how do you know that? She said

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<v Speaker 2>she was like ninety years old, her door was closed,

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<v Speaker 2>she was immobile, she wouldn't have seen anything. And she

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<v Speaker 2>said he walked through my room. And she said she

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<v Speaker 2>would see it often. The nurse said she didn't know

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<v Speaker 2>if it was this woman that they were coming through

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<v Speaker 2>her room, or it was her room was a spot

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<v Speaker 2>where they were being called to leave earth or whatever,

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<v Speaker 2>but she would like it became a thing where whenever

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<v Speaker 2>someone died she would tell the nurse, and the nurse

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<v Speaker 2>would check with the supervisor across the whole hospital and confirm, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>we did just have someone who died.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, oh my god. You can't remember the name of

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<v Speaker 1>the podcast came here?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, it's called Spooked. I'll put a link in

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<v Speaker 2>the show notes to that episode. But it's great.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh good, all right, Well, I'm going to keep my

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<v Speaker 1>other questions for another Police got plenty those up me sleeve.

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