Speaker 1: Hello everyone, it's like a dip term. It's Mail and
Speaker 1: Monty here today as a weise. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I.
Speaker 2: Liked that one.
Speaker 1: Thanks bit edge to it. Tie everyone, It's Mail and Monty.
Speaker 1: Thanks for listening to our Lucky Dip podcast episode.
Speaker 2: Yes what have you got for me?
Speaker 1: So I'm going today Mail all right? And I was
Speaker 1: looking up I don't know how I got into it.
Speaker 1: I'm constantly thinking what little lucky dip things can we do?
Speaker 1: Because your brain is like an encyclopedia for useless shit.
Speaker 1: You can just rip one out of your dairy air.
Speaker 1: But I'm like, my brain's so intellectual and everything that
Speaker 1: it wouldn't be that interesting.
Speaker 2: Well I wouldn't disagree.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Well, anyway, I did a bit of a deep
Speaker 1: dive and I'm like, oh, there's questions to ask your friends.
Speaker 1: And we did this a little while ago where I'd
Speaker 1: throw some questions at you and you would answer them.
Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, I'm going to do some of those
Speaker 1: again where I just throw them at you and like
Speaker 1: these conversation starters for you to have with your friends,
Speaker 1: which is weird. I mean, if you've got to look
Speaker 1: at that, it's probably a bad sign. That things aren't
Speaker 1: going that well.
Speaker 2: But no, but sometimes, you know what, I think I've
Speaker 2: said this before. Sometimes at dinner time we do that,
Speaker 2: like I'll find questions and whatever, and I do it
Speaker 2: just to because I think we spoke about this in
Speaker 2: a past episode. How luck you feel like your partner
Speaker 2: knows you so well? There's nothing you don't know about
Speaker 2: each other. Sometimes shit like this can trigger stuff to
Speaker 2: talk about.
Speaker 1: Oh totally. It can lead to other little stories and stuff.
Speaker 1: Alo always asks for a quiz in the shower when
Speaker 1: you want it on, like Marvel characters or something like that.
Speaker 1: So that's how I think I stumbled onto this. Actually,
Speaker 1: I think I was looking for a quiz for him
Speaker 1: and saw these. Okay, so anyway, here is your first question. Okay,
Speaker 1: what this is a bit of a deeper one. What
Speaker 1: do you think you'll be doing ten years from now,
Speaker 1: so you'll be fifty.
Speaker 2: Five, I'll be fifty five maybe exactly what I'm doing now.
Speaker 2: I don't see that much of a difference. I hope
Speaker 2: I'm in okay health. My dad My dad died a
Speaker 2: few days before his fifty fifth birthday.
Speaker 1: Did he really?
Speaker 2: Yeah, there's something about the age, you know, the age
Speaker 2: that your parent was when they passed away. There's something
Speaker 2: about especially when they're young. Yes, there's something about so young.
Speaker 2: Yeah it is, but I feel like it'll be very
Speaker 2: much the same. I hope I'm not as scattered and
Speaker 2: as like just running on fucking fumes like I always am.
Speaker 2: I hope I've learned to get past that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but that's what I was Also just going back
Speaker 1: to your dad, it's very weird if we outlive the
Speaker 1: age that they were when they passed, do you know
Speaker 1: what I mean? Because because you look at them and
Speaker 1: they were always quite a lot older than you, where
Speaker 1: your dad's only when he passed ten years older than
Speaker 1: you now, Yeah, which is nothing.
Speaker 2: And the thing is, I also like, it's so strange
Speaker 2: to me to think because there was eight years difference
Speaker 2: between my parents, right, and to think my mum wasn't
Speaker 2: even fifty Oh my god, like she was in her
Speaker 2: late forties. And I'm like, it's wild to me. Really, Yeah,
Speaker 2: totally is.
Speaker 1: But yeah, I always when I visualize the future feel
Speaker 1: like hopefully just less anxiety, more in control, less shit's given.
Speaker 1: But that has not Like from the last ten years,
Speaker 1: I am like probably in a worse mental headspace.
Speaker 2: I know, it's like it's gotten worse.
Speaker 1: It's got worse. That's what I'm like, Please don't eat
Speaker 1: double again in the next ten years, Like that would
Speaker 1: be disastrous.
Speaker 2: My god, what a nightmare. Disastrous for our partners.
Speaker 1: Oh seriously. But it's also if we're doing the same
Speaker 1: thing now, that would have been like seventeen years of
Speaker 1: this podcast. I wonder if that will actually be the
Speaker 1: reality or not.
Speaker 2: I think I mean in terms of like working and
Speaker 2: that sort of thing, like just the you know, but
Speaker 2: realistically my kids, well my kids still be at home.
Speaker 2: Probably not, Yeah, I know, isn't that odd.
Speaker 1: Well, Odie definitely will be here, be fourteen, ahlo, will
Speaker 1: be twenty, backs will be twenty three. Fuck a lot
Speaker 1: will change in the next ten years, that's for sure.
Speaker 1: Like hands down, let's.
Speaker 2: Just hope we're alive. Hey, oh, let's just hope the stars.
Speaker 2: Let's shoot for the stars.
Speaker 1: All right. Who was your first best friend? Do you
Speaker 1: remember who they are, who they were and are they
Speaker 1: still in your life?
Speaker 2: Yes, yep. I think my first best friend was Julie
Speaker 2: Parker Parkski. We went to well, there's actually two and
Speaker 2: they're both still in my life in a way that
Speaker 2: we catch up every now and then.
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, yeah, but yeah.
Speaker 2: Julie and Kathy they were my two best friends from
Speaker 2: primary school. I always say to my kids a three
Speaker 2: a threesome in terms of friendship is never a great
Speaker 2: thing because it always the always.
Speaker 1: Girls always seem to gravitate to a three as well,
Speaker 1: and that it just never goes well because there's always
Speaker 1: a partner a to bitch with. One of you are
Speaker 1: always getting a bit left out.
Speaker 2: Yes, but no, definitely they Julie was at my wedding.
Speaker 2: Oh Jesus, yeah, yeah, yeah, we haven't. We actually haven't
Speaker 2: seen each other for about a year.
Speaker 1: Do you remember what connected you like? Remember when you're
Speaker 1: a kid, it can be just something so simple as
Speaker 1: they had a polly pocket and that was it.
Speaker 2: No, I don't remember that clearly, but I do remember.
Speaker 2: You know what, I remember making up a lot of dances.
Speaker 2: It's oh my god, birthday parties and stuff. Remember you
Speaker 2: make up a dance and then you have to perform it.
Speaker 1: For always, but you love it. I used to do
Speaker 1: dances with friends and do them in front of the
Speaker 1: school at assembly.
Speaker 2: Can you believe that all girls did that? At some point.
Speaker 1: My god, my sister was in a play at high school.
Speaker 1: She was in high school, and she did a song
Speaker 1: to Janet, like a dance to Janet Jackson. I thought
Speaker 1: it was the best thing I've ever seen. She taught
Speaker 1: it to us, to me and two other girlfriends, and
Speaker 1: we did it at school. And I remember watching the
Speaker 1: audience at assembly thinking this is going down like a
Speaker 1: fucking lead balloon. And I would have been about eight,
Speaker 1: because it was just there was one move that went
Speaker 1: too long, and I remember watching them thinking, oh, didn't
Speaker 1: feel this long in rehearsal, and they're thinking this is
Speaker 1: never going to end.
Speaker 2: That's the worst feeling. Like the minute you go, I've
Speaker 2: made a mistake.
Speaker 1: I've made a mistake. And there was no backing out.
Speaker 1: There was four hundred kids in the fucking hall watching
Speaker 1: us as we belted Janet Jackson on what would have
Speaker 1: been a little ghetto blast. I wouldn't have even been
Speaker 1: good sound.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, how ballsy are you as a kid?
Speaker 1: Oh mate, I can't even believe that I did that.
Speaker 2: Like it's so true when they say, you know, that's
Speaker 2: saying youth is wasted on the young.
Speaker 1: Yes, okay, if you found out that I was going
Speaker 1: to die tomorrow. Oh god, Yeah, what is the last
Speaker 1: thing you would say to me?
Speaker 2: God? That is what a shit but good question.
Speaker 1: I know I thought the same thing. I was like, Wow,
Speaker 1: that's full on not something you rip out in like
Speaker 1: a five minute podcast. But anyway we find ourselves like.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think the very last thing i'd say was
Speaker 2: I love you. Yes, And I'd probably say thank you
Speaker 2: just because like this has meant so much to me
Speaker 2: in my life, like show and Tell and then having
Speaker 2: like it becoming from a work things become a real
Speaker 2: friendship thing. I'd say thank you for that because it's
Speaker 2: meant a lot to me.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, that's nice, And that is actually exactly what
Speaker 1: I thought i'd say to you. Really. Yeah, but I
Speaker 1: guess at the very end of someone's life, what else
Speaker 1: is there to say, do you know what I mean? Like,
Speaker 1: of course you would thank that person for their friendship
Speaker 1: and tell them that you love them. Like I guess
Speaker 1: that's so it will lead you to say to nearly
Speaker 1: every single person that means something to you in your life.
Speaker 2: It's so hard. There's something about like I don't want
Speaker 2: to die tragically or anything, like I don't want it
Speaker 2: to be an accident. But the thought of when you
Speaker 2: are dying and then like how hard that is on
Speaker 2: everyone around you, having to like that moment you say
Speaker 2: goodbye is really it's horrible for those people. Yes, you know, like, yeah,
Speaker 2: I think that's a lot of the fear around dying,
Speaker 2: that thought of it's not even about you, it's the
Speaker 2: fear of life. I always think my kids, yeah, oh god,
Speaker 2: you know.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Another one of the questions keeping death, he related,
Speaker 1: is are you scared of dying?
Speaker 2: I'm scared. I'm scared of how I'm going to die,
Speaker 2: because I don't on a painful death, And I'm most
Speaker 2: scared about the impact it has on the people that
Speaker 2: love you, because I do have this sense like it's
Speaker 2: going to come out of nowhere, like it's say something
Speaker 2: like that, but.
Speaker 1: Which usually it kind of does. I guess, like even
Speaker 1: when you are sick, it's still always is a shock.
Speaker 1: Always I know, I know they died, even though they'd
Speaker 1: been so unwell for so long, it's still that shock almost.
Speaker 2: It's so true. But I think, like I try and
Speaker 2: hold on to this idea that there is something else
Speaker 2: that we go on to. But as I get older,
Speaker 2: I question it more, and I'm like, what if there
Speaker 2: is nothing? I know, we're not going to know until
Speaker 2: we get.
Speaker 1: There, No, and then what if we don't? I just
Speaker 1: I so often am like, but we are so different
Speaker 1: to our physical do you know what I mean? Like
Speaker 1: there's us inside this body, but then when the body stops,
Speaker 1: that part disappears. But does it go somewhere? Like people
Speaker 1: do communicate with the dead, like I do believe that.
Speaker 1: I don't believe everyone out there who's doing that it's
Speaker 1: a phony? So he is there something else? I know?
Speaker 1: Those people just not crossing over because of unfinished business
Speaker 1: or what is it? Like? What the fuck happens?
Speaker 2: I do think as well. I'm like, oh, all right,
Speaker 2: well then you know if there is another side or whatever,
Speaker 2: like why wouldn't people be coming back and seeing their
Speaker 2: family all the time or whatever? But I think it's
Speaker 2: like anything in life, like some people just have Like
Speaker 2: so if you die and you're able to communicate with
Speaker 2: your family in some way, maybe you just have some
Speaker 2: special gift like how some people can just draw for example,
Speaker 2: you know what I mean, that's just something special that
Speaker 2: you've got that you can connect.
Speaker 1: So yes, because some people do have that gift where
Speaker 1: they can connect with some people. So that's why sometimes
Speaker 1: spirits will go through really random people, like a friend
Speaker 1: of mine has has people will come to her to
Speaker 1: connect with other people. And it's only quite recently she's
Speaker 1: found out she's our age. But she would drink quite
Speaker 1: heavily because it would block it out because it was
Speaker 1: so constant. So she has been one of those people
Speaker 1: that has had to learn when to open herself up
Speaker 1: and when not to. And she's told me that my
Speaker 1: mum had come through to her, Like this was during
Speaker 1: COVID and we were doing pilates together. We rented beds
Speaker 1: and would do pilates on like Zoom with each other. Yeah,
Speaker 1: And it just got into a conversation and I'm like,
Speaker 1: if my mom ever comes through, And she's like, well,
Speaker 1: that's why I've brought it up. Did you want to
Speaker 1: hear from her? And I was like, oh my god, yeah,
Speaker 1: this is right. God, I'm going to get emotional now.
Speaker 1: But you know how she was really close with backs.
Speaker 1: I'm forgetting the terminology now, but she said she's saying
Speaker 1: something about the rat bags. Oh, and I forget my
Speaker 1: mom and I used to call them. It was either
Speaker 1: the rat bag. It was a word like that, and
Speaker 1: I don't like her language. It was so specifically her language,
Speaker 1: and she said she's saying that, so you know it's her,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, fuck, it's her because Timil and I
Speaker 1: am mates. But she doesn't know, like she doesn't know
Speaker 1: my family and she doesn't know the boys and didn't
Speaker 1: know mom. And I was like, shit, that's my mom,
Speaker 1: and she's choosing you and to connect to me, which
Speaker 1: is a very roundabout way to get through to me.
Speaker 2: But this person's obviously just a channel, yes, the channel.
Speaker 1: When people are channels. But it's been very hard for
Speaker 1: her because it's very exhausting and because she said, sometimes
Speaker 1: they're very aggressive and I don't feel like they're choking her.
Speaker 2: And imagine that would be like in a way that
Speaker 2: she'd like, say her connecting with you, the comfort that
Speaker 2: would give you, but also what a burden.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, such a burden. Because even for my mom,
Speaker 1: because she's like, no, it's fine, I'm open to her
Speaker 1: coming through. It's when they're aggressive and they're really full on.
Speaker 1: But she said it's very exhausting for her because I
Speaker 1: guess that they're using her. I don't know. I know
Speaker 1: a lot of people right now like what horseshit? But
Speaker 1: and to an extent I believe it. And to an
Speaker 1: extent I don't do you know what I mean? But
Speaker 1: then when you know somebody like her, I'm like, why
Speaker 1: would she fucking like that would be psychotic for her
Speaker 1: to be doing that.
Speaker 2: I just think there has to be there has to
Speaker 2: be something else out there. I've said this many times.
Speaker 2: Sorry everyone, but like when my dad died, it was
Speaker 2: such an immediate He's not there anymore. The body was
Speaker 2: just the body there that something had left. Yeah, And
Speaker 2: there's lots of you know, there's lots to say of
Speaker 2: you know, ice you nurses and stuff that say that
Speaker 2: there's this common thing of them looking up into the
Speaker 2: corner of the room like they're talking to people. There's Yeah.
Speaker 2: I listened to a podcast recently that was incredible about
Speaker 2: this lady that was in hospital and she was a
Speaker 2: patient in the ICU ward and the nurse was telling
Speaker 2: the story. The nurse was saying, how this woman she said, Oh,
Speaker 2: it's such a sad thing about that young man that died,
Speaker 2: And the nurses like they had a young guy had
Speaker 2: come in and died of cardiac arrest. And she said
Speaker 2: to the woman, how do you know that? She said
Speaker 2: she was like ninety years old, her door was closed,
Speaker 2: she was immobile, she wouldn't have seen anything. And she
Speaker 2: said he walked through my room. And she said she
Speaker 2: would see it often. The nurse said she didn't know
Speaker 2: if it was this woman that they were coming through
Speaker 2: her room, or it was her room was a spot
Speaker 2: where they were being called to leave earth or whatever,
Speaker 2: but she would like it became a thing where whenever
Speaker 2: someone died she would tell the nurse, and the nurse
Speaker 2: would check with the supervisor across the whole hospital and confirm, yeah,
Speaker 2: we did just have someone who died.
Speaker 1: Yeah, oh my god. You can't remember the name of
Speaker 1: the podcast came here?
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, it's called Spooked. I'll put a link in
Speaker 2: the show notes to that episode. But it's great.
Speaker 1: Oh good, all right, Well, I'm going to keep my
Speaker 1: other questions for another Police got plenty those up me sleeve.
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