WEBVTT - #1923 Doing Better Than You Feel - Harps & Tiff 0:00:00.680 --> 0:00:03.200 I get atf welcome to Look. I don't know if 0:00:03.200 --> 0:00:05.280 you've heard of this. It's called the You Project. My 0:00:05.360 --> 0:00:08.680 name's Craig Harpy. You can call me, you know, Fatty 0:00:08.680 --> 0:00:11.200 Harp's Jumbo whatever you like. Just don't call me late 0:00:11.240 --> 0:00:11.840 for dinner. Hi. 0:00:11.960 --> 0:00:15.040 How are you rings a bell? You the you pro? 0:00:15.280 --> 0:00:15.480 Yeah? 0:00:15.560 --> 0:00:18.720 Look, you look been around for a while, you know, 0:00:18.920 --> 0:00:25.280 I'm my ship doesn't think I'm fucking amazing, amazing. Imagine 0:00:25.280 --> 0:00:30.120 we'll say even I don't say that, and the people 0:00:30.160 --> 0:00:32.240 definitely don't say that, so we know that's a crock 0:00:32.320 --> 0:00:32.600 of shit. 0:00:32.840 --> 0:00:35.320 They bloody do though. This is the thing they do. 0:00:36.040 --> 0:00:38.480 I talked myself up once and one of my best 0:00:38.520 --> 0:00:42.440 friends shot me down in a fucking blaze of glory. 0:00:42.880 --> 0:00:43.440 What a prick. 0:00:43.800 --> 0:00:45.400 You should punch them in the face. 0:00:45.920 --> 0:00:49.800 Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, I was I going to 0:00:49.840 --> 0:00:52.400 say to you, we were just talking about and I 0:00:52.880 --> 0:00:55.080 wanted to talk about something else. But I don't know, 0:00:55.080 --> 0:01:00.880 Maybe we'll get there. But we're talking about how you know, 0:01:00.960 --> 0:01:02.880 sometimes you show you've got to show up. You've got 0:01:02.920 --> 0:01:04.759 to do a podcast, or you've got to do a presentation. 0:01:04.920 --> 0:01:07.280 I mean, in our lives anyway, not the but you've 0:01:07.280 --> 0:01:09.400 got to do whatever it is that you do. Yeah, 0:01:09.560 --> 0:01:12.400 you know, and it might be you doing parenting, it 0:01:12.480 --> 0:01:15.440 might be you doing selling apples at the mark, doesn't matter. 0:01:15.480 --> 0:01:19.880 But especially when it's kind of I guess communication based 0:01:19.959 --> 0:01:24.959 or interpersonal or people based, and you just like, you know, 0:01:25.560 --> 0:01:28.160 you're a five out of ten, but you don't want 0:01:28.160 --> 0:01:29.920 to look like you're five out of ten, or you 0:01:29.959 --> 0:01:32.040 don't want to saund and you want to you want 0:01:32.040 --> 0:01:34.720 to do a ten out of ten job, and you're 0:01:34.760 --> 0:01:36.880 kind of there, but you're just like, fuck, I'm not 0:01:36.959 --> 0:01:39.600 even feeling what I'm saying. You've had a bit of that. 0:01:40.080 --> 0:01:44.240 Had so much of that, so much harps. 0:01:44.720 --> 0:01:47.360 So you will tell Look, we're all here for you. 0:01:47.720 --> 0:01:50.400 What's going on? Now, We're all here, everybody. I just 0:01:50.440 --> 0:01:52.560 want you to lean in and you know, just put 0:01:52.640 --> 0:01:56.520 out your hands and come on, yeah, loving the Lord's wrong. 0:01:56.560 --> 0:01:59.520 We don't want to be right, so you just open up. 0:01:59.560 --> 0:02:01.080 You're in a save space, I. 0:02:01.040 --> 0:02:03.320 Think in pictures, right, So as you were saying that, 0:02:03.440 --> 0:02:05.600 everyone was leaning in with their arms out, ready to. 0:02:05.560 --> 0:02:06.320 Give me a big hug. 0:02:06.360 --> 0:02:07.920 But then all of a sudden, they all put their 0:02:08.080 --> 0:02:12.360 arms out in this whole evangelic cool thing going on. 0:02:12.440 --> 0:02:14.959 I was like, oh that changed, all right. 0:02:14.840 --> 0:02:16.399 Well you can just have the hug or you can 0:02:16.440 --> 0:02:19.880 have the prayer. So you've been all the well wishes 0:02:20.040 --> 0:02:22.400 or the positive vibes or whatever it is that works 0:02:22.440 --> 0:02:26.120 for you. So what's been going on? Like you were 0:02:26.160 --> 0:02:28.000 about to kind of downline, and I went, fuck it, 0:02:28.120 --> 0:02:33.320 let's just tell everyone, because I think it's the human experience, 0:02:33.360 --> 0:02:37.840 isn't it. It's like, yeah, so so go well. 0:02:37.919 --> 0:02:40.040 I feel like I talk about it all the time 0:02:40.120 --> 0:02:44.800 recently because all of our preambles have been oh, TIFFs, foremones, tifts, tired, 0:02:45.600 --> 0:02:48.240 so it's all, you know, like it's just a bit 0:02:48.280 --> 0:02:53.520 of a continuation of that shocking sleep, shocking energy. And 0:02:54.800 --> 0:02:56.720 I said to you before, like I've had a few 0:02:56.760 --> 0:03:02.080 podcasts lately or meetings where I'm just you know, when 0:03:02.080 --> 0:03:03.760 you're sitting in the middle of it and you're like 0:03:03.960 --> 0:03:09.560 you are, oh, the any critic, Like, brain's not firing, 0:03:09.760 --> 0:03:13.280 not my usual self, I can't engage the same way, 0:03:13.400 --> 0:03:17.000 aren't thinking as fast And then just start observing that 0:03:17.200 --> 0:03:19.680 and criticizing myself in the middle of it and just 0:03:19.720 --> 0:03:23.840 being so embarrassed for myself, just like, oh, God, like, 0:03:23.919 --> 0:03:25.600 what's wrong with you? Plan to pull the pin on 0:03:25.639 --> 0:03:27.040 the whole thing. You might have to move to blow 0:03:27.120 --> 0:03:30.280 Canber and get a job washing dishes somewhere. 0:03:30.880 --> 0:03:35.480 Wow, that's I mean, I don't know, but I would 0:03:35.480 --> 0:03:38.160 think there's a couple of steps between where you are 0:03:38.200 --> 0:03:43.320 and shout out to the Canberrans too. I mean, let 0:03:43.400 --> 0:03:43.600 me know. 0:03:43.640 --> 0:03:44.640 I'll send you my resume. 0:03:45.280 --> 0:03:48.920 I think you've just thrown canbra under the bus. I mean, 0:03:49.600 --> 0:03:55.000 I quite like. Camera just seems to be like the 0:03:55.080 --> 0:03:59.040 low rung on the ladder, the geographical ladder moved to camera. 0:04:00.760 --> 0:04:06.000 Shout out, shout out it is. It is an interesting 0:04:06.080 --> 0:04:09.680 thing though, when you have a job and everybody that 0:04:09.880 --> 0:04:11.720 has you know, a job or a role that they 0:04:11.760 --> 0:04:15.960 feel or whatever, and you you know you want to 0:04:15.960 --> 0:04:18.760 do the best at that, but you don't feel the best, 0:04:19.400 --> 0:04:24.320 but you can't. It's like I say to my clients, 0:04:24.560 --> 0:04:28.000 my trainers, I should say, everyone pays the same amount 0:04:28.160 --> 0:04:30.919 for you, So whether or not if you're training with 0:04:31.000 --> 0:04:34.440 TIF at seven am or seven pm, you should get 0:04:34.480 --> 0:04:39.400 the same tiff because I'm not paying more or I'm 0:04:39.400 --> 0:04:42.360 paying So the challenge for you as the coach or 0:04:42.400 --> 0:04:45.000 the speaker or the trainer in this example, and the 0:04:45.120 --> 0:04:49.960 challenge for me was trying to have as much energy, focus, 0:04:50.080 --> 0:04:54.320 attention and quality of product at seven pm when I 0:04:54.360 --> 0:04:56.560 got to the gym at five am. And so now 0:04:56.600 --> 0:05:01.680 we're fourteen hours in because they don't I can't go, oh, look, 0:05:01.680 --> 0:05:03.680 I'm really tired. It's been a big day. You're my 0:05:03.880 --> 0:05:08.640 thirteenth appointment, so you know it'll probably be shit, but 0:05:08.760 --> 0:05:14.440 you understand because I'm tired. Well, no, you know that's 0:05:14.480 --> 0:05:17.080 got nothing to do with them and everything to do 0:05:17.160 --> 0:05:20.320 with you. And I used to talk about this idea. 0:05:20.520 --> 0:05:24.159 This could become the title or not. So there's two 0:05:24.279 --> 0:05:28.040 terms for it. One is your performance threshold. And your 0:05:28.040 --> 0:05:31.360 performance threshold means how much of a certain thing can 0:05:31.400 --> 0:05:33.120 you do at the level that you want to do 0:05:33.200 --> 0:05:35.240 it before you need a break or a rest or, 0:05:36.000 --> 0:05:39.680 you know. So that could be training clients, that could 0:05:39.720 --> 0:05:42.320 be podcasts you might know. I mean, of course there 0:05:42.360 --> 0:05:44.760 are other variables. But you can do three podcasts in 0:05:44.800 --> 0:05:47.600 a morning and they all be pretty good because you've 0:05:47.640 --> 0:05:49.760 got half an hour an hour between each. But by 0:05:49.960 --> 0:05:52.760 lunchtime you've done three, they're good. But you probably can't 0:05:52.760 --> 0:05:56.839 do six good ones, right because it's just it's mental 0:05:56.920 --> 0:05:59.480 overload or physical overload, and you get angry and with 0:05:59.680 --> 0:06:02.880 nobody he fucking wants that. That's terrifying. And the other 0:06:02.960 --> 0:06:05.160 term I used to use for it, other than performance 0:06:05.200 --> 0:06:08.279 threshold as shit threshold, and it's the same thing, but 0:06:08.320 --> 0:06:12.560 it just means how many whatevers can you do, how 0:06:12.560 --> 0:06:16.480 many hours, how many sessions, how many phone calls, how 0:06:16.480 --> 0:06:18.800 many lawns can you mow, whatever it is that you 0:06:18.920 --> 0:06:24.760 do before it turns to shit. And I used to 0:06:24.800 --> 0:06:27.880 say to my trainers, figure out what that number is, 0:06:28.120 --> 0:06:30.760 and then don't do more than that number, because people 0:06:30.800 --> 0:06:35.400 don't deserve that people deserve if everyone's paying a premium price, 0:06:36.279 --> 0:06:38.479 and of course we're human and all of that, but 0:06:38.560 --> 0:06:41.479 as much as humanly possible, they need to get the 0:06:41.480 --> 0:06:43.599 same level of quality each time. 0:06:43.880 --> 0:06:47.440 Well, otherways had a low number in terms of clients, 0:06:47.640 --> 0:06:51.320 physical clients for that reason because I'm very like I'm 0:06:51.440 --> 0:06:55.359 very animated and very energetic, and I know that's what 0:06:55.440 --> 0:06:57.159 I bring to the session. They're not there for me 0:06:57.240 --> 0:07:00.599 to look at a clipboard and read ex is out 0:07:00.600 --> 0:07:01.480 in monotone. 0:07:02.000 --> 0:07:10.240 Oh, don't start me. Don't start me on fucking generic 0:07:10.320 --> 0:07:16.240 personal trainers who don't actually prescribe exercise. You people, you 0:07:16.360 --> 0:07:18.800 know who you are. You train all your clients the 0:07:18.880 --> 0:07:23.600 same way. It's fucking so unprofessional, it's so inappropriate, it's 0:07:23.640 --> 0:07:28.120 so dangerous, it's so lazy. Stop fucking doing it. It 0:07:28.320 --> 0:07:33.760 just drives me nuts. You're being told, ah, fuck you 0:07:33.920 --> 0:07:36.240 if you do that, you're not a personal trainer. It's 0:07:36.280 --> 0:07:38.480 well you are, but you're a bad one. Like your 0:07:38.560 --> 0:07:46.680 job is literally to prescribe people individual programs, exercises, experiences 0:07:46.760 --> 0:07:51.560 based on a myriad of variables. And if you like, 0:07:51.920 --> 0:07:54.040 I won't. I don't want to throw anyone under the bus. 0:07:54.040 --> 0:07:57.480 But even lately, I've seen people who would come to 0:07:57.520 --> 0:07:59.440 the gym, They'll be trained by a trainer. Then the 0:07:59.480 --> 0:08:03.560 next person and who's nothing like the previous person, essentially 0:08:03.600 --> 0:08:07.320 does the same workout, and then I'll see them another day, 0:08:07.360 --> 0:08:10.720 and then there's like a complete another person doing essentially 0:08:10.760 --> 0:08:14.880 the same workout. I'm like, this is not personalized prescription. 0:08:15.400 --> 0:08:20.640 This is a generic program that you're comfortable with. It's 0:08:20.720 --> 0:08:23.120 like you go to the doctor. Ten people go to 0:08:23.120 --> 0:08:26.400 the doctor for ten different reasons, and she gives them 0:08:26.440 --> 0:08:31.000 all the same drug because she can't be fucked you're 0:08:31.040 --> 0:08:34.280 all getting the blue pill. You're all getting predness alone. 0:08:35.240 --> 0:08:39.960 What but I've got a headache. Oh yeah, but my 0:08:40.080 --> 0:08:42.920 dick's falling off. Yeah but I've got heck and whatever. 0:08:43.640 --> 0:08:48.720 It's like, No, you're all getting this. It's ridiculous, But 0:08:48.800 --> 0:08:55.960 that happens, you go go see it fucking annoying. I 0:08:56.000 --> 0:08:59.480 feel like there's about ninety eight percent of our listeners gone, well, 0:08:59.520 --> 0:09:03.240 this is completely irrelevant to me. You know, it's you 0:09:03.280 --> 0:09:08.320 can apply that idea. Yeah, there's two percent going, oh fuck, 0:09:08.360 --> 0:09:13.320 that's me. Well, I mean the idea of personal training 0:09:13.480 --> 0:09:16.640 is that it's not the same as you know, it's 0:09:16.720 --> 0:09:19.679 you're not doing the same thing as everyone. Ergo personal, 0:09:20.760 --> 0:09:24.840 ergo the name. It's in the name. Otherwise it'd be 0:09:24.880 --> 0:09:27.760 called generic training by Brian. 0:09:29.000 --> 0:09:31.400 One on one generic training, boom, Yeah, one. 0:09:31.240 --> 0:09:35.160 On one generic training. You're all getting the same workout. Yeah, 0:09:35.160 --> 0:09:37.680 but I'm here for flexibility. Why am I bench pressing? 0:09:37.760 --> 0:09:42.120 Shut the fuck up? Yeah, I'm here to become a powerlifter. 0:09:42.240 --> 0:09:46.559 Why am I dancing? Oh? Just and three two one step? 0:09:47.360 --> 0:09:53.880 You know it's like ah, anyway, steps down off high horse. 0:09:53.920 --> 0:09:57.720 But so how do you manage that? Like when you're 0:09:57.720 --> 0:10:00.319 not having a good day, or were your energies three 0:10:00.440 --> 0:10:02.240 or a four? Or your mindset's a three or four? 0:10:02.280 --> 0:10:05.720 Are you're frustrated or because how do you do you 0:10:05.800 --> 0:10:08.400 just soldier on? Or do you have a hack where 0:10:08.400 --> 0:10:10.160 you can get yourself kind of. 0:10:10.040 --> 0:10:13.680 Back Because I'm I don't have a lot of back 0:10:13.720 --> 0:10:16.680 to bout clients like they, you know, I normally have 0:10:17.280 --> 0:10:21.280 two or three at a time and then that I'm done, 0:10:21.440 --> 0:10:24.200 so I don't overload myself, so I can normally get through. 0:10:25.200 --> 0:10:27.280 And training is different. 0:10:27.840 --> 0:10:34.079 When I'm podcasting and I'm sitting down, there's I'm. 0:10:33.880 --> 0:10:35.640 Not playing a role. 0:10:35.760 --> 0:10:37.920 I'm not playing the trainer that's there to kick your 0:10:37.960 --> 0:10:41.280 ass and teach your stuff and lift the mood and energy. 0:10:41.840 --> 0:10:45.440 I'm I don't know that's not there, so I'd struggle more. 0:10:45.640 --> 0:10:49.320 And it's cognitive, you know. It's that It's that not 0:10:49.440 --> 0:10:53.080 being sharp, not getting a bit distracted in my head, 0:10:53.240 --> 0:10:57.560 being just a bit fairy, bloody fairy, and then noticing 0:10:57.559 --> 0:11:00.160 that and criticizing it. That's where I struggle the most. 0:11:00.200 --> 0:11:04.400 So it's in the in the podcast more than the training. 0:11:05.760 --> 0:11:09.400 It's very rare that I that I am The only 0:11:09.440 --> 0:11:13.920 times I will struggle on personal training clients is if 0:11:13.960 --> 0:11:17.280 they're in the afternoon and I'm and I'm really run down, 0:11:17.880 --> 0:11:20.760 and I've only got two sessions that I run in 0:11:20.800 --> 0:11:22.720 an afternoon for a group and they are super fun. 0:11:22.720 --> 0:11:25.560 They normally just lift me up anyway, So I'm like, 0:11:26.000 --> 0:11:26.760 thank God for that. 0:11:28.120 --> 0:11:31.520 But yeah, it's I don't know, it's bloody tough. 0:11:32.520 --> 0:11:35.199 Yeah, well, I mean it's it's it's all of us, 0:11:35.520 --> 0:11:38.360 you know, And it's I think you just and of 0:11:38.360 --> 0:11:41.920 course people understand, like if you feel terrible, you can 0:11:41.960 --> 0:11:46.040 tell people, but you can't you know them down well, 0:11:46.080 --> 0:11:48.120 you want that to be the exception, not the rule. 0:11:49.000 --> 0:11:54.800 It's like, I would rather not see someone than bring 0:11:54.840 --> 0:11:57.439 my bad day to them, do you know what I mean. 0:11:57.480 --> 0:12:00.200 I'm like, I don't want to inflict me on you 0:12:00.280 --> 0:12:04.400 at the moment, because it ate your job to pick 0:12:04.520 --> 0:12:07.840 me up. Now, I'm talking about in a professional capacity here, 0:12:07.880 --> 0:12:13.479 I'm not talking about friendship. Yeah, you know. And the 0:12:13.480 --> 0:12:16.480 the amount of just because I've done so much right 0:12:16.559 --> 0:12:19.000 and even though it's a very small percentage, maybe one 0:12:19.080 --> 0:12:22.440 or two percent of the time, but because I've done 0:12:22.440 --> 0:12:25.120 so many sessions and talks, still ends up being quite 0:12:25.120 --> 0:12:29.440 a number of sessions where like I remember, I've told 0:12:29.480 --> 0:12:31.520 this once, I think on the show. But one hundred 0:12:31.559 --> 0:12:34.640 and fifty years ago, when I had a girlfriend when 0:12:34.679 --> 0:12:40.320 I wasn't old and weird and hermity, Me and the 0:12:40.360 --> 0:12:48.920 aforementioned girlfriend had been having all night conversation about some 0:12:48.960 --> 0:12:53.000 of the challenges, right, and it was just that's not me. 0:12:53.080 --> 0:12:54.800 I've only ever done that once in my life, and 0:12:54.840 --> 0:12:56.720 it was that night right where it was just it 0:12:56.720 --> 0:12:59.120 was going around in circles and anyway. It wasn't a 0:12:59.200 --> 0:13:01.599 very it wasn't to but it wasn't a great it 0:13:01.760 --> 0:13:07.640 was anyway. So I literally had about maybe thirty minutes sleep, 0:13:08.440 --> 0:13:14.200 and then I had fifteen appointments. I had six am 0:13:14.320 --> 0:13:18.640 to nine pm, back to back one hour sessions or 0:13:18.679 --> 0:13:20.480 maybe fourteen or thirty. And this is back in the 0:13:20.559 --> 0:13:22.240 day when I was young. I used to do. I 0:13:22.280 --> 0:13:24.880 was like a weapon, Like I could do lots and 0:13:24.880 --> 0:13:27.760 lots and lots, and there would be you know, because 0:13:27.800 --> 0:13:31.960 I owned my own business, I would sometimes which it 0:13:32.040 --> 0:13:36.240 seems inappropriate, but in the context it was fine. I'd 0:13:36.280 --> 0:13:38.640 eat my lunch while I was training someone, but it'd 0:13:38.640 --> 0:13:40.719 be you know, like i'd have a protein bar or 0:13:40.760 --> 0:13:43.000 a little bit of and it'd always be with someone 0:13:43.040 --> 0:13:44.719 that I knew well and they're fine with it, and 0:13:45.760 --> 0:13:48.520 i'd do a workout with a clientel. But I remember 0:13:49.080 --> 0:13:52.720 just I didn't even want to turn up for the 0:13:52.760 --> 0:13:57.400 first person, like, I was emotionally drained, I was exhausted, 0:13:58.160 --> 0:14:02.320 I was sad, I was anxio. I was the opposite 0:14:02.440 --> 0:14:04.959 of what you need to be to do that job well. 0:14:06.240 --> 0:14:10.600 And I just remember thinking, the last thing I want 0:14:10.640 --> 0:14:13.520 to do is to be an inspiration to anyone. I 0:14:13.600 --> 0:14:16.440 just want to fucking cuddle. I just want to I 0:14:16.520 --> 0:14:18.840 just want to lie in front of the fire, like 0:14:19.040 --> 0:14:23.720 you know. And and I guess I could have canceled everyone, 0:14:23.800 --> 0:14:25.920 but it was my business and it was new and 0:14:26.080 --> 0:14:28.560 I was yeah, but that's you know, I mean, in 0:14:28.600 --> 0:14:31.240 the context of no, I just got through it. But 0:14:31.800 --> 0:14:34.480 in the context of real world problems, I think I 0:14:34.520 --> 0:14:37.560 had one cancelation, so maybe I slept for thirty minutes. 0:14:37.600 --> 0:14:40.840 But in the context of you know, somebody having cancer, 0:14:40.960 --> 0:14:43.240 or somebody being in a bloody war zone, or somebody 0:14:43.280 --> 0:14:46.280 not having clean drinking water, these are these are not 0:14:46.400 --> 0:14:50.600 problems at all. But you know, the reality is like 0:14:50.680 --> 0:14:53.680 for us as individuals, whatever it is, hard for you? 0:14:54.240 --> 0:14:56.680 Is hard for you? Do you know what I mean? 0:14:57.200 --> 0:14:57.480 Yeah? 0:14:57.720 --> 0:15:01.080 Yeah, this morning I woke up forty three, so I 0:15:01.160 --> 0:15:05.640 had a real turbulence sleep lately and went to sleep 0:15:05.800 --> 0:15:09.240 reasonable hour. Woke up at two forty three, wide awake, 0:15:09.400 --> 0:15:09.960 and I was. 0:15:09.960 --> 0:15:12.160 Like, ah, today was this today? 0:15:12.400 --> 0:15:13.120 Yeah? 0:15:13.160 --> 0:15:15.040 And this has been happening a bit lately, and I 0:15:15.080 --> 0:15:18.160 was like, here we go a big day tomorrow. I've 0:15:18.160 --> 0:15:20.880 got clients early, got it up at that time, did 0:15:20.920 --> 0:15:23.200 not go back to sleep at all, and then and 0:15:23.240 --> 0:15:24.840 I just thought I'm gonna be rake. You know when 0:15:24.840 --> 0:15:28.000 you feel really awake and then six am comes, just 0:15:28.040 --> 0:15:30.320 before the alarm turns off, you just doze off and 0:15:30.320 --> 0:15:33.800 then you wake up and you feel like ass. I 0:15:33.840 --> 0:15:36.120 was waiting for that to happen. It didn't happen. But 0:15:36.200 --> 0:15:39.320 I played music, positive music. I listened to some shit 0:15:39.400 --> 0:15:42.240 to get like I just I put so much effort 0:15:42.320 --> 0:15:46.000 into changing my state because I was like, okay, because 0:15:46.000 --> 0:15:48.600 this is because this is happening frequently. At the moment, 0:15:48.720 --> 0:15:52.040 this becomes a story real easy, and I can either 0:15:52.200 --> 0:15:54.720 drag my fucking bottom lip all the way to the 0:15:54.720 --> 0:15:58.880 gym and drag that story in. But like I put 0:15:59.240 --> 0:16:02.160 yeah and I've been good all day, still been it's good, 0:16:02.440 --> 0:16:07.640 not like not sharp, not good on cognitively, but. 0:16:06.680 --> 0:16:09.000 But emotionally you've been all right, Like you're not walking 0:16:09.040 --> 0:16:10.880 around SADDI mac sad stuff. 0:16:11.080 --> 0:16:15.200 Nah No, And weirdly haven't haven't crashed yet four you know, 0:16:15.720 --> 0:16:16.680 fourth thirty, We haven't. 0:16:16.680 --> 0:16:17.520 We haven't had a nap. 0:16:18.840 --> 0:16:22.400 Yeah, I think it's I mean, you know, peaks and troughs, right, 0:16:22.480 --> 0:16:25.200 but it's it's trying to figure out in the middle 0:16:25.240 --> 0:16:27.240 of all of that too, which we're always talking about, 0:16:27.320 --> 0:16:31.720 figure out what's the best operating system for you, you know, 0:16:31.720 --> 0:16:34.800 knowing you know, like I guess a good idea for 0:16:34.840 --> 0:16:37.560 you tonight if you could would be to go to 0:16:37.640 --> 0:16:40.560 sleep at eight o'clock, if that was an opportunity or 0:16:40.560 --> 0:16:45.360 a chance. You know, it's like I like I'm doing 0:16:45.560 --> 0:16:49.200 I'm up to my eyeballs at the moment in kind 0:16:49.200 --> 0:16:53.040 of the run home to what's called submission where you 0:16:53.080 --> 0:16:56.440 submit all your work for your PhD. So but there's 0:16:56.480 --> 0:17:02.280 still a lot of work to do. But I know 0:17:02.440 --> 0:17:05.760 that if I do it somewhere around eight am till 0:17:05.840 --> 0:17:08.600 midday or not that that's the totality of it, but 0:17:09.680 --> 0:17:14.000 for that particular cognitive task, which is not a fun task. 0:17:14.600 --> 0:17:17.800 I'm much better in the morning. So one of the 0:17:17.840 --> 0:17:21.400 mistakes that I've been making is, you know, doing other 0:17:21.440 --> 0:17:25.119 shit and then starting my PhD at four. I'm like 0:17:25.240 --> 0:17:27.840 and going, I'll just do this between four and ten 0:17:28.000 --> 0:17:31.720 or whatever, and it just doesn't work. It does, but 0:17:32.200 --> 0:17:34.720 for other people it does. Like there are other people, 0:17:34.720 --> 0:17:38.280 as you know from pH three sixty, where like later 0:17:38.320 --> 0:17:42.400 in the day they come alive. But for fatty harps 0:17:42.440 --> 0:17:45.560 like my brain. In fact, it's funny because for that 0:17:45.760 --> 0:17:49.600 kind of cognitive load, that kind of work, that kind 0:17:49.680 --> 0:17:56.720 of task where it is real intense focus and problem 0:17:56.800 --> 0:18:01.520 solving and trying to understand stuff, for me, it's earlier 0:18:01.520 --> 0:18:06.120 in the day. But there's things like this where it's 0:18:06.160 --> 0:18:10.359 not that kind of work, you know, it's not that 0:18:10.480 --> 0:18:12.280 kind of brain work where I'm just banging on with 0:18:12.320 --> 0:18:15.919 you and I'm quite present and I'm not saying this 0:18:16.000 --> 0:18:18.320 is the world's best podcast or the world's best episode. 0:18:18.359 --> 0:18:21.159 But I find this easy, but I don't find the 0:18:21.200 --> 0:18:23.800 other stuff easy, you know. So I think it's figuring 0:18:23.800 --> 0:18:27.280 out your own timing with everything from training to sleep 0:18:27.320 --> 0:18:32.159 to you know, food to you know, cognitive performance. 0:18:32.840 --> 0:18:36.919 I have found it really hard finding that window of 0:18:37.000 --> 0:18:41.080 time in now that I'm doing a course and doing 0:18:41.119 --> 0:18:45.440 some study and some thinking and some creating, I'm finding 0:18:45.480 --> 0:18:48.159 that really difficult, especially with what's going on with a 0:18:48.240 --> 0:18:49.760 lack of sleep and everything. At the moment. 0:18:50.280 --> 0:18:51.240 I'm a bit like you. 0:18:51.320 --> 0:18:54.119 I think I'm good in the mornings. 0:18:55.400 --> 0:18:55.879 I simp this. 0:18:55.920 --> 0:18:58.119 So I got something popped up on my socials the 0:18:58.119 --> 0:19:01.520 other day about body doubling. Was on an ADHD page 0:19:02.040 --> 0:19:03.800 and I sent it to my mate and I said, 0:19:03.880 --> 0:19:06.840 this is a thing, and that just had these things 0:19:06.880 --> 0:19:09.720 about having a body double in the room, like just 0:19:09.760 --> 0:19:11.200 a person in the room. 0:19:11.880 --> 0:19:14.439 While you work, and I was thinking about it. I'm like, 0:19:14.520 --> 0:19:16.400 that's so me, Like I need. 0:19:16.840 --> 0:19:19.400 I don't understand. I don't understand. What do you mean 0:19:19.480 --> 0:19:21.560 having a person in the room, a body double. 0:19:21.400 --> 0:19:23.960 Just having a person there next to you and you're like, oh, 0:19:24.000 --> 0:19:26.280 we're doing the work, and then you do work together 0:19:26.760 --> 0:19:28.520 and then like it's like your focus. 0:19:29.560 --> 0:19:30.280 It's such a thing. 0:19:30.400 --> 0:19:33.040 Get oh, I don't get what do you mean a 0:19:33.040 --> 0:19:35.959 body double though? Are you Are you talking about an 0:19:36.040 --> 0:19:38.400 imaginary thing or an actual person? 0:19:40.440 --> 0:19:43.640 No, Like I mean just a person, a real person 0:19:44.359 --> 0:19:47.720 in the room with you, like you're in a classroom, 0:19:47.840 --> 0:19:49.119 or like you're in a group. 0:19:49.200 --> 0:19:50.840 Why is that called a body double? 0:19:51.680 --> 0:19:53.720 I just was on the Fuck Ups. 0:19:54.280 --> 0:19:57.040 Well, I'm curious. I've never heard the term. To me, 0:19:57.080 --> 0:19:58.280 it's something in a movie. 0:19:58.440 --> 0:20:02.320 I have to find the creator of the the reel 0:20:02.440 --> 0:20:04.560 now and send it to you so you can find Okay. 0:20:04.680 --> 0:20:07.439 So the point is you're saying, if you're doing something 0:20:07.480 --> 0:20:09.680 but somebody in the room, there's someone in the room 0:20:09.720 --> 0:20:13.080 with you doing a similar something or also working, you're 0:20:13.119 --> 0:20:13.840 more productive. 0:20:14.119 --> 0:20:17.760 Yeah right, Yeah, I think I've focus better if I 0:20:17.800 --> 0:20:21.000 think I'm doing things with someone. That's why I gets 0:20:21.080 --> 0:20:25.119 so in my head or so distracted with things. So 0:20:25.200 --> 0:20:26.639 I got we're doing this now? 0:20:27.840 --> 0:20:31.600 Yeah, yeah, so I similar to that, right, if I've 0:20:31.640 --> 0:20:34.480 got to do typ work or I've got a bunch 0:20:34.520 --> 0:20:37.680 of work coming up with conferences, corporate stuff and then 0:20:37.720 --> 0:20:40.320 public stuff. By the way, everyone, we're launching some public 0:20:40.359 --> 0:20:44.440 workshops soon. We're coming to everywhere except Canberra because Tip 0:20:44.440 --> 0:20:50.240 said it's no good. Then yeah, no, I actually don't 0:20:50.240 --> 0:20:52.920 know where we're going. I actually like Canberra and I've 0:20:52.920 --> 0:20:57.720 done workshops there before. But if Melissa's got to do 0:20:57.800 --> 0:21:01.880 some you know, typ stuff corp stuff like events stuff, 0:21:02.440 --> 0:21:05.800 business stuff, and I've got to do stuff. Quite often, 0:21:05.840 --> 0:21:09.639 we'll just jump on zoom and we'll do we'll do 0:21:09.880 --> 0:21:12.560 a lot of it together where we're just working through 0:21:12.600 --> 0:21:17.720 something and I'm typing, she's typing. Her head's on the screen, 0:21:17.840 --> 0:21:20.600 My head's on her screen. I'm like, what do you 0:21:20.640 --> 0:21:23.040 think of this? Okay? So when should we launch that? 0:21:23.240 --> 0:21:25.560 She's like, have you written a copy for that? I'm like, no, 0:21:25.720 --> 0:21:28.440 when do you need the copy by? I go, all right, well, 0:21:29.119 --> 0:21:30.720 what do we how much money are we going to 0:21:30.760 --> 0:21:33.880 spend on that? What do you think? Blah blah blah, 0:21:34.280 --> 0:21:35.679 you know, do you think we could go with this? 0:21:35.800 --> 0:21:37.520 Do you think okay, what do you think the price 0:21:37.600 --> 0:21:39.640 point is for that? Should we do an early bird off? 0:21:39.720 --> 0:21:41.280 Or do you think? You know all this stuff? And 0:21:42.480 --> 0:21:44.239 you know we're going to go to Perth alright, so 0:21:44.320 --> 0:21:46.080 do we want to like try and get two hundred 0:21:46.080 --> 0:21:48.439 bums on seats or five hundred bums on seats? What 0:21:48.440 --> 0:21:51.439 do you think? And what venues do you think? And 0:21:51.600 --> 0:21:54.600 like just all of that and we get ten hours 0:21:54.640 --> 0:21:57.520 of work done in and out? What do you laugh at? So? 0:21:57.560 --> 0:21:59.840 I think we all got the point about ten minutes ago. 0:22:00.160 --> 0:22:07.639 Keep going, Oh, that's very rude. Too many examples. 0:22:09.160 --> 0:22:10.840 No, I got it, I've got it now. You just 0:22:10.960 --> 0:22:12.520 nailed it at the end. I'm with you. 0:22:12.920 --> 0:22:16.879