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Speaker 2: pits are so so wet today. Is it hot in here? Well,
Speaker 2: you look like you're ding batting, zoned out? What were
Speaker 2: you just looking at nothing? Just zoning thinking about you?
Speaker 1: Remember, because you said that your pits were sweating, and
Speaker 1: I was thinking about being sick recently and that I
Speaker 1: soaked the whole bed in sweat, like in one of
Speaker 1: the night sweats. And then I had to like literally
Speaker 1: take all my clothes off because they were actually drenched,
Speaker 1: and then put towels all down on the bed. And
Speaker 1: mind you, when I was so sick, aj sleeps next
Speaker 1: to me and he does not get sick.
Speaker 2: I know. It's the same thing with Sky. Sky someone
Speaker 2: who gets sick a lot, and I do get sick
Speaker 2: sometimes more often than you, but I'm also someone who
Speaker 2: like rarely gets sick, and Sky will always get sick,
Speaker 2: and he goes and sleeps on the lounge because he
Speaker 2: doesn't want to make me.
Speaker 1: Sick, and then she should be the one volunteering to
Speaker 1: sleep on the lamp.
Speaker 2: No, because I'm like, sleep in the fucking bed next
Speaker 2: to me. I'm not going true, get on your side
Speaker 2: of the bed and sleep there, darling. I'm not gonna
Speaker 2: fuck off over to the lounge, and you don't have
Speaker 2: to either. I'm like, because I'm just someone like, if
Speaker 2: it's gonna happen, it's gonna happen. You may as well unscathed.
Speaker 2: But obviously Skuy's really consider it and doesn't want to
Speaker 2: get me sick. But I'm like, please get me sick,
Speaker 2: give me a week off work. Anyway. What was I
Speaker 2: wanting to talk about in this close friends that?
Speaker 1: Oh?
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, there's been a lot of chatter. There's been
Speaker 2: some chatter. There's been a little bit of chatter. I
Speaker 2: don't know how much chatter there's been. But I don't
Speaker 2: know if you've heard about the catch up trap. But
Speaker 2: our dear friend, friend of the pod, friend of the
Speaker 2: show texted me earlier ten your hennessy, she wrote an
Speaker 2: article I believe the Body and Soul originally, and I'm
Speaker 2: not sure whether it was her thing or whether she
Speaker 2: was inspired by someone, but it was titled Tanya Hannessy,
Speaker 2: Are you stuck in the catch up Trap? I am?
Speaker 2: And she goes on in the article to explain basically
Speaker 2: that the catch up trap is when two people live
Speaker 2: their lives separately and they catch up over lunch or
Speaker 2: dinner or a walk or drinks, you know, every few months,
Speaker 2: to tell each other about it, but they never actually
Speaker 2: create new memories and experiences together.
Speaker 1: I saw this too. I'll tell you the interesting thing
Speaker 1: about this as well. I know we're going to unpack
Speaker 1: it all and go through it, but the interesting thing
Speaker 1: is that this is something that a lot of people experience,
Speaker 1: like as we go into adulthood and into our thirties.
Speaker 1: But why do we get caught up in this when
Speaker 1: a lot of us are posting what we're doing online? Anyway?
Speaker 2: Yeah? So true? What have you done?
Speaker 1: What have been doing lately? When like, you can see
Speaker 1: everything on Instagram.
Speaker 2: But you can't see everything not everyone. So I went
Speaker 2: out for lunch yesterday with my best friend who just
Speaker 2: went away for I want to say, two months, and
Speaker 2: obviously they were posting photos of her and her partner
Speaker 2: were posting photos online, but I didn't really get to
Speaker 2: hear anything, you know, And I was like, yes, we
Speaker 2: saw a lot, but I asked her things like you know,
Speaker 2: what was your favorite part or like what was and
Speaker 2: she was like, oh, Cancun was good for this, but
Speaker 2: then Bolivia was good for this, and so they were all,
Speaker 2: you know, you get to but you're so right, like
Speaker 2: what have you been up to? Well, I guess you
Speaker 2: want to know the tea though. It's really funny and
Speaker 2: ironic though, because Tanya and I have this friendship that
Speaker 2: she's talking about, the catch up trap. Tanya and I
Speaker 2: when we go out, when we catch up, it is
Speaker 2: over all.
Speaker 1: We get out of this well. But I think this
Speaker 1: is like you get to a certain age and you
Speaker 1: no longer creating memories. You're just catching up with people.
Speaker 2: So I said to the girls I went out for
Speaker 2: lunch yesterday, I brought this up, and I was like, girls,
Speaker 2: next time, because I look at the last twelve months
Speaker 2: of catching up and these are girls that I went
Speaker 2: to high school with and are still friends with. I'm
Speaker 2: only friends with like three people from high school and
Speaker 2: these three goals. And I said, girls, we need to
Speaker 2: next time. This is going to be a lovely lunch.
Speaker 2: It's going to be beautiful. We went to quite a
Speaker 2: nice restaurant, although the service was poor and the food
Speaker 2: was average, but we were we I was like, this
Speaker 2: is lovely. It's actually been a few months because we
Speaker 2: haven't caught up since, like before Christmas. So happy to
Speaker 2: catch up today and tell everyone about what we've been
Speaker 2: up to. But next time we should make a conscious
Speaker 2: decision to do something, or if we go out to
Speaker 2: lunch or dinner, we do that, but then what are
Speaker 2: we doing to.
Speaker 1: Do something after the situations that we're putting ourselves in
Speaker 1: where you are just going out for a breakfast or
Speaker 1: a lunch or a cocktail, so you're just sitting and chatting, yes,
Speaker 1: as opposed to doing some sort of activity.
Speaker 2: I think obviously you still want to catch up. But
Speaker 2: I said, next time, let's go for dinner at the
Speaker 2: Star and see a musical. Because I don't think we'll
Speaker 2: ever in our lives say to each other after today's lunch.
Speaker 2: This is what I said to the girls. I don't
Speaker 2: think ever in our lives will we say remember that
Speaker 2: lunch we went to. But if we had maybe gone
Speaker 2: and seen a musical after it? Today yeah, we would say,
Speaker 2: remember that when we saw that musical, how good that
Speaker 2: musical was. We still don't talk about the lunch, but
Speaker 2: at least there's something that we did that we were
Speaker 2: able to talk about.
Speaker 1: Our activities. Yeah, but I feel like the go to
Speaker 1: now we're just so in like the fucking going out
Speaker 1: for cocktails and food era. But that's all it is.
Speaker 1: But I'm all for activities. I'm all for activities and
Speaker 1: not doing the catch up trap because as for me personally,
Speaker 1: I can't stand small talk. How have you been, what's
Speaker 1: been going on, how's the business gone? Do you know
Speaker 1: what I mean? I'm happy to do it and I'll
Speaker 1: sink cocktails and talk shit, but like, ugh, let's do
Speaker 1: something more.
Speaker 2: Yeah, for sure. But we did a bit of a
Speaker 2: brainstorm yesterday at lunch of like things we could do.
Speaker 2: We were coming up with the most wild things because
Speaker 2: like the next time we get together, we might go
Speaker 2: and do Actua golf or go to a driving range
Speaker 2: and do golf. Ashley, my best friend, she was like,
Speaker 2: perhaps we play golf, and I went, no, I'm not
Speaker 2: going to play a whole eighteen hole golf course. Cannot
Speaker 2: be bothered. But I'll do it, I'll hit the ball
Speaker 2: into the water or you know, go to a driving
Speaker 2: range or something. But I think golf is like a
Speaker 2: big step for us as people who have never done
Speaker 2: anything to go out to lunch. And you know, I
Speaker 2: also am like, you know, another one of my friends
Speaker 2: has two kids, and I'm like, you know, when the
Speaker 2: four of us get together for lunch, Like, although you know,
Speaker 2: leaving the two kids at home and coming for a
Speaker 2: fabulous lunch is probably a lovely thing, I'm like, she
Speaker 2: probably wants to get out as well and like, actually,
Speaker 2: like do something fabulous. I'm not saying, by the way,
Speaker 2: Mariah listens to the podcast, and I love you, Mariah.
Speaker 2: I'm not saying all you do is sit at home
Speaker 2: all day with your kids and do nothing. But I'm
Speaker 2: just like those moments where we do catch up, surely
Speaker 2: Mariah would be more interested in like doing a fun
Speaker 2: activity than just like having a nice lunch. And so yeah,
Speaker 2: we're making it in our friend group a bit of
Speaker 2: a thing. And thank you Tanya Hannessy and whoever you
Speaker 2: were inspired by, if it wasn't you, for starting this conversation,
Speaker 2: because when I think about it, that's all I do
Speaker 2: with anyone. Also on the flip side of this, do
Speaker 2: you find that kind of awkward going out for dinner
Speaker 2: with AJ?
Speaker 1: No?
Speaker 2: Okay, so I find it not awkward. Maybe isn't the
Speaker 2: right word. But like, when Sky and I go out
Speaker 2: to dinner, I.
Speaker 1: Don't have anything to talk about talk about.
Speaker 2: I don't know everything. What are we gonna talk about?
Speaker 2: We've already told each other all the gossip from everyone
Speaker 2: in our lives.
Speaker 1: I get that sometimes when you sit there, like, but
Speaker 1: then we always just have someone come and meet us,
Speaker 1: Like we always go out with someone else. Oh okay,
Speaker 1: Sometimes when we go by ourselves, I'm like, what the
Speaker 1: fuck are we going to talk about? We've been talking
Speaker 1: twenty four to seven our whole lives, and I feel
Speaker 1: like we.
Speaker 2: Look maybe like a really unhappy couple, because like, sometimes
Speaker 2: me and Sky will just sit there in silence. Yeah,
Speaker 2: and we're on a date night, but we've spoken all
Speaker 2: fucking wait already. Not he has nothing else to tell me.
Speaker 2: I have nothing else to tell him. We know everything
Speaker 2: about each other. So then we go out on this
Speaker 2: really nice get dressed up. Sometimes we will stay at
Speaker 2: a nice hotel in the city as well, and really
Speaker 2: make a thing out of it, and then we get
Speaker 2: to dinner and we're just.
Speaker 1: Like, what do we say we talk about?
Speaker 2: Because you already know everything anyway, But the catch up trap, Yeah,
Speaker 2: I'm definitely looking forward to. So I thought we could
Speaker 2: brainstorm some things together. So I've got you know, you
Speaker 2: go to a musical or go and see a show
Speaker 2: of some type, and then we had golf or you know,
Speaker 2: your acua golf. What other things come to the top
Speaker 2: of your mind that I could like do with my
Speaker 2: friends or that would avoid the catch up trap, or
Speaker 2: at least if you're going to go for a dinner,
Speaker 2: do the dinner, do the catch up there, because also
Speaker 2: you might be a bit preoccupied if you're bowling or something,
Speaker 2: you don't have time to actually like catch up. So
Speaker 2: I'm still all about having a dinner where you go,
Speaker 2: what have you've been up to? Yeah, but then maybe
Speaker 2: bowling afterwards. Right, we've had the catch up. Now we're
Speaker 2: bowling and we're having a fun time. Yeah.
Speaker 1: What else is there to do? Literally, what else is
Speaker 1: there to do besides movies bowling?
Speaker 2: Yeah, movies I don't like because you can't talk.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I haven't been to the movies last time. I
Speaker 1: went to the movies. Was when the Barbie movie came out.
Speaker 2: I guess you can't talk at the theater either, but
Speaker 2: that's a different thing. Yeah, it's a whole different thing. Yeah,
Speaker 2: the Barbie movie. Wow, so you still haven't watched Wicked? No,
Speaker 2: oh my god, at the times girl. But also you
Speaker 2: may as well just wait now because in November part
Speaker 2: two we'll be out watch both back to back. Other
Speaker 2: things to do, especially in Sydney.
Speaker 1: Go to a day spar together.
Speaker 2: Oh now that's nice actually, big massage five with the
Speaker 2: friend with the girl, the.
Speaker 1: Hunter Valley, go to the Royal day spar up.
Speaker 2: There a bit of wine tasting one to or just
Speaker 2: because you're catching up, but you're doing a wine to do.
Speaker 2: You know what this is?
Speaker 1: You just go to like go to the Hunt of
Speaker 1: Valley or wherever your local vineyard is, and you can
Speaker 1: still go out for lunch, but go out for lunch
Speaker 1: at a winery that also does wine tastings, so then
Speaker 1: you can all stand around try the wines and have
Speaker 1: something else to talk about, yes, other than what you've
Speaker 1: been up too lately.
Speaker 2: Oh, this is blowing my mind. I'm going to have
Speaker 2: to suggest all of these things to the girls. When
Speaker 2: I get back from America, we'll be doing all of this,
Speaker 2: all of these things. The Hunter Valley wine thing, ye
Speaker 2: is fabulous, And I'm also happy to be so sober driver.
Speaker 1: You know, yes, spit it out when you taste wine.
Speaker 2: Shit. I did one and I drank the whole time.
Speaker 1: I think you can do either, all right, Yeah, oh,
Speaker 1: maybe we should do one, mat because you said you
Speaker 1: don't like red wine.
Speaker 2: I don't, so maybe I can find one.
Speaker 1: I fucking love red wine. I'm actually so excited that
Speaker 1: summer is coming to an end. To be fair, I've
Speaker 1: been drinking red wine all through summer, but when the
Speaker 1: weather's cooling down, having a red wine at night really
Speaker 1: just like, yeah, it's like room temperature.
Speaker 2: You don't put it in the fridge, do you know.
Speaker 1: But although you can get chilled reds, and sometimes when
Speaker 1: we go out for dinner, we'll order like a chilled
Speaker 1: red So that's another thing why I like going out
Speaker 1: for dinner with aj because we both love red and
Speaker 1: it's just like an experience together, like looking at the
Speaker 1: menu picking what red we want, like it just adds
Speaker 1: to the dinner. So maybe you need to you and
Speaker 1: Sky need to enjoy red so then you can enjoy
Speaker 1: dinner together a bit more. And then after a couple
Speaker 1: of reds, it's endless. A ship that you can talk about.
Speaker 2: Right see sky And I don't drink, so I only
Speaker 2: drink if I'm getting drunk. Do you know what I mean? Like,
Speaker 2: I won't go to.
Speaker 1: Three glasses are red and your piass really? Yes, Okay,
Speaker 1: we'll have one glass. Sometimes I'm a pino noir.
Speaker 2: Girl to tell you have to give me a good
Speaker 2: brand favorite one.
Speaker 1: Also like a shoe rabs too, to be honest. And
Speaker 1: I only started liking red wine maybe last year, I
Speaker 1: want to say, but I liked San Gria for years,
Speaker 1: has read in it?
Speaker 2: You know what I'm going to give a shout out
Speaker 2: to right now? Bonalds Bay.
Speaker 1: Where's that?
Speaker 2: I don't know if it's Central Coast, but it's more
Speaker 2: mora set area. Bonnles Bay, Go, Google Girl, Trinity is Yeah,
Speaker 2: it's yeah, literally two minutes Bonnles b O n n
Speaker 2: E L L S. I think, yeah, Bonald's Bay. There
Speaker 2: we go. So if you could just go to maps
Speaker 2: for me, just maps, thank you, go Google Girl, and
Speaker 2: then we're going to zoom into Bonnles Bay, and I'm
Speaker 2: going to show you the most fabulous if you scroll across. Sorry, yeah,
Speaker 2: keep going down and keep going down. Shout out to
Speaker 2: bonals Bay, because here are the street names in Bonnles Bay.
Speaker 2: We've got Reaesling Road, We've got Cemelon close, We've got
Speaker 2: Merlow close.
Speaker 1: The Dello Street, Sharaz Drive.
Speaker 2: Where, Yeah, Theidello Street? What else? We got Bailey Street?
Speaker 2: What's down here? What's near Merlow Close? Over here on
Speaker 2: the in the middle. Yeah, and then what's that little
Speaker 2: one there? Oh that's Merlow Close? Well, anyway, all the streets. Yeah,
Speaker 2: how did you know that? I won't tell you used
Speaker 2: to hook.
Speaker 1: Up with the guy.
Speaker 2: It's a surprise, all right, we'll keep it a surprise.
Speaker 2: We'll keep it a secret. All right. That's enough of that.
Speaker 1: But anyway, Yeah, the hotel, Motel, Holiday.
Speaker 2: Inn hold in anyway, that's really cab, like all the
Speaker 2: street names are whine.
Speaker 1: I love that.
Speaker 2: And then they've got another part of Bonalds Bay as well,
Speaker 2: which I only just saw on the map just then
Speaker 2: as we were looking. And it looks like if you
Speaker 2: go over to the left, keep going, keep going, keep
Speaker 2: going to that retirement village sort of vibe. Keep going,
Speaker 2: Ye're in there, zoom in there. They're all birds. We've
Speaker 2: got Plover Place, We've got Kingfisher Streets, Seagull Street, Pelican Avenue,
Speaker 2: Wow Avenue, Egret Avenue, and we've got uh what else?
Speaker 2: Were there? Sandpipe of place? They're all birds?
Speaker 1: What the hell goes on?
Speaker 2: If you have any fun things like this, I would
Speaker 2: love to know about them, Like if you know of
Speaker 2: suburbs like Bonalds Bay where all the street names are
Speaker 2: are a certain way for a certain reason. Let me bloody,
Speaker 2: you know, because I think this is my not hyper fixation,
Speaker 2: but it's just mine. It's just something that makes me
Speaker 2: so fucking happy. I'm just like, that's perfect. You wish
Speaker 2: areas I don't know, have a look to see, say
Speaker 2: when did Bonald's Bay get created? This is Charas Drive.
Speaker 2: How about we just type in a random number charads
Speaker 2: drive into Google. Go Google, girl, You're right if you
Speaker 2: go Bonalds Bay and then type in like Charas Drive
Speaker 2: and then just think of a number off the top
Speaker 2: of your head. So then click that and what year
Speaker 2: was that built? Because it'll tell us two thousand and
Speaker 2: three by the looks of it. Scroll down again. Scroll down,
Speaker 2: scroll down, scroll down. We're on real estate dot com now.
Speaker 2: So it was sold in two thousand and one. I'm
Speaker 2: assuming that's the block of land were sold for ninety
Speaker 2: two thousand and then in two thousand and three it's
Speaker 2: sold for one hundred and fifty three thousand dollars. So
Speaker 2: early two thousands, Monalds Bay came up and about, and
Speaker 2: I'm sure there's some newer houses in there now. But
Speaker 2: she shout out to fucking bond Bottle's Bay. Do we
Speaker 2: have any scrollers in Bondal's Bay?
Speaker 1: I think I've ever been there in my life. Anyway,
Speaker 1: Still want to go to Morrisset?
Speaker 2: Maybe I want I have to go to Merlow Close?
Speaker 2: Merlow Close, can you throw a street party and invite us?
Speaker 2: All right, scrollers party in Merlow clothes? Anyway? Is this
Speaker 2: a close Friend's episode? Good? We're done and dusted, then fabulous.
Speaker 2: I'm ready to go and get a meat pie. Hannah's
Speaker 2: shaking her head. They're still not back. I was really
Speaker 2: hoping this close Friends. Yeah, I was really hoping that
Speaker 2: that would just manifest that the meat pie machine was
Speaker 2: back here at Do you have any food.
Speaker 1: Hannah that snacks in the vending machine. No, I don't
Speaker 1: want to make a delivery of the groceries this morning.
Speaker 2: I'm not paying for it. I want just like a
Speaker 2: snack draw. Is there a snackdraw? This, pretzels, you know what?
Speaker 2: Downstairs though, there was one day a bowl. Sorry, i'll
Speaker 2: wrap this up in one second, but there was a
Speaker 2: bowl on the table full of stuff and it looked
Speaker 2: like packets of chips or lollies. And I went off
Speaker 2: there and I walked over to the bowl. It was
Speaker 2: full of smooth FM tissue packets. Anyway, I took six,
Speaker 2: so it was great. Thanks for listening, scrollers. We'll see
Speaker 2: you next Tuesday.