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Speaker 1: I'm Anna and I'm Matt. Let's jump in, Matt. It's
Speaker 1: twenty twenty three. Happy New Year, Happy.
Speaker 2: New Year, Anna. Welcome to a big episode in a
Speaker 2: big year. Geen to be here.
Speaker 1: Oh no, it's so weird to be back in the studio.
Speaker 1: We've had a little bit of time off. I'm feeling refreshed.
Speaker 1: How is your New Year?
Speaker 2: It was good? So, like I said last year, I
Speaker 2: didn't have any plans for New Years. I got a
Speaker 2: lot of I got a little itchy towards the end.
Speaker 1: I thought, you cha.
Speaker 2: The boys were trying to push a couple of events
Speaker 2: on me, and I was like, you know what, I
Speaker 2: don't I don't want to go. I'm not I want
Speaker 2: to have a nice, relax year. So we just went
Speaker 2: down to Olwood Beach and sat there beautiful. I had
Speaker 2: a bottle of mum and just mom and just sat
Speaker 2: there and relaxed and watched the fireworks. It's a good view,
Speaker 2: so you could see the fireworks from like the city,
Speaker 2: I guess, like the middle of the city and the docklands.
Speaker 2: You see the whole all the fireworks. So that was
Speaker 2: really beautiful, beautiful. But then the next day the boy
Speaker 2: swifted my arm and I went to a couple of
Speaker 2: New Year's Day events.
Speaker 1: I saw that.
Speaker 2: And let rift there, so I made up for having
Speaker 2: New Year's Eve off.
Speaker 1: So you're feeling dusty, Are you feeling refreshed, energized? How
Speaker 1: are you feeling? What's what's going on in the life
Speaker 1: of Matt?
Speaker 2: Well, there's never the breaks in never long enough, are they?
Speaker 2: Then I wish it was a little bit longer.
Speaker 1: First day back, I actually took the wrong route here
Speaker 1: because I was just like, do you know what's so
Speaker 1: annoying about holidays is my sleeping pattern is just so bad.
Speaker 1: Throughout the whole of last year, I was waking up
Speaker 1: at like six on the dark, wake up at six
Speaker 1: just like buy myself, get a coffee, watch the morning TV,
Speaker 1: and like this morning, I was like, had alarm after
Speaker 1: alarm this morning.
Speaker 2: So I normally would get up at like yeah on
Speaker 2: Mondays at six to watch the NFL. Yeah, coffee, but
Speaker 2: fantasy is over. I didn't make well, I lost in playoffs,
Speaker 2: so it's over. So there's no point really getting up now.
Speaker 2: So I was like in a dark place through all
Speaker 2: my alarms, and then I turned on for a bit
Speaker 2: and I was like to go to the studio.
Speaker 1: I've been getting up at like, no joke, this is
Speaker 1: so bad, but like nine am, ten am, Like my
Speaker 1: sleeping pattern is so bad. And Michael and I have
Speaker 1: been going to bed at like one am, two am. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so like we've been watching shows, We've been watching movies,
Speaker 1: we've been playing games, like especially because it's light nights
Speaker 1: at the moment, Like we have a beautiful balcony, so
Speaker 1: we've just been sitting out there relaxing. But yeah, sleeping
Speaker 1: pattern is bad. Woke up like this morning, was like ship,
Speaker 1: we're back to We're back to the podcast?
Speaker 2: You got here before me? So that show.
Speaker 1: I did get here before that, but I almost didn't
Speaker 1: because I took the wrong turn off and I was like, wow,
Speaker 1: I need another coffee, but where'd you go? Like you know,
Speaker 1: when you're heading to the West Gate and then you
Speaker 1: take it. I almost took the airport turnoff and I
Speaker 1: was like, no, I.
Speaker 2: Actually did, but like I was a bit more onto it.
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, but then I was like, I need another coffee.
Speaker 1: But one of my newest resolutions that I'm implementing is
Speaker 1: only two coffees a day, which I've stuck to so
Speaker 1: far because the thing is is I had no limits,
Speaker 1: and when you have no limits, you just go coffee
Speaker 1: after coffee after coffee, Like you're telling me, it's a
Speaker 1: both of our vises. And I was like, I can't
Speaker 1: keep doing this. I feel like it's like I want
Speaker 1: to be the healthiest version of myself this year, and
Speaker 1: six coffees just ain't it for me anymore.
Speaker 2: Buying six coffees that's what did it for me.
Speaker 1: It's like, also, no, I don't even do the masks
Speaker 1: with me. I don't want to know.
Speaker 2: The break. And I was like, so I was making.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I've been actually getting the little Nest cafe ones
Speaker 1: and they are good.
Speaker 2: Yeah. I put them in the pod and then make
Speaker 2: an ice one. Oh yeah nice.
Speaker 1: It was really good. Mill Dura was amazing. We got
Speaker 1: to hang out with our nephew. He's growing up so quickly.
Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god. Yeah, we had so
Speaker 1: much fun with him. We bought him a paddling pool
Speaker 1: and he loved it. So six months. Yeah, but I
Speaker 1: feel like he's so advanced. I'm just like, we're both
Speaker 1: obsessed with him, and leaving him was really sad, and
Speaker 1: obviously the whole family, like, we had an amazing Christmas.
Speaker 1: Then we came home, had Christmas with my family, and
Speaker 1: then a few of our friends went to Turquie. You know,
Speaker 1: I love TALKI It was really fun, really good, had
Speaker 1: a great weather, had a few beach days and just
Speaker 1: chilled out. I did get a little bit of itchy
Speaker 1: feet seeing people in beautiful place around the world on
Speaker 1: their vacations, like people. Yeah, yeah, it's nice when you're
Speaker 1: trying to save money, when you have lots of engagement
Speaker 1: party and weddings in the near future that you have
Speaker 1: to save for. But yeah, Michael and I are going
Speaker 1: to Europe in August. That was our Christmas present to
Speaker 1: each other, so we started planning that this weekend. Just
Speaker 1: because I don't know, like I'm so bad, you know what,
Speaker 1: I'm like, I love a holiday and I love a
Speaker 1: last minute holiday, so not actually going outside of Australia.
Speaker 1: I was kind of like I wish I was, but
Speaker 1: also I know that there's lots of exciting things coming
Speaker 1: and i'm you know, what do I say? There's you
Speaker 1: have to be happy. You need three things that you're
Speaker 1: looking forward to. So I have the engagement party Europe
Speaker 1: in August and my.
Speaker 2: Wedding, three massive things as well.
Speaker 1: Massive thing massive. I'm going to be in Europe for
Speaker 1: I think two and a half weeks, so not too.
Speaker 2: Long, a nice little stink down there, and just Greece.
Speaker 2: You're going to do anything.
Speaker 1: We're going to do Greece, Spain, Italy, France and then home.
Speaker 1: Do you have any holidays? Yeah, exactly. Do you have
Speaker 1: any holidays planned this year?
Speaker 2: I want to do the I want to do the States,
Speaker 2: so like probably get there at like October, go like
Speaker 2: say there for Halloween, watch like a bunch of NFL
Speaker 2: I love that, a bunch of NFL games in different states,
Speaker 2: and then like be there for Thanksgiving and then finish
Speaker 2: up in New York for like Christmas period.
Speaker 1: Oh so you're going away for a couple of months,
Speaker 1: like six weeks.
Speaker 2: Okay, that's what I want to do sort of something
Speaker 2: like that.
Speaker 1: That's what Laura did. My best friend Laura, she did
Speaker 1: that this year. She went away for that time. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and it was it looked really good. Like she went
Speaker 1: to a beautiful and amazing Halloween party. Then she was
Speaker 1: having Thanksgiving with people. It looked incredible.
Speaker 2: So yeah, I want to do then. Yeah, finish up
Speaker 2: in New York, see all like the Christmas stuff Times
Speaker 2: Square and not Times Square, Rockefeller, Pasa that tree, do
Speaker 2: all that, and then come home for Christmas time to
Speaker 2: be with my family.
Speaker 1: Beautiful.
Speaker 2: So yeah, that's what that's my goal. That's what I'm
Speaker 2: working towards. Obviously that's months away, but we'll see, we'll
Speaker 2: see what happens.
Speaker 1: I love it. Well, do you have any recommendations for
Speaker 1: us this week?
Speaker 2: Now? Okay, so my recommendation is a little bit different.
Speaker 2: It's something that was flagged with me. It could also be,
Speaker 2: to be honest, it could also be like a New
Speaker 2: Years resolution at the same time, so like it, I
Speaker 2: probably have done it on this episode to be fair,
Speaker 2: and I reckon a lot of people are going to
Speaker 2: call me out for this. It's saying just so like say, oh,
Speaker 2: like what do you do for work. I just have
Speaker 2: a podcast. What you're doing is you're minimizing what you
Speaker 2: actually are doing.
Speaker 1: So true.
Speaker 2: You know, so like someone goes, oh, what did you
Speaker 2: eat for lunch? Or just a just a rap, you know,
Speaker 2: like it's a rap, it's a mule, you know.
Speaker 1: I mean like, yeah, so it takes away from like
Speaker 1: the gratitude that you should be giving that rat Oh yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2: Exactly, yeah, well likely stuff like that, you know what
Speaker 2: I mean, Like you're minimizing stuff, and then I guess
Speaker 2: you're suppressing yourself and you're suppressing like your future, like
Speaker 2: you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: Your future, yourself, everything like that, and.
Speaker 2: Like or what you've done, you're suppressing what you've done.
Speaker 2: So my my recommendation is for everyone is to stop
Speaker 2: saying just yeah and you're like explaining something.
Speaker 1: So Matt, what do you do?
Speaker 2: You say?
Speaker 1: No, No, that's okay, that just is okay because it's
Speaker 1: like adjoining.
Speaker 2: Yeah, because it's adjoining.
Speaker 1: Yes, So, Matt, what do you do for work?
Speaker 2: I have a podcast? Will Yeah I nearly said it
Speaker 2: as well. I absolutely said it.
Speaker 1: So it's a habit for you that you're trying to break. Basically, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I love that.
Speaker 2: Do you think you do that at all?
Speaker 1: I haven't noticed, but I'm gonna I'm gonna have I'm
Speaker 1: going to keep a look out this week and I'll
Speaker 1: let you know. But if I do say it, I'm
Speaker 1: going to nip it in the bud because I definitely
Speaker 1: don't want to minimize any sort of gratitude that I
Speaker 1: should be giving to all assets of my life.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean once it was flagged with me, and
Speaker 2: I'm really big on language and how like if you
Speaker 2: say one thing one way or you say it another way,
Speaker 2: it can be perceived a different way, you know what
Speaker 2: I mean. So I'm big on that. So I am. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I'm gonna flag it and be on top of it.
Speaker 1: I love it. I was actually reading this thing recently
Speaker 1: and it was just talking about like having such a
Speaker 1: having a positive mindset and how it plays such an
Speaker 1: important role in what you're gonna do in your future,
Speaker 1: who you're going to become, and like I think during
Speaker 1: the holidays, I had a bit of a negative day.
Speaker 1: I was a bit down on myself, I was second
Speaker 1: guessing myself, and I was just feeling super low. And
Speaker 1: then the next day I woke up and I'd read
Speaker 1: this article, and I was like, wow, like yesterday I
Speaker 1: totally ruined my own day.
Speaker 2: Well that's what happens.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, just from being negative on myself. And so
Speaker 1: I started practicing gratitude again, which we always talk about,
Speaker 1: and practicing being the best version of yourself and talking
Speaker 1: to yourself like you would talk to a best friend.
Speaker 1: And I had the best day, and I was like,
Speaker 1: I'm going to do this every single day this year,
Speaker 1: no matter how hard my day gets. I'm going to
Speaker 1: talk to myself like I would someone I love and
Speaker 1: show myself kindness and also just like reaffirm things like
Speaker 1: I'm so lucky, I'm so blessed, I'm so grateful to
Speaker 1: be living in this apartment, I'm so grateful and blessed
Speaker 1: for my partner or whatever it might be.
Speaker 2: Well, I did I notice that when I did that
Speaker 2: TikTok of the year of twenty twenty two, I was
Speaker 2: going through all my videos from the year and I
Speaker 2: was like, fuck, like this is all in one year.
Speaker 2: Like I've done this traveling, I've gone to this place,
Speaker 2: I've done this. I was like wow, I was like
Speaker 2: I'd actually stopped and I was like, fuck, I'm grateful
Speaker 2: for that stuff I've done and I've been given and
Speaker 2: all that sort of stuff.
Speaker 1: Absolutely.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, what are your recommendations for this week?
Speaker 3: Okay?
Speaker 1: So I have two. The first one is a Netflix
Speaker 1: documentary that I watched with Michael. I don't know if
Speaker 1: you've seen it yet. It's called Don't pick Up the Phone.
Speaker 2: It sounds like a horror thriller sort of thing.
Speaker 1: It's really good. It's super confronting and just like Michael, okay,
Speaker 1: Michael kept like pausing it and being like, can you
Speaker 1: fucking believe this? And I was like, I actually can't
Speaker 1: believe what I'm watching.
Speaker 2: What is it documentary or is it it's.
Speaker 1: Okay, I'm gonna try and give a little bit away
Speaker 1: without giving too much away. It's basically about this guy
Speaker 1: who prank calls like fast food outlets like McDonald's or
Speaker 1: Taco Bell or whatever it is, and he sees how
Speaker 1: far he can push the employees. But it gets like
Speaker 1: to a level of sexual assault. It gets really dark.
Speaker 1: But yeah, just give it a watch. Let me know
Speaker 1: what you think. Come back to me.
Speaker 2: So is it based on true events or tru events?
Speaker 4: Oh?
Speaker 1: True events? And it's terrifying, really yeah, it was. It
Speaker 1: was very confronting to me, and just like when you
Speaker 1: watch it, you think, how would I react in that situation?
Speaker 1: Would I go as far as these people are going
Speaker 1: if I was manipulated in the ways that they're manipulated.
Speaker 1: It's super interesting and just like really thought provoking. So
Speaker 1: next week I'm going to ask you if I've watched it,
Speaker 1: if you've watched it, and I want to know what
Speaker 1: you think.
Speaker 2: Well, okay, I've got another recommend. If we're talking about show.
Speaker 2: I just finished The White Lotus Season one.
Speaker 1: I've been meaning to watch that.
Speaker 2: Well, we turned on, so I don't know if any
Speaker 2: who has foxtail app but if someone else has watched it,
Speaker 2: so if someone in my family's watched it already. So
Speaker 2: it starts from like the second season, like it's actually
Speaker 2: been done before by heaps of people. So we watched
Speaker 2: the second season and we got like halfway through, and
Speaker 2: I was like, I don't remember these people being on
Speaker 2: the trailer, and then I realized that we were halfway
Speaker 2: through the second season, but lucky enough that they don't join.
Speaker 2: There's just one character, but like her storyline, I don't
Speaker 2: think flows into the next one that much, So you
Speaker 2: don't need to watch the first season before the second one, Right, Well,
Speaker 2: maybe I do, but we've gone back and we're watching
Speaker 2: season one, so halfway through season one now, and it
Speaker 2: doesn't really seem like I needed to watch it. But
Speaker 2: the second season was unbelievable. Really, Yeah, it's the best
Speaker 2: way to explain it. A lot happens, but nothing at
Speaker 2: the same time. There's so much going on but nothing
Speaker 2: at the same time.
Speaker 1: That's so confusing. What the hell?
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's weird.
Speaker 1: I've been told so many times that I need to
Speaker 1: watch this show. But people start by saying, they go,
Speaker 1: season one's really slow, season two is unreal, and then
Speaker 1: I'm like, it's not really enticing me to watch it.
Speaker 2: I just do what I did.
Speaker 1: When you're saying season one slow, but maybe I'll do.
Speaker 2: What you did. Do what I did, just watch season two.
Speaker 2: Season two was it's not Season two was slow as well.
Speaker 2: It's just it's building up to something. It's just watch it.
Speaker 1: To make a deal. Frustrating you watch, don't pick up
Speaker 1: the phone and I'll watch White Loaded.
Speaker 2: Half of three. Season one.
Speaker 1: I don't.
Speaker 2: I don't want to stop watching that. I'm still intrigued
Speaker 2: by that.
Speaker 1: Trust me, if you watch. Don't pick up the phone.
Speaker 1: You will get so addicted like I did, and you'll
Speaker 1: need to like binge it because we fully binge. How
Speaker 1: many episodes I think it's like four or five. It's
Speaker 1: not it's not too many, but it's like once you start,
Speaker 1: you're like, I need to finish. I'll list my second
Speaker 1: recommendation because I just got excited because I haven't seen
Speaker 1: you in a little hotfack. I'm back. I feel like
Speaker 1: my gut health's been really bad. So this year I'm
Speaker 1: making a really conscious effort to really fix my gut health.
Speaker 1: I'm going to a natural path this week. So basically,
Speaker 1: anything they tell me, I'm going to come back to
Speaker 1: the pod next week, and that's gonna be my recommendations.
Speaker 1: But a guy I know, he has written multiple books
Speaker 1: on healthy eating on fixing your gut and I actually
Speaker 1: heard him giving a lecture and he spoke about how
Speaker 1: eating fomented foods is extremely good for your gut health,
Speaker 1: especially if your gut health is really off the market's
Speaker 1: all over the place or whatever, which I feel like
Speaker 1: mine is. So I'm going to start making a conscious
Speaker 1: effort to eat more fermented food. So this morning I
Speaker 1: had yogurt and honey. Both of them are fermented foods. Surprisingly,
Speaker 1: I didn't know howey was either.
Speaker 2: How do you know your Gut House Flack quotes.
Speaker 1: I think I've just been feeling extremely bloated.
Speaker 2: I get really bad intigestion.
Speaker 1: Do you Yeah, I get a little I think me too.
Speaker 1: And I've never really been the person who has gotten bloated.
Speaker 1: I've heard lots of people around me talking about being bloated.
Speaker 1: But in the past like three to four months, I
Speaker 1: reckon I've taken about four pregnancy tests because I was like,
Speaker 1: what's going on. I was like, I must be pregnant.
Speaker 2: I'm bloated. I'm always floated. That's why I look like this.
Speaker 2: I'm constantly bloated. That's why I Pelly, what do you mean.
Speaker 5: That's how you look like?
Speaker 1: There kidding, but anyway, not pregnant. Just to clarify, and
Speaker 1: do have gut health issues. So we're working on the
Speaker 1: Gut Healthy cear. We're going to talk about it on
Speaker 1: the pod.
Speaker 2: Do you know any other fermented foods?
Speaker 1: I think there's sour kraut, there's kim chi. MAT's looking
Speaker 1: at me like I'm crazy? What about miso soup? Yeah,
Speaker 1: having a miso suit once a day would be super good.
Speaker 1: I think bone broth. Yeah, so all of those things.
Speaker 1: I'll come in with the listen next week and we
Speaker 1: can talk more about it. But yeah, we're getting the
Speaker 1: gut health in check. I think when your gut healths
Speaker 1: in check, it really helps with your mental health. So
Speaker 1: you know, this is going to be the year to
Speaker 1: smash it out, and I think it's going to start
Speaker 1: with getting that gut health in check. That and on
Speaker 1: that note, let's get into our voicemails. Hello, you've reached
Speaker 1: Anna and Matt.
Speaker 2: We can't get to the phone right now.
Speaker 1: But please leave us a message on our hotline after
Speaker 1: the beep. Okay, So this week we had a bunch
Speaker 1: of gold in our voicemail and our producer Alex has
Speaker 1: chosen a few for us to listen to now.
Speaker 2: Okay, so we haven't heard these at all. So the
Speaker 2: first one comes from Bi Anchor.
Speaker 3: All right, a horror story for you.
Speaker 4: This is about when I was left in the guy
Speaker 4: that I was seeing's apartment on my own after week
Speaker 4: been out. One night, like we'd come back to his apartment.
Speaker 4: We were having some drinks with me and my friend
Speaker 4: and next minute we were on the balcony. We just said,
Speaker 4: heard the door shut and he'd gone. He'd left, he'd
Speaker 4: taken his keys. Didn't hear from him, have no idea
Speaker 4: where he'd gone. He wasn't answering his phone. I'd been
Speaker 4: seeing him probably for about maybe four months. I think
Speaker 4: we'd met on a dating app. I knew he had
Speaker 4: a child with another woman, but he told.
Speaker 3: Me that they were separated.
Speaker 4: Oh no, And yeah, I think i'd been here about
Speaker 4: to him for I think it was almost three or
Speaker 4: four days. He just didn't return his call. I was
Speaker 4: getting so worried. I was about to call his mum.
Speaker 4: I was so stressed and worried about his safety. And
Speaker 4: then when I did hear back from him, he didn't
Speaker 4: give me any explanation around what had happened. I message
Speaker 4: him basically saying that you need to give all my
Speaker 4: stuff that I've left in your house and also locked
Speaker 4: in your car. You just need to drop it off
Speaker 4: because I'm done and I don't want to talk to
Speaker 4: you anymore, like cut it off. Because it wasn't the
Speaker 4: first time he just left or had this really strange
Speaker 4: up and down behavior.
Speaker 1: He's married.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I got all my stuff back and I saw
Speaker 4: him and I was in a state and a half.
Speaker 4: But yeah, the plot thickens.
Speaker 3: It definitely thickens.
Speaker 4: Definitely found out that the girl or the mother of
Speaker 4: his child, they were trying to get back together. Oh yeah,
Speaker 4: she messaged me and do you see information there?
Speaker 3: That's for sure?
Speaker 2: Shit, how long do you reckon they were waiting? She
Speaker 2: said she was with their friend. How long do you
Speaker 2: reckon they're waiting in the apartment for just sitting there
Speaker 2: like triggering in their thumbs.
Speaker 1: I'd probably just leave, I was about.
Speaker 2: To say, wouldn't you just help yourself to like just
Speaker 2: more drinks? Just drink all these drinks and a right,
Speaker 2: I'm taken off.
Speaker 1: Now take some souvenirs.
Speaker 2: I'll just strip everything in his house. Take everything you can, Okay.
Speaker 1: So our producer Alex knew that we'd want to hear
Speaker 1: her a little bit more info. So we actually have
Speaker 1: Bianca on the line and Hi, bi anchor.
Speaker 3: Hi, how are you good?
Speaker 1: Or we just listened to your voicemail, Thanks for sending
Speaker 1: one in. Can you just clarify just kind of what
Speaker 1: the voicemail was about? So you were seeing a guy
Speaker 1: for four months and he just randomly left you at
Speaker 1: his house one day without telling you he was leaving.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 4: Literally, I met this guy on a dating app and
Speaker 4: we started seeing each other, like it was pretty full on.
Speaker 4: We were like, I've met his friends, I've met his mom,
Speaker 4: like I've met a lot of people in his life.
Speaker 3: I knew that he.
Speaker 4: Had an ex, and I knew that he had a
Speaker 4: child with the ex, but I wasn't faced by it
Speaker 4: because he was quite open about it, all right. And yeah,
Speaker 4: so one night we had come back from having dinner
Speaker 4: and bumping into one of my friends and having drinks,
Speaker 4: and we went back to his house and continued having
Speaker 4: a few drinks, and I think her and I must
Speaker 4: have been on the balcony and all of a sudden
Speaker 4: we heard a door slam and he just left his
Speaker 4: apartment and left the two of us there, and we
Speaker 4: had no idea where had gone. He wasn't answering his phone,
Speaker 4: just vanished.
Speaker 1: What the hell?
Speaker 2: So were you exclusive with him then? Like he was
Speaker 2: full dating each other.
Speaker 4: Yeah, we'd organized a holiday away together, like it was
Speaker 4: full on.
Speaker 2: Really, Yeah, where was a holiday too?
Speaker 3: I see it was up north.
Speaker 4: We were going so kind of up near Byron and
Speaker 4: then up to Queensland. But we had to cancel it
Speaker 4: because it was during that time where everyone who was
Speaker 4: in New South Wales had to flee back.
Speaker 3: Over the water.
Speaker 1: Oh okay, so it all got canceled. So let me
Speaker 1: get this straight. He goes mia for how long? Four days?
Speaker 3: Yeah? For about four days, did not hear from him.
Speaker 4: I woke up in the morning and when he wasn't back,
Speaker 4: I thought, well, I'm not going to stay in your
Speaker 4: house with Like I had all my stuff from the
Speaker 4: holiday as well, because I'd come back straight to his place,
Speaker 4: so all of my stuff was in the house in
Speaker 4: his car. He had his car keys. I'm like, how
Speaker 4: am I going to get all my stuff? I don't
Speaker 4: know where it's gone?
Speaker 2: So you stayed the night after he left?
Speaker 1: This is so wild is this guy?
Speaker 3: I'm well, I thought he'd come back. I'm like, surely
Speaker 3: he'll come back.
Speaker 2: Right, Okay, So what's happened to him? Now?
Speaker 3: What's happened to him?
Speaker 4: I have no idea, Matt, I've got no clue and
Speaker 4: I don't care.
Speaker 1: After the four days when he went missing, when he resurfaced, like,
Speaker 1: what was his excuse?
Speaker 4: He was really confused about what he wanted, and basically
Speaker 4: he was implying that he wanted to get back with
Speaker 4: his ex. Yeah, and so I just made an assumption
Speaker 4: that that's where he'd gone.
Speaker 3: I wasn't in the mood to talk to him. I thought,
Speaker 3: you know, if you don't have the respect to tell
Speaker 3: me where.
Speaker 4: You've gone, and you've just vanished for the past four
Speaker 4: days and not given me anything, like I'm not giving
Speaker 4: you a time.
Speaker 3: Of day, Like it's done, Like you've broken my trust.
Speaker 1: So absolutely good on you. Absolutely fuck him. Yeah, do
Speaker 1: you reckon that he was with his supposed ex the
Speaker 1: whole time, Like they were still together the whole time,
Speaker 1: and he was just like doing the dirty on the side.
Speaker 4: I love that you've said that, because that is exactly
Speaker 4: what happened.
Speaker 3: I received a message from.
Speaker 4: The ex like a couple of weeks after all this
Speaker 4: had happened, and it was pretty nasty, like she basically
Speaker 4: implied that I knew that they were still trying to
Speaker 4: get back together.
Speaker 3: I'm like, why would I want to be the side girl,
Speaker 3: which is what she said, Why would I want to
Speaker 3: be that?
Speaker 4: Like that's not the situation at all. So it was
Speaker 4: a very rude message. That she like sent me, and
Speaker 4: I at the start wasn't going to respond. I'm like,
Speaker 4: I'm not going I'm stooping to your level. But then
Speaker 4: she sent me another nasty message saying every time that
Speaker 4: he was with you, he's told me that he was
Speaker 4: thinking about me, like implying that when we were sleeping
Speaker 4: together he was thinking about her.
Speaker 3: I'm like, oh, bitch, no, sorry.
Speaker 1: That hurts.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: I hate when like things like this happen and the
Speaker 1: ang or isn't like solely going towards the guy, like
Speaker 1: he's totally in the wrong, like you guys are just
Speaker 1: like collateral damage. Almost.
Speaker 2: I was about to say, she shouldn't be having ancs,
Speaker 2: should be having a go at him.
Speaker 1: Absolutely, Oh my god, BANKM so sorry this happened to you.
Speaker 1: You must be scarred.
Speaker 4: Look, it's not it's not nice to go through, absolutely,
Speaker 4: but you know you take you take it with a
Speaker 4: grade of salt and try and learn learn from those
Speaker 4: types of lessons, but understand it.
Speaker 3: It's really about them, it's nothing to do with yourself. Absolutely.
Speaker 4: The funny thing is they did get back together, and
Speaker 4: I'm pretty sure they've broken up since then too, So yeah,
Speaker 4: so it couldn't.
Speaker 1: See that trading or listening who could be potentially in
Speaker 1: a similar situation.
Speaker 3: Ever.
Speaker 1: Was there any red flags that you saw at the
Speaker 1: very start that you wish you had listened to?
Speaker 2: Oh?
Speaker 3: Yeah, so many red flags?
Speaker 4: Like I think at that point, I've been single at
Speaker 4: that stage for maybe four four and a half years.
Speaker 4: I've been in a few many sort of relations ships
Speaker 4: that didn't really last too long since my ex. So
Speaker 4: for me, I think I was kind of what's that
Speaker 4: saying when you've got your love?
Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 4: So I was completely just thinking about, Oh, this guy's
Speaker 4: you know, showing me all this attention, and he's you know,
Speaker 4: wanting me to meet his friends, and now he's wanting
Speaker 4: me to meet his mum. And I think I just
Speaker 4: got completely blindsided by a lot of it. But I
Speaker 4: mean he was constantly going down there and seeing his
Speaker 4: ex to see the child, and he'd stay down there too,
Speaker 4: So that was probably a huge red flag. But I
Speaker 4: understood it as he was saying, in the separate room
Speaker 4: and he was there to really look back see his child.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's such a tricky situation and super hard to navigate.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean other red flags as well. I think
Speaker 4: he just had he had a lot of like past baggage.
Speaker 4: And you know, he was a big drinker too, and
Speaker 4: I think sometimes he'd do certain things when he'd be drinking,
Speaker 4: and he'd just like that wasn't the first time he'd
Speaker 4: just vanished. One night before I went on my holiday,
Speaker 4: we were all at his apartment with a few people
Speaker 4: having a few drinks, and he just left that night too,
Speaker 4: the night before I was going on my holiday.
Speaker 2: So I mean it wasn't what left everyone at his apartment.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I would never leave everyone at my house.
Speaker 1: I'm not afraid of like people just like stealing a
Speaker 1: couple of for.
Speaker 2: Someone that has something to hide, he doesn't care leaving
Speaker 2: people in his house to go through it all.
Speaker 1: He's probably like that will just do. That's going to
Speaker 1: not crazy if anyone is just randomly leaving This is
Speaker 1: for our wears your head out listeners. If anyone is
Speaker 1: randomly leaving you at their apartment, run run.
Speaker 2: Well how are you going now? Byanka, you obviously found someone.
Speaker 3: No, I'm not. I'm single. Still on the hunt for
Speaker 3: mister Wright.
Speaker 1: Well, good luck, Yanko. Thank you so much for calling in.
Speaker 1: We really appreciate it.
Speaker 2: Thank you.
Speaker 3: You guys, have a good day you too. Bye bye.
Speaker 2: Okay, So the next voicemail we have in our mailbox
Speaker 2: is anonymous. Let's get into it.
Speaker 6: So this weekend I had my bridle shower and I
Speaker 6: had all the girls surrounded me, and one of my
Speaker 6: girlfriends from Sydney came down and she was just telling
Speaker 6: us a story about what happened to her friend. Now,
Speaker 6: this is the craziest story and I did not for
Speaker 6: a minute predict the end of this. So one of
Speaker 6: her friends will just call her Cassie. Cassie was dating
Speaker 6: the head chef of a really renowned restaurant and she
Speaker 6: really liked him. You know, she'd been out of a
Speaker 6: relationship for a very very long time. So Cassie ended
Speaker 6: up going on a date with this guy. Now, he
Speaker 6: was perfect, and she's gone back and reported to her friends,
Speaker 6: this guy is just phenomenal.
Speaker 5: And over the.
Speaker 6: Next couple of months, it was a little hard for
Speaker 6: them today because of his job was so demanding and
Speaker 6: her job was also quite demanding. But nevertheless they went
Speaker 6: out on a few good dates. Now, as he's a chef,
Speaker 6: he told her one day that he would like her
Speaker 6: to come over and he was going to cook dinner
Speaker 6: for her. She thought that was the best thing ever,
Speaker 6: so she told her friends again. They were all really
Speaker 6: excited for her. She gets to his house. He's cooked
Speaker 6: an amazing steak dish. It was phenomenal, she said. She
Speaker 6: loved it. It was high end restaurant quality, and the
Speaker 6: conversation was flowing and it was all working so well.
Speaker 5: She started to get a bit of.
Speaker 6: Stomach cramps and excuse herself and went to the wanted
Speaker 6: to go to the toilet, so she told her She
Speaker 6: told him that she wanted to go to the bathroom,
Speaker 6: and he said to her, hang on a second, let
Speaker 6: me just go check that it's clean.
Speaker 5: I've been working all day before we go. So she agreed.
Speaker 5: He then went into the bathroom and locked himself.
Speaker 6: Now five minutes go past, and her stomach's really hurting
Speaker 6: at this stage, and she's saying to him, hey, I
Speaker 6: really need to go to the bathroom, and he's not
Speaker 6: saying anything, not a word, nothing, not a peep.
Speaker 5: Then she's knocking on the door screaming, saying.
Speaker 1: Please, I really really really need to.
Speaker 5: Get in again. Nothing.
Speaker 6: Finally she starts screaming and she's gone and sat on
Speaker 6: the couch and she's absolutely shut herself.
Speaker 5: She's sitting in.
Speaker 6: You know, it's all water diarrhea and she's.
Speaker 5: Sitting in it.
Speaker 6: He comes out and she says, get out of here, please,
Speaker 6: just whatever you do, don't come in here. Go and
Speaker 6: lock yourself somewhere. I need to have a shower.
Speaker 5: She goes, and she goes and has a shower.
Speaker 6: And when she comes out, she's in a towel and
Speaker 6: she's going to clean up her mass and she says,
Speaker 6: is him masturbating in her diarrhea? So if that doesn't
Speaker 6: top all of the other stories, I don't know what does.
Speaker 1: What on earth is going on? That is fucking sick?
Speaker 2: Oh well, he had to get off somehow, so he's.
Speaker 5: Purposely given her diarrhea.
Speaker 2: I re locked the bathroom, so she shits herself.
Speaker 1: You know what, That is the most twisted story I
Speaker 1: think I have ever heard.
Speaker 2: My mind was thinking that was what was going to happen.
Speaker 2: I was like, nah, you've been watching your mind thought
Speaker 2: that watching too many like weird like movies like Criminal
Speaker 2: Wives and shit, like it's not going to go that way.
Speaker 2: And then it did and I was like fuck, but like.
Speaker 1: Okay, let me put myself in Cassie's situation. If I
Speaker 1: was about to ship myself, I would leave over like
Speaker 1: shitting myself in his house, Like I would prefer to
Speaker 1: like ship myself in a book.
Speaker 2: You would, wouldn't you?
Speaker 1: You wouldn't like leave remnants of it on the couch,
Speaker 1: like that's disgusting.
Speaker 2: To go through her.
Speaker 1: Course, maybe he was gonna like masturbate to like the
Speaker 1: fact that she shouted herself. But then he like, so, wait,
Speaker 1: is he getting off on the smell?
Speaker 2: I want to vomit gives me.
Speaker 1: I'm literally getting like my skin is crawling in disgust.
Speaker 2: I mean, who we judge that that's how he gets off.
Speaker 2: But like, this.
Speaker 1: Guy's a chef in a top restaurant. He's probably putting
Speaker 1: diarrhea and all of our food.
Speaker 2: Trying to make people sh themselves in the restaurant. No,
Speaker 2: I wonder what he did, like to make it do that.
Speaker 1: He probably puts some like strong laxatives in there. I
Speaker 1: like actually want to vomit. I can't deal, can you please?
Speaker 1: We need to get the details of this restaurant so
Speaker 1: no one ever goes out the wise. We're going to
Speaker 1: get laxative strong food caviar with this side of laxatives.
Speaker 2: Oh imagine walking out and seeing him just going nuts
Speaker 2: in your shit, so disgusting, so fucking.
Speaker 1: Actually so fucked And the fact that he knows that
Speaker 1: she's about to see it, Like he knows she's about
Speaker 1: to walk out.
Speaker 2: I probably thought he could get it done quickly.
Speaker 1: We actually have nothing to say. We've never been speechless before. Man.
Speaker 1: I just I feel like it's getting really hot in here,
Speaker 1: and I feel really stressed out.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's pretty great. I wasn't. Yeah, like I said,
Speaker 2: I was expecting it in my mind to go that way,
Speaker 2: but I never actually thought it would be that fucking twisted.
Speaker 1: The fact that you expected it to go that way
Speaker 1: in your mind makes me a little bit concerned for you.
Speaker 1: But that's okay.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I just like I've seen enough of these like
Speaker 2: criminal minds as for you to be like, there's some
Speaker 2: sick people out there.
Speaker 1: Okay, guys, thank you so much for joining us on
Speaker 1: this week's hotline. That went really dirty, really quick.
Speaker 2: Yeah, literally dirty, filthy, filthy.
Speaker 1: Just a reminder that we want to hear from you, guys,
Speaker 1: So send your storytime questions, advice, tee or any topics
Speaker 1: at all to our Instagram or where's your Head at
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Speaker 1: and our producer Alex will be in touch.
Speaker 2: We have a massive episode as well. Tomorrow we have
Speaker 2: the winners of Love Island Season four on the podcast,
Speaker 2: Claudia and Austin.
Speaker 1: We can't wait to chat to them that it's going
Speaker 1: to be a very tea filled episode. So until next time,
Speaker 1: Bye bye,