Speaker 1: Welcome back to the Where's Your Head At? Hotline, our
Speaker 1: weekly show where we catch up with each other and
Speaker 1: connect with you all on our hotline voicemail.
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Speaker 2: one of our episodes. I'm Anna and I'm Matt.
Speaker 1: Let's jump in. Hello Matt, Good morning everyone.
Speaker 2: Good morning everyone in Good morning Anna. I just wanted
Speaker 2: to start off today though, by saying a massive thank
Speaker 2: you for everyone about last week's episode. You haven't already
Speaker 2: listened to go back. I had a very honest, raw
Speaker 2: chat with you about my relationship with Jen and my
Speaker 2: mental health and all that sort of stuff, and the
Speaker 2: feedback from you guys is absolutely amazing. And that's why
Speaker 2: I love doing this, because we have such a like
Speaker 2: our audience. I feel so connected to them like they
Speaker 2: I'd heaps of messages. I'm sorry if I haven't replied
Speaker 2: to yours. There's obviously a lot, and it has been
Speaker 2: an overwhelming week with that episode coming out, and I'd
Speaker 2: like to thank everyone. We've got the Facebook group heeps
Speaker 2: of people who have open conversations there, So if you're
Speaker 2: not on that, jump on that. And it also just
Speaker 2: as just go to show the audience that we have.
Speaker 2: People have literally messaged Jen to message her and see
Speaker 2: if she's all right. So like that's just how sweet
Speaker 2: you guys are, and like I really appreciate it, So
Speaker 2: thank you.
Speaker 1: You've also opened up a conversation about ADHD and a
Speaker 1: lot of people have been able to relate to that.
Speaker 2: Well. Yeah, I think ADHD for like my generation, your generation,
Speaker 2: our generation in general was, and once before us was,
Speaker 2: it wasn't really spoken about as when we were kids.
Speaker 2: It was sort of like, and this sounds bad, but
Speaker 2: this is my opinion of it. It was like that
Speaker 2: guy in the corner of the classroom that had like attention,
Speaker 2: like he would crack it at the smallest things and
Speaker 2: was always getting into it.
Speaker 1: Fro the taboo.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and it was just like a kid that would
Speaker 2: get in trouble all the time. And it wasn't. But
Speaker 2: there's so many traits and layers to it you don't understand.
Speaker 2: And I think now with social media and the platforms
Speaker 2: like this where people can openly talk about it, it's
Speaker 2: getting a lot more understanding. And people are recognizing it
Speaker 2: a lot more.
Speaker 1: Yeah, our friends Matt and Tim are down in Melbourne
Speaker 1: from Sydney and we had lunch with them. We actually
Speaker 1: had so much fun that day. Anyway. They were also
Speaker 1: talking about how ADHD is a spectrum, so you know,
Speaker 1: you can have a few traits, you can have like
Speaker 1: a middle amount, or you can really be at the
Speaker 1: end of the spectrum. And everyone kind of experiences it differently,
Speaker 1: but so many people have it, and I think the
Speaker 1: conversations that have taken place and people have started talking
Speaker 1: about it, you know, even on TikTok talking about the
Speaker 1: traits they have of ADHD, it has kind of made
Speaker 1: people question and think a little bit. And when you
Speaker 1: can relate to traits like that, you're like, wait do
Speaker 1: I Even even with you talking about it, We've had
Speaker 1: a conversation where I was like, I could have it.
Speaker 1: I could have a mild version of it.
Speaker 2: It's different in women as well compared to men. The
Speaker 2: trait you were telling me that, yeah, they I don't
Speaker 2: know what the word would be. They don't flare up,
Speaker 2: but they show differently through women.
Speaker 1: And when you're saying it's a lot harder for women
Speaker 1: to get a diagnosis of ADHD compared to men.
Speaker 2: Yeah, because I think it's very not undetectable, but like
Speaker 2: the traits, you can't recognize it as clear as clear
Speaker 2: as with a blow. Yeah. I don't know, maybe we're
Speaker 2: just not as stuff and yeah, no.
Speaker 1: But it is interesting and we are definitely going to
Speaker 1: continue these conversations that, as we've said, has been seeing
Speaker 1: his psychologists, and if he does get the diagnosis, he's
Speaker 1: obviously going to let you guys know, definitely touch on
Speaker 1: how ADHD affects relationships and traits it maybe some of
Speaker 1: our listeners can look out for who could potentially have ADHD.
Speaker 1: So it's definitely an interesting conversation that we will delve
Speaker 1: way deeper into, but we're just waiting for that diagnosis. Matt,
Speaker 1: how's your weekend been?
Speaker 2: Well? It started off with a long, heavy lunch with
Speaker 2: yourself and our good friends. Like you mentioned before, Matt
Speaker 2: and Tim went down to the Gilson had some apparoles.
Speaker 1: Yeah, the food there is divine if you are in Melbourne.
Speaker 1: The pepperoni and honey pizza. It sounds gross to me
Speaker 1: at least, but once I tried it, I was like hooked.
Speaker 2: It's so good. Was the octopus as well.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so good. Actually, funny thing was, so Matt picked
Speaker 1: me up because he was actually driving, and I got
Speaker 1: in the car and I was literally in the car
Speaker 1: for five minutes before Matt noticed that I had completely
Speaker 1: chopped all of my hair off. Like he was so
Speaker 1: enthralled in his own chat and he was like blah
Speaker 1: blah blah blah blah, and then he looked at me
Speaker 1: and he went, you've cut your hair.
Speaker 2: No, I said, nice hair. Yeah. Look, you know how
Speaker 2: many times I don't notice that sort of stuff straight away.
Speaker 2: It's not it's not on my radar. It's not the
Speaker 2: first thing I think of. But yeah, it looks good.
Speaker 1: It's very short. This is the shortest my hair has
Speaker 1: ever been, Like it's above the shoulders.
Speaker 2: We're saying at dinner last night, it's more mature haircut,
Speaker 2: do you reckon?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Someone said to me it looks like younger and I
Speaker 1: was like, okay, I'll take that.
Speaker 2: But you know, the word facisticated, sophisticated, sophisticated, it's got
Speaker 2: more of that sort of vibe about it. I reckon, Yeah, it's.
Speaker 1: A bit edgy, which I kind of like. I think,
Speaker 1: like obviously I don't call.
Speaker 2: A bob edgy. Not not a bob like that sort
Speaker 2: of hair cut.
Speaker 1: It is edgy. It's more like the style this is
Speaker 1: like the hairstyle of now.
Speaker 2: But then that wouldn't make it edgy. Edgy would be
Speaker 2: like the non haircut. What do you define edgy as
Speaker 2: as like out there?
Speaker 1: No edgy is like cool, fashionable, that's what edgy is.
Speaker 1: I think we've got the different definitions.
Speaker 2: I'd say edgy is like out there against the like
Speaker 2: against the grain, against what people are doing. That's edgy.
Speaker 1: No edgy is like fashion forward, like look up the definition,
Speaker 1: pull it up. Pull it up, I would say, edgy guys,
Speaker 1: go to our Facebook page and let us know if
Speaker 1: you think Matt or I am right with this definition.
Speaker 2: It can be trying to appear tough or cool for
Speaker 2: sake of being in saying behavior things that go against
Speaker 2: the mainstream. I think we're both right here.
Speaker 1: Okay, this is my definition that I've found of edgy
Speaker 1: taking coolness to its extreme and generally beyond the realm
Speaker 1: of actual possibility, while at the same time it's seemingly
Speaker 1: unaware of how ridiculous it is.
Speaker 2: Wait, what.
Speaker 1: The start works for me? Of that definition and then
Speaker 1: it's slowly, Well.
Speaker 2: I've got one that has your staying ahead of things
Speaker 2: in the media, and then another one that says things
Speaker 2: that are against the mainstream.
Speaker 1: Okay, how about we do this. Describe Anna's haircut in
Speaker 1: one word on our Facebook page and if people say edgy,
Speaker 1: then I'll know.
Speaker 2: Edgy.
Speaker 1: Anyway, Your weekend got heavy on Saturday, didn't it.
Speaker 2: Yeah. So had a mate's engagement party, his fiance who
Speaker 2: I used to hang out. I used to go to
Speaker 2: this house a lot back in the day and party there.
Speaker 2: It's like a perfect house for a party. It's like
Speaker 2: an indoor pool, Like, there's heaps of like heaps of rooms.
Speaker 2: It's a huge house. Yeah, and it was just we
Speaker 2: I went there with my mates and I just got
Speaker 2: out of control, you know, open bar. They had like
Speaker 2: bar like waters there. Just got it out of control.
Speaker 1: You wouldn't drink with me, Matt and Tim on Friday,
Speaker 1: but he went out.
Speaker 2: I had a feeling Saturday night was going to get
Speaker 2: like this.
Speaker 1: So you only wanted to do one?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Only?
Speaker 2: Yeah, I had a feeling like I was with my
Speaker 2: mates and we were like we're in the uber home
Speaker 2: and we're like why are we the last ones to
Speaker 2: leave everything? Like why are we always the last ones?
Speaker 2: But we just have fun. We just love having fun.
Speaker 1: Okay, so you had fun. Tell me about your Sunday
Speaker 1: because that's what I'm interested to hear about, because you
Speaker 1: get the Sunday scary is bad.
Speaker 2: I was in some nasty demons. I was just sitting there.
Speaker 2: A lot of Seinfeld was watched to try get me
Speaker 2: feeling a bit better. Bed Yeah. Bumped into our content
Speaker 2: producer and ber Coles, did you Yeah, didn't want to
Speaker 2: just didn't really want anything to do with her. I
Speaker 2: was just like, I'm sorry, I've got it, like I'm
Speaker 2: not doing I'm in places right now.
Speaker 1: So you didn't want to show.
Speaker 2: I did chat to her, but I was like, I'm
Speaker 2: feeling sore, like I'm sure I got up today as well,
Speaker 2: and I had to get up today to go pick
Speaker 2: my sister up from the airport. At like six o'clock
Speaker 2: a flight landed.
Speaker 1: Yes, So okay, we have to touch on what's happening
Speaker 1: with your sister. She was in Bali, yes, and what's happened?
Speaker 2: So she had a blister on her foot and she
Speaker 2: also she was telling me when I picked up. There
Speaker 2: was multiple things that she thinks could have happened to
Speaker 2: it. It could have been the shower water. It could have
Speaker 2: been that she was training, like doing gym training, and
Speaker 2: she had her shoes off at one point in this
Speaker 2: Like I did like fighting there, so she was doing
Speaker 2: like boxing and had her shoes off. So she thinks
Speaker 2: it could have got infected from the mats, like to swear.
Speaker 2: She does all these different things that she think could
Speaker 2: have happened to it. But she had a blister on
Speaker 2: a foot that got infected to the point, you know
Speaker 2: when it gets like black and pussy like they thought
Speaker 2: they yeah black. She showed me a photo while I
Speaker 2: was driving, So yeah, she went to the hospital in Bali.
Speaker 2: They had her up to an IV trip. She's on antibiotics.
Speaker 2: She's all right. She her foot's still there, but yeah, thankfully, thankfully. Yeah,
Speaker 2: her friend was pretty good and acted on it pretty quickly,
Speaker 2: Like saw Lara turning pretty quickly and like got up
Speaker 2: and took her to the hospital.
Speaker 1: That's something that's really scary about, you know, when you're
Speaker 1: in a third world country and then if you get
Speaker 1: really sick, it's very terrifying.
Speaker 2: The first thing I said to was you know that,
Speaker 2: like one hundred years ago, you would have died like that?
Speaker 2: They people, Well, people died from just the slightest thing.
Speaker 2: I imagine living like in medieval times, Like you get
Speaker 2: a cut on your hand and that's it.
Speaker 1: We're so lucky that we haven't antibioto I would have done.
Speaker 1: I would have died of you. Tis twenty times over.
Speaker 2: At least you'd been some strife. But like I was like,
Speaker 2: that's mine. She actually said. The guy who she'll stay with,
Speaker 2: her friend's boyfriend said the exact same thing. He's like,
Speaker 2: you would die, Like that's how wild is that?
Speaker 1: So she's just an arrived home in Melbourne. Is she
Speaker 1: heading to like it?
Speaker 2: Yeah, she's going to go to the hospital, she said.
Speaker 2: She just wants to rest for a bit, like like
Speaker 2: she has a couple of extra days. So she's obviously
Speaker 2: a police officer. So they've rested her and now she's
Speaker 2: got days, so she's like, I'll go some point this week.
Speaker 2: She's like, it's fine, now they've given me the okay,
Speaker 2: the blood test to fly.
Speaker 1: I'm surprised you didn't follow her to Bali and and
Speaker 1: if you said you were going to Bali I might
Speaker 1: have enjoyed it, because I mean I would have loved
Speaker 1: a little Bali get away. Everyone is in Bali at
Speaker 1: the moment, and it's just making me so jealous. I'm
Speaker 1: so envious of everyone.
Speaker 2: I've never been to Bali. So I did say I
Speaker 2: was going to go with her, and then she was
Speaker 2: sort of like, no, you're not getting it. I'm going
Speaker 2: to get away.
Speaker 1: Doesn't want to be.
Speaker 2: Like, I'm not going to be like a family trip.
Speaker 2: I just want to go away. She had a wholesome trip.
Speaker 2: She didn't drink musch, just like trained and all that
Speaker 2: sort of stuff.
Speaker 1: Maybe we should do a where's your Head at Bali trip?
Speaker 2: Yeah, that'd be good. That'd be good. Not a lot
Speaker 2: of work, not a lot of work by the pool
Speaker 2: in the villa. But back to my Saturday night, I
Speaker 2: just want to tell a story real quick, because I
Speaker 2: am so surprised that this behavior is still happening and
Speaker 2: that like people are still doing this sort of stuff. Right.
Speaker 2: So obviously I said that I used to be friends
Speaker 2: with the girl who's who was my mates now fiance
Speaker 2: and the engagement party, and.
Speaker 1: So I used to have so it was an engagement party.
Speaker 2: Engagement party yes, I thought it was just a house party. No,
Speaker 2: there was an engagement party at the house. So I
Speaker 2: know him. Used to play footy with him, and then
Speaker 2: I used to be I used to date one of
Speaker 2: this girl's friends, like see her and sleep with us.
Speaker 2: We used to like party all the time. So I
Speaker 2: was talking to another one of the friends when like
Speaker 2: catching up. She's like, oh, it's so good. See I haven't
Speaker 2: seen you in age. Remember when we used to party
Speaker 2: here all the time. And we were laughing about like
Speaker 2: old memories. And we're just like chatting, completely platonic, not
Speaker 2: attracted to this girl on the slidest like not like
Speaker 2: she's not mine, Like she's not like she's a friend,
Speaker 2: she's a friend of mine. So like we're chatting, laughing,
Speaker 2: and then.
Speaker 1: Is this the person who's engagement party it is, No,
Speaker 1: it's another it's her friend.
Speaker 2: Okay, just to clarify, so it's her friend. And then
Speaker 2: I feel like this push my shoulder and I'm like
Speaker 2: what good, Like just because there's no one really around us.
Speaker 2: It was from someone dancing bumping into me. And this
Speaker 2: guy is short, like stocky guy. I've never met him before,
Speaker 2: like tattoos, and she just likes me, who's this to
Speaker 2: the girls? Like, who's this? Who's this? You're talking to me?
Speaker 2: Like pushed me and I took a step back and
Speaker 2: I was like what and he's like who's this? And
Speaker 2: he was getting like real jealous and really intimidated by me.
Speaker 2: He tried to fight me, and I was like what
Speaker 2: the fuck? I was like, how is this behavior acceptable?
Speaker 2: And then like, oh, what was it?
Speaker 1: So it was the girls?
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, it was her boyfriend. She's like, stop it,
Speaker 2: stop at whatever his name was, you're embarrassing me. And
Speaker 2: he's like, no, who's this, who's this you're talking to?
Speaker 2: Who's this? I'm he introduced stuff my handmade I'm Matt
Speaker 2: and like shook his hand and then I was like, look,
Speaker 2: you guys obviously have some stuff you and discussed. I'm
Speaker 2: going to leave you to it, and like I walked.
Speaker 2: I walked off, and I was like like, like.
Speaker 1: Where do you like touching her or something?
Speaker 2: No, we're standing for obviously maybe talking because you're talking close, yeah,
Speaker 2: because there's music like you would be.
Speaker 1: So he's got jealousy because it looks like you're potentially
Speaker 1: going to make out us. But she's in his mind
Speaker 1: like I'm just trying to pick She.
Speaker 2: Said he does that all the time. So then later
Speaker 2: on he left and she's like apologizing to me, and
Speaker 2: I'm like, look, I just said I said, Look, that toxic.
Speaker 2: That behavior is toxic. And I'm surprised in like this
Speaker 2: day and age people are doing that. Maybe when you're
Speaker 2: eighteen sixteen you get jealous of your girlfriend talking to someone,
Speaker 2: but not now like well, i mean not like that,
Speaker 2: you don't do it like that, like that sort of behavior.
Speaker 2: I was just like I was like, look, it's your business.
Speaker 2: I'm not getting involved. Like it's like good to see you.
Speaker 2: Take care.
Speaker 1: Also, like if she knows that like he's cracking it
Speaker 1: at her talking to like men, then well I mean
Speaker 1: she probably shouldn't stop talking to men, but like maybe
Speaker 1: like maybe just keep a bit of a like don't
Speaker 1: talk too close.
Speaker 2: To we're on the dance lt so like talking you're
Speaker 2: on the dan Well we were on the corner of
Speaker 2: the dance lot, so we went like dancing, were just
Speaker 2: in the corner like chatting, and like it's like they
Speaker 2: into the corner. There was it was completely the tiny
Speaker 2: He was like.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I know, I'm just trying to like think either spread.
Speaker 2: I think I was eating cabana sticks. She was the
Speaker 2: twig and commands the cold meats and whore for cold meats.
Speaker 2: I was more focused on them than her, you know
Speaker 2: what I mean? So I didn't I didn't even like
Speaker 2: share with a mouthful of twiggy sticks.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think it's it's not right to like try
Speaker 1: and start a fight. Like imagine if you just turned.
Speaker 2: Around and went w Yeah, I went just bowled just
Speaker 2: a little bit more unhinged than I am, just the
Speaker 2: tiniest little bit more unhinged, like I think, Yeah, it
Speaker 2: would have been bad.
Speaker 1: Like is that what happened to your finger? I think
Speaker 1: I cut you off?
Speaker 2: You know this actually happened opening a corona. I opened
Speaker 2: like four coronas, and by the end my finger had cut.
Speaker 1: It's got like three bandages. Do you know why it
Speaker 1: looks like you're using circulation on that finger because those bandages,
Speaker 1: so it's gone red. The top of his finger has
Speaker 1: fully changed color.
Speaker 2: I need to redo that. Is that my ring? No,
Speaker 2: it's not my ring? Finger on the other hand, being
Speaker 2: a finish stripe there, Yeah, that was from the coronas
Speaker 2: so they could find a bottle like, so just cracked
Speaker 2: and then all over my check.
Speaker 1: Kayley Bieber, how she like does it with her teeth?
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, she like opens beards with her teeth and
Speaker 1: it like literally like I feel my teeth breaks cruly.
Speaker 2: It's like actual like bottle Ones bottle. How does she
Speaker 2: do that?
Speaker 1: It's her party trick. I think she did it on
Speaker 1: like a TV show Ones, And it just like even
Speaker 1: my teeth are getting sensitive right now, Like I just
Speaker 1: wouldn't feel like I need to like put a hole
Speaker 1: my parents past sense it under my if my parents
Speaker 1: swimming to that, it would be getting a massive you
Speaker 1: know how much we spent on braces.
Speaker 2: Getting on them.
Speaker 1: I mean she can probably just like she might have
Speaker 1: vin ears, so might her teeth be a bit stronger.
Speaker 2: Don't they come off with the news because they're stuck
Speaker 2: on okaynys, I don't have for news anyway.
Speaker 1: I went to and Juliette on the Weekend with my girlfriend.
Speaker 2: I touched on that last episode and said.
Speaker 1: That you were going to yeah that I was going
Speaker 1: and oh my god, this is my recommendation of the week.
Speaker 1: And I know I sometimes say this is my best recommendation,
Speaker 1: but trust me, if you're in Melbourne, or if this
Speaker 1: is coming to other states in Australia and you're Australia based,
Speaker 1: you need to see and Juliet. Now, I went there
Speaker 1: with my friends, like not really expecting big things. I've
Speaker 1: been to a few musicals recently, like they didn't really
Speaker 1: tickle my fancy. The only one that I loved was
Speaker 1: Mulin Rouge. Did you see that one?
Speaker 2: I saw it in London when I was last day.
Speaker 4: We like it?
Speaker 2: Yeah, I loved it. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, It's like I.
Speaker 2: Love the way they remix all the songs and that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and this is exactly like it. So I'm not
Speaker 1: gonna give it away. But basically it's kind of like
Speaker 1: a take on like if in Romeo and Juliet, Juliette
Speaker 1: sees Romeo dead and she's not like, fuck it, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna kill myself. She's like, I'm going to be a
Speaker 1: strong independent woman and I'm gonna like, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean. I'm gonna be sad for Romeo that he's
Speaker 1: killed himself over me, and that's really sad for him,
Speaker 1: but I'm going to it's very romantic because he's now
Speaker 1: dead and I'm still alive, so I'm gonna like you know,
Speaker 1: Live my Best Life. It's kind of that type of vibe,
Speaker 1: and it's just so good. It's like the first musical
Speaker 1: that I've seen that's kind of relevant to this day
Speaker 1: and age, almost like there's lots of different little underlying
Speaker 1: storylines that just make it so good. The music is amazing.
Speaker 1: I couldn't rate it more highly.
Speaker 2: But I've forgotten, right Julie Romeo and Juliet a musical.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, there's music in it. I don't think they
Speaker 1: don't sing. Yeah, I'm pretty sure maybe macutio things.
Speaker 2: But anyway, bas learns are normally. I might have to
Speaker 2: rewatch it. Actually, it's very good. The Leo one, Yeah
Speaker 2: that's the one. Yeah, so good.
Speaker 1: But anyway, guys, if you do decide to watch this,
Speaker 1: there is a character in the performance. It's Romeo who
Speaker 1: comes back to life. Now, I'm so sorry if that's
Speaker 1: a spoiler, but I have to spoil this because you
Speaker 1: know how on last week's episode, Matt was talking about
Speaker 1: meeting his younger self. Well, whilst watching this performance, I
Speaker 1: met Matt's younger self in the character Romeo.
Speaker 2: Ohkauna.
Speaker 1: He wasn't in a sauna, he was in the performance,
Speaker 1: And I actually wasn't the first one to point it out.
Speaker 1: My friend Sarah was She's like, this guy reminds me
Speaker 1: of Matt. And after that all of my friends were like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, it's Matt. And once you think it's Matt,
Speaker 1: it just makes it so much better, Like it's just
Speaker 1: so good. So this guy he like rolls onto the stage,
Speaker 1: he's like a head taller than everyone, obviously Matt sixty six.
Speaker 1: He literally looks like you like I'm gonna pull up
Speaker 1: a photo in a minute and you look at me. Great, yeah,
Speaker 1: good looking guy, a head taller than everyone. And he's
Speaker 1: like he says things like I'm just so good looking
Speaker 1: and I just don't know what to.
Speaker 5: Do with my life, chats to myself and then he's like,
Speaker 5: I'm just so overly emotional and I don't know what
Speaker 5: to do with all of these big feelings.
Speaker 1: I'm like, am I watching that? Like it's it's almost
Speaker 1: as if I've written this about.
Speaker 2: Yourself Moonlight as Romeo in that in that production.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so like it's already a great musical, but with
Speaker 1: that extra, that extra, it just takes it to a
Speaker 1: different level. So please go and watch it, enjoy it,
Speaker 1: and if you do watch it. I want to hear
Speaker 1: your thoughts. Does Romeo remind you of Matt, because I'm
Speaker 1: telling you I was seeing.
Speaker 2: Double I'll have to go watch it. I was going
Speaker 2: to go watch it over the weekend, but they're sold out,
Speaker 2: so I just see myself to it.
Speaker 1: For the second time.
Speaker 2: I might need a chat, so you can show me
Speaker 2: a photo of him? Yeah, sure, is there anything on
Speaker 2: their Instagram of anyway? I can't find it on the
Speaker 2: Facebook page.
Speaker 1: Posted it on the Facebook page when I find it,
Speaker 1: and you guys can let me know if it looks
Speaker 1: like Matt, like a younger version of Matt.
Speaker 2: Yeah. I'm excited to see this guy. I want to
Speaker 2: meet him now and say hello and have a chat
Speaker 2: to him.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: So my recommendation. Okay, now this is a recommendation. Let's
Speaker 2: just talk this out because I don't want to say
Speaker 2: something and then everyone, you know, Cory's Matt. You've said this,
Speaker 2: You've got to do it now, you know what I'm like,
Speaker 2: I'm a man of my word. I don't want to,
Speaker 2: you know, go back on what I say. Drive July.
Speaker 2: We're in mid May. July is coming up. Should we
Speaker 2: do it? Anna, it's my birthday on the fourth of
Speaker 2: July as well.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I was about to say, isn't it your birthday?
Speaker 2: It is? So do you know what? Do you know?
Speaker 1: The thing that I want to talk through with you
Speaker 1: about drive July is like in Malbourtin, right, it's the
Speaker 1: peak of winter.
Speaker 2: So it's easy. Just do not drink or go out
Speaker 2: or do you think it's hard, because I.
Speaker 1: Think it's hard because you're bored, and like, do you
Speaker 1: know what I love doing? I love like going for
Speaker 1: a nice like drink by a fire place or like
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like what else are.
Speaker 2: We going to do? Well? I think that's the thing
Speaker 2: you need to substitute, is something else instead of alcohol.
Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, I could do dry July.
Speaker 2: I'm not thinking about having a birthday party this year. Okay,
Speaker 2: So I was going to do like a white Christmas
Speaker 2: in July, but yeah, and get back a white and
Speaker 2: like have like a white decorations on it and white
Speaker 2: Christmas decorations everywhere, and then like get a white Christmas jumper.
Speaker 2: I was going to do that, but I think it
Speaker 2: might Like that's the next year. Why don't you do
Speaker 2: it in June?
Speaker 1: Like June thirtieth, the day before Drive Juli and then
Speaker 1: we can get lip just before. Does that defeat the
Speaker 1: purpose maybe?
Speaker 2: And then you have the whole I'll have the whole
Speaker 2: of July to recover from the hangover, have a month
Speaker 2: or two or is it am I making this up?
Speaker 2: Or do you get a pass whole pass in July
Speaker 2: if you have an event or something you do?
Speaker 1: But I think that's starting on the wrong foot because yeah,
Speaker 1: when I there was Hall passes and I was like,
Speaker 1: can I have three Hall passes? And then you're meant
Speaker 1: to pay like fifty dollars to the charity or something,
Speaker 1: and I was like, Then I was like, well, I'm
Speaker 1: taking four, and then that was every weekend and then
Speaker 1: all of a sudden I was drinking.
Speaker 2: Yeah at all, it's not drive July. I'm happy to
Speaker 2: do it.
Speaker 1: Look, I think I think I could be happy. I
Speaker 1: think we should talk it through further, maybe go home,
Speaker 1: do some research, do some research.
Speaker 2: And it is six weeks away.
Speaker 1: I think we should like get people to do it
Speaker 1: with us, Like if the words head out fam did
Speaker 1: it with us, then maybe we could all keep each
Speaker 1: other on track and we could all do like a
Speaker 1: driveg you lie together.
Speaker 2: That would be good.
Speaker 1: Okay, let's pause on this. Let's guys, if you're keen,
Speaker 1: head to our Facebook page.
Speaker 2: Let us know. Because I'm looking.
Speaker 1: I think we need at least like twenty people to
Speaker 1: do it with us.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I reckon. I think I could do it for twenty.
Speaker 1: People, maybe like fifty. Should we off it?
Speaker 2: Let's see what sort of reaction we get. People might
Speaker 2: be like, noh, fuck it, I've got this.
Speaker 1: What happens if everyone's like, yes, like we're so keen,
Speaker 1: Like I'm not even that keen, But if everyone else
Speaker 1: is key.
Speaker 2: I'm keen, I'm the only keen because I just how
Speaker 2: I'm feeling right now. Still got this Monday morning after
Speaker 2: a big weekend, I've got this.
Speaker 1: This Sunday series, Monday series even.
Speaker 2: Followed me into Monday morning.
Speaker 1: My brother is doing one hundred days sober at the moment.
Speaker 1: Involved he's like killing it. He's doing so well. Like
Speaker 1: I'm so proud of him. I think I've said this
Speaker 1: before on the podcasts. He's been really doing well, and
Speaker 1: he's never he's never done anything like that. In fact,
Speaker 1: I don't think I've every done a month sober.
Speaker 2: I've never done a month sober.
Speaker 1: Do you think we could do it.
Speaker 2: I think I don't look forward to drinking anymore. I
Speaker 2: don't go yes, I can't wait for like I was like, yes,
Speaker 2: I can't wait to go out and drink. I remember
Speaker 2: when you were younger used to be like, yeah, I
Speaker 2: can't wait to go out and you know, drink with
Speaker 2: the mates and that.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I don't have that feeling anymore.
Speaker 1: I could tell when we were out on Friday, you
Speaker 1: were kind of like, okay, I've had like two I'm
Speaker 1: kind of good. I was like, whoa aperol?
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, like I don't. I don't get that feeling anymore.
Speaker 2: Like obviously, when you were at an event with your
Speaker 2: best mate and you haven't seen them for like two
Speaker 2: or three weeks, and you're chatting and then you then
Speaker 2: one drink and then someone gets around and then it
Speaker 2: keeps going. You forget how much not forget, but you don't.
Speaker 2: You're not registering how much you're drinking. And then you're like, oh,
Speaker 2: fuck me, you know it's two am. You know, like fuck,
Speaker 2: I think drinking and chatting for a while. So like,
Speaker 2: I just don't look forward to it. So I think
Speaker 2: I could do it. Yeah, check our calendars.
Speaker 1: Put it out there. I think we should try guys,
Speaker 1: head over to where's your head at fam Let us
Speaker 1: know if you are keen to do drive your ask
Speaker 1: it and let's get the chat happening on our Facebook trip.
Speaker 2: Get like a charity thing going? Can we donate to it?
Speaker 1: Or we could definitely do register. We could definitely do that.
Speaker 2: All right, let's look into that around that.
Speaker 1: Okay, let's jump into our hot line. Hello, you've reached
Speaker 1: Anna and Nutt.
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Speaker 2: Okay, So our first hot line comes from Amber.
Speaker 3: Hi, I know Matte Amber here. I've got a bit
Speaker 3: of a story about women being FBI. My friends called
Speaker 3: me a private detective. I'm a hairdresser. I detective, but
Speaker 3: it should be so. Last year I was I met
Speaker 3: this guy online and we'd gone on a few dates
Speaker 3: and hit it off. I had a really good connection,
Speaker 3: and things started to get a bit strange. He kept
Speaker 3: telling me that his phone would freeze and that he
Speaker 3: wouldn't reply for hours or be available for hours to
Speaker 3: respond or call. And I thought, okay, fair enough, And
Speaker 3: then he'd come over and his phone obviously wasn't freezing
Speaker 3: while he was here, and then he went a bit quiet.
Speaker 3: He sort of just drifted off for a bit, and
Speaker 3: I thought whatever, and then he came back like two
Speaker 3: months later and wanted to see me again. And I
Speaker 3: just felt I kept saying to one of my best friends,
Speaker 3: I just feel like he's seeing someone else, even though
Speaker 3: he told me he wasn't anyway, So I looked at
Speaker 3: his Facebook. I just like went into his friend's list
Speaker 3: and randomly clicked on any like just a random girl
Speaker 3: just had like a gut feeling, clicked on her photo profile,
Speaker 3: looked at a photo, and he commented on there, basically
Speaker 3: saying that he took the photo of her and what
Speaker 3: a good photographer he was, I know, and ah, the
Speaker 3: message show you're seeing David. His name was, Yeah, I
Speaker 3: have been seeing him for like the last nine months,
Speaker 3: and I'm like, okay, well I've been seeing him, but
Speaker 3: like we weren't together or anything, but yeah, we slept
Speaker 3: together multiple times, and I told her absolutely everything. We
Speaker 3: share details. One a few of the times he left
Speaker 3: her house to come to my house, and I like
Speaker 3: screenshot everything and all the dates linked up and they
Speaker 3: would have a bit of an argument, so he would
Speaker 3: come organized to come see me, and he got caught
Speaker 3: out and he was devastated when his darling girlfriend left
Speaker 3: him and was angry at me. But yeah, get a
Speaker 3: trust to get girls.
Speaker 2: Wow, Wow, men the pigs? Aren't they as.
Speaker 1: Being caught out red handed? Do you know what's so
Speaker 1: funny is like when guys think that they can disappear
Speaker 1: and like women aren't going to pick up on it,
Speaker 1: like it's very clear what's going on.
Speaker 2: Yeah, obviously a phone freezing in twenty twenty three. iPhones
Speaker 2: don't freeze for hours on end.
Speaker 1: Especially when it's very conveniently only freezing. And she's not
Speaker 1: with him. I think they ever did the right thing.
Speaker 1: I think, you know, obviously she wasn't in a relationship
Speaker 1: with him, but he was in a relationship. How she
Speaker 1: found that girl is pretty. I mean, she's a very
Speaker 1: good FBiH It.
Speaker 2: Almost sounds fluky almost to click on a random one
Speaker 2: that you think looks like maybe it looks like his
Speaker 2: type and it.
Speaker 1: Looks like then, if you think about it, if someone
Speaker 1: has social media right and they're like cheating on you
Speaker 1: or they're seeing someone else or whatever, they've got to
Speaker 1: be following that person, So then you do have kind
Speaker 1: of like a list of people.
Speaker 2: Some people are just dumb though, going and commenting like
Speaker 2: that's just stupid, Like.
Speaker 1: But that's his girlfriend, so of course.
Speaker 2: He's going to call. Yeah, of course, of course get together.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Do you know what I hate about David the most
Speaker 1: is that he blamed her when the girlfriend broke off.
Speaker 1: It's like, David, no, Like, you're the one who fucked up,
Speaker 1: and you need to like you deserve the consequences of that.
Speaker 2: What a pig? David is not cool behavior, bro. The
Speaker 2: next Hotline is Anonymous Love an.
Speaker 4: Anonymous Hi, guys, I am reaching out in regard to
Speaker 4: a recent Hotline episode where you were talking about a
Speaker 4: long distance relationship kind of coming to fruition and when
Speaker 4: you finally get to meet that person or see them,
Speaker 4: and if the physical act kind of lives up to
Speaker 4: the fall and things that have happened prior. I just
Speaker 4: had my own experience here recently, and I thought.
Speaker 1: You might enjoy.
Speaker 4: I started talking to somebody in December of last year,
Speaker 4: and we were very long distance, and this was the
Speaker 4: first person that I had really talked to and engaged
Speaker 4: with since ending my engagement, and so I had been
Speaker 4: with that person for four or five years, and so
Speaker 4: I let this new person know that I really wasn't
Speaker 4: interested in anything serious, but I open to talking to
Speaker 4: him getting to know him. So as time went on,
Speaker 4: we you know, had a little bit of dirty talk
Speaker 4: and a little bit of phone sex.
Speaker 1: It's not really my thing.
Speaker 4: I'm not super confident in that, but it definitely went
Speaker 4: there a few times. And so after two or three
Speaker 4: months of talking, the opportunity finally arose for us to
Speaker 4: meet up and see each other in person. So I
Speaker 4: flew to him essentially, and I was looking forward to it.
Speaker 4: I was excited, obviously, after that long We had talked
Speaker 4: about things that we like and things that we prefer,
Speaker 4: things that are good for added, different things like that,
Speaker 4: and when we did actually finally have sex, it was.
Speaker 1: It was not good.
Speaker 4: Not only did it last no more than forty five seconds,
Speaker 4: just you know, he just didn't really allow me to
Speaker 4: do the things that I had let him know that
Speaker 4: I liked. And I guess we just kind of assumed
Speaker 4: that when we have those discussions and put those things
Speaker 4: out there, that maybe they would be inclined to let
Speaker 4: you do what's good for you and that most definitely
Speaker 4: did not happen.
Speaker 1: So I didn't want to completely judge.
Speaker 4: Him on that one experience because we had gotten along
Speaker 4: well and I enjoyed our conversations for the most part,
Speaker 4: I didn't want to just, you know, completely judge him
Speaker 4: on the physical technicalities. But when I got back after
Speaker 4: we had visited each other, you know, every now and then,
Speaker 4: it would escalate again to like some dirty talk and
Speaker 4: phone sex, and I just couldn't help but imagine how
Speaker 4: less than exciting the actual physical act was. And I
Speaker 4: just realized I got the massive ick and I could
Speaker 4: no longer entertain this person as like a romantic interest
Speaker 4: because the actual physical part had just been so not good.
Speaker 4: So all that being said, I would have to disagree
Speaker 4: with you guys that sex is always good and sex
Speaker 4: is sex, because in my experience, I certainly should have
Speaker 4: done a little more research.
Speaker 1: Or maybe it's just a trial and error thing.
Speaker 4: I don't know, but anyway, I hope you guys enjoy
Speaker 4: the story, and I love your podcast, so have a
Speaker 4: good one.
Speaker 1: I definitely enjoyed that.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, so so we were talking about that
Speaker 2: on the hotline about long distance when you finally mete
Speaker 2: up with someone. Is the sex as good as all
Speaker 2: the hype has led up to be.
Speaker 1: I think for him it was people in forty five seconds.
Speaker 2: But he's a question if you've spent months talking to
Speaker 2: someone online getting to know him, I've invested all this
Speaker 2: time and energy, is it worth like maybe giving him
Speaker 2: a little bit of training. But then she said she
Speaker 2: already told him stuff so.
Speaker 1: And he didn't pick it up. She wasn't He wasn't
Speaker 1: picking up what she was putting down. Almost maybe you
Speaker 1: have to walk him through it. He was probably just
Speaker 1: bad in bed, Like, Okay, look, there are definitely people
Speaker 1: out there who just aren't good in bed, don't have
Speaker 1: the rhythm, don't know how to use the junk in
Speaker 1: their trunk.
Speaker 2: I'm like, there's more than just the dunk.
Speaker 1: Some people can't be helped.
Speaker 2: They just don't get it there, And.
Speaker 1: Clearly this guy is the small one percent of people
Speaker 1: who can't be helped. I feel bad for her because
Speaker 1: clearly there was a big build up. She was obviously
Speaker 1: very excited to see him. Look the forty five second little.
Speaker 2: I think that's excusable.
Speaker 1: I think that's I think that's kind of hot because
Speaker 1: I'm like, you're so into me that you could not
Speaker 1: hold on longer than forty five seconds.
Speaker 2: Three months of phone sex, and that he'd be razed
Speaker 2: ready to go. He was rasped.
Speaker 1: Maybe he should have, like, you know, a.
Speaker 2: Quickie by himself before.
Speaker 1: Is that a thing like? Do guys like do a
Speaker 1: tactical Yeah, a tactical wank before if they're like very
Speaker 1: excited about a girl because they don't want to like
Speaker 1: come too fast.
Speaker 2: I remember when I was living with my mates. I
Speaker 2: was just getting ready for a date and I was like,
Speaker 2: I'm gonna have to have a tactical a tactical wang. Yeah,
Speaker 2: and I ran to my bedroom and they were just like,
Speaker 2: oh okay. I came back maybe a couple of minutes,
Speaker 2: five minutes later, and I'm like, I'm all good to go.
Speaker 1: And then did you get lucky that night?
Speaker 2: I did, and you didn't remember much of the sex.
Speaker 2: We're pretty drunk, but at least seconds like him, it's
Speaker 2: just a tactical, smart one. Yeah. I know men that
Speaker 2: do it. A lot of men do that. Yeah. I
Speaker 2: thought that I don't swear by it, like it's not
Speaker 2: something that I would be like that we all do.
Speaker 2: It's just I think they're in the right situation.
Speaker 1: But if you have a tactical wang, does that kind
Speaker 1: of make sure that you don't come early or can
Speaker 1: you still come early?
Speaker 2: It really depends. That would come down to like the environment,
Speaker 2: the situation, and how how hot it was, how like
Speaker 2: good things were. I sometimes this has happened before as well,
Speaker 2: You've had a tactical and then you struggle to then
Speaker 2: get like as horny again.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I was thinking that as well.
Speaker 2: Yeah, sometimes you're like fuck, like you know, if it's
Speaker 2: too soon to the tactical wank, Yeah.
Speaker 1: Then you can't get it out, which is another problem.
Speaker 2: So men have a lot of dramas to that sort
Speaker 2: of stuff.
Speaker 1: There's a lot of stress as.
Speaker 2: A lot of technical thinking.
Speaker 1: Clearly this guy just didn't have the technique that she needed.
Speaker 1: And also it just doesn't sound like he was listening
Speaker 1: to what she was saying. Maybe he was a bit
Speaker 1: of a MEMI me focus on me.
Speaker 2: Should she take the lead though and like literally like
Speaker 2: step him through it?
Speaker 1: Maybe like over the phone, she had kind of like
Speaker 1: built up this like sexy image of like and also
Speaker 1: not just she he had built it up of like
Speaker 1: you know, I'm going to do this to you. I'm
Speaker 1: going to do that to you, and she's like, oh yeah,
Speaker 1: this is hot, and then she's like, I'm really into
Speaker 1: this guy.
Speaker 2: Always that's my motto.
Speaker 1: But then when he actually got to it, he couldn't
Speaker 1: do all of the things that he promised, and she
Speaker 1: was just a bit like, isn't what I was sold?
Speaker 1: This is not the dream I was sold.
Speaker 2: So he's gone wrong, Like Salomon, average time and deliver
Speaker 2: a best the best time in their life, which is
Speaker 2: actually mediocre, but it feels like the best because you've
Speaker 2: sold him. Watch out for that, ladies.
Speaker 1: Okay, well, thank you for that anonymous message. Also, guys,
Speaker 1: if we've said something on our hotline that you don't
Speaker 1: agree with, we want to hear from you. That was
Speaker 1: really fun to kind of delve into and kind of
Speaker 1: dig deeper into topics that we've already covered.
Speaker 2: I stand by my comments. Sex is like pizza, it's
Speaker 2: still good. Sex is sex that's still good.
Speaker 1: I mean when it only takes forty five seconds and
Speaker 1: they're not going around two, maybe it's not as good
Speaker 1: as you know it could be.
Speaker 2: Have a glass of water and get back on it.
Speaker 2: Get back on the hard, get back on you.
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