WEBVTT - Mojo Monday - Changing the Narrative Around Self Care With Carly Taylor

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<v Speaker 1>Have everyone.

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<v Speaker 2>Carly Taylor here for this week's Mojo Monday. So when

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<v Speaker 2>you hear the words self care, what comes to mind?

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<v Speaker 2>So maybe you picture retreating into your home, running a bath,

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<v Speaker 2>lighting candles, relaxing, Or maybe it's just switching off your

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<v Speaker 2>phone so no one can reach you, or taking a

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<v Speaker 2>day off work or school just to kind of reset.

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<v Speaker 2>And don't get me wrong, these things are lovely, but

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<v Speaker 2>when you look closely, they all share a bit of

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<v Speaker 2>a theme, and that is around comfort and avoidance. So

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<v Speaker 2>they're about easing discomfort, soothing stress, or escaping the world

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<v Speaker 2>for a little while. And there's nothing wrong with comfort,

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<v Speaker 2>It's part of being human. We love to seek comfort,

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<v Speaker 2>but I think we've started to confuse relief with care.

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<v Speaker 2>So true self care isn't about feeling better in the moment.

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<v Speaker 2>What it's about is functioning better in the long run.

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<v Speaker 2>So think about it this way. Self care is it's

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<v Speaker 2>not a bubble bath. It's more maintenance.

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<v Speaker 1>So you can't drive a car forever without.

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<v Speaker 2>Refueling and servicing it and cleaning it out, and without

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<v Speaker 2>those basics, the car will break down. So us humans

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<v Speaker 2>are exactly the same. We can't expect to feel calm

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<v Speaker 2>and connected or capable if we're not consistently tending to

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<v Speaker 2>our most basic needs. And self care isn't selfish or

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<v Speaker 2>self indulgent, it's actually self respect. It's how we create

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<v Speaker 2>that baseline that allows us to show up well for

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<v Speaker 2>others and face life's inevitable challenges.

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<v Speaker 1>So what does self care look like?

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<v Speaker 2>So it is around the fundamental, So about moving your

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<v Speaker 2>body daily, not just for fitness, but to release stress

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<v Speaker 2>hormones and boost mood, Eating nutritious foods that genuinely fuel you.

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<v Speaker 2>Getting enough sleep. This is huge because your brain literally

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<v Speaker 2>cleans itself while you sleep, staying hydrated, spending time with

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<v Speaker 2>people who lift you up. Connection is just so important,

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<v Speaker 2>Getting sunlight in the morning to help you circadian rhythms,

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<v Speaker 2>doing one thing each day that brings you a sense

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<v Speaker 2>of purpose or joy. So they are the fundamentals, and

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<v Speaker 2>without them the other stuff, all the candles and the

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<v Speaker 2>face masks and the mean time, which are important, as

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<v Speaker 2>I said, but they are really decoration on top of

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<v Speaker 2>the exhaustion. So here's something interesting from the research. Psychologists

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<v Speaker 2>have found that consistent self care predicts resilience when you

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<v Speaker 2>engage in daily habits that support your body and your mind.

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<v Speaker 2>Your stress response becomes more flexible, so you recover faster,

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<v Speaker 2>you think more clearly, you handle challenges with a greater perspective. So,

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<v Speaker 2>in other words, real self care isn't an escape from life.

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<v Speaker 2>It's what equips you to engage with it fully. And

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<v Speaker 2>if we only practice self care when we're burnt out,

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<v Speaker 2>it's like waiting for the fuel light to come on

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<v Speaker 2>before filling the tank. But when we build it into

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<v Speaker 2>our daily routine, it becomes prevention rather than repair. So

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<v Speaker 2>maybe the real question is what do I need to

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<v Speaker 2>do today to take care of the future me. So

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<v Speaker 2>it might not always feel cozy or glamorous. Sometimes self

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<v Speaker 2>care it takes a lot of work. It's getting up

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<v Speaker 2>early to do that exercise if you can't fit it

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<v Speaker 2>in at any other time when all you'd rather do

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<v Speaker 2>is stay in bed. It's meal planning for the week,

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<v Speaker 2>make an effort to cook nutritious food. It's connecting with

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<v Speaker 2>people on a regular basis and making that extra effort

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<v Speaker 2>with those people that are meaningful to you. It's putting

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<v Speaker 2>the phone down and going to sleep and making sure

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<v Speaker 2>you're getting that eight hours. You know, that's the kind

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<v Speaker 2>of self care that builds strength, not just comfort. So

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<v Speaker 2>this week, instead of asking what will make me feel

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<v Speaker 2>better right now, try asking what will make me more

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<v Speaker 2>capable tomorrow? And I think we need to change the

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<v Speaker 2>narrative around self care. So the goal of self care

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<v Speaker 2>isn't to soothe yourself in that moment.

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<v Speaker 1>Self care is ongoing. It's about consistency.

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<v Speaker 2>It's about your daily habits to support yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>So how are you supporting yourself this week?

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<v Speaker 2>What are you doing every single day that is going

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<v Speaker 2>to give you that level of baseline that you are

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<v Speaker 2>going to be as optimal as as you can whatever

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<v Speaker 2>you circumstances, Because that is what self care is.

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<v Speaker 1>Have a great week, everybody. I'll catch you next week.

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<v Speaker 1>See ya.