1 00:00:09,400 --> 00:00:09,920 Speaker 1: Have everyone. 2 00:00:10,080 --> 00:00:13,640 Speaker 2: Carly Taylor here for this week's Mojo Monday. So when 3 00:00:13,680 --> 00:00:17,720 Speaker 2: you hear the words self care, what comes to mind? 4 00:00:17,920 --> 00:00:22,200 Speaker 2: So maybe you picture retreating into your home, running a bath, 5 00:00:22,360 --> 00:00:26,880 Speaker 2: lighting candles, relaxing, Or maybe it's just switching off your 6 00:00:26,880 --> 00:00:28,960 Speaker 2: phone so no one can reach you, or taking a 7 00:00:29,040 --> 00:00:32,080 Speaker 2: day off work or school just to kind of reset. 8 00:00:32,920 --> 00:00:36,680 Speaker 2: And don't get me wrong, these things are lovely, but 9 00:00:36,800 --> 00:00:41,080 Speaker 2: when you look closely, they all share a bit of 10 00:00:41,080 --> 00:00:44,839 Speaker 2: a theme, and that is around comfort and avoidance. So 11 00:00:44,880 --> 00:00:50,880 Speaker 2: they're about easing discomfort, soothing stress, or escaping the world 12 00:00:50,920 --> 00:00:54,160 Speaker 2: for a little while. And there's nothing wrong with comfort, 13 00:00:54,320 --> 00:00:57,040 Speaker 2: It's part of being human. We love to seek comfort, 14 00:00:57,120 --> 00:01:01,760 Speaker 2: but I think we've started to confuse relief with care. 15 00:01:02,360 --> 00:01:06,640 Speaker 2: So true self care isn't about feeling better in the moment. 16 00:01:07,440 --> 00:01:11,280 Speaker 2: What it's about is functioning better in the long run. 17 00:01:11,720 --> 00:01:14,960 Speaker 2: So think about it this way. Self care is it's 18 00:01:15,000 --> 00:01:17,600 Speaker 2: not a bubble bath. It's more maintenance. 19 00:01:17,880 --> 00:01:20,240 Speaker 1: So you can't drive a car forever without. 20 00:01:20,000 --> 00:01:25,280 Speaker 2: Refueling and servicing it and cleaning it out, and without 21 00:01:25,319 --> 00:01:29,080 Speaker 2: those basics, the car will break down. So us humans 22 00:01:29,120 --> 00:01:32,479 Speaker 2: are exactly the same. We can't expect to feel calm 23 00:01:32,520 --> 00:01:37,280 Speaker 2: and connected or capable if we're not consistently tending to 24 00:01:37,440 --> 00:01:42,560 Speaker 2: our most basic needs. And self care isn't selfish or 25 00:01:42,880 --> 00:01:48,040 Speaker 2: self indulgent, it's actually self respect. It's how we create 26 00:01:48,120 --> 00:01:51,760 Speaker 2: that baseline that allows us to show up well for 27 00:01:51,840 --> 00:01:55,600 Speaker 2: others and face life's inevitable challenges. 28 00:01:56,480 --> 00:01:58,240 Speaker 1: So what does self care look like? 29 00:01:58,600 --> 00:02:02,480 Speaker 2: So it is around the fundamental, So about moving your 30 00:02:02,520 --> 00:02:06,600 Speaker 2: body daily, not just for fitness, but to release stress 31 00:02:06,640 --> 00:02:12,520 Speaker 2: hormones and boost mood, Eating nutritious foods that genuinely fuel you. 32 00:02:13,200 --> 00:02:17,520 Speaker 2: Getting enough sleep. This is huge because your brain literally 33 00:02:17,639 --> 00:02:23,000 Speaker 2: cleans itself while you sleep, staying hydrated, spending time with 34 00:02:23,160 --> 00:02:28,639 Speaker 2: people who lift you up. Connection is just so important, 35 00:02:29,160 --> 00:02:32,600 Speaker 2: Getting sunlight in the morning to help you circadian rhythms, 36 00:02:33,280 --> 00:02:36,080 Speaker 2: doing one thing each day that brings you a sense 37 00:02:36,120 --> 00:02:40,280 Speaker 2: of purpose or joy. So they are the fundamentals, and 38 00:02:40,360 --> 00:02:43,360 Speaker 2: without them the other stuff, all the candles and the 39 00:02:43,400 --> 00:02:47,079 Speaker 2: face masks and the mean time, which are important, as 40 00:02:47,080 --> 00:02:51,080 Speaker 2: I said, but they are really decoration on top of 41 00:02:51,120 --> 00:02:55,720 Speaker 2: the exhaustion. So here's something interesting from the research. Psychologists 42 00:02:55,760 --> 00:03:00,400 Speaker 2: have found that consistent self care predicts resilience when you 43 00:03:00,480 --> 00:03:04,200 Speaker 2: engage in daily habits that support your body and your mind. 44 00:03:04,720 --> 00:03:08,840 Speaker 2: Your stress response becomes more flexible, so you recover faster, 45 00:03:09,040 --> 00:03:14,040 Speaker 2: you think more clearly, you handle challenges with a greater perspective. So, 46 00:03:14,080 --> 00:03:17,960 Speaker 2: in other words, real self care isn't an escape from life. 47 00:03:18,480 --> 00:03:22,040 Speaker 2: It's what equips you to engage with it fully. And 48 00:03:22,120 --> 00:03:25,040 Speaker 2: if we only practice self care when we're burnt out, 49 00:03:25,200 --> 00:03:27,440 Speaker 2: it's like waiting for the fuel light to come on 50 00:03:27,560 --> 00:03:30,880 Speaker 2: before filling the tank. But when we build it into 51 00:03:30,960 --> 00:03:36,840 Speaker 2: our daily routine, it becomes prevention rather than repair. So 52 00:03:36,880 --> 00:03:39,800 Speaker 2: maybe the real question is what do I need to 53 00:03:39,840 --> 00:03:43,480 Speaker 2: do today to take care of the future me. So 54 00:03:43,640 --> 00:03:47,800 Speaker 2: it might not always feel cozy or glamorous. Sometimes self 55 00:03:47,920 --> 00:03:50,880 Speaker 2: care it takes a lot of work. It's getting up 56 00:03:50,920 --> 00:03:54,200 Speaker 2: early to do that exercise if you can't fit it 57 00:03:54,280 --> 00:03:57,040 Speaker 2: in at any other time when all you'd rather do 58 00:03:57,120 --> 00:03:59,680 Speaker 2: is stay in bed. It's meal planning for the week, 59 00:03:59,760 --> 00:04:04,560 Speaker 2: make an effort to cook nutritious food. It's connecting with 60 00:04:04,720 --> 00:04:08,960 Speaker 2: people on a regular basis and making that extra effort 61 00:04:09,240 --> 00:04:12,520 Speaker 2: with those people that are meaningful to you. It's putting 62 00:04:12,560 --> 00:04:15,760 Speaker 2: the phone down and going to sleep and making sure 63 00:04:15,880 --> 00:04:19,160 Speaker 2: you're getting that eight hours. You know, that's the kind 64 00:04:19,200 --> 00:04:23,520 Speaker 2: of self care that builds strength, not just comfort. So 65 00:04:23,600 --> 00:04:26,760 Speaker 2: this week, instead of asking what will make me feel 66 00:04:26,760 --> 00:04:30,320 Speaker 2: better right now, try asking what will make me more 67 00:04:30,600 --> 00:04:33,520 Speaker 2: capable tomorrow? And I think we need to change the 68 00:04:33,640 --> 00:04:37,000 Speaker 2: narrative around self care. So the goal of self care 69 00:04:37,440 --> 00:04:40,200 Speaker 2: isn't to soothe yourself in that moment. 70 00:04:40,760 --> 00:04:43,719 Speaker 1: Self care is ongoing. It's about consistency. 71 00:04:43,800 --> 00:04:47,560 Speaker 2: It's about your daily habits to support yourself. 72 00:04:48,200 --> 00:04:50,200 Speaker 1: So how are you supporting yourself this week? 73 00:04:50,640 --> 00:04:53,120 Speaker 2: What are you doing every single day that is going 74 00:04:53,160 --> 00:04:56,600 Speaker 2: to give you that level of baseline that you are 75 00:04:56,640 --> 00:04:59,760 Speaker 2: going to be as optimal as as you can whatever 76 00:04:59,800 --> 00:05:03,039 Speaker 2: you circumstances, Because that is what self care is. 77 00:05:03,640 --> 00:05:06,000 Speaker 1: Have a great week, everybody. I'll catch you next week. 78 00:05:06,120 --> 00:05:14,280 Speaker 1: See ya.