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Speaker 1: Apoge production, how to find your circle, how to find

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Speaker 2: A lot of people are just living life really lonely,

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Speaker 2: which is really sad. Your relationships are the most important thing,

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Speaker 2: they really are. Like, if you have solid, good relationships,

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Speaker 2: it just life is just good. Yeah. I feel like

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Speaker 2: if you don't have that love and connection in your life,

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Speaker 2: whether that's with the intimate partner, with yourself, with your friends,

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Speaker 2: like it's just feels empty to me. Love and connection

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Speaker 2: is my highest and highest values. So yeah, I love

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Speaker 2: having really good friendships and it's something I've always valued

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Speaker 2: and always had really good friends.

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Speaker 3: Definitely been seasons.

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Speaker 2: Where I've gone in out of different friendships, but I've

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Speaker 2: always had like solid girlfriends in my life, and it's

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Speaker 3: That's so good.

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Speaker 1: I feel like I've gone in and out. Yeah, I

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Speaker 1: feel like early motherhood stages, I went through phases where

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Speaker 1: I kind of lost touch with a lot of my

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Speaker 3: None of my friends had kids. Yeah, so we're kind

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Speaker 3: of in different seasons.

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Speaker 1: So I've gone through phases and yeah, I definitely felt

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I had kids around the same time my friends

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Speaker 2: weeded out some other ones that we didn't have as

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Speaker 2: much common ground. But I definitely have felt like way

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Speaker 2: more connected and closer because we've had kids around the

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Speaker 2: same time. I love that.

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Speaker 3: It's just so cool.

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Speaker 1: It's the last five years in particular, I feel like

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Speaker 1: I really found my good circle of friends just so nice.

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Speaker 2: I think it's an age thing too. As you get

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Speaker 2: older and you really know who you are one hundreds,

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Speaker 2: you value and you start to attract that and bring

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Speaker 2: that in because you're so clear and.

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Speaker 1: You know what you want, so you kind of don't

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Speaker 1: feel far around with the people that.

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Speaker 3: You don't align with you.

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Speaker 1: So if someone's not aligning, you just don't really put

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Speaker 1: in like that much effort. You like, I just don't

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Speaker 1: know if and it's nothing against them, it's just if

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Speaker 1: you're different seasons.

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Speaker 2: Hundred, and that's the most important first step to finding

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Speaker 2: your circle is really getting to know who you are,

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Speaker 2: because if you don't know who you are, you won't

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Speaker 2: know what you're attracting, what you're wanting, and you might

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Speaker 2: not ever feel like you're really connected. You might walk

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Speaker 2: away just feeling like if it drained, or like you're

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Speaker 2: not being your authentic self because you don't really know

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Speaker 2: who you are and you're just not going to feel

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Speaker 2: really good about it.

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Speaker 1: Know what your value, know what your beliefs are, know

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Speaker 1: what you like to do in your spare time. Align

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Speaker 1: yourself with people that do the same things, that are

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Speaker 1: on the same path as you.

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Speaker 2: It's one thing to like accept people for who they

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Speaker 2: are and where they're at in their journey, but you're

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Speaker 2: also allowed to have different desires and friendships and relationships

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Speaker 2: and what you're wanting out of that relationship. Like that

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Speaker 2: is okay. You're allowed to know exactly what you want

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Speaker 2: and what you desire in your relationships and you don't

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you deserve exactly what you want to make you

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Speaker 1: make you thrive.

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Speaker 2: And like you said, it's nothing against that person, but

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Speaker 2: if they're not aligning with what you want, then they're

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Speaker 2: not your people.

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Speaker 3: And it's okay.

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Speaker 1: True when you're around the ones that do align you

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Speaker 1: both set each other on fire.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, both push each other.

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Speaker 1: You're both in the same direction.

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Speaker 3: It's easy it's.

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Speaker 2: Not hard, and the vibration and the frequency you're both

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Speaker 2: on like, oh so good. Yeah, and you find those people. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: it does. It literally lights you up. Yeah, it gives

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Speaker 3: It does. It does.

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Speaker 2: And then when you start, if you're in your around

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Speaker 2: it's like, oh, maybe this isn't the season.

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Speaker 3: For us right now.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, So that's our number one tip is just really

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Speaker 2: getting to know yourself and how do you do that.

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Speaker 2: It's like doing the inner work. It's getting curious, it's

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Speaker 2: asking more questions. It might be seeing a coach, journaling,

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Speaker 2: reading more about human psychology. Like, there's so many ways

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Speaker 2: you can do that, and it's a journey that never

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Speaker 2: kind of ends because you're always changing.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and there's always neny things to learn about yourself. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: When you show up a certain way, or you react

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Speaker 2: get curious, Okay, what why do I feel like that?

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Speaker 3: Literally?

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Speaker 2: Write that down. I get asked all the time, like,

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Speaker 2: how do your journal write that down? Why do I

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Speaker 2: feel triggered when this person says this? Why did I

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Speaker 2: me feel this, and then I got angry about this,

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Speaker 2: and then it brought a memory back about when I

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Speaker 2: was younger, Like whatever comes up, unpack.

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Speaker 1: It, and sometimes don't you find Like I'll write something

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Speaker 1: I know why I felt like that, or I know

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Speaker 1: why I reacted that way. It all comes back up when.

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Speaker 2: You've got self awareness and you're on that journey of

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Speaker 2: doing the inner work.

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Speaker 1: So first way is get out, Yes, do the things

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Speaker 1: that you love to do, be around the people that

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Speaker 1: are doing the things that you want to be doing.

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Speaker 3: Yes. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I've got a good example for this. I've got this

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Speaker 2: so much of a time. But I said to her,

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Speaker 3: If you meet.

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Speaker 2: People out there, that's what they're valuing, that's what they're

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Speaker 2: who are wanting to unpack their stuff. They're wanting to

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Speaker 2: be around like minded women. They're wanting to try stepping

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Speaker 2: outside the ca zone. They wanting to see what an

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Speaker 2: express vulnerability and have that safe space.

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Speaker 3: But if you're not putting yourself.

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Speaker 2: Out there and being in those environments, you're not going

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Speaker 2: to find them. You're not going to find them if you're.

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Speaker 2: Up exactly like you have to be brave and put

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Speaker 2: yourself out there. Yeah, dance classes, sporting events, go to

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Speaker 3: Many places you can meet them. Yeah yeah, opening up

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Speaker 3: And brave and brave and about it. I'm like, God,

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Speaker 1: So Ash messaged me online and was just like, hey,

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Speaker 1: And I said to you, I was like, I've been

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Speaker 1: following you for ages. I was like, I love that

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Speaker 2: This person come to my house. It could be a psycho,

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Speaker 2: which is not. And I was brave to even reach

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Speaker 2: out to it, like I easily got rejected. There's been

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Speaker 2: They don't check that DMS or whatever, or I meet

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Speaker 3: I'm like, oh, oh, it's interesting. But I just, yeah,

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Speaker 3: And yeah, it was great and also good like that

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Speaker 1: No, but you're also like not nervous about meeting up

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Speaker 3: I'm always open to new connections. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: But I also feel like if I can kind of

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, standards of what you want in friendships.

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Speaker 1: And you want someone who you know is lifting you up,

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Speaker 1: your time with them and encourage your time is precious at.

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Speaker 2: becoming a mum, especially a mom of two. I don't

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Speaker 3: So your time is more precious.

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Speaker 2: So now it's like I'm so selective who I hang

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Speaker 2: that as family times are you socialize all the time,

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Speaker 2: like during the week on the weekends. But now it's like,

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Speaker 2: I want to be with my family. So if I

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, your time is so so precious A so having

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Speaker 3: No, yeah, you shouldn't. Having hobbies that align and just

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Speaker 3: It's like, oh, how many shits did your kid do today?

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Speaker 2: squad tours in Adelaide years.

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Speaker 3: Ago, like one, I know. Crazy.

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Speaker 3: I find this very hard. You're not so much.

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Speaker 1: I just think it does a disservice to them and

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Speaker 1: be like, Okay, you can dwindle off.

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Speaker 3: Yes you can have to be a conversation.

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Speaker 1: It doesn't even need to but if there needs to

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Speaker 3: Have to be a bad thing.

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Speaker 1: You can wish them well, wish them peace, wish them

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Speaker 2: Yes, definitely being okay with rejection and knowing that that

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Speaker 3: If you didn't want to hang out.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but you have to be okay with that. Like,

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Speaker 1: Go in with pretty low expectations, especially the first time meeting,

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Speaker 3: Low when your date, you're kind of dating friends, kind of.

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Speaker 1: You to have to be so true.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you don't know how they're going to feel, if

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Speaker 1: be open. All the words have in saying true. Definitely,

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Speaker 1: there's no easy way. No one's just going to go

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Speaker 3: It's not going to happen.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's really harsh, but to wrap this all up,

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Speaker 2: it really is putting yourself out there, being brave, knowing

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Speaker 2: in a friendship, what makes you feel good, and putting

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Speaker 1: Yeah, especially the only way we