WEBVTT - This is going to be a stressful roadtrip!

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<v Speaker 1>Apodhake Production.

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<v Speaker 2>Welcome back to another episode of Am I A Bad Mom? Podcast?

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<v Speaker 2>School Holidays?

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<v Speaker 1>I know it is school holidays.

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<v Speaker 2>Do your girls get two weeks up?

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<v Speaker 1>Two solid two weeks.

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<v Speaker 2>And the first week is going to be camping?

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<v Speaker 1>With that?

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, Honestly, the ordeal of getting ready to go camping

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<v Speaker 3>is another whole world in itself.

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<v Speaker 2>See, this is the thing. So it's great that he's

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<v Speaker 2>taking them camping. They're going to have a great time

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<v Speaker 2>dad daughter bonding time. You can have some time for yourself.

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<v Speaker 2>But that lead up to camping in the organization and

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<v Speaker 2>everything that they need. Yeah, the packing, I'm assuming that

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<v Speaker 2>will be down to you. And then afterwards when they

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<v Speaker 2>get home, that's a big job as well. I know,

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<v Speaker 2>wash everything, it will be muddy.

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<v Speaker 1>I think this is normal, isn't it? Like I get

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<v Speaker 1>a bit anxious with the idea that they're going to

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<v Speaker 1>be going off. What if they're not warm enough? What?

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<v Speaker 2>Like?

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<v Speaker 1>You know, yeah, what can I control? I'm not there.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but it's different because it's not like they're going

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<v Speaker 2>with friends.

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<v Speaker 1>They're going with dad. Yeah, I know. Woman Sometimes Yeah, they.

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<v Speaker 2>Will tell they're old enough. I say, Dad, I'm freezing.

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<v Speaker 2>Give me your jumper.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I'll do that. Yeah, I hope. So because dad

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<v Speaker 1>runs hot, you know what's going to happen.

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<v Speaker 2>So, yes, they will get cold. And then next thing,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, so he's got a swag for himself, hasn't

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<v Speaker 2>it a double Yeah? And then the girls have got

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<v Speaker 2>a swag.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, there's three swags.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so they're going to be in with him. He's

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<v Speaker 2>going to be in the double swag, three of them together.

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<v Speaker 2>They'll be nice and warm. He'll be too hot.

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<v Speaker 3>So I have like this little I guess it's a confession.

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<v Speaker 3>Elsie has hustled a tent because she's desperate to go

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<v Speaker 3>camping in a tent. Right, you have to have a

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<v Speaker 3>tent because she hustled our neighbor. It's like a twelve

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<v Speaker 3>man tent. So now Elsie's got this tent at home

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<v Speaker 3>and her idea. So I'm not putting any dampner on this.

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<v Speaker 3>So I said, yes, babe, if that's what you want to.

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<v Speaker 1>Do, you do it.

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<v Speaker 2>Whatever you want, You do whatever you.

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<v Speaker 1>Want, build that tent.

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<v Speaker 3>So she's like, Mum, I'm going to make the tent

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<v Speaker 3>and then I'm putting my swag inside the tent. And

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<v Speaker 3>she said, I did not like sleeping in a swag only.

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<v Speaker 3>I need something around me. I need to feel safe.

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<v Speaker 3>And I was like, oh, that's great, and then Sam

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<v Speaker 3>chimes in, no, you don't do that.

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<v Speaker 1>I said, she can do whatever she wants. She's camping.

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<v Speaker 2>She's going to have this great, big twelve man tent with.

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<v Speaker 1>Her swag on the intie.

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<v Speaker 2>I have put up a tent with kids before, right,

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<v Speaker 2>and it is not an easy job.

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<v Speaker 3>I think that's why Sam would be saying we're not

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<v Speaker 3>doing a tent, because.

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<v Speaker 1>He would be way too.

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<v Speaker 2>It might work, but is going to rain next week?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I haven't looked from you know what.

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<v Speaker 2>I even tried on my own with my cats.

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<v Speaker 3>You know what I would right to do? Make him

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<v Speaker 3>take the dogs.

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<v Speaker 2>Two kids, two dogs, see you later, just me and

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<v Speaker 2>my cat.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, oh, look, it's dog friendly. You should

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<v Speaker 1>take the dogs.

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<v Speaker 4>With you too. He's like, I'm not taking the fucking dogs.

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<v Speaker 2>Am I a bad mum for going to extreme lengths Now?

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like at the moment Katie is like this

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<v Speaker 1>on the daily.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, well you'll get there. You're not at this stage yet.

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<v Speaker 2>But my girls are driving witch. I love it. Whenever

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<v Speaker 2>I speak to anybody with sixteen year olds, I'll go,

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<v Speaker 2>how are you going, how's everything going? Yeah? Good? Apart

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<v Speaker 2>from the driving. It is literally I even messaged a

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<v Speaker 2>friend in the UK last night, how's everything else going?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>Girls are good avers driving And then one of those

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<v Speaker 2>like scared emojis.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know how you do it.

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<v Speaker 3>Actually, I thought of this the other day because there

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<v Speaker 3>was this poor child and I say child because we

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<v Speaker 3>drove past said child driving honestly looked like they looked

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<v Speaker 3>like they were twelve, and they were driving this learner car.

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<v Speaker 3>The look on the instructor's face alone gave off that

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<v Speaker 3>this particular child had probably never driven a vehicle in

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<v Speaker 3>their life.

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<v Speaker 2>And that's his job. He does that every day with me.

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<v Speaker 3>Could you imagine how high alert you would be for

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<v Speaker 3>your entire life if you were getting into cars.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that would be the worst job for your nervous system,

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<v Speaker 2>dual control, You've still got to be on the ball.

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<v Speaker 3>I can't imagine it. I am the worst passenger ever.

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<v Speaker 1>So what's going on with the girls?

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<v Speaker 2>And this is the thing, right, they're pretty good drivers.

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<v Speaker 2>Holly has done more hours than Amelia, so she's I'm

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<v Speaker 2>almost relaxed with her driving now, apart from this morning

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<v Speaker 2>when she needed to turn left and then hop in

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<v Speaker 2>the right lane because we were going into a car park,

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<v Speaker 2>which was literally just as we turn, she's gone around

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<v Speaker 2>the corner so fast she hasn't. I was like, you've

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<v Speaker 2>got to get over to that lane. Look, the turning

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<v Speaker 2>is here. We're at the turning and it's like that

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<v Speaker 2>over two lanes. Quickly check make sure no one's coming

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<v Speaker 2>entering the car park on two wheels or the situation.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, Hey, anyway, they are doing pretty well,

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<v Speaker 2>but we are not on track for the hours that

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<v Speaker 2>have to be done by November. So that's one hundred

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<v Speaker 2>hours each. I think, Holly, is it about thirty five maybe?

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<v Speaker 2>And Amelia is less, She's at like twenty something. And

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<v Speaker 2>so I came up with a solution, and in the moment,

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<v Speaker 2>Rachel felt like a really good solution. And now I'm

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<v Speaker 2>kind of backtracking a little bit. Everyone's excited for it

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<v Speaker 2>and I'm like, oh, I don't know. Yeah, the idea

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<v Speaker 2>is to drive to Sydney.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my gosh.

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<v Speaker 3>I was literally in my head just about to say

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<v Speaker 3>the same thing, why don't you drive to Sydney?

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<v Speaker 1>But then I was thinking, like, Sydney is technically.

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<v Speaker 3>A nine hour drive, right, yeah, but then you wouldn't

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<v Speaker 3>be able to allow her to drive the full nine hours,

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<v Speaker 3>So then technically you'd never get that she'll be too tired.

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<v Speaker 2>So maybe we switch it up and they do half

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<v Speaker 2>and half. Yeah, like a couple of hours each at

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<v Speaker 2>a time.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>I would be going, like, you do two hours, now,

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<v Speaker 3>you do two hours. There, you do two hours.

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<v Speaker 1>So literally they get half half and then on the way.

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<v Speaker 1>Same thing.

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<v Speaker 2>In my mind, I wanted to go down to Sydney anyway,

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<v Speaker 2>and I was having a look at flights and at

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<v Speaker 2>school holidays, and nothing seemed very cheap. And it didn't

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<v Speaker 2>even cross my mind until we were talking about driving.

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<v Speaker 2>Hang any year hours up, we'll go up to now,

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<v Speaker 2>so we'll drive down to the Gold Coast. And then

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<v Speaker 2>I went, oh my god, it was like a lightbulb moment.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like, we wanted to go to Sydney. Flight's pretty expensive.

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<v Speaker 2>It's Sydney, so it's doable. But it's also like you

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<v Speaker 2>can see that the flights are like three times mo

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<v Speaker 2>yeah they should be. Are you drive your car to

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<v Speaker 2>be resentful on this journey? I'm going to resent the

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<v Speaker 2>airline for this. And so then I was like, well,

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<v Speaker 2>if we took my car, my car is petrol probably

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<v Speaker 2>not much cheaper? Well it would. I would be still

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<v Speaker 2>got a lot of petrol, a lot of fuel to

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<v Speaker 2>go through Jay's gone Electrica would just drive that down. Yep,

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<v Speaker 2>it's all most free.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't wait to hear the stories. I can't wait.

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<v Speaker 2>And I've done that. I've driven down to Sydney before.

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<v Speaker 2>We did it for Taylor Swift. Remember, Yeah, but flights

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<v Speaker 2>were going to.

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<v Speaker 1>Be petrol with petrol or electric that.

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<v Speaker 2>Was electric too. The flights were going to be about

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<v Speaker 2>four grand to get to Sydney. Sydney's an hour away.

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<v Speaker 2>It was going to be the same price that we

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<v Speaker 2>paid to go to Hawaii last year to Sydney. And

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<v Speaker 2>I was absolutely I am not spending that on flights.

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<v Speaker 2>So we drove down. That horrible that they can even

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<v Speaker 2>do that, Yeah, do you reckon?

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<v Speaker 3>Ye?

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<v Speaker 2>Should be a law, it should be.

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<v Speaker 1>There should be a law in that, because that is wild.

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<v Speaker 3>You can't just do that because there's one person playing

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<v Speaker 3>a Yeah, it's because it's so horrible.

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<v Speaker 2>In COVID, Oh, we all bailed out the airlines look

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<v Speaker 2>at them laughing now charging four times the price for flights.

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<v Speaker 1>And four thousand dollars to fly an hour.

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<v Speaker 3>No, so okay, that's good plan in motion driving to Sydney.

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<v Speaker 1>How long you in.

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<v Speaker 3>Sydney for a few days enough to recover the anxiety

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<v Speaker 3>to then return home with the girls driving?

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<v Speaker 1>So let's say nine hours each?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, takes you thirty forty Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>Get all these hours? How do you get them?

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<v Speaker 2>We have to do a few trips out of Sydney.

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<v Speaker 1>You just might as well drive around Australia still driving.

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<v Speaker 1>Where are they still driving? Reporting?

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<v Speaker 2>That's a lot there's a lot of hours. Yeah, it's

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of hours for a poor nervous that's what

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<v Speaker 2>I'm meaning, mother, Mother.

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<v Speaker 1>That is a long, mighty mighty long trip to Sydney.

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<v Speaker 2>It felt like the obvious solution. I'm a little nervous

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<v Speaker 2>about it now, I'm really because you know that there's

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<v Speaker 2>the same rules. So as a passenger in the passenger

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<v Speaker 2>seat for me, I've got the same rules as being

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<v Speaker 2>the driver. So I can't pick up my phone.

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<v Speaker 1>You just got to sit there and stare out the window.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, as if I'm driving, I've got a second pair

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<v Speaker 2>of eyes. It's as if I'm driving, honestly rage. I

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<v Speaker 2>remember calling out the insurance company when they started driving, saying,

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<v Speaker 2>do I have to inform you that my child is

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<v Speaker 2>now driving?

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<v Speaker 3>No?

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<v Speaker 2>No, it's like we're class it as you driving. If

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<v Speaker 2>she has an accident, it's you. I was like, it's

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<v Speaker 2>a lot pressure.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my gosh, so phone.

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<v Speaker 2>Down, phone down, eyes up, eyes.

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<v Speaker 1>Up, con alert on herd control.

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<v Speaker 3>Shit though from the other side of the car, on

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<v Speaker 3>more alert than if I was driving.

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<v Speaker 1>This is going to be the longest trip to Sydney

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<v Speaker 1>you've ever taken.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it really is.

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<v Speaker 1>Nine hours with no fine.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, what do we say? Full ground for flights