WEBVTT - Mini Motivation - How to Release Self Doubt

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<v Speaker 1>If you're at a point with your health where you

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<v Speaker 1>over eight weeks, we educate you on these markers and

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<v Speaker 1>internal balance. Visit the link in the show notes to

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<v Speaker 1>find out more. This is Healthy Heer with Amelia Phillips

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<v Speaker 1>and welcome to another one of my mini motivation episodes.

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<v Speaker 1>These are shorter, bite sized conversations designed to educate and inspire.

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<v Speaker 2>You and ultimately support you on.

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<v Speaker 1>Your path to better health, both physical and emotional. And

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<v Speaker 1>as a woman, but also as a mum because that

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<v Speaker 1>role is so important to help set up the health

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<v Speaker 1>of our whole family. Healthier happier mon raise, healthier happier kids.

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<v Speaker 1>So good on you for being here. Now today we're

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<v Speaker 1>going to talk about self doubt. We all experience it.

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<v Speaker 1>But some of us experience it more than others, and

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<v Speaker 1>I've had my fair share, that's for sure. Sometimes that

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<v Speaker 1>internal voice can just get so loud it really paralyzes us.

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<v Speaker 1>Now recently I ask business coach Lorraine Murphy how we

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<v Speaker 1>can move past our own self doubt. Lorraine is an

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<v Speaker 1>award winning entrepreneur, a best selling author, speaker, mentor.

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<v Speaker 2>And mother.

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<v Speaker 1>She runs online business coaching programs and events, plus her

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<v Speaker 1>weekly podcast, The Lorraine Murphy Show, which I have had

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<v Speaker 1>the pleasure of being on. Lorrain shows us that while

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<v Speaker 1>self doubt is a perfectly normal emotion, there are ways

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<v Speaker 1>we can dial down that inner critic and release that

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<v Speaker 1>paralyzing feeling of self doubt. So take a listen, Lorraine.

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<v Speaker 1>Self doubt. None of us are immune to it, but

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<v Speaker 1>for many of us, it rings very loudly in our mind.

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<v Speaker 1>And I was just chatting with you offline saying that

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going through a bit of a self doubt plague

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<v Speaker 1>at the moment. And I've had it since I was young,

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<v Speaker 1>and I go through these phases where it's just a

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<v Speaker 1>quiet little whisper, and you know, I just ignore it

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<v Speaker 1>to then really rearing its ugly head and almost paralyzing me.

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<v Speaker 2>So I guess for me, it really stops.

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<v Speaker 1>Me thinking big, or if I am thinking big, it

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<v Speaker 1>puts the handbrake on and I feel like I'm wading

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<v Speaker 1>through mud trying to reach my goals. Why does self

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<v Speaker 1>doubt plague some of us more than others?

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<v Speaker 3>So I would actually challenge that.

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<v Speaker 4>I feel like everyone experiences self doubt. I think it's

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<v Speaker 4>how we navigate it, if that makes sense. And but

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<v Speaker 4>I don't want anyone listening to think that if they

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<v Speaker 4>follow someone on Instagram. And because I think so many

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<v Speaker 4>of your listeners Amelia you just sharing that, they're be

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<v Speaker 4>like what but she's like gorgeous and so smart, and

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<v Speaker 4>she's this amazing business and she's got it all sorted.

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<v Speaker 4>I think we can just assume that others don't have

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<v Speaker 4>this problem because they're not getting on Instagram telling us

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<v Speaker 4>about it twenty four to seven.

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<v Speaker 3>So I actually think it's quite universal.

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<v Speaker 4>And I think it's also important to remember that self

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<v Speaker 4>doubt can manifest in many different ways. I see self

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<v Speaker 4>doubt as almost like this umbrella and then hanging off

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<v Speaker 4>that umbrella. You've got imposter syndrome, you've got procrastination, you've

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<v Speaker 4>got creating like distractions for yourself. There's so many different

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<v Speaker 4>ways that it can manifest, and including that sense of inertia,

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<v Speaker 4>like I just feel like I can't it's not even prastination,

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<v Speaker 4>you just can't move forward. So I think it is

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<v Speaker 4>very universal and I think it's also worth exploring. And

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<v Speaker 4>this is something that I experience on my retreats when

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<v Speaker 4>I bring the healers into work with the groups, that

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<v Speaker 4>I bring in the historical reasons for why that self

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<v Speaker 4>doubt is there and how it shows up. It's that

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<v Speaker 4>real deep inner child work that going back to past

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<v Speaker 4>memories and past experiences. And I'm going to say trauma,

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<v Speaker 4>but I don't mean the way that we would think

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<v Speaker 4>of trauma as something really horrific that has happened. No.

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<v Speaker 2>I love this concept of big tea and little tea trauma.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh I haven't heard that.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh you will love this lorrange big tea and little

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<v Speaker 1>tea trauma. So I think we can all understand big

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<v Speaker 1>T trauma for sure, and hopefully you haven't been through

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<v Speaker 1>any big T trauma and I certainly haven't been through

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<v Speaker 1>any big TA trauma. But then you've got little tea trauma,

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<v Speaker 1>which can be neglect. It can be being part of

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<v Speaker 1>a big family and feeling like you weren't heard. It

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<v Speaker 1>can be parents breaking up or in some cases that

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<v Speaker 1>can be big t trauma for people, but it gives

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<v Speaker 1>voice to people like me who I don't feel deserving

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<v Speaker 1>or doing the inner child work because I had a

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<v Speaker 1>pretty glorious upbringing. So yeah, you're welcome. You can take

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<v Speaker 1>that and run away.

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<v Speaker 3>Now.

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<v Speaker 4>I love that I could be, you know, the trauma

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<v Speaker 4>could be. I remember one of my uncles commenting on

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<v Speaker 4>me dancing. I mean, I was younger than ten and

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<v Speaker 4>my uncles are like the most beautiful man in the world,

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<v Speaker 4>and he just commented about something that I was. I

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<v Speaker 4>think he said, she's as stiff as an ironing board

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<v Speaker 4>dancing on the dance floor. And it wasn't mean, it

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<v Speaker 4>was just it was making you know, it was a joke,

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<v Speaker 4>but I internalize that for so many years, I'm so

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<v Speaker 4>self conscious dancing, So yeah, I do. When I do,

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<v Speaker 4>like ecstatic dance and so on a balley, it's so

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<v Speaker 4>incredibly freeing. So I love that you said that little

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<v Speaker 4>tea trauma, but it can really even for those of

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<v Speaker 4>us who feel like, yeah, we've had picture postcard upbringings.

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<v Speaker 4>There's chances that there's something there that might have triggered

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<v Speaker 4>that sense of self doubt. So what I like to

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<v Speaker 4>do with today and stay on top of that is

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<v Speaker 4>doing that deeper healing. But also I see a kinesiologist

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<v Speaker 4>every month, and I think, like you immediately, like you're

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<v Speaker 4>in the public eye, You've got people who are looking

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<v Speaker 4>at you thinking, you know, oh, she's got it easy.

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<v Speaker 4>Everything must be perfect, And it's that chance to I

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<v Speaker 4>kind of see like clearing out my closet. It's like

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<v Speaker 4>a monthly energetic clearing out my closet and just to yeah,

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<v Speaker 4>clear out of mindset, energy, emotional, just to kind of

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<v Speaker 4>reset myself for every month. Because what can happen as

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<v Speaker 4>well is that you can absorb the energy of other people.

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<v Speaker 4>It's partners or clients or friends. And you might go

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<v Speaker 4>for a walk with someone. I know, I've had this

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<v Speaker 4>experience where I think everything's great and then all of

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<v Speaker 4>a sudden, I come back and I've been with someone

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<v Speaker 4>who's going through their own experience and it's almost like you.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm going to say, like you catch their energy and

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<v Speaker 4>where they're at, and it can bring you down if

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<v Speaker 4>you're open to that it can bring you down.

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<v Speaker 3>So I think just doing that monthly.

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<v Speaker 4>Cleanup is really really important for me and helps me

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<v Speaker 4>stay on top of that.

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<v Speaker 1>And just as an interesting side note on kinesiology, I've always,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, kind of been slightly dubious about kinesiology, but

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<v Speaker 1>I'm also very open and curious and so a little

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<v Speaker 1>while ago I went had a kinesiology session. She did

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<v Speaker 1>not put her hands, she did not physically touch me,

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<v Speaker 1>and I was sobbing on the bench and I don't.

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<v Speaker 2>Know where it came from. I walked. I wasn't that bad.

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<v Speaker 2>I came in, I was fine.

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<v Speaker 1>We had a nice chat, said let's see what we do,

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<v Speaker 1>and she was, you know, doing all her bits and pieces,

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<v Speaker 1>and I was like, well, there might not be this

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<v Speaker 1>really really solid research behind it like there is for accupunk,

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<v Speaker 1>but bloody hell, whatever she did to me triggered a

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<v Speaker 1>release that had not been ever done before.

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<v Speaker 2>So there you go.

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<v Speaker 4>Wow. I love It's probably my favorite of all the

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<v Speaker 4>alternative therapies.

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<v Speaker 1>It's that you've got a couple of really practical but

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<v Speaker 1>effective ways to help protect us from this paralyzing self doubt.

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<v Speaker 2>I'd love to hear what these.

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<v Speaker 4>Are yeah, I think the key thing we touched on

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<v Speaker 4>a little already it is just that self talk with yourself,

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<v Speaker 4>you know, trying to catch yourself on how this has

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<v Speaker 4>been talked about a lot, but we often talk to

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<v Speaker 4>ourselves in a way that we would never in a

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<v Speaker 4>million years talk to our best friend or our child

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<v Speaker 4>or our partner in that same tone and with that

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<v Speaker 4>particular language.

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<v Speaker 3>So I think it's trying to catch the self.

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<v Speaker 4>Talk when it does happen and create I'd like to

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<v Speaker 4>call it like a pattern interrupt, and a great pattern

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<v Speaker 4>interrupt is a positive affirmation that you can replace it with.

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<v Speaker 4>So rather than saying, you know, I'm never going to

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<v Speaker 4>get the success that I'm going to I want to

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<v Speaker 4>have in my business, just as an example, it's every

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<v Speaker 4>step of my journey is a stepping stone towards greater success.

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<v Speaker 4>That there's so many different affirmations that you can start

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<v Speaker 4>to rewrite that program. Our brains are so plastic, and

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<v Speaker 4>when we can acknowledge that and identify maybe the more

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<v Speaker 4>negative programs that we're running and replace them with positive programs,

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<v Speaker 4>I find that really really helpful. I think it's also

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<v Speaker 4>really really important to have people I call them the

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<v Speaker 4>keepers of the vision around you, so that the people

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<v Speaker 4>that know your goals, know your strengths, know how wonderful

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<v Speaker 4>you are and also how challenging you can.

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<v Speaker 3>Be as well. That there real is.

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<v Speaker 4>But they're the people that when we are having a

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<v Speaker 4>low day, or a low week, or even a low

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<v Speaker 4>moder year, they're the people who can be that keeper

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<v Speaker 4>of the vision and remind you of who you really are.

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<v Speaker 3>And I think that's so.

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<v Speaker 4>Incredibly important because we can be one hundred percent I've

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<v Speaker 4>got this every single day. Everyone's going to have their

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<v Speaker 4>low points for whatever different reason. So I like to

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<v Speaker 4>think about that and I see that as my rol

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<v Speaker 4>with a lot of my mentees and their businesses, I'm

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<v Speaker 4>the keeper of the vision. On the days that they're

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<v Speaker 4>not able to keep the vision, I can keep that

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<v Speaker 4>vision for them.

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<v Speaker 3>And I think it's the very same with self doubt.

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<v Speaker 1>If you're at a point with your health where you

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<v Speaker 1>want answers, answers to your low energy, answers to that

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<v Speaker 1>stubborn weight that won't shift, then I've got the solution

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<v Speaker 1>for you. I have partnered with the most amazing integrative

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<v Speaker 1>GP to bring you inner vitality. It's a brand new

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<v Speaker 1>online program that uses over fifty biomarkers to give you

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<v Speaker 1>an accurate picture of your unique biochemistry and the insufficiencies, deficiencies,

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<v Speaker 1>or out of range markers that might be holding you back.

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<v Speaker 1>We look at all aspects of your health, from your

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<v Speaker 1>metabolic health to hormones, vitamins, minerals, liver, kidney, thyroid function,

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<v Speaker 1>and more. Then over the eight weeks as a group,

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<v Speaker 1>we educate you on these markers and implement the small

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<v Speaker 1>but powerful changes needed to restore your internal balance and

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<v Speaker 1>bring back your vitality. Visit the link in the show

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<v Speaker 1>notes to find out more. Who can that be for us?

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<v Speaker 1>Like thinking about you and your life? Who are your

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<v Speaker 1>keeper of visions around you?

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<v Speaker 4>My husband and I would say probably three best friends

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<v Speaker 4>who I would share that level of detail and vision with.

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<v Speaker 4>And one of them I mentioned too previously. There's a

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<v Speaker 4>particular revenue goal that I'm going towards at the moment.

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<v Speaker 4>And one of my friends I ordered a cocktail with

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<v Speaker 4>her in Bali and it was horrible. It was like

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<v Speaker 4>this bright blue Oh was so disgusting. I said, I

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<v Speaker 4>really don't want to drink this, but I feel like

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<v Speaker 4>I've paid for it. I need to drink it. And

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<v Speaker 4>she was like, well, what would a woman who's doing

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<v Speaker 4>the kind of revenue that you want to do when

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<v Speaker 4>your business do.

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<v Speaker 3>And I was like, oh, she just wouldn't drink it,

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<v Speaker 3>she'd order another one. And she's like, you order another one?

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<v Speaker 3>Kind of friends, I really okay?

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<v Speaker 1>And I guess with that in mind, it requires sharing.

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<v Speaker 2>It requires you to be very.

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<v Speaker 1>Vulnerable and open, and you know, maybe sharing some of

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<v Speaker 1>these big goals that you have, and if you're someone

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<v Speaker 1>that suffers with self doubt, then even the mere act

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<v Speaker 1>of actually saying those things out loud or shearing them

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<v Speaker 1>with other people is actually a really scary thing to

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<v Speaker 1>do and a really hard thing to do. I wonder

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<v Speaker 1>if just the mere act of peaking those lighthouse people

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<v Speaker 1>and enrolling them in your vision, in your goals, is

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<v Speaker 1>even just the act of doing that.

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<v Speaker 5>Might be a step out of that out of that

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<v Speaker 5>self doubt because I wouldn't share that with everyone, and

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<v Speaker 5>same with you, Emilia, Like we put so much stuff

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<v Speaker 5>out there about our lives and what we're doing and

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<v Speaker 5>so on, but there's that's the kind of that's the

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<v Speaker 5>external layer.

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<v Speaker 4>And it's not to say that anything I ever put

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<v Speaker 4>out there is misleading or not true. I like to

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<v Speaker 4>think everything is very authentic and it's what's actually happening.

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<v Speaker 4>But there's a whole level like three levels deeper five

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<v Speaker 4>le mean seven levels deeper that only a very small

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<v Speaker 4>number of people I would share with.

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<v Speaker 3>And so I think you're right.

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<v Speaker 4>I think it's first of all, knowing the people that

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<v Speaker 4>it's safe to share with, because also so many people

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<v Speaker 4>might have littlety trauma of sharing a big goal and

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<v Speaker 4>someone's laughed at them or told them there's no way

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<v Speaker 4>because they're not educated enough or smart enough or rich

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<v Speaker 4>enough to don't achieve that. So I think it's knowing

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<v Speaker 4>those And even if it's one person, I honestly think

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<v Speaker 4>if you've got one person in your life who can

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<v Speaker 4>be a keeper of your vision, that's you've hit the chapel.

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<v Speaker 4>I think you don't need to have endless people. And

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<v Speaker 4>also there's certain people who I share certain goals with

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<v Speaker 4>that like I would share my health goals, for example,

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<v Speaker 4>with a naturopath with a couple of friends, but then

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<v Speaker 4>there's other friends that I would share business goals with.

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<v Speaker 4>And my accountant knows my business goals for example. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 4>so I think it's just knowing who's appropriate and who

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<v Speaker 4>you feel safe sharing with is really key.

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<v Speaker 3>But I love you made that point.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you so for a mum listening who can really

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<v Speaker 1>relate to this paralyzed feeling of self doubt and is

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<v Speaker 1>sitting here going through a bit of a funk like

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<v Speaker 1>I have been recently, What's something she can maybe go

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<v Speaker 1>and do today to just help release her self for

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<v Speaker 1>at least step, you know that one or two steps

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<v Speaker 1>in the right direction of releasing this self doubt.

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<v Speaker 4>I think there's probably two things I would recommend, and

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<v Speaker 4>one is kind of more reactive and one is more proactive.

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<v Speaker 4>The reactive one would be, if it's self doubt to

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<v Speaker 4>do with, for example, a business goal, it's to sit

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<v Speaker 4>down and write twenty reasons why it is possible for

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<v Speaker 4>you to hit that business goal. Or you know, if

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<v Speaker 4>it's a relationship, twenty reasons that you deserve that.

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<v Speaker 3>It's just about it. It's that holiday. Our brains are

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<v Speaker 3>plastic and convincing ourselves.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I love this twenty.

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<v Speaker 3>So I love that.

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<v Speaker 4>And then another thing that that's the reactive one, but

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<v Speaker 4>the proactive one, which I have found very very helpful

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<v Speaker 4>over the years, is to have an evidence journal. So

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<v Speaker 4>when something does happen that it feels like you're really

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<v Speaker 4>making progress, You're really it's just those wins that you're

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<v Speaker 4>really proud of, it's to write them down somewhere.

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<v Speaker 3>So it could be I don't know where My daughter

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<v Speaker 3>got this.

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<v Speaker 4>She's seven, and when she was six, she decided that

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<v Speaker 4>she wanted to start a brave book. And every time

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<v Speaker 4>she was brave, she wrote in her brave book, it

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<v Speaker 4>was the most freaking beautiful thing ever. So it's like,

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<v Speaker 4>it's a brave book.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, So is it a brave book? Is it an

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<v Speaker 3>evidence journal?

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<v Speaker 4>It's like an evidence journal of proving that you can

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<v Speaker 4>be that thing.

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<v Speaker 3>So for my daughter it was it was brave.

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<v Speaker 4>And she stood up to a little boy who was

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<v Speaker 4>like breaking her and her friend's little craft projects at school.

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<v Speaker 3>In the world, I'm tearing up here.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh so beautiful, I can she thinks of this stuff.

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<v Speaker 4>It's amazing.

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<v Speaker 3>She started this tree as well.

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<v Speaker 4>There's a tree in our back garden and she came

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<v Speaker 4>in one day and said, Okay, I'm going to start

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<v Speaker 4>a strengths tree.

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<v Speaker 3>Mamma.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm like, okay, So we each have to write like

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<v Speaker 4>our strengths and then she's tied them to the tree.

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<v Speaker 1>Like, I don't know, my god, you haven't seen like

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<v Speaker 1>an absolute coach in the Mad.

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<v Speaker 3>Robins. She's so funny. But it's not a whole idea

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<v Speaker 3>of and I haven't actually added.

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<v Speaker 4>To it for a long time now, but I used

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<v Speaker 4>to have when I was starting this second business. I

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<v Speaker 4>called it the Why I Do This file, And it's

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<v Speaker 4>a word document and every time someone sent me an

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<v Speaker 4>Instagram comment, or replied to an email, or sent me

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<v Speaker 4>a text, I would copy and paste it into that

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<v Speaker 4>word document.

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<v Speaker 3>So it's the formatting is all over the place. It's

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<v Speaker 3>not pretty.

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<v Speaker 4>But in days when I was having a tough day,

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<v Speaker 4>just opening that Why I do this file, Yeah, it

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<v Speaker 4>was amazing.

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<v Speaker 1>I get amazing feedback from me only imagined after in

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<v Speaker 1>my programs, and I've kept them all and if I'm having.

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<v Speaker 3>A rough day, that's your evidence journal.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I jump into me You've changed my life and

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<v Speaker 1>I read it and I'm like, okay, all right, that's

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<v Speaker 1>that's why I'm going to keep going.

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<v Speaker 2>I can see that I'm making a difference to these people.

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<v Speaker 4>But I love that's kind of being your own vision keeper.

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<v Speaker 4>Does that make sense? Like you're making that evidence file

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<v Speaker 4>your vision keeper.

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<v Speaker 1>I just really love the practicality of if we are

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<v Speaker 1>sitting here today feeling self doubt to do the twenty

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<v Speaker 1>Reasons Why and in whatever area that you're feeling self

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<v Speaker 1>doubt in. And then I love this concept of the

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<v Speaker 1>Brave Book and whether it is something brave or whether

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<v Speaker 1>it is just something successful that you're doing.

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<v Speaker 3>I really whatever that is for you.

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<v Speaker 4>You know, if it's brave, it's love, it's kindness, it's strength, whatever, whatever.

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<v Speaker 1>That's I just think there are two really practical things

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<v Speaker 1>we can go away and do that will that will

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<v Speaker 1>just shift us and all we.

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<v Speaker 2>Need is a nudge, you know what I mean.

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<v Speaker 1>It's amazing how just a small little shift can really

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<v Speaker 1>change our outlook and improve our energy and our focus for.

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<v Speaker 2>The rest of the day. So I love these, Lorraine,

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<v Speaker 2>thank you so much.

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<v Speaker 4>Can I just just one last thing, Yes, when we

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<v Speaker 4>think about self doubt, it can be a negative spiral,

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<v Speaker 4>you know, you spiral.

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<v Speaker 3>Down, down, down, down down, and things like you.

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<v Speaker 4>Know, if it's your Brave Book or it's the Twenty Reasons,

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<v Speaker 4>it doesn't immediately start you spiraling up at speed, but

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<v Speaker 4>it just gradually changes the direction, just gradually, it's like

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<v Speaker 4>that little bread crumb trailer and then that's the next thing.

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<v Speaker 4>So just changing the trajectory of your thinking in your day,

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<v Speaker 4>I think is huge.

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<v Speaker 2>That's beautiful. I'm literally going to go and do that

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<v Speaker 2>right now.

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