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Speaker 1: Coming up on Relatables. I've had people shove ship down

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Speaker 1: my throat and I'm like, I can't breathe. I've had

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Speaker 1: that too, and you got to like sort of like

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Speaker 1: push him back. Yeah. Like the grossest feeling in the

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Speaker 1: world is accidentally brushing your tongue across their teeth. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you're doing this willingly. Yeah. I feel like some people

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Speaker 1: like like the how like aggressive it is. They feel

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Speaker 1: like it's more passion.

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Speaker 2: That's what it is.

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Speaker 3: Oh God, we are in a safe environment now.

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Speaker 1: Relatable The Relatables podcast is hosted by myself Body Clark

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Speaker 1: Akammy and my partner in crime, mister Jake Craig aka Dad.

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Speaker 1: What the hell mate? Show some respect you? Actually you

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Speaker 1: want to see some respect? What that was so rude

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Speaker 1: of you, By the way, you don't even know what's

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Speaker 1: about to come. That was rude of me. You birthed mic.

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Speaker 1: How are you gaslighting me to say I was rude?

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Speaker 1: You birthed the mic, said Daddy while birthing to all

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Speaker 1: of our baddies listening. Welcome back, guys, it is we're

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Speaker 1: fighting already. It's nine fifty four am. Some people may think, wow,

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Speaker 1: that's a bit late in the morning for Audie and myself.

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Speaker 1: This is an early recording session of This is early

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Speaker 1: we usually recorded about I've got an energy drink myself up.

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Speaker 4: I didn't have any food this morning. It's why to

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Speaker 4: drive coals to pick up some breakfast. Yes, because I was.

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Speaker 4: I was like, I could go buy like a bacon

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Speaker 4: and then roll from the cafe. But my god, I've

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Speaker 4: been been off diet for a couple of days. You know,

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Speaker 4: I've been let myself go.

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Speaker 1: I gotta go. I've gotta be strict. Yeah, backed in

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Speaker 1: all it, didn't want say anything.

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Speaker 4: So I went to Coles and I thought, why not.

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Speaker 4: I'll give us a couple of little vitality boosters for

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Speaker 4: our morning session. I won't give any free promo. I'll

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Speaker 4: show you the back of it. It's pretty orange and

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Speaker 4: it's a small shot.

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Speaker 1: Is it like a tonic shot? It's orange peel extract,

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Speaker 1: turmeric gin sang and ginger gin sang? What you never

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Speaker 1: heard of that? But I thought orange peel extract.

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Speaker 3: They don't have to make it.

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Speaker 1: It sound very appealing. This is our vitality super shot.

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Speaker 1: So we've got to take this and then talk for

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Speaker 1: an hour. That's a great idea from you. But actually

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Speaker 1: we'll take it. We'll go watch three movie mic aways

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Speaker 1: if we get some good thumbnails. Cheers. This is the

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Speaker 1: only drinking jack with it. That's quite nice. Actually, yes,

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Speaker 1: it's not as bad as I thought it would be.

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Speaker 1: My dad makes turmeric, so, like I'm sending you somewhat

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Speaker 1: used to it. How does he make turmeric? You boil

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Speaker 1: it down for like hours and days, like the extract

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Speaker 1: with like all that stuff. He does it himself and

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Speaker 1: then bottles it. Ship. Really it's supposed to be wicked

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Speaker 1: for you. Yeah, he's a hippie man. Yeah, I think so.

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Speaker 1: It's meant to be good for your gut and stuff.

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Speaker 1: But it's stained drink bottles. I'm like, that can't be

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Speaker 1: good for your insights because it stains a drink bottle. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: that can't be good for the inside your stuff. Actually,

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Speaker 1: does it stain a glass drink bottle? No? There you

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Speaker 1: got plastic one, seeing plastic. I think the reason it

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Speaker 1: bad for you. Oh, could be true that tonic shots

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Speaker 1: working already already you're on all my vinyls are fucking ah.

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Speaker 1: That's the smartest thing you've said ever. You're thinking this

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Speaker 1: is gonna be an episode BP and Ship. This argument

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Speaker 1: might be really interesting. I'm ready. What are we going

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Speaker 4: We are arguing about do soul mates exist? Oh, this

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Speaker 1: What do you want? What do you actually believe before

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Speaker 1: we get We're arguing one singular soul mate? Yeah, like okay,

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Speaker 1: One of us is arguing that there's one person for

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Speaker 4: Now there's arguing that there is multiple basically or none

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Speaker 1: Like, I think there's multiple people that you are compatible with. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: but like maybe you just don't cross paths. Agreed, But

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Speaker 1: that's too healthy. Fuck that. Let's argue. Okay, call it

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Speaker 1: Oh it's tales. Oh so I get it. I'm arguing

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Speaker 1: that there is one person for you. Yeah, I always start,

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Speaker 4: Think that soulmates are I think soulmates are a thing,

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Speaker 4: one person.

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Speaker 4: I think there is one person for you in this world,

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Speaker 1: like eighty billion or some shit, eight billion, eight billion.

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Speaker 1: First of all, that thing that shot did nothing for you,

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Speaker 1: eighty eight billion, same thing. There's eight billion people in

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Speaker 1: doesn't include gender mate. Let's not get tricky. Shot through

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Speaker 1: the fine the SHOT's working mate. A soul is what

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Speaker 4: It's so like, I don't want to sit here thinking

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Speaker 1: I say your point, I just think there's capability. You're

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Speaker 1: I think you can experience that same feeling with multiple people,

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Speaker 1: But a lot of people aren't lucky enough, and they

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Speaker 4: So people that are with someone that believe this is

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Speaker 4: I believe that they just haven't met their soul mate. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: that person was not one of their soul mates. That

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Speaker 1: Okay, because a soul mate, When you meet a soulmate, okay,

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Speaker 1: it's instantaneous, and it's not nothing to do with like

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Speaker 1: It's your souls intertwining. And when you feel that at

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Speaker 1: What if you just experience all of that, right, you've

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Speaker 1: means she's not my soulmate. But she was your soul

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Speaker 1: three years she was your soulmate. No she was not.

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Speaker 1: they weren't the one. They weren't the soul mate. Clearly

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Speaker 1: I think it works, as there's more than one soul mates. Not, no,

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Speaker 4: But I was wrong because I grew, and I'm accepting growth,

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Speaker 4: And I am not dying on the hill that that

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Speaker 4: because we are not together anymore.

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Speaker 1: Why don't you accept and grow that you can have

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Speaker 1: more than one soul mate in your.

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Speaker 4: Life, because that's not an acceptance and growth because a

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Speaker 4: soul mate. The definition of soul mate one soul?

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Speaker 1: Is it one soul? Is that really? If I am

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Speaker 1: I feel like your attitude going through life is you're

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Speaker 1: your life. I am not. Yeah, I am not too

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Speaker 1: toxic for me, mate, Our souls aren't intertwined anymore. What

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Speaker 1: about soul mates who aren't relationships, who aren't having sex?

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Speaker 1: That's that's again fine print. What fine? Don't bring up

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Speaker 1: fine print? Mad? You say we're soul mates. Yes, as friends,

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Speaker 1: we are sold. We are friend soulmates. What about you

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Speaker 1: and Beth soulmate soulmates? You sound so there's different categories.

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Speaker 1: You sound dumb right now. You can't be bringing up

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Speaker 1: different categories into this. I'm winning babies, Yes, I'm winning.

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Speaker 1: That's bullshit. You're bringing up different categories. Yeah, mate, that's

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Speaker 1: what happens when you have more than one soul mate.

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Speaker 1: You can't change the definition of what you're fighting for

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Speaker 4: Well, it's kind of weird because I did some driving

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Speaker 1: And it doesn't. The thing about it is just because

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Speaker 4: We went from red so and then you have green

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Speaker 1: To abide bye, so annoying and regulations and different speed.

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Speaker 4: And on our freeways you can you can go one

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Speaker 4: And in in Canada, you have your L for a year.

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Speaker 1: a P. You can go for your N. Yeah, and

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Speaker 1: you have you could have not driven once. You can

431
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Speaker 1: go for it. Yeah, they don't. They don't need to

432
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Speaker 1: see proof of experience. That's so funny. It's weird talking

433
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Speaker 1: about driving. I just finished the New f One Drive

434
00:20:31,240 --> 00:20:34,560
Speaker 1: to Survive and this season. To be honest, anyone who's

435
00:20:34,560 --> 00:20:36,480
Speaker 1: watched it a bit mid it was all right, next

436
00:20:36,480 --> 00:20:39,440
Speaker 1: season should be good. Lewis Hamilton's Shine for Ferrari, which

437
00:20:39,440 --> 00:20:41,880
Speaker 1: would be interesting. So it's coming out next year. Yeah yeah,

438
00:20:42,160 --> 00:20:43,879
Speaker 1: I spammed it and it was like normally I love it,

439
00:20:43,880 --> 00:20:45,199
Speaker 1: but this some was just like a bit murder. But

440
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Speaker 1: what I couldn't comprehend is I can't remember which team

441
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Speaker 1: it was. It might have been like our Pinal Hass

442
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Speaker 1: or someone. They signed a driver who doesn't have their

443
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Speaker 1: license because they're so young and they're going to be

444
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Speaker 1: driving in the F one next year. How crazy is that?

445
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Speaker 2: What?

446
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Speaker 1: Yeah? And all heaps of drivers, like all those people

447
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Speaker 1: in like the F two or whatever the other leagues

448
00:21:04,880 --> 00:21:07,000
Speaker 1: are called, don't have their license because they grew up

449
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Speaker 1: on go karts and then drive like the little fucking whatever,

450
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Speaker 1: The little F one cars are f fucking twelve car

451
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Speaker 1: F two Yeah yeah, yeah yeah. And then a guy

452
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Speaker 1: designed who's seventy to sixteen. He was seventeen next year

453
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Speaker 1: for the F one team crazy and he's not even

454
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Speaker 1: old enough to legally drive on a road, but he

455
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Speaker 1: can drive, he can race an F one car. I think, actually, okay, look, if.

456
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Speaker 4: That's going to be something that is allowed, I do

457
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Speaker 4: think that just purely because of how much work he

458
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Speaker 4: has obviously put in, wouldn't have been easy to get there.

459
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Speaker 4: He's young as fuck, young ass should say, and I

460
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Speaker 4: think that wherever he lives, that government there should be

461
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Speaker 4: a thing that all countries recognize as a government, and

462
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Speaker 4: it's if you can become a professional racer before you're

463
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Speaker 4: allowed to get a license, you should just default. No

464
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Speaker 4: testing this, You just get a license because you're better

465
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Speaker 4: than everyone on the.

466
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Speaker 1: Road, honestly, honestly, and but like some people pass these

467
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Speaker 1: tests and they're the worst drivers I've ever seen in

468
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Speaker 1: my life.

469
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Speaker 4: My dad was telling me about my younger sister. She's seventeen,

470
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Speaker 4: and she.

471
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Speaker 1: Says, runs in your family, your older sister, it's not

472
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Speaker 1: very good. Na, she's terrifying.

473
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Speaker 4: But so my younger sister she she's not terrifying. She's

474
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Speaker 4: very very slow, which is good because she's safe. But

475
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Speaker 4: Dad said, it's really funny. She's also she's bitch. Now

476
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Speaker 4: He's like, he go, yeah, she just is so fucking slow,

477
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Speaker 4: and so she will drive up to a roundabout you

478
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Speaker 4: know how you give way to you right, Yeah, it's

479
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Speaker 4: just like the community rule in Australia. You know how

480
00:22:47,240 --> 00:22:50,960
Speaker 4: like if you're driving up at fifty, you won't slow down,

481
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Speaker 4: you know, you'll look and if there's no one coming,

482
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Speaker 4: you just go straight through.

483
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Speaker 1: Regardless. She'll pull up to a stop at every roundabout

484
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Speaker 1: and then look and then go. Really yeah, was like

485
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Speaker 1: it's the most punishing thing to sit through. And then

486
00:23:04,080 --> 00:23:08,440
Speaker 1: also when she goes to park, it's very you can

487
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Speaker 1: picture like slogan, you can picture how you're supposed to

488
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Speaker 1: go in. You know.

489
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Speaker 4: She just it just hasn't clicked yet, so a bit

490
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Speaker 4: more time, I assume it will. But he's explaining all

491
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Speaker 4: this thing, all this stuff she does in the car,

492
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Speaker 4: and I'm thinking, how did you pass the test?

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Speaker 1: They passed some bad drivers honestly, and talking about bad

494
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Speaker 1: drivers on my way here this morning, mate, you should

495
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Speaker 1: be lucky that I'm here. I almost died for real. Yeah,

496
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Speaker 1: this is the dumbest thing I've ever seen in my life.

497
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Speaker 1: So coming to Jake's house, I live about ten minutes away.

498
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Speaker 1: I'm pulling up from Collins onto like left onto Keep

499
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Speaker 1: three points, which is like a left hand main road,

500
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Speaker 1: upper hill, a bit of a hill start for a

501
00:23:45,200 --> 00:23:47,000
Speaker 1: manual car. Yeah, which is fine. I do it like

502
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Speaker 1: every fucking day. Anyway, there's this car coming up, one

503
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Speaker 1: of those mobile mechanic cars, and it says, yeah, loub Mobile.

504
00:23:54,119 --> 00:23:57,520
Speaker 1: Crazy name, by the way, lou Mobile. I have always that,

505
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Speaker 1: I've seen that business everyone, and I'm thinking, that's that's stupid,

506
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Speaker 1: that's a piss take, that's absolute pistake. And I thought

507
00:24:02,200 --> 00:24:03,720
Speaker 1: that when I looked at it, and then at the

508
00:24:03,760 --> 00:24:08,280
Speaker 1: bottom of the car it has these little like hazard

509
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Speaker 1: lights sort of like an ambulance, flashing on and off,

510
00:24:10,840 --> 00:24:13,280
Speaker 1: on and off, on and off. Yeah, I'm like, I didn't.

511
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Speaker 1: I thought it was his fucking blinker because it went

512
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Speaker 1: but it was a hazard whent a hazard light and

513
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Speaker 1: it's going left left right right, left, left, right right,

514
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Speaker 1: but I only sort of left left, so I thought

515
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Speaker 1: it was turning because it was the blinker, And I'm like,

516
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Speaker 1: why the fuck there's a mobile mechanic need hazard lights? Yeah,

517
00:24:28,320 --> 00:24:30,400
Speaker 1: like maybe when it parks, But I'm like, this guy's drove

518
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Speaker 1: maybe forgot to turn them off. And I'm like, I

519
00:24:31,640 --> 00:24:33,560
Speaker 1: almost went out and fucking had a head on with

520
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Speaker 1: it when he's driving on the road with his hazards on. Yeah,

521
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Speaker 1: And I'm like it was that's his problem. Left left,

522
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Speaker 1: right right, and I thought it looked it was the

523
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Speaker 1: same color of as a blinker. And I'm like, oh

524
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Speaker 1: my god, almost just die. That's that's his fucking problem

525
00:24:44,040 --> 00:24:47,240
Speaker 1: because it has Every car has hazard lights if you

526
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Speaker 1: pull over inside of the road, and these were big

527
00:24:48,800 --> 00:24:51,320
Speaker 1: because he's a mobile mechanic or whatever. These were like,

528
00:24:51,400 --> 00:24:52,879
Speaker 1: look like a blinker. That's what I was thinking. I

529
00:24:52,920 --> 00:24:55,880
Speaker 1: was like, what the fuck, dumb? And you know what's

530
00:24:55,920 --> 00:24:58,399
Speaker 1: annoying is it would have been your fault because you

531
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Speaker 1: were pulling out onto a main road him and then

532
00:25:00,440 --> 00:25:01,800
Speaker 1: I was driving behind him and I was just looking

533
00:25:01,800 --> 00:25:03,640
Speaker 1: at that loubmobile. So I was like, what a ship name?

534
00:25:05,920 --> 00:25:09,120
Speaker 1: Start to say? What every decision he's ever made? Yeah,

535
00:25:09,960 --> 00:25:14,600
Speaker 1: work for Loom. Yeah yeah, you're fucking lubin there. We

536
00:25:14,680 --> 00:25:18,359
Speaker 1: know you haven't sex in that car. Fuck off. That's

537
00:25:18,440 --> 00:25:21,280
Speaker 1: so funny. Yeah, no, I don't trying to.

538
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Speaker 4: So it's really weird to think about people getting their license. Actually,

539
00:25:25,840 --> 00:25:30,720
Speaker 4: like my younger sister, she's seventeen. It's just so weird.

540
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Speaker 4: It's kind of because because I'm seven years older than her,

541
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Speaker 4: kind of is a taste, I guess of what it's

542
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Speaker 4: going to be like when your parents when your kids

543
00:25:41,920 --> 00:25:45,239
Speaker 4: starts to drive and stuff, because I still think of

544
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Speaker 4: her like our parents probably still think of us as

545
00:25:47,400 --> 00:25:50,320
Speaker 4: their kid. Obviously maybe not their baby, you know, but

546
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Speaker 4: like their kid. And I think of my younger sister

547
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Speaker 4: as and my young brother in Canada he also has

548
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Speaker 4: his license, like I think of them as like my

549
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Speaker 4: younger my little siblings. So yeah, my younger sister in

550
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Speaker 4: Canada just turned sixteen.

551
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Speaker 1: And she got her l plates crazy, and I just

552
00:26:04,400 --> 00:26:08,040
Speaker 1: think it's just you don't You're not ready. When I

553
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Speaker 1: was sixteen, I was ready, all right, but it's just

554
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Speaker 1: you're just not ready. Stay my little sibling. You're a

555
00:26:14,320 --> 00:26:17,320
Speaker 1: trading picking up girls and your sucking red peace.

556
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Speaker 4: To be fair, I was, I was. I was the

557
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Speaker 4: age of how old was I? I was the age

558
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Speaker 4: of a year eleven kid? Well, because when I left

559
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Speaker 4: school I had a girlfriend, so I was a trade

560
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Speaker 4: with a girlfriend at.

561
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Speaker 1: School still, but I was the age of I should

562
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Speaker 1: have still been at school. So you've always you've always

563
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Speaker 1: liked the look of being a bit like a little creeper.

564
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Speaker 1: A I never picked up, I don't think, probably sure,

565
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Speaker 1: because I was working. I was working, I was busy.

566
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Speaker 1: She had to catch them. I was providing to catch

567
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Speaker 1: the lass addie. Time for or dilemmas. We need one

568
00:27:02,440 --> 00:27:03,960
Speaker 1: of those sounds like you know how I've been doing

569
00:27:04,000 --> 00:27:08,240
Speaker 1: sounds for like hot Tex, Patreon plug the Sorry, guys,

570
00:27:08,240 --> 00:27:11,719
Speaker 1: what's a dilemma? Sounds like we need to think actually

571
00:27:11,800 --> 00:27:13,719
Speaker 1: we need to think of one. Yeah, it's a dilemma

572
00:27:13,800 --> 00:27:16,960
Speaker 1: like something like a problem, something like boys and girls

573
00:27:16,960 --> 00:27:19,000
Speaker 1: can't be friends. I really want I want a button

574
00:27:19,080 --> 00:27:21,720
Speaker 1: system somewhere that one of us can access. Right, so

575
00:27:21,760 --> 00:27:24,880
Speaker 1: when we when we have like when we say dilemmas,

576
00:27:24,880 --> 00:27:26,760
Speaker 1: will press it and then we know it's time for dilemmas.

577
00:27:26,760 --> 00:27:28,280
Speaker 1: The anything I'm thinking of is like a jingle like

578
00:27:28,320 --> 00:27:32,280
Speaker 1: the dilemma. Yeah, it's been positive, but a dilemma is

579
00:27:32,320 --> 00:27:33,960
Speaker 1: always like when you say I have a dilemma, it's

580
00:27:33,960 --> 00:27:37,480
Speaker 1: a bad thing. Yeah, it's a negative connotation towards it.

581
00:27:36,640 --> 00:27:39,760
Speaker 1: And something that's a bit like any thoughts. Let us

582
00:27:39,760 --> 00:27:43,800
Speaker 1: know in the comments what sort of sounds like, surely,

583
00:27:44,880 --> 00:27:46,679
Speaker 1: what's that sound when it's like a bad joke on

584
00:27:46,720 --> 00:27:51,760
Speaker 1: the drum? Like no, it's like when there's a good joke,

585
00:27:52,040 --> 00:27:53,880
Speaker 1: when there's a joke. Dilemmas.

586
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Speaker 4: Okay, guys, but you know what to do in the

587
00:27:59,640 --> 00:28:03,360
Speaker 4: descript of this episode or it is also in the

588
00:28:03,720 --> 00:28:06,800
Speaker 4: link in our Instagram bio. It's where you can submit

589
00:28:06,880 --> 00:28:11,680
Speaker 4: the dilemmas. All anonymous. Okay, Hi guys. I've been dating

590
00:28:11,680 --> 00:28:14,080
Speaker 4: my boyfriend for a few months and we're starting to

591
00:28:14,119 --> 00:28:15,159
Speaker 4: introduce each other.

592
00:28:15,040 --> 00:28:16,880
Speaker 1: To our friend groups. Now exciting.

593
00:28:17,520 --> 00:28:19,600
Speaker 4: I want my partner to meet one of my guy

594
00:28:19,680 --> 00:28:22,760
Speaker 4: friends who I am quite close with. Ooh, not excittly

595
00:28:22,960 --> 00:28:26,240
Speaker 4: guess what's coming next. But he and I hooked up

596
00:28:26,240 --> 00:28:29,840
Speaker 4: one time, Oh my god, in brackets, just making out

597
00:28:31,320 --> 00:28:34,439
Speaker 4: before my boyfriend and I got together. It was a

598
00:28:34,480 --> 00:28:37,760
Speaker 4: one time thing, and afterwards I realized there was no

599
00:28:37,880 --> 00:28:41,280
Speaker 4: romantic spark between me and my friend, and we mutually

600
00:28:41,520 --> 00:28:42,120
Speaker 4: agreed on that.

601
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Speaker 1: Did you one.

602
00:28:44,640 --> 00:28:47,920
Speaker 4: I'm wondering if before my boyfriend meets this guy, yes,

603
00:28:47,960 --> 00:28:51,040
Speaker 4: I should tell him we've hooked up. I love my

604
00:28:51,080 --> 00:28:54,280
Speaker 4: boyfriend and don't want to hurt him, but also I

605
00:28:54,280 --> 00:28:55,440
Speaker 4: don't want to lie to him.

606
00:28:55,680 --> 00:28:57,400
Speaker 1: Is it better for him to know or not? Big

607
00:28:57,400 --> 00:29:02,160
Speaker 1: fan of the pod, Thanks for your help. All jokes aside.

608
00:29:03,000 --> 00:29:05,680
Speaker 1: Very healthy that you're asking this question and thinking about it.

609
00:29:05,720 --> 00:29:07,760
Speaker 1: You're thinking about it, Yeah, you're not going into it

610
00:29:08,160 --> 00:29:10,080
Speaker 1: blind and not doing anything. So I think this is

611
00:29:10,160 --> 00:29:12,840
Speaker 1: very healthy. I would say he has a right to

612
00:29:12,880 --> 00:29:16,160
Speaker 1: know because he is going to make a better decision

613
00:29:16,760 --> 00:29:19,720
Speaker 1: about the guy after meeting him if he knows that

614
00:29:20,040 --> 00:29:25,680
Speaker 1: you've changed liquids. Yeah, you've swapped spit. You've played a

615
00:29:25,680 --> 00:29:31,480
Speaker 1: bit of tonsil hockey. I've grown up and they used

616
00:29:31,480 --> 00:29:33,960
Speaker 1: to people used to call it tonsil hockey, right, really,

617
00:29:34,000 --> 00:29:37,400
Speaker 1: And I was like, now that I've kissed people, yeah, yeah,

618
00:29:37,480 --> 00:29:40,400
Speaker 1: you have. I've never gone deep enough to hit a tonsil. No,

619
00:29:40,440 --> 00:29:42,680
Speaker 1: that's insane. Imagine that. Let's you have like a lizard.

620
00:29:43,240 --> 00:29:45,480
Speaker 1: I reckon. Barely one third of my tongue goes in

621
00:29:45,520 --> 00:29:47,440
Speaker 1: BET's mouth when we kiss. No, it's just like an

622
00:29:47,440 --> 00:29:50,640
Speaker 1: intimate little I've had to be fair. I've made people

623
00:29:50,680 --> 00:29:56,280
Speaker 1: shove shit down my throat and I'm like, I can't breathe.

624
00:29:56,760 --> 00:29:58,920
Speaker 1: I've had that too, And you got to like sort

625
00:29:58,960 --> 00:30:01,800
Speaker 1: of like push him back. Yeah, Like the grossest feeling

626
00:30:01,840 --> 00:30:04,880
Speaker 1: in the world is accidentally brushing your tongue across their teeth. Yeah,

627
00:30:05,160 --> 00:30:09,600
Speaker 1: you're doing this willingly. Yeah. I feel like some people

628
00:30:09,640 --> 00:30:13,000
Speaker 1: like like the how like aggressive it is. They feel

629
00:30:13,000 --> 00:30:13,800
Speaker 1: like it's more passionate.

630
00:30:15,240 --> 00:30:15,840
Speaker 2: That's what it is.

631
00:30:15,920 --> 00:30:18,920
Speaker 1: Oh god, it's like a workout. Yeah, I'm thinking I

632
00:30:18,960 --> 00:30:21,080
Speaker 1: know the exact person. I haven't thought about that person

633
00:30:21,120 --> 00:30:23,920
Speaker 1: in ages. I'm thinking, I'm like, what the funk that

634
00:30:24,000 --> 00:30:28,760
Speaker 1: was the worst kiss of my life. Shit. So back

635
00:30:28,880 --> 00:30:33,040
Speaker 1: to our resident baddie, I actually have a couple of thoughts.

636
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Speaker 4: Yeah, I think there's a couple of things right that

637
00:30:38,320 --> 00:30:41,520
Speaker 4: obviously you need. So first off, definitely tell your boyfriend. Yes,

638
00:30:42,760 --> 00:30:48,479
Speaker 4: I think that what happens when you are friends with

639
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Speaker 4: someone and then it goes to a level of where

640
00:30:51,480 --> 00:30:55,520
Speaker 4: you've kissed, right, there was obviously a second there when

641
00:30:55,520 --> 00:30:58,120
Speaker 4: you guys saw each other as more than friends. Yeah,

642
00:30:58,160 --> 00:31:01,920
Speaker 4: because friends aren't going to kiss, friends aren't gonna have sex,

643
00:31:01,960 --> 00:31:05,320
Speaker 4: friends aren't gonna, you know, like really like, friends will hug,

644
00:31:06,320 --> 00:31:07,640
Speaker 4: friends will high five.

645
00:31:08,760 --> 00:31:10,720
Speaker 1: But I think like and also a kiss on the

646
00:31:10,760 --> 00:31:12,880
Speaker 1: cheek actually as a greeting, because on the cheek, but

647
00:31:13,080 --> 00:31:16,640
Speaker 1: not not sensual, no, no, no, But when you make out,

648
00:31:17,320 --> 00:31:20,040
Speaker 1: that's the line. That is the line where you guys

649
00:31:20,040 --> 00:31:23,239
Speaker 1: looked at each other as more than friends. Okay, you

650
00:31:23,320 --> 00:31:25,200
Speaker 1: may not see each other as more than friends anymore,

651
00:31:26,120 --> 00:31:29,720
Speaker 1: but there was a time where you did so when

652
00:31:29,800 --> 00:31:32,560
Speaker 1: that decision was made to kiss. At the same time,

653
00:31:33,080 --> 00:31:37,280
Speaker 1: there was also a decision made subconsciously, or maybe more

654
00:31:37,320 --> 00:31:38,920
Speaker 1: of a decision that was made that you need to

655
00:31:39,000 --> 00:31:44,200
Speaker 1: accept that now that you have a boyfriend, unless you look,

656
00:31:44,280 --> 00:31:46,560
Speaker 1: unless he's totally fine with it, but out of respect

657
00:31:47,160 --> 00:31:49,440
Speaker 1: and out of not wanting to put him in a

658
00:31:49,440 --> 00:31:53,440
Speaker 1: bad situation or a tricky situation, you kind of have to.

659
00:31:53,840 --> 00:31:56,240
Speaker 1: You can tell, you can say that this guy's your friend. Yeah,

660
00:31:56,280 --> 00:31:56,680
Speaker 1: but like.

661
00:31:56,600 --> 00:31:58,440
Speaker 4: Hanging out with him one on one and like maybe

662
00:31:58,520 --> 00:32:01,360
Speaker 4: some constant messaging with him, it's gonna make your boyfriend

663
00:32:01,360 --> 00:32:03,400
Speaker 4: feel icky for a good reason, especially because you need

664
00:32:03,400 --> 00:32:04,880
Speaker 4: to tell him that you guys have kissed in the past.

665
00:32:05,240 --> 00:32:08,800
Speaker 1: Yes, I think so too. You really have to go

666
00:32:08,840 --> 00:32:11,640
Speaker 1: through the appropriate steps of steps of telling him so,

667
00:32:11,880 --> 00:32:14,760
Speaker 1: explain exactly what you told us. He'll probably feel fine

668
00:32:14,760 --> 00:32:16,880
Speaker 1: about it, but if he does feel a bit icky,

669
00:32:16,960 --> 00:32:18,680
Speaker 1: like Jake said, of you hanging out one on one,

670
00:32:18,880 --> 00:32:22,640
Speaker 1: like fair enough, And I don't know as soon as

671
00:32:23,120 --> 00:32:26,160
Speaker 1: you do kiss someone, like I know, I've been in

672
00:32:26,200 --> 00:32:29,440
Speaker 1: the it's weird. So when you first start talking to

673
00:32:29,480 --> 00:32:31,680
Speaker 1: a girl, you don't really know if you're in the

674
00:32:31,720 --> 00:32:34,640
Speaker 1: talking stages or not, and then you both sort of

675
00:32:34,640 --> 00:32:36,920
Speaker 1: allude to the fact that, like, we're friends, but then

676
00:32:36,960 --> 00:32:39,320
Speaker 1: you both sort of also know that you're kind of

677
00:32:39,320 --> 00:32:41,600
Speaker 1: flirting a lot. Yeah, but you tell everyone your friends

678
00:32:41,600 --> 00:32:43,120
Speaker 1: a night out, you'll be flirting the fuck out of

679
00:32:43,120 --> 00:32:46,840
Speaker 1: each other and eventually, like, either it goes the distance

680
00:32:48,520 --> 00:32:50,880
Speaker 1: or it doesn't. But even when the relationship starts with

681
00:32:50,960 --> 00:32:55,120
Speaker 1: you just like flirting and kissing, were they ever your friend? See,

682
00:32:55,160 --> 00:32:57,080
Speaker 1: that's the thing I think about as well. Is And

683
00:32:57,120 --> 00:32:59,040
Speaker 1: also another thing to think about is how you said

684
00:32:59,040 --> 00:33:01,120
Speaker 1: that you guys mutually agree that there is no spark

685
00:33:01,160 --> 00:33:02,760
Speaker 1: between you. Yeah.

686
00:33:02,840 --> 00:33:06,080
Speaker 4: Again, you guys could both have mutually agreed on that

687
00:33:06,320 --> 00:33:09,240
Speaker 4: or you said it and he just was like, okay,

688
00:33:09,240 --> 00:33:11,440
Speaker 4: well I need to say face yeah, And I also

689
00:33:11,480 --> 00:33:13,080
Speaker 4: will say it because I don't want to lose her

690
00:33:13,160 --> 00:33:13,840
Speaker 4: all together.

691
00:33:14,200 --> 00:33:16,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, and like to be fair of the guy. If

692
00:33:16,880 --> 00:33:18,480
Speaker 1: I was kissing a girl and a couple days later

693
00:33:18,480 --> 00:33:19,760
Speaker 1: she's like, oh I just didn't feel anything, I was like,

694
00:33:19,760 --> 00:33:22,800
Speaker 1: oh yeah, I would also say the same face yeah.

695
00:33:22,840 --> 00:33:24,640
Speaker 1: And in the background I could just be like fuck

696
00:33:24,680 --> 00:33:26,760
Speaker 1: that was good. Yeah, fuck that was good and you

697
00:33:27,000 --> 00:33:29,360
Speaker 1: and this and what he could be thinking is just

698
00:33:29,400 --> 00:33:31,720
Speaker 1: gonna give her time. Yeah, I'm just gonna wait, wait

699
00:33:31,760 --> 00:33:34,120
Speaker 1: for my chance. Yeah, and you're never gonna know that.

700
00:33:34,160 --> 00:33:38,360
Speaker 1: And out of respect for your boyfriend being very close

701
00:33:38,400 --> 00:33:40,560
Speaker 1: friends with him, we don't know the extending your relationship.

702
00:33:40,560 --> 00:33:42,680
Speaker 1: Maybe you're just in a group setting, which is so chill. Yeah,

703
00:33:42,720 --> 00:33:45,680
Speaker 1: like that's fine. Groups honestly sleep together all the time. Yeah,

704
00:33:45,720 --> 00:33:48,440
Speaker 1: that's not pretty bad. Yeah, mate, when we were growing

705
00:33:48,520 --> 00:33:51,880
Speaker 1: up like eight a nineteen, but you guys just kiss

706
00:33:51,880 --> 00:33:53,320
Speaker 1: each other and so you guys didn't sleep each other.

707
00:33:53,440 --> 00:33:55,560
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah, but like how much

708
00:33:55,600 --> 00:33:58,400
Speaker 1: different is the actual act of sleeping with someone compared

709
00:33:58,400 --> 00:34:02,360
Speaker 1: to kissing? Pretty different? No, yeah, some different actions, I mean,

710
00:34:02,480 --> 00:34:06,800
Speaker 1: like fucking like the actions I mean, like the line

711
00:34:06,840 --> 00:34:10,279
Speaker 1: crossing of friendship to changing bodily functions. Honestly, I think

712
00:34:10,320 --> 00:34:12,520
Speaker 1: that I think that they are on path. Yeah, that's

713
00:34:12,520 --> 00:34:14,960
Speaker 1: what I mean. Like, a kiss is an intimate connection

714
00:34:15,040 --> 00:34:17,040
Speaker 1: with someone I know. Sex is obviously a bit more intimate.

715
00:34:17,120 --> 00:34:17,279
Speaker 3: Yeah.

716
00:34:17,320 --> 00:34:18,680
Speaker 1: Like so like say, here's the line.

717
00:34:19,000 --> 00:34:22,040
Speaker 4: On your side is huggings on the cheek high five

718
00:34:22,640 --> 00:34:26,080
Speaker 4: you know. Yeah, there's no middle line, right, it's just

719
00:34:26,160 --> 00:34:26,600
Speaker 4: one line.

720
00:34:26,600 --> 00:34:28,160
Speaker 1: And on the other side is like once you kiss.

721
00:34:28,400 --> 00:34:31,000
Speaker 1: It's in the same level as have having sex. Paul

722
00:34:31,000 --> 00:34:32,920
Speaker 1: was talking about lines for some reason that just round me,

723
00:34:32,960 --> 00:34:35,239
Speaker 1: like handball at school. I thought you were about to

724
00:34:35,280 --> 00:34:40,560
Speaker 1: say something the drug related, and I was like, holy shit, drugs.

725
00:34:40,560 --> 00:34:43,120
Speaker 1: I was thinking about handball. Yeah, well we should have

726
00:34:43,160 --> 00:34:46,560
Speaker 1: a game or something. Mate. You know what we should

727
00:34:46,600 --> 00:34:50,960
Speaker 1: do is we should we should tee up, like because

728
00:34:51,239 --> 00:34:54,920
Speaker 1: even at high school handball was the funnest thing. I reckon,

729
00:34:54,920 --> 00:34:59,400
Speaker 1: we should tee up going to a school and we

730
00:34:59,480 --> 00:35:01,760
Speaker 1: do a thing, right, but then we have a handball

731
00:35:01,800 --> 00:35:04,120
Speaker 1: tournament with the school. That would be actually really see

732
00:35:04,120 --> 00:35:06,280
Speaker 1: if we can make it. Remember when like's it Schomo

733
00:35:06,440 --> 00:35:10,960
Speaker 1: or which prime minister it was fell over playing handball

734
00:35:11,000 --> 00:35:13,480
Speaker 1: one of the schools I think it was. I tell

735
00:35:13,520 --> 00:35:14,640
Speaker 1: you what we should do. You know how a lot

736
00:35:14,640 --> 00:35:17,080
Speaker 1: of like influencers do boxing and yeah, let's hit each

737
00:35:17,080 --> 00:35:19,080
Speaker 1: other in the face. Hate all that tell you what

738
00:35:19,080 --> 00:35:21,000
Speaker 1: we should do. We're both really good at ping pong.

739
00:35:22,440 --> 00:35:24,960
Speaker 1: We should have like an influenza people will be a

740
00:35:24,960 --> 00:35:28,320
Speaker 1: team that influence and teams influence and table tennis tournament

741
00:35:28,320 --> 00:35:30,359
Speaker 1: that she'll be fun as because we're fucking good. We

742
00:35:30,440 --> 00:35:32,600
Speaker 1: actually know how to play yeah, we'd go. All right,

743
00:35:32,880 --> 00:35:35,080
Speaker 1: that'd be fun. Okay, now I'm not gonna lie that

744
00:35:35,120 --> 00:35:37,279
Speaker 1: actually just genuinely because of how fun that would be,

745
00:35:37,280 --> 00:35:38,799
Speaker 1: I actually want to try it. Yeah, it would be

746
00:35:38,800 --> 00:35:40,480
Speaker 1: hard to make it like good to watch because you

747
00:35:40,600 --> 00:35:42,480
Speaker 1: need like a proper camera set up. We would need

748
00:35:42,520 --> 00:35:45,000
Speaker 1: everything to be proper. But here's another thing, is who

749
00:35:45,440 --> 00:35:47,239
Speaker 1: like beause we've got you and I who's going to

750
00:35:47,239 --> 00:35:49,799
Speaker 1: be and they'd play? They if they came and did

751
00:35:49,800 --> 00:35:52,040
Speaker 1: it, it would be crazy. That would be fun. There we

752
00:35:52,080 --> 00:35:56,880
Speaker 1: could do. We mean, well, they're a good duo. They

753
00:35:56,960 --> 00:35:59,680
Speaker 1: might not play, but you never know. They might unemployed couldlay.

754
00:35:59,680 --> 00:36:03,840
Speaker 1: It's unemployed alpha blokes. They don't love that coordinated. To

755
00:36:03,880 --> 00:36:09,239
Speaker 1: be honest, someone's got to be easy to be to be.

756
00:36:09,320 --> 00:36:11,759
Speaker 1: I mean just for girls are a duo. We don't

757
00:36:11,760 --> 00:36:13,680
Speaker 1: really talk. We've never spoken to them once in our lives.

758
00:36:14,200 --> 00:36:18,759
Speaker 1: But I said one versus in Ping Pong, you know

759
00:36:18,800 --> 00:36:25,680
Speaker 1: who we could get to go go whole fusion. We

760
00:36:25,760 --> 00:36:30,279
Speaker 1: know him him and yeah, fucking love those two. They

761
00:36:30,280 --> 00:36:32,839
Speaker 1: were good. They don't have like mainstream faces though, because

762
00:36:32,880 --> 00:36:35,359
Speaker 1: to go even though he's like famous Glass five mill

763
00:36:35,440 --> 00:36:37,640
Speaker 1: on YouTube, he just doesn't show his face. Yeah, exactly,

764
00:36:37,680 --> 00:36:39,840
Speaker 1: but still it's a good idea. So Ping Pong's on

765
00:36:39,880 --> 00:36:42,120
Speaker 1: the back burner, mate, Yeah, backburn that's not okay. But

766
00:36:42,160 --> 00:36:44,440
Speaker 1: one more thing I want to say about Scomo is

767
00:36:45,280 --> 00:36:48,960
Speaker 1: did you do you know about the rumor with him?

768
00:36:49,000 --> 00:36:52,479
Speaker 1: A rumor went around that back in the day before

769
00:36:52,480 --> 00:36:54,680
Speaker 1: he was Prime minister, but he was working in government.

770
00:36:55,000 --> 00:36:59,680
Speaker 1: He shipped himself in a McDonald's. That's relatable. I remember

771
00:36:59,680 --> 00:37:02,600
Speaker 1: saying an interview someone brought it up with him. Poor guy.

772
00:37:02,800 --> 00:37:04,879
Speaker 1: Someone fully brought it up with him, and he was like, no, this,

773
00:37:04,880 --> 00:37:06,520
Speaker 1: this did not happen. Get him to be fair. I

774
00:37:06,520 --> 00:37:09,200
Speaker 1: would like to and let's get him on confession sessions.

775
00:37:09,239 --> 00:37:10,799
Speaker 1: When you've got to go, you gotta go. He can

776
00:37:10,840 --> 00:37:17,680
Speaker 1: be anonymous. He'd be like, what's your name, just like Pomo. Yeah,

777
00:37:17,719 --> 00:37:21,040
Speaker 1: but the baddie I reckon. Yeah, tell your boyfriend and

778
00:37:21,400 --> 00:37:24,279
Speaker 1: he has the right not to really feel right with

779
00:37:24,360 --> 00:37:25,920
Speaker 1: you hanging out with him one on one, but in

780
00:37:25,960 --> 00:37:27,759
Speaker 1: a group setting or anything like that, it's fine. Yeah,

781
00:37:27,760 --> 00:37:31,279
Speaker 1: and vice versa like goes both ways. Yeah, exactly, Like

782
00:37:31,480 --> 00:37:33,960
Speaker 1: if you were out of dinner and then your boyfriend

783
00:37:34,000 --> 00:37:36,439
Speaker 1: happened to sleep with one of the girls there. Would

784
00:37:36,440 --> 00:37:38,920
Speaker 1: you want to know? Yeah, just out of like when

785
00:37:38,920 --> 00:37:41,399
Speaker 1: you're having a conversation with him with her, sorry, yeah,

786
00:37:41,520 --> 00:37:43,640
Speaker 1: you would want to know beforehand, probably too, wouldn't you, Like,

787
00:37:43,680 --> 00:37:46,000
Speaker 1: I don't think you wouldn't want to know? After the fact,

788
00:37:46,040 --> 00:37:47,360
Speaker 1: yeah you want to, Like I'm up and seep, you

789
00:37:47,360 --> 00:37:48,680
Speaker 1: can take him? And you wouldn't you want to? You

790
00:37:48,680 --> 00:37:50,480
Speaker 1: wouldn't want You wouldn't want to.

791
00:37:51,000 --> 00:37:53,719
Speaker 4: You wouldn't want to after the dinner be like, here's

792
00:37:53,920 --> 00:37:56,960
Speaker 4: here your boyfriend say, well, you know that that girl

793
00:37:56,960 --> 00:37:57,759
Speaker 4: you're sitting next to that.

794
00:37:57,680 --> 00:38:00,560
Speaker 1: You've got a lot Yeah, Amy, Yeah, You're like, yeah,

795
00:38:00,600 --> 00:38:03,560
Speaker 1: hey me, I actually really liked was like, like, that's

796
00:38:03,600 --> 00:38:07,000
Speaker 1: what how you want to find out? You hate? Do

797
00:38:07,040 --> 00:38:08,600
Speaker 1: you reckon? You know? Do you ever do this? Do

798
00:38:08,600 --> 00:38:10,440
Speaker 1: you ever walk into like a room or like you're

799
00:38:10,440 --> 00:38:12,480
Speaker 1: in a room or dinner setting and you think, like,

800
00:38:12,920 --> 00:38:15,640
Speaker 1: can I can take everyone here? The fuck is wrong

801
00:38:15,680 --> 00:38:18,359
Speaker 1: with you? Do you do that? No? Really, I do

802
00:38:18,560 --> 00:38:20,440
Speaker 1: not do that. I feel like that's a masculine thing

803
00:38:20,480 --> 00:38:23,040
Speaker 1: to do, Like you just I could take you you

804
00:38:23,040 --> 00:38:26,400
Speaker 1: you you No. My question was going to be a

805
00:38:26,440 --> 00:38:29,600
Speaker 1: drinking girls do that? Yeah you can? Maybe they go

806
00:38:29,719 --> 00:38:32,440
Speaker 1: like I could take you. You you, I don't. I

807
00:38:32,440 --> 00:38:34,960
Speaker 1: don't ever look at someone and think I will look

808
00:38:35,040 --> 00:38:38,200
Speaker 1: at people you could take anyone. That's what. I don't

809
00:38:38,239 --> 00:38:38,920
Speaker 1: look at people that.

810
00:38:38,880 --> 00:38:40,520
Speaker 4: I know I could beat in the fire and think

811
00:38:40,560 --> 00:38:41,839
Speaker 4: like I could beat them on the fire. I look

812
00:38:41,840 --> 00:38:44,080
Speaker 4: at people that are way bigger than me and think

813
00:38:44,280 --> 00:38:46,799
Speaker 4: I wonder how I'd go, knowing i'd lose.

814
00:38:46,920 --> 00:38:49,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, I more think of I wonder how I'd go?

815
00:38:49,239 --> 00:38:50,920
Speaker 1: How long would I last? Yeah? If I see a

816
00:38:51,000 --> 00:38:59,680
Speaker 1: huge person, you don't last long. We know that. Next lever,

817
00:39:00,400 --> 00:39:05,319
Speaker 1: Where did Jake go? Let me call him.

818
00:39:05,520 --> 00:39:07,400
Speaker 5: You'll call him been he did not?

819
00:39:07,680 --> 00:39:09,479
Speaker 1: Just hang up on me. Let me call him again.

820
00:39:13,640 --> 00:39:14,080
Speaker 5: What's up?

821
00:39:14,600 --> 00:39:17,440
Speaker 1: Where are you? Where'd you go? I'm just out of

822
00:39:17,440 --> 00:39:19,839
Speaker 1: the airbnb? What do you mean the airbnb?

823
00:39:20,239 --> 00:39:22,800
Speaker 5: Sorry I didn't tell you. I booked a guest's favorite

824
00:39:22,840 --> 00:39:25,960
Speaker 5: Airbnb last minute. Couldn't pass it up. You're all good

825
00:39:26,000 --> 00:39:27,080
Speaker 5: to finish the episode, right?

826
00:39:27,239 --> 00:39:29,040
Speaker 1: What's a guest favorite their airbnb?

827
00:39:29,120 --> 00:39:30,439
Speaker 5: Is that other guests of love?

828
00:39:30,920 --> 00:39:32,920
Speaker 1: So you know you will too? Well, that sounds fun.

829
00:39:33,239 --> 00:39:34,080
Speaker 1: Where are you anyway?

830
00:39:34,719 --> 00:39:36,440
Speaker 5: Just a couple hours of the code, and yeah, it

831
00:39:36,520 --> 00:39:39,640
Speaker 5: is fun. Our place has a pool, a big garden

832
00:39:40,040 --> 00:39:43,720
Speaker 5: two bedrooms, is right near the beach, plus it allows

833
00:39:43,760 --> 00:39:44,200
Speaker 5: dogs for.

834
00:39:44,200 --> 00:39:48,440
Speaker 1: Henry, did you say two bedrooms anyways? Mate, got to run?

835
00:39:49,880 --> 00:39:54,440
Speaker 1: Oh ouch, here's a dilemma. I would love the Baddi's

836
00:39:54,480 --> 00:39:57,399
Speaker 1: input on. I've been dating my boyfriend for several months now.

837
00:39:57,640 --> 00:40:00,200
Speaker 1: He's everything I've looked for in a man and a partner,

838
00:40:00,600 --> 00:40:03,839
Speaker 1: and I'm quite excited about our future together. Recently, I

839
00:40:03,920 --> 00:40:05,840
Speaker 1: share that I'm falling in love with him, and his

840
00:40:05,960 --> 00:40:09,320
Speaker 1: response was an interesting one. At that I'm still trying

841
00:40:09,360 --> 00:40:13,719
Speaker 1: to untangle what in quotes that's a scary word for

842
00:40:13,800 --> 00:40:18,520
Speaker 1: me means what I'm going to use that word one day.

843
00:40:19,239 --> 00:40:22,080
Speaker 1: All the evidence of my relationship so far suggests he's

844
00:40:22,080 --> 00:40:25,480
Speaker 1: in it for the long term, but he minimally talks

845
00:40:25,480 --> 00:40:28,280
Speaker 1: about the future in general, and he never has officially

846
00:40:28,320 --> 00:40:31,160
Speaker 1: asked me to be his girlfriend. I met his friends,

847
00:40:31,239 --> 00:40:34,239
Speaker 1: he's met my friends. We plan dates every week, We've

848
00:40:34,239 --> 00:40:37,000
Speaker 1: gone on road trips, doing all the couple things they

849
00:40:37,040 --> 00:40:40,560
Speaker 1: would do. I don't know if this just adds complications.

850
00:40:40,960 --> 00:40:43,520
Speaker 1: Ninety nine percent of the time, I'm sitting strong in

851
00:40:43,560 --> 00:40:46,800
Speaker 1: a secure attachment, but a small part of me worries

852
00:40:47,080 --> 00:40:49,480
Speaker 1: if I've given too much of myself and my life

853
00:40:49,719 --> 00:40:53,560
Speaker 1: away without any clarity on how he's feeling about us

854
00:40:54,239 --> 00:40:56,680
Speaker 1: or feeling scared about falling in love with me. In general,

855
00:40:57,160 --> 00:40:59,000
Speaker 1: he's kind of shy, and I want to create a

856
00:40:59,040 --> 00:41:01,799
Speaker 1: safe space and welcoming space for him to proceed with

857
00:41:01,840 --> 00:41:05,160
Speaker 1: his emotions. I could benefit from hearing about this from

858
00:41:05,200 --> 00:41:08,879
Speaker 1: a guy's perspective, especially because I feel like our male

859
00:41:08,920 --> 00:41:12,520
Speaker 1: baddies think very differently. Oh, I love that about love

860
00:41:12,560 --> 00:41:15,319
Speaker 1: and girls in general. I know in my circles my

861
00:41:15,360 --> 00:41:18,080
Speaker 1: guy friends are extremely careful to say words like this too.

862
00:41:18,360 --> 00:41:21,320
Speaker 1: Thanks guys, love listening to pods, keep slaying love the baddies.

863
00:41:24,640 --> 00:41:26,960
Speaker 4: I think that this is a great reason as to

864
00:41:27,000 --> 00:41:29,160
Speaker 4: why guys need to ask her to be their girlfriend.

865
00:41:29,640 --> 00:41:32,919
Speaker 1: Really, she hasn't even been asked. Yeah, I know. And

866
00:41:33,400 --> 00:41:36,640
Speaker 1: so she said, I'm falling in love with you, and

867
00:41:36,680 --> 00:41:39,480
Speaker 1: he said, that's a scary word for me. I'm not

868
00:41:39,480 --> 00:41:42,720
Speaker 1: going to use that word today. Terrible response, worst response

869
00:41:42,760 --> 00:41:46,120
Speaker 1: you could ever ever say. Could you either love or

870
00:41:46,200 --> 00:41:48,799
Speaker 1: you don't? Sometime? How long did you say? How long

871
00:41:48,800 --> 00:41:54,040
Speaker 1: it's been several months now, several months. Yeah, it's long

872
00:41:54,160 --> 00:41:57,759
Speaker 1: enough to know I'm thinking like road trips, you've done

873
00:41:57,800 --> 00:42:00,839
Speaker 1: stuff you've done. I'm not giving him the benefit of doubt,

874
00:42:00,840 --> 00:42:03,960
Speaker 1: but say, for example, I'm just trying to untangle what

875
00:42:04,000 --> 00:42:07,359
Speaker 1: a mind of a man would be thinking. So you're

876
00:42:07,360 --> 00:42:09,640
Speaker 1: the girl, you come to me, we'd be having a

877
00:42:09,640 --> 00:42:12,480
Speaker 1: great time. I'm having a great time too. And you

878
00:42:12,520 --> 00:42:14,120
Speaker 1: say I think I'm falling in love with you, and

879
00:42:14,200 --> 00:42:16,000
Speaker 1: I don't know how I'm feeling, and you've put me

880
00:42:16,040 --> 00:42:18,479
Speaker 1: on the spot, not saying you did anything wrong. What

881
00:42:18,840 --> 00:42:21,400
Speaker 1: is the appropriate response when I don't know if I

882
00:42:21,400 --> 00:42:23,040
Speaker 1: love you or not. And it's not a no that

883
00:42:23,080 --> 00:42:24,440
Speaker 1: I don't love you, but I just don't know how

884
00:42:24,440 --> 00:42:26,359
Speaker 1: to feel, which is what he said. And I don't

885
00:42:26,400 --> 00:42:28,319
Speaker 1: think what he said is very good. But what can

886
00:42:28,360 --> 00:42:30,040
Speaker 1: you say when you just don't know how you're feeling,

887
00:42:30,040 --> 00:42:31,320
Speaker 1: which is what he's obviously doing.

888
00:42:31,600 --> 00:42:35,920
Speaker 4: Here's what okay for someone to have the confidence to

889
00:42:36,040 --> 00:42:38,600
Speaker 4: say I'm falling in love with you. They have either

890
00:42:38,920 --> 00:42:42,040
Speaker 4: read the room properly, or they have read the room

891
00:42:42,600 --> 00:42:46,920
Speaker 4: so far wrong that it's that Why would they say it?

892
00:42:47,239 --> 00:42:49,120
Speaker 1: You know what I mean? Yeah, And I want to

893
00:42:49,120 --> 00:42:51,800
Speaker 1: trust that the bad he has read it properly, because

894
00:42:51,880 --> 00:42:55,040
Speaker 1: I think one what she explained, they've done all the

895
00:42:55,040 --> 00:42:57,200
Speaker 1: boyfriend girlfriend's stuff. They've been they have a great time ago,

896
00:42:57,239 --> 00:42:59,479
Speaker 1: they've been on fucking camping road trips together and shit

897
00:43:00,120 --> 00:43:03,439
Speaker 1: like she has. I'm sorry, I just think that how

898
00:43:03,480 --> 00:43:06,040
Speaker 1: can you not know yet? How long are you going

899
00:43:06,120 --> 00:43:07,840
Speaker 1: to wait to know? And also when are you going

900
00:43:07,880 --> 00:43:10,000
Speaker 1: to ask her to be your girlfriend? Yeah? I think

901
00:43:10,000 --> 00:43:14,440
Speaker 1: that's wrong hanging out with a girl longer than a month, Really,

902
00:43:14,640 --> 00:43:14,920
Speaker 1: I do.

903
00:43:15,560 --> 00:43:17,880
Speaker 4: Honestly, I think that a couple of months in if

904
00:43:17,920 --> 00:43:20,040
Speaker 4: you feel strongly enough towards someone where you can say

905
00:43:20,040 --> 00:43:22,480
Speaker 4: I'm falling in love with you and they say that's

906
00:43:22,520 --> 00:43:25,239
Speaker 4: a scary word for me, I'll use it one day.

907
00:43:26,400 --> 00:43:29,239
Speaker 4: I honestly think i'd leave. It'd be I understand it

908
00:43:29,239 --> 00:43:31,600
Speaker 4: would be hard. But then that's how do you not

909
00:43:31,760 --> 00:43:32,239
Speaker 4: know yet?

910
00:43:32,680 --> 00:43:35,560
Speaker 1: Yeah? And I'm just thinking about like, actions do speak

911
00:43:35,600 --> 00:43:38,080
Speaker 1: louder than words. And it's so hard for this girl

912
00:43:38,160 --> 00:43:42,799
Speaker 1: because he's doing all the boyfriend things, but then he's

913
00:43:42,920 --> 00:43:45,319
Speaker 1: kind of scared to make the final commitment across the

914
00:43:45,360 --> 00:43:47,879
Speaker 1: line of saying will you be my girlfriend? And I'm

915
00:43:47,880 --> 00:43:49,920
Speaker 1: starting to fall in love with you too, which should

916
00:43:49,960 --> 00:43:53,040
Speaker 1: be such an exciting thing to experience together. Which he

917
00:43:53,400 --> 00:43:56,600
Speaker 1: sounds like he's doing. But he's just scared of the words. Dude.

918
00:43:56,600 --> 00:43:58,440
Speaker 1: It's just I don't know, it's just weird. It's like,

919
00:43:58,600 --> 00:44:01,279
Speaker 1: how old are they? So I assume they're young, Like yeah,

920
00:44:01,640 --> 00:44:04,480
Speaker 1: early twenties and early twenties something like that. How can

921
00:44:04,520 --> 00:44:06,680
Speaker 1: we help her though? Like so, I'm thinking in the

922
00:44:06,680 --> 00:44:09,040
Speaker 1: back of my mind, so break up with him. No,

923
00:44:09,160 --> 00:44:12,720
Speaker 1: I don't think he's a bad guy. Here's my thinking process.

924
00:44:12,760 --> 00:44:16,560
Speaker 1: He's not saying he's not saying I don't love you

925
00:44:16,640 --> 00:44:19,440
Speaker 1: because he has an ulterior automotive. He's saying it because

926
00:44:20,320 --> 00:44:22,759
Speaker 1: he doesn't want to. He's never commit before, and he's

927
00:44:22,760 --> 00:44:25,040
Speaker 1: scared of that because he's a shy dude. I'm trying

928
00:44:25,040 --> 00:44:26,680
Speaker 1: to read between the lines, and it's a bit relatable

929
00:44:26,680 --> 00:44:28,400
Speaker 1: for me, to be honest. I don't think he's a

930
00:44:28,440 --> 00:44:30,440
Speaker 1: trash guy and he's like thinking about other girls or

931
00:44:30,440 --> 00:44:33,720
Speaker 1: anything like that. I think he's just scared of committing

932
00:44:33,760 --> 00:44:35,720
Speaker 1: his emotions because he's never done that to anyone before.

933
00:44:36,520 --> 00:44:41,480
Speaker 1: So it's hard for the baddie because she shouldn't have

934
00:44:41,560 --> 00:44:45,120
Speaker 1: to wait for someone to be ready. But how can

935
00:44:45,160 --> 00:44:47,880
Speaker 1: you approach the situation where he to tell him how

936
00:44:48,000 --> 00:44:50,000
Speaker 1: she how it made her feel. Yeah, there we go,

937
00:44:50,320 --> 00:44:52,160
Speaker 1: that's good. Yeah, what you said.

938
00:44:52,120 --> 00:44:53,719
Speaker 4: He also has to say, like, yeah, she just has

939
00:44:53,760 --> 00:44:57,239
Speaker 4: to say it's just that's just I apologize.

940
00:44:57,239 --> 00:44:58,879
Speaker 1: But for the amount of effort we've both put in,

941
00:44:59,280 --> 00:45:01,759
Speaker 1: that's not secure enough for me. Yes, you have to

942
00:45:01,800 --> 00:45:02,560
Speaker 1: because it's not fair.

943
00:45:03,239 --> 00:45:04,919
Speaker 4: It's not fair at all, and especially if it hasn't

944
00:45:04,960 --> 00:45:06,920
Speaker 4: been brought up again, Like I think you need to

945
00:45:06,920 --> 00:45:08,920
Speaker 4: be like, I'm a human being. I need to be

946
00:45:08,960 --> 00:45:13,040
Speaker 4: treated with some respect in the sense of like I

947
00:45:13,080 --> 00:45:14,359
Speaker 4: need to know, yeah, one.

948
00:45:14,320 --> 00:45:18,000
Speaker 1: Hundred percent, you need security in the relationship together, and

949
00:45:18,400 --> 00:45:20,759
Speaker 1: like that's what that's kind of like I love you

950
00:45:20,800 --> 00:45:23,960
Speaker 1: and will you be my girlfriend? Is security. It's a

951
00:45:24,000 --> 00:45:26,600
Speaker 1: sense of like this is good. Yeah, you don't want

952
00:45:26,719 --> 00:45:30,080
Speaker 1: someone to feel yeah, I don't know. I just feel

953
00:45:30,120 --> 00:45:31,960
Speaker 1: like I look, he may not be a trash dude,

954
00:45:32,000 --> 00:45:34,239
Speaker 1: but he I do. I think that it's kind of

955
00:45:34,320 --> 00:45:37,040
Speaker 1: like a bit fucking selfish and disrespectful the way he's

956
00:45:37,040 --> 00:45:39,920
Speaker 1: gone about this. I think the line is, so you

957
00:45:40,000 --> 00:45:43,280
Speaker 1: tell him how you feel, and if he's not ready

958
00:45:43,320 --> 00:45:46,600
Speaker 1: to grow some balls or fear himself out, and he

959
00:45:46,680 --> 00:45:48,920
Speaker 1: has to make the decision of saying I'm starting the

960
00:45:48,920 --> 00:45:51,960
Speaker 1: fall in love of you two or not? Yeap, then

961
00:45:52,000 --> 00:45:53,840
Speaker 1: you have to make decision if he can't, yeah, if

962
00:45:53,880 --> 00:45:55,400
Speaker 1: you don't want to wait anymore for long for him,

963
00:45:55,400 --> 00:45:57,680
Speaker 1: which is fair enough, Like you owe it to yourself

964
00:45:57,719 --> 00:45:59,239
Speaker 1: to say, well, I'm not going to wait around you.

965
00:45:59,280 --> 00:46:00,520
Speaker 1: If you don't know what you doing, you need to

966
00:46:00,520 --> 00:46:02,560
Speaker 1: be fucking alone. Yeah kind of percent. Yeah, yeah, like

967
00:46:02,560 --> 00:46:04,280
Speaker 1: you didn't figure out yourself, Like, I'm not just gonna

968
00:46:04,320 --> 00:46:06,640
Speaker 1: wait with fucking waiting for you to figure shit out.

969
00:46:06,640 --> 00:46:09,120
Speaker 4: I couldn't agree more right last passing a spy exactly,

970
00:46:09,120 --> 00:46:10,480
Speaker 4: no legit, I couldn't agree more.

971
00:46:10,560 --> 00:46:13,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, there's no point waiting. But I think that's relatable

972
00:46:13,160 --> 00:46:17,879
Speaker 1: because a lot of young men I'm talking from experience here,

973
00:46:17,920 --> 00:46:21,239
Speaker 1: like I didn't know how to voice how I was

974
00:46:21,239 --> 00:46:24,920
Speaker 1: feeling properly. I wouldn't have said something like that, but

975
00:46:25,360 --> 00:46:27,080
Speaker 1: I've never been I was never able to convey how

976
00:46:27,120 --> 00:46:28,480
Speaker 1: I was feeling, and I was scared of commitment just

977
00:46:28,520 --> 00:46:30,040
Speaker 1: because I didn't know how I was feeling. It's not

978
00:46:30,040 --> 00:46:32,400
Speaker 1: an excuse for him, it's not fair on you. But

979
00:46:32,440 --> 00:46:33,879
Speaker 1: I'm just trying to like get in ahead of him

980
00:46:33,880 --> 00:46:35,759
Speaker 1: and be like he just needs a little kick in

981
00:46:35,800 --> 00:46:37,560
Speaker 1: the ass, a little bit which you shouldn't have to do.

982
00:46:37,880 --> 00:46:39,160
Speaker 1: Hopefully it comes to sensors.

983
00:46:39,280 --> 00:46:40,759
Speaker 4: I can see it being a hard thing to be

984
00:46:40,760 --> 00:46:45,480
Speaker 4: faced with, Like, you know, someone says I'm falling in

985
00:46:45,520 --> 00:46:46,960
Speaker 4: love with you, and if you don't know how you

986
00:46:47,000 --> 00:46:50,680
Speaker 4: feel yet, it's just a thing of I mean to

987
00:46:50,719 --> 00:46:53,319
Speaker 4: be like, I don't it just he could have said that, right,

988
00:46:53,760 --> 00:46:55,319
Speaker 4: and maybe it's not the wrong thing to say, but

989
00:46:55,320 --> 00:46:56,919
Speaker 4: it needs to be talked about a lot more in depth,

990
00:46:56,960 --> 00:46:58,960
Speaker 4: Like it can't be something that can be where he

991
00:46:59,000 --> 00:47:01,520
Speaker 4: gets to say that and then you kind of go, oh, okay,

992
00:47:02,239 --> 00:47:04,600
Speaker 4: and then you just keep moving on because now you're

993
00:47:04,760 --> 00:47:07,160
Speaker 4: very uncertain. It needs to be something that is talked

994
00:47:07,160 --> 00:47:09,440
Speaker 4: about a lot more like, Okay, well do you see yourself?

995
00:47:09,600 --> 00:47:11,680
Speaker 4: Is this something you know? I'm not going to sit

996
00:47:11,719 --> 00:47:12,600
Speaker 4: here and wait for you forever?

997
00:47:12,800 --> 00:47:15,120
Speaker 1: Like when will you be ready? Like because and that's

998
00:47:15,160 --> 00:47:16,320
Speaker 1: a valid fucking question.

999
00:47:16,960 --> 00:47:19,880
Speaker 4: And someone that's immature is going to say, don't push me, yeah,

1000
00:47:19,960 --> 00:47:22,600
Speaker 4: And then someone that's mature is going to say, I'm sorry.

1001
00:47:22,600 --> 00:47:24,640
Speaker 4: I've thought about it. I thought about what you said

1002
00:47:24,680 --> 00:47:26,640
Speaker 4: and it caught me off guard. But I actually am

1003
00:47:26,960 --> 00:47:28,200
Speaker 4: like I am falling in love with you, and it

1004
00:47:28,280 --> 00:47:29,799
Speaker 4: just was. It took me a minute to admit that

1005
00:47:29,800 --> 00:47:30,640
Speaker 4: to myself.

1006
00:47:30,320 --> 00:47:32,959
Speaker 1: And sometimes scared, sometimes you need time to reflect. Yeah,

1007
00:47:33,040 --> 00:47:35,040
Speaker 1: like it's the first time I've fallen in love with someone.

1008
00:47:35,120 --> 00:47:37,239
Speaker 1: I just wanted to make sure. Yeah, and that's the

1009
00:47:37,239 --> 00:47:39,160
Speaker 1: best thing you can hear. I'm scared of how I'm feeling.

1010
00:47:39,239 --> 00:47:41,000
Speaker 1: But I'm falling in love with you. I've never felt

1011
00:47:41,040 --> 00:47:42,600
Speaker 1: like this before for someone. That's probably a good thing

1012
00:47:42,600 --> 00:47:45,560
Speaker 1: to hear. That's what you want to hear. Not that's

1013
00:47:45,560 --> 00:47:47,200
Speaker 1: a scary word. Yeah, I think that.

1014
00:47:47,520 --> 00:47:50,680
Speaker 4: Yeah, look he's probably got some growing up to do,

1015
00:47:50,719 --> 00:47:51,880
Speaker 4: but I just think, yeah, you need to bring it

1016
00:47:52,000 --> 00:47:54,520
Speaker 4: up unfortunately and say it's just not I'm sorry, it's

1017
00:47:54,520 --> 00:47:55,759
Speaker 4: not good enough, Like it need to be more.

1018
00:47:55,840 --> 00:47:57,680
Speaker 1: You need to get an answer. Yeah, I need security

1019
00:47:58,160 --> 00:48:07,680
Speaker 1: in my relationship, all right, Jake. I'm excited for this

1020
00:48:07,920 --> 00:48:12,640
Speaker 1: next segment because I've wanted to do this for a

1021
00:48:12,680 --> 00:48:17,000
Speaker 1: really long time and it's sort of progressively been done

1022
00:48:17,040 --> 00:48:19,719
Speaker 1: in baby steps. Yes, which isn't a bad way to

1023
00:48:19,760 --> 00:48:25,160
Speaker 1: do things, but little bit of a storyline ages ago,

1024
00:48:25,200 --> 00:48:28,120
Speaker 1: me and Jake always thinking how can we grow the podcast,

1025
00:48:28,280 --> 00:48:30,400
Speaker 1: our personal brands and get more people to listen. And

1026
00:48:30,400 --> 00:48:32,440
Speaker 1: one of the ideas was to start our own shows.

1027
00:48:32,560 --> 00:48:36,040
Speaker 1: Jake started Passenger Princess. Yeah, going very good. Congratulations, thank

1028
00:48:36,080 --> 00:48:39,759
Speaker 1: you very much. I actually skipped this week. That's the

1029
00:48:39,800 --> 00:48:41,279
Speaker 1: bad thing about doing something on your own is you

1030
00:48:41,320 --> 00:48:43,839
Speaker 1: can skip it and you only have to feel bad

1031
00:48:43,880 --> 00:48:49,120
Speaker 1: about yourself. There's no accountability. And my idea was to

1032
00:48:49,160 --> 00:48:51,759
Speaker 1: do my own show called a Glass Half Full with

1033
00:48:51,880 --> 00:48:56,960
Speaker 1: Otti Clark, and the premise was having a potentially negative

1034
00:48:57,320 --> 00:49:01,040
Speaker 1: connotation or situation and flipping it's on its head and

1035
00:49:01,120 --> 00:49:03,680
Speaker 1: looking at it at it as glass half full as

1036
00:49:03,719 --> 00:49:07,440
Speaker 1: opposed to glass half empty. And what ended up happening

1037
00:49:07,480 --> 00:49:11,120
Speaker 1: was I tried to record one and how I wanted

1038
00:49:11,120 --> 00:49:16,080
Speaker 1: it to come across required a lot, a lot of research,

1039
00:49:16,840 --> 00:49:18,440
Speaker 1: which sounds like a little bit of an excuse, but

1040
00:49:18,600 --> 00:49:21,000
Speaker 1: the way I wanted to do that was taking away

1041
00:49:21,040 --> 00:49:23,600
Speaker 1: from time from the relatables. I didn't have the time

1042
00:49:23,600 --> 00:49:24,800
Speaker 1: to do it. I needed a bit of a minimal

1043
00:49:24,800 --> 00:49:26,799
Speaker 1: effort thing. So what I ended up doing was just

1044
00:49:26,880 --> 00:49:29,920
Speaker 1: making clips for my socials with the same sort of premise.

1045
00:49:30,640 --> 00:49:31,919
Speaker 1: But I still had in the back of my mind

1046
00:49:31,920 --> 00:49:33,640
Speaker 1: that I wanted to do Glass Half Full, and I

1047
00:49:33,680 --> 00:49:35,080
Speaker 1: was like, fuck it, let's do it for a segment

1048
00:49:35,120 --> 00:49:37,839
Speaker 1: on the podcast place to test it. I thought it

1049
00:49:37,880 --> 00:49:41,399
Speaker 1: was a good premise, like turning a negative situation into

1050
00:49:41,440 --> 00:49:44,360
Speaker 1: a positive one. Yep. And we tested it on Patreon

1051
00:49:44,400 --> 00:49:46,080
Speaker 1: a couple of weeks ago. Yeah it look it might

1052
00:49:46,080 --> 00:49:48,080
Speaker 1: have been a couple of months ago, maybe even, But

1053
00:49:48,440 --> 00:49:51,359
Speaker 1: I've come back with another glass half full situation. So

1054
00:49:51,640 --> 00:50:12,879
Speaker 1: this is glass half full with Ottie Clark. We are

1055
00:50:12,920 --> 00:50:17,439
Speaker 1: in a safe environment now. Okay, so today's glass half

1056
00:50:17,440 --> 00:50:24,839
Speaker 1: full situation. Jake is never being in a relationship. Okay. Yep,

1057
00:50:25,040 --> 00:50:27,640
Speaker 1: we get like this, Yep, we get a lot, a

1058
00:50:27,840 --> 00:50:30,719
Speaker 1: lot of dilemmas. And it starts with I'm nineteen, I'm

1059
00:50:30,719 --> 00:50:33,440
Speaker 1: twenty three, I'm thirty, and I've never had a first kiss.

1060
00:50:33,440 --> 00:50:35,920
Speaker 1: I've never been in a relationship. I've never had sex.

1061
00:50:36,239 --> 00:50:41,040
Speaker 1: Dot dot dot dot. I reckon fifty percent of the

1062
00:50:41,040 --> 00:50:44,240
Speaker 1: dilemmas could be done. Yes, yes, yes, And the glass

1063
00:50:44,320 --> 00:50:47,359
Speaker 1: half empty approach is not saying that it's a bad

1064
00:50:47,400 --> 00:50:50,200
Speaker 1: thing at all. It's like I've never kissed anyone before.

1065
00:50:50,239 --> 00:50:52,319
Speaker 1: I'm missing out, like I don't know what to do,

1066
00:50:52,520 --> 00:50:57,040
Speaker 1: like I'm falling behind, I'm falling behind, and in reality

1067
00:50:57,560 --> 00:50:59,880
Speaker 1: you are not. And here is why. Let's flip it

1068
00:50:59,880 --> 00:51:02,719
Speaker 1: on it's head, glass half full. Let's go. So. The

1069
00:51:02,760 --> 00:51:05,920
Speaker 1: first reason why never getting with anyone in any sort

1070
00:51:05,960 --> 00:51:09,120
Speaker 1: of context is good is because you find a stronger

1071
00:51:09,239 --> 00:51:11,839
Speaker 1: sense of self. You've had time to focus on your

1072
00:51:11,840 --> 00:51:16,919
Speaker 1: personal growth, hobbies and goals without any external romantic influencers

1073
00:51:17,000 --> 00:51:22,520
Speaker 1: shaping your identity. That fucking good one. There's no toxic

1074
00:51:22,600 --> 00:51:25,080
Speaker 1: man or female in there going I want you to

1075
00:51:25,080 --> 00:51:27,520
Speaker 1: be like this. You've got no trauma, Yes exactly, they

1076
00:51:27,520 --> 00:51:31,000
Speaker 1: have no bad experience. You stop stealing my thing. But

1077
00:51:31,280 --> 00:51:33,680
Speaker 1: a good example, actually, I think you're okay to talk

1078
00:51:33,680 --> 00:51:35,000
Speaker 1: about it. You talked about it on the pod before,

1079
00:51:35,080 --> 00:51:37,920
Speaker 1: is that Jake was growing when it was about nineteen

1080
00:51:38,000 --> 00:51:40,360
Speaker 1: or twenty. Yeah. I love to talk about Jake's life.

1081
00:51:42,560 --> 00:51:45,560
Speaker 1: What it is. His parents bought him a camera and

1082
00:51:45,600 --> 00:51:48,480
Speaker 1: he started making videos and as a friend I saw

1083
00:51:48,520 --> 00:51:50,480
Speaker 1: it and I thought that was cool. But his partner,

1084
00:51:50,520 --> 00:51:52,239
Speaker 1: you take it away. I don't want to talk about

1085
00:51:52,680 --> 00:51:55,520
Speaker 1: she said my girlfriend at a time, Yeah, got a

1086
00:51:55,520 --> 00:51:58,640
Speaker 1: big fight. And then she said something about the videos

1087
00:51:58,680 --> 00:52:02,080
Speaker 1: and how I'm changing, and I was like, no, I'm

1088
00:52:02,120 --> 00:52:06,359
Speaker 1: not changing. Yeah, literally did I know I was growing. Yah,

1089
00:52:06,520 --> 00:52:09,320
Speaker 1: I was figuring out something I enjoy. But I stopped

1090
00:52:09,320 --> 00:52:11,520
Speaker 1: doing it. Yeah, I put the camera in the drawer.

1091
00:52:11,920 --> 00:52:14,560
Speaker 1: I still have that camera. You do what camera? What cameras?

1092
00:52:14,719 --> 00:52:18,279
Speaker 1: It's like a sony something. Yeah, it's actually kind of

1093
00:52:18,280 --> 00:52:20,680
Speaker 1: a shit camera. But it was good for Yeah, you're

1094
00:52:20,719 --> 00:52:24,360
Speaker 1: only just studying. Yeah, but you stopped because of obviously

1095
00:52:24,440 --> 00:52:27,520
Speaker 1: other reasons influenced it, but external partners. That was the

1096
00:52:27,520 --> 00:52:32,040
Speaker 1: only reason. I mean, to be fair, if I really

1097
00:52:32,080 --> 00:52:33,560
Speaker 1: really wanted to do it, I guess I would have

1098
00:52:33,640 --> 00:52:35,680
Speaker 1: kept doing it and her opinion would have meant nothing. Yeah,

1099
00:52:35,680 --> 00:52:37,080
Speaker 1: but it did mean something because I was with her.

1100
00:52:37,080 --> 00:52:39,680
Speaker 1: I was dating her exactly. So the next class half

1101
00:52:39,800 --> 00:52:45,560
Speaker 1: full perspective is you potentially can have higher standards since

1102
00:52:45,600 --> 00:52:48,800
Speaker 1: you haven't settled with anyone. You can set intentionally higher

1103
00:52:48,840 --> 00:52:52,359
Speaker 1: standards because you have no starting point. I actually liked

1104
00:52:52,400 --> 00:52:53,480
Speaker 1: that you have nothing to compare to.

1105
00:52:53,680 --> 00:52:53,919
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1106
00:52:54,080 --> 00:52:57,080
Speaker 1: Actually you can get experience through your friends a yeah,

1107
00:52:57,239 --> 00:53:00,080
Speaker 1: fuck them. You don't need anyone learn from all your

1108
00:52:59,840 --> 00:53:05,040
Speaker 1: failing legit like take it as experienced. Yeah, literally, and honestly,

1109
00:53:05,880 --> 00:53:07,960
Speaker 1: very very very lucky. If some people were in the

1110
00:53:08,000 --> 00:53:10,399
Speaker 1: position where they fell in love with their first love.

1111
00:53:10,840 --> 00:53:14,359
Speaker 1: But like majority of people do, have to go through

1112
00:53:14,400 --> 00:53:16,319
Speaker 1: the motions and figure out what they like and don't

1113
00:53:16,440 --> 00:53:18,400
Speaker 1: like and break a couple of hearts. It just happens,

1114
00:53:18,719 --> 00:53:21,120
Speaker 1: that's what life is. But you have the opportunity to

1115
00:53:21,200 --> 00:53:23,960
Speaker 1: learn from everyone else and then take everything you learn

1116
00:53:24,040 --> 00:53:28,120
Speaker 1: into the first person and have the highest standards ever. Yep, Okay.

1117
00:53:28,160 --> 00:53:31,960
Speaker 1: The next one is you have independence and confidence. You've

1118
00:53:32,040 --> 00:53:34,560
Speaker 1: learned how to be happy on your own, which means

1119
00:53:34,600 --> 00:53:38,160
Speaker 1: any future relationships you will choose will not need your partner.

1120
00:53:38,200 --> 00:53:41,040
Speaker 1: It will be a choice as bro. Yeah, and I

1121
00:53:41,040 --> 00:53:43,480
Speaker 1: feel like growing up because everyone, even in school, you

1122
00:53:43,600 --> 00:53:45,880
Speaker 1: like as a boy, as a male. I'm sure girls

1123
00:53:45,920 --> 00:53:47,640
Speaker 1: have a similar sort of analogy. You're like, I just

1124
00:53:47,640 --> 00:53:49,680
Speaker 1: want to kiss a girl, Like I haven't got my

1125
00:53:49,680 --> 00:53:51,879
Speaker 1: first kiss, Jake, I want to cook up with a girl.

1126
00:53:51,880 --> 00:53:54,879
Speaker 1: I remember really wanting that first kiss. Yeah, you're all

1127
00:53:54,880 --> 00:53:57,000
Speaker 1: in a rush, but I'm looking back at it now

1128
00:53:57,040 --> 00:54:00,480
Speaker 1: like there's no rush at all. Like being independent, confident

1129
00:54:00,480 --> 00:54:03,560
Speaker 1: in yourself is so much more valuable than a first kiss,

1130
00:54:03,719 --> 00:54:08,600
Speaker 1: first route, first love. Root is the craziest word I

1131
00:54:08,640 --> 00:54:12,000
Speaker 1: mean sex to anyone Australian. When we had the girls

1132
00:54:12,080 --> 00:54:14,680
Speaker 1: bathroom on They asked us, like, how we talk about sex?

1133
00:54:14,719 --> 00:54:17,919
Speaker 1: We didn't say root, Yeah, that's such an Australian thing,

1134
00:54:18,560 --> 00:54:24,719
Speaker 1: or we missed there, we missed the terrible. The next

1135
00:54:24,719 --> 00:54:28,200
Speaker 1: one is non toxic relationship patterns. Many people fall into

1136
00:54:28,280 --> 00:54:31,680
Speaker 1: unhealthy relationship cycles. Since you're starting fresh, you can build

1137
00:54:31,719 --> 00:54:35,760
Speaker 1: healthy habits from the beginning. Love it, same sort of premise. Okay,

1138
00:54:35,800 --> 00:54:39,280
Speaker 1: The next one more time for friendships and passions. Without

1139
00:54:39,320 --> 00:54:44,759
Speaker 1: relationship distractions, You've likely to developed deep friendships and pursuits

1140
00:54:45,000 --> 00:54:47,319
Speaker 1: about things you've loved because you've got so much more

1141
00:54:47,320 --> 00:54:51,600
Speaker 1: time for yourself. I actually will second that, because when

1142
00:54:51,640 --> 00:54:54,160
Speaker 1: you start dating someone, it's the best thing. Like it

1143
00:54:54,280 --> 00:54:57,360
Speaker 1: is good, right, it feels amazing, It genuinely feels amazing.

1144
00:54:57,800 --> 00:55:01,640
Speaker 1: But it is a time consuming thing. Yeah, and they

1145
00:55:01,640 --> 00:55:04,719
Speaker 1: are they literally right before your eyes, become like your

1146
00:55:04,719 --> 00:55:06,600
Speaker 1: best friend one hundred percent. And so then all of

1147
00:55:06,600 --> 00:55:09,919
Speaker 1: your friends still your friends, still your best friends, right,

1148
00:55:10,239 --> 00:55:12,520
Speaker 1: but they do get slightly put on the back burner

1149
00:55:12,560 --> 00:55:12,799
Speaker 1: a bit.

1150
00:55:12,840 --> 00:55:17,439
Speaker 4: Yeah, family, everyone, because this, like the feeling is it's yeah.

1151
00:55:17,120 --> 00:55:18,799
Speaker 1: And I think the best time to get into a

1152
00:55:18,840 --> 00:55:23,480
Speaker 1: relationship is when you've experienced everything of life. Your independence,

1153
00:55:23,520 --> 00:55:25,759
Speaker 1: you're confident in yourself, and then you come into the

1154
00:55:25,840 --> 00:55:30,560
Speaker 1: relationship at this really good point where you don't miss

1155
00:55:30,600 --> 00:55:32,359
Speaker 1: any of that. You haven't you don't have this what

1156
00:55:32,440 --> 00:55:34,919
Speaker 1: if in the back of your head facts. The next

1157
00:55:34,920 --> 00:55:37,760
Speaker 1: one is Jake's sort of mentioned it. No emotional baggage,

1158
00:55:38,680 --> 00:55:42,960
Speaker 1: you don't carry any past relationship drama, heartbreak, trust issues,

1159
00:55:43,320 --> 00:55:46,719
Speaker 1: and you have a great point to start a future relationship. Yeah.

1160
00:55:46,760 --> 00:55:48,760
Speaker 1: I love that, which is a harsh reality of dating,

1161
00:55:48,800 --> 00:55:51,120
Speaker 1: because that's what happens a lot of people, like two

1162
00:55:51,200 --> 00:55:54,799
Speaker 1: people intertwining and dating each other. It's just like it's

1163
00:55:54,840 --> 00:55:57,880
Speaker 1: always going to come with something like bad out of it. No,

1164
00:55:57,920 --> 00:55:58,360
Speaker 1: I agree.

1165
00:55:58,640 --> 00:55:59,120
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1166
00:55:59,160 --> 00:56:03,160
Speaker 1: And my last one is excitement for the future. Your

1167
00:56:03,160 --> 00:56:07,160
Speaker 1: first relationship, whenever it happens, will be new and exciting

1168
00:56:07,480 --> 00:56:10,440
Speaker 1: and you get to experience it without any baggage and

1169
00:56:10,480 --> 00:56:14,560
Speaker 1: nothing getting in the way. Ah. I like that. Ay, Yeah,

1170
00:56:14,920 --> 00:56:17,760
Speaker 1: that's I like that. Like that topic for Glass Artful.

1171
00:56:17,800 --> 00:56:19,719
Speaker 1: Thank you very that's a good topic, thank you very much.

1172
00:56:19,800 --> 00:56:23,920
Speaker 1: And I wanted to say, obviously, anyone who's in a relationship,

1173
00:56:24,800 --> 00:56:28,640
Speaker 1: like don't take any bad offense to that, because everyone's

1174
00:56:28,800 --> 00:56:32,959
Speaker 1: journey to finding love or getting a root. Having sex

1175
00:56:33,040 --> 00:56:34,799
Speaker 1: is uniquely yours and you can do it in which

1176
00:56:34,800 --> 00:56:37,279
Speaker 1: other way you see fit. But for anyone who is

1177
00:56:37,320 --> 00:56:41,440
Speaker 1: single never had or experience anything like that, embrace it.

1178
00:56:41,440 --> 00:56:44,719
Speaker 1: It's a gift in its own way. And looking back

1179
00:56:44,760 --> 00:56:47,880
Speaker 1: at like any of my previous relationships, I wouldn't change it.

1180
00:56:47,960 --> 00:56:50,799
Speaker 1: But if I took the time and didn't have this

1181
00:56:50,840 --> 00:56:53,879
Speaker 1: little urge to get with a girl, kiss a girl,

1182
00:56:53,920 --> 00:56:56,120
Speaker 1: do anything like that, because that's what society thinks you

1183
00:56:56,160 --> 00:56:57,880
Speaker 1: should do. I remember when eight nine, and it is

1184
00:56:57,880 --> 00:57:00,600
Speaker 1: the stupidest thing ever. We all cared about body like

1185
00:57:00,760 --> 00:57:03,680
Speaker 1: I've had three bodies, how many of you add? La la,

1186
00:57:03,760 --> 00:57:07,799
Speaker 1: la la, and maturing a little bit and growing like

1187
00:57:08,719 --> 00:57:12,600
Speaker 1: being so confident independent in yourself is the best thing

1188
00:57:12,760 --> 00:57:14,520
Speaker 1: ever and more valuable than any root ever.

1189
00:57:14,719 --> 00:57:18,800
Speaker 4: Yeah facts, I mean, yeah, anyone that's in a relationship,

1190
00:57:18,840 --> 00:57:19,680
Speaker 4: don't take offense to it.

1191
00:57:19,760 --> 00:57:20,160
Speaker 1: Yeah I was.

1192
00:57:20,200 --> 00:57:23,200
Speaker 4: I dated people all through high school and it's just

1193
00:57:23,240 --> 00:57:24,480
Speaker 4: so happened. It's just the way I did it.

1194
00:57:24,560 --> 00:57:27,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, I wouldn't change it is what it is, Yeah, exactly.

1195
00:57:27,560 --> 00:57:34,160
Speaker 1: So that was Class half one.

1196
00:57:34,720 --> 00:57:38,200
Speaker 4: All right, everybody, thank you very much for listening. That

1197
00:57:38,320 --> 00:57:40,400
Speaker 4: was a very fun episode. We are going to call

1198
00:57:40,480 --> 00:57:43,520
Speaker 4: one of the lovely baddies today. We are calling Harmony.

1199
00:57:43,640 --> 00:57:48,000
Speaker 4: Let's do it, h Harmony.

1200
00:57:48,360 --> 00:57:50,200
Speaker 1: It's Jake and ODDI from the Relatables. How are you

1201
00:57:52,960 --> 00:57:56,280
Speaker 1: Jake and ODDI from the Relatables? Oh my god, Hi,

1202
00:57:58,680 --> 00:57:59,320
Speaker 1: how's it going?

1203
00:58:00,000 --> 00:58:00,360
Speaker 3: The hell?

1204
00:58:00,480 --> 00:58:02,200
Speaker 1: Are you good?

1205
00:58:02,240 --> 00:58:03,880
Speaker 5: I'm just at work, currently.

1206
00:58:05,120 --> 00:58:07,840
Speaker 4: Currently at works. Sorry, sorry to bother. We wanted you

1207
00:58:07,880 --> 00:58:09,520
Speaker 4: to sign off the episode for us today.

1208
00:58:10,320 --> 00:58:13,520
Speaker 1: Put you on the sport. How do you want me

1209
00:58:13,560 --> 00:58:16,920
Speaker 1: to start it? You can sign it off so you

1210
00:58:16,960 --> 00:58:19,560
Speaker 1: can give some advice if you want to spit some facts.

1211
00:58:19,560 --> 00:58:21,880
Speaker 1: So if you just want to say, stay bad, whatever

1212
00:58:21,920 --> 00:58:22,280
Speaker 1: you think.

1213
00:58:23,000 --> 00:58:27,080
Speaker 5: Ah, here's some advice. Get into a good work environment

1214
00:58:27,080 --> 00:58:29,400
Speaker 5: before you lose your mind go crazy.

1215
00:58:31,200 --> 00:58:36,080
Speaker 1: That's some good advice. Thanks so much. Honestly, that's good.

1216
00:58:36,120 --> 00:58:41,840
Speaker 1: That's great. Have a good day. So yaya, what a legend?

1217
00:58:41,840 --> 00:58:56,880
Speaker 1: Stay mad? Oh that's weird. You're still here again? You're

1218
00:58:56,960 --> 00:59:00,880
Speaker 1: still here? Ah, you must be a real baddie.

1219
00:59:00,960 --> 00:59:04,160
Speaker 4: Well, this is what happened last week on Patreon Enjoy

1220
00:59:04,560 --> 00:59:06,280
Speaker 4: coming up on relatables Patreon.

1221
00:59:06,560 --> 00:59:08,760
Speaker 1: Oh, I like who we get these one dilemmas? Boys?

1222
00:59:09,080 --> 00:59:13,080
Speaker 1: Your resident baddie here help? So my ex and I

1223
00:59:13,120 --> 00:59:15,440
Speaker 1: broke up two months ago. I loved him, but he

1224
00:59:15,480 --> 00:59:17,280
Speaker 1: was dealing with too much and he felt he had

1225
00:59:17,280 --> 00:59:20,880
Speaker 1: no choice but to walk away. Now suddenly lazy, I

1226
00:59:20,880 --> 00:59:24,640
Speaker 1: don't know he's going through. I feel this overwhelming urge

1227
00:59:24,680 --> 00:59:27,640
Speaker 1: to reach out to my guy best friend. She calls

1228
00:59:27,640 --> 00:59:29,760
Speaker 1: it GBF the whole time, so I'm going to use

1229
00:59:29,840 --> 00:59:32,640
Speaker 1: that again. Let me break it down. At the end

1230
00:59:32,680 --> 00:59:34,919
Speaker 1: of twenty twenty three, I was talking to a guy.

1231
00:59:35,200 --> 00:59:38,520
Speaker 1: It got serious. I knew that if I pursued that relationship,

1232
00:59:38,560 --> 00:59:42,040
Speaker 1: I couldn't keep my friendship with my GBF, who, by

1233
00:59:42,080 --> 00:59:44,400
Speaker 1: the way, I low key had a crush on. Oh okay,

1234
00:59:44,440 --> 00:59:47,520
Speaker 1: here we go. No, no, no, she was actually really healthy.

1235
00:59:47,760 --> 00:59:50,720
Speaker 1: So like a mature queen, I met up with my GBF,

1236
00:59:50,800 --> 00:59:53,280
Speaker 1: admitted my feelings and told him we should stop talking,

1237
00:59:53,840 --> 00:59:57,040
Speaker 1: and then plot twists. He hits me with in quotes,

1238
00:59:58,080 --> 01:00:05,440
Speaker 1: I have feelings for you, dude, don't deliver it like that. Okay,

1239
01:00:05,560 --> 01:00:08,320
Speaker 1: but it didn't end there. He basically told me I

1240
01:00:08,360 --> 01:00:11,440
Speaker 1: had to choose him or the other guy. Fair and

1241
01:00:11,480 --> 01:00:13,760
Speaker 1: as much as it shadowed me, I knew my GBF

1242
01:00:14,000 --> 01:00:16,920
Speaker 1: wasn't mature enough, nor someone my family would ever accept

1243
01:00:16,960 --> 01:00:21,960
Speaker 1: of So I chose the other guy fair heart broken.

1244
01:00:23,440 --> 01:00:27,080
Speaker 1: Fast forward to relationships later, and my mind still drifts

1245
01:00:27,160 --> 01:00:30,040
Speaker 1: back to my GBF. No matter what I do, I

1246
01:00:30,080 --> 01:00:33,920
Speaker 1: can't shake him. Now. He is my dilemma. Would it

1247
01:00:33,960 --> 01:00:36,720
Speaker 1: be totally out of line to reach out just for closure?

1248
01:00:37,440 --> 01:00:39,920
Speaker 1: I don't want a relationship, I just want to see him,

1249
01:00:40,040 --> 01:00:42,280
Speaker 1: But I also know I don't need to see him,

1250
01:00:42,560 --> 01:00:45,680
Speaker 1: And with my big solo Europe trips planned in three months,

1251
01:00:46,000 --> 01:00:49,040
Speaker 1: I might need to stay single. But why can't I

1252
01:00:49,040 --> 01:00:52,040
Speaker 1: stop thinking about him? Love you guys, the bits you've

1253
01:00:52,040 --> 01:00:54,800
Speaker 1: been a breath of fresh air during this break up recovery,

1254
01:00:55,000 --> 01:00:58,280
Speaker 1: help a battie out. I think that the reason your

1255
01:00:58,320 --> 01:01:02,560
Speaker 1: brain keeps coming back is because it was an ultimatum

1256
01:01:02,560 --> 01:01:03,880
Speaker 1: and you were forced to make a choice.

1257
01:01:04,280 --> 01:01:08,200
Speaker 4: Yes, not because you made a choice just on your own.

1258
01:01:09,440 --> 01:01:12,240
Speaker 4: So I think it's kind of just like you know,

1259
01:01:12,560 --> 01:01:16,880
Speaker 4: your your pinky toe was still in that door the whole.

1260
01:01:16,680 --> 01:01:20,360
Speaker 1: Time, A little bit. Yeah you didn't go full balls deep, Yeah, yeah,

1261
01:01:20,920 --> 01:01:25,320
Speaker 1: well overies deep into the fucking I was gonna say, though,

1262
01:01:25,360 --> 01:01:27,920
Speaker 1: she said closure, but what do you need closure? For

1263
01:01:28,440 --> 01:01:32,600
Speaker 1: closure mean ball deep in her? Yeah, I'm just going

1264
01:01:32,640 --> 01:01:37,680
Speaker 1: to say what is close, So closure is a conversation

1265
01:01:37,800 --> 01:01:41,120
Speaker 1: with him, which I don't see getting anywhere. But also,

1266
01:01:41,160 --> 01:01:44,040
Speaker 1: because you're single, why can't she sleep with him? Yeah,

1267
01:01:44,040 --> 01:01:46,480
Speaker 1: that's initially I was thinking of a little toxic like

1268
01:01:47,320 --> 01:01:49,400
Speaker 1: just fuck it, hit him up, sleep with him for

1269
01:01:49,400 --> 01:01:51,040
Speaker 1: a couple of months, and then go to Europe single.

1270
01:01:51,120 --> 01:01:57,080
Speaker 1: Proove's right, Yeah, like you're not best friendly. Yeah, honestly,

1271
01:01:57,440 --> 01:02:03,720
Speaker 1: and I don't see anything wrong with sleeping with him.

1272
01:02:00,000 --> 01:02:00,040
Speaker 2: S