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Speaker 1: This podcast is recorded on gaddigal Land, Always was, always

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Speaker 1: will be Aboriginal Land. Heytis, I'm out and not Sau

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Speaker 1: and welcome to Two broath Chicks, the show that shares

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Speaker 1: life lessons and tips to help make you rich in life.

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Speaker 1: And today I'm flying solo. SA and I have decided

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Speaker 1: to go separate ways. She's no longer going to be

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Speaker 1: doing the podcut and kidding. She's just sick. Aha. Did

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Speaker 1: that scare anyone? I hope not. Sal has got some

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Speaker 1: Germys and we have our live show on Saturday, so

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Speaker 1: we are not risking it. By the time this comes out,

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Speaker 1: we'll have done the live show, but we just can't

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Speaker 1: risk spreading the germs and the little baby has to rest,

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Speaker 1: so you're stuck with just me today. Lucky you chicks.

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Speaker 1: I'm feeling a bit naked and I'm feeling a bit

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Speaker 1: vulnerable Without Sau on the couch today, I feel like

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Speaker 1: I'm talking to the voyage and I have no one

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Speaker 1: smiling back at me. But we sold your on because

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Speaker 1: we didn't want to leave you without an episode for

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Speaker 1: this week. And it's also Halloween, so we're going into

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Speaker 1: the theme of scary. I'm scared I'm all alone. We're

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Speaker 1: gonna talk the things you need to stop being scared

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Speaker 1: of in your twenties, thirties and beyond. Because I wanted

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Speaker 1: to do some Halloween esque kind of episode that wasn't

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Speaker 1: just ghost stories, but I did put a story up

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Speaker 1: on Instagram asking for your scariest stories, and we'll do

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Speaker 1: that in the Brooch Chicks hotline. So maybe we'll have

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Speaker 1: a ghost story or maybe it'll be about a man.

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Speaker 1: Both of those terrifying dating and ghosts on the same

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Speaker 1: level of scary to me, you know. But before we

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Speaker 1: get into it, we have to do our Obsession of

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Speaker 1: the week. But it's just my obsession. I can call

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Speaker 1: us out. Why did I call us out? I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: call her and I'm gonna tell her that she's live

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Speaker 1: on air and she asked to give me her obsession

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Speaker 1: of the week because that's like my highlight of these episodes. Helloy, Hi,

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Speaker 1: you're live on air, So what's your obsession of the week?

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Speaker 1: Obsession of the week? Do you know what? I actually

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Speaker 1: finished reading The Housemaid Secret, So the sequel to The

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Speaker 1: Housemaid What did you think?

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Speaker 2: Yes, I thought that it was probably not as good

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Speaker 3: And obviously picked up that something wasn't quite right, but

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Speaker 3: then the twist that ended up happening, and all of

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Speaker 1: Really enjoyed it. That's a great obsession. Thank you so

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Speaker 1: much for your contribution, Sally. Oh my god, I've been

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Speaker 3: Time caller, so I really appreciate you had me on

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Speaker 3: and I love you so much.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, thank you so much. We always really

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Speaker 1: ensure that we make time for fans. So yeah, I'm

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Speaker 1: going to be blocking this number after just so that

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Speaker 1: you don't get a parasocial relationship with me. Okay, love

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Speaker 1: you bye, love you.

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Speaker 1: Let me say okay. So, my obsession of the week

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Speaker 1: is that Lulu Lemon has just won the trademark battle

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Speaker 1: world because I'm so interested in it, but Lululemon is

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Speaker 1: So I've written down four things that are now on

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Speaker 1: on this show and in life, the fear of being

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Speaker 1: This was something that I severely struggled with in my

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Speaker 1: shitty movie mm Chef's Kiss. I love it. That didn't

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Speaker 1: What's happened. It's fine, I like myself, but I love

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Speaker 1: are going to think I'm cringe. Like it's get to

430
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Speaker 1: be so embarrassing. Like if I'm in public and I've

431
00:24:49,480 --> 00:24:53,360
Speaker 1: got to film something, I'm like, oh, you know. Recently,

432
00:24:53,400 --> 00:24:56,360
Speaker 1: like whenever we do TV or do interviews, we filmed

433
00:24:57,119 --> 00:25:00,200
Speaker 1: an ad for Master Foods. Right, it was a fool

434
00:25:00,240 --> 00:25:04,240
Speaker 1: like full show, like there was crew, there was audio,

435
00:25:04,280 --> 00:25:07,200
Speaker 1: there was video, there was a director, and I don't act.

436
00:25:07,760 --> 00:25:11,480
Speaker 1: I assured him to be honest, like, no, that's being

437
00:25:11,480 --> 00:25:15,359
Speaker 1: mean to myself. But I was so nervous, and I like,

438
00:25:15,440 --> 00:25:18,199
Speaker 1: at the start, I was so within myself because I

439
00:25:18,280 --> 00:25:20,760
Speaker 1: was so embarrassed that I was going to be bad

440
00:25:20,880 --> 00:25:23,480
Speaker 1: or I was going to be cringed because I was trying,

441
00:25:24,040 --> 00:25:26,320
Speaker 1: you know, like I was trying to do something like

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00:25:26,359 --> 00:25:29,360
Speaker 1: that I didn't have a lot of experience doing. But

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00:25:29,400 --> 00:25:31,120
Speaker 1: by the end of it, I was like, you know what,

444
00:25:31,440 --> 00:25:34,560
Speaker 1: fuck it balls to the wall. I'm just gonna have fun.

445
00:25:34,800 --> 00:25:37,800
Speaker 1: But I really liked that quote. Is that Embarrassment is

446
00:25:37,840 --> 00:25:41,800
Speaker 1: an under explored motion, and I feel like I want

447
00:25:41,840 --> 00:25:44,439
Speaker 1: to explore it more. Not in the way that I'm like,

448
00:25:45,320 --> 00:25:47,359
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go run naked through the streets, even though

449
00:25:47,400 --> 00:25:50,320
Speaker 1: that sounds like a lot of fun, but it's to

450
00:25:50,400 --> 00:25:53,840
Speaker 1: do the things you're scared of doing, even if it

451
00:25:53,960 --> 00:25:56,720
Speaker 1: means maybe someone will think it's cringe, or maybe it

452
00:25:56,760 --> 00:25:59,320
Speaker 1: might be a bit cringe. Every confident person has had

453
00:25:59,359 --> 00:26:03,280
Speaker 1: a cringe era and they didn't quit during it, you know,

454
00:26:03,880 --> 00:26:07,880
Speaker 1: So post the thing, wear the outfit, say what you mean,

455
00:26:08,160 --> 00:26:12,240
Speaker 1: and ask yourself, would you rather be embarrassed or regretful?

456
00:26:12,640 --> 00:26:16,760
Speaker 1: Because embarrassment fades in minutes, but regret sticks around for years.

457
00:26:17,160 --> 00:26:20,440
Speaker 1: So the more you practice being seen, whether it's messy

458
00:26:20,560 --> 00:26:24,000
Speaker 1: or silly or real, the less power cringe has over you.

459
00:26:24,520 --> 00:26:29,359
Speaker 1: And remember, it's only embarrassing if you're embarrassed. I'm going

460
00:26:29,440 --> 00:26:33,119
Speaker 1: to wrap this with a little segment which is my

461
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Speaker 1: Braver by bedtime checklist. So it's four questions to ask

462
00:26:38,480 --> 00:26:41,280
Speaker 1: yourself before you go to bed to prove that you

463
00:26:41,440 --> 00:26:44,160
Speaker 1: were braver than when you woke up that day. So

464
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Speaker 1: it's one did I ask for one concrete thing I

465
00:26:47,760 --> 00:26:53,520
Speaker 1: want today? Two? Did I publish or do something imperfect? Three?

466
00:26:54,200 --> 00:26:57,960
Speaker 1: Did I choose one step over endless planning? And by

467
00:26:57,960 --> 00:27:00,639
Speaker 1: that I mean did you start the thing? Did you

468
00:27:01,040 --> 00:27:03,240
Speaker 1: take initiative in something that you want to do that

469
00:27:03,280 --> 00:27:05,600
Speaker 1: you've been a little bit scared to do rather than

470
00:27:05,640 --> 00:27:09,240
Speaker 1: being like planning and planning and planning and not actually

471
00:27:09,240 --> 00:27:12,240
Speaker 1: doing it? And number four and finally, did I let

472
00:27:12,520 --> 00:27:16,160
Speaker 1: one thing end without over explaining? If you hit two

473
00:27:16,160 --> 00:27:19,600
Speaker 1: out of four, you're officially scarier than your furies, which

474
00:27:19,640 --> 00:27:22,840
Speaker 1: is a massive sleigh. And another little piece of homework

475
00:27:22,840 --> 00:27:24,560
Speaker 1: that I want you to do and that could be

476
00:27:24,560 --> 00:27:26,520
Speaker 1: helpful to overcome. The things that you should stop being

477
00:27:26,560 --> 00:27:30,480
Speaker 1: scared of is the thirty minute courage sprint timer on

478
00:27:31,359 --> 00:27:35,679
Speaker 1: phone in another room, do the highest dread task. First,

479
00:27:36,160 --> 00:27:39,159
Speaker 1: celebrate with something trivial and delightful. It literally could be

480
00:27:39,160 --> 00:27:41,680
Speaker 1: going and sitting in the sun in a park, or

481
00:27:41,720 --> 00:27:44,000
Speaker 1: it could be a little snack, or it could be

482
00:27:44,000 --> 00:27:47,520
Speaker 1: your favorite song. You know, your brain can't actually tell

483
00:27:47,520 --> 00:27:52,720
Speaker 1: the difference between anxiety and excitement, at least not physiologically,

484
00:27:53,400 --> 00:27:59,040
Speaker 1: so both emotions trigger almost identical chemical and physical responses.

485
00:27:59,640 --> 00:28:02,520
Speaker 1: So your heart races, your palms get a bit sweaty.

486
00:28:02,600 --> 00:28:06,639
Speaker 1: Maybe your pupils dilate and your body releases adrenaline and

487
00:28:06,760 --> 00:28:11,000
Speaker 1: cortisol to heighten alertness. Your nervous system is activated and

488
00:28:11,119 --> 00:28:15,639
Speaker 1: ready for action, but your body can just label it

489
00:28:15,680 --> 00:28:18,639
Speaker 1: as danger rather than an opportunity. It's kind of like

490
00:28:18,680 --> 00:28:21,720
Speaker 1: what we were saying earlier. So, according to research from

491
00:28:21,880 --> 00:28:27,640
Speaker 1: Harvard Business School, when people consciously reframe anxiety as excitement,

492
00:28:28,359 --> 00:28:32,480
Speaker 1: like I'm excited instead of I'm nervous, their performance in

493
00:28:32,520 --> 00:28:39,520
Speaker 1: stressful situations like public speaking or interviews significantly improves. That's

494
00:28:39,560 --> 00:28:43,800
Speaker 1: because you're not trying to suppress the energy, you're redirecting it.

495
00:28:44,040 --> 00:28:47,240
Speaker 1: When you try to suppress the energy, it actually amplifies

496
00:28:47,400 --> 00:28:52,320
Speaker 1: the anxiety instead redirect it. The amygdala, which is your

497
00:28:52,320 --> 00:28:56,840
Speaker 1: brain's emotional alarm system, fires either way, but how your

498
00:28:56,880 --> 00:29:02,360
Speaker 1: prefrontal cortex interprets that signal determines your experience. So next

499
00:29:02,400 --> 00:29:05,760
Speaker 1: time your stomach flips before like a big moment, don't

500
00:29:05,880 --> 00:29:11,120
Speaker 1: rush to calm down. Relabel it. Say this feeling means

501
00:29:11,120 --> 00:29:15,000
Speaker 1: I care or my body's gearing up for something exciting.

502
00:29:15,760 --> 00:29:18,760
Speaker 1: You're not lying to yourself, You're teaching your brain a

503
00:29:18,840 --> 00:29:22,560
Speaker 1: new story about the same sensation. Over time, this tiny

504
00:29:22,600 --> 00:29:27,080
Speaker 1: mental shift rewires your stress response, turning panic into power.

505
00:29:27,360 --> 00:29:30,440
Speaker 1: And this is exactly what I've used the entire tour

506
00:29:30,800 --> 00:29:33,600
Speaker 1: that we've been doing with live shows, because the whole

507
00:29:33,640 --> 00:29:35,800
Speaker 1: time we're getting ready with like hair and makeup and

508
00:29:35,800 --> 00:29:39,719
Speaker 1: photographers and tech and all that stuff, every single person

509
00:29:39,760 --> 00:29:42,719
Speaker 1: asks me at least once, are you feeling nervous? Hey

510
00:29:42,880 --> 00:29:46,640
Speaker 1: feeling The very first live show we did, I was, Oh,

511
00:29:46,680 --> 00:29:50,080
Speaker 1: I could have thrown up. I was so nervous, so nervous.

512
00:29:50,120 --> 00:29:54,320
Speaker 1: And then one of my best friends texted me and said, remember,

513
00:29:54,480 --> 00:29:58,280
Speaker 1: your brain doesn't know the difference between nervous and excited,

514
00:29:59,040 --> 00:30:02,200
Speaker 1: So stomp your feet, eat and get excited. And I

515
00:30:02,240 --> 00:30:04,480
Speaker 1: did that, and I stomped my feet on the ground

516
00:30:04,520 --> 00:30:06,920
Speaker 1: and I got really excited, and I wound myself up

517
00:30:06,960 --> 00:30:08,520
Speaker 1: and I was like, oh, yeah, I'm ready to go.

518
00:30:08,760 --> 00:30:11,040
Speaker 1: And that is what I do now every time before

519
00:30:11,040 --> 00:30:14,680
Speaker 1: a live show, those butterflies in my tummy. I'm excited,

520
00:30:14,840 --> 00:30:17,440
Speaker 1: I tell myself, I'm excited. It's okay to be a

521
00:30:17,440 --> 00:30:19,880
Speaker 1: little bit nervous. Sometimes it's okay to not be like

522
00:30:20,040 --> 00:30:23,200
Speaker 1: I'm king of the world, I'm so confident. But you're

523
00:30:23,240 --> 00:30:25,920
Speaker 1: also allowed to be excited for the things that make

524
00:30:25,960 --> 00:30:29,600
Speaker 1: you nervous too. So that's been the thing that absolutely

525
00:30:29,680 --> 00:30:33,440
Speaker 1: changed my life. And yeah, those are my four things

526
00:30:33,440 --> 00:30:36,400
Speaker 1: you need to stop being scared of. So on that note,

527
00:30:36,520 --> 00:30:39,320
Speaker 1: let's get into the bro Chicks Hotline. So, if you're

528
00:30:39,320 --> 00:30:42,280
Speaker 1: new to the bro Chicks Hotline, this is our new

529
00:30:42,320 --> 00:30:48,640
Speaker 1: little segment where you chicks can voice note in your tales,

530
00:30:48,800 --> 00:30:56,240
Speaker 1: your diabolical confessions, or advice or dilemmas. So let's lock in.

531
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Speaker 1: This first one is anonymous, so let's see what she

532
00:30:59,720 --> 00:31:00,040
Speaker 1: has to.

533
00:31:00,720 --> 00:31:05,080
Speaker 4: I was dating this guy for about six months to

534
00:31:05,120 --> 00:31:11,320
Speaker 4: a year, and he moved in quite quickly because he

535
00:31:12,840 --> 00:31:17,680
Speaker 4: had just left his wife. A massive oversight on the

536
00:31:17,720 --> 00:31:21,560
Speaker 4: red flag on my end, I will happully admit.

537
00:31:21,320 --> 00:31:24,360
Speaker 1: That chick we love a self away claim. He always

538
00:31:24,400 --> 00:31:26,520
Speaker 1: stayed up really late, and.

539
00:31:28,280 --> 00:31:30,520
Speaker 4: I could see him from my bed on the balcony.

540
00:31:30,600 --> 00:31:32,840
Speaker 4: He would always just be on the balcony on his phone,

541
00:31:32,960 --> 00:31:34,440
Speaker 4: and I used to lay in bed and look at

542
00:31:34,480 --> 00:31:36,320
Speaker 4: him and think, God, what is he doing.

543
00:31:37,680 --> 00:31:38,400
Speaker 2: So bizarre?

544
00:31:39,240 --> 00:31:42,680
Speaker 4: And since I was in my very early twenties, I

545
00:31:42,720 --> 00:31:48,040
Speaker 4: promised myself I would never look through another partner's phone.

546
00:31:48,080 --> 00:31:51,000
Speaker 4: And then one day I just had this urge. I

547
00:31:51,080 --> 00:31:54,720
Speaker 4: woke up and it was It's so bizarre to explain,

548
00:31:54,760 --> 00:31:58,840
Speaker 4: but it's like, I just had this urge and I

549
00:31:58,960 --> 00:31:59,400
Speaker 4: just had.

550
00:31:59,280 --> 00:32:02,280
Speaker 1: To check his phone. Oh my god, tell me.

551
00:32:03,200 --> 00:32:06,160
Speaker 4: I discovered that he had grinder and he had been

552
00:32:06,280 --> 00:32:08,200
Speaker 4: leaving the house in the middle of the night to

553
00:32:09,800 --> 00:32:13,640
Speaker 4: go in a sleep with various numerous men. There was videos,

554
00:32:13,800 --> 00:32:16,920
Speaker 4: There was more truth than what I needed.

555
00:32:17,160 --> 00:32:20,120
Speaker 1: I kind of feel a bit sad because that person

556
00:32:20,240 --> 00:32:24,760
Speaker 1: obviously wasn't living their authentic life. They felt like they

557
00:32:24,800 --> 00:32:29,480
Speaker 1: had to hide that about themselves. But on the other end,

558
00:32:30,280 --> 00:32:33,160
Speaker 1: it's also not an excuse to be cheating on someone,

559
00:32:33,360 --> 00:32:36,680
Speaker 1: Like it's not an excuse to be dishonest with someone

560
00:32:36,960 --> 00:32:40,840
Speaker 1: or move into their apartment and then be literally cheating

561
00:32:40,840 --> 00:32:42,600
Speaker 1: on them in the middle of the night. Whatever your

562
00:32:42,600 --> 00:32:47,560
Speaker 1: sexual orientation is diabolical behavior. But I hope they have

563
00:32:48,280 --> 00:32:51,680
Speaker 1: found themselves and the strength to be who they authentically are.

564
00:32:52,760 --> 00:32:55,960
Speaker 1: Can I just say A woman's intuition is never wrong.

565
00:32:56,320 --> 00:32:58,960
Speaker 1: A woman's intuition is always so fucking on the money.

566
00:32:59,320 --> 00:33:01,960
Speaker 1: If you get this gut feeling about someone and you're like,

567
00:33:03,160 --> 00:33:06,880
Speaker 1: I don't trust you, nine times out of ten, it's right, Like,

568
00:33:07,120 --> 00:33:08,840
Speaker 1: if you get a gut feeling about someone that you're

569
00:33:08,880 --> 00:33:10,800
Speaker 1: dating or a friend that you're like, I don't know

570
00:33:10,800 --> 00:33:14,160
Speaker 1: if they're really my friend, trust it. Trust it. There's

571
00:33:14,200 --> 00:33:17,520
Speaker 1: a reason why women were branded witches because we know,

572
00:33:18,040 --> 00:33:20,800
Speaker 1: we know what's going on. We've only got time one more,

573
00:33:21,000 --> 00:33:22,400
Speaker 1: so we'll run this one.

574
00:33:22,720 --> 00:33:26,640
Speaker 5: I've been single for a while and on the dating app,

575
00:33:26,720 --> 00:33:30,720
Speaker 5: so I was spiping and came across a good looking guy.

576
00:33:31,680 --> 00:33:36,480
Speaker 5: The only issue is that about ten years ago, my

577
00:33:36,560 --> 00:33:40,680
Speaker 5: friend at a one night stand with him. Now I

578
00:33:40,760 --> 00:33:44,560
Speaker 5: know there's no feeling, there's no concerns regarding the guy

579
00:33:44,680 --> 00:33:48,080
Speaker 5: she's moved on as a new partner that she lives

580
00:33:48,120 --> 00:33:53,320
Speaker 5: with gloves very much. I'm wondering whether it's worth matching

581
00:33:53,400 --> 00:33:54,840
Speaker 5: with him given.

582
00:33:55,160 --> 00:33:59,960
Speaker 1: This one friend. Every time one of us girls.

583
00:33:59,680 --> 00:34:02,080
Speaker 5: Seem to get a new partner or anything like that,

584
00:34:02,240 --> 00:34:05,560
Speaker 5: it's actually becomes territorial over the men. And I know

585
00:34:05,640 --> 00:34:08,560
Speaker 5: it's not about them, but it could be things like, oh,

586
00:34:08,600 --> 00:34:12,680
Speaker 5: that was my you know, boyfriend in grade three, or

587
00:34:14,120 --> 00:34:17,800
Speaker 5: we used to take avs together when we were in kindergarten.

588
00:34:17,320 --> 00:34:19,360
Speaker 1: Or something like that, and always.

589
00:34:19,160 --> 00:34:22,160
Speaker 5: Makes an effort to know that you know that she's

590
00:34:22,560 --> 00:34:25,279
Speaker 5: closer with him or has known him for longer than

591
00:34:25,440 --> 00:34:26,680
Speaker 5: us that are dating them.

592
00:34:26,680 --> 00:34:29,160
Speaker 1: So I'm just wondering what do I do? Is it

593
00:34:29,239 --> 00:34:31,040
Speaker 1: worth the hassle.

594
00:34:32,280 --> 00:34:35,640
Speaker 4: Help the girl out?

595
00:34:36,080 --> 00:34:38,480
Speaker 1: See I'm scared for this segment because Sal's always the

596
00:34:38,520 --> 00:34:41,600
Speaker 1: voice of reason in this So I'm probably just gonna

597
00:34:41,600 --> 00:34:42,960
Speaker 1: sit here and give a really bad a bus but

598
00:34:43,680 --> 00:34:46,920
Speaker 1: lock in. Okay, I think it depends. I think it

599
00:34:47,000 --> 00:34:51,920
Speaker 1: depends how long ago your friends slept with this person

600
00:34:51,920 --> 00:34:54,080
Speaker 1: that you want to match with. Right, if it was

601
00:34:54,160 --> 00:34:57,680
Speaker 1: like ten years ago, it's one night. It was ten

602
00:34:57,760 --> 00:35:02,680
Speaker 1: years ago, has no stake or claim to that. I

603
00:35:02,719 --> 00:35:05,360
Speaker 1: think personally, I would always just still raise it with

604
00:35:05,400 --> 00:35:07,600
Speaker 1: the person. I think if it was like a year ago,

605
00:35:07,880 --> 00:35:10,680
Speaker 1: I'd probably just stay clear. It's probably not worth a

606
00:35:10,760 --> 00:35:12,960
Speaker 1: headache because, as you've said, like she has this thing

607
00:35:13,000 --> 00:35:16,440
Speaker 1: of an attachment to people that she has a history with,

608
00:35:16,480 --> 00:35:20,040
Speaker 1: whether it was platonic or romantic, And so I think

609
00:35:20,080 --> 00:35:23,759
Speaker 1: it depends on how much it would affect you. If

610
00:35:23,760 --> 00:35:26,439
Speaker 1: she was upset, if this is like your best friend, right,

611
00:35:26,960 --> 00:35:30,160
Speaker 1: you probably would bring it to her and I would say, like,

612
00:35:31,680 --> 00:35:33,920
Speaker 1: this has happened, He's come up on my hinge. You

613
00:35:33,960 --> 00:35:38,399
Speaker 1: guys might not even match. Ah, I wish Soal was here. Look,

614
00:35:38,400 --> 00:35:40,080
Speaker 1: there's two ways you can go about this. You can

615
00:35:40,120 --> 00:35:42,600
Speaker 1: match and see if you match, then you take it

616
00:35:42,640 --> 00:35:44,440
Speaker 1: to it. You guys might not, no, because then what

617
00:35:44,480 --> 00:35:46,840
Speaker 1: if he tells her, Oh my god, this is stressful.

618
00:35:46,880 --> 00:35:50,680
Speaker 1: I'm gonna call Soal. I'm phoning a friend. He Hi, Okay,

619
00:35:50,760 --> 00:35:53,200
Speaker 1: you're back on air. I needed to phone a friend

620
00:35:53,280 --> 00:35:57,640
Speaker 1: for advice with the chicks. Okay, So here's the situation.

621
00:35:58,280 --> 00:36:01,960
Speaker 1: This chick has called in and she is on the

622
00:36:02,040 --> 00:36:05,160
Speaker 1: dating app and there's this really hot guy that she

623
00:36:05,320 --> 00:36:10,200
Speaker 1: wants to match with, and the issue is that one

624
00:36:10,200 --> 00:36:13,319
Speaker 1: of her friends had a one night stand with him

625
00:36:13,920 --> 00:36:17,400
Speaker 1: a while ago. She's now in like a happy relationship,

626
00:36:17,760 --> 00:36:21,000
Speaker 1: loved up, stunning, we don't know how long ago she

627
00:36:21,080 --> 00:36:24,000
Speaker 1: slept with him, and like this friend is again in

628
00:36:24,000 --> 00:36:28,520
Speaker 1: a relationship, loves her life, but apparently can sometimes get

629
00:36:28,640 --> 00:36:32,799
Speaker 1: territorial about the guys that people date, as in like

630
00:36:32,800 --> 00:36:34,680
Speaker 1: if her friend's dating someone, she's like, oh, he was

631
00:36:34,719 --> 00:36:37,440
Speaker 1: my boyfriend in year three, or like we used to

632
00:36:37,480 --> 00:36:40,080
Speaker 1: take baths together in kindy, Like she always needs to

633
00:36:40,120 --> 00:36:41,960
Speaker 1: make sure that it's like, oh, I've known them for longer,

634
00:36:42,080 --> 00:36:44,920
Speaker 1: or I've got a close relationship. So a question is like,

635
00:36:44,960 --> 00:36:48,319
Speaker 1: do I match with this guy or do I just

636
00:36:48,440 --> 00:36:48,759
Speaker 1: leave it?

637
00:36:49,520 --> 00:36:51,680
Speaker 2: Couldn't you just talk to her friend about it first?

638
00:36:52,040 --> 00:36:53,040
Speaker 1: That's what I said.

639
00:36:53,680 --> 00:36:56,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, like, I've matched with this guy, and I know

640
00:36:56,120 --> 00:36:58,759
Speaker 2: that you had a thing with him, but that's in

641
00:36:58,800 --> 00:37:01,600
Speaker 2: the past, and like, you know, I've been kind of

642
00:37:01,600 --> 00:37:04,400
Speaker 2: shoot out of luck on the apps recently, and I

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Speaker 2: do think he's really cute, Like it's all in the past.

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Speaker 1: Would you mind? Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, either way, the worst case scenario, and in that

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Speaker 2: situation is she says no, like I would find that weird.

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Speaker 2: I'd be uncomfortable, which is like annoying, But if you

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Speaker 2: want to avoid it, yeah, yeah, it's kind of like

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Speaker 2: the worst case scenario of either of these situations is

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Speaker 2: that you don't get to go on a date with

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Speaker 2: this guy or you don't like swipe on this guy.

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Speaker 2: And then the best case scenario is that she's like,

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Speaker 2: oh yeah, babe, like it's so fine, it's in the past,

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Speaker 2: and then you can shoot your shot.

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Speaker 1: I said, what if she just matched him, because what

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Speaker 1: you don't even know? What if you don't even match together?

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Speaker 1: Yeah that's true, but no, I think it's good. I

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00:37:49,280 --> 00:37:53,200
Speaker 1: think she should ask first and just like raise it,

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Speaker 1: like like especially the friend.

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Speaker 2: Yeah history.

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Speaker 1: I also think if it was like a year ago

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Speaker 1: that they slept together, don't do it. It has to

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Speaker 1: be like at least a minimum of like I reckon

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Speaker 1: like five years ago that they slept like you were

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Speaker 1: basically a different person. Literally, Yeah, if it was a

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Speaker 1: high school boyfriend, it doesn't matter. Just say hey, just

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00:38:17,360 --> 00:38:23,320
Speaker 1: heads up, yeah exactly, Yeah, okay, thanks, Al, weren't you nappy?

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Speaker 1: Go to bed? Love you bye? Just cut her off. Well,

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Speaker 1: they have chicks from Auntie's ale her thialf. If I

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Speaker 1: was in this position, I would be nervous about pissing

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Speaker 1: off my friend and like, no guy's ever really worth that,

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Speaker 1: So I would probably just message your friend and say, hey,

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Speaker 1: is this cool? Like who knows if it'll even event

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Speaker 1: you wake to anything. But I'm single and I'm horny,

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Speaker 1: so yeah, not me. You And Well, that is a

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Speaker 1: wrap for today's episode of Two Broke Chicks. Thank you

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Speaker 1: so much for having us in your ear holes. We

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Speaker 1: lalla la love to be here, and Sal will be

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Speaker 1: back on the couch with me next week because this

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Speaker 1: was terrifying I hope it wasn't too horrible for you all.

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Speaker 1: I know we all miss our Missa too. Thank you

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Speaker 1: so much for having me, Love you chicks, see you

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Speaker 1: on Thursday. We've got so invested coming on the podcast

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Speaker 1: and I'm really excited. Bye,