1 00:00:05,921 --> 00:00:13,361 Speaker 1: Apologie production. I need your advice. Are you okay? What happened? 2 00:00:14,001 --> 00:00:16,601 Speaker 1: Promise it won't be too much. Bring it in. 3 00:00:17,921 --> 00:00:24,201 Speaker 2: Welcome to our Bestie segment Gold. 4 00:00:25,201 --> 00:00:28,761 Speaker 1: This is the place for you. Hello everybody, welcome back 5 00:00:28,801 --> 00:00:31,200 Speaker 1: to a best episode. Happy Friday. I hope you've got 6 00:00:31,201 --> 00:00:32,961 Speaker 1: a beautiful weekend plan, but you get straight into it. 7 00:00:32,961 --> 00:00:34,961 Speaker 1: We've got a juce you one today. Absolutely, let's get 8 00:00:34,961 --> 00:00:36,200 Speaker 1: stuck in and get into it. 9 00:00:36,561 --> 00:00:38,481 Speaker 2: I recently had a two and a half month connection 10 00:00:38,521 --> 00:00:41,120 Speaker 2: that really caught me off guard. I developed strong feelings 11 00:00:41,241 --> 00:00:44,120 Speaker 2: very quickly. Even from the first date. Something did actually 12 00:00:44,161 --> 00:00:46,801 Speaker 2: feel different. This isn't a pattern of mine. It takes 13 00:00:46,801 --> 00:00:48,480 Speaker 2: a lot for me to let people in. But we 14 00:00:48,601 --> 00:00:51,201 Speaker 2: just felt so naturally connected and it felt so right, 15 00:00:51,721 --> 00:00:53,921 Speaker 2: And because I've never felt this way before, I started 16 00:00:53,961 --> 00:00:57,000 Speaker 2: to believe he might be in brackets the one. At 17 00:00:57,001 --> 00:00:59,041 Speaker 2: the same time, I knew I needed to observe his 18 00:00:59,161 --> 00:01:01,600 Speaker 2: character over time, and I was doing that. We were 19 00:01:01,641 --> 00:01:05,681 Speaker 2: taking things slowly. He was respectful, thoughtful and genuine consider it, 20 00:01:06,081 --> 00:01:08,201 Speaker 2: But looking back, I realized I hadn't yet seen how 21 00:01:08,200 --> 00:01:11,961 Speaker 2: he handled discomfort or challenging situations. Still, I had a 22 00:01:12,000 --> 00:01:14,481 Speaker 2: really good feeling about us. The last time we saw 23 00:01:14,521 --> 00:01:16,601 Speaker 2: each other, he was talking about plans all the way 24 00:01:16,601 --> 00:01:19,241 Speaker 2: through Christmas Eve, saying he'd hope we still be together 25 00:01:19,280 --> 00:01:21,361 Speaker 2: by then. He asked what kind of milk I drank, 26 00:01:21,401 --> 00:01:22,680 Speaker 2: so that he could have it ready in the fridge 27 00:01:22,681 --> 00:01:25,601 Speaker 2: for next time. He was planning dates, swimming with whales, 28 00:01:25,681 --> 00:01:29,080 Speaker 2: introducing me to his friends, bike rides, pottery, the whole thing. 29 00:01:29,521 --> 00:01:32,000 Speaker 2: We walked around his property in Pigerbean a few times, 30 00:01:32,000 --> 00:01:33,961 Speaker 2: and the last time he told me he could imagine 31 00:01:34,041 --> 00:01:36,200 Speaker 2: us doing the same thing when we were eighty. He 32 00:01:36,280 --> 00:01:38,920 Speaker 2: kept saying how right it all felt, and honestly it did. 33 00:01:39,161 --> 00:01:43,641 Speaker 2: I felt safe, seen, chosen, and pursued. I felt like 34 00:01:43,721 --> 00:01:46,161 Speaker 2: I really mattered and I trust him. Through that, I 35 00:01:46,200 --> 00:01:48,961 Speaker 2: opened myself fully in this connection, like big time opened. 36 00:01:49,121 --> 00:01:52,561 Speaker 2: I felt grounded, so present, deeply loving, even if the 37 00:01:52,601 --> 00:01:55,081 Speaker 2: words hadn't been said yet, and the energy between us 38 00:01:55,201 --> 00:01:57,361 Speaker 2: was full of warmth and care, and it really allowed 39 00:01:57,361 --> 00:01:59,761 Speaker 2: myself to really be in it. And then completely out 40 00:01:59,801 --> 00:02:04,561 Speaker 2: of nowhere, he ended things, oh by text. When I 41 00:02:04,561 --> 00:02:06,161 Speaker 2: asked if we could speak about it, he told me 42 00:02:06,161 --> 00:02:08,121 Speaker 2: he wouldn't show up for a conversation. He said he 43 00:02:08,201 --> 00:02:10,161 Speaker 2: knew he would crumble and agree to things he wasn't 44 00:02:10,161 --> 00:02:12,361 Speaker 2: ready for out of guilt and pressure, rather than from 45 00:02:12,361 --> 00:02:16,520 Speaker 2: a place of clarity. That absolutely shattered me. I was blindsided. 46 00:02:16,921 --> 00:02:19,721 Speaker 2: It's been incredibly painful not to be given the space 47 00:02:19,761 --> 00:02:22,321 Speaker 2: to speak, to process, or to bring any kind of closure. 48 00:02:22,960 --> 00:02:25,441 Speaker 2: We exchanged a few texts, but after my last two 49 00:02:25,481 --> 00:02:28,881 Speaker 2: messages he completely ghosted me no reply. His reason for 50 00:02:29,001 --> 00:02:30,881 Speaker 2: ending it was that he needed to work on himself. 51 00:02:31,321 --> 00:02:33,240 Speaker 2: He said he didn't realize how much the connection would 52 00:02:33,240 --> 00:02:35,201 Speaker 2: bring up within him, but it did, and that he 53 00:02:35,240 --> 00:02:37,400 Speaker 2: needed to focus on healing that he didn't feel he 54 00:02:37,441 --> 00:02:39,800 Speaker 2: could do it whilst also giving a relationship the attention 55 00:02:39,881 --> 00:02:42,281 Speaker 2: it deserved. I do know that he was feeling a 56 00:02:42,321 --> 00:02:44,241 Speaker 2: lot about us, but in a good way, and I 57 00:02:44,240 --> 00:02:45,921 Speaker 2: felt the same, and it was also a lot for 58 00:02:46,001 --> 00:02:48,081 Speaker 2: me too. But he was also feeling a lot within 59 00:02:48,121 --> 00:02:50,121 Speaker 2: himself and his own stuff, and it seemed to be 60 00:02:50,121 --> 00:02:53,560 Speaker 2: come too much. Instead of facing a conversation or even 61 00:02:53,601 --> 00:02:56,481 Speaker 2: asking to slow things down, he avoided it all together. 62 00:02:56,960 --> 00:02:58,761 Speaker 2: Now I'm sitting with all of it, trying to understand 63 00:02:58,800 --> 00:03:01,120 Speaker 2: how to move forward. I don't want this to happen again. 64 00:03:01,401 --> 00:03:04,041 Speaker 2: I feel hesitant to date scared to open myself like 65 00:03:04,121 --> 00:03:06,761 Speaker 2: that again. I want to protect myself better next time. 66 00:03:06,800 --> 00:03:09,120 Speaker 2: And I keep asking myself did I allow myself to 67 00:03:09,161 --> 00:03:11,841 Speaker 2: feel too much too soon? And yet a part of 68 00:03:11,841 --> 00:03:14,201 Speaker 2: me also knows that I really let myself be present, 69 00:03:14,281 --> 00:03:16,960 Speaker 2: I let myself hope, and I let myself feel something real. 70 00:03:17,441 --> 00:03:19,081 Speaker 2: It just turns out that he couldn't mean me there, 71 00:03:19,481 --> 00:03:23,041 Speaker 2: not in the long run anyway. Anyway, he's overwhelm gotten 72 00:03:23,041 --> 00:03:24,681 Speaker 2: the way of him treating me with the care enclosure 73 00:03:24,721 --> 00:03:27,761 Speaker 2: I deserved. So did I allow myself to feel too 74 00:03:27,841 --> 00:03:28,560 Speaker 2: much too soon? 75 00:03:29,001 --> 00:03:32,601 Speaker 1: Ah? That's so sad. I can imagine how freaking hard 76 00:03:32,641 --> 00:03:35,401 Speaker 1: that would be, so wanting someone that you can't have. 77 00:03:35,521 --> 00:03:38,921 Speaker 1: And then for me, the lack of communication and not 78 00:03:38,961 --> 00:03:41,521 Speaker 1: even having a face to face conversation personally, I find 79 00:03:41,521 --> 00:03:44,121 Speaker 1: that really disrespectful. Like, I know he's scared, I know 80 00:03:44,161 --> 00:03:46,761 Speaker 1: he's feeling a lot, but I think just the decency 81 00:03:46,801 --> 00:03:48,681 Speaker 1: didn't actually have a face face conversation. So I'm really 82 00:03:48,721 --> 00:03:51,121 Speaker 1: sorry that you didn't get to have that. By the sounds, 83 00:03:51,121 --> 00:03:52,441 Speaker 1: I don't think you would have a pressure on him, 84 00:03:52,441 --> 00:03:54,401 Speaker 1: but you could have spoken about it and created safety 85 00:03:54,441 --> 00:03:56,561 Speaker 1: for him to talk about whatever it was. Coming up, 86 00:03:57,081 --> 00:03:59,841 Speaker 1: but moving forward, I would hate to think that you'll 87 00:03:59,841 --> 00:04:02,961 Speaker 1: close yourself off and not give I open your whole heart, 88 00:04:03,001 --> 00:04:05,281 Speaker 1: because all you're gonna do is prevent yourself from feeling 89 00:04:05,321 --> 00:04:09,161 Speaker 1: all those beautiful feelings and creating the deep connection that 90 00:04:09,241 --> 00:04:12,321 Speaker 1: you know you desire. So don't do anything differently. All 91 00:04:12,361 --> 00:04:13,961 Speaker 1: you can do. The best thing you can do is 92 00:04:14,001 --> 00:04:16,401 Speaker 1: just be your full self. And also, if you hold 93 00:04:16,481 --> 00:04:19,321 Speaker 1: parts of yourself back to you're not showing up authentically. Yes, 94 00:04:19,321 --> 00:04:21,001 Speaker 1: it's almost like putting a bit of a mask on 95 00:04:21,081 --> 00:04:23,121 Speaker 1: and then they are getting to know this version of you, 96 00:04:23,601 --> 00:04:25,521 Speaker 1: but not fully. Yeah, so that's how you kind of 97 00:04:25,521 --> 00:04:27,440 Speaker 1: starting your relationship, which is a bit rocky to me. 98 00:04:27,921 --> 00:04:32,201 Speaker 1: We're just all about transparency, being the biggest, boldest version 99 00:04:32,201 --> 00:04:34,400 Speaker 1: of yourself, and the right people are gonna love everything 100 00:04:34,401 --> 00:04:36,801 Speaker 1: about you, and they will do everything in their power 101 00:04:36,880 --> 00:04:38,841 Speaker 1: to make sure they never leave you. Yeah, they would 102 00:04:38,880 --> 00:04:40,760 Speaker 1: never do anything to jeopardize it. They won't do anything 103 00:04:40,761 --> 00:04:42,881 Speaker 1: to break your trust. Like I truly believe that. 104 00:04:42,961 --> 00:04:44,960 Speaker 2: Hey as well, it sounded like you said that you 105 00:04:44,961 --> 00:04:47,481 Speaker 2: took things slow, and you did say like I was 106 00:04:47,521 --> 00:04:50,601 Speaker 2: observing his character, I was learning how he navigated things, 107 00:04:50,961 --> 00:04:53,440 Speaker 2: and you also equally allowed yourself to feel what it 108 00:04:53,481 --> 00:04:54,481 Speaker 2: was that was coming up for you. And I think 109 00:04:54,521 --> 00:04:57,041 Speaker 2: that's a really beautiful thing andful to be honest, Like, 110 00:04:57,201 --> 00:04:58,801 Speaker 2: this is the risk that you take when you open 111 00:04:58,841 --> 00:05:00,641 Speaker 2: your heart to somebody. Yeah, could have been anyone, It 112 00:05:00,681 --> 00:05:03,041 Speaker 2: doesn't matter. You know, we don't really know necessarily the 113 00:05:03,081 --> 00:05:05,681 Speaker 2: timeline of what this kind of like unfold for you. 114 00:05:06,161 --> 00:05:07,921 Speaker 1: But this is the risk you take. 115 00:05:07,961 --> 00:05:10,241 Speaker 2: And sometimes, like opening your heart up to somebody, you 116 00:05:10,281 --> 00:05:12,881 Speaker 2: do have the risk of getting hurt. But the good 117 00:05:12,880 --> 00:05:16,001 Speaker 2: thing is that you actually allowed yourself to explore that, 118 00:05:16,121 --> 00:05:18,201 Speaker 2: because if you didn't and you held back, like what 119 00:05:18,281 --> 00:05:20,761 Speaker 2: actually said, like, you wouldn't have been able to open yourself. 120 00:05:20,801 --> 00:05:22,520 Speaker 2: You wouldn't have been able to allow those feelings in 121 00:05:22,601 --> 00:05:25,361 Speaker 2: allow yourself to enjoy it. And yes, he wasn't able 122 00:05:25,361 --> 00:05:27,121 Speaker 2: to meet you in the way that you deserved or 123 00:05:27,161 --> 00:05:29,960 Speaker 2: needed at the time, but that one hundred percent says 124 00:05:30,001 --> 00:05:33,321 Speaker 2: more about his capacity and where he was at in 125 00:05:33,440 --> 00:05:37,640 Speaker 2: his point in his journey versus where you are at. Yeah, 126 00:05:38,440 --> 00:05:40,561 Speaker 2: and better to know that you can give all of 127 00:05:40,601 --> 00:05:43,841 Speaker 2: yourself and give yourself one hundred percent fully and then 128 00:05:43,880 --> 00:05:46,201 Speaker 2: that person show hey, I'm not able to meet you 129 00:05:46,281 --> 00:05:47,361 Speaker 2: even if you didn't say. 130 00:05:47,201 --> 00:05:49,961 Speaker 1: It, you can't control how someone's going to show up 131 00:05:50,041 --> 00:05:52,801 Speaker 1: or respond. And even if this was just six weeks 132 00:05:52,880 --> 00:05:54,841 Speaker 1: or six months in a relationship, guess what, this can 133 00:05:54,961 --> 00:05:57,761 Speaker 1: also happen at sixteen years. True, this can also happen 134 00:05:57,801 --> 00:06:00,961 Speaker 1: at thirty six years. Anyone is silly to think that, yes, 135 00:06:01,001 --> 00:06:02,561 Speaker 1: we want to find the one and be with them forever. 136 00:06:02,681 --> 00:06:04,201 Speaker 1: I've been seen for a very long time. But you 137 00:06:04,281 --> 00:06:06,681 Speaker 1: never know what's going to happen. Yeah, the only thing 138 00:06:06,681 --> 00:06:08,520 Speaker 1: you know is that things will change, yes, And can 139 00:06:08,561 --> 00:06:11,641 Speaker 1: you adapt and flow together and grow together? Or does 140 00:06:11,761 --> 00:06:14,401 Speaker 1: chapter's close and this chapter closed earlier for a reason 141 00:06:15,201 --> 00:06:18,201 Speaker 1: and also no after I don't know. My personal belief 142 00:06:18,241 --> 00:06:20,761 Speaker 1: is most people put on a bit of a mask 143 00:06:20,801 --> 00:06:22,761 Speaker 1: at the front. They're putting the best footfall because they're 144 00:06:22,761 --> 00:06:24,281 Speaker 1: trying to woo you in. They're trying to impress you. 145 00:06:24,320 --> 00:06:25,921 Speaker 1: They want you to fall for them because they like 146 00:06:25,961 --> 00:06:28,081 Speaker 1: you and they care for what you think. And then 147 00:06:28,081 --> 00:06:30,281 Speaker 1: a couple of months in you start to see how 148 00:06:30,281 --> 00:06:33,121 Speaker 1: they respond in conflict, how they are when they're moody, 149 00:06:33,121 --> 00:06:35,200 Speaker 1: how they are when they're tired, what kind of habits 150 00:06:35,201 --> 00:06:36,721 Speaker 1: they have, are they mess you like there's so many 151 00:06:36,721 --> 00:06:38,641 Speaker 1: little things. You start to get to know the real person. 152 00:06:39,201 --> 00:06:41,561 Speaker 1: The mask comes off, and then you get to decide like, oh, 153 00:06:41,641 --> 00:06:44,520 Speaker 1: are we aligned. Yes, it's not striving for perfection because 154 00:06:44,561 --> 00:06:47,001 Speaker 1: no one has that. But obviously his mask came off 155 00:06:47,041 --> 00:06:48,921 Speaker 1: and he wasn't ready to meet you there and have 156 00:06:49,041 --> 00:06:50,841 Speaker 1: that level of depth. That felt scary for him. And 157 00:06:50,841 --> 00:06:53,361 Speaker 1: maybe he's a bit of good and avoidant for whatever reason. 158 00:06:53,361 --> 00:06:55,640 Speaker 1: He's got his own journey to go on. But don't 159 00:06:55,681 --> 00:06:57,281 Speaker 1: you dare close your heart because that's one of the 160 00:06:57,320 --> 00:06:59,961 Speaker 1: most beautiful things about you. And if you want that 161 00:07:00,041 --> 00:07:02,400 Speaker 1: kind of depth in and connection in a relationship, you 162 00:07:02,440 --> 00:07:03,721 Speaker 1: have to give all of you. And it's the risk 163 00:07:03,801 --> 00:07:06,601 Speaker 1: you take, whether it's together six weeks or sixteen years. Like, 164 00:07:06,641 --> 00:07:09,801 Speaker 1: it's just that's relationships, isn't it. You can't just have 165 00:07:09,801 --> 00:07:10,841 Speaker 1: a wall up the whole time. 166 00:07:11,041 --> 00:07:13,481 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's so true. And also you know you've asked 167 00:07:13,521 --> 00:07:16,401 Speaker 2: the question, have I did I let myself feel too 168 00:07:16,481 --> 00:07:18,681 Speaker 2: much too soon? The only person who knows that is. 169 00:07:18,641 --> 00:07:19,961 Speaker 1: You, well, who makes the rules on that. 170 00:07:20,041 --> 00:07:21,881 Speaker 2: Yeah, one hundred percent where it's a lie, but you 171 00:07:21,921 --> 00:07:24,641 Speaker 2: know when like, yes, that's true, that's very true. Actually, 172 00:07:24,681 --> 00:07:27,761 Speaker 2: but you know when like you're maybe you know, was 173 00:07:27,801 --> 00:07:29,881 Speaker 2: it that you made him your everything very soon? 174 00:07:30,121 --> 00:07:30,681 Speaker 1: Right? You know what I mean? 175 00:07:30,681 --> 00:07:32,441 Speaker 2: Like if you look at it from that perspective of 176 00:07:32,481 --> 00:07:34,961 Speaker 2: like your friendship, feel, yeah, do you feel like you've 177 00:07:35,041 --> 00:07:37,001 Speaker 2: rushed into it in terms of like, oh, this isn't 178 00:07:37,001 --> 00:07:39,201 Speaker 2: important to me anymore, you know, instead of spending time 179 00:07:39,201 --> 00:07:40,801 Speaker 2: with your girlfriends, you want to go spend time with him, 180 00:07:40,921 --> 00:07:43,041 Speaker 2: or you know, maybe your work is important to you, 181 00:07:43,201 --> 00:07:45,561 Speaker 2: but then you're like, oh, blow off this work task 182 00:07:45,601 --> 00:07:46,601 Speaker 2: that I need to do because I want to go 183 00:07:46,641 --> 00:07:48,921 Speaker 2: see him and make time for him. That's when I 184 00:07:48,961 --> 00:07:50,881 Speaker 2: think there's something to look at of just like okay, 185 00:07:50,921 --> 00:07:53,241 Speaker 2: what kind of pace are you moving at? Because then 186 00:07:53,281 --> 00:07:56,081 Speaker 2: you know, okay, I can stay strong within myself whilst 187 00:07:56,081 --> 00:07:58,801 Speaker 2: also introducing somebody new into my life. But if you 188 00:07:58,961 --> 00:08:02,041 Speaker 2: feel you've rushed and you've like moved with like you know, 189 00:08:02,081 --> 00:08:04,841 Speaker 2: a lot of haste, then maybe that's something that you 190 00:08:04,881 --> 00:08:07,481 Speaker 2: can pay attention to next time and just give yourself 191 00:08:07,521 --> 00:08:09,841 Speaker 2: permission that you can go slow. Yeah, you know, like 192 00:08:09,881 --> 00:08:12,001 Speaker 2: you don't need to make them your everything straight away 193 00:08:12,001 --> 00:08:15,241 Speaker 2: because they're still earning that spot in your life, you 194 00:08:15,281 --> 00:08:17,481 Speaker 2: know what I mean. Still make sure if you can 195 00:08:17,721 --> 00:08:19,441 Speaker 2: if you do this again, which I know you will, 196 00:08:19,441 --> 00:08:22,720 Speaker 2: because you'll open your heart again one day, allow things 197 00:08:22,761 --> 00:08:25,881 Speaker 2: to evolve naturally as they do, you know, and also 198 00:08:25,961 --> 00:08:28,601 Speaker 2: still prioritize everything else in your life at the same time. 199 00:08:29,041 --> 00:08:32,401 Speaker 1: Yeah. And sometimes when women or men rush and jump in, 200 00:08:32,481 --> 00:08:34,441 Speaker 1: it can come from an anxious place too, like I 201 00:08:34,481 --> 00:08:36,921 Speaker 1: don't want you to leave now, or it can come 202 00:08:36,921 --> 00:08:39,161 Speaker 1: from a place of lust and just rose colored glasses 203 00:08:39,201 --> 00:08:41,441 Speaker 1: on and everything's perfect. I can't give enough this person. 204 00:08:41,961 --> 00:08:44,561 Speaker 1: And it's a fun feeling that, Yeah, that honeymoon stage 205 00:08:44,681 --> 00:08:47,721 Speaker 1: is so beautiful, but also it's just all the time, 206 00:08:47,721 --> 00:08:50,321 Speaker 1: it's not reality. Yeah, so take it slow, to focus 207 00:08:50,321 --> 00:08:52,041 Speaker 1: on yourselves, to all to do the things that you love. 208 00:08:52,081 --> 00:08:53,561 Speaker 1: And you're right, they need to earn that spot in 209 00:08:53,601 --> 00:08:54,241 Speaker 1: your life. 210 00:08:54,721 --> 00:08:56,681 Speaker 2: Sometimes in the past, I've had that story in my 211 00:08:56,681 --> 00:08:58,921 Speaker 2: head of like, oh, I found the one. I've had 212 00:08:58,921 --> 00:09:01,281 Speaker 2: that before too, And when I did, I noticed that 213 00:09:01,321 --> 00:09:04,681 Speaker 2: I put pressure on this person to be that because 214 00:09:04,721 --> 00:09:06,521 Speaker 2: in my head I had made up this story that 215 00:09:06,561 --> 00:09:09,041 Speaker 2: he was the one. Instead of letting things naturally unfold, 216 00:09:09,361 --> 00:09:10,801 Speaker 2: and then when things don't turn out the way that 217 00:09:10,841 --> 00:09:13,881 Speaker 2: you wanted or hoped or that you expected or projected 218 00:09:13,921 --> 00:09:16,281 Speaker 2: that it will. Then you have to deal with the 219 00:09:16,321 --> 00:09:19,121 Speaker 2: disappointment of all of the expectations you set on this 220 00:09:19,161 --> 00:09:21,321 Speaker 2: person and how your life was going to look and 221 00:09:21,361 --> 00:09:22,881 Speaker 2: now it's all of a sudden not going to look 222 00:09:22,921 --> 00:09:25,961 Speaker 2: like that. And so I understand why the feeling of 223 00:09:26,001 --> 00:09:29,161 Speaker 2: no closure hurts so much more because you're dealing with 224 00:09:29,601 --> 00:09:32,561 Speaker 2: unmet expectations and this fantasy that you've created of like 225 00:09:32,601 --> 00:09:34,201 Speaker 2: what your life could have looked like with this person. 226 00:09:34,201 --> 00:09:37,521 Speaker 2: And that's a really hard thing to navigate, especially when 227 00:09:37,721 --> 00:09:39,201 Speaker 2: that person is the one who's not willing to have 228 00:09:39,241 --> 00:09:40,881 Speaker 2: a conversation with you. That's really hard. 229 00:09:41,041 --> 00:09:43,081 Speaker 1: It's like a form of grief. And once again, it's 230 00:09:43,081 --> 00:09:45,161 Speaker 1: six weeks, six months, or six years or sixteen years, 231 00:09:45,201 --> 00:09:47,161 Speaker 1: it's still grief. Could you're having to let go of 232 00:09:47,201 --> 00:09:48,961 Speaker 1: someone that's still here, but you can't have them or 233 00:09:49,001 --> 00:09:51,561 Speaker 1: what you wanted. So you feel you in this. But yeah, 234 00:09:51,561 --> 00:09:53,841 Speaker 1: I really hope this just remind you to keep your 235 00:09:53,841 --> 00:09:56,361 Speaker 1: heart open because if you want that level of depth 236 00:09:56,401 --> 00:09:58,881 Speaker 1: and how beautiful those feelings were, you get to experience 237 00:09:58,921 --> 00:10:00,801 Speaker 1: that with other people as well. I don't believe in 238 00:10:00,881 --> 00:10:02,441 Speaker 1: made just to be with one person. You can fall 239 00:10:02,441 --> 00:10:05,041 Speaker 1: in love with most of peoples and have beautiful experience 240 00:10:05,441 --> 00:10:07,601 Speaker 1: all of them for different reasons in different chapters of 241 00:10:07,641 --> 00:10:10,081 Speaker 1: your life. So he was a beautiful evidence that you 242 00:10:10,081 --> 00:10:12,881 Speaker 1: will find an amazing connection and has so much common 243 00:10:12,921 --> 00:10:15,481 Speaker 1: ground and fun together. There's other people out there that 244 00:10:15,521 --> 00:10:17,081 Speaker 1: you can have that with and it will just be different. 245 00:10:17,201 --> 00:10:18,881 Speaker 2: It sounds like it's just set a bar for you 246 00:10:19,041 --> 00:10:20,881 Speaker 2: of what you want the next one to feel. 247 00:10:20,921 --> 00:10:22,001 Speaker 1: Like, how beautiful is that? 248 00:10:22,161 --> 00:10:22,841 Speaker 2: So beautiful? 249 00:10:23,401 --> 00:10:25,081 Speaker 1: I love that. I hope that helps and sitting you 250 00:10:25,121 --> 00:10:27,721 Speaker 1: lots of love And if you're a next partner that 251 00:10:27,721 --> 00:10:30,041 Speaker 1: you find or you know, go on dates with and 252 00:10:30,041 --> 00:10:31,281 Speaker 1: start to form a connection with love and. 253 00:10:31,321 --> 00:10:33,321 Speaker 2: Update, yeah, absolutely, and just remember like you'll never be 254 00:10:33,401 --> 00:10:34,401 Speaker 2: too much for the right people. 255 00:10:34,641 --> 00:10:35,401 Speaker 1: Never know. 256 00:10:35,641 --> 00:10:36,601 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a big lesson. 257 00:10:36,601 --> 00:10:39,121 Speaker 1: We both like, Oh my gosh, y never such a 258 00:10:39,121 --> 00:10:41,441 Speaker 1: powerful lesson. They'll be able to hold you. Yes, And 259 00:10:41,481 --> 00:10:43,321 Speaker 1: I love everything about you that I never want to 260 00:10:43,361 --> 00:10:46,281 Speaker 1: like dim that part of you. Yeah. Awesome, Thanks for 261 00:10:46,321 --> 00:10:48,761 Speaker 1: joining us, See you guys on Monday. Bye bye.