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Speaker 1: Mummy and my partner in crime who isn't here today,

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Speaker 1: mister Jake Craig aka Daddy and Baddie's Happy New Year.

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Speaker 1: It is twenty twenty six, which honestly feels so crazy

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Speaker 1: to say, and to kick the year off, we're actually

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Speaker 1: going to do something a little bit different. I'm sure

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Speaker 2: That's why Jake's not here.

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Speaker 1: He's currently up in Queensland enjoying some family time. And

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Speaker 1: basically we've decided just to take a little bit of

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Speaker 1: a two week break. But we came up with a

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Speaker 1: good creative idea where you guys don't really get to

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Speaker 1: remember this episode, but what we're about to do is

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Speaker 1: called You Are Enough from the second of October twenty

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Speaker 1: twenty four. Well that's actually almost two years which is crazy,

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Speaker 1: which I think will be a cool little activity to

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Speaker 1: reflect on. I guess mine and Jake's journey with this podcast,

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Speaker 1: and like our ideologies, how we thought, and even our

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Speaker 1: But overall, I just wanted to pop in for on

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Speaker 1: the sake of Jake and I say happy New Year, Baddies.

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Speaker 1: Twenty twenty six is going to be the Year of

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Speaker 1: the Baddies, and for the next two weeks we're just

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Speaker 1: going to reminisce, so please enjoy coming up on Relatables.

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Speaker 1: Any relationships work, Yeah, relationships, parents, kids, dogs, even every

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Speaker 1: relationship is work. And the sooner you put in the work,

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Speaker 1: the better that relationship is. Fact bro relatable. The Relatables

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Speaker 1: podcast is hosted by myself, Oddie Clark aka Mummy and

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Speaker 1: my partner in crime, the my Mustache Combradrey Boy, mister

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Speaker 1: Jake Craig aka dad D. All Right, Jake, I wanted

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Speaker 1: We always have a bit of a laugh, but I

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Speaker 1: feel like this is very relatable. Okay, So you know

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Speaker 1: about me, I really really struggle to like feel enough,

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Speaker 1: and I'm always looking for I always i'm looking to

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Speaker 2: All right, fine, you feeling, I'll listen. You're a bit mate.

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Speaker 1: I can remember them like before that, I have little,

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00:20:11,880 --> 00:20:13,600
Speaker 1: like little snippets of things, but I can't remember. But

436
00:20:13,680 --> 00:20:16,399
Speaker 1: I'm sure your memories of me start from when I

437
00:20:16,400 --> 00:20:18,480
Speaker 1: was born, so you have way more memories. So I

438
00:20:18,520 --> 00:20:20,639
Speaker 1: feel like that's the reason why they're guilty, because you're

439
00:20:20,680 --> 00:20:22,200
Speaker 1: trying to jam more time in into it because it

440
00:20:22,200 --> 00:20:24,080
Speaker 1: feels like you can't remember as much as you can remember.

441
00:20:25,160 --> 00:20:27,919
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's probably part of it. Yeah, I think if

442
00:20:27,920 --> 00:20:31,199
Speaker 4: you put the effort into, you put that quality time in.

443
00:20:31,400 --> 00:20:33,920
Speaker 4: You haven't been given a life expectancy, but they have.

444
00:20:34,160 --> 00:20:40,200
Speaker 4: So the situation is that you've been given You've both

445
00:20:40,200 --> 00:20:43,399
Speaker 4: been giving a life expectancy to have a relationship with

446
00:20:43,520 --> 00:20:47,000
Speaker 4: each other that's going to finish. So how much do

447
00:20:47,080 --> 00:20:51,040
Speaker 4: you cherish that? And that's sort of if you answer

448
00:20:51,080 --> 00:20:54,240
Speaker 4: that question, that sort of influences how.

449
00:20:54,200 --> 00:20:56,399
Speaker 2: You decision making up, where you go and what you do.

450
00:20:57,119 --> 00:21:00,200
Speaker 4: Yeah, because it's a sentence for both of you, because

451
00:21:00,240 --> 00:21:02,679
Speaker 4: the relationship will be done truncated.

452
00:21:02,760 --> 00:21:06,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly, Well, was there anything else you want to have?

453
00:21:06,320 --> 00:21:09,040
Speaker 1: Our relationship when you first got diagnosed.

454
00:21:08,520 --> 00:21:12,800
Speaker 4: On Now, I think it's too complicated. It's like I'm

455
00:21:12,840 --> 00:21:16,960
Speaker 4: still going through it. But you're happy with the amount

456
00:21:16,960 --> 00:21:17,720
Speaker 4: of time we spent together.

457
00:21:18,400 --> 00:21:21,159
Speaker 1: Yeah, we got a bit of we work together, so

458
00:21:21,160 --> 00:21:21,760
Speaker 1: it's a little bit.

459
00:21:21,840 --> 00:21:24,679
Speaker 2: Yeah, we worked together. That's quality time, but it's a

460
00:21:24,680 --> 00:21:25,120
Speaker 2: lot of time.

461
00:21:25,200 --> 00:21:27,280
Speaker 4: I'd probably like to have a good quality trip to

462
00:21:27,320 --> 00:21:27,760
Speaker 4: be honest.

463
00:21:28,160 --> 00:21:30,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, we didn't really get that when you went surfing

464
00:21:30,520 --> 00:21:31,399
Speaker 1: and I was busy.

465
00:21:31,480 --> 00:21:33,840
Speaker 4: Yeah I went surfing and you were doing your own stuff.

466
00:21:33,840 --> 00:21:36,920
Speaker 4: But I respected that, and you know, there may be

467
00:21:37,920 --> 00:21:40,920
Speaker 4: chances down the track. Yeah, I'll change down the track.

468
00:21:41,520 --> 00:21:43,399
Speaker 2: Definitely, got a barley or something.

469
00:21:44,400 --> 00:21:46,959
Speaker 4: Yeah, I've got a few things in mind. It's just

470
00:21:47,000 --> 00:21:50,359
Speaker 4: a matter of get clearance to go. Yeah, I'll be

471
00:21:50,440 --> 00:21:55,560
Speaker 4: going regardless. So you know, if you want a camel.

472
00:21:56,320 --> 00:21:57,239
Speaker 2: Well, thanks dad for that.

473
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Speaker 1: Just a little bit of a insight that helps to

474
00:22:00,200 --> 00:22:03,480
Speaker 1: your I think it's interesting to see we always talk

475
00:22:03,520 --> 00:22:06,240
Speaker 1: from the young person's side, giving a perspective from the

476
00:22:06,320 --> 00:22:10,080
Speaker 1: father or person in the situation with everyone listening, probably

477
00:22:10,080 --> 00:22:12,639
Speaker 1: those parents who are eventually going to what's happening to you.

478
00:22:12,760 --> 00:22:16,280
Speaker 4: It's all round, like your parents aren't going to be

479
00:22:16,359 --> 00:22:20,000
Speaker 4: there forever, whether they're diagnosed or not. You know, you

480
00:22:20,040 --> 00:22:24,159
Speaker 4: can just take it to a different level sort of

481
00:22:24,160 --> 00:22:27,040
Speaker 4: based on my experience. I mean, I'm in the early sixties.

482
00:22:29,280 --> 00:22:32,720
Speaker 4: If you put the effort in and spend the time

483
00:22:32,760 --> 00:22:36,200
Speaker 4: with your parents, I think you're just going to you're

484
00:22:36,240 --> 00:22:37,160
Speaker 4: really going to love that.

485
00:22:37,160 --> 00:22:39,399
Speaker 2: You did it and cherish those memories.

486
00:22:40,000 --> 00:22:43,959
Speaker 4: Churish memories, and those memories you're going to take with

487
00:22:44,000 --> 00:22:46,199
Speaker 4: you on your next experiences. Like you're not going to

488
00:22:46,240 --> 00:22:50,359
Speaker 4: be having sort of flashbacks or setbacks because you didn't

489
00:22:50,400 --> 00:22:51,800
Speaker 4: do this, you didn't do that. But if you have

490
00:22:51,880 --> 00:22:55,960
Speaker 4: quality of time with your parents sort of regardless, that's

491
00:22:56,480 --> 00:22:58,040
Speaker 4: that's what you're going to take with you, and you're

492
00:22:58,040 --> 00:23:00,840
Speaker 4: going to be a much more positive person and you're

493
00:23:00,880 --> 00:23:04,439
Speaker 4: going to be sharing that positiveness with the people that

494
00:23:04,480 --> 00:23:08,119
Speaker 4: you interact with with the next generation. So it's sort

495
00:23:08,119 --> 00:23:10,359
Speaker 4: of you know, it's not just because someone's got a

496
00:23:11,560 --> 00:23:14,840
Speaker 4: you know, a bit of a sentence. Yeah it's Italian.

497
00:23:15,240 --> 00:23:19,000
Speaker 4: It's about relationships with your parents. Yeah that's what I think.

498
00:23:19,760 --> 00:23:22,359
Speaker 1: Yeah, well, I think it's just it's hard for any

499
00:23:23,720 --> 00:23:26,879
Speaker 1: kid to imagine that their father or mum is going

500
00:23:26,960 --> 00:23:28,679
Speaker 1: to die because they've always been like the rock in

501
00:23:28,680 --> 00:23:30,119
Speaker 1: their relationship.

502
00:23:29,680 --> 00:23:32,080
Speaker 2: At any point, not cancer, even like eighty ninety.

503
00:23:31,760 --> 00:23:33,560
Speaker 4: Oh, they've always been there.

504
00:23:33,600 --> 00:23:36,440
Speaker 2: Like it's you can't very very traumatic, you can't come

505
00:23:36,480 --> 00:23:37,040
Speaker 2: to terms with it.

506
00:23:37,080 --> 00:23:39,760
Speaker 1: And now I think everyone who's like turned twenty, twenty five,

507
00:23:40,000 --> 00:23:41,840
Speaker 1: thirty the first time you've ever had to think about

508
00:23:41,880 --> 00:23:42,840
Speaker 1: it as like.

509
00:23:42,800 --> 00:23:44,560
Speaker 2: Someone in my age. So it's just like what do

510
00:23:44,600 --> 00:23:44,840
Speaker 2: I do?

511
00:23:46,480 --> 00:23:49,520
Speaker 4: Yeah, I reckon just spend the time with them. And

512
00:23:49,640 --> 00:23:52,760
Speaker 4: I think that's the message. Whether they're they're where your

513
00:23:52,800 --> 00:23:55,640
Speaker 4: parents are diagnosed, they're not there. We're all going down

514
00:23:55,720 --> 00:23:57,359
Speaker 4: the same path. We're not going to be here forever.

515
00:23:57,560 --> 00:23:59,719
Speaker 4: So spend the time with them, put the effort in,

516
00:23:59,760 --> 00:24:03,960
Speaker 4: and you get that back with how you feel and

517
00:24:04,119 --> 00:24:06,359
Speaker 4: you take and that's part of your persona that.

518
00:24:06,320 --> 00:24:11,560
Speaker 2: You to your your kids, your friends, your exactly. Yeah,

519
00:24:11,680 --> 00:24:15,840
Speaker 2: and that's probably there. That's a good message of every Yeah,

520
00:24:16,080 --> 00:24:18,040
Speaker 2: that's what I would say. I like it. Thanks for

521
00:24:18,080 --> 00:24:18,800
Speaker 2: coming on, dude.

522
00:24:19,280 --> 00:24:22,399
Speaker 4: Cool, alright, I'm going surfing the Java if you want

523
00:24:22,440 --> 00:24:24,439
Speaker 4: to come by if I get.

524
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Speaker 1: You know, it's that. I like a few things he

525
00:24:32,200 --> 00:24:35,280
Speaker 1: said there was sick. Yeah. One of them was that

526
00:24:35,359 --> 00:24:37,040
Speaker 1: it's not just a sentence for your parents, it's a

527
00:24:37,080 --> 00:24:37,560
Speaker 1: sentence for.

528
00:24:37,520 --> 00:24:39,080
Speaker 2: You as well for your relationship.

529
00:24:39,720 --> 00:24:41,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, because like, yeah, they've gone and then you don't

530
00:24:41,760 --> 00:24:42,760
Speaker 3: have a relationship with them.

531
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Speaker 1: It's one thing. It's good I had that. It was

532
00:24:45,240 --> 00:24:48,280
Speaker 1: a little bit like confronting chat a little bit. It

533
00:24:48,320 --> 00:24:49,920
Speaker 1: was just like a little bit awkward. I also was

534
00:24:49,960 --> 00:24:53,720
Speaker 1: recording it, but yeah, it was just weird to sit

535
00:24:53,800 --> 00:24:57,080
Speaker 1: down and talk to my dad about his and my

536
00:24:57,280 --> 00:24:59,960
Speaker 1: feelings because like to's like a son and a five

537
00:25:00,040 --> 00:25:04,200
Speaker 1: But don't really do that. No, I know you're right,

538
00:25:04,400 --> 00:25:06,800
Speaker 1: they don't. And although it's a terrible thing that happened,

539
00:25:06,800 --> 00:25:09,199
Speaker 1: a dead of cancer, that one benefit that's come out

540
00:25:09,240 --> 00:25:11,119
Speaker 1: of it is probably a relationship and bonds got a

541
00:25:11,119 --> 00:25:14,600
Speaker 1: little bit tighter, stronger, and stronger. But I thought it

542
00:25:14,640 --> 00:25:17,719
Speaker 1: was a great takeaway message was like, no matter if

543
00:25:17,720 --> 00:25:19,280
Speaker 1: your parents are sick or not, I feel like we

544
00:25:19,400 --> 00:25:22,119
Speaker 1: do take them for granted, even if we have a

545
00:25:22,119 --> 00:25:24,879
Speaker 1: great relationship. I bet you every person right now listening

546
00:25:25,040 --> 00:25:26,480
Speaker 1: is like, fuck, I can probably hang out with my

547
00:25:26,560 --> 00:25:30,480
Speaker 1: mum or dad more if I wanted to, DUDEA.

548
00:25:30,960 --> 00:25:33,959
Speaker 3: One thing that I really like gathered from that was like,

549
00:25:35,240 --> 00:25:39,879
Speaker 3: when you're you know, let's see when when you're when

550
00:25:40,040 --> 00:25:41,400
Speaker 3: when one of your parents.

551
00:25:41,080 --> 00:25:45,720
Speaker 1: Dies, right, like, what will you cherish more? Or when

552
00:25:45,720 --> 00:25:48,440
Speaker 1: you're dying, for instance, what will you cherish more?

553
00:25:49,040 --> 00:25:53,960
Speaker 3: The time spent with family or that random night out

554
00:25:54,000 --> 00:25:54,680
Speaker 3: on a Saturday.

555
00:25:54,880 --> 00:25:59,840
Speaker 1: Literally, like that's the thing is, it's it's funny A

556
00:26:00,160 --> 00:26:02,119
Speaker 1: And the thing that like resonated with me too was

557
00:26:02,160 --> 00:26:04,520
Speaker 1: like you are going to take it like when I

558
00:26:04,560 --> 00:26:07,240
Speaker 1: have kids, I'm going to be remembering how my dad

559
00:26:07,320 --> 00:26:10,560
Speaker 1: raised me hopefully if you have good parents. But and

560
00:26:10,680 --> 00:26:13,239
Speaker 1: like I'm going to take that into my fathering and

561
00:26:13,280 --> 00:26:15,560
Speaker 1: like the relationship we had whereas like, like you said, if

562
00:26:15,560 --> 00:26:17,600
Speaker 1: I'm doing something random like going to a party, like

563
00:26:17,640 --> 00:26:19,720
Speaker 1: it's all good and well and doing it within the means.

564
00:26:19,760 --> 00:26:22,399
Speaker 1: But like I think even like back when I was

565
00:26:22,440 --> 00:26:24,400
Speaker 1: eighteen and stuff, I was thinking of if I didn't

566
00:26:24,400 --> 00:26:27,040
Speaker 1: have friends to go to the movies with, I wouldn't go.

567
00:26:27,720 --> 00:26:31,120
Speaker 1: But like I could easily take my mum or my dad.

568
00:26:31,160 --> 00:26:33,560
Speaker 1: And it's weird, like how like my shift in my

569
00:26:33,560 --> 00:26:36,600
Speaker 1: brain's obviously happening, and I'm realizing they're more like they're

570
00:26:36,640 --> 00:26:39,040
Speaker 1: my friends as well, not just my parents. Like they

571
00:26:39,080 --> 00:26:40,720
Speaker 1: can go just hang out like one and we don't

572
00:26:40,720 --> 00:26:42,480
Speaker 1: have to just plan. Someone can say, Mom, you want

573
00:26:42,480 --> 00:26:44,440
Speaker 1: to go watch the new Marvel movie with me? Yeah,

574
00:26:44,440 --> 00:26:46,760
Speaker 1: and she come. Even if she didn't like Marvel, she

575
00:26:46,800 --> 00:26:48,680
Speaker 1: probably would just because she wants to hang out. Yeah,

576
00:26:48,720 --> 00:26:50,119
Speaker 1: She's like, fuck off, I don't want to see that.

577
00:26:51,560 --> 00:26:54,720
Speaker 1: But it's still nice to ask, you know who you asked.

578
00:26:54,800 --> 00:26:57,640
Speaker 1: But I thought it was a very interesting and insightful

579
00:26:57,640 --> 00:27:00,320
Speaker 1: message from my Dad's a very soft spoken guy out

580
00:27:00,359 --> 00:27:02,960
Speaker 1: a bit, but yeah, you know, he's very he's very

581
00:27:02,960 --> 00:27:05,760
Speaker 1: calculated a bit like probably where I get it from. Yeah,

582
00:27:06,000 --> 00:27:08,520
Speaker 1: that's amazing. I thought it was a good insight to

583
00:27:08,520 --> 00:27:12,040
Speaker 1: see from the father's perspective and someone who's potentially sick

584
00:27:12,080 --> 00:27:12,440
Speaker 1: as well.

585
00:27:12,640 --> 00:27:14,400
Speaker 3: Well, it makes me think. So in December, my parents

586
00:27:14,440 --> 00:27:18,159
Speaker 3: are moving. They're moving a state away. They're moving to

587
00:27:18,800 --> 00:27:21,280
Speaker 3: the Gold Coast, which is like a ten hour drive

588
00:27:21,440 --> 00:27:24,000
Speaker 3: or it's an hour flight, still like a travel day,

589
00:27:24,040 --> 00:27:25,760
Speaker 3: I guess regardless, like a full day of travel to

590
00:27:25,760 --> 00:27:28,080
Speaker 3: get there. And so like if you think about like

591
00:27:28,160 --> 00:27:30,280
Speaker 3: I'm thinking about it, you know, like if I don't

592
00:27:30,280 --> 00:27:32,840
Speaker 3: move to the Gold Coast ever, let's say don't move

593
00:27:32,880 --> 00:27:36,480
Speaker 3: there ever, like I'm only going to see my parents probably.

594
00:27:36,080 --> 00:27:38,400
Speaker 1: Like a couple times a year, a couple of times.

595
00:27:38,240 --> 00:27:41,159
Speaker 3: A year, because you know, we get to a stage

596
00:27:41,160 --> 00:27:45,600
Speaker 3: at life in life like as much like you and

597
00:27:45,600 --> 00:27:49,320
Speaker 3: I will probably really only get busier. Let's say it

598
00:27:49,359 --> 00:27:54,600
Speaker 3: will work and then like you know, also they work,

599
00:27:55,160 --> 00:27:55,880
Speaker 3: They're just going.

600
00:27:55,840 --> 00:27:57,960
Speaker 1: To be you know, normal busyness. It's like they both have.

601
00:27:58,080 --> 00:27:59,880
Speaker 3: And then they've got my younger brother and sister who

602
00:27:59,880 --> 00:28:03,359
Speaker 3: are going to be in university or like school still.

603
00:28:03,880 --> 00:28:06,359
Speaker 3: So like really, if you think about it, if my

604
00:28:06,480 --> 00:28:09,880
Speaker 3: dad's you know, fifty something and he's going to live

605
00:28:09,920 --> 00:28:11,680
Speaker 3: for another let's say he's going to live till hes ninety,

606
00:28:11,800 --> 00:28:15,920
Speaker 3: that's a fair life, yeah, ninety. Like I'm probably only

607
00:28:15,960 --> 00:28:18,639
Speaker 3: going to see my dad like fucking two hundred more times.

608
00:28:18,760 --> 00:28:21,800
Speaker 3: And when you feel like when you look at that number, scary,

609
00:28:21,840 --> 00:28:25,600
Speaker 3: You're like, what, Yeah, that's a crazy like like that's stupid.

610
00:28:25,640 --> 00:28:28,280
Speaker 3: I'm going to see my dad a million more times. Yeah,

611
00:28:28,359 --> 00:28:32,119
Speaker 3: Like so it's that listening to that conversations made me think, like,

612
00:28:32,320 --> 00:28:35,800
Speaker 3: you know, although it could cost a bit to go

613
00:28:35,840 --> 00:28:37,840
Speaker 3: and fly them and see them once a month for

614
00:28:37,880 --> 00:28:41,520
Speaker 3: a weekend, like at least it's fucking I go stay there. No,

615
00:28:41,600 --> 00:28:47,280
Speaker 3: it's free accommodation and like you know, when they die,

616
00:28:47,320 --> 00:28:50,320
Speaker 3: I'll look back and think, yeah, I'd spend fucking double

617
00:28:50,400 --> 00:28:50,760
Speaker 3: that now.

618
00:28:50,960 --> 00:28:53,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, And I think because it was very interesting because

619
00:28:53,680 --> 00:28:57,760
Speaker 1: my what we answered on Patreon was similar. But I

620
00:28:57,800 --> 00:29:01,400
Speaker 1: think I didn't value I didn't value the relationship, but

621
00:29:02,040 --> 00:29:04,000
Speaker 1: I didn't see how important it would be for the

622
00:29:04,040 --> 00:29:06,840
Speaker 1: rest of my life as well, Like if that makes sense,

623
00:29:07,040 --> 00:29:09,120
Speaker 1: Like I do value it so much. Yeah, Like that

624
00:29:09,320 --> 00:29:11,920
Speaker 1: he just made me see it a little bit more. Yeah,

625
00:29:11,960 --> 00:29:14,040
Speaker 1: so you're gonna go on a trip with him more? Yeah,

626
00:29:14,240 --> 00:29:16,240
Speaker 1: I think. So we've got to get im. Just the

627
00:29:16,320 --> 00:29:18,880
Speaker 1: thing about me is like I've got a plan stuff

628
00:29:18,920 --> 00:29:22,080
Speaker 1: and like it's not an excuse, like, but I look

629
00:29:22,120 --> 00:29:23,840
Speaker 1: at planning things won't be like we'll planned to go

630
00:29:23,880 --> 00:29:25,600
Speaker 1: to dinner, like I don't see quality of time. It's

631
00:29:25,680 --> 00:29:27,960
Speaker 1: just like hanging out and grabbing a coffee with my walking.

632
00:29:28,000 --> 00:29:29,720
Speaker 1: I think I need to do more spontaneous stuff with

633
00:29:29,760 --> 00:29:32,160
Speaker 1: my dad. Well, yeah, like just going for a wall.

634
00:29:32,200 --> 00:29:34,160
Speaker 1: If he's like warring the plants that around the house

635
00:29:34,240 --> 00:29:36,280
Speaker 1: or I'm taking fucking forty five minutes, I'll just go

636
00:29:36,280 --> 00:29:38,200
Speaker 1: out and talk to him. Yeah, just do it with him. Yeah,

637
00:29:38,320 --> 00:29:40,760
Speaker 1: something like that. Not like necessary, because my thing's always

638
00:29:40,760 --> 00:29:42,800
Speaker 1: been planning with my parents, whereas we dinner with them.

639
00:29:43,200 --> 00:29:46,480
Speaker 1: Sometimes we're not prem not that much all the time. No, no,

640
00:29:46,760 --> 00:29:48,520
Speaker 1: don't have a time. So I think it's just I

641
00:29:48,560 --> 00:29:52,560
Speaker 1: thought it was a cool message. And yeah, first things first,

642
00:29:52,600 --> 00:29:55,560
Speaker 1: we started with Jakes enough. Yeah, make your relationship with

643
00:29:55,600 --> 00:29:58,520
Speaker 1: your parents enough, dude. Yeah that's a good message, Yeah,

644
00:29:58,520 --> 00:30:00,600
Speaker 1: because you won't regret it once you're like on today

645
00:30:00,640 --> 00:30:03,000
Speaker 1: past eventually and is this coming to terms without being young?

646
00:30:03,040 --> 00:30:05,400
Speaker 1: And hopefully you or anyone listening doesn't have to come

647
00:30:05,400 --> 00:30:08,240
Speaker 1: to those terms anytime soon. But the sooner you realize

648
00:30:08,240 --> 00:30:13,600
Speaker 1: and the sooner you work on any relationships, work, relationships, parents, kids, dogs,

649
00:30:13,640 --> 00:30:16,960
Speaker 1: even every relationship is work. And the sooner you put

650
00:30:16,960 --> 00:30:19,440
Speaker 1: in the work, the better that relationship.

651
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Speaker 3: Is facts bro, going off you saying relationships are work, Oddie,

652
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Speaker 3: I have like a I found this thread. I guess

653
00:30:34,320 --> 00:30:37,400
Speaker 3: it's like it was on TikTok and it was titled

654
00:30:37,440 --> 00:30:40,200
Speaker 3: things that are normal in a relationship but nobody talks

655
00:30:40,200 --> 00:30:40,600
Speaker 3: about it?

656
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Speaker 1: And I mean I really liked it.

657
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Speaker 2: I don't know what's going to be enough.

658
00:30:44,960 --> 00:30:46,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, I just thought, like, fucking facts bro.

659
00:30:47,200 --> 00:30:51,000
Speaker 3: So the things things that are normal in a relationship

660
00:30:51,000 --> 00:30:54,080
Speaker 3: but nobody talks about is that your partner will not

661
00:30:54,280 --> 00:30:55,440
Speaker 3: meet all your needs.

662
00:30:56,520 --> 00:30:57,040
Speaker 1: They weren't.

663
00:30:57,040 --> 00:31:00,479
Speaker 3: Hey, you have to like sacrifice a little bit. Yeah,

664
00:31:00,560 --> 00:31:03,600
Speaker 3: and it says underneath they must meet your deal breaking

665
00:31:03,640 --> 00:31:09,080
Speaker 3: needs and emotional emotional slash physical needs sorry, safety needs whatever.

666
00:31:09,160 --> 00:31:13,440
Speaker 3: But all the secondary and tertiary needs of being a

667
00:31:13,480 --> 00:31:16,520
Speaker 3: human cannot be met by one person. That's why it's

668
00:31:16,520 --> 00:31:20,720
Speaker 3: important to invest in friendships, hobbies, and an identity outside

669
00:31:20,720 --> 00:31:21,680
Speaker 3: of your relationship.

670
00:31:22,000 --> 00:31:24,040
Speaker 1: Oh that's so, because I was going to say, like

671
00:31:24,120 --> 00:31:26,240
Speaker 1: there is a certain point of a little bit of compromise,

672
00:31:26,640 --> 00:31:28,960
Speaker 1: like getting into a relationship, there's none negotiables, but you

673
00:31:29,000 --> 00:31:32,520
Speaker 1: do have that little bit of compromise. Yeah, but that's

674
00:31:32,680 --> 00:31:35,200
Speaker 1: we'd say that that like you can't always rely on

675
00:31:35,240 --> 00:31:38,320
Speaker 1: your partner to give you everything, especially you got to

676
00:31:38,360 --> 00:31:39,840
Speaker 1: look outside of that for what you need.

677
00:31:40,200 --> 00:31:44,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, I always found it so crazy, like people, I

678
00:31:44,600 --> 00:31:47,600
Speaker 3: think when I was young, I thought, like I got

679
00:31:47,640 --> 00:31:50,760
Speaker 3: to take my time. There's nothing wrong with taking time,

680
00:31:50,800 --> 00:31:53,440
Speaker 3: but like, I need to really find the person that's

681
00:31:54,000 --> 00:31:57,600
Speaker 3: perfect for me. But in reality, there is not a

682
00:31:57,680 --> 00:32:01,000
Speaker 3: single person in the world that is perfect for you.

683
00:32:01,840 --> 00:32:06,200
Speaker 3: I'm kidding, except for you obviously, but like you know,

684
00:32:06,440 --> 00:32:09,480
Speaker 3: there's those people that you know, like, well, it's it's

685
00:32:09,520 --> 00:32:12,400
Speaker 3: it's like I have different friends for different things, Like

686
00:32:12,440 --> 00:32:14,560
Speaker 3: I have friends to work out with, I have friends

687
00:32:14,560 --> 00:32:16,440
Speaker 3: to go to the beach with, friends to.

688
00:32:16,440 --> 00:32:19,440
Speaker 1: Drink with, Like it's the same Like in a relationship,

689
00:32:19,640 --> 00:32:22,760
Speaker 1: hopefully your partner gives you most of those things. But

690
00:32:22,800 --> 00:32:26,160
Speaker 1: even like intellectually stimulating conversations about I don't know your

691
00:32:26,200 --> 00:32:29,720
Speaker 1: passionate about kites, Yep, you might need someone else with that,

692
00:32:30,600 --> 00:32:32,640
Speaker 1: good point man, Like so if yeah, if you're sitting there, well,

693
00:32:32,640 --> 00:32:34,840
Speaker 1: I think it's hard for people to admit that their

694
00:32:34,880 --> 00:32:36,120
Speaker 1: partner can't give them everything.

695
00:32:36,560 --> 00:32:39,640
Speaker 3: Well yeah, no, But also it's the most mature thing

696
00:32:39,680 --> 00:32:41,640
Speaker 3: to admit is that your partner will not be able

697
00:32:41,680 --> 00:32:43,920
Speaker 3: to give you everything, and it's just like like you

698
00:32:43,960 --> 00:32:47,719
Speaker 3: were saying, like there's no negotiables. But if there's just

699
00:32:47,760 --> 00:32:51,240
Speaker 3: like little things, you know, like you and your partner

700
00:32:51,240 --> 00:32:52,320
Speaker 3: are different humans.

701
00:32:52,800 --> 00:32:55,280
Speaker 1: It's only something you've got to remember, Yeah, and you've

702
00:32:55,280 --> 00:32:58,680
Speaker 1: got to accept that and not like if your partner especially,

703
00:32:58,720 --> 00:33:01,400
Speaker 1: I feel like it may be it's both cided it obviously,

704
00:33:01,440 --> 00:33:04,480
Speaker 1: but a lot of the time girls might see it

705
00:33:04,520 --> 00:33:07,160
Speaker 1: as a problem for guys going somewhere else to get

706
00:33:07,160 --> 00:33:09,560
Speaker 1: something not necessarily another girl. Yeah no, not no yet,

707
00:33:09,640 --> 00:33:11,320
Speaker 1: but like going like something like why can't you talk

708
00:33:11,320 --> 00:33:13,479
Speaker 1: to me about it? And but you might not just

709
00:33:13,520 --> 00:33:14,760
Speaker 1: be able to get what he needs.

710
00:33:14,880 --> 00:33:17,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's just one of those tertiary things that it's

711
00:33:17,960 --> 00:33:21,480
Speaker 3: just Yeah, it's weird a yeah, it's interesting.

712
00:33:21,480 --> 00:33:23,560
Speaker 1: It feels like an attack a little bit on them. Yeah,

713
00:33:23,600 --> 00:33:27,000
Speaker 1: but it's not. Yeah, it's not. Number two.

714
00:33:27,440 --> 00:33:30,040
Speaker 3: Sex is not always going to be like the movies.

715
00:33:30,640 --> 00:33:32,920
Speaker 3: You don't you don't always have to be breaking the

716
00:33:32,960 --> 00:33:35,680
Speaker 3: bed and doing it in public. It's normal for couples

717
00:33:35,720 --> 00:33:39,080
Speaker 3: to have periods of higher and lower into some intimacy levels.

718
00:33:39,840 --> 00:33:43,720
Speaker 3: There are a lot of factors like health, stress, lifestyle, habits,

719
00:33:43,840 --> 00:33:46,200
Speaker 3: that can cause this. This is a sign to track,

720
00:33:46,480 --> 00:33:48,560
Speaker 3: but not always an immediate red flag.

721
00:33:49,080 --> 00:33:53,080
Speaker 1: Oh that's so relatable. One of like the first things

722
00:33:53,120 --> 00:33:56,080
Speaker 1: I realized about having a long term girlfriend is like

723
00:33:56,760 --> 00:34:01,480
Speaker 1: how life gets in the way. Yeah, look, sex slows down. Yeah,

724
00:34:01,520 --> 00:34:04,600
Speaker 1: and I don't know. Yeah, it's like where there's this

725
00:34:05,000 --> 00:34:09,840
Speaker 1: lifestyle like even girls' bodies too, guys hormones levels too,

726
00:34:10,280 --> 00:34:12,160
Speaker 1: Everything just adds up. And then sometimes you're on the

727
00:34:12,160 --> 00:34:14,160
Speaker 1: mood and then like sometimes you just want to cuddle

728
00:34:14,200 --> 00:34:15,920
Speaker 1: and have a little intimate session with not a lot

729
00:34:15,960 --> 00:34:16,360
Speaker 1: of energy.

730
00:34:16,520 --> 00:34:19,239
Speaker 3: Sometimes you want to masturbate.

731
00:34:19,360 --> 00:34:23,520
Speaker 5: Yeah, exactly, that happens. Yeah, you do, and that's normal,

732
00:34:24,160 --> 00:34:27,680
Speaker 5: fully normal. Exceptingly it's the hardest thing. It's so it's

733
00:34:27,719 --> 00:34:30,680
Speaker 5: weird a but I'll move on. Number three. You won't

734
00:34:30,680 --> 00:34:36,279
Speaker 5: always like your partner. Relationships go through seasons and can

735
00:34:36,320 --> 00:34:39,440
Speaker 5: have ups and downs. There may be some critical issues

736
00:34:39,480 --> 00:34:42,440
Speaker 5: you differ on. There may be moments where you don't

737
00:34:42,520 --> 00:34:42,919
Speaker 5: like your.

738
00:34:42,840 --> 00:34:44,560
Speaker 1: Partner but you love them.

739
00:34:45,040 --> 00:34:49,600
Speaker 3: Learning to self regulate, self soothe, and communicate in a

740
00:34:49,640 --> 00:34:52,879
Speaker 3: constructive way is necessary to ride this out.

741
00:34:53,120 --> 00:34:55,719
Speaker 1: I think that's when your love shine through. Yeah, because

742
00:34:55,760 --> 00:34:58,120
Speaker 1: it's definitely moments when you're fucking fucking pissing me off

743
00:34:58,200 --> 00:34:58,560
Speaker 1: right now.

744
00:34:58,640 --> 00:35:00,520
Speaker 3: Well, yeah, sometimes you're in an argument, you're just like

745
00:35:00,880 --> 00:35:02,960
Speaker 3: you look at them and your blood boils.

746
00:35:03,040 --> 00:35:05,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, and that's when the love shines because you're like

747
00:35:05,560 --> 00:35:07,120
Speaker 1: you're like, fuck, I love you, but fuck off.

748
00:35:07,160 --> 00:35:07,480
Speaker 2: Yeah I know.

749
00:35:07,560 --> 00:35:09,359
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I love you, but fuck I'd love an

750
00:35:09,360 --> 00:35:14,840
Speaker 1: hour away. Yeah. And it's relatable to feel that, and

751
00:35:14,880 --> 00:35:17,719
Speaker 1: it's normal, Like, like you said, he's not You're not

752
00:35:17,719 --> 00:35:20,040
Speaker 1: gonna have someone who's perfect in front of you. It's

753
00:35:20,239 --> 00:35:24,120
Speaker 1: lardiy dahded rainbow sunshine not you get along. It's not possible. No,

754
00:35:24,160 --> 00:35:26,120
Speaker 1: And you're not perfect for them. Yeah. Yeah, I bet

755
00:35:26,200 --> 00:35:28,520
Speaker 1: you piss them off more than You've got to remember. Yeah,

756
00:35:28,520 --> 00:35:29,799
Speaker 1: if they regulate it better.

757
00:35:29,920 --> 00:35:32,759
Speaker 3: Yeah, if your partner's pissing you off, you have to

758
00:35:32,800 --> 00:35:34,960
Speaker 3: remember that you also piss them off.

759
00:35:35,040 --> 00:35:36,719
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, all right.

760
00:35:37,800 --> 00:35:41,719
Speaker 3: Number four, I think you will want to be alone.

761
00:35:41,920 --> 00:35:45,360
Speaker 3: I relate to this so relatable. People need personal space

762
00:35:45,480 --> 00:35:48,200
Speaker 3: and alone time. Just because you are in a relationship

763
00:35:48,280 --> 00:35:50,840
Speaker 3: doesn't mean that will need that need will go away.

764
00:35:51,280 --> 00:35:54,120
Speaker 3: If your partner or you want alone time, that's not

765
00:35:54,200 --> 00:35:57,320
Speaker 3: a sign that the relationship is bad. Finding balance between

766
00:35:57,360 --> 00:35:59,320
Speaker 3: alone and together time is important.

767
00:35:59,400 --> 00:36:01,560
Speaker 1: I think that sides with like the number two he said,

768
00:36:01,840 --> 00:36:04,160
Speaker 1: you got to get things from other people, get things

769
00:36:04,160 --> 00:36:07,080
Speaker 1: from yourself as well. Fuck yeah, and they come from

770
00:36:07,120 --> 00:36:10,279
Speaker 1: just like being alone. Like I love my alone gym time.

771
00:36:10,719 --> 00:36:13,200
Speaker 1: Same Like sometimes like when someone asked me to work out,

772
00:36:13,239 --> 00:36:15,920
Speaker 1: I'll be like, eh, oh yeah, Like I don't always

773
00:36:16,000 --> 00:36:17,160
Speaker 1: like working out with it. I'll just be like, I

774
00:36:17,239 --> 00:36:19,640
Speaker 1: just want to go on my phone, listen to music

775
00:36:19,719 --> 00:36:20,160
Speaker 1: and work out.

776
00:36:20,160 --> 00:36:21,040
Speaker 2: I don't want to talk to anyone.

777
00:36:21,080 --> 00:36:21,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, headphones in.

778
00:36:21,920 --> 00:36:23,719
Speaker 3: Like I went to the gym with Jack yesterday and

779
00:36:23,760 --> 00:36:25,600
Speaker 3: like it was his first time going since we started

780
00:36:25,600 --> 00:36:29,560
Speaker 3: the challenge that is on Patreon plug. But yeah, it

781
00:36:29,640 --> 00:36:33,160
Speaker 3: was kind of annoying constantly. Yeah, it is the wait

782
00:36:33,200 --> 00:36:34,640
Speaker 3: the fuck it, I'm going to kick out.

783
00:36:35,800 --> 00:36:38,760
Speaker 1: We goes and they're sick. Okay.

784
00:36:38,840 --> 00:36:43,799
Speaker 3: You will find other people attractive, Yeah, that's life. It's

785
00:36:43,880 --> 00:36:46,680
Speaker 3: natural for people and relationships to find others attractive from

786
00:36:46,680 --> 00:36:50,680
Speaker 3: time to time. In fact, it is human. What's important

787
00:36:50,719 --> 00:36:54,040
Speaker 3: is having open conversations about what monogamy means to each

788
00:36:54,080 --> 00:36:58,440
Speaker 3: partner and discuss what the lines and boundaries are. Remember

789
00:36:58,960 --> 00:37:01,040
Speaker 3: it made different for different couples.

790
00:37:01,320 --> 00:37:03,799
Speaker 1: Well, I feel like The responsible thing here is like,

791
00:37:04,400 --> 00:37:08,040
Speaker 1: you can appreciate someone else's beauty, that doesn't mean I

792
00:37:08,080 --> 00:37:10,840
Speaker 1: want to be in a relationship or have sex with them.

793
00:37:11,080 --> 00:37:11,360
Speaker 2: Yeah.

794
00:37:11,440 --> 00:37:13,080
Speaker 1: In facts, that's as simple as it is. I quite

795
00:37:13,080 --> 00:37:16,320
Speaker 1: often find dudes like and be like, that's a dude.

796
00:37:16,440 --> 00:37:19,160
Speaker 1: I think I think that is a dude. Yeah, there's

797
00:37:19,160 --> 00:37:21,239
Speaker 1: a guy that Jim and Barley of Cassie. I was like, OK, yeah,

798
00:37:21,239 --> 00:37:22,640
Speaker 1: I knew his Instagram because he's famous. I was like,

799
00:37:22,640 --> 00:37:28,919
Speaker 1: look at this guy's fucking body. Crazy. All right.

800
00:37:29,480 --> 00:37:33,680
Speaker 3: You will have totally different opinions. Yeah, you do not

801
00:37:33,800 --> 00:37:36,880
Speaker 3: have to see I two I on every political, social,

802
00:37:37,040 --> 00:37:40,239
Speaker 3: or general issue. This doesn't mean you are not compatible

803
00:37:40,560 --> 00:37:43,080
Speaker 3: or that you can't get along. A healthy difference of

804
00:37:43,160 --> 00:37:45,880
Speaker 3: opinion will help both of you grow as long as

805
00:37:45,960 --> 00:37:49,840
Speaker 3: you are respectful towards each other. Oh, next one, I

806
00:37:49,840 --> 00:37:53,760
Speaker 3: think there's two more. You will both change.

807
00:37:54,280 --> 00:37:55,480
Speaker 1: This is I think this is why a lot of

808
00:37:55,480 --> 00:37:58,680
Speaker 1: people break up too. This is a huge one. You've changed.

809
00:37:58,719 --> 00:38:01,560
Speaker 1: Didn't your ex say that to you? Yes, when we're

810
00:38:01,560 --> 00:38:04,160
Speaker 1: starting this potty or something, you were like it was

811
00:38:04,200 --> 00:38:07,160
Speaker 1: something around then. I'm pretty sure you were like growing

812
00:38:07,200 --> 00:38:09,400
Speaker 1: as a person person on social media putting yourself out

813
00:38:09,440 --> 00:38:12,680
Speaker 1: there and like you've changed. I want to be chippy X.

814
00:38:12,920 --> 00:38:13,640
Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure it.

815
00:38:13,680 --> 00:38:15,880
Speaker 3: Was no no, because we started I didn't have an

816
00:38:15,880 --> 00:38:18,360
Speaker 3: ex anywhere near like starting the podcast.

817
00:38:18,600 --> 00:38:19,200
Speaker 2: Maybe it wasn't.

818
00:38:19,480 --> 00:38:20,200
Speaker 1: Maybe I'm lost there.

819
00:38:20,320 --> 00:38:23,839
Speaker 3: I think, you know what I one year for my birthday, well,

820
00:38:23,840 --> 00:38:26,279
Speaker 3: I was with my ex. I asked my parents for

821
00:38:26,280 --> 00:38:30,680
Speaker 3: a camera because I and I started filming some stuff

822
00:38:31,280 --> 00:38:36,160
Speaker 3: and I liked it. I liked learning to edit little videos.

823
00:38:36,719 --> 00:38:39,200
Speaker 3: And yeah, we got an argument one time and she said, like,

824
00:38:39,480 --> 00:38:44,080
Speaker 3: you've just changed, like so much, you know, like you're

825
00:38:44,120 --> 00:38:45,799
Speaker 3: just trying to do this thing. And I was kind

826
00:38:45,800 --> 00:38:47,040
Speaker 3: of like, yeah, because.

827
00:38:46,800 --> 00:38:49,319
Speaker 1: I want to for the better. I'm finding out what

828
00:38:49,360 --> 00:38:49,680
Speaker 1: I like.

829
00:38:50,040 --> 00:38:52,239
Speaker 3: So yeah, it says our bodies, habits, likes and dislikes,

830
00:38:52,320 --> 00:38:55,359
Speaker 3: and lifestyle changes over time. You and your partner will

831
00:38:55,360 --> 00:38:59,640
Speaker 3: go through emotional fluctuations, Your hobbies and interests will change.

832
00:39:00,120 --> 00:39:02,960
Speaker 3: You can keep your band strong, so you can keep

833
00:39:02,960 --> 00:39:06,720
Speaker 3: your bond strong by finding continuous overlap between your changes

834
00:39:06,760 --> 00:39:10,160
Speaker 3: and their changes. Okay, this one I think is a

835
00:39:10,400 --> 00:39:14,239
Speaker 3: huge one. Last one's a huge one. You won't love

836
00:39:14,360 --> 00:39:19,080
Speaker 3: each other's families. Oh, you don't have to be besties

837
00:39:19,120 --> 00:39:22,919
Speaker 3: with their siblings or parents, and de vice versa. These

838
00:39:23,000 --> 00:39:28,040
Speaker 3: relationships are nuanced and come with a lot of emotional inheritance.

839
00:39:28,600 --> 00:39:32,800
Speaker 3: It is important to be respectful, warm and caring without

840
00:39:32,880 --> 00:39:35,879
Speaker 3: overstepping your own or their boundaries.

841
00:39:36,120 --> 00:39:38,320
Speaker 1: I saw this on It was a trend on TikTok

842
00:39:38,400 --> 00:39:41,480
Speaker 1: going through, and I was like people setting their boundaries

843
00:39:41,520 --> 00:39:45,200
Speaker 1: for each other's parents, because you gotta take into consideration

844
00:39:45,280 --> 00:39:46,839
Speaker 1: you're both brought up in different ways and you have

845
00:39:46,880 --> 00:39:50,719
Speaker 1: different relationships with your parents. And so one person said,

846
00:39:50,760 --> 00:39:53,040
Speaker 1: this is as much as I can give, and this

847
00:39:53,120 --> 00:39:54,640
Speaker 1: is as much as I can take anymore, and like

848
00:39:54,680 --> 00:39:56,400
Speaker 1: that's not all I can do, which you gotta respect.

849
00:39:56,440 --> 00:39:58,360
Speaker 1: And that's the same from the girl's side and the

850
00:39:58,360 --> 00:40:00,319
Speaker 1: guy's side, and you just got to meet in the middle.

851
00:40:00,360 --> 00:40:01,800
Speaker 1: And then if it goes past that, you say no,

852
00:40:02,000 --> 00:40:04,200
Speaker 1: like we can't go, we can't hang out exactly.

853
00:40:04,200 --> 00:40:04,279
Speaker 2: No.

854
00:40:04,320 --> 00:40:06,719
Speaker 3: I've seen so many things on TikTok where it's like

855
00:40:07,480 --> 00:40:09,480
Speaker 3: I've been married for fifty years, he's my best advice,

856
00:40:09,719 --> 00:40:11,120
Speaker 3: and they'll be like a little thread like this, and

857
00:40:11,120 --> 00:40:13,839
Speaker 3: there'll be things of advice, and the most consistent one

858
00:40:13,840 --> 00:40:15,759
Speaker 3: I've seen of like i'd say maybe I've seen ten

859
00:40:15,800 --> 00:40:18,040
Speaker 3: over the years I've been on TikTok whatever, but the

860
00:40:18,040 --> 00:40:21,600
Speaker 3: most consistent one that I've seen is we don't. It

861
00:40:21,719 --> 00:40:26,920
Speaker 3: was like we would keep our families separate from just

862
00:40:26,960 --> 00:40:30,880
Speaker 3: like fights, disagreements, stuff like that, because if you go

863
00:40:30,920 --> 00:40:33,680
Speaker 3: to your family, they're biased towards.

864
00:40:33,440 --> 00:40:35,480
Speaker 1: You no matter what. They're going to side with you

865
00:40:35,560 --> 00:40:36,080
Speaker 1: no matter what.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and so yeah, that's like one of the biggest

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Speaker 3: things is like keeping your families out of it, because

868
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Speaker 3: they can have just such huge impact and like, you know,

869
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Speaker 3: my dad's opinion on me means like so much. So

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Speaker 3: it's like if I go to him with something and

871
00:40:50,440 --> 00:40:53,359
Speaker 3: then he's like, oh, she's being a fucking wench, you know,

872
00:40:53,560 --> 00:40:55,640
Speaker 3: I'm gonna be like, you know what, maybe she Yeah.

873
00:40:56,600 --> 00:40:59,040
Speaker 3: So it's like, you know, not that they're not good

874
00:40:59,080 --> 00:41:01,560
Speaker 3: people to go to for advice, but just for your relationship.

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Speaker 3: I think, like me personally, I just find that to

876
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Speaker 3: be And then I wanted to be such a private thing.

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Speaker 1: It's also because they can't My parents they would love

878
00:41:09,360 --> 00:41:11,000
Speaker 1: to know my girlfriend as much as possible, but they

879
00:41:11,040 --> 00:41:14,880
Speaker 1: don't really know her. No, no, and like Sam, like

880
00:41:15,080 --> 00:41:17,480
Speaker 1: my partner's parents, like they will give them as much

881
00:41:17,480 --> 00:41:19,160
Speaker 1: as they're never going to know who I am behind

882
00:41:19,200 --> 00:41:19,840
Speaker 1: closed doors.

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Speaker 3: It's like I said to you the like last week,

884
00:41:22,560 --> 00:41:25,840
Speaker 3: how I said, like one thing we don't ever say

885
00:41:26,000 --> 00:41:28,440
Speaker 3: to each other as friends, but also I would never

886
00:41:28,480 --> 00:41:30,680
Speaker 3: say to my parents is like Beth makes me the happiest.

887
00:41:30,680 --> 00:41:32,920
Speaker 3: She's like as any girlfriend IVE ever had. You know,

888
00:41:33,080 --> 00:41:35,480
Speaker 3: Like they don't know that, and it's all good. It's

889
00:41:35,480 --> 00:41:37,200
Speaker 3: even good for you to say that to me. But

890
00:41:37,239 --> 00:41:39,399
Speaker 3: also I'm never going to see Beth that you see.

891
00:41:39,440 --> 00:41:41,200
Speaker 3: Bet No, You're never going to say it no matter what,

892
00:41:41,280 --> 00:41:41,840
Speaker 3: I'm never going to.

893
00:41:41,840 --> 00:41:43,720
Speaker 1: See the same way that you do. So your parents

894
00:41:43,719 --> 00:41:46,400
Speaker 1: trying to like feel that it's just impossible now it's not.

895
00:41:46,440 --> 00:41:49,600
Speaker 1: It's not possible. Yeah, that's a good interesting list, that's

896
00:41:49,640 --> 00:41:52,080
Speaker 1: what I thought. Yeah, yeah, that's very interesting and it's

897
00:41:52,120 --> 00:41:53,560
Speaker 1: probably a good list to bring to your partner. You know.

898
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Speaker 3: It's funny, is I watched a Ted talk last night

899
00:41:55,560 --> 00:41:56,560
Speaker 3: that I could bring up next week?

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Speaker 1: Baby, I didn't. I didn't think I thought it was

901
00:41:58,200 --> 00:41:58,799
Speaker 1: gonna be good enough.

902
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Speaker 3: But it might be funny because you say that your

903
00:42:01,440 --> 00:42:03,759
Speaker 3: girlfriend was like, they're not fights, Like I don't like

904
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Speaker 3: corn fights.

905
00:42:04,360 --> 00:42:05,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know if.

906
00:42:05,360 --> 00:42:07,320
Speaker 3: In the ted talk at it says anything that about

907
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Speaker 3: that being unhealthy or not, but like they really talk

908
00:42:10,200 --> 00:42:13,359
Speaker 3: about you know, it's like the way you fight, like

909
00:42:13,520 --> 00:42:15,239
Speaker 3: you can call it a fight, like you never hear

910
00:42:15,320 --> 00:42:16,839
Speaker 3: someone coming and be like, I had the best fight

911
00:42:16,840 --> 00:42:19,919
Speaker 3: with my girlfriend the other day, but like the way

912
00:42:19,960 --> 00:42:23,640
Speaker 3: you fight is a big, big, big indicator apparently, really yeah,

913
00:42:23,760 --> 00:42:25,480
Speaker 3: to be worth it, maybe actually I'll send it to you,

914
00:42:25,520 --> 00:42:27,320
Speaker 3: but like I just like I want to send it

915
00:42:27,360 --> 00:42:28,600
Speaker 3: to my girlfriend and I want to send it to

916
00:42:28,640 --> 00:42:30,760
Speaker 3: just like everyone because it is. It sounds so interesting,

917
00:42:30,800 --> 00:42:33,120
Speaker 3: and these people are like, yeah, if we meet someone

918
00:42:33,200 --> 00:42:36,080
Speaker 3: within the first five minutes, we meet a couple with

919
00:42:36,160 --> 00:42:41,680
Speaker 3: a ninety six percent like accuracy, we can tell what's

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00:42:41,719 --> 00:42:43,200
Speaker 3: going to happen in the next six years.

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Speaker 1: Really, yeah, that's wild. I'll leave it on. I reckon.

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Speaker 1: This is the it's not funny, but the funniest and

923
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Speaker 1: most relatablest fight relationships have. And I know you've had it.

924
00:42:54,080 --> 00:42:55,880
Speaker 1: And it was the only fighter I had in Bali,

925
00:42:56,440 --> 00:42:58,319
Speaker 1: and it was having like a it wasn't at a

926
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Speaker 1: fight at that point. It was I can't remember what

927
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Speaker 1: it was about, but I started to not raise my voice,

928
00:43:02,760 --> 00:43:05,080
Speaker 1: but as a guy, like I was getting my point

929
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Speaker 1: across more by getting my voice a little bit deeper.

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Speaker 1: And then she was like, don't raise your voice in me.

931
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Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm not raising my voice.

932
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Speaker 3: And when I hear those words, don't yell at me.

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Speaker 3: I'm yeah, I'm like, you want me to yell.

934
00:43:20,440 --> 00:43:23,359
Speaker 1: You don't want me to yell. I was like, I'm not.

935
00:43:23,440 --> 00:43:29,160
Speaker 1: I'm talking the same, but that's not the guy's brains.

936
00:43:29,440 --> 00:43:32,200
Speaker 1: You're not listening to me. So and but drops to

937
00:43:32,239 --> 00:43:34,040
Speaker 1: her like she said that she established I took it

938
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Speaker 1: too far, like took my voice too far. I think

939
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Speaker 1: that's the most relatable fight is when the guys or

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00:43:39,800 --> 00:43:42,400
Speaker 1: the girls even raising his voice, raising her voice. I

941
00:43:42,440 --> 00:43:43,840
Speaker 1: don't raise your voices. Don't yell at me.

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Speaker 3: I feel you sometimes a good yelling. I kind of

943
00:43:48,400 --> 00:43:49,520
Speaker 3: maybe I just want one.

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Speaker 1: I've never had one. I don't think I will. I

945
00:43:52,000 --> 00:43:54,120
Speaker 1: never had one with death, I've never had one with

946
00:43:54,160 --> 00:43:55,000
Speaker 1: like anyone.

947
00:43:55,320 --> 00:43:57,239
Speaker 3: Only only time I've ever had one with an ex

948
00:43:57,320 --> 00:43:58,479
Speaker 3: girlfriend is one we're both drunk.

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Speaker 2: Yeah that's why.

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00:43:59,440 --> 00:44:02,759
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's fine, but no emotions un intact there exactly.

951
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Speaker 3: Anyways, guys, thank you for listening. Yeah, thank you about

952
00:44:06,040 --> 00:44:09,040
Speaker 3: it this far Patreon five dollars a month. Go join

953
00:44:09,080 --> 00:44:12,160
Speaker 3: the Facebook group. We're having fun in there and yeah

954
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Speaker 3: five stars.

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Speaker 1: We'll see you on Friday. I hope you like the

956
00:44:15,320 --> 00:44:18,640
Speaker 1: new little content change. Yeah, let us know in the

957
00:44:18,680 --> 00:44:19,359
Speaker 1: Facebook group.

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00:44:19,440 --> 00:44:23,360
Speaker 3: Yeah that's literally like we will one hundred percent see it.

959
00:44:23,760 --> 00:44:26,520
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, we're doing it for you. Hopefully it's engaging,

960
00:44:27,160 --> 00:44:30,000
Speaker 1: slow intellectual, taking all the boxes so you get a

961
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Speaker 1: good listen.

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Speaker 2: We love you.

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Speaker 1: Bye,