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Speaker 1: Good a team. I'm always talking to people about this

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Speaker 1: idea of conscious living. You've heard me talk about conscious living,

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Speaker 1: intentional living, and I guess the other end of that

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Speaker 1: And I think, to an extent, to different levels, at

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Speaker 1: consciousness and unconsciousness, and you know, where we're more focused,

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Speaker 1: then other times when we look up and it's been

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Speaker 1: a did I get here? And one of the things

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Speaker 1: I've said many times on this show is people who

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Speaker 1: say to me, after decades of doing life, you know,

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Speaker 1: to me, referring to where they are at their current

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Speaker 1: point of their journey, this wasn't my plan. This wasn't

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Speaker 1: when I say, and you've heard me say this before,

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Speaker 1: the conversation. When I say to them, well can I

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Speaker 1: see the plan, they look at me quizzically, and I say, well,

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Speaker 1: you said this wasn't my plan. Where I'm at now,

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Speaker 1: of course there's no plan. And for many of us,

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Speaker 1: while we are making a level of decisions or a

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Speaker 1: over the years, there have been times where I was

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Speaker 1: like my analogy is riding a motorbike. So for me,

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Speaker 1: telling me that what I'm doing is suboptimal. It is

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Speaker 1: not optimal. I don't want to be an Olympic athlete.

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Speaker 1: a version of what I do with clients coaching clients.

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Speaker 1: And this is very much bro science. This is Craig science.

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Speaker 1: find a version of the interwebs. But this is a little,

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