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Speaker 1: From The Australian. His what's on the front. I'm Claire Harvey.

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Speaker 1: It's Monday, January twenty. The Federal government has hit trouble

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Speaker 1: in its bid to increase tax on superannuation accounts worth

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Speaker 1: more than three million dollars. The government needs the Greens

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Speaker 1: and at least three Senate crossbenches to pass the bill,

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Speaker 1: but most of the crossbencheres have told The Australian they're

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Speaker 1: against the change. Several elite universities have refused to accept

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Speaker 1: a definition of antisemitism proposed by Holocaust survivors, prompting the

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Speaker 1: Federal Government's Envoy on antisemitism, Jillian Siegel, to say she's disappointed.

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Speaker 1: For thirty three years, Debbie and Earl Schoenberger have kept

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Speaker 1: their daughter Jess alive against all odds. Today what Debbie, Earl,

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Speaker 1: their son Ariel and order Jess can teach us all

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Speaker 1: about love? Sometimes as a journalist, there are stories you

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Speaker 1: keep coming back to in your career, stories that just

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Speaker 1: don't want to let you go. In a case of

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Speaker 1: Fiona Harari, one of our most senior and experienced writers

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Speaker 1: here at The Australian, it's Jess, a young woman who

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Speaker 1: with her family has an extraordinary story playing out in

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Speaker 1: a suburban home just like every other one. He's Fiona

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Speaker 1: reading a little of her latest story about Jess.

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Speaker 2: On her most recent birthday, Jess Schoenberger woke to the

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Speaker 2: sounds of joy in her balloon forestoon, Sydney bedroom. Her

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Speaker 2: celebration loving family gathered around her for a photo and

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Speaker 2: produced a bounty of gifts, a David Walliam's book, a

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Speaker 2: watermelon scented candle, and a robotic toy Furbie. Then they

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Speaker 2: performed a rapper of the Happy Birthday song, hoping to

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Speaker 2: disguise the original version, which Jess has never really liked.

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Speaker 2: They seem to have succeeded because Jess responded as she

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Speaker 2: usually does to moments of delight, widening her eyes, raising

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Speaker 2: her brow, and gently grinning, a reaction that elicited even

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Speaker 2: more joy from her family. There was a birthday cake two,

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Speaker 2: but Jess could not eat that, neither could she play

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Speaker 2: with her carefully selected gifts. Yet this November day was

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Speaker 2: an occasion not only of happiness, but also of wonder

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Speaker 2: and of pride, because in another time, Jess was diagnosed

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Speaker 2: with a rare and life limiting genetic condition and doctors

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Speaker 2: told her parents she would not see her third birthday. Devastated,

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Speaker 2: they set about making the rest of her life safe,

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Speaker 2: happy and warm. Encircled by love and supported by a

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Speaker 2: growing list of medical aids and medications. She reached her

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Speaker 2: first birthday having never crawled. She turned too without uttering

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Speaker 2: a word. She turned three. Each birthday was momentous, but

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Speaker 2: this one in late twenty twenty four, with a book

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Speaker 2: that she had to be read because she cannot read,

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Speaker 2: and a scented candle she could not admire, was even

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Speaker 2: more special because on this birthday, after three decades of

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Speaker 2: intensive care, just turned thirty three.

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Speaker 1: There's a picture accompanying Fiona's story, which is live now

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Speaker 1: at Beaustralian dot com dot a u slash health. It

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Speaker 1: shows Jess, who's a brunette with fair skin, lying on

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Speaker 1: her side in bed under brightly colored covers, smiling towards

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Speaker 1: the camera. Her mum, Debbie, sits on the bed close

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Speaker 1: to the camera, behind Jess's dad Earl and her brother Ariel.

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Speaker 1: They're all beaming with delight. Fiona has been doing this

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Speaker 1: for a long time and I've learned a lot from

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Speaker 1: her over the years about how to deal with contacts.

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Speaker 1: She can be tough and dispassionate, especially when she knows

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Speaker 1: the subject isn't going to like the story that she's written.

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Speaker 1: And Fiona can also be hugely empathetic and compassionate. She's

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Speaker 1: a writer in our health section, which means she's constantly

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Speaker 1: on the lookout for stories that are about the most

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Speaker 1: important subject of all, how we live, how we feel,

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Speaker 1: how we look after ourselves and one another. And Fiona

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Speaker 1: knew this family story would resonate with our audiences.

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Speaker 2: I've sort of known them vaguely over many years, lived

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Speaker 2: at similar schools, and I think, in fact, when Jess

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Speaker 2: But I think I really got to know them about

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Speaker 2: twelve years ago, when I wrote a story for another

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Speaker 2: publication about parents who were raising children who had life

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Speaker 2: limiting illnesses, so, in other words, parents raising children who

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Speaker 2: I was doing the interviews. It was an incredibly difficult

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Speaker 2: I think remarkably now that Jess's thirty three.

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Speaker 1: Everything they say this family is about gratitude for Jess,

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Speaker 1: But they're not shy about admitting that life has been tough,

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Speaker 2: Not at all? And I think that's what well. It

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Speaker 2: certainly makes it easier to interview them, and it makes

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Speaker 2: by the time her brother came along, they were able

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Speaker 2: also born with it, so they're fully aware of what

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Speaker 2: of people very much steered by Debbie and Earl Jess's parents,

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Speaker 2: who are literally beside Jess around the clock. Because Jess

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Speaker 2: her salivas. So they have people with her not only constantly,

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Speaker 2: the expressions in her face that she does express joy,

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Speaker 1: Coming up the conversation with a specialist, the family will

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Speaker 1: never forget and why they've been so determined to keep

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Speaker 1: Jess smiling. There's a moment that Debbie describes in your

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Speaker 1: But clearly they didn't see it that way.

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Speaker 2: There are so few cases of canneb and disease that

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Speaker 2: He was right in what he said. She didn't walk,

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Speaker 2: But even so, I do under stand the hurt that

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Speaker 1: I think it really goes to something that I think

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Speaker 2: Well, this is their life, Jess is their life. Keeping

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Speaker 2: has become their life. It's interesting because after I interviewed

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Speaker 2: at thirty three. I think what this family in this

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Speaker 2: circumstances of their life might be, because you know, love

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Speaker 2: appears in many different guys and it has some truly

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Speaker 1: Fiona Harari is a senior writer with The Australian. You

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