WEBVTT - MATT'S IN THE HOT SEAT WITH AMY & EMILEE HEMBROW

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<v Speaker 1>I just hope you know, marriage is a serious thing. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it is actually a serious thing. And like, I hope

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<v Speaker 1>you don't make any mistakes. Like I really pray and

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<v Speaker 1>hope that you don't do anything to hurt Tammy.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not going to hurt Tammy. I have no intention

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<v Speaker 2>of hurting Tommy.

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<v Speaker 2>Head At. We're joined by my future sister in laws,

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<v Speaker 2>Amy and Emily Hembro. Hey guys, hi, Hi, welcome to

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<v Speaker 2>Where's Your Head At? Thank you for coming in and

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<v Speaker 2>being a part of this.

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<v Speaker 4>Thanks for having us, Thanks for having us.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, hey guys, look lovely. I will say, like, you're

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<v Speaker 3>both looking stunning.

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<v Speaker 4>Thank you. You guys really nice.

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<v Speaker 5>I love the heart.

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<v Speaker 3>Sorry, I'm hiding my freshly tattooed brows. That's why we've

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<v Speaker 3>got the hat, and then that's hiding his I call

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<v Speaker 3>it a pineapple cut right now, it's looking a little pineapples.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I'm trying to grow up.

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<v Speaker 3>Back. We're both hiding stuff. That's okay. You guys are

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<v Speaker 3>how many siblings are there?

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<v Speaker 1>There's seven of us seven, there's five girls and two boys.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, we had your dad on so he had Amy, Emily,

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<v Speaker 2>and then Tammy.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and then our stepdad for the younger four.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, okay, the eldest. How is it being the eldest

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<v Speaker 3>of seven A lot?

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<v Speaker 6>I'm very protective, very protective over like everyone. I feel

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<v Speaker 6>like I take on every one problems, which hasn't been

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<v Speaker 6>good for me in the past.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 5>I get too involved in their lives.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, that's a hard one. I feel like I do

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<v Speaker 3>that as well. Maybe it's an older sibling thing I

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<v Speaker 3>think it is.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, where's your head out, guys, mine's a bit all

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<v Speaker 6>over the place at the moment.

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<v Speaker 5>There's a lot going on.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, yeah, there is a lot going on.

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<v Speaker 1>But amongst that, I'm really just trying to center myself.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm being.

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<v Speaker 2>I like that laughed as well.

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<v Speaker 4>Because it's hectic time.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but I know my energy, I've got to keep

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<v Speaker 1>it centered and calm.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm doing the same thing.

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<v Speaker 4>Do you get me?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah? You absolutely. How do you guys do it all?

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<v Speaker 3>Because you both have a really successful business called skin

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<v Speaker 3>Is that right? So that's beauty a beauty clinic.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, about two of them.

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<v Speaker 3>You have two? Where are they loafing?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>So Bundle and Rabina on the concourst with injectibles facials.

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<v Speaker 4>I AM's natural path.

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<v Speaker 6>It's like holistic beauty and wellness because obviously, like the

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<v Speaker 6>gut and your skin and everything is connected.

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<v Speaker 5>So we also do lymphatic drainage, have a natural path

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<v Speaker 5>that treats out of.

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<v Speaker 4>There as well. You should come in.

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<v Speaker 3>I would love to.

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<v Speaker 2>I went in for one and it was really nice.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I saw Matt's tik tok and that face I've

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<v Speaker 3>never seen at.

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<v Speaker 2>A lot of people are like this is so central and.

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<v Speaker 5>I but it like yea, Honestly, I like to say

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<v Speaker 5>they're really nurturing.

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<v Speaker 6>So I think that feel like you need, like I

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<v Speaker 6>don't know, if you're a little bit emotional, feeling a

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<v Speaker 6>little bit fragile. That's when I also like to get

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<v Speaker 6>a facial because it's like that time where I can

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<v Speaker 6>really shut my mind off and I feel like they're

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<v Speaker 6>just there to look after.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. I got a facial and therapy for me because

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<v Speaker 1>they usually make me get off my phone and like

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<v Speaker 1>do a few deep breaths, and I'm like, I really

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<v Speaker 1>needed that same.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, I actually went I got my head like blow

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<v Speaker 3>dry the other day and at the start of I'm

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<v Speaker 3>going to say the experience, because it really felt like

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<v Speaker 3>an experience. They put some I think essential oils like

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<v Speaker 3>right beside my face and made me take a couple

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<v Speaker 3>of deep breaths and I was like, oh, this is lovely,

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<v Speaker 3>just like those small things that really like changes the

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<v Speaker 3>whole experience.

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<v Speaker 2>And it makes you come back experience and just getting

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<v Speaker 2>your hair blows dried.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, that's what we try to do, create an experience.

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<v Speaker 2>I did have an experience and when it came out

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<v Speaker 2>and like, you are scented.

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<v Speaker 3>Relaxed, but no, what I was going to say before

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<v Speaker 3>was you guys have two stores, You guys are super busy,

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<v Speaker 3>you're both mums. How do you do it all? I don't.

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<v Speaker 5>Stressed all over the place.

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<v Speaker 6>I think it's like trying figure out my priorities and

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<v Speaker 6>also like protecting my own energy and making sure that

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<v Speaker 6>I'm putting value where it needs to be in my life.

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<v Speaker 6>I think I've been really bad at that in the past,

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<v Speaker 6>getting to invest it in my sister's lives and what

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<v Speaker 6>they're doing, and then it affecting my life. So now

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<v Speaker 6>I'm just kind of like tunnel vision, like this is

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<v Speaker 6>what I'm doing, this is what's important to me, and

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<v Speaker 6>then I focus in on that and then having a

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<v Speaker 6>really good support system.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I've preached you in the past, like to say

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<v Speaker 1>no to things, and like it's okay to say no

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<v Speaker 1>and like put yourself first, because Amy would you know,

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<v Speaker 1>think of oh this, which is so nice, but like

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<v Speaker 1>kind of a little bit too much before herself.

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<v Speaker 5>So that's I'm the biggest apartment.

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<v Speaker 6>I will like if my sister is going through a

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<v Speaker 6>hard time and she's hurting, then I'm all of a

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<v Speaker 6>sudden like can't sleep.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm like I need to help her, and yeah, a lot.

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<v Speaker 6>And then I literally a couple of years back, had

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<v Speaker 6>to go to a therapist about it because I was like,

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<v Speaker 6>this is like controlling my life. She was like, you

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<v Speaker 6>need to start putting yourself first. So yeah, that's really

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<v Speaker 6>cute though, that is lovely.

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<v Speaker 5>It's a lot. I think Aurora's got it too. She

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<v Speaker 5>cries and like everything she watches on to the song

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<v Speaker 5>plays in the car and I turn around. She's literally got.

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<v Speaker 2>And she's looking out the window.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm like, oh no, she's inherited this from me.

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<v Speaker 2>What about you, Emily? Any tips for managing at.

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<v Speaker 1>All having a good support team around you, whether that's

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<v Speaker 1>a babysitter, nanny, family members, your partner, whoever it is,

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<v Speaker 1>Because I think routine is really important for being like

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<v Speaker 1>organized and having the help and getting the help where

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<v Speaker 1>you can, whether it's like even with like household like

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<v Speaker 1>chores and cleaning or meal preps or whatever it is

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<v Speaker 1>in your life so that you can then focus on

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<v Speaker 1>the things that's going to you know, be the best

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<v Speaker 1>by you doing it.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>So I try to be really organized, and I do

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<v Speaker 1>have great support around me with.

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<v Speaker 4>The kids and their activities and.

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<v Speaker 1>Things like that, so I just then have time to

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<v Speaker 1>like get what's important done. But there's no sleep, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's stressful. But I think that comes with being

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<v Speaker 1>an entrepreneur and owning your own business. Like I think

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<v Speaker 1>online now these days, everyone like wants to be an

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<v Speaker 1>entrepreneur and a girl boss and like own your own business.

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<v Speaker 1>But it's freaking hard and a lot of people don't

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<v Speaker 1>show like the struggles you go through the risk that

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<v Speaker 1>you take opening your own business. Like we're opening COVID

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<v Speaker 1>and spend so much money and there's so much risks

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<v Speaker 1>that then goes onto us, which is so much stress.

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<v Speaker 1>So it's not like what people think like Girl Boss.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like sleepless nights.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, and nobody's going to care as much as you

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<v Speaker 6>do about your own business, so it is a lot

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<v Speaker 6>of pressure and if no one else is showing.

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<v Speaker 5>Up, you have to show up.

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<v Speaker 6>So yeah, a lot of people don't see like the

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<v Speaker 6>tears and the like really late nights or me and

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<v Speaker 6>Emily like painting in clinic, like the night before opening,

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<v Speaker 6>you know, yeah, yeah, yeah, the block.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, we painted our own canvases. We were like all

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<v Speaker 1>out of funds, and I was like Amy, you get

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<v Speaker 1>like Rory was outside the front with her kids, Emma

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<v Speaker 1>was watching mine and we were painting them ourselves, and

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<v Speaker 1>people actually compliment them and they're like where They're like

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<v Speaker 1>it's for sale ten thousand dollars famous artists.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean from Italy. Oh, It's so true, Like there's

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<v Speaker 3>so much that goes into having your own business, and unfortunately,

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<v Speaker 3>even if you were to show like a little bit

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<v Speaker 3>of the hard stuff, people mainly show like the Girl

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<v Speaker 3>Boss and like I'm killing it and I'm doing so well,

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<v Speaker 3>but it's so stressful. It's so hard. How is it

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<v Speaker 3>being in business with your sister? Does that cause conflict?

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<v Speaker 3>Like how do you guys get along as co founders?

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<v Speaker 4>I actually really love it.

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<v Speaker 1>I was really worried at the beginning because I always

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<v Speaker 1>saw Amy and Tammy fight like NonStop when she worked

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<v Speaker 1>with Tammy at Saskia and they were like non stop,

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<v Speaker 1>like drama.

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<v Speaker 2>Did you get fired?

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<v Speaker 5>No, so that it's like a weird thing. She used

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<v Speaker 5>to fire me like every week.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so yeah one time, then one time.

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<v Speaker 5>And she was literally like are you coming back?

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<v Speaker 6>And I was like no, but everyone's like, oh my god,

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<v Speaker 6>she fired you, and it's like this was not a

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<v Speaker 6>new like yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>So I was a little like worried, but I knew

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<v Speaker 1>how smart Amy was and I really wanted to do

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<v Speaker 1>a business with her, so at the beginning I was unsure.

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<v Speaker 1>But we have a lot of ups and downs, and

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<v Speaker 1>like we're polar opposites as well, so.

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<v Speaker 4>It's kind of like a yin and yang.

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<v Speaker 1>But I think that like really benefits our business, and

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<v Speaker 1>like we look at the business from two different like personalities,

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<v Speaker 1>So I think it really benefits, But there are times where, like,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, like I kicked her out of.

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<v Speaker 4>The car a couple of weeks ago, like on the

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<v Speaker 4>side of the road. I really did.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel you can't do that with friends, Like you

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<v Speaker 1>can't come back from that with a friend.

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<v Speaker 2>How did you get out of the car?

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<v Speaker 4>You just like, well, I didn't like kick her.

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<v Speaker 1>I just just physically kissed a main road or not

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<v Speaker 1>a main road, she told mom A main road by

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<v Speaker 1>the way, I got told I told a main road

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<v Speaker 1>as well, speaking why kindy? So you pulled off a

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<v Speaker 1>road and I said you can get out, And then

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<v Speaker 1>two minutes later, actually was trying to call you, but

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<v Speaker 1>you blocked me, and I was going to get you

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<v Speaker 1>back in the car, but you had already left in

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<v Speaker 1>an uber.

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<v Speaker 4>So I was calling time and I'm like, cooling.

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<v Speaker 2>Did you then meet? So you were doing a presentation

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<v Speaker 2>and did you go do it together?

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<v Speaker 4>No?

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<v Speaker 3>Who did the presentation?

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<v Speaker 4>No?

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<v Speaker 3>One?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, okay, I should have.

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<v Speaker 6>Two emotions were too heightened. Ye, But yeah, like Emily said,

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<v Speaker 6>there's ups and downs. I do think that I've grown

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<v Speaker 6>heaps from working with my sisters in terms of like

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<v Speaker 6>learning to I guess, collaborate more and listen more.

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<v Speaker 4>To you, Yeah, to hear me.

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<v Speaker 6>And I think when I do that, because like I admit,

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<v Speaker 6>I'm sometimes like, oh, my way is the right way.

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<v Speaker 6>But I found that now when I do kind of

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<v Speaker 6>take on what Emily's saying and meet in the middle,

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<v Speaker 6>the ideas.

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<v Speaker 5>Are often a lot better and strong love that.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah. Yeah, I feel like Yin yang kind of co

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<v Speaker 3>founder relationships are just the best. Like it's the creme

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<v Speaker 3>de la creme of co founders, because when two people

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<v Speaker 3>are the same, it just doesn't work. There's too much

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<v Speaker 3>of a clash and people want to do the same things.

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<v Speaker 2>So people that agree on stuff that would be ideal, yeah.

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<v Speaker 5>We will.

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<v Speaker 3>To do a different things.

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<v Speaker 2>You want someone to challenge, Yeah, challenge.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, we are thinking with ideas, so you thought about

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<v Speaker 1>it from this perspective, but same overall goals. Yeah, that's

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<v Speaker 1>what you have the same goal, yeah, which is really important.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, I will say that I don't think I could

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<v Speaker 6>ever be in business with like a friend. I feel like,

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<v Speaker 6>like as a business partner, I feel like it has

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<v Speaker 6>to be family for me because I know too there

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<v Speaker 6>is like no nothing that can come between us, no

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<v Speaker 6>matter how hard we fight or push our own idea

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<v Speaker 6>and get kicked.

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<v Speaker 2>Out of a car on the main I'm still going, well, we.

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<v Speaker 6>Will make up like that, Like the next day, we're

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<v Speaker 6>like fine again.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeahs ten minutes later.

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<v Speaker 3>How often do you guys block each other?

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<v Speaker 4>I never block her? She blocked me.

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<v Speaker 2>I haven't done first date with Tammy. She told me

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<v Speaker 2>she blocked.

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<v Speaker 1>Tammy blocked me too, Like they both like that was

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<v Speaker 1>the only time I think either have done that.

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<v Speaker 5>But that's I feel like that's so childish, Like you

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<v Speaker 5>know what I mean?

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<v Speaker 4>Why block? Why block?

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<v Speaker 5>I mean, you blocked someone when you don't want them

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<v Speaker 5>to contact you.

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<v Speaker 1>But I'm not trying to call you.

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<v Speaker 2>You blow a phone.

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<v Speaker 1>No, no one's trying to contact either of you. But okay,

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<v Speaker 1>but they both unblocked.

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<v Speaker 2>Obviously we're here now, Yeah, telling it, laughing about it

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<v Speaker 2>because Tammy called me.

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<v Speaker 4>And was like, hey, I kind of remember what that

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<v Speaker 4>was about me.

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<v Speaker 2>I know what it was about.

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<v Speaker 4>Is it private?

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<v Speaker 2>Was exactly a year ago? How wild's that? A lot

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<v Speaker 2>has happened in a year. Yeah, let's talk.

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<v Speaker 3>Let's talk about that, because I am like very interested

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<v Speaker 3>to know what you guys first thought of Matt honestly,

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<v Speaker 3>like you can be really real and honest about this.

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<v Speaker 3>Matt looks stressed.

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<v Speaker 1>Trying to think of To be honest, I didn't have

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<v Speaker 1>enough energy to have an opinion.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm not even joking. Usually with like listen, listen, listen, listen.

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<v Speaker 1>So usually in the past, like I've been a bit

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<v Speaker 1>like Amy and really involved in like my sister's lives.

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<v Speaker 1>But with Tammy, I was at the point where I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, when you guys said you were getting engaged,

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, he must be that delusional. I was

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<v Speaker 1>really concerned because she is, like she's spontaneous, and she's

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<v Speaker 1>a fun spirit, and she likes to do what she

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<v Speaker 1>wants to do. But for a guy to come in

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<v Speaker 1>and think that's okay when she's got a one year old,

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<v Speaker 1>like I thought that was a big red flag. And

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't have the energy.

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<v Speaker 4>To go and like go separate a couple.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, yeah, I'm not gonna get like I just

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<v Speaker 1>for the first time, I was like, I'm not gonna

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<v Speaker 1>get involved and I'm just gonna sit back. But I

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<v Speaker 1>had huge concerns, like I didn't really want to meet him.

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<v Speaker 1>I wasn't interested, and I just before I proposed you

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<v Speaker 1>don't want to meet me before. I don't think I

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to meet anyone. It was just like too fresh,

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<v Speaker 1>and I just wasn't interested in getting to know anyone.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it sounds like I was a bit triggering for you,

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<v Speaker 3>like Matt coming into the Aures.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 6>I had been, like I said, really involved in like

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<v Speaker 6>my sister's lives and like obviously she's got past relationships

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<v Speaker 6>and I always just wanted to look out for her.

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<v Speaker 5>And think I overstepped as well in some cases. But

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<v Speaker 5>we had a plan, Tammy and I had a plan.

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<v Speaker 6>I was like, okay, cool, take things slow, like you know,

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<v Speaker 6>like the next person you meet, this is what we want.

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<v Speaker 5>We had like a plan laid out. I don't know

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<v Speaker 5>if she ever told you the plan that plan went. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 5>and then all of a sudden, she's like, I'm in love.

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<v Speaker 5>I met my soulmate.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I'm just getting it weird, like we're.

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<v Speaker 3>Going to be together forever.

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<v Speaker 5>And I was like whoa, whoa, like's.

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<v Speaker 2>Not the plan we've never talked about. I remember said, like,

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<v Speaker 2>it's not as spontaneous as me just proposing, Like should

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<v Speaker 2>I say we we're going to Elope?

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, yeah, we should be okay with it.

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<v Speaker 4>I feel like should be fine.

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<v Speaker 5>Like, was what was the turning point for you not eloping?

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<v Speaker 2>When I proposed no, but like so she said I

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<v Speaker 2>don't want a loaping because we had it booked in

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<v Speaker 2>in like a month later. And then I was like, well,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going to propose make it more like romantic. And

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<v Speaker 2>then she was like, nah, we're not eloping. I want

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<v Speaker 2>to do it work.

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<v Speaker 4>But it was your idea not to albe No.

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<v Speaker 5>Well, because I thought I had something to do.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I thought, I really.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you want to talk about the chat?

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, because I went in that real like like I

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<v Speaker 6>had an agenda.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh it was so I could cause like you're like,

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<v Speaker 1>you need to give a little background. Yeah, you do

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<v Speaker 1>contents to like you and time we were going.

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<v Speaker 4>To a lope.

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<v Speaker 2>We were going to a loaf.

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<v Speaker 4>We were concerned.

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<v Speaker 3>They were very naturally.

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<v Speaker 4>Yes.

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<v Speaker 1>I then got Amy, had a chat with Matt. I

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<v Speaker 1>brought you to come to speak to both of us. You

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<v Speaker 1>didn't rock up, Yeah you were like this guy.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>I was, yeah, you didn't rock up. And then it

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<v Speaker 2>was me and Amy at skin. I had the ring

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<v Speaker 2>at this point, do you know.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, you showed me in.

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<v Speaker 3>A second. So Amy calls a chat.

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<v Speaker 5>No, I did he called a chat?

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<v Speaker 3>And is that because you wanted to show the ring?

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<v Speaker 2>No, I wanted to approval, okay, right, and then you.

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<v Speaker 4>Didn't rock up and was a big no.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. I took that note and then Amy, and then

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<v Speaker 2>Amy had a very strong agenda.

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<v Speaker 3>And what was that Amy?

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<v Speaker 2>It was just that sure.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, I said, Okay, I'm not I'm not going to

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<v Speaker 6>tell someone not to propose. They're in love, Like, I'm

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<v Speaker 6>not getting involved that much. But I had like a

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<v Speaker 6>slight agenda where I was like, Okay, propose and then

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<v Speaker 6>have a year long engagement and don't rush into it

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<v Speaker 6>and celebrate and learn to like, you know, get to

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<v Speaker 6>know everyone in the family and you know, like learn

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<v Speaker 6>about each other and all.

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<v Speaker 5>That sort of stuff.

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<v Speaker 6>And I really pushed that agenda, yeah, because really they

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<v Speaker 6>were gonna alone. I just said, kind of like pros

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<v Speaker 6>and cons list. There are so many pros to like

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<v Speaker 6>waiting waiting, and you guys.

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<v Speaker 2>Have done that, right, Yeah, so you guys hate me.

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<v Speaker 1>There was nothing to do with it. It's not your

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<v Speaker 1>character who you are. It was going to be any

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<v Speaker 1>any person that she was with, you know. And I

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<v Speaker 1>just found it, like I remember saying to you the

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<v Speaker 1>first time we spoke about it at her house and

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<v Speaker 1>I just said to you, like, what's the rash?

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<v Speaker 4>And you were like, well, why not? We love each other?

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<v Speaker 4>And I was like, that's just like so silly. It's like, that's.

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<v Speaker 2>Correction if I'm wrong.

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<v Speaker 1>Em he proposed to you after a one year old

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<v Speaker 1>and I wasn't engaged two times prior.

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<v Speaker 4>So it's very different because you said that to.

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<v Speaker 1>Me that day too, you know, so it's very different situations.

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<v Speaker 2>Is love love?

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<v Speaker 4>I agree? I agree, but come on, red flag?

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<v Speaker 2>There huge red flag to quit back and.

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<v Speaker 4>Think I'm glad like we you know, yeah, do.

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<v Speaker 3>You imagine if you were aloped after a couple of months?

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<v Speaker 1>I still think the engagement's not long enough. Yeah, but

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<v Speaker 1>it's better than like.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I feel like it should have been another year.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I do too.

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<v Speaker 2>Would you have come to our like Twitter?

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<v Speaker 4>Don't you? Like elope? Without people?

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<v Speaker 3>You can bring people a couple of people.

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<v Speaker 1>Like if you guys wanted me to, I would have,

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<v Speaker 1>but like I wouldn't excited about anything, like you.

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<v Speaker 3>Know, I would have come kicking in screws.

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<v Speaker 4>I was just like no feelings about it, Like I

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<v Speaker 4>was trying to.

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<v Speaker 2>Say, I know you say you had no feelings, but

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<v Speaker 2>you were very strong on the I thought it.

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<v Speaker 1>Was really silly and it would have been a really

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<v Speaker 1>bad mistake, but I just didn't. I didn't express it

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<v Speaker 1>to anyone, but I think I expressed it just to you.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know what you're talking about. You were very

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<v Speaker 2>strong about it.

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<v Speaker 5>You were like, that was me.

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<v Speaker 1>So calm with no feelings, Like I'm not kidding.

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<v Speaker 4>That was that time.

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<v Speaker 1>I remember the house was the only like conversation we

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<v Speaker 1>hadn't I said it, I think it's not a good idea.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, what's the rush and tried to be

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<v Speaker 1>really like smiley about it.

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<v Speaker 6>You know, I witness to that, and that's where I

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<v Speaker 6>was like, I need to take a different approach. And

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<v Speaker 6>that's why when we met, I was like, okay, I'm

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<v Speaker 6>taking a different angle.

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<v Speaker 1>I remember Day was kicking me under the terminal say anything.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, this is me so calm, and he's doing

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<v Speaker 1>this like wow, it was so worried.

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<v Speaker 2>You kept saying yea, oh, it's not my business.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm like it's my sister.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, No, it is your business. And you have every

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<v Speaker 2>right to be in the position.

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<v Speaker 1>And you were asking, like, I didn't come randomly, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>and give my opinion.

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<v Speaker 4>You were like asking, I'm.

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<v Speaker 2>Pretty sure we both did both.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah. Yeah, I remember I went to Tammy's news Eve

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<v Speaker 3>party and Emily you were like, tell me everything about that,

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<v Speaker 3>like who is this guy?

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<v Speaker 4>Like who is this stranger?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, and it may it makes sense.

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<v Speaker 1>I think I've heard about you. Was that you cried

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<v Speaker 1>on every episode of Violet.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, that's the only thing because I'm an emotional guy. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>I didn't see anything wrong.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't see anything wrong with that, and I actually, like,

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<v Speaker 1>I really I think I would have said to you too.

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<v Speaker 1>I really liked the playful, goofy side that comes out

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<v Speaker 1>of Tammy when she's with you, Like I noticed that

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<v Speaker 1>straight away, and I thought that was really nice and

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<v Speaker 1>she's really happy. The only thing that I was like, hmm,

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<v Speaker 1>that I didn't like was when we were talking that day.

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<v Speaker 1>Comes back to that day and you were talking about

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<v Speaker 1>I think the New Year's Eve party and you were like,

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<v Speaker 1>are you going to come to like our house that

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<v Speaker 1>we're hosting our party?

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<v Speaker 4>And like you literally just met just literally like.

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<v Speaker 1>Just audacity, like a few times, like ah, Like I'm

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<v Speaker 1>like okay, I get you guys, but like, no, I

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<v Speaker 1>think you even said you guys are invited. Yeah, no,

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<v Speaker 1>you you Matt. You were like, I don't worry you'll

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<v Speaker 1>be invited, And I was like, I don't even want

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<v Speaker 1>to come, but thanks, babe, Like.

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<v Speaker 2>This isn't that's surely not party.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh house, it's the first time we've been to this house.

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<v Speaker 2>I was still staying in the hotel.

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<v Speaker 3>Fast forward from the initial impression of that and some

0:21:47.720 --> 0:21:50.560
<v Speaker 3>of those impressions which aren't the best that that's not.

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<v Speaker 6>No, it's true because Emily talked about it like, yeah

0:21:56.200 --> 0:21:56.639
<v Speaker 6>times too.

0:21:56.880 --> 0:21:58.680
<v Speaker 5>She was like, I didn't like that he did this.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I don't think. I don't even want to come anywhere.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm giving Jason it's fine.

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<v Speaker 5>Me move past it.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>Look now we're moving on to the present. This is

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<v Speaker 3>present day and Tammy and Matt are getting married in

0:22:15.920 --> 0:22:18.320
<v Speaker 3>three months time. How do you guys feel about it?

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<v Speaker 3>Did you think that they were going to get to

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<v Speaker 3>this place? Did you even think that they were going

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<v Speaker 3>to be like walking down the aisle? What's your thoughts?

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<v Speaker 1>I feel I still feel they should have had a

0:22:31.280 --> 0:22:34.680
<v Speaker 1>longer engagement. Yeah, but I feel like I like Matt

0:22:34.720 --> 0:22:37.600
<v Speaker 1>as a person, Like I think he's nice. I think

0:22:37.640 --> 0:22:39.760
<v Speaker 1>he's immature. I think he's got to do a lot

0:22:39.760 --> 0:22:42.880
<v Speaker 1>of growing up. Like you're very immature, but I think

0:22:42.880 --> 0:22:45.119
<v Speaker 1>you're a nice person, Like you've got a good heart,

0:22:45.200 --> 0:22:47.679
<v Speaker 1>Like you've got good intentions with her. But I do

0:22:47.800 --> 0:22:50.080
<v Speaker 1>still feel like it could be a longer engagement. But

0:22:50.200 --> 0:22:53.080
<v Speaker 1>like we get along, there's no beef, there's.

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<v Speaker 2>Love after this.

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<v Speaker 1>Immature in what way you're like some of the stuff

0:23:00.119 --> 0:23:01.880
<v Speaker 1>you say, I can't think of things off to my head.

0:23:03.480 --> 0:23:06.080
<v Speaker 1>That's like a little teenager boy would say something like that,

0:23:06.520 --> 0:23:09.840
<v Speaker 1>like a little baby.

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<v Speaker 4>A big baby.

0:23:10.280 --> 0:23:10.879
<v Speaker 3>You're right, but.

0:23:15.880 --> 0:23:18.440
<v Speaker 1>I said, we're in a good place. But I don't

0:23:18.480 --> 0:23:21.040
<v Speaker 1>also feel like it has to do with me. Like

0:23:21.119 --> 0:23:23.440
<v Speaker 1>Tommy seems she's happy, and that's what, like I.

0:23:23.359 --> 0:23:25.800
<v Speaker 2>Care about you know what about you? Amy?

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<v Speaker 6>All I wanted always was for Tammy to be happy

0:23:29.359 --> 0:23:32.440
<v Speaker 6>and to find her person, and Tammy loves love. You

0:23:32.480 --> 0:23:35.320
<v Speaker 6>would know that she loves romance and that's why she

0:23:35.320 --> 0:23:38.720
<v Speaker 6>always falls so hard, which I like hated but also

0:23:38.800 --> 0:23:40.879
<v Speaker 6>loved about her and didn't want her to ever lose that.

0:23:41.240 --> 0:23:43.840
<v Speaker 6>So I always just like hoped for you guys to

0:23:44.040 --> 0:23:47.520
<v Speaker 6>work out Obviously I didn't know you like very long,

0:23:47.840 --> 0:23:52.919
<v Speaker 6>so I was protective and scared because I feel about her.

0:23:53.240 --> 0:23:55.919
<v Speaker 6>But now you know, I like you. You seem to

0:23:55.920 --> 0:23:59.600
<v Speaker 6>make her happy. She's smiling, she's goofy, she's like her

0:23:59.640 --> 0:24:03.440
<v Speaker 6>fun like self when she's around you, And I think,

0:24:03.640 --> 0:24:06.679
<v Speaker 6>like anyone, that brings out the best in you and

0:24:06.920 --> 0:24:07.400
<v Speaker 6>each other.

0:24:08.119 --> 0:24:10.600
<v Speaker 5>Then, like, you know, I wish you guys the best.

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<v Speaker 2>Can you gasp me up some more?

0:24:12.920 --> 0:24:17.120
<v Speaker 1>I just hope you know marriage is a serious thing. Yeah,

0:24:18.359 --> 0:24:23.040
<v Speaker 1>it is actually a serious thing, and like I hope

0:24:23.080 --> 0:24:26.480
<v Speaker 1>you don't make any mistakes, Like I really pray and

0:24:26.560 --> 0:24:29.399
<v Speaker 1>hope that you don't do anything to hurt Tammy.

0:24:29.760 --> 0:24:32.000
<v Speaker 2>I'm not going to hurt Tammy. I have no intention

0:24:32.080 --> 0:24:32.840
<v Speaker 2>of hurting Tommy.

0:24:33.680 --> 0:24:35.520
<v Speaker 1>You know, like she's really happy. You guys are in

0:24:35.600 --> 0:24:38.000
<v Speaker 1>a really good space, and hopefully that continues.

0:24:38.440 --> 0:24:41.520
<v Speaker 3>Absolutely. How do you think Matt is with Tammy's kids

0:24:43.160 --> 0:24:43.920
<v Speaker 3>as a stepdad.

0:24:44.200 --> 0:24:46.880
<v Speaker 4>It's good, But I haven't seen you that much with them.

0:24:46.880 --> 0:24:49.359
<v Speaker 1>But I'll tell you a little cheeky little thing that

0:24:49.400 --> 0:24:52.400
<v Speaker 1>I did when you first came to the house, and

0:24:52.480 --> 0:24:54.399
<v Speaker 1>like we were all having dinner at lunch, and the

0:24:54.480 --> 0:24:56.760
<v Speaker 1>kids are screaming and running around everywhere, like every time

0:24:56.800 --> 0:24:58.720
<v Speaker 1>you didn't look like I was banging and making more

0:24:58.760 --> 0:24:59.600
<v Speaker 1>noise to.

0:24:59.640 --> 0:25:01.479
<v Speaker 4>Make it seem like really hectic.

0:25:01.600 --> 0:25:03.960
<v Speaker 1>I swear I was like banging the tables, making like

0:25:04.080 --> 0:25:04.840
<v Speaker 1>loud noises.

0:25:05.200 --> 0:25:07.480
<v Speaker 4>And I was like, oh, this is so calm tonight.

0:25:07.800 --> 0:25:10.240
<v Speaker 5>Let you feel. She was like trying to get me

0:25:10.280 --> 0:25:13.480
<v Speaker 5>in on it. She's like, make more noise, banging.

0:25:13.240 --> 0:25:15.200
<v Speaker 2>The counter, And what did I do?

0:25:15.520 --> 0:25:15.720
<v Speaker 1>Let you?

0:25:16.160 --> 0:25:16.720
<v Speaker 4>You were.

0:25:18.040 --> 0:25:20.280
<v Speaker 1>You were like your Facebook you see to go like

0:25:21.960 --> 0:25:25.840
<v Speaker 1>it was, And I was like, how calm is tonight?

0:25:25.920 --> 0:25:27.879
<v Speaker 1>Amy is so peaceful?

0:25:29.960 --> 0:25:32.560
<v Speaker 2>It was so I did think it was quietly out.

0:25:33.640 --> 0:25:34.560
<v Speaker 2>It was a lot going on.

0:25:34.680 --> 0:25:36.520
<v Speaker 3>And then they left and you're like it's so quiet.

0:25:37.640 --> 0:25:41.159
<v Speaker 6>I was fine, well, yeah, like if you can't like

0:25:41.320 --> 0:25:43.040
<v Speaker 6>put up with that, then that's yeah.

0:25:43.480 --> 0:25:48.560
<v Speaker 5>It was good. Like you passed. Then, well, there's a

0:25:48.600 --> 0:25:49.560
<v Speaker 5>lot of kids.

0:25:49.280 --> 0:25:52.720
<v Speaker 2>In our family, a lot going on.

0:25:52.920 --> 0:25:54.639
<v Speaker 5>We spend a lot of time together too.

0:25:55.440 --> 0:25:56.200
<v Speaker 2>I like that though.

0:25:56.520 --> 0:25:59.359
<v Speaker 3>I like the whole family thing close everyone.

0:25:59.560 --> 0:25:59.960
<v Speaker 2>I love that.

0:26:00.760 --> 0:26:02.959
<v Speaker 6>Let's talk about that. So how many kids do you

0:26:03.000 --> 0:26:07.680
<v Speaker 6>guys both have I've got three plus two step kids yep.

0:26:07.760 --> 0:26:11.399
<v Speaker 3>And I've got two hell and how is it like,

0:26:12.040 --> 0:26:14.200
<v Speaker 3>you know, I hope to be your mum one day.

0:26:14.320 --> 0:26:17.159
<v Speaker 3>Do you have any advice like for people who just

0:26:17.320 --> 0:26:21.680
<v Speaker 3>have never had kids, like because you guys look like supermums.

0:26:22.080 --> 0:26:23.320
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, it's really hard.

0:26:23.359 --> 0:26:25.840
<v Speaker 1>I think being a mum is like the hardest job,

0:26:25.960 --> 0:26:29.200
<v Speaker 1>like compared to any business that I've had or any

0:26:29.240 --> 0:26:33.520
<v Speaker 1>other project. It's really hard because it's like your everything

0:26:33.560 --> 0:26:36.560
<v Speaker 1>you do is impacting this little person to become the

0:26:36.640 --> 0:26:38.879
<v Speaker 1>person they are and like what they believe and what

0:26:38.920 --> 0:26:41.800
<v Speaker 1>they value, and they're, you know, this whole person. So

0:26:41.840 --> 0:26:44.320
<v Speaker 1>it's a lot of like responsibility. I try not to

0:26:44.359 --> 0:26:46.880
<v Speaker 1>think about that because sometimes that's like.

0:26:47.080 --> 0:26:48.040
<v Speaker 4>To overwhelm me.

0:26:48.520 --> 0:26:51.160
<v Speaker 1>But I think being on the same page as your

0:26:51.280 --> 0:26:54.560
<v Speaker 1>partner with your goals on how you want a parent,

0:26:54.880 --> 0:26:57.439
<v Speaker 1>what you got, what's important to you guys, you know,

0:26:57.560 --> 0:27:01.440
<v Speaker 1>teach your kids is the most important. And like looking back,

0:27:01.480 --> 0:27:04.320
<v Speaker 1>like me and Emmra have these like the same goals,

0:27:04.680 --> 0:27:08.000
<v Speaker 1>but if we didn't, I could see how like people

0:27:08.119 --> 0:27:10.960
<v Speaker 1>divorce and like how broken homes and like all of that.

0:27:11.119 --> 0:27:12.879
<v Speaker 1>So I think that's like really important to be in

0:27:12.920 --> 0:27:17.080
<v Speaker 1>the same page with your partner and like just enjoy

0:27:17.119 --> 0:27:20.159
<v Speaker 1>the journey because there are like crazy situations like you know,

0:27:20.160 --> 0:27:25.680
<v Speaker 1>when they're pooh in public and tantrums and like you can't.

0:27:25.480 --> 0:27:27.840
<v Speaker 4>Be ready and like trained for those situations.

0:27:27.840 --> 0:27:30.199
<v Speaker 1>So I think like laughing it out and like not

0:27:30.280 --> 0:27:32.920
<v Speaker 1>taking it so seriously and not putting so much pressure,

0:27:33.440 --> 0:27:35.199
<v Speaker 1>and you know, like kind of going with it and

0:27:35.280 --> 0:27:38.360
<v Speaker 1>laughing together as a couple is a really good way

0:27:38.440 --> 0:27:40.159
<v Speaker 1>of looking at being a new parent.

0:27:40.440 --> 0:27:44.440
<v Speaker 6>Yeah, I definitely for me, advice I would give myself

0:27:45.240 --> 0:27:47.160
<v Speaker 6>is that it's harder than you think.

0:27:47.400 --> 0:27:50.520
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, and you never get.

0:27:50.359 --> 0:27:53.479
<v Speaker 6>Like that break, but it's also the most rewarding thing

0:27:53.520 --> 0:27:57.120
<v Speaker 6>you'll ever do. So I'm like super proud of myself

0:27:57.200 --> 0:28:00.479
<v Speaker 6>because I feel like my kids have really like I

0:28:00.560 --> 0:28:02.159
<v Speaker 6>like to say, they hold a mirror up to me,

0:28:02.840 --> 0:28:05.960
<v Speaker 6>and then I can I actually see like how I

0:28:05.960 --> 0:28:09.159
<v Speaker 6>guess before how selfish I was, and not even like

0:28:09.240 --> 0:28:11.280
<v Speaker 6>you're allowed to be selfish in your twenties. You know

0:28:11.320 --> 0:28:13.840
<v Speaker 6>that it's like your time for that, but you can't

0:28:13.840 --> 0:28:15.760
<v Speaker 6>do a lot of those things when you have kids.

0:28:16.000 --> 0:28:17.800
<v Speaker 6>You can't sleep in you know, you have to get

0:28:17.840 --> 0:28:19.760
<v Speaker 6>up and change their appies and feed them and all

0:28:19.760 --> 0:28:23.560
<v Speaker 6>that sort of stuff. So just putting like them first,

0:28:23.680 --> 0:28:27.000
<v Speaker 6>I guess, and it really like made me realize, you know,

0:28:27.160 --> 0:28:29.320
<v Speaker 6>I need to grow up. I need to change the

0:28:29.320 --> 0:28:32.280
<v Speaker 6>way I'm doing things. I need to prioritize things differently.

0:28:32.840 --> 0:28:35.480
<v Speaker 6>And yeah, it's like one of the most rewarding things

0:28:35.520 --> 0:28:36.320
<v Speaker 6>I've ever done.

0:28:36.640 --> 0:28:39.880
<v Speaker 2>I've learned that in like the short period that I've

0:28:39.880 --> 0:28:41.960
<v Speaker 2>been around them, that like you can't put like yourself

0:28:42.040 --> 0:28:43.920
<v Speaker 2>first and you've got to be less selfish for stuff.

0:28:44.120 --> 0:28:48.080
<v Speaker 6>Yeah. Yeah, and sometimes it's a hard reality to come to,

0:28:48.440 --> 0:28:52.160
<v Speaker 6>you know, because it does almost happen overnight. Yeah, It's

0:28:52.160 --> 0:28:54.120
<v Speaker 6>like you have like you're pregnant and you can still

0:28:54.160 --> 0:28:58.720
<v Speaker 6>like you know, lay around, but you have this baby

0:28:58.720 --> 0:29:01.080
<v Speaker 6>and all of a sudden, like if you're breastfeeding, you're

0:29:01.080 --> 0:29:04.080
<v Speaker 6>feeding every three hours, and it's like you have to

0:29:04.120 --> 0:29:07.040
<v Speaker 6>do this. Yeah, so from the get go, it's like,

0:29:07.120 --> 0:29:08.640
<v Speaker 6>all of a sudden, your life's changed.

0:29:08.760 --> 0:29:09.040
<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

0:29:09.360 --> 0:29:11.720
<v Speaker 5>They can't leave the house like on your own.

0:29:11.800 --> 0:29:14.840
<v Speaker 6>It's like, oh, I need to like obviously take my baby,

0:29:14.840 --> 0:29:17.000
<v Speaker 6>but I need to pack nappies and make.

0:29:16.840 --> 0:29:18.680
<v Speaker 5>Sure like I know when I'm going to feed them.

0:29:18.800 --> 0:29:21.400
<v Speaker 2>And you know, like all such a mind shift, isn't it.

0:29:22.840 --> 0:29:25.000
<v Speaker 6>And I think it's that like adjustment when you first

0:29:25.040 --> 0:29:28.800
<v Speaker 6>have kids that really like, you know, it can rock people.

0:29:28.920 --> 0:29:30.880
<v Speaker 6>And that's when I was like, oh, I didn't actually

0:29:30.920 --> 0:29:33.840
<v Speaker 6>realize how hard it is. My whole life is changing,

0:29:34.040 --> 0:29:35.720
<v Speaker 6>whereas I kind of just thought, oh, it's just gonna

0:29:35.720 --> 0:29:37.520
<v Speaker 6>be a bit different, just a baby.

0:29:37.640 --> 0:29:41.200
<v Speaker 2>Yeah yeah, yeah, and like you want to go home

0:29:41.320 --> 0:29:43.800
<v Speaker 2>and like relax sometimes from work, but it's straight back.

0:29:43.880 --> 0:29:49.080
<v Speaker 1>That's like when the afternoon rush started. Yeah, trying to

0:29:49.080 --> 0:29:50.240
<v Speaker 1>get them to go to sleep.

0:29:50.440 --> 0:29:53.440
<v Speaker 6>Oh my gosh, yeah, the bedtime crying.

0:29:54.320 --> 0:29:56.520
<v Speaker 1>Mine come out every two minutes, Oh my mom, hungry,

0:29:56.800 --> 0:29:57.880
<v Speaker 1>oh my fummy head?

0:29:58.160 --> 0:30:00.720
<v Speaker 4>Oh could you just tick on my back? We read

0:30:00.720 --> 0:30:03.360
<v Speaker 4>one more book. I'm like, just get in your bed.

0:30:03.920 --> 0:30:05.280
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I like ten.

0:30:05.120 --> 0:30:06.120
<v Speaker 4>Minutes, you know.

0:30:06.640 --> 0:30:09.480
<v Speaker 2>Yeah. Wolf comes into the most randomist comments. Didn't you

0:30:09.520 --> 0:30:11.160
<v Speaker 2>find that when he was staying at yours?

0:30:11.600 --> 0:30:14.560
<v Speaker 6>He was so good when he stayed at mine? To bed,

0:30:15.160 --> 0:30:18.640
<v Speaker 6>he just laid bed radio and then I said no and.

0:30:18.640 --> 0:30:22.800
<v Speaker 4>Turned the lot radio. When does he come and saying

0:30:22.880 --> 0:30:23.280
<v Speaker 4>your route?

0:30:23.280 --> 0:30:26.240
<v Speaker 2>When he comes out, it just comes in and he's like, mom,

0:30:26.360 --> 0:30:29.120
<v Speaker 2>you know that, and he says some random friend wants

0:30:29.200 --> 0:30:31.600
<v Speaker 2>this for his birthday. And she's like We're like yeah, okay,

0:30:31.640 --> 0:30:33.960
<v Speaker 2>and then you'll come back and be like is the

0:30:33.960 --> 0:30:36.440
<v Speaker 2>Black Thing tomorrow or something like just that was last

0:30:36.520 --> 0:30:40.600
<v Speaker 2>night alone, like just random stuff the time, Yeah the time.

0:30:40.480 --> 0:30:44.880
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, such is that's really cute.

0:30:45.160 --> 0:30:49.240
<v Speaker 3>You guys used to have your own podcast. What made

0:30:49.240 --> 0:30:50.880
<v Speaker 3>it end? Was there?

0:30:51.360 --> 0:30:53.920
<v Speaker 1>We just got way too busy, like to order note

0:30:54.080 --> 0:30:56.640
<v Speaker 1>us three together at the same time for like we

0:30:56.720 --> 0:30:58.400
<v Speaker 1>used to do like two episodes in the one time

0:30:58.440 --> 0:31:01.480
<v Speaker 1>for like two hours. Was just like things would come up,

0:31:01.520 --> 0:31:04.480
<v Speaker 1>we'd have to cancel. Yeah, So it's just our schedule.

0:31:05.080 --> 0:31:05.640
<v Speaker 3>It's a lot.

0:31:06.200 --> 0:31:08.200
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's a lot of time to commitment. Yeah, and

0:31:08.240 --> 0:31:10.840
<v Speaker 2>then you've got to get like content ready, you organize guests,

0:31:10.880 --> 0:31:13.800
<v Speaker 2>all that sort of stuff. So obviously, like you guys

0:31:13.840 --> 0:31:16.920
<v Speaker 2>are very much on social media, very active on there.

0:31:17.520 --> 0:31:19.840
<v Speaker 2>Do you find it daunting that everyone knows your whole

0:31:19.880 --> 0:31:22.760
<v Speaker 2>life and like everything you do and judges it. Like

0:31:22.800 --> 0:31:25.640
<v Speaker 2>that's something that I've noticed, Like obviously I was like

0:31:25.880 --> 0:31:28.680
<v Speaker 2>came off a show and people like following me in that,

0:31:28.800 --> 0:31:31.640
<v Speaker 2>but like it's next level being retained, Like it's like

0:31:31.760 --> 0:31:34.880
<v Speaker 2>almost confronting about how much people judge you. And I

0:31:34.920 --> 0:31:36.800
<v Speaker 2>know you guys have probably had that secondhand off her.

0:31:36.840 --> 0:31:38.320
<v Speaker 2>It's full on, Like how do you find it.

0:31:38.920 --> 0:31:42.760
<v Speaker 1>I learned from Tammy quite quick to like tune people

0:31:42.760 --> 0:31:45.360
<v Speaker 1>out and like not care about others opinion, and like

0:31:45.400 --> 0:31:47.680
<v Speaker 1>I care about like my sister's opinion and my mom

0:31:47.680 --> 0:31:50.680
<v Speaker 1>and dad's opinion, and like my husband's opinion. So I

0:31:50.720 --> 0:31:54.040
<v Speaker 1>really try to connect myself back to that. But like

0:31:54.080 --> 0:31:56.760
<v Speaker 1>there are times when like people will say things and

0:31:56.880 --> 0:32:01.160
<v Speaker 1>it really does bother you, like the odd comment. But

0:32:01.280 --> 0:32:03.440
<v Speaker 1>I do find that what I was saying the other

0:32:03.480 --> 0:32:05.440
<v Speaker 1>day on Instagram like the tool poppy syndrome.

0:32:05.760 --> 0:32:07.800
<v Speaker 4>In Australia, I find people are.

0:32:07.720 --> 0:32:09.880
<v Speaker 1>So quick to like just judge and say something negative,

0:32:09.880 --> 0:32:11.560
<v Speaker 1>and I find it really sad for them. I'm like,

0:32:12.000 --> 0:32:14.640
<v Speaker 1>I would never like just someone I don't know see

0:32:14.680 --> 0:32:16.640
<v Speaker 1>something and like go comment something so mean.

0:32:16.680 --> 0:32:21.720
<v Speaker 4>I'm like, what is going off with their life? Let's

0:32:21.720 --> 0:32:23.000
<v Speaker 4>get this person a therapist.

0:32:23.640 --> 0:32:27.520
<v Speaker 2>I've been sent forums of people that are just fucking

0:32:27.560 --> 0:32:30.600
<v Speaker 2>commenting shit on everything we do, and I'm like, you

0:32:30.640 --> 0:32:32.880
<v Speaker 2>guys are so fucking sad, and they're probably gonna take

0:32:32.920 --> 0:32:34.719
<v Speaker 2>this and talk about it, and I hope they do,

0:32:34.840 --> 0:32:37.480
<v Speaker 2>because you guys are fucking sad, like and that's being

0:32:37.680 --> 0:32:43.440
<v Speaker 2>so in my life and you're making stuff up on

0:32:43.520 --> 0:32:45.400
<v Speaker 2>there that you think you know about me or judging

0:32:45.400 --> 0:32:48.160
<v Speaker 2>like a fifteen second clip like you need help.

0:32:48.400 --> 0:32:50.360
<v Speaker 1>I think we're really lucky that we have each other,

0:32:50.480 --> 0:32:52.280
<v Speaker 1>like we're all in this together and we can really

0:32:52.360 --> 0:32:55.200
<v Speaker 1>like you know, vent to each other and like express

0:32:55.200 --> 0:32:57.800
<v Speaker 1>how we feel to each other. But I think Tammy's advice,

0:32:57.840 --> 0:33:00.480
<v Speaker 1>like right from the beginning, was really valuable where it's

0:33:00.480 --> 0:33:02.920
<v Speaker 1>like who cares, we're happy?

0:33:03.320 --> 0:33:04.320
<v Speaker 5>You know, we're good.

0:33:05.560 --> 0:33:06.719
<v Speaker 3>You need to take that advice.

0:33:07.240 --> 0:33:09.000
<v Speaker 5>We're good.

0:33:09.280 --> 0:33:13.520
<v Speaker 6>I think it's been about like learning to just let

0:33:13.560 --> 0:33:17.160
<v Speaker 6>it kind of like you know, wash over me and

0:33:17.200 --> 0:33:20.360
<v Speaker 6>then putting my energy where I feel like you're actually

0:33:20.720 --> 0:33:25.000
<v Speaker 6>like valued. So I can't help these people for feeling

0:33:25.040 --> 0:33:27.360
<v Speaker 6>that way. And I know I would never like, you know,

0:33:27.840 --> 0:33:32.920
<v Speaker 6>say random hurtful things about a stranger. I don't know, don't,

0:33:33.440 --> 0:33:36.320
<v Speaker 6>I couldn't, And I've kind it done to me just

0:33:36.400 --> 0:33:39.520
<v Speaker 6>from like association with Tammy, you know, like even like

0:33:40.120 --> 0:33:43.640
<v Speaker 6>from the start, and it's like I was always more reserved,

0:33:43.760 --> 0:33:46.720
<v Speaker 6>a little more quiet, more in the behind the scenes

0:33:46.800 --> 0:33:51.480
<v Speaker 6>business side of things, and that's where I liked to stay.

0:33:51.600 --> 0:33:54.320
<v Speaker 6>And then it got more so that I kind of

0:33:54.360 --> 0:33:56.680
<v Speaker 6>like stepped out. Now I'm doing things like public speaking,

0:33:56.920 --> 0:33:59.800
<v Speaker 6>my businesses and stuff like that, which is great, but yeah,

0:33:59.800 --> 0:34:01.640
<v Speaker 6>there's always going to be people who are like, they

0:34:01.640 --> 0:34:04.200
<v Speaker 6>don't work, they don't do this, and I work so hard.

0:34:04.360 --> 0:34:05.440
<v Speaker 5>But I know I work hard.

0:34:05.480 --> 0:34:09.040
<v Speaker 6>And what matters is that my daughter sees me working hard,

0:34:09.360 --> 0:34:12.319
<v Speaker 6>that my team like I show up for them every day,

0:34:12.680 --> 0:34:15.360
<v Speaker 6>that I put that good energy out there, because I

0:34:15.400 --> 0:34:17.359
<v Speaker 6>do believe in karma, and I'm like, if I keep

0:34:17.440 --> 0:34:19.680
<v Speaker 6>putting good energy out it will come back to me.

0:34:20.000 --> 0:34:23.000
<v Speaker 6>I cannot harbor on like other people's negative energy because

0:34:23.000 --> 0:34:25.360
<v Speaker 6>that's just affecting them. I think I read something in

0:34:25.360 --> 0:34:27.799
<v Speaker 6>a book once and it was like wishing people ill

0:34:28.320 --> 0:34:32.960
<v Speaker 6>is like drinking poison and hoping for them to die.

0:34:33.160 --> 0:34:33.480
<v Speaker 5>That is.

0:34:34.960 --> 0:34:37.480
<v Speaker 2>Actually true too, and I love that.

0:34:40.560 --> 0:34:42.920
<v Speaker 3>Okay, let's end on a bit of a lighter note.

0:34:44.280 --> 0:34:47.239
<v Speaker 3>It's actually been such an interesting chat having both of

0:34:47.239 --> 0:34:48.480
<v Speaker 3>you on, so thank you so much.

0:34:49.480 --> 0:34:50.520
<v Speaker 2>Didn't talk over each other.

0:34:50.840 --> 0:34:55.719
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it's been great. Who's the most likely to splurge

0:34:56.360 --> 0:34:58.640
<v Speaker 3>on something? Emily? Emily?

0:34:58.960 --> 0:35:01.960
<v Speaker 2>Okay, who is the most likely to be late to

0:35:02.000 --> 0:35:02.440
<v Speaker 2>an event?

0:35:04.080 --> 0:35:04.720
<v Speaker 5>Me? Emily.

0:35:05.120 --> 0:35:07.879
<v Speaker 2>You guys were dead on time today and you.

0:35:07.800 --> 0:35:12.080
<v Speaker 1>Guys were good so many times eleven am sharp pat.

0:35:12.000 --> 0:35:15.840
<v Speaker 2>But then I go yes, But then I there before

0:35:15.960 --> 0:35:17.400
<v Speaker 2>because we were running over time. I was like, no,

0:35:17.480 --> 0:35:19.680
<v Speaker 2>that'll be late, don't worry about it, and then you

0:35:19.719 --> 0:35:21.400
<v Speaker 2>were dead with dead a time.

0:35:22.200 --> 0:35:27.640
<v Speaker 3>Who's most likely to forget an important date or a present? Emily?

0:35:29.440 --> 0:35:31.840
<v Speaker 5>I was thinking it might be I think me.

0:35:32.160 --> 0:35:34.320
<v Speaker 4>I'm like, is anything important on today?

0:35:34.320 --> 0:35:38.720
<v Speaker 2>I feel like, what is a moment of your sister

0:35:38.760 --> 0:35:40.560
<v Speaker 2>that you're proud of the most.

0:35:42.280 --> 0:35:45.800
<v Speaker 1>They're both just staring at each other moment I could

0:35:45.840 --> 0:35:49.320
<v Speaker 1>say when. Amy has been doing lots of public speaking lately,

0:35:49.800 --> 0:35:52.640
<v Speaker 1>So I think that's been really cool to see the

0:35:52.680 --> 0:35:55.520
<v Speaker 1>growth because she came from like not wanting to do

0:35:55.600 --> 0:35:59.120
<v Speaker 1>anything and like you know, not standing up in front

0:35:59.160 --> 0:36:02.160
<v Speaker 1>of like even like team meetings of like ten fifteen people.

0:36:02.239 --> 0:36:05.120
<v Speaker 1>She would be nervous to do that. So like hundreds

0:36:05.120 --> 0:36:07.279
<v Speaker 1>of people, I get like a lot, and then you

0:36:07.280 --> 0:36:10.600
<v Speaker 1>can't get her off the mic. I'm doing the presentation

0:36:10.680 --> 0:36:12.359
<v Speaker 1>with her, Okay, I just.

0:36:12.640 --> 0:36:14.880
<v Speaker 2>I love public space because Tammy doesn't like it, and

0:36:14.920 --> 0:36:16.879
<v Speaker 2>I was like, I like it. I enjoy that.

0:36:17.080 --> 0:36:19.320
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I think the more you do it, yeah, you

0:36:19.320 --> 0:36:22.239
<v Speaker 1>either like it or you don't. But she's become amazing.

0:36:22.360 --> 0:36:23.480
<v Speaker 1>I just it's awesome.

0:36:23.640 --> 0:36:25.080
<v Speaker 2>Now you enjoy doing it.

0:36:27.080 --> 0:36:30.239
<v Speaker 5>I don't know, You're like, not, I just get the microphone.

0:36:31.600 --> 0:36:33.600
<v Speaker 6>No, But I am proud of myself because I think

0:36:33.600 --> 0:36:37.439
<v Speaker 6>it shows growth in myself because I really would get

0:36:37.520 --> 0:36:40.080
<v Speaker 6>so nervous and now I actually I still get nervous,

0:36:40.120 --> 0:36:41.759
<v Speaker 6>but not like I used to where it was like

0:36:41.800 --> 0:36:44.759
<v Speaker 6>almost like you know, like I couldn't step out there,

0:36:45.320 --> 0:36:46.920
<v Speaker 6>whereas now I'm like, Okay, I got this.

0:36:48.080 --> 0:36:50.240
<v Speaker 3>Life starts outside your comfort zone.

0:36:50.120 --> 0:36:51.640
<v Speaker 5>Right, Yeah, that's what I say.

0:36:51.719 --> 0:36:56.239
<v Speaker 6>Absolutely, So you're proud of me. There's there's a lot

0:36:56.239 --> 0:36:58.600
<v Speaker 6>of things I'm proud of you for. You're like, you're

0:36:58.600 --> 0:37:01.359
<v Speaker 6>a real go getter, exactly what we're saying, what we're

0:37:01.400 --> 0:37:01.759
<v Speaker 6>proud of you.

0:37:01.880 --> 0:37:04.120
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, was that the fst y yeah moment.

0:37:03.920 --> 0:37:06.359
<v Speaker 2>I asked, but if you have a moment, but if

0:37:06.360 --> 0:37:07.640
<v Speaker 2>you have a list or something like.

0:37:10.520 --> 0:37:12.759
<v Speaker 6>For me, I don't like feed too much into like

0:37:13.120 --> 0:37:16.440
<v Speaker 6>just like specific moments. I like to like look at

0:37:16.520 --> 0:37:19.160
<v Speaker 6>everything as like a whole picture because I feel like

0:37:19.160 --> 0:37:21.240
<v Speaker 6>too many people kind of pass up the little things.

0:37:21.520 --> 0:37:23.320
<v Speaker 6>And I think I've seen like a lot of growth

0:37:23.320 --> 0:37:27.040
<v Speaker 6>in Emily over the time that we've been business partners. Yeah,

0:37:27.360 --> 0:37:31.040
<v Speaker 6>like really, you know, trying and like trying to like

0:37:31.080 --> 0:37:33.680
<v Speaker 6>step outside your comfort zone where you might not have

0:37:33.719 --> 0:37:36.080
<v Speaker 6>the strengths and like step more into areas that I'm

0:37:36.320 --> 0:37:37.480
<v Speaker 6>like strongering.

0:37:37.560 --> 0:37:39.320
<v Speaker 5>And I think that's the same what you said about.

0:37:39.080 --> 0:37:41.440
<v Speaker 6>Me, because you're really good at public speaking, and I

0:37:41.480 --> 0:37:43.000
<v Speaker 6>think you've also helped me too.

0:37:46.239 --> 0:37:49.040
<v Speaker 3>That's lovely. I have a final question, and that is

0:37:49.040 --> 0:37:51.480
<v Speaker 3>that you guys are both in really long term relationships.

0:37:51.480 --> 0:37:54.080
<v Speaker 3>Amy you've been in a relationship for twelve years and

0:37:54.120 --> 0:37:57.600
<v Speaker 3>Emily you've been in yours for ten. Do you have

0:37:57.760 --> 0:38:02.120
<v Speaker 3>any relationship advice for our listeners on how to maintain

0:38:02.280 --> 0:38:03.480
<v Speaker 3>and keep the spark alive?

0:38:04.800 --> 0:38:05.000
<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

0:38:05.120 --> 0:38:09.600
<v Speaker 1>I think number one thing is communication, Like I always

0:38:09.680 --> 0:38:12.480
<v Speaker 1>need to be talking to my husband and communicating like

0:38:12.760 --> 0:38:16.279
<v Speaker 1>what's going on with me, how I'm feeling, if.

0:38:16.080 --> 0:38:17.480
<v Speaker 4>He's because they're both really busy.

0:38:17.560 --> 0:38:19.239
<v Speaker 1>So if I find if we both have like really

0:38:19.239 --> 0:38:21.640
<v Speaker 1>busy weeks and we haven't had that like sit down

0:38:21.719 --> 0:38:25.160
<v Speaker 1>in connection, I find myself a little bit off, like

0:38:25.280 --> 0:38:29.000
<v Speaker 1>I need to have that communication time with him so

0:38:29.239 --> 0:38:31.920
<v Speaker 1>that but we also do like weekly date nights, like

0:38:32.040 --> 0:38:35.760
<v Speaker 1>we really put our relationship. I wouldn't say first because

0:38:35.760 --> 0:38:37.520
<v Speaker 1>this is something that like we both like look into.

0:38:37.560 --> 0:38:39.600
<v Speaker 1>But when you have kids, like you kind of like

0:38:39.680 --> 0:38:41.960
<v Speaker 1>as a mummy, devote your life to your kids. But

0:38:42.040 --> 0:38:45.640
<v Speaker 1>I've made it really important that I still give him

0:38:45.680 --> 0:38:48.440
<v Speaker 1>that same kind of attention and I'm kind of not

0:38:48.520 --> 0:38:50.680
<v Speaker 1>like just the kids in see you later like a

0:38:50.680 --> 0:38:54.959
<v Speaker 1>lot of moms. Yeah, I'm really cautious of her. Yeah,

0:38:55.000 --> 0:38:58.680
<v Speaker 1>I really really do of us and our relationship. And yeah,

0:38:58.719 --> 0:39:01.239
<v Speaker 1>I'm like as obset with him as I was like

0:39:01.320 --> 0:39:03.839
<v Speaker 1>the day I met him now, So I think that's

0:39:03.920 --> 0:39:06.439
<v Speaker 1>like really important. And to like marry your best friend,

0:39:06.480 --> 0:39:10.200
<v Speaker 1>like we were friends first and so we get each other,

0:39:10.280 --> 0:39:12.680
<v Speaker 1>we support each other, we push each other to be

0:39:12.760 --> 0:39:16.040
<v Speaker 1>the best version of ourselves too. I think that's also

0:39:16.080 --> 0:39:19.000
<v Speaker 1>really important to not hold back someone like I could

0:39:19.000 --> 0:39:21.799
<v Speaker 1>say the most crazy idea and he will support me to.

0:39:21.880 --> 0:39:23.959
<v Speaker 2>Challenge each other, not the relationship.

0:39:24.200 --> 0:39:27.040
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I think if you are like holding someone back

0:39:27.080 --> 0:39:29.400
<v Speaker 1>and not supporting them, then that's going to cause.

0:39:29.320 --> 0:39:30.680
<v Speaker 2>Of course that's a lot of friction.

0:39:30.880 --> 0:39:33.480
<v Speaker 3>Absolutely supporting, Yeah.

0:39:33.480 --> 0:39:36.439
<v Speaker 2>Amy, any advice. Twelve years is it actually twelve years?

0:39:36.800 --> 0:39:37.320
<v Speaker 3>Yeah?

0:39:37.560 --> 0:39:38.320
<v Speaker 5>Twelve years?

0:39:38.800 --> 0:39:41.480
<v Speaker 2>I think I heard it been longer.

0:39:41.760 --> 0:39:44.839
<v Speaker 6>I think for me, like there needs to be like

0:39:45.040 --> 0:39:49.000
<v Speaker 6>a mutual respect. Like I respect my husband so much.

0:39:49.120 --> 0:39:49.880
<v Speaker 5>I love him.

0:39:50.000 --> 0:39:54.160
<v Speaker 6>He's like one of the kindest people ever, the best dad.

0:39:54.520 --> 0:39:54.600
<v Speaker 2>And.

0:39:56.120 --> 0:39:58.840
<v Speaker 5>Just knowing that we go through different seasons of life,

0:39:58.880 --> 0:40:02.720
<v Speaker 5>but like together, like we will always have each other's.

0:40:02.360 --> 0:40:06.239
<v Speaker 6>Backs, and like, you know, if I'm only operating at

0:40:06.280 --> 0:40:08.920
<v Speaker 6>like twenty percent, he'll be the eighty and.

0:40:08.800 --> 0:40:11.440
<v Speaker 5>We kind of like flow that way.

0:40:11.800 --> 0:40:14.279
<v Speaker 6>And I just know like he'll pick up this like

0:40:14.320 --> 0:40:16.640
<v Speaker 6>if I need it, and I'll do the same. And

0:40:16.880 --> 0:40:19.919
<v Speaker 6>I think, just like, yeah, respecting.

0:40:19.400 --> 0:40:22.640
<v Speaker 5>One another and yeah, that's for us. And I mean

0:40:22.680 --> 0:40:26.200
<v Speaker 5>I just love him because he's like the nicest kind of.

0:40:27.320 --> 0:40:29.360
<v Speaker 3>Guy.

0:40:29.920 --> 0:40:34.279
<v Speaker 2>Both be very welcoming, good guys. Yeah, yeah, you know,

0:40:34.480 --> 0:40:37.320
<v Speaker 2>chatting to him at family events, Yeah.

0:40:36.960 --> 0:40:40.879
<v Speaker 5>He's just a real nice guy. Like he's like.

0:40:40.840 --> 0:40:44.399
<v Speaker 2>It's just a really chill nice is a nice guy

0:40:44.440 --> 0:40:44.799
<v Speaker 2>as well.

0:40:45.120 --> 0:40:47.640
<v Speaker 3>Oh yeah, yeah, really nice guy.

0:40:48.280 --> 0:40:51.360
<v Speaker 6>But you know someone's really nice when like sometimes I

0:40:51.440 --> 0:40:53.720
<v Speaker 6>like might like make a little caddy joke or something

0:40:53.760 --> 0:40:55.520
<v Speaker 6>and he's like, oh, that's not very nice.

0:40:55.520 --> 0:40:59.240
<v Speaker 3>Like oh the Michael does that to me, And I'm like, okay.

0:40:59.080 --> 0:41:03.439
<v Speaker 4>Sorry, like a little bit bitchy about someone else.

0:41:03.600 --> 0:41:06.919
<v Speaker 6>Yeah, maybe like just like a joke and then he'll

0:41:06.960 --> 0:41:10.960
<v Speaker 6>be like, that's that's really nice.

0:41:11.480 --> 0:41:12.520
<v Speaker 2>I said that as well. Guys.

0:41:12.600 --> 0:41:15.800
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, we're both really good guys. We were really lucky.

0:41:15.880 --> 0:41:20.200
<v Speaker 1>I remember when I first like we were getting weloped overseas,

0:41:20.239 --> 0:41:21.680
<v Speaker 1>and like, I remember when we were going.

0:41:21.520 --> 0:41:21.839
<v Speaker 4>To do it.

0:41:21.880 --> 0:41:23.560
<v Speaker 2>I was how long into how long?

0:41:23.840 --> 0:41:28.279
<v Speaker 1>So he had proposed after knowing him three weeks, which

0:41:28.400 --> 0:41:29.880
<v Speaker 1>was alarming.

0:41:30.640 --> 0:41:39.120
<v Speaker 4>It's different your white shirt, it's different. Okay, okay, okay,

0:41:39.280 --> 0:41:39.840
<v Speaker 4>it's different.

0:41:40.000 --> 0:41:40.879
<v Speaker 2>Just don't stand on your.

0:41:40.920 --> 0:41:43.880
<v Speaker 1>And I said no because I was wise, which I

0:41:43.880 --> 0:41:46.000
<v Speaker 1>could have said, yeah, it's been married, but I said

0:41:46.040 --> 0:41:50.640
<v Speaker 1>no because I was like that's crazy, Like that's crazy.

0:41:50.880 --> 0:41:53.640
<v Speaker 1>A couple of years after okay, yeah, so we loped

0:41:53.680 --> 0:41:55.759
<v Speaker 1>and I remember being so nervous because I was like

0:41:56.160 --> 0:41:59.759
<v Speaker 1>I get bored so quickly, and I what if I get.

0:41:59.640 --> 0:42:00.799
<v Speaker 4>Brought with this guy? What if I get married?

0:42:00.840 --> 0:42:02.880
<v Speaker 1>I'm like over him next minute, Like I literally was

0:42:02.880 --> 0:42:05.799
<v Speaker 1>thinking this my brain. I'm like, oh my god, before

0:42:05.800 --> 0:42:07.440
<v Speaker 1>you walk out getting.

0:42:10.000 --> 0:42:11.960
<v Speaker 4>I was like, oh my god, Like I love him

0:42:12.000 --> 0:42:13.080
<v Speaker 4>right now, but like.

0:42:13.360 --> 0:42:14.279
<v Speaker 5>What's next year?

0:42:14.520 --> 0:42:17.640
<v Speaker 1>Like like I'm not kidding, like I'm very like I

0:42:17.719 --> 0:42:20.560
<v Speaker 1>like a lot of things going on and I promise

0:42:20.600 --> 0:42:23.040
<v Speaker 1>you he's not keep me like he's kept me on

0:42:23.080 --> 0:42:25.040
<v Speaker 1>my toes every single.

0:42:24.800 --> 0:42:25.800
<v Speaker 4>Day of my marriage.

0:42:25.880 --> 0:42:28.560
<v Speaker 1>Like he's like, you know, just my other half, like

0:42:28.680 --> 0:42:32.800
<v Speaker 1>completely like just knows how to like handle me, I guess,

0:42:32.960 --> 0:42:37.120
<v Speaker 1>and like keep me not bored and having fun and

0:42:37.640 --> 0:42:40.440
<v Speaker 1>not like I'm like in a scary old, boring relationship,

0:42:40.480 --> 0:42:42.000
<v Speaker 1>like I'm dating my best friend, do you know what

0:42:42.000 --> 0:42:45.560
<v Speaker 1>I mean? Stereotypes out then. I think I was just

0:42:45.600 --> 0:42:48.160
<v Speaker 1>scared of like once you get married, like and life's over.

0:42:48.440 --> 0:42:49.880
<v Speaker 4>Like I was really nervous about that.

0:42:49.960 --> 0:42:51.239
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I don't think that at all.

0:42:52.080 --> 0:42:54.200
<v Speaker 4>I was. I didn't think of it my wedding day.

0:42:54.280 --> 0:42:55.280
<v Speaker 3>I understand.

0:42:56.480 --> 0:42:58.799
<v Speaker 2>You're starting a new chapter, you're opening a whole another chapter,

0:42:59.080 --> 0:42:59.560
<v Speaker 2>but you're like.

0:42:59.560 --> 0:43:03.320
<v Speaker 4>With this, post it for the rest of your life.

0:43:03.800 --> 0:43:06.440
<v Speaker 2>I've even told, I've told that's not going to keep

0:43:06.520 --> 0:43:06.920
<v Speaker 2>us apart.

0:43:07.400 --> 0:43:10.600
<v Speaker 4>I told I want to.

0:43:10.960 --> 0:43:14.640
<v Speaker 1>I want to be in the same ye, like one

0:43:14.719 --> 0:43:16.440
<v Speaker 1>hundred percent, Like I want them to dig it back

0:43:16.520 --> 0:43:17.279
<v Speaker 1>up and put me in.

0:43:19.320 --> 0:43:22.920
<v Speaker 6>The same I want to.

0:43:22.520 --> 0:43:25.799
<v Speaker 2>I want to know how we cuddle it night. So

0:43:26.040 --> 0:43:30.040
<v Speaker 2>that's resume our position, not really.

0:43:29.920 --> 0:43:37.239
<v Speaker 3>More than really quickly just that weird. Yes, yeah, that's

0:43:36.160 --> 0:43:40.239
<v Speaker 3>a good love. Yeah, I love Michael, but I mean,

0:43:40.800 --> 0:43:41.480
<v Speaker 3>I mean wory.

0:43:41.600 --> 0:43:42.720
<v Speaker 5>I have not spoken.

0:43:42.920 --> 0:43:43.840
<v Speaker 3>I'm not talking about that.

0:43:43.960 --> 0:43:46.399
<v Speaker 5>I'm not sure what we speak about it.

0:43:46.400 --> 0:43:48.560
<v Speaker 2>It should be a conversation you bring up very early,

0:43:49.640 --> 0:43:50.120
<v Speaker 2>I feel.

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<v Speaker 5>No.

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<v Speaker 3>You guys both have amazing partners. And when Tammy had

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<v Speaker 3>her New Year's Eve party, they were so welcoming and

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<v Speaker 3>love to Michael yes sorry no. And Tammy's news.

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<v Speaker 2>Party ours Emily, they were both.

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<v Speaker 3>So lovely and welcoming and just the best. So yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>it's a credit to them.

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<v Speaker 2>Until you guys have done well.

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<v Speaker 3>Thanks exactly.

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<v Speaker 2>I've really not made it any better for myself.

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<v Speaker 3>Guys, thank you so much for coming on to Where's

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<v Speaker 3>your Head Out. We've absolutely loved having you both. Thank

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<v Speaker 3>you for the real and raw conversations until next time, by.

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<v Speaker 4>Thanks for having on.

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<v Speaker 5>Thanks