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Speaker 2: Jackie Alexander is not in the room with us right now.

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Speaker 1: She is back in Perth recovering from her hands. We

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Speaker 1: all right, We're not here to be demure. I had

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Speaker 1: Anyway, So I raw dogged that fucking three hour flight.

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Speaker 1: looked beautiful, The fucking venue is beautiful, and everyone was great.

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Speaker 2: I've fixed her, she's hit it. No, I'm fine. I

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Speaker 3: And how much older was she if you don't mind me.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it's interesting. It was just like how she opens,

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Speaker 4: it's actually trying to pull you back down to that.

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Speaker 1: like I'm paying you to tell me what I need

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Speaker 2: You're giving me a fucking countdown.

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Speaker 1: No, I was angry, And I think it's because I've

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Speaker 1: Maybe for some people, that is the route that people need,

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Speaker 1: how does that make you feel?

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Speaker 4: I feel like they all sadly fall into that because

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Speaker 1: Yeah, And I'm like, right now, I just feel like

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Speaker 1: Amazing psychologist that's like finding the solution, Like how does

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Speaker 3: It's like this session I want to learn about high school.

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Speaker 1: Whereas she left everything so open ended that I'm like,

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Speaker 1: It open ended like that and don't ask me anything,

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Speaker 2: Not going to fucking happen.

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Speaker 1: And I mum, then, because she's the one, like I

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Speaker 1: And then I said, hey, like I want like thank

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Speaker 2: She was great.

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Speaker 1: I just found out my old psychologists available, and I

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Speaker 1: cancel that appointment? Like blah blah, thank you so much,

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Speaker 1: no worries. But I'm going to be passing this information

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Speaker 3: No one does that.

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Speaker 1: No. The whole problem is that me and so and

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Speaker 1: so let's call it Sarah can't commerse very well. So

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Speaker 1: I'd really prefer it if she didn't give me a call.

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Speaker 3: Is she a text? Because I think she can text me.

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Speaker 3: We have more chemistry, though we probably.

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Speaker 1: Would at least she doesn't leave all those awkward silences

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Speaker 1: Like I was working at Lulu Lemon like once a

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Speaker 1: and she's like, you tell me you don't still talk

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Speaker 2: I'm like no, god no.

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Speaker 1: And I'm like great, she's great. So that is a

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00:17:45,600 --> 00:17:47,800
Speaker 1: journey that we'll be going through. But I'm like, I

440
00:17:47,800 --> 00:17:50,280
Speaker 1: don't enjoy psychology. But I'm like, like I don't enjoy

441
00:17:50,280 --> 00:17:52,520
Speaker 1: going to see a psychologist, you know, like no one does.

442
00:17:53,160 --> 00:17:56,960
Speaker 3: I actually weirdly do freak, but I haven't been in the age.

443
00:17:57,119 --> 00:17:59,080
Speaker 1: No, But it's like, yeah, it's not going to be

444
00:17:59,080 --> 00:18:01,240
Speaker 1: something that everyone loved to do. But I'm like, it's

445
00:18:01,240 --> 00:18:03,720
Speaker 1: gonna be helpful, and I do feel why not, Like

446
00:18:03,760 --> 00:18:05,840
Speaker 1: I feel like when as you get older, so many

447
00:18:05,880 --> 00:18:08,159
Speaker 1: moving parts in like life, and I'm like, I definitely

448
00:18:08,200 --> 00:18:11,560
Speaker 1: don't have a fucking hold on my life or things,

449
00:18:11,600 --> 00:18:13,439
Speaker 1: and my brain is always in overdrive and there's so

450
00:18:13,480 --> 00:18:15,560
Speaker 1: many different things going on that distressing me out at

451
00:18:15,560 --> 00:18:18,000
Speaker 1: all times. And I'm like, there's no harm. So I

452
00:18:18,000 --> 00:18:19,399
Speaker 1: think if you're thinking about it, you may as well

453
00:18:19,440 --> 00:18:20,600
Speaker 1: give it a go. And if you have a bad

454
00:18:20,600 --> 00:18:22,679
Speaker 1: experience like mine, at least it's a funny story.

455
00:18:22,760 --> 00:18:25,600
Speaker 4: So yeah, And I think everyone's been through a therapist's breakup.

456
00:18:26,000 --> 00:18:28,399
Speaker 4: I had one. She was such a nice woman.

457
00:18:28,480 --> 00:18:31,040
Speaker 3: I felt really bad like letting her go. But she

458
00:18:31,200 --> 00:18:34,600
Speaker 3: had this thing of like, whenever you're getting anxious thoughts,

459
00:18:35,040 --> 00:18:37,199
Speaker 3: speaking an Elmo voice at all?

460
00:18:37,200 --> 00:18:40,280
Speaker 2: Oh no, what's an Elmo voice?

461
00:18:40,760 --> 00:18:42,840
Speaker 3: Like you have to pretend you're anxious thoughts at Elmo

462
00:18:42,920 --> 00:18:46,000
Speaker 3: in your head And then I just like that instantly

463
00:18:46,040 --> 00:18:46,400
Speaker 3: gave me.

464
00:18:46,400 --> 00:18:48,879
Speaker 2: The ear and I'm like, I don't like that, and

465
00:18:48,960 --> 00:18:50,200
Speaker 2: she revisiting them.

466
00:18:50,400 --> 00:18:52,680
Speaker 3: Everything seemed a little bit childish, but.

467
00:18:52,680 --> 00:18:54,800
Speaker 2: Like you're like do you know that I'm not twelve?

468
00:18:54,960 --> 00:18:58,480
Speaker 4: Yeah, no, even like skewed younger. I was just like,

469
00:18:59,080 --> 00:19:00,840
Speaker 4: this seems like I mean hindergarten.

470
00:19:00,920 --> 00:19:02,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, and it's like I don't feel like you're going

471
00:19:02,359 --> 00:19:04,919
Speaker 1: to really help me get the crux of my adult issues.

472
00:19:06,280 --> 00:19:06,680
Speaker 2: Voice.

473
00:19:06,880 --> 00:19:09,760
Speaker 3: I moved on to a super hot guy and he was.

474
00:19:09,760 --> 00:19:11,400
Speaker 1: I couldn't see if I had a super hot guy,

475
00:19:11,560 --> 00:19:13,480
Speaker 1: I'd be like, I'm perfect.

476
00:19:13,880 --> 00:19:14,120
Speaker 2: Yeah.

477
00:19:14,200 --> 00:19:18,240
Speaker 3: No, I was like I played into I don't think

478
00:19:18,280 --> 00:19:19,120
Speaker 3: I was being authentic.

479
00:19:19,160 --> 00:19:21,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like, oh, you'll know why I'm here. I

480
00:19:21,600 --> 00:19:24,760
Speaker 2: don't know. I'm pretty perfect. Everything's really good, Thank you.

481
00:19:25,000 --> 00:19:25,440
Speaker 3: How are you?

482
00:19:25,600 --> 00:19:28,080
Speaker 4: He would like explain things to me, and like at

483
00:19:28,160 --> 00:19:33,320
Speaker 4: points back Blake and I'd just like la la la

484
00:19:33,520 --> 00:19:37,359
Speaker 4: name back there wasn't getting very productive and it's like

485
00:19:37,400 --> 00:19:39,160
Speaker 4: double rand paying therapy.

486
00:19:39,800 --> 00:19:41,680
Speaker 2: Therapy is fucking expensive, so pricey.

487
00:19:41,720 --> 00:19:43,360
Speaker 3: Yeah, like I do want to go back.

488
00:19:43,440 --> 00:19:45,640
Speaker 1: You should get a mental mental getting a mental health plan.

489
00:19:45,680 --> 00:19:47,000
Speaker 1: Like it's like a ten pack where I feel like

490
00:19:47,000 --> 00:19:48,960
Speaker 1: they're way cheap because you get them back on Medicare

491
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Speaker 1: or something.

492
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Speaker 4: So I don't want to spread misinformation here, but i'd

493
00:19:51,800 --> 00:19:54,280
Speaker 4: actually like to hear if anyone has a similar experience.

494
00:19:55,040 --> 00:19:57,919
Speaker 4: I have every time been on the ten step mental

495
00:19:57,920 --> 00:20:00,800
Speaker 4: health care plan. Either I can't act us my Mandy care,

496
00:20:00,840 --> 00:20:04,320
Speaker 4: which is a huge possibility, or it just doesn't change

497
00:20:04,320 --> 00:20:07,440
Speaker 4: any thing. It has not changed my fees and I've

498
00:20:07,520 --> 00:20:11,560
Speaker 4: never got money back. Right, Well, I love it that car.

499
00:20:11,840 --> 00:20:14,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, you feel like you're you leave that room and

500
00:20:14,960 --> 00:20:16,919
Speaker 1: you're a better person, even though you've like, even if

501
00:20:16,960 --> 00:20:18,719
Speaker 1: you don't take any of the steps on board, you're like,

502
00:20:18,840 --> 00:20:21,800
Speaker 1: I am working towards a better meat. Tap that car.

503
00:20:21,880 --> 00:20:24,240
Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, in that session, you've talked about how you

504
00:20:24,240 --> 00:20:26,240
Speaker 3: feel like a piece of shit, but you've walked a

505
00:20:26,320 --> 00:20:26,800
Speaker 3: piece of shit.

506
00:20:26,840 --> 00:20:29,960
Speaker 1: But I'm aware, I'm a self aware piece of shit,

507
00:20:30,280 --> 00:20:33,800
Speaker 1: and you come out of the house. So yeah, that

508
00:20:33,920 --> 00:20:35,760
Speaker 1: was my Monday. And I did some other things but

509
00:20:35,800 --> 00:20:38,760
Speaker 1: nothing important. But that is enough about me. Now we

510
00:20:38,800 --> 00:20:42,080
Speaker 1: are getting into your problems and doing it helped me out.

511
00:20:42,280 --> 00:20:48,000
Speaker 1: Part two. All right, Number one? How is it love

512
00:20:48,040 --> 00:20:50,159
Speaker 1: the body? This happened a few months ago now, but

513
00:20:50,200 --> 00:20:52,280
Speaker 1: I'm really interested in your opinion and how you would

514
00:20:52,280 --> 00:20:55,919
Speaker 1: have handled the situation. I want to preface guys, the

515
00:20:55,960 --> 00:20:58,159
Speaker 1: situations I went through when I was younger.

516
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Speaker 2: I did not.

517
00:20:59,080 --> 00:21:02,600
Speaker 1: Handle well I do actually think now I handle it

518
00:21:02,640 --> 00:21:06,280
Speaker 1: like I am handling situations far better as I grow up.

519
00:21:06,800 --> 00:21:09,800
Speaker 1: But like, give yourself a break if you handle something badly,

520
00:21:09,840 --> 00:21:12,399
Speaker 1: because like sometimes you're just angry, and I totally get it.

521
00:21:13,640 --> 00:21:15,680
Speaker 1: I've been part of this friendship group since grade six

522
00:21:15,720 --> 00:21:17,600
Speaker 1: and all throughout high school, so we've all been best

523
00:21:17,600 --> 00:21:20,560
Speaker 1: friends for about eight years. I'm closest with one girl

524
00:21:20,640 --> 00:21:24,160
Speaker 1: named Beth. It's a fake name for context. I work

525
00:21:24,200 --> 00:21:26,720
Speaker 1: in the busiest pub in our town. There's something inside

526
00:21:26,800 --> 00:21:28,840
Speaker 1: me that would love to work at a busy pub

527
00:21:28,880 --> 00:21:31,600
Speaker 1: because it's like men help men everywhere.

528
00:21:31,800 --> 00:21:33,359
Speaker 3: I went to a pub on Sunday and it was

529
00:21:33,400 --> 00:21:37,080
Speaker 3: just really like jolly hot. Wait. I was a Bridge

530
00:21:37,080 --> 00:21:39,760
Speaker 3: Hotel Richmond. I was like, you have the fucking best life.

531
00:21:39,880 --> 00:21:40,480
Speaker 2: Yeah.

532
00:21:40,520 --> 00:21:42,320
Speaker 1: And it's like if you're single, like boys are gonna

533
00:21:42,359 --> 00:21:43,320
Speaker 1: hit on you left and right.

534
00:21:43,400 --> 00:21:43,720
Speaker 3: Yeah.

535
00:21:43,840 --> 00:21:45,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, even if you're not single. Probably.

536
00:21:46,119 --> 00:21:47,919
Speaker 1: I work in the busiest pub in our town, so

537
00:21:48,000 --> 00:21:50,440
Speaker 1: everyone is there on the weekends. One night, I'm working

538
00:21:50,440 --> 00:21:52,280
Speaker 1: and see this guy who I think is so hot,

539
00:21:52,359 --> 00:21:55,480
Speaker 1: let's call him Jack. Jack is with best's boyfriend at

540
00:21:55,520 --> 00:21:57,520
Speaker 1: the time. So I'm talking to Jack and Beth's boyfriend

541
00:21:57,560 --> 00:21:59,840
Speaker 1: pretty much all night, and I end up getting Jack's number.

542
00:22:00,200 --> 00:22:02,399
Speaker 1: We go home together once I finished work eight.

543
00:22:04,119 --> 00:22:04,399
Speaker 2: Late.

544
00:22:05,280 --> 00:22:07,440
Speaker 1: I'm driving Jack and I home. He's super drunk and

545
00:22:07,480 --> 00:22:09,879
Speaker 1: has clearly had a lot of beers. I'm already feeling

546
00:22:09,920 --> 00:22:12,800
Speaker 1: iffy about taking him home because he's so far from

547
00:22:12,800 --> 00:22:15,040
Speaker 1: a souper state. I've made up my mind on the

548
00:22:15,080 --> 00:22:17,520
Speaker 1: drive home that nothing would happen between us tonight besides

549
00:22:17,560 --> 00:22:19,560
Speaker 1: the cuddle. That's fine because then it's like you don't

550
00:22:19,560 --> 00:22:21,199
Speaker 1: really get anxiety and you get to kind of know them,

551
00:22:21,240 --> 00:22:23,960
Speaker 1: and you haven't gone like fuck, yeah, what did I do?

552
00:22:25,080 --> 00:22:27,400
Speaker 1: Let's see how we go. Once we arrive at my house,

553
00:22:27,560 --> 00:22:30,440
Speaker 1: Jack goes fully nonverbal. I'm assuming because of the state

554
00:22:30,480 --> 00:22:35,800
Speaker 1: he's in. I wish I could go non verbal. I

555
00:22:35,840 --> 00:22:37,440
Speaker 1: have a shower and get ready for bed, while he's

556
00:22:37,480 --> 00:22:39,600
Speaker 1: literally just standing there snapchatting people in my room.

557
00:22:39,800 --> 00:22:41,040
Speaker 2: You know how I feel about snapshat.

558
00:22:41,800 --> 00:22:44,000
Speaker 1: I eventually get into bed and trying to make conversation

559
00:22:44,080 --> 00:22:45,520
Speaker 1: with him, but it's pretty one sided.

560
00:22:46,119 --> 00:22:47,280
Speaker 2: I'd be like, get.

561
00:22:47,080 --> 00:22:48,040
Speaker 3: Out, why are you here?

562
00:22:48,160 --> 00:22:49,320
Speaker 2: Like why are you actually here?

563
00:22:49,359 --> 00:22:49,520
Speaker 1: Then?

564
00:22:49,800 --> 00:22:50,440
Speaker 2: Do you know what I mean?

565
00:22:50,480 --> 00:22:51,960
Speaker 1: You would have probably rather just left it as like

566
00:22:51,960 --> 00:22:54,040
Speaker 1: a fun night chatting at the bar and then been

567
00:22:54,080 --> 00:22:55,560
Speaker 1: like cool, like take me out for a drink.

568
00:22:55,359 --> 00:22:57,639
Speaker 3: Now, yeah, no, this figure in my room I have to.

569
00:22:57,640 --> 00:23:02,000
Speaker 1: Look Yeah like sleep rolls demen. I'd roll over and

570
00:23:02,040 --> 00:23:04,639
Speaker 1: just start scrolling on TikTok. I'll speak you the details

571
00:23:04,640 --> 00:23:07,920
Speaker 1: of how we got here, but I but I start

572
00:23:07,960 --> 00:23:10,359
Speaker 1: giving him the gluck, like nine thousand girl, I wish

573
00:23:10,400 --> 00:23:12,160
Speaker 1: I had the details on how you got from where

574
00:23:12,160 --> 00:23:15,199
Speaker 1: you were to their so casually like, I need to

575
00:23:15,240 --> 00:23:18,439
Speaker 1: know how you got from one to the other, so

576
00:23:18,840 --> 00:23:20,200
Speaker 1: please do a follow up just for me.

577
00:23:20,280 --> 00:23:23,320
Speaker 2: I won't read it. And notice he's on his phone.

578
00:23:24,280 --> 00:23:25,959
Speaker 1: I tell him to get off his phone orro'll stop

579
00:23:26,240 --> 00:23:29,080
Speaker 1: fair he gets off his phone, you fucking hope, so

580
00:23:29,840 --> 00:23:32,440
Speaker 1: you should be goddamn grateful and all is well until

581
00:23:32,440 --> 00:23:34,919
Speaker 1: about two minutes later I noticed he's on his phone again,

582
00:23:35,040 --> 00:23:36,600
Speaker 1: trying to secretly film me.

583
00:23:37,119 --> 00:23:39,520
Speaker 2: What would I do in that situation? I would slap

584
00:23:39,520 --> 00:23:40,719
Speaker 2: the phone out of his hand and be like, you

585
00:23:40,760 --> 00:23:41,840
Speaker 2: get the fuck out of my No.

586
00:23:41,920 --> 00:23:45,159
Speaker 1: I would grab it, delete from the deleted album, and

587
00:23:45,200 --> 00:23:47,440
Speaker 1: be like, fuck out of my house right fucking now.

588
00:23:47,720 --> 00:23:49,960
Speaker 3: I would literally just snap the phone across.

589
00:23:49,800 --> 00:23:51,800
Speaker 2: Would I think I throw it and break it.

590
00:23:52,320 --> 00:23:54,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, and you're not getting this phone now, you don't

591
00:23:54,440 --> 00:23:55,000
Speaker 1: deserve it.

592
00:23:55,200 --> 00:23:55,840
Speaker 2: Oh my god.

593
00:23:56,359 --> 00:23:59,000
Speaker 1: I instantly snatched the phone, delete all the evidence could,

594
00:23:59,200 --> 00:24:01,000
Speaker 1: yell at him and kick him the fuck out of

595
00:24:01,000 --> 00:24:01,440
Speaker 1: my house.

596
00:24:01,720 --> 00:24:02,000
Speaker 2: Good.

597
00:24:02,440 --> 00:24:04,280
Speaker 1: I was so shaken up after this, so of course

598
00:24:04,280 --> 00:24:06,800
Speaker 1: I confided in my friends, especially Beth, since she's been

599
00:24:06,800 --> 00:24:09,760
Speaker 1: through something similar. A few months go by and Beth

600
00:24:09,800 --> 00:24:12,040
Speaker 1: tells me that one night she got really drunk, Jack

601
00:24:12,160 --> 00:24:15,000
Speaker 1: messaged her and they hooked up. She'd broken up with

602
00:24:15,040 --> 00:24:18,399
Speaker 1: her boyfriend at this point. Okay, I was about to say, Beth, girl,

603
00:24:18,960 --> 00:24:20,800
Speaker 1: she was really sorry and sent me what I thought

604
00:24:20,840 --> 00:24:23,200
Speaker 1: was a truly heartfelt message expressing her regrets.

605
00:24:23,320 --> 00:24:24,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, because that is true.

606
00:24:24,720 --> 00:24:26,959
Speaker 1: It's a guy that like, yeah, maybe if you just

607
00:24:27,040 --> 00:24:28,439
Speaker 1: gave him the GLO got nine thousand and that want

608
00:24:28,480 --> 00:24:29,680
Speaker 1: to be that big a deal. But it's like he

609
00:24:30,119 --> 00:24:32,119
Speaker 1: violated you and tried to film you. So it's like

610
00:24:32,200 --> 00:24:34,080
Speaker 1: he's done something really terrible to you. You would hope

611
00:24:34,080 --> 00:24:35,760
Speaker 1: your friends would like be like, steer clear of that

612
00:24:35,800 --> 00:24:36,400
Speaker 1: fucking guy.

613
00:24:36,600 --> 00:24:39,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, and like this case where you're able

614
00:24:39,640 --> 00:24:42,639
Speaker 3: to notice someone's filming, it's rare, like people actually get

615
00:24:42,640 --> 00:24:44,120
Speaker 3: away with it and could have been so much.

616
00:24:44,160 --> 00:24:47,240
Speaker 1: Well, yeah, so it's like you should steer clear of

617
00:24:47,240 --> 00:24:48,840
Speaker 1: someone who would do that to a friend, you know,

618
00:24:49,320 --> 00:24:50,880
Speaker 1: and why would you want to sleep with a guy

619
00:24:50,960 --> 00:24:53,320
Speaker 1: like that. I took some space and then I forgave her.

620
00:24:53,440 --> 00:24:55,080
Speaker 1: A couple weeks after that, I'm at at an event

621
00:24:55,119 --> 00:24:56,760
Speaker 1: and Jack is there. I wouldn't even know how to

622
00:24:56,800 --> 00:24:57,879
Speaker 1: fucking react and sit.

623
00:24:57,760 --> 00:24:58,400
Speaker 2: You or something like that.

624
00:24:58,840 --> 00:25:00,359
Speaker 1: He comes up to me trying to tell me that

625
00:25:00,400 --> 00:25:02,159
Speaker 1: he never took a video of me, even though I

626
00:25:02,200 --> 00:25:04,840
Speaker 1: literally saw the video, and that he and Beth just

627
00:25:04,880 --> 00:25:06,920
Speaker 1: want me to get over it so they can start dating.

628
00:25:08,320 --> 00:25:10,280
Speaker 1: So this whole time, Beth and all the other girls

629
00:25:10,280 --> 00:25:12,000
Speaker 1: in the friendship group knew they were hooking up and

630
00:25:12,040 --> 00:25:13,680
Speaker 1: in a situation ship behind my back.

631
00:25:14,119 --> 00:25:15,640
Speaker 2: I feel so betrayed and embarrassed.

632
00:25:15,640 --> 00:25:17,480
Speaker 1: I sent Beth a message saying our friendship was over

633
00:25:17,560 --> 00:25:19,639
Speaker 1: and haven't spoken to her or any of the girls since.

634
00:25:20,280 --> 00:25:22,200
Speaker 1: I've seen them a few times around town. They've given

635
00:25:22,240 --> 00:25:23,920
Speaker 1: me dirty looks like I am the one in the wrong.

636
00:25:24,560 --> 00:25:26,440
Speaker 2: Oh. Girls are so mean.

637
00:25:26,720 --> 00:25:29,680
Speaker 1: Sometimes I couldn't be more grateful for the other friends

638
00:25:29,680 --> 00:25:31,080
Speaker 1: I have, But sometimes I wonder.

639
00:25:30,880 --> 00:25:32,720
Speaker 2: Am I in the wrong. I love your opinion on

640
00:25:32,760 --> 00:25:33,480
Speaker 2: this girl.

641
00:25:33,840 --> 00:25:36,960
Speaker 1: No, there's sometimes just one of those girls that can

642
00:25:37,000 --> 00:25:40,119
Speaker 1: kind of like control the way that the group works,

643
00:25:40,119 --> 00:25:42,280
Speaker 1: and everyone would rather be a bit mean to stay

644
00:25:42,280 --> 00:25:44,320
Speaker 1: on their good side than be the one pushed out

645
00:25:44,320 --> 00:25:46,680
Speaker 1: in the outs. And I feel like in a situation

646
00:25:46,840 --> 00:25:49,160
Speaker 1: like this, that's more what that's looking like is why

647
00:25:49,200 --> 00:25:51,960
Speaker 1: everyone else is like jumping on the hate train. But

648
00:25:52,320 --> 00:25:54,320
Speaker 1: you're almost lucky you got out of friendships like that

649
00:25:54,400 --> 00:25:56,360
Speaker 1: when you did, because who wants friendships like that when

650
00:25:56,359 --> 00:25:56,840
Speaker 1: you're older.

651
00:25:57,119 --> 00:25:59,679
Speaker 4: No, it's like your friend's duty to protect you and

652
00:26:00,160 --> 00:26:01,640
Speaker 4: ride adorned for you.

653
00:26:01,680 --> 00:26:06,760
Speaker 1: And I think you got lucky. You're definitely not like

654
00:26:07,280 --> 00:26:09,159
Speaker 1: you didn't get lucky. Like it will fucking suck, and

655
00:26:09,200 --> 00:26:11,359
Speaker 1: it did suck, And like I've gone through a period

656
00:26:11,400 --> 00:26:13,119
Speaker 1: where I lost like my whole fridship group, and I

657
00:26:13,160 --> 00:26:14,560
Speaker 1: was lucky that I had a few other girls and

658
00:26:14,560 --> 00:26:16,960
Speaker 1: they ended up. They saw my friends today and they're incredible.

659
00:26:16,960 --> 00:26:19,240
Speaker 1: And I look back and think how fucking grateful I

660
00:26:19,280 --> 00:26:20,959
Speaker 1: am that it ended the way that it did and

661
00:26:20,960 --> 00:26:22,480
Speaker 1: that I was able to kind of get out of that.

662
00:26:22,880 --> 00:26:26,480
Speaker 1: So I just think keep looking forward people like that

663
00:26:26,640 --> 00:26:28,280
Speaker 1: karma is going to be a bitch to them anyway,

664
00:26:28,359 --> 00:26:30,000
Speaker 1: so you just have to wait for that. But you're

665
00:26:30,040 --> 00:26:31,919
Speaker 1: definitely not in the wrong goal, And I'm sorry and

666
00:26:31,960 --> 00:26:32,520
Speaker 1: fuck Beth.

667
00:26:32,880 --> 00:26:36,000
Speaker 4: Yeah literally, the only like they would see you doing

668
00:26:36,040 --> 00:26:39,159
Speaker 4: wrong in the sense that you're inconveniencing what Beth was.

669
00:26:39,440 --> 00:26:41,800
Speaker 4: So she's like trying to villainize you to her friends

670
00:26:41,840 --> 00:26:42,719
Speaker 4: and everyone around her.

671
00:26:43,160 --> 00:26:45,080
Speaker 2: Why doesn't she just get over it? Excuse me?

672
00:26:45,520 --> 00:26:48,159
Speaker 1: Like, if that happened to any of you, I feel

673
00:26:48,160 --> 00:26:50,120
Speaker 1: like you, I fear you would feel slightly differently.

674
00:26:50,480 --> 00:26:52,640
Speaker 4: Yeah, and I'd love to know how Beth would react

675
00:26:52,800 --> 00:26:55,399
Speaker 4: if this lovely listener hung out with her ex boyfriend.

676
00:26:55,600 --> 00:26:58,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, hey, was best Bes's boyfriend and nice guy?

677
00:26:58,840 --> 00:26:59,240
Speaker 3: Was he hard?

678
00:26:59,440 --> 00:26:59,840
Speaker 2: Was he hard?

679
00:27:00,280 --> 00:27:03,280
Speaker 1: So maybe when he's at your pub next you should

680
00:27:03,280 --> 00:27:06,440
Speaker 1: float with him a little bit and see shows?

681
00:27:07,880 --> 00:27:08,600
Speaker 2: Okay? Hi?

682
00:27:08,760 --> 00:27:11,119
Speaker 1: Is he obsessed with you and the party? It's about

683
00:27:11,119 --> 00:27:13,240
Speaker 1: three months ago. I went into state for a wedding

684
00:27:13,359 --> 00:27:15,600
Speaker 1: my friend from home, let's call her Sophie. He decided

685
00:27:15,600 --> 00:27:17,800
Speaker 1: to meet me there after the wedding for a girl's weekend.

686
00:27:18,359 --> 00:27:20,400
Speaker 1: Keep in mind, Sophie is single and living her best

687
00:27:20,400 --> 00:27:23,520
Speaker 1: single life. But I'm in a very loving and healthy relationship.

688
00:27:24,000 --> 00:27:25,680
Speaker 1: We went out and she kissed a guy a few

689
00:27:25,720 --> 00:27:27,840
Speaker 1: years older than her, which I was totally fine with,

690
00:27:28,280 --> 00:27:30,720
Speaker 1: despite having to make awkward conversation for a couple hours

691
00:27:30,720 --> 00:27:34,199
Speaker 1: with his friend. I hate that shit, but I like

692
00:27:34,320 --> 00:27:36,639
Speaker 1: you're a good friend for doing it. Those two guys

693
00:27:36,720 --> 00:27:39,560
Speaker 1: then left and she met another guy, let's call him Brad.

694
00:27:39,640 --> 00:27:42,439
Speaker 1: Brad was off his face and they exchanged socials. The

695
00:27:42,480 --> 00:27:44,199
Speaker 1: next night, we planned to go to dinner and then

696
00:27:44,240 --> 00:27:45,800
Speaker 1: she was going to meet Brad for a couple of

697
00:27:45,880 --> 00:27:48,040
Speaker 1: drinks at the barn next to the restaurant. While she

698
00:27:48,119 --> 00:27:49,840
Speaker 1: did that, I went to visit my family friends at

699
00:27:49,840 --> 00:27:52,000
Speaker 1: their hotel. I thought I'd only be gone for two

700
00:27:52,119 --> 00:27:54,639
Speaker 1: or three hours. Two hours go by, and having her

701
00:27:54,720 --> 00:27:58,520
Speaker 1: from Sophie, I check her snapmaps and they're magically turned off. Like, girl,

702
00:27:58,800 --> 00:28:00,680
Speaker 1: I don't care, I'm not your mum, but I didn't

703
00:28:00,680 --> 00:28:02,919
Speaker 1: know where you are because I didn't know that you're safe.

704
00:28:02,680 --> 00:28:04,520
Speaker 3: And I need a fucking answer for you.

705
00:28:04,880 --> 00:28:08,240
Speaker 1: I know you hate snap fan, but a girl's not

706
00:28:08,280 --> 00:28:09,400
Speaker 1: out of her snaphase yet.

707
00:28:09,440 --> 00:28:09,840
Speaker 3: It's okay.

708
00:28:09,920 --> 00:28:12,640
Speaker 1: S Snapmaps used to be the fucking main of my existence.

709
00:28:12,640 --> 00:28:15,560
Speaker 1: Like that shit caused me so much fucking angst and tears,

710
00:28:15,600 --> 00:28:19,080
Speaker 1: and because my ex boyfriend, like when I was younger,

711
00:28:19,119 --> 00:28:20,679
Speaker 1: would have it on and he'd always I'd be like,

712
00:28:20,800 --> 00:28:23,200
Speaker 1: where the fuck are you? You know, and they leave

713
00:28:23,200 --> 00:28:24,840
Speaker 1: it on purpose and then turn it off on purpose,

714
00:28:24,880 --> 00:28:26,440
Speaker 1: and it's like such a mind game.

715
00:28:26,320 --> 00:28:28,320
Speaker 3: And I've caught a guy out for a while.

716
00:28:28,920 --> 00:28:33,439
Speaker 1: Yeah, Snapmaps was demonic and very toxic. Quite frankly, we

717
00:28:33,440 --> 00:28:35,240
Speaker 1: were in a state we weren't familiar with, and she

718
00:28:35,280 --> 00:28:37,720
Speaker 1: hadn't responded to my messages. An hour goes by and

719
00:28:37,760 --> 00:28:40,040
Speaker 1: I start stressing that she's being kidnapped or something fucked

720
00:28:40,040 --> 00:28:42,720
Speaker 1: has happened. Ten minutes later, so if he messages me

721
00:28:42,760 --> 00:28:44,200
Speaker 1: saying she and Brad out at the front of my

722
00:28:44,240 --> 00:28:46,720
Speaker 1: family's friend's hotel to pick me up, then Brad's taking

723
00:28:46,760 --> 00:28:50,080
Speaker 1: us back to our hotel. Okay, the most awkward five

724
00:28:50,080 --> 00:28:52,360
Speaker 1: minute car right in my life. We get back, and

725
00:28:52,360 --> 00:28:54,200
Speaker 1: so if you proceeds to tell me that she left

726
00:28:54,200 --> 00:28:56,520
Speaker 1: the bar with Brad, who she's known all of five minutes,

727
00:28:56,920 --> 00:28:58,520
Speaker 1: to go back to his house thirty minutes away and

728
00:28:58,600 --> 00:29:02,120
Speaker 1: sleep with him. First ladies, at the time, I just

729
00:29:02,200 --> 00:29:03,800
Speaker 1: laughed it off and went to bed. But since we

730
00:29:03,880 --> 00:29:06,120
Speaker 1: got home it's just not sitting right with me. I'd

731
00:29:06,120 --> 00:29:08,360
Speaker 1: never leave my friend on a trip to go home

732
00:29:08,360 --> 00:29:10,239
Speaker 1: with some random guy and not tell her where I was.

733
00:29:10,640 --> 00:29:12,480
Speaker 1: Since I've been home, Sophie and I have been distant.

734
00:29:12,560 --> 00:29:14,680
Speaker 1: I've taken a step back, hoping that she'd asked what's

735
00:29:14,720 --> 00:29:17,560
Speaker 1: going on because I hate confrontation. But she hasn't. She's

736
00:29:17,640 --> 00:29:20,560
Speaker 1: just acting normal. Am I being dramatic? Do I bring

737
00:29:20,560 --> 00:29:22,160
Speaker 1: it up even though it's been a couple months, or

738
00:29:22,160 --> 00:29:25,080
Speaker 1: do I just forget about it? Firstly, I don't think

739
00:29:25,080 --> 00:29:27,400
Speaker 1: you're being dramatic, And I think the reason that Sophie

740
00:29:27,400 --> 00:29:29,800
Speaker 1: maybe isn't bringing it up is there because there's probably

741
00:29:29,800 --> 00:29:31,760
Speaker 1: a slight embarrassment.

742
00:29:31,120 --> 00:29:32,680
Speaker 2: Around it, do you know what I mean?

743
00:29:32,880 --> 00:29:36,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, an uncomfortable nurse of Like, yeah, what she did

744
00:29:36,360 --> 00:29:39,160
Speaker 1: was probably a bit fucked, and it is a bit

745
00:29:39,200 --> 00:29:41,840
Speaker 1: fucked really like you were with your family friends. I

746
00:29:41,880 --> 00:29:43,760
Speaker 1: get that, But it's also like you do have sometimes

747
00:29:43,760 --> 00:29:45,040
Speaker 1: I have those friends where you just look at them

748
00:29:45,080 --> 00:29:47,320
Speaker 1: and go, girl, where does it end?

749
00:29:47,640 --> 00:29:49,360
Speaker 2: Do you know what I mean? Like you're putting yourself

750
00:29:49,360 --> 00:29:50,200
Speaker 2: into ageous.

751
00:29:49,880 --> 00:29:52,920
Speaker 1: Situations again and again and again, and like everyone has one,

752
00:29:53,040 --> 00:29:55,640
Speaker 1: and I think my friends have grown out of that,

753
00:29:55,720 --> 00:29:57,600
Speaker 1: But there was definitely periods where I'd be like, do

754
00:29:57,680 --> 00:29:59,960
Speaker 1: you want to be kidnapped? Because that's how you fucking act,

755
00:30:00,120 --> 00:30:02,560
Speaker 1: And it's like you kind of there's really not much

756
00:30:02,600 --> 00:30:04,880
Speaker 1: you can do unless you kind of sit down and

757
00:30:04,880 --> 00:30:06,800
Speaker 1: explain it to them, and they will end up continuing

758
00:30:06,800 --> 00:30:07,520
Speaker 1: what they want to do.

759
00:30:08,280 --> 00:30:09,479
Speaker 2: But I would bring it up.

760
00:30:09,480 --> 00:30:11,239
Speaker 1: I don't think she's going to because yeah, maybe there

761
00:30:11,280 --> 00:30:13,080
Speaker 1: is a bit of embarrassment that she's like, oh, maybe

762
00:30:13,080 --> 00:30:14,840
Speaker 1: she's acting weird with me because I did that and

763
00:30:14,880 --> 00:30:16,200
Speaker 1: that was a bit weird and it was a bit

764
00:30:16,280 --> 00:30:18,920
Speaker 1: unsafe and like fuck, like so I'll just brush it

765
00:30:19,000 --> 00:30:21,360
Speaker 1: under the rug. So I would just mention it and

766
00:30:21,400 --> 00:30:24,240
Speaker 1: say you obviously worried about her, Like there comes a

767
00:30:24,280 --> 00:30:25,880
Speaker 1: point where you know you just want her to be

768
00:30:25,920 --> 00:30:28,640
Speaker 1: safe and you felt like her, you'd never ditch her,

769
00:30:29,240 --> 00:30:29,840
Speaker 1: you don't want her to.

770
00:30:29,840 --> 00:30:30,240
Speaker 3: Do it again.

771
00:30:30,320 --> 00:30:32,640
Speaker 1: I'd talk like, if you value it friendship and you

772
00:30:32,640 --> 00:30:34,680
Speaker 1: want to be friends with her, like, absolutely, mention it

773
00:30:34,720 --> 00:30:34,959
Speaker 1: to her.

774
00:30:35,040 --> 00:30:37,760
Speaker 4: Yeah, I have a friend who is very similar to

775
00:30:37,800 --> 00:30:38,240
Speaker 4: what you were.

776
00:30:38,120 --> 00:30:39,520
Speaker 3: Saying, is he and they're one of my.

777
00:30:39,560 --> 00:30:42,000
Speaker 2: Favorite humans And you're like, girl, you want to die?

778
00:30:42,160 --> 00:30:44,800
Speaker 4: Yeah, And I don't even get angry, and they're like,

779
00:30:45,040 --> 00:30:47,480
Speaker 4: I'm judging what you're doing way I don't want you

780
00:30:47,520 --> 00:30:48,360
Speaker 4: to well, i'd kind of done.

781
00:30:48,440 --> 00:30:50,000
Speaker 2: Sometimes I do judge you.

782
00:30:50,040 --> 00:30:52,680
Speaker 1: I'm like, you want You're putting yourself in these unsafe

783
00:30:52,720 --> 00:30:55,040
Speaker 1: situations again and again and again, and it's like you,

784
00:30:55,080 --> 00:30:57,240
Speaker 1: I want the best for you, and like I'm getting worried.

785
00:30:57,480 --> 00:30:59,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, there's some people that have people like I.

786
00:30:59,320 --> 00:31:01,280
Speaker 4: Don't know if it's a control thing, but I'm now

787
00:31:01,320 --> 00:31:04,720
Speaker 4: like I actually can't drive myself insane worrying about you.

788
00:31:04,760 --> 00:31:06,000
Speaker 3: I don't know if that sounds bad.

789
00:31:06,160 --> 00:31:08,040
Speaker 1: No, there's a lot of Like I think that's quite

790
00:31:08,120 --> 00:31:10,960
Speaker 1: common that you hit a point where you're like I

791
00:31:11,000 --> 00:31:14,680
Speaker 1: can't help this anymore. You're not listening to me, Like,

792
00:31:14,960 --> 00:31:16,760
Speaker 1: just know that I'm here if you need me to be,

793
00:31:16,920 --> 00:31:17,120
Speaker 1: you know.

794
00:31:17,800 --> 00:31:20,680
Speaker 4: I think with this friend, it's like others around us,

795
00:31:21,040 --> 00:31:23,280
Speaker 4: and people will be so direct with her like she

796
00:31:23,440 --> 00:31:23,840
Speaker 4: is aware.

797
00:31:23,880 --> 00:31:24,840
Speaker 3: That's a bit of a thing.

798
00:31:24,960 --> 00:31:28,040
Speaker 4: I think every time I get concerned for her, I

799
00:31:28,160 --> 00:31:30,600
Speaker 4: just try and lead first with like I'm concerned for

800
00:31:30,640 --> 00:31:31,320
Speaker 4: your safety.

801
00:31:31,560 --> 00:31:32,680
Speaker 2: I just really lead.

802
00:31:32,520 --> 00:31:35,720
Speaker 1: It with safety, like not like embarrassment and like, girl,

803
00:31:36,000 --> 00:31:37,720
Speaker 1: don't go home with a guy you've met, Like, just

804
00:31:37,720 --> 00:31:39,520
Speaker 1: be like, don't turn your snap maps off. Like I

805
00:31:39,560 --> 00:31:41,200
Speaker 1: was really worried about you. I wish I knew where

806
00:31:41,240 --> 00:31:43,200
Speaker 1: you were, Like I would have liked to be in

807
00:31:43,200 --> 00:31:45,040
Speaker 1: the loop. You know, I'd never judge you.

808
00:31:45,360 --> 00:31:45,960
Speaker 2: Yeah kind of thing.

809
00:31:46,080 --> 00:31:48,520
Speaker 4: And it's even like, if you didn't like Brad, let's say,

810
00:31:48,560 --> 00:31:50,360
Speaker 4: it's almost not even worth bringing that up.

811
00:31:50,560 --> 00:31:52,400
Speaker 3: I think bringing him into it.

812
00:31:52,400 --> 00:31:55,200
Speaker 2: It's just like this is it could be any fucking guy.

813
00:31:55,240 --> 00:31:57,120
Speaker 1: It's like, you just want to know that your friend's safe,

814
00:31:57,120 --> 00:31:58,600
Speaker 1: and I think you more lead with that and just

815
00:31:58,600 --> 00:32:00,440
Speaker 1: tell her that that's why you've been feeling because you

816
00:32:00,440 --> 00:32:02,440
Speaker 1: didn't really like how that situation made you feel.

817
00:32:03,280 --> 00:32:05,920
Speaker 2: Good luck, girl, and good luck.

818
00:32:06,320 --> 00:32:08,160
Speaker 3: He's done the follow up. We love follow up.

819
00:32:08,120 --> 00:32:09,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, we do, all right.

820
00:32:09,640 --> 00:32:12,200
Speaker 1: I met a boy when I was in Bali last

821
00:32:12,320 --> 00:32:16,160
Speaker 1: and I met you too cute, so sweet Anyway, I

822
00:32:16,200 --> 00:32:18,720
Speaker 1: genuinely thought it was just a holiday romance, but I

823
00:32:18,840 --> 00:32:20,880
Speaker 1: was telling all my family and friends he was the

824
00:32:20,920 --> 00:32:23,760
Speaker 1: love of my life. We hung out almost every night

825
00:32:23,800 --> 00:32:26,280
Speaker 1: in Bali until I flew back home. I'm from wa

826
00:32:26,400 --> 00:32:28,640
Speaker 1: and he's from Sydney. I've never had.

827
00:32:28,520 --> 00:32:31,200
Speaker 2: Like a holiday fucking romance. I'm my dream.

828
00:32:31,560 --> 00:32:32,760
Speaker 3: They seem a bit normal.

829
00:32:33,760 --> 00:32:35,880
Speaker 2: Everyone has them. I'm like, it would be so much fun.

830
00:32:36,000 --> 00:32:36,880
Speaker 2: I've never had one.

831
00:32:38,000 --> 00:32:42,360
Speaker 1: It's because I'm like. He got really unwell after I

832
00:32:42,400 --> 00:32:42,800
Speaker 1: got home.

833
00:32:42,920 --> 00:32:43,760
Speaker 2: He's still in Bali.

834
00:32:43,880 --> 00:32:45,480
Speaker 1: So I told him to fly to Perth because it's

835
00:32:45,520 --> 00:32:48,040
Speaker 1: quicker and I'd take care of him, not thinking he

836
00:32:48,120 --> 00:32:48,720
Speaker 1: actually would.

837
00:32:48,920 --> 00:32:52,920
Speaker 2: He did. Oh my god, that's slay. He booked a.

838
00:32:52,840 --> 00:32:54,920
Speaker 1: Flight, came to Perth, stayed at my family home for

839
00:32:54,960 --> 00:32:57,560
Speaker 1: about five days, came out to a friend's birthday and

840
00:32:57,600 --> 00:32:59,479
Speaker 1: we had a great time. Despite him still not being

841
00:32:59,480 --> 00:33:02,680
Speaker 1: one hundred perm that sounds really cute. Fast forward a

842
00:33:02,720 --> 00:33:05,000
Speaker 1: few weeks, he's begging me to go to Sydney. He

843
00:33:05,040 --> 00:33:07,080
Speaker 1: booked me a flight and off I went. I met

844
00:33:07,080 --> 00:33:09,720
Speaker 1: his family, his friends, and again we had a great time.

845
00:33:10,600 --> 00:33:12,440
Speaker 1: It's now been about a month of messaging and is

846
00:33:12,440 --> 00:33:14,760
Speaker 1: starting to die down whatever it was that we had.

847
00:33:15,160 --> 00:33:16,720
Speaker 1: I don't know if it's just because we haven't seen

848
00:33:16,760 --> 00:33:19,280
Speaker 1: each other, or if it's because it's fading. I also

849
00:33:19,360 --> 00:33:21,920
Speaker 1: don't know how long distance could even work. Hit me

850
00:33:21,960 --> 00:33:23,920
Speaker 1: with your advice, because I really did think he was

851
00:33:23,960 --> 00:33:27,400
Speaker 1: the one. I think long distance can work, especially state

852
00:33:27,440 --> 00:33:32,000
Speaker 1: to stay. But I think starting long distance, like starting

853
00:33:32,000 --> 00:33:33,520
Speaker 1: at long distance would be a.

854
00:33:33,520 --> 00:33:36,760
Speaker 3: Chance you need to go trust before you Yeah, I

855
00:33:36,840 --> 00:33:37,400
Speaker 3: have taking that.

856
00:33:37,720 --> 00:33:43,000
Speaker 1: I think you need to just give it some time.

857
00:33:43,280 --> 00:33:44,040
Speaker 2: See if the mess.

858
00:33:44,160 --> 00:33:46,240
Speaker 1: I think if the mess just continue to die down,

859
00:33:46,320 --> 00:33:49,200
Speaker 1: you kind of just have to let it die down. Yeah,

860
00:33:49,440 --> 00:33:52,040
Speaker 1: but I don't think do that whole like you know,

861
00:33:52,200 --> 00:33:54,120
Speaker 1: petty or he hasn't been fled in four hours to

862
00:33:54,200 --> 00:33:56,800
Speaker 1: well wait five, like text him and see if you

863
00:33:56,800 --> 00:33:58,480
Speaker 1: can kind of keep it going and maybe he's busy,

864
00:33:58,480 --> 00:34:01,240
Speaker 1: maybe he's doing things. But like if it dies down,

865
00:34:01,440 --> 00:34:03,400
Speaker 1: I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but

866
00:34:03,440 --> 00:34:04,800
Speaker 1: I think you kind of just have to let it.

867
00:34:05,240 --> 00:34:07,040
Speaker 1: You live in different states, and it's not like you

868
00:34:07,040 --> 00:34:08,640
Speaker 1: can be like, let's go grab a coffee.

869
00:34:08,840 --> 00:34:10,920
Speaker 4: Well this is like easy for me to say, but

870
00:34:11,000 --> 00:34:15,160
Speaker 4: like this is where distance is preferable because like you're

871
00:34:15,200 --> 00:34:17,560
Speaker 4: not going to walk into him in the street if

872
00:34:17,600 --> 00:34:19,360
Speaker 4: maybe he does say, you know, I'm not feeling the

873
00:34:19,400 --> 00:34:20,160
Speaker 4: same way anymore.

874
00:34:20,239 --> 00:34:22,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, I feel like you can actually be so much

875
00:34:22,200 --> 00:34:23,960
Speaker 3: more direct suber message.

876
00:34:24,040 --> 00:34:26,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like because there's no worry that you're going

877
00:34:26,280 --> 00:34:30,280
Speaker 1: to run into But it's like, honestly, wo were easy.

878
00:34:30,360 --> 00:34:32,440
Speaker 1: But if it's meant to be all end up finding

879
00:34:32,440 --> 00:34:35,319
Speaker 1: its way back together. You never know, but I think yeah,

880
00:34:35,360 --> 00:34:38,360
Speaker 1: for now, it's like, don't be like hey, hey, hey Wayne,

881
00:34:38,360 --> 00:34:40,360
Speaker 1: you responding to my messages, but like see if you

882
00:34:40,360 --> 00:34:42,080
Speaker 1: can keep the convo going and if he starts putting

883
00:34:42,080 --> 00:34:42,959
Speaker 1: the effort in back, and if.

884
00:34:42,840 --> 00:34:45,480
Speaker 2: He doesn't, you kind of just have to yeah, let it.

885
00:34:45,480 --> 00:34:47,920
Speaker 4: It hasn't been that much time either, and no, nothing's

886
00:34:47,960 --> 00:34:50,680
Speaker 4: ever going to like things do have to level out.

887
00:34:50,719 --> 00:34:53,800
Speaker 4: You've had this like crazy stuff, yeah, oh my god,

888
00:34:53,960 --> 00:34:54,960
Speaker 4: like you've met something.

889
00:34:54,800 --> 00:34:55,759
Speaker 2: Like I'm in love with this man.

890
00:34:55,920 --> 00:34:58,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, and yeah, already traveling, which sucks.

891
00:34:58,120 --> 00:35:00,279
Speaker 1: Don't get me wrong that it would be a rutal

892
00:35:00,320 --> 00:35:01,960
Speaker 1: feeling to think that it went from all of that

893
00:35:02,000 --> 00:35:05,919
Speaker 1: to possibly nothing, but it also sadly is the case

894
00:35:05,920 --> 00:35:06,640
Speaker 1: that that happens.

895
00:35:06,960 --> 00:35:09,400
Speaker 4: Yeah, but I was going for bloody dates once a

896
00:35:09,400 --> 00:35:10,840
Speaker 4: week with my boyfriend and the lead.

897
00:35:10,760 --> 00:35:11,720
Speaker 3: Up to us dating.

898
00:35:11,920 --> 00:35:16,520
Speaker 4: Yeah, you're bloody traveling per Sydney, balih all around the globe.

899
00:35:16,520 --> 00:35:19,239
Speaker 3: Like that's a hectic start. Yeah, I feel like it's

900
00:35:19,320 --> 00:35:20,120
Speaker 3: always going to seat.

901
00:35:20,160 --> 00:35:22,360
Speaker 1: It's going to feel like a lull now that that's done,

902
00:35:22,680 --> 00:35:24,680
Speaker 1: because you've only ever known each other kind of being

903
00:35:25,280 --> 00:35:28,799
Speaker 1: in the same place. So maybe this is what if

904
00:35:28,800 --> 00:35:30,560
Speaker 1: you were to be long, This is what that would look.

905
00:35:30,560 --> 00:35:32,920
Speaker 2: Like for you. Do you know what I mean? Yeah,

906
00:35:32,960 --> 00:35:33,839
Speaker 2: but you can't.

907
00:35:33,920 --> 00:35:35,319
Speaker 1: Just have to see how it goes over the next

908
00:35:35,360 --> 00:35:37,879
Speaker 1: couple days and weeks, and if it continues to drop

909
00:35:37,880 --> 00:35:39,560
Speaker 1: off and drop off and he's not making any effort,

910
00:35:39,600 --> 00:35:42,759
Speaker 1: then don't make any happorad either, girl.

911
00:35:43,200 --> 00:35:45,760
Speaker 3: And get that ass back to Balin, get that Bali.

912
00:35:45,560 --> 00:35:46,600
Speaker 2: And finds O a new one.

913
00:35:46,920 --> 00:35:49,200
Speaker 1: All right, guys, I love you so so much and

914
00:35:49,440 --> 00:35:52,360
Speaker 1: chat to you next week. We will have my stinky

915
00:35:52,400 --> 00:35:55,439
Speaker 1: stinky sister on Okay, Bye,